Autistic Empathy and the Double Empathy Problem

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Kristen Hovet, The Other Autism podcast

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@Imagination_lives 3 ай бұрын

This was excellent, and you explained it so well. There needs to be more awareness that the whole "people who are autistic lack empathy" thing is so incredibly untrue. In fact, we are the most empathetic people there are, which makes it even weirder that "lacks empathy" is somehow, inexplicably still part of the diagnostic criteria. I still don't get it.

@heathwilder Ай бұрын

Lol! I completely forgot that I recorded that. It was a very busy month and I watched everything else but have missed this. Listening to the podcast on my way home, when I heard you introduce me I got very nervous - like that dream where you turn up to school and you have a part in a play but you're the only one that has never rehearsed. I was crapping myself until I heard me start to talk, and then got relieved that I seem to know what the heck I was supposed to say. Lol! What a weirdo!

@dianetollenaar7915 4 ай бұрын

I love your hair!

@kristenhovet 4 ай бұрын

Awww, thank you! :)

@chinatosinthiti3076 5 ай бұрын

Hello from Thailand, I'm a new viewer here. Thank you for making such a great podcast with providing with a lot of reading material. Being perceived as lack of empathy is such a painful experience to live with. I know it internally all too well that I feel things, and the more intense the feelings are, the less I am able to comprehend or reciprocate back in time. The more complex of a mixture of positive and negative feelings the harder it is to process. Heck sometimes it takes more than a day to have the feelings of a hardship story I've been told to sink in.

@kristenhovet 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for your comment! Yes, you bring up a great point about the mixture of positive and negative emotions. That makes it even more challenging for sure. It's almost like "wires" get crossed in the brain, or that mixture of emotions creates a "neuro-tangle" of sorts, making it take even longer to process.

@chinatosinthiti3076 4 ай бұрын

@@kristenhovet when no one around understands this tangling phenomenon life and relationships are a lot harder, especially when it comes to conflict resolution. The simple fix is to just give time for the autistic person to regulate and there will be a lot better responses and reflection on the matter. If they are only okay with emotional responses in the moment, or only one way to express empathy then I can't say autistics are the one being inflexible.

@heathwilder Ай бұрын

You are completely right. Some of my biggest problems with alexithymia are because to me emotions and feelings don't have strict boundaries so guessing where they are is really a multi-dimensional space. Frightened and excited are the same thing to me except that frightened has more negative.

@verycrispyashes 5 ай бұрын

Your closing statement about social deficits, I think that can easily be applied to nt's just as easily. Granted I've never been tested for autism, I've also never fit in with "normal" people and have spent most of my life trying to understand the "socially acceptable" side of things, I wonder if it'll ever make sense...