Bad Boys vs Nice Guys - Stephan Speaks on Kiss 104.1FM

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Be sure to get your copy of the bestselling book "The Man God Has For You" here 👉 www.themangodhasforyou.com 👈 You're going to love it!

[@charlenemaeder8027]

“Women like ambitious men who provide leadership. They want to submit.” Thank you. Yes. 🙋🏼‍♀️ Healthy woman here.

[@jazzyladyjae7669]

I agree ... Women like a man who can put his foot down! ... I also agree that women don't understand her power is in her softness, her femininity.

[@anbillie]

The problem is not every woman is super feminine. Not every man is super masculine.

[@LadyLynn22]

I know my level of Toughness Wit Wisdom . 🎈🎈😘😘

[@のむ-san]

If I have to put my foot down with a woman it is to leave

[@Mae-rr5ye]

So true 🌺

[@hellbreaksloose420]

What if the women is born to lead . What is she has traits of a leader .what if she is head strong .she wont find a man? ..do you think god has given all these qualities to a man only and left only softness, dancing and makeup for women.I think you just need to find someone who loves u the way you are .A person who will stayy .I Believe human mind is vast and no amount of psychology can exactly predict a mans or a woman's next move . You should not pretend to be loud or soft or dumb or intelligent to attract someone . Show your real personality .you will find someone who is attracted to that personality . Or you might date a bad guy like he said the one you needed to date to heal and then get a guy who likes you the way you are . Everyone seems to be trying so hard to please others .why dont we please ourselves first . Be feminine or be masculine whatever you want .You guys need to chill out .

[@Sandland113]

I'm not gonna change that I'm a Good man.I've been hurt & cheated on by women.I know there's some good women out there,I'm still searching for my queen.

[@Sandland113]

+Barbarian Lion I agree

[@Kemkem-it]

good luck bro its not easy at all now a days

[@bootneyleefarnsworth1788]

😂😂😂😂

[@theblackschwab3561]

You gonna have to travel if you want a proper Black women brother. Black women in the States are damaged goods. You are looking through trash to find treasure. Travel and you will be able to pick which ever treasure you want.

[@justanotherabc8888]

@@theblackschwab3561 Wow. I'm SO glad that my amazing black man, found this black woman right here in the US. Sad you will water others and uplift them, but your own. Prayers to remove the bitterness from your heart love.

[@jaquitaburnett2179]

OH MY GOD THERE IS NOTHING BUT TRUTH IN THIS!! As being a recently divorced woman my ex husband was a momma boy!!! When I filed for a divorce I sat and went over my 10 year relationship that I had with this man I truly loved but I couldn't get over his mom being in our relationship. He told his mom EVERYTHING that happened in our house and she would call me all the time trying to give me advice about my marriage and her son. I use to be so frustrated because I told him how that made me feel but he continued. Ultimately I finalize my divorce and that was one of the main reason out of a few. This video is nothing but truth.

[@AshleyMintz]

The interviewer had some good questions that drew out good answers!

[@Zenparticle]

That made sense that a way to convince a man of something is through a woman's softness not through acting the same as a man- the example of dads and daughters hit it on the head therel

[@sashaclarke2749]

Unfortunately, we're doing man things! Too many boys 👦 out here!

[@hellbreaksloose420]

See the thing is daughters have power over their dads not because of softness . Dads love their daughter and the love makes them vulnerable and weak and they agree to their daughter its the love that is the answer not the softness. its ur own blood .I have seen daughters acting like assess being super rude and dads still be supportive of them it is beacuse dads love them. Some dads love their sons more and some their daughters . Love has to be there .you can never force a relationship with a guy .I have experienced it a lot . If he really wants u he would do anything to be with you . Sometimes you just have to wait and try till you get a right guy .the key is to not compare I learnt it the hard way .Not everybody is actually really lucky in love and the dating coaches dont tell u that . Sometimes us women try our assess off to impress and get a man to stay .In the end we all are human and tips and tricks and hacks cant stay long .It is the efforts that tell you in the end . I wish you good luck for your relationships in the future. And I hope u stay the way you want and not how world or men want you to be .you are not destined for every man .you are destined for only one person who will find even your assertiveness sexy.

[@niamacathey9952]

I loved this. So great!! My boyfriend doesn't have a close relationship with his mom but treats me like a queen and gives me so much respect

[@MrAWorthy1]

Let me just start by saying it's a priceless to be able to watch you and listen to you speak. Your wisdom is strong and I've learned so much about myself already and I can't wait to read your next book love after heart break. I also want to say on behalf of us brother's who are talking a longer look in the mirror and wanting to understand more about ourselves, please speak to us as well and help us process and identify our issues. I'd love to speak with you and share a bit of my story and gain feedback from you. I promise you have a market in brother's who are broken and looking for the way to put the pieces together.

[@AshleyMintz]

"In the middle of the night if someone breaks in the house, you wanna go?" Lol! I would definitely want my man to take care of it. Same with spiders...

[@Mae-rr5ye]

Absolutely 🤣 I am NOT going 😂he can handle that

[@focusedwon4005]

I luv this...No mother should be 1st in a married man's eyes.

[@missmanley7844]

This is the Problem, you are discussing Healthy Men/Women, a lot of people are not Well and love dysfunction

[@Dimz30]

True

[@sashaclarke2749]

You better tell it! Mental...

[@tinawilliams1087]

The gentlemen in the long sleeved button down shirt is so very much on point !!!

[@venuseleni9]

I GO CRAZY FOR NERDS, when my boyfriends talks about things he has learned I just drool over him.

[@Resignedbc27]

Im a big ass nerd lol

[@rollyro71]

Awesome!! This is a newer point of view. Great for the geek guys & girls of the now. This wasn't always the case. Being a geek was all too often a thing young men had to hide from girls. Speaking frm personal experience. Met my wife at 27yrs old. She welcomed my geekiness and still does.

[@Liloleme6091]

Truth. Nerdiness is sexy🤗

[@PhaMa1002]

I found you on The Roommates podcast and I enjoy your advice and wisdom. I support you all the way, Stephan. Thank you for sharing your gift!

[@TheJuveyhamilton]

same here

[@ichoose2bhappy]

It amazes me that we took something so beautiful and crapped all over it. When did being mature stop being normal? Good guys sometimes come off as desperate and this scares women off. Bad guys bulldoze women and make them feel like they can escape whats happening. Dating has become a joke. There's all this finger pointing and name calling. If we could just have people who actually care for the value of good relationships get together maybe we can have real love again.

[@LuxMeow]

Well the insight here seems a bit limited. As the 'bad boys' I've dated started off on their best behaviour. Seems once they think they have you, then they start behaving like a moron. Until you walk out the door, then they try to be all nice again. I think that it doesn't matter whether a man is 'the nice guy' or 'the bad boy' if they haven't figured out what they value in life yet and are insecure in themselves on a consistent basis. They'll just use others rather than reciprocate. Same goes for women. Some are dealing with people who've been abused or have some dark triad ish going on for them. That's when you're getting into the psychological and addiction aspect. You can learn from relationships that cause pain but it comes with the price of being wounded. Sometimes people need help beyond themselves to learn what they're getting out of being mistreated sure. Such as how to love oneself. Though others are 'groomed' and set up for abuse. You'd have to have a severe low self worth to get involved with someone who showed you they were going to mistreat you from the get go. That's where people get all weird and confused in advice giving. They don't truly understand the predator charm. More people need to be educated, but sadly a lot of people are not and end up getting pretty messed up themselves. I wonder how many people who end their own lives were groomed into abuse by someone else before they were able to realize it and get out. The Power in Words. The effect it has on those who care about what their so called 'loved one' thinks of them. "Idiot compassion" needs to be taught as well as how to recognize when you're strengths are being used against you. As well as your weakness exploited.

[@geno84]

Indeed true, I definitely give advice to my friends on what to look out for. Many fall for the charm. Once they're hooked. That's when the person begins to show their true colors smh

[@robriellewilliams9389]

Lux Meow “you can learn from relationships that cause pain but it comes with the price of being wounded” 😭😩☝🏾 a word you have spoken 🙌🏾

[@theblackschwab3561]

You dont know what a bad boy is honey.

[@vell4263]

Exactly

[@pinkstar9430]

Great talk!!! I’ve tried to communicate this to my boyfriend. Being assertive and a great decision maker. I’m tough to convince so I need to be 1000% sure that I agree and trust your instinct. Sometimes I take leaps of faith and I compromise. I believe in my gut feeling and I like to make intelligent decisions so I look for the same in my guy. Therefore it is important to me for my man to be a leader and be someone that I can learn from.

[@fantasiaroberts5157]

The very young Stephen😀some very good advice 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏽💚💚🙌🏾

[@RobynR000]

This video is freakin' amazing. I'm actually subscribed to Dr. Tarts channel as well. You guys are great. So intelligent, patient and understanding when it comes to relationships and understanding women. All I can say is there is hope! Her sound effects were so funny. She's a good host. Very enthusiastic. Old video but still enlightening.

[@WonBlckWoman]

These brothers about to make me shout at my work desk. I love truth and thank you for checking up with respect.

[@jonathanedward5062]

It's crazy how women actually don't really know what they want in a man, until they are being hurt or it is too late. These guys speak the truth! Yes, the truth can hurt, but in the end it is the truth.

[@AliciaGachett]

Great discussion! Knowledgeable guests and competent host!!

[@shewho_remembers]

Its 5/31/2021 Stephan, I thank you for all your knowledge. Your work has helped me look inside myself as a women, and focus on healing. I first discovered you on the Roommates Podcast, (love their work as well!!), and I must say I appreciate you as a man. Someone I can look up to, to understand my own standards of the type of man I want in my life.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

That is awesome to hear 🙌 thank you very much, I truly appreciate that ❤

[@mslysandraw]

Speak Stephan! Always learning from this man.

[@zithomas9849]

Man!!! This interview is deep and real!! Eye opening and informational

[@SheIsPotential]

Thank you for talking to women around the world for a good cause ‼️

[@pristineparr7509]

Dr Tartt is on point about pain bodies and people needing to attract bad boys to express their pain. That is real and Stephan's wisdom is always on point so he was just being himself and that is always excellent.

[@Afrodeshia]

Let’s also mention sibling/family member boys. In other words, not only do they allow their mothers to ruin their relationships, other family members, such as siblings, can do the same too.

[@sashaclarke2749]

Soo true! Mainly the women in their family 👪!

[@refilwetsalaile7647]

A broken woman dates a bad boy to express their pain in that relationship. Like that hit home 😪👌

[@mbaliacamara2708]

I like ambitious, respectful, healthy, toned and fit man. Stephan and Dr. Tartt have the correct message.

[@sinduhaul8073]

women just need to learn to have self control over what they're feeling

[@tallywally6693]

Sindu Haul how does this suppose to work

[@TheLilly]

Sindu Haul Men too.

[@Tomiwa101]

I love the chemistry between you and the other guy. Wish you could have more joint interviews together.

[@Dargotsauce]

I came here to see Stephan without a full beard 😂

[@mc-eo1wh]

Good God, whoever was the amateur with the video recording...thankfully the audio recording of this video was great

[@cupidsbabysis6189]

I am soo happy to have found you & Dr. Tartt!! You were speaking directly to me lol I can't wait to hear the next segment on the bad girls....THAT was definetly me. so blessed to have found my true calling. Showing other women how to embrace their true worth and not accepting any type of man.. I look forward to hearing more from the both of you. It'll be fantastic to show others how a man really thinks & operates from YOUR point of view as well as mine.. Thank you in advance for helping us all!!

[@SoAmazing1977]

Very great conversation. I love it... educated, gorgeous black men!

[@ddebraine08]

I agree 1000% as much as I have an "A" personality, I want an man that can tell me "No" verses me being the head of the realtionship. Take charge w/ confidence.

[@koryshepard770]

Well then let him

[@thehitmaster102]

This is excellent video❤

[@FIVEOFEVER]

It is not so much women fall in love with a jerk. It's the draw of a man who just is confident, and has certain goals. Men who are nice tend to display weak, needy and desparate feelings.

[@CammyCamz-o8]

All comes down to balance .

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

💯

[@crystalvillarreal2940]

That was a great and very respectful and informative

[@walkerdrae]

Really informative video. That cameraman needs a tripod sheesh

[@357_gardening]

Camera dude must’ve been a “bad boy” like hold the camera!!!!!! 🤣 but good words of wisdom!!!

[@yagirlvee9583]

Yes I love an assertive man! Yes handle your storm take charge yes. Their are roles period. You have to know when

[@kairosunltd130]

Great session Stephan. I cant believe this was 10 years ago. The beard looks better for sho fast forward 10 years! Dr Tartt also took it to another level! Great duo/ Tag team! Thankyou gentlemen for representing!!!! Salute!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌💯💯💯💯❤❤❤❤❤

[@deniseclark9277]

Men do the same thing.. I met a guy and everything was going perfect and he just started creating problems for no apparent reason and everything fell apart..

[@LadyLynn22]

Try to Remove PERFECTION: WHEN WE BOTH SEXES DO THIS " WE GAIN SO MUCH NATURALLY " !!! ☝️☝️👁👁

[@sashaclarke2749]

He wanted out! Just leave, "you don't have to cause problems " just say you no longer want to be kept!

[@Christy-he6ry]

I cant believe I am just finding this information now , jeeez!!! Where have I been lol Thanks gentlemen, what a wealth of information 🙂

[@TheGloryoftheFather]

This was great! Love Dr. Tartt & the combo w/ Stephan was icing on the cake!

[@telesialoyd8084]

Wow....this is an AWESOME video...Love this topic and content...wish I would have seen this 8 years ago when it was made BUT I’m glad I came across it today....Great job 👍🏽

[@Lifelonglearner54321]

Excellent conversation! All truth right there!

[@sononi4798]

This is the first video I've seen of Stephan without a beard. What a beautiful face ♡

[@EmeraldLuvsYouALL]

Aww simply priceless! This was 9 years ago sheesh luv it 🎉great info as always

[@gerrekagilliam]

I loved this! My friend and I were just talking about the bad boy vs good "safe guy battle earlier today and i happen to click on this WOW!

[@lubnan08]

Great interview. Extremely good advice. The truth.

[@Tamarah694]

God bless you. Thank you for that comment.

[@VR-jp2so]

You guys are right on. Thanks fir sharing your knowledge. Btw the doctor is my type of man 🥰😂

[@Jojo_lifeisbliss]

I Love it. You Guys Speak the TRUTH. I love Stephan's Advice! God Bless you guys!

[@Cindy_Love_2025]

Great interview! ❤️💯👏🏼

[@p_virtuous]

Stephan, this clip here was amazing! Great duo...I agree 100% on everything you Men said here. Women desire to be led...there is so much attraction in that...tell me what to do....allow me to be submissive....give me a reason to do that...until then I'll lead myself with God on my side! I'd love to see another collab with you two :-)

[@tarao4382]

I just don't like bad boys, annoys my soul. I dated a guy who was all over the place, my soul was so disturb. It's like I wasn't myself, calm and patient. I was just mad and going off on him all the time. I like a read good down to earth man. I'm lame, so let's just be lame together. I can't with the extras.

[@tarao4382]

Real*

[@RhondaR4]

Your smile is contagious! I love it!❤

[@lavonnethompson3243]

Very insightful Podcast! Both had excellent points. ❤❤❤❤

[@CodbO3Nick]

This is exactly what I needed. Thank y’all soooo much.

[@shanellpittman7742]

6:25- 6:40 is so tru we have way too many girlfriends wanting wife benefits

[@charlenemaeder8027]

I think we can all agree these men are legit!

[@BukkyRukky]

I came here to check out how he started. And in shocked to find out that he's been her for well over a decade.

[@LadyEttaJames]

I love this! It is so very true! Intelligence is very attractive

[@YahairaDelgado]

Yeah true. I want to submit. Tired of feeling like I have to wear the "pants". It's tiring and not worth it.

[@jaceem4175]

Tough but nice guy is great. And a woman who is nice but tough is great as well. And mother who intereferes in a husband or wife affairs need to step back and mind her own life. That will destroy a marriage right there listening to mama. So this is helpful for couples who or getting into a relationship to find out if he is a mamas boy and if he is letting her control and telling him what to do. Ladies we need to find out before getting married to a guy like that. Sit down and solve the problem before mother in law find out and get into the picture. Never been married but these or good tips that these guys have discussed about. They woke me up and made me see why this could ruin a marriage with the mama drrama. Best not to tell her your buisness or problems if you have any fellows because that will start all the problems maybe. Just talk to your wife and keep quiet or keep it from moma lo! Thanks guys great video advice keep it coming.

[@jwc6444]

Great questions and great answers!!

[@sankofashakur5880]

Its crazy how people equate “nice” to none assertive. That niceness is confidence in itself. People look for confidence in men to be loud or show. Theres a such thing as quiet confidence. When nice guys say no and mean it he’s the asshole. The asshole isn’t required to do shit because the women have accepted he wont/cant do shit. The nice guy disappoints them when he’s being a “real” man.smh

[@28naesmo]

😭😭😭😭how to learn to find power in my softness , when I have been hurt or ignore when I have been soft !? 💔💔💔💔

[@superkitty1777]

Hi, I understand just what you're saying and have felt the same at times. I think it's about the strength of being able to walk away from a person who doesn't see your value or give you the respect that you deserve. I've raised hell at times I felt mistreated and got either laughed at or ignored--in both instances I was being disrespected. I thought that by giving them a piece of my mind that I was showing them that I was nothing to be played with...it didn't work, BUT, when I walked away and held on to my dignity on the way out, I GOT THEIR ATTENTION AND THEIR RESPECT--all with no cussin and fussin, no name calling and no plates thrown. All love, Sis😊

[@dasugo]

Cool segment. I liked the balance.

[@Tamarah694]

I love you Stephan

[@kamirareed722]

Just found you and not letting good. Good stuff

[@SMC-q7w]

Good stuff!

[@KeishaJonesSmith]

This was a great video, thank you!!!!!

[@normabarros3124]

Awesome conversation....amen

[@abbymoncure]

Great show ..... truly enjoyed !

[@jartustevens9831]

You are soooo deep thank God for the wisdom 💞🙏

[@mayramorales5608]

Stephan, I didn't recognize you. You should shave, handsome face. 👍

[@anamazinglife5628]

Thank you🖤🤍❤

[@Forrsierra]

Thank you!

[@thedivinehostess]

Wow, this was awesome!!

[@themoodyporter]

great conversation

[@keica6062]

Stephan🏆 Dr. Tart🏆

[@brianlove-el6096]

Great Demonstration

[@denisegethers2729]

Good advise

[@Coolct]

Where can I run into Stephan great mind !

[@anbillie]

No woman can always be soft. No man can always be hard. This is where confusion comes in. You can be a masculine woman and a more feminine man

[@jbadams56]

That requires folks to know themselves and what they are compatible with.

[@islandcop935]

why yall don't play the calls!

[@KingSlayte]

Great stuff

[@syldadeal1304]

Yes! So much truth

[@GoddezsIesha]

You're so beautiful without the beard.

[@kaylastarlight7252]

Very good content just subcribe

[@sheenamcdaniel5673]

Umm, I never like a bad BOY... Waiting so patiently for the right one❤ Very interesting conversation🤔 Oh wow, I know someone mother used to control their relationship, a fully grown men that live with his mother good paying job, she controls this relationship I think that's really sad... The relationship fell apart because of her MOTHER🤔

[@vvsheir]

Very Powerful 💓 this

[@e.valverde9769]

softness in tenderness

[@hellbreaksloose420]

Sorry if I am wrong but I dont understand the notion " you go hard on a man you seem like a man it turns him off. The power of women is in softness". Your words make it seem that women shouldnt go hard even if that is how they actually are . They have to pretend being soft or it might hurt mans ego. Why is it so? If a man like you so much he would be even more turned on by ur assertiveness. Youu would get a guy of ur level. Women has power because of softness ??? NO!!!!!!! daughter has power over dad because dad loves her. Not because she is soft . The love makes the father vulnerable not the softness even if ur daughter is rude ,u still love her because its ur child its ur love .If a women is assertive and strong show it. Show how hard you actually are and you will eventually land up a man who can handle you . Our country india started first revolt of Independence in 1857 and it was lead by a women. she fought on battlefield. She didnt get caught even in the end . She fought on horses and she was strong and valiant . She was a warrior and had a husband who loved her . Sometimes you just have to accept that everybody is not so lucky in love and just being so soft will not get u love efforts are needed from both sides. I usually agree with everything stefan says and i am just 3:27 seconds into the video ...but the start is not so appealing to me . I hope stefan you read it .