Autism Meltdown at School

Subscribe 👉 bit.ly/subKevinChapman
Join 👉bit.ly/JoinKevinChapman
Merch 👉 bit.ly/DifferentIsNotBroken
First time here? 👉 bit.ly/NewToKevinChapman
Three years ago Andy had a really bad day at school, and we picked him up midway through the day because we thought it was the right thing to do. He didn't go back to school for 18 months. In today's vlog, we got a phone call from school saying he had had an autism meltdown at school, including him taking off his clothes and swearing at teachers, something he's never done in the past. He's not had an incident like this in a long time, but watching this vlog back as I upload it, I think it's pretty clear why it happened.
The day started with Andy having an early doctors appointment for a health check, which meant a change to his normal routine - he'd be missing the school bus, going to the doctors and then we'd drive him in to school. He didn't have a great time at the doctors (who does?) and then when he got to school, they were in the middle of a fire drill, in the rain (we didn't know about this until later in the day). To top it off, the ongoing issue with the school iPad and computer pushed him over the edge, and the meltdown followed. He did stay in school for the full day, but spent a long time in the sensory room calming down, and he wasn't himself when he got home.
We hope this isn't going to be the start of ongoing issues with school again, but we remember how insignificant the original issue seemed 3 years ago, so we've got our fingers crossed for a return to a good school experience. This whole episode is an important lesson in not getting complacent - even when things are going as well as they have been for Andy for the last year, one bad morning can cause all manner of problems...
Missed yesterday's vlog? Check it out here 👉 • What's wrong with Anna...
What a difference a year makes! Check out our vlog from this day last year 👉 • HE DOESN'T DELETE HIS ...
Check out what we got up to two years ago today 👉 • A vlog 7 years in the ...
Get to know us - these are our most frequently asked questions 👉 • FREQUENTLY ASKED QUEST...
********************
SUPPORT THE CHANNEL!
Support the channel on Patreon 👉 / lollujo
Where we get all Andy's chewy and sensory toys 👉 www.chewigem.co.uk/ref/8/
Where I buy most of my shirts 👉 /qwertee
Want to know what equipment I use to make my videos? My full equipment list is here 👉 kit.com/lollujo
Our Amazon Wishlists:
-- Kev's wishlist 👉 tinyurl.com/kevwishlist
-- Anna's wishlist 👉 amzn.eu/7XkAgMn
-- Lucy's wishlist 👉 amzn.eu/8i4JE3i
-- Andy's wishlist 👉 amzn.eu/6TZnxK9
-- Amy's wishlist 👉 amzn.eu/grJ9BnL
-- Dave's wishlist 👉 amzn.eu/dx9JeKk
********************
LET'S CONNECT!
Our Twitter 👉 / chapmanfamilyyt
Our Facebook 👉 / chapmanfamilyyt
Kevin's Instagram 👉 / lollujo
Anna's Instagram 👉 / anna_lollujo
Andy's KZbin Channel 👉 / throughandyseyes
Kevin's Gaming Channel 👉 / lollujofm
Our Gaming Podcast 👉 / maturegamerpodcast
Our PO Box:
The Chapman Family, PO Box 1388, Peterborough, PE1 9US, UK
********************
ABOUT THE CHAPMAN FAMILY
Hello folks and welcome to The Chapman Family! We are Kevin (dad), Anna (mum), Lucy (age 16), Andy (age 14), Amy (age 12) and Dave (around 35 in dog years).
We're daily family vloggers with new videos out at 5pm every day UK time. We vlog about our daily lives, including life as an autism family (Andy is autistic) and lots of nerdy stuff because we just can't help ourselves!
We'd love to have you join us on the road to 100K and share our journey with us! Hit SUBSCRIBE and don't forget to TURN THE NOTIFICATIONS ON!
A BRIEF HISTORY OF THE CHAPMAN FAMILY
When Kevin left his full-time job as a Computer Science teacher in July 2017, Anna was trapped in our house by our son Andy, who is autistic and had refused to go to school for 18 months. Our daughters Lucy and Amy and our dog Dave hardly saw him because he was always working to try and solve all our problems! Today we're full-time content creators and Kevin is always at home when the kids get home from school (all our kids!) and Anna has been able to return to university. This channel is the story of my family's ongoing journey as family vloggers! Previously known as lollujo Vlogs and Kevin Chapman.
********************
Music by DJ Quads: / aka-dj-quads
DISCLAIMER: This video and description contains affiliate links, which means that if you click on one of the product links, I’ll receive a small commission. This helps support the channel and allows us to continue to make videos like this. Thank you for the support!
#autism #meltdown #school

[@mumblingsole]

Your fantastic parents love Andy he is a awsome guy.

[@AsherElchakieh]

Gary Ingram I know

[@AutismDadda]

Poor guy! I know how hard that must be on him in the heat of the meltdown. Great job parents by doing all that needs to be done for him! 💙👍🏻🧩

[@riannamajzoub5241]

Its not just his parents, in the UK they have socialized health care so his health needs are covered in their taxes. Big difference than here in the US! The school and medical providers are even checking his health and making sure his needs are being met and everybody is communicating and working together. I have autism and can use VC(Verbal Communication). All I can imagine is this scared and upset little boy and just glad he does'nt live here cause meltdown like this usually ends with the kid Baker Acted or even just thrown in jail(especially if the parents don't pick him up).

[@ellagracexx322]

No no no ! Don’t use the puzzle pice ! Autism speaks is a hate group !

[@Cincinnatifamily]

I’m a teacher and have seen it all. Hang in there. You’re doing a good job. New subscriber here

[@riannamajzoub5241]

@11 11 Yo my mom was a teacher and I am autistic. She was the reason I did'nt drop out of high school( without her I definetly would have) and the reason I have not been arrested or shot! Basically if my mom had died from complications with her diabetes my Dad would have thrown me out or most likely would have been a runaway. Here in US homeless kids are common especially kids with special needs. Because of my mother's training and diligence I turned out better than alot of my peers(Not to mention less spoiled too).

[@phoebe9149]

I have high functioning autism and I understand a lot about these situations. When I have meltdowns like that it feels like everyone around me is trying to deliberately hurt me and it makes me very emotional and upset. I then feel that if I don't protest this anxiety and anger, the suffering won't end, therefore I start lashing out. It's basically a cry for help because I feel physically irritated and sick. It's a terrible way to feel, it's like you're trapped. I don't know if this is similar to how Andy feels however I can relate to this situation very well. If that happened to me I would have the same reaction.

[@thephenomenalone8638]

Phoebe White people need to be understanding and if they are not then people will get upset

[@tracymorrison6273]

send him hugs from Tracy in Canada; I hope he will be fine. Thinking of you all and pray things improve.

[@rosieellis4748]

I got diagnosed with autism finally at the age of 17 and i love your video, I use the word female for my mum all the time and when Andy started doing it I found it funny and realised it wasn’t just me lol

[@qwertyuioplkmjnhbgvfcdxsza]

if you have meltdowns. Is it like a buildup? Or does it happen out of nowhere?

[@Dan.And.Phil.Trash11]

Poor dude. I've had meltdowns but I don't cry I sit in the corner and rock 😔

[@mlpp3621]

My son hides under tables or runs off when he has them xxxx

[@notleco7147]

I say random words that a baby that doesn't know how to talk would say. And I start to roll around and heavily breathe Edit: In Rage I Kick,Swear, Punch and call people names. I then sit down

[@floofylenny]

Same but I cry quietly and get a plushie to claim down

[@georginaduffell7851]

You’re such a good parent for caring so much about him xx Keep going and good luck 💛

[@camhowe349]

Amazing vlog as always! Hope everything goes well the rest of the month in terms of Andy knowing he goes on the bus and goes home on it and too many issues don’t arise..

[@richardscott6079]

Thank you for sharing this Kevin. You're obviously educating people like me and inspiring other parents. I really think we all need to share thoughts and experiences and I'm thankful we've got this video sharing platform for it! Keep it up and best wishes, Richard.

[@vickyabbott2381]

awww glad it turned out he feels better bless him xxx

[@davidmeek3104]

Hey just to let you know you guys are in my prayers and pray that Andy gets back to normal after his meltdown God bless you guys

[@ididntknowwhattoputhere643]

Well I hope Andy is ok and I hope he has a better week.

[@sonyahammond2834]

i love watching u guys, i feel bad for andy and u r doing a brilliant job as parents ❤️

[@Pokemonjayy]

Glad Andy is feeling better, you did really well Kev 👍🏻

[@f1_fansenna93]

I love how you openly talk about the struggles of Autism

[@cathy2earth]

omg sometimes he jsut make me burtst out laughing...i love him

[@niamhfyfe428]

Is Andy okay now ! Much love Kevin your family is an inspiration xx

[@hollyreay02]

It looks like Andy's present of Jack came at the right time, to cheer Andy up

[@ianellis4276]

Would it be better to have doctors appointments after school so he can then just come home and go to bed?

[@hontherun3495]

It could be that their are no appointments available at that time. Could also be it would be inconvenient for him and he would be exhausted after a long day and would refuse to go because he wants to go home as well.

[@mariascarlett91]

I didn’t have what Andy had at the doctors and I’m Mild Autistic and it’s too late for me now as I’m almost 18. 😒 wow

[@christinebett4677]

I could see in his face and voice tone that he was having a hard time working through it but he got there in the end

[@jaimereynolds258]

Oh no! Poor guy. My son has big one every couple months. He had one the other day, and now I have a hole in my bathroom door I have to replace this week.

[@emmalisa8181]

I totally understand what you are going through!!

[@johnj.hillyerv940]

You guys are very responsible parents

[@jenifer200809]

My suggestion is that when you go to Disney maybe break it up so if he needs a break you guys can plan things around that😊 it may help him especially if you guys also write down the things you each want to see so he can visualize it

[@riven1823]

Someone called me gay then i had breakdown

[@riannamajzoub5241]

Wow! People are pathetic! I bet they would love #Westboro Baptist Church.

[@tracymorrison6273]

perhaps sensory overload. if his schedule is disrupted it will effect him adversely

[@parvinbhatia7874]

AND

[@michellesamson7521]

parvin bhatia ?

[@riannamajzoub5241]

Poor kid looked so tired( I actually could tell he was not well at all.)He had dark circles under his eyes and sounded very groggy which of course he probably was crying too. Of course when he got better he perked right up and his couloring was alot more pinked up cause he was pretty pale too. He seems like he's got a very bubbly personality when he is happy. Fire drill always does it; not fun when it's on surround sound!

[@shanellgarcia7584]

bless your family :)

[@bronaghmurphy5643]

Poor thing but i’m glad he was alright in the end.

[@angelinafinn1355]

Aww Andy I bet this was very hard for you And your parents and for the school 🏫

[@animalcrazykid1284]

My brother has autism and ADHD and has a meltdown almost every week and today he smashed our big window so I’m watching to calm down

[@ellafagg8522]

Hope Andy gets over it love you guys ❤

[@alexandershilling]

I will think that meltdowns are not good. That’s a shame that he had one at school.

[@curlwhurl8054]

Bless him! Bad days are inevitable for anyone and everyone! I'm sure it will pass soon and he'll be back on his feet! He's done amazing for so long and I'm sure he will continue to. Sending love to you all!💕

[@Nukeman6543]

How u deal with this I don’t know keep strong guys

[@its_sweet16_therandom46]

I hit the bell and subscribed

[@damianhills1533]

Hope Andy is ok and went to school without any problems. Poor boy it must get so difficult for him at times and shows just how well he has done previously when not had a meltdown

[@ameliamurton7613]

My sister has very severe autism and she has a lot of meltdowns and she swears quite a bit in them as well but once she comes down to use when he stops it

[@olihenley7380]

Hi Kev I hope you are ok and is I hope Andy is ok

[@lesleylaurence6056]

Poor Andy! Hope he’s ok now 🤗🤪💕

[@lesleylaurence6056]

Hi

[@oliviaelliott1333]

Poor Andy, hoping the rest of his week is a lot better!

[@AutismandTouretteSyndrome]

Glad Andy was better after some time to decompress.

[@thebestwillow]

He was just really really tired when he got in from school, I think.

[@gordondripman1808]

im autistic too and i know what he's going through

[@riannamajzoub5241]

I am just glad in the UK they don't pull the same crap like they do here. In three different states they threw little kids in jail(I am talking about under the age of legality 6-9 yrs old) for meltdowns or another case; the school hired cop tortured a little boy in the principles office. The worst abuse cases involved children of color with special needs. I am just glad I don't attend public school anymore and that I survived unscathed.

[@joemarsh7849]

Super bendy productions we love liars🤦‍♂️

[@debbiesarmy6356]

Yous are strong parents my best friend has autism and sometimes will refuse to do anything but I know how to cope with autism now since I started watching you guys. You guys really teach people how to deal with autism

[@dantebegay860]

I completely feel the same I too have autism and more just school in general and everyday I feel like breaking down and screaming my guts out and........ok I am starting feel stressed so yeah

[@fionascheibel977]

Im on the spectrum with attention deficit and psych issues and i have days like Andy's was sometimes. I struggle when things i cant control change. It all gets too much for me and i just want to hide and sit in bed watching youtube. Im not sure why Andy started using the F word. But i know i have done it when im overwelmed and need to escape and people keep going on at me about what i need to do or wont listen to what i need. I dont set out to swear. But i just feel like im in an emotional emergency and no one is helping. Its just like i feel like i need to step up my behaviours or i will be at risk of disaster. Its not conscious at the time. At that point i am likely to self harm to try to lower my distress also. I dont really have the best emotion regulation skills. I wish i could get help with that. But im assessed as too high functioning. I guess on my good days i might be. But on bad days i really arent.

[@josephneale10215]

Awesome video as always

[@joannebutler85]

You are an amazing man kev

[@fionatoner5244]

All children with LD or on ASD they all have yearly appointments

[@mlpp3621]

My son doesnt we not seen anyone his his diagnois in 2011 xxxx

[@TreasureWOMAN]

Yes I got appointment all time for my boy never now what it is or about 🙂 cool video

[@isabelknight8464]

I heard Andy watching the bohemian rhapsody 20th century fox song. I'm literally like oh my god

[@sethrollins9653]

Poor kid

[@johnnygray2801]

It seems that every fire drill causes meltdowns this and the laptop thing

[@angelinafinn1355]

I love you guys I don't live to far away from Peterborough I live in Corby uk And I love 💕 you guys!

[@mbpelliot6659]

Love this channel

[@sarahsrandomvideos6965]

Hope you be ok Andy.💙

[@margaretstannard5586]

PURE ANDY❤️He is doing so well😍You both are brilliant with him😇Keep the good work up 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕❤️

[@LPSpandora2344]

I remember having meltdowns when people,would,pull my hair in elementary school

[@paulinemccoll1808]

Loving the ivy growing through the shed roof 🤣🤣

[@kevinchapmanarchive]

I haven't been in that shed for a while. I'm afraid to.

[@pizzaneapolitanXD]

I know this ain’t related but mate you look like my maths teacher

[@lewispewsey6843]

*Great vlog again*

[@IndieAndy]

Hope Andy is ok but also with the health check up I had one the other day and apparently I get them every year... But I never asked why so I just assumed it was a thing for everyone? Hmm weird

[@CPunicorn]

If you're wondering what cbeebies show Andy's watching at start of the vlog it's step Inside

[@Aaron-xo9ry]

The school is good that it has a sensory room most schools dont

[@goodgir12345]

That happen me it doesnt stop at 18 if andy as welll as autsim have leaning disabilities/diffculity. It will continue as i have learning disability i am 22 i was meant to have annual healtcheck every year since age 16 but only found out i think two years ago i have them pass 2 year if on a team that has a social worker and few other proflinsal it should happen after age 18 too

[@rorygasta6467]

Aine Owens ?

[@ffionroberts2778]

Hi Kevin, it's a shame to hear about today but I hope Andy improves later on. I recently watched quite a few videos from a channel called George Marshall and Andy popped straight into my head! Unless Andy is already aware of this channel, I would highly recommend it, his content is all based around trains, trams and train stations

[@14BWFC14]

Great to see he has calmed down. I look after a six year old at school with autism. He is so unpredictable. What calms him down one day doesn't the next. Lots of patience and understanding. :)

[@the.evilducky]

Hey Kev, when my son has those big intense type of appointments he gets very burnt out and if things dont go his way its often a nuclear level meltdown. I think your perfect stormy idea may the case. Fingers crossed for a good day today and i really hope Anna gets her spa day..she deserves it!

[@thephenomenalone8638]

When I’m upset I say no one likes me

[@oliviapitt3579]

I so proud of you Andy when you wanted to go home . well done

[@mfstudios5692]

Surprised they haven’t disabled comments

[@broganlees3917]

After all that has happened to andy in the past couple months you cant blame him not one bit (not that it his fault). I just hope he doesn't go back in his progress as he has made leaps and bounds since I have been watching the vlogs. Ps your one of the only youtubers i will put everything on hold to watch.😁👍keep up the great work.

[@louholford346]

Well done Andy for going to the doctors and the going to school I couldn't do that big well done to Andy

[@gregbouchard8353]

See a relly good one mate

[@The_River_Tourettes]

3:05 I am autistic and I’ve never had a doctors appointment like that before and I’m 12

[@annoyingginger5077]

It's probably based on how severe the case is but in all honesty I have no clue.

[@CaptainPadraig293]

I’m always very good in school but I do feel bad for him I mean Andy

[@RyanPinon]

Why are you guys don’t record meltdowns

[@emma8639]

I can totally relate to this even tho now we are having Calm but we had massive behaviour before Xmas and he did use the f word and he dosent say that, thinking of you all and hope Andy feels better soon xxx

[@ffionroberts2778]

16:35 absolutely brilliant, so glad to have seen this

[@pepsifanta_milkboy]

I'm going to therapy to get a diagnosis. Meanwhile i refer myself as autistic, because i relate with it. I actually have meltdowns and hit my head and pull my hair. And i can get oversimulated really easily actually. Like at school when the teacher is speaking to another student while i try to study , i get oversimulated. This comment doesen't say everything that happens to me. I'll edit this when i get my diagnosis

[@aieshajackson8256]

Ok

[@roycropper698]

Poor Andy 😢. It goes to show that Andy is very complex and no-one not even experts can explain why he had his meltdown. The saddest thing is he can’t tell his mum and dad why he had his meltdown or what triggered it. I hope he didn’t hurt himself or others. You don’t have to answer this question but, does the school know that he strips naked when he has a meltdown? Just wondering because of all this child safety and protection and incase the school report the incident to the police and you and Anna get accused of horrible things involving Andy.

[@roycropper698]

FLGalpha didn’t mean the actual meltdown itself but, the whole stripping incident. I hope the school know that’s part of his meltdown routine and not anything else. Due to child protection and safety the school would have a duty of care to report that sort of behaviour to the police and the social services would intervene. Of course, I’m not accusing Kevin and Anna of anything but just nowadays social services and schools have to report the simplest things.

[@jackson9065]

kainan harrison I see what you mean but they’re not allowed to call police and Kev and Anna would have let them know all of Andy’s habits when he has a meltdown

[@roycropper698]

FLGalpha I know they would’ve. I also know the school would’ve also had experts and experience in meltdowns and challenging behaviours and have probably had incidents similar to Andy.

[@danielonn2002]

Its illegal for a School to make a Doctors Appointment on behalf of the Child here in the USA unless its something to do with Child Protective Services and there is a Baker Act which allows an involuntary 72 hour admission to a Mental Hospital in case of a suspected case that requires this intervention. How is it in the UK? BTW I love Channel 4 Documentaries!

[@kj2381]

Lol

[@tracymorrison6273]

is he not upset by the loudness around him ? Just curious. I know the background was very loud and most children /adults with autism are bothered with too much noise.

[@samfairbanks7320]

What did he mean the father met him when he was drinking the bottle

[@mlpp3621]

Awww bless him like his minecraft pjs were you get them from xxxx

[@emily5062]

Mlp p i think they bought them at primark in a vlog but i might be wrong

[@aaronsmith2155]

@@emily5062 Yes they did i watched that vlog they got them from Primark

[@milawuttke5098]

You can’t do that

[@tobythetramengine0732]

13:49 Andy’s voice does seem young.

[@youtubelol1332]

i turned 14 today

[@lfc3290]

Titus Mexia cool

[@kadybish8088]

Titus Mexia is he 14??

[@tobythetramengine0732]

Did he use foul language? What on earth?

[@callumltfc]

I can totally see why Andy had a meltdown & did anyone see that man At 3.45 He doesn't look happy !! Grr

[@StewMan46]

Hope that Andy’s okay!

[@seebzm8338]

New subscriber! I have a 4 year old with non-verbal Autism, severely blind and half deaf. This past week he has been going naked. It's stressing and also upsetting at the same time how I have to stress about him not getting cold, then worry about the publics respect of seeing a naked 4 year old boy... I'm 23 keeping strong but he is a strong boy and hope to have some advice.

[@kevinchapmanarchive]

I’m not sure I’ve got any good advice to offer unfortunately - Andy was 7/8 before he started regularly wearing clothes at home, and still strips naked when he’s stressed now sometimes. All I can suggest is keep persevering with it, and hopefully things will start to get better

[@shadowfayfurry1323]

Personally he still seems a little off from normal but seems happy anoth

[@methylphenidate1225]

Idc if im first or not just hope andy has a happy day

[@beckysloan1377]

What a rough day. Glad it ended on a good note.

[@matsecklund1501]

Even with anxiety meds, he’s bound to have bad days-as we all do. Who knows what could have made him upset? Being a teenager doesn’t help with mood swings either, I’m sure. It was probably just a bad day. Glad to see he cheered up in the afternoon!