bad dates that got exposed on tiktok - REACTION

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Hey there, it's Charlotte Dobre, and in today's video, we're going to be talking about bad dates that got exposed on TikTok.
Let's face it, we've all been on bad dates before. Whether it's the person being rude, showing up late, or just being a plain old weirdo, bad dates are unfortunately a common occurrence.
But what happens when these bad dates get exposed on social media for the world to see? That's exactly what we're going to be discussing today.
We'll be taking a look at some of the most cringe-worthy dates that were shared on TikTok. From people being ghosted mid-date to others getting stood up completely, these are the stories that will make you want to cringe and laugh at the same time.
But it's not just about the bad dates themselves, it's about the aftermath. We'll be exploring how these videos went viral and what the reactions were like from both the public and the people involved.
So, grab some popcorn and get ready for some seriously cringe-worthy content. This video is going to be a wild ride. Don't forget to like and subscribe for more juicy stories like these.
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[@meganchambers8108]

I remember reading once that the reason you need to say "I have a boyfriend" in order to fend off a guy, instead of just "I'm not interested" is because they respect another man more than they respect you. 😢

[@lotstodo]

That is harsh but makes so much sense. Dang.

[@SensationallySilky]

In my experience the "i have a boyfriend/husband" thing still doesn't work because then these miscreants are like "oh what's the matter, he doesn't allow you to have friends" *eye roll**

[@vstopbiaswreckingme7194]

that is definitely the truth, i have had to use the bf lie a few times to get men to stop hitting on me, when i had a girlfriend the men wouldnt stop hitting on me, the reason they stop hitting on me when i say im with a guy is because they only respect men, not women, its not at all about me being unavailable

[@BoraIlgi]

Oh definitely, they are way more scared to offend a fellow men rather than respecting women in general

[@captainwatercress]

It’s true

[@Phlimbob]

My heart breaks for the girl who got sexually assaulted after a date and then was so defeated she tried to apologize to him

[@captainblacksand8484]

And it's so sad that she wouldn't be able to do a thing about it. He (and lots and lots of other guys) would be like "well, she consented." No Paul, letting you take advantage of her because she was afraid of being murdered is not consent.

[@rachelrenee5604]

Bad self-esteem can wreak havoc on one as a whole. I once had this friend that was REALLY smitten with this guy and she wanted us to finally meet. She thought it was getting serious, but he asked her right in front of me if we all could have a threesome. I ended up removing myself from that friendship because she still wanted to see him after that. When a guy says that to a lesbian in front of you, he does NOT respect women at all in any sense of the word.

[@lillyvaughn5398]

F Paul!!

[@esem2755]

This is so true! Something very similar happened to me with my ex. I never liked him or wanted to be with him but he always pushed himself on me, guilt tripped me, or threatened me to. When I finally had the courage to leave, he began to threaten suicide and saying he would make sure everyone would know it’s my fault it happened and it would ruin my family’s lives. So I was beyond terrified. The guy harassed and stalked me at work. The whole time saying I was the one that wanted it and he was “forced” to do those things because I was not trusted to have friends whatsoever. (Everyone cheated on him before.. shocker) I dumped him over text when he got physically abusive. I was too scared to do it in person. To this day I am still extremely terrified and have PTSD because of him. I’m considering moving countries because his friends won’t stop bullying and harassing me in person or online all because I “broke the guys heart”. Those so called guys always see themselves as the victims and cannot comprehend what they do to us. It’s so frustrating and heartbreaking.

[@WhoWhatWhereNow]

Oh my god, really. I hope she knows that that was NOT okay. Paul, lack of a no is NOT consent and fuck YOU!

[@VirgoLunaris]

Yes! Normalize telling folks they're creepy when they creepy!

[@spitfirerat]

But in a safe way so you don't end up murdered

[@Sar-ahG]

Because they will say “just joking” and guilt you in to staying - or you might trigger the crazy and get hurt -

[@adriana27100]

Yes, in a safe way… I recall yelling at some creepy guy filming me at the beach last year. I told him to stop filming, he stopped for like 30 seconds and then continued to do so. I told him off and left.

[@DeltronZed]

I would just tell the person that they took the topic of conversation to a place that you aren't comfortable with at such an early point in knowing someone and unfortunately that's it for you and the date is over. I wouldn't make it personal and judgy, just that it's not working for you and its done.

[@lisastenzel5713]

Absolutly!

[@Bravo21]

This is why Coffee Dates are a great idea for everyone ladies. No big checks to get stuck with. No feeling trapped. No time commitment if they turn out to be creepy af. It's public, people are close if you need help dealing with crazy and if you want to end it, end it.

[@elizabethshuster218]

I went to date over a year and a half ago with a guy I met online, I had suggested going to a coffee shop, but then a couple days later he changed his mind wanting to go to a nice restaurant. We had lunch there and he offered to pay lunch, but didn't seem happy about it. And kept asking if I would cover the tip. I wanted to tell him dude, you're the one who suggested this expensive restaurant. I just wanted to have coffee. But I just kept my mouth shut we didn't see each other again after that.

[@Bravo21]

@@elizabethshuster218 Ouch. Sorry to hear that... lesson learned I guess. Best wishes in all things.

[@envymordecai4429]

That girl just casually discussing how she was sexually assaulted on a first date as if it’s not A MASSIVE FUCKING DEAL absolutely shattered my heart. Charlottes reaction was also sososo sweet ❤🥺 You’re not alone folks ❤

[@amberleeannalee1999]

We are taught that from our moms and fathers too

[@heatherduke7703]

Yes, so sad. What an awful human being that man is

[@foggyfrogg]

Same here....

[@sleeplessinscotland9394]

Yup - flashbacks

[@Gemmaleedsrose]

She was not sexually assaulted, she had consensual sex even though she didn’t want to, lord knows what would have happened if she said no but she says she didn’t say no

[@heathersantoro286]

The state of rape culture in our society is perfectly shown in the poor girl’s description of being date raped because she was afraid to say no. That just made me cry.

[@marysmith861]

Rape culture is B.S. You put yourself in a bad situation. And won't take responsibility for the fact you can't speak up for yourself.

[@zoer7338]

Me too bc it happened to me when I was just a teenie-bopper, new in town, wanted to be accepted. Didn't know how to handle it. Sad... ☹️

[@heathersantoro286]

@@zoer7338I’m so sorry you went through this! No woman or girl should have to experience this.

[@torakuro1444]

Even when you say no some don't understand. Got raped even with a clear ''No'', but because I was smiling to my ears (a reaction I don't control when I am really uncomfortable) Some mens thinks I am playing (Was not the first time it happen, saying ''No'' but my uncomfortable smile make them think it is OK, that my no is just to 'play'). Only got really bad with one, the other I manage to made myself understood or fled the situation. But when I got raped, I was so fucking scared and hecontinu even with my ''No''. We were alone, didn't wanted to get beat up or got killed, at this point I was on survival mode and simply let him do it. Cut contact after that, never see him again. I have big trust isssues in men since. it was the worst experience, but most of my ex's insisted to have sex. Only have 2 or 3 of my ex's that really respected my body and what means ''No''. So today, I really don't trust easily men. Knowing that the majority of women in the world got raped at least one time, show how much we have to be careful around men. I still have them as friends, I still know that a lot are wonderfuls. But because of my traumas, building relationship with men, even as friends only, can be hard as fuck. Only being alone with a male colleague can even make me freakout if I don't know them before.

[@amandaettere8383]

I wanted to cry too

[@cbg4ev]

I'm living for the collaboration between Charlotte's various sounds and the editor's resourcefulness of finding hilarious visuals to accompany them 😂

[@esotericvoice1501]

Yes! Her editor is amazing!

[@karlagonzalvez4703]

Yessssss the editing makes it more hilarious 😂

[@Idalvene]

It was the superman screaming one for me in this video, with the red flag pointing to his cape 😂

[@Abbyravenclaw92]

I love when they put her face on literally anything 😂

[@ixchelskyfeather2513]

She literally has the best editor!! And she is so awesome to allow them to poke fun at her various faces, sounds and reactions. Live for it!! 😂

[@ktierarichardson4341]

15:00 thank you, Charlotte, for not minimizing this situation. ❤ I know I’m late to this, but needed to mention cuz it’s important to see influencers/content creators addressing important issues with the respect and gravity they deserve.

[@lotstodo]

I'm older than you guys, 66, and the sad thing is my mom and her generation told girls to never hurt a man's feelings. She said things like, just laugh if a man makes a pass at you at work, things that actually encourage them. Im glad younger gals are saying how they really feel.

[@Sunshineattacks3]

I’m 27 and I was also told this 😢

[@GalinaEv]

@@Sunshineattacks3 as someone already said in comments it's probably because of the fear of violence towards women.

[@heidikickhouse-]

​@@GalinaEv A working woman born in the 40s was almost always the subordinate of men who held her career in his hands.

[@heidikickhouse-]

I heard "That wouldn't be fair to all the other girls here". Flatters, closes the door and solves no problem.

[@GalinaEv]

@Heidi Kickhouse sure, i meant now. Back then it was even worth, thats why we need feminism

[@eph2vv89only1way]

My worst date was a blind date. I saw him in my building's parking lot when I looked out the window and realized that I was overdressed. So I rushed to change and my roommate answered the door. We decided to go for dinner then a movie. But during the dinner he asked how I could stand living with my roommate. She had been burned in a house fire as a toddler and had major scars on 60% of her body, including her face and scalp. Anyway, he said he couldn't see how I could live with something (his word) so ugly. I said she was a sweet person and I didn't even see her scars anymore. He said he could never stand looking at such ugliness every day and that when she answered the door he was AFRAID (his word, my emphasis) that she was his date and wondered how he could get out of it. He was very relieved when he found out she wasn't. We never made it to the movie, nevermind a second date

[@queenreg7]

He thought that would endear you to him?!? How awful!

[@dannythekingofchaosandkitt4892]

That's a huge yikes... Hope he will stay single forever...

[@eph2vv89only1way]

@@queenreg7 ikr

[@eph2vv89only1way]

@@dannythekingofchaosandkitt4892 I know eh

[@eph2vv89only1way]

@@becorations1 so right

[@Anthony-fd8mh]

That first one I would have asked the waitress for a spilt bill, paid my half and then walked out without saying another word to the guy.

[@RhondaKL]

I did this once,blocked his number,and blocked him on my socials. He had his friends call and message me. I blocked them too.

[@marlenef777]

Absolutely!

[@nicholnixon7310]

Same here

[@ciannamessinger]

I would've also ripped that Gospel bill right in half too

[@sunflowerbaby1853]

I wonder if he did this on the regular to get free expensive meals? Just outrageous!

[@lazygirlrants9426]

The sexual assault happened to me too. I was (am) big and I didn't know then that I was autistic as well and had this mind blindness about emotional language. Meaning I take emotional language literally. So if someone says I don't like attention I immediately assume that as true and start acting accordingly. So this guy takes me on a date and we don't talk for over 20 mins. At this point my heart is racing and my instinct is telling me to run from there. But I continue on because he was from a really good university and had a great job and was sorted in life (it was an arranged marriage groom meeting). I try to make small talk to lighten the mood and he says something to the tune of "shut up you retar*d" and then I start saying something about our bengali community and he goes "how many non-bengalis have you f***kd". At this point my panic is off the charts but I soldier on because I am convinced I won't get a better marriage profile than this guy who would accept my fatness. The awful dinner ends and this guy takes me to the beach nearby and immediately assaults me. I try not to struggle. He then drags me to his car and tries to assault me again and I am STILL trying to be polite and nice and my mind has gone numb. Thanks to my size I somehow push him off me and run out of the car into the busy street and escape to home. I messaged him saying "sorry we are incompatible and all the best". I didn't even have the guts to cuss him on text. Debraj Chatterjee if you ever read this I hope you burn in the septic tank of your own evil karma. You are a disgusting excuse of a human being and I curse you that you never find any peace." Do NOT be polite if you ever feel uncomfortable with a guy.

[@AmarisFrede]

I hope you can heal from this, and that he gets seriously hurt for what he did.

[@nikkiberns1365]

I am so sorry you had to go through this. He will be eternally paying for it, rest assured. And may you be blessed a thousand times over!

[@melaniehernandez6391]

I am so sorry that happened to you! I’m sure that awful piece of garbage masquerading as a human will suffer! You on the other hand will overcome and find happiness!

[@shannonodell2031]

So sorry that happened to you. He doesn't even deserve a cussing that's to good for him he needs to be treated 100 times worse than he treated you.. Prayers to you ❤❤❤❤❤

[@nopetfout5426]

Did you go to the police???? If he's done this to you, he's done it to others, and he will do it again if not stopped.

[@amandashoe1004]

Around Christmas time, my husband and I were getting a quick bite to eat at a restaurant before we went shopping. I kept making eye contact with this girl who looked really uncomfortable but I couldn’t tell if she was in a relationship with this guy or if it was the first date. That was until I went to the bathroom before we left. She was hiding in the bathroom and I totally looked at her and said “I’m getting you out of here. Pretend we’re friends. What’s your name?” She told me her name, I grabbed her by the arm and I didn’t let go. The guy was waiting at the front door and I said “hey I ran into (name). She’s going to come shopping with us. Is that OK?” to my husband. He went right along. BRO THIS DUDE DIDNT TAKE A HINT. Luckily, they drove separately, but this dude literally did not leave and I was about to put her in my actual car and drive away with her to make sure he wouldn’t follow her. She sent me a sweet text the next day thanking me, but imagine how scary that could’ve gotten?

[@ShotaWcue]

Good job to you! You have my absolute respect!

[@deaniewinchester]

You are my hero!

[@jasmom2001]

Thank you for your situational awareness, you may have saved her life!!!

[@ashleyw6160]

If everyone was as kind-hearted as u are, the world would be a much better place.😊 Thank u for caring & helping her out of such a scary situation 🥺🙏...ur such a beautiful soul!!!❤😘

[@carlyaustin6762]

A girl did the same thing for me too! We made eye contact a bunch and we both walked to the bathroom and I said please save me. So we walked out together and I said I had to go get a friend that was on the side of the road needing help. Ended up hanging out with the girl and her guy friend after

[@tylinnfahrni9814]

“Why we gotta think of a lie in order to avoid hurting creeps’ feelings?” PREACH

[@silverwolf6669]

Because we don't want to be assaulted or killed?

[@lillyf973]

I wouldn't lie, I would just tell the guy "I'm just a figment of your imagination, you're not actually talking to anyone rn" then just bolt😅

[@simon-515]

Thank you , Charlotte for taking the time to respectfully respond to that girl. Hugs to all women who have been in that position.

[@delilahbelle2125]

👏👏👏

[@vanessa.85]

​@@TryingtoTellYou Paul?

[@gratitude3673]

Assembled!! Potato Queen. Paul, we're coming for you 😡

[@celysvanity8057]

WE RIDE AT DAWWWWWNNNNNN!!!!

[@moneyhoney5083]

IM BRINGING THE LYSOL AND HAND SOAP, JESSICAS BRINGING THE COOKIES, PAUL, UR DED

[@kaylieyale8334]

Bruh the 2:14 mark had me cringing so hard I had to pause it several times and encourage myself to go on. Ain't no way buddy said, "plug it in me," and then proceed to laugh at his own joke. That second hand embarrassment is insidious.

[@phastinemoon]

I love how she turned it around on him with “well, I’m not into 🍑stuff” - that’s usually a solid way to shut them down

[@tiny6205]

He talks and sound’s literally just like my ex who tried to rape me because he was into that kind of anime. Made me feel sick just hearing what he said in that video 😰

[@lillyf973]

Id have literally told that guy to hump a wall socket if he wants to be plugged into something😅

[@LittleAmyHe]

The girl that was formerly 250 pounds was assaulted and still doesn’t even seem like she has acknowledged that. Omg my heart breaks so much for her.

[@budgetwithlisakay]

Absolutely. That’s terrifying.

[@jillhensley4919]

I want his name! Everyone should know this criminals name!

[@Dolly_junkie]

Yes, that’s terrifying that he forced himself into her house… it’s so traumatizing dealing with SA that us women often try to minimize it or blame ourselves for what happened. I don’t know that you ever really “get over it” 💔

[@naomidixon4640]

Okay I'm so glad someone has mentioned this because all the other comments I've seen are only talking about the other women. I hope she has managed to heal from that, I can't believe he had the audacity to try and creep back in?!

[@godiswithyou.5358]

@@Dolly_junkiea lot of women feel like their experience isn’t valid since it wasn’t full on… yk but it’s still TRAUMA and assault and requires acknowledgment and healing):… it doesn’t matter what happened, if you did not consent to it, you are a victim and it has the ability to mess with your brain and future relationships if you don’t deal with it.

[@karakask5488]

I was waiting through the taco story to see if she took the tacos. I was so proud that she took them with her, that guy didn't deserve free tacos!

[@meisjeViv]

She's really funny, can recommend her youtube channel! Elyse Meyers or something like that

[@lotstodo]

That was funny, and 100 tacos would add up money wise.

[@heatherlowe7330]

For real!

[@tastx3142]

I met a man on a dating site and about a month later, we met up for lunch. So we’re eating and I am basically carrying the conversation, asking open ended questions but no worries about him monopolizing the conversation as he lobs it back to me. When we were done and ready to leave I apologize for talking so much but his response was, ‘I am like EF Hutton, when people talk, I listen.’ We just celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary last week 😊

[@dianaquill9969]

Gosh, inspiring! Thank you for sharing, it gives singles like me hope for the future!

[@jacklow9611]

That's the way a first date should go; you each ask questions of the other and listen to the answers. Congratulations on your anniversary.

[@lisamelroy2855]

Congrats!! ❤

[@marianadiaz3692]

It's unbelievably sad how common situations like date rape & SA really are 😢 at the same time comforting because having gone through something like that can make you feel so alone and like no one understands. I was assaulted on a like 4th date with a guy I met online where things had gone ok, with no indication of predatory intentions. That night however, we both realized that we were not on the same page about something rather important, to the point I realized it wasn't going to work out, so essentially it was probably going to be our last date either way. I was a virgin at the time and had told him so, he said he respected that and I wasn't worried. But that night when the date was almost over, he asked if we could give his friend a ride home, I was like sure. We got to this house in a nice neighborhood and he's like, come in and say hi it'll be quick. I went. We had been drinking a bit and I was a little bummed out from the conversation, so I wanted to put it out of my mind for the moment and just enjoy the night. We went inside and there were two guys I didn't know and a woman I didn't know as well. They offered me a cbd tincture and I declined. Then they made me a drink, and I think only drank like half. Anyway, I started feeling woozy like drunk but not. I remember making small talk, smoking a cigarette (I'd never smoked in my life), and next thing I know I'm sitting with him on the couch dozing off. Flash forward and he's driving me home in the middle of the night. I get home and knock out. I dropped my keys at the door from how "drunk" I was and he hadn't even made sure I got inside my house safely. The next morning felt like a normal day and the only memories I really had from the night before was everything that happened before getting to that house. It was my dad's birthday that next day and all was well...or so I thought. The upcoming Sunday at church with my family I started having some really troubling thoughts. Flashes of sexual activity that I couldn't tell if it was a dream I'd had or something that had really happened. I had a feeling of dread wash over me thinking these things may have actually happened. I was terrified especially because I was still rather religious at the time and saw premarital sex as a sin and had planned to save myself for marriage. Finally worked up the courage one day to ask him about it. Keep in mind he had never once brought it up to me nor apologized or anything. I asked, hey did something happen between us that night? He was like, you don't remember? I was like no. He didn't give me any details and asked if I was sure I wanted to know. I was sooo embarrassed so I said no I'd rather not know. Shortly after, I broke up with him, STILL not realizing I was assaulted. Over the next week I began to realize what had happened to me, to this day I don't remember exactly what happened. I'm sure my eyes were closed the whole time because what little I do remember are physical sensations but nothing visual. The following two or three months were the darkest time in my life. PTSD, dissociation, panic attacks, not being able to focus at work, not being able to drive alone at night, nor sleep alone. Having to rearrange my room to avoid thinking about it. Went to get STD testing, luckily didn't catch anything. Anxiously waited for my period thinking what if he got me pregnant. I thank God for my family especially my sister. I don't think I would've survived without them. I still have lingering effects from the trauma. It happened in early December 2019, so whenever it starts getting cold, my body remembers. Thankfully my life is wonderful now, almost four years later. Six months after the trauma I met my now husband and had the most beautiful dating experience with the most considerate and gentle man I've ever met. He knew about my bad experience from the get go and went at my pace. We were both virgins and I waited as long as I could but eventually we lost it to each other and I wouldn't have had it any other way. It was gentle, fun, enjoyable and a learning experience for the both of us. We'll be celebrating our first wedding anniversary this December and every year I'll be making new happy winter memories. Thank you to whoever read all that, these experiences change us for sure, but there's no doubt that life can still be good afterwards. I'm blessed to have had the support system I did, not everyone is so lucky 😢

[@Katfall2012]

Beautiful story but your husband lied about the virgin thing

[@mellalune]

Thank you so much for acknowledging that poor girl's experience and how it's definitely a shared issue that a lot, a LOT of women have to deal with.

[@NDJunction]

I don't condone women not straight YELLING at dudes for this shit. Please ladies; you aren't *mean* , you aren't *rude* , you aren't a *bitch* , you are a human of worth, emotions, and boundaries that don't always match up with another person and that is MORE THAN ACCEPTABLE. what isn't acceptable is feeling awkward, shame or any other negative thing and not speaking up for yourselves. u don't want this to happen to your mates, your kids or ppl you care about so PLEASE PLEASE *PLEASE* say "im not comfortable" T-T please! 💌

[@RandomSwiftie13]

About that last girl's situation : Here's a tip - after the date ends and the guy is following you and is hard to shake off then instead of going to your house, go to your neighbor's house and start a normal boring long conversation with your neighbor. The guy WILL leave!

[@lavenderhoney3208]

❤ was dating in the 90's. I walked out of so many dates. I would literally stand up say , ' no thank you.' pay my half of the bill and leave. I always drove myself and I WANTED to leave publicly so that they could not pressure me or freak out and hurt me. I was super small. Most of the time they were so shocked I got to my car before they even realized I had really bailed.

[@maryallan453]

First rule of dating: ALWAYS drive your own car to the first several dates. A friend of mine was once stranded 20 miles from home because she wouldn't put out as payment for the cheap meal.

[@joyfulinhope1210]

This is how we should teach girls to behave. 👏🏼

[@chrissiesbuchcocktail]

This is how it is done!!!

[@moonhunter9993]

Your date should not know where you live and you should always have your own transport.

[@dustinriley8059]

Yeah, I really don't understand how or why anyone would decide not to provide their own transportation on at least the first few dates with someone.

[@anameows88]

Story Time: I met this guy online once, we set up a date....but he needed me to pick him up. No car. First red flag. I pick him up and he immediately begins being condescending, talking bad about women in general, about how no one wants to be with him and hes tired of it, etc. 2nd red flag. He then asks me to take him by his work so he can pick up his check. Im like ....what is this turning into?! He goes inside and im sitting there in the car, contemplating on just pulling off and leaving him there. I didn't. He comes out so angry because apparently when he went in, he got fired and handed his last paycheck. His mood became even more lovely from there. He began ranting about society and how everyone is out to get him. I asked him to chill out and calm down and he snapped on me. And i literally just stopped the car in the middle of the road and was like nope, we're not doing this, im not doing this. Made a u-turn and headed back towards his place. He srarted questioning me on what i was doing, where i was going, why i was being like everyone else. I just kept my mouth shut, pulled up in front if this place and asked him to get out of my car. He starts begging for a second chance, that hea just having a bad day, etc etc. Asks me if i wanna come in to hang out. Then says he lives in the garage out back. Nope. I told him to shut my damn door and left him in the dust. He was an absolute nightmare and i shouldn't have let it get as far as it did. But jeebus man. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@crimsonfirelily]

Good for for you and your instincts! 💜✌

[@Sunshineattacks3]

Something similar happened to me. He asked me to take him to get weed and when I said no, he couldn’t understand why not. Then he started to grab my phone out of my hand because he wanted to change the music. And then he went on and on about how he doesn’t get my girls usually don’t like him. I feel like a lot of these guys. Don’t realize it’s their personality and not their looks.

[@WelcomeApathy]

@@Sunshineattacks3 Those are the kind of guys who only like women for their looks and can't understand that not everyone is as shallow and disrespectful as they are.

[@christinamann3640]

Reading your story gave me second hand anxiety and I’m glad you are safe.

[@daniellephan7391]

That’s an incel. Any guy who is hateful like that is definitely an incel.

[@AnaHaze777]

It shatters my heart to hear that just because someone struggles with their weight they see themselves as worthless and allow a man to treat them like trash. No matter what you struggle with you have value. You deserve to only do things you want to do, set strong boundaries. YOU MATTER.

[@taraharvey8123]

👏👏 Right?! My 🩷 shattered for that precious girl! Like, I was damn near in tears over her story! However, the tears quickly turned to ANGER.. and I REALLY wish she could have put that piece of SUBhuman 💩 on BLAST! So other females can TOTALLY AVOID his nasty ass!! 🤬🤬🤬

[@reneekowalsky8337]

Exactly!!! She was treated terribly. And it’s sad that we see ourselves so worthless.

[@cl5193]

You don't have to 'struggle with weight' to allow a man to treat you like trash.

[@1ManNamedDan]

No matter who you are you're somebody's type. I'm not tall or have a large frame but I find thicc girls to be very attractive, my last gf for 3 yrs was taller than me and a bit obese but I loved her because of how kind, fun and open to trying new places and things like I got her over her shyness to do karaoke and she was awesome at it and occasionally she would dress up in a skirt and twin tails to drive me up the wall. God I miss her. The are men out there who love women of all sizes, as long as you think and know your sexy so will we.

[@robertgronewold3326]

I am gay, and I've never really had this 'first date' sort of experience, as all of the guys I've ever dated were men I met online and spent months first chatting and messaging before ever meeting in person, taking out the awkward angle. BUT, my mom had a hell of a story. Back in the 60's she was quite the item, and a very good-looking dude asked her out to a movie at the drive-in theater. The film was Psycho, and when it got to the infamous shower scene, he screamed like a girl and dumped his popcorn all over the place while my mom was perfectly composed. My mom could be a war zone doctor, she has that level of composure, no stabbing could get to her. However, this man was angry and embarrassed, so he then proceeded to kick my mom out the car and drove off at high speed. She then had to walk 15 miles to her aunts house, in the night, and was freaking furious the whole way. Guess what, he came back to ask for another date. She told him to go to hell.

[@jamie7398]

The nerve of that guy to ask for another date after making her walk home in the dark alone.

[@robertgronewold3326]

@@saltydog7038 I was talking about the fact that I have never had that awkward, meeting a stranger experience. Most of the guys I've dated have wound up becoming friends of mine afterward because we got to really know each other online before ever meeting. My last boyfriend I chatted with for four months before ever meeting him face to face. This is my OWN experience, not the gay community as a whole.

[@jacklow9611]

As she should have.

[@gaiapurpure]

AS. SHE. SHOULD.

[@jenrey5135]

That sucks 😂, one thing I had learned meet in a place you know, go on your own car never let the date know were you live until you know each other better, let friends or a family member know who and where you are going and lastly... always bring cash or a credit card if the date gets awkward pay your stuff so the other person doesn't feel like you owe them something

[@ttrublu79]

In the UK we now have "ask for angela" it gives the bar staff a reason to get you out of a sticky situation, depending on what you ask for "on the rocks" etc determines to them how bad you need out! There are signs usually all over the girls toilet doors and inside the restroom areas

[@lushpaw1]

that should be the norm everywhere. great idea

[@chloemommy1]

I know this is an old comment, but here in the States, if you order an angel shot at the bar, it's to signal the bartender you are in need of help

[@taylerfarr7570]

The poor girl with the creepy video game guy! This is exactly why my roommates made a pack especially for blind and first dates, regardless if they knew the guy. We had a code word and phrase to get us out of the situation and even made sure that we knew where they were going, how long they expected to be gone, if payment was discussed, and I'd it was going to be in public (we made sure that it was). We never really used it but I know personally going into crepy, weird uncomfortable dates I had a backup. Even when I went on my first official date with my now husband and we were already friends with him before it allows happened my roommates still checked in when I wasn't home when I said I probably would be. Unfortunately these plans are needed more than we can may expect!

[@evilgenius3646]

Conversation with a woman on a date is super easy, unless she is shy or not talkative. Follow these steps: 1. Ask a question about her or something she likes 2. Listen 3. When she stops talking, add something short that is on topic and shows you were listening. 4. Repeat.

[@ineedhoez]

Lol

[@estibon3872]

no lies here.

[@oldwelshlady6584]

And there we have it! I taught this to my son when he was 11 and also that when a woman is telling you her problems, she doesn't want you to fix them, she wants you to empathise, like just say, ' oh no that's rough or that must have been awful etc ' That is half a job done right there! Listen, give acknowledgement and a bit of understanding,...... that's all anyone wants really!

[@tariqyousaf8635]

exept women don't listen to men when they talk but they talk for hours and it's fine

[@tariqyousaf8635]

@@oldwelshlady6584 And yet you women don't listen to our problems and tell us to get therapy so men shouldn't listen to your problems

[@mariapdr3261]

I went out with a guy I shared a class with who was a vegan. I didn’t care he was a vegan but apparently he cared so deeply about my dietary choices that after just one date he offered to make me a meal plan as well as get me bicycling. I admit I am a little overweight but the audacity of someone who barely knows me thinking he can tell me how to eat and how to exercise raised all kinds of red flags.

[@empressah888]

Well no, it sounds like he was just trying to be helpful to me. If he understands more about good health and nutrition then it’s natural he’d want to share that with a prospective gf or friend. I get asked for medical advice all the time and am happy to help advise ppl where to start. Maybe hit hit a nerve? ✌️

[@mariapdr3261]

@@empressah888 It’s one thing to give advice when asked but to offer to make someone a nutrition plan when you didn’t even for their advice and, I can’t stress this enough, barely even know you, is deeply insulting. He didn’t know me enough to know I was actually seeing a licensed nutritionist at the time and ended up loosing a considerable amount of weight. I am only now overweight because I gained some back in the pandemic. But he didn’t know that because he didn’t bother to get know me and know if I was actually doing anything about my weight issues. As a woman I’ve had several psychologists tell me look out for people who like to be overly controlling because that is very much a red flag.

[@treegreen941]

@@empressah888 It sounds like you're the guy she was on a date with. She didn't ask for his advice - he offered it - unsolicited - on a first date. And how do you figure Mr. Vegan understands more about health and nutrition than the person he's preaching to? It's a huge red flag to anyone that read her remark - I hope she ran away quickly in the other direction.

[@treegreen941]

@@mariapdr3261 Sorry Maria you had Empressah trying to gaslight you. What a pendejo!

[@skle2300]

This sounds like my ex-roommate where he would criticize my every meal for having meat, saying how unhealthy it was for me. Then continued to eat ramen and Pringles for lunch at work.

[@marieknight9385]

I’m glad the one girl took her tacos with her, she did pay for them and yes it’s a bummer to have those awful experiences and should definitely be more comfortable setting boundaries and sticking to them

[@GalinaEv]

i still cannot wrap my head around the number. why 100? did he plan to eat them all week? then good for her not leave them behind for him and his creepy dad

[@nopenope9118]

He seriously just wanted a week’s worth of tacos and probably thought she wouldn’t pack them all up and take them with her, because a lot of women tend to be polite during awkward situations. I’m so proud of her for taking the tacos and not just fleeing in terror lol. I bet he immediately messaged another girl for a date because he and his dad were still hungry.

[@lbeard7661]

At least she kept her tacos.

[@imjuliewaters]

The video went viral. Her stories are really good, but that one is the best.

[@Mairin]

@@imjuliewaters Hey, by any chance do you have a link to her channel?

[@ladygoodmen]

Just rewatched and honestly, so much love for CD for what she said about the girl who was sexually assaulted. We have all been there and we all share this pain - women lifting each other up is so beautiful 💜

[@Moos1704]

This is why I always go for only a drink first. I dont't want to sit through a awkward dinner. Rather finish a drink and end the date quickly.

[@Dove96]

I learned that the hard way too. Drink, coffee, or whatever never a dinner and always meet there.

[@zoorenard1101]

It also cost you a lot less when he "realize he forgot his wallet" 😑

[@meisjeViv]

This. If pre-date conversation has been promising, do a before-dinner drink so that if you hit it off you can go for dinner after, and if it's not a success you can leave for 'other dinner plans' or whatever

[@meisjeViv]

Ah and also try to meet up somewhere that's convenient for you to go to (and get away from) - this is an indication of how much someone wants to meet you, and it's easier to get back home/wherever you are going after if it doesn't work out (and if it's a really successful date, easy to take him home after 😂 that's what I did with my current partner - we're now living together)

[@sngray11]

Exactly. When I was still dating (I’m engaged now), I would always go to a coffee shop for the first date. It is easy to bail with your beverage if you need to and you’re not stuck with a meal or an expensive bill.

[@briandworkin3089]

hi charlotte! About a year and a half after my husband passed, this guy who i didn't know well started pursuing me...i told him that i was not ready as i was still in mourning...he told me that we could take our time, etc. and become friends, no pressure and see how everything would develop...eventually, after going out twice, he stopped by my house, and upon meeting my mother asked if she saw him as a son in law! My mom took me aside, and told me that something was off with him, and that i had to watch out....and if i needed to get out of the situation, just to tell her....later that evening, when we went out, we bumped into his friends, and he introduced me as his lover....i was uncomfortable to say the least, and his friends saw it...coincidentally, one of the friends was my late husband's cousin, and she KNEW that i was not in any way desirous of dating anyone...she told me that we would leave together on the pretext of a small emergency....when we got back to the table, he called for attention, telling everyone that the entire evening was on ME because ....SURPRISE...we were announcing our engagement, and that i was now ready for a REAL relationship, not the sham i was in before....(i was with my late husband for 3 1/2 years, and we were very much in love....i took care of him when he got sick, and would not leave his side as he was the love of my life) i got up and just looked at him and slapped him very hard. and left with my cousin (in law) when i returned home...i had found that the picture of my late husband had been replaced with his picture, and another had been flipped backwards in it's frame....i have never heard from him or his shocked friends ever again....(31 years this july third, and i still think of my late husband. Every. Damn. Day. ) i know this isn't the typical submission, but still thought you might find it interesting.

[@SE013]

Thank god you didn't hear him from him afterwards...sounds like a complete psycho who could've become a stalker. I'm sorry about your husband, but it's clear that he continues to live through you. Thank you for sharing

[@carlyaustin6762]

Thank god you never heard from him again. That sounds like that would have ended badly!!

[@inannaliban]

Many years ago a friend's mother started a dating service. My now 40 year old son was a baby, and I was a single mother. Her dating service had a lot of men applying, but very few women. She convinced a few of her daughter's friends to go on a some dates. I went on a date with "Dale". I drove myself to the bar where we met up. During the course of our date he proceeded to tell me that the next day he wanted me to meet his mother. That he was absolutely delighted to have a "ready made family" and was planning our entire future together. I never got to say much. Apparently I was going to be marrying him within a few months and having our next child.....I eventually got up to go to the bathroom, walked out the door and never looked back. I also flat out refused to go on another date with one of her clients.

[@edgloss1299]

You're a great friend and person 💜💜

[@sharim]

Unfortunately I missed all the signals….and married him. 😱

[@amarzya445]

@@sharim That is rough xD

[@PenGwennie7]

Some of the words in this video touched my heart. I think I really needed to hear them and my heart goes out to the girl who got taken advantage of. No one should have to go through that, ever.

[@OhLadyMeg]

I think the reason we don’t tell men they’re being creepy is because we don’t want to die 😅

[@CharlotteDobre]

Lol period

[@2late4date]

It's hard to tell which ones get just mad and which ones get stabby so it's better to be safe 😂

[@Fordo007]

As a guy whose terrified women will find me creepy and try to be as unthreatening and meek as possible, if a woman told me I was being creepy I’d probably apologize profusely and then walk into a bus out of shame and guilt. I hate making people feel unsafe or uncomfortable, don’t know if there’s a name of a phobia for it or not. But a lady indicating she feels creeped out or unsafe because of you is honestly one of the worst feelings imaginable. I’ve been wracked with guilt all day when being alone in an elevator with a lady she tensed up from me saying good morning. It’s terrible women have to be that cautious and on edge with me, but I get why.

[@maryallan453]

​@@Fordo007you may be in a minority. After I was widowed and started dating again I had both my daughter and my adult grand daughter track my phone when I went on a date. They would each call me shortly after the date began and about a couple of hours later. Set questions and answers so they knew I was safe. I am not a timid person, and can handle most situations, but rather safe than sorry.

[@Sunshineattacks3]

@@Fordo007 yeah, the problem is a lot of guys see the same behavior you saw, and blame us for feeling that fearful and become bitter towards us. Guys that are sympathetic like you are great but sadly we can’t tell you.😭 and I totally see how it has to be hard as a guy constantly being feared, and made to feel guilty just for existing, honestly don’t think it’s anyone’s fault, except for the people messing it up for all of us

[@alyssa23326able]

The girl talking in the car about Paul has me really emotional because I had a similar situation where I had established boundaries prior that I absolutely was not interested in anything sexual. The date was suppose to be at his house. That should have been a red flag, but I figured since I put boundaries up I had nothing to worry about. But almost immediately he just started kissing me and taking things further and I had no idea what to do. So I just let him and waited for it to be over. I guess I kept hoping he would realize I didn’t want it, I never said yes.. I remember leaving and just feeling so terrible and empty. And to this day every time I think about it I feel so stupid and weak because I never stood up for myself and stopped the situation. I’m not going to put words in that woman’s mouth, but she probably feels very similar to how I felt then, and it’s such an awful feeling. My heart goes out to her.

[@charlottesometimes1278]

Been there

[@nicolelavigne1700]

It’s not an easy thing to do in that situation no matter how much you might want to say you would never let that happen. Please don’t beat yourself up for trying to protect yourself how you could. It is NOT your fault. I’m sorry he did that to you.

[@dianaquick8883]

​@Ben so not fighting back is your interpretation of her consent and her "body language" saying yes? Consent is enthusiastic consent from both parties. Not just lying there passively, or not resisting. Do you also believe men can't be raped by women because their body is getting aroused? All of that thinking has been debunked.

[@Nelle606]

@@TryingtoTellYou actually she said no to sex from the beginning - that's what it meant to put up those bounderies before the date started. And what part of I just waited for it to be over equates to "your body language said yes"? There are a lot of women, myself included, who have experienced this. You say don't expect anything, you say no, you turn away, maybe push back gently - always concerned about being polite and trying not to embarrass or hurt the man's feelings and they just keep at you until you relent and just endure until you can leave. And then we feel guilty for either not being an enthusiastic partner because we never wanted it in the first place or because we are ashamed we didn't make a huge scene and scream and fight rather than just quietly endure.

[@TryingtoTellYou]

​@@Nelle606 I share your contempt for grapists. That is why I must make a point that accusing someone of it falsely has detrimental impacts on their life, especially when you do it on social media. You are innocent until you are proven guilty and you have just taken a one sided story and condemned a man. That is not fair. When I read her paragraph, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and so I took her word for word. She specifically mentions letting this man into her house, going into the room to embellish herself, lying down on couches and beds. If that is not consent, then I do not know what is.

[@kj62431]

I had a first date with a guy whom I met at a restaurant. He was critical, cynical, of anything I said. Only exception was when he asked if I had a pet and told him about my beloved childhood dog. He was very sympathetic about that. Otherwise he was brutally frank and insulting. At one point he went to the restroom and the couple sitting behind us leaned over and expressed their concern about how he was treating me. I explained it was a first date and that I would not ever be seeing him again. I left while he was in the restroom.

[@lesley4085]

Oh my goodness the horrible stories and that poor girl who was SA brought a tear to my eye. Thankfully being older I have no qualms about saying ‘this isn’t going to work out’ and leaving immediately. I would hate to be younger and looking for someone special, it just seems so difficult and dangerous.

[@nyx9875]

In response to the last video... ACTUALLY... I learned as a teenager that I loved body suits for that reason. On the first few dates, I'd literally wear clothes in complicated layers on purpose. Otherwise, guys would attempt to grope me in movies theaters, or in their car on the way home, etc. As a healthy adult, I can look back and see how awful that was. Yet, as an awkward teenager will no self-confidence, the body suit was a real life saver. Never hesitate to use such measures, especially if you've been assaulted in the past. Double dates, staying sober, and other measures are even more helpful, but every little bit helps.

[@annaward4004]

Thanks for addressing that young woman’s story with sensitivity and kindness. Listening to it left me breathless because I have been there. Thank you for taking a moment to validate those experiences ❤

[@justmariakick]

My worst date with a guy was last year, I met this guy online and he seemed pretty cool through text, he lived in a city 20 minutes away from my own so when we planned up a date I ended up deciding to go and visit him on his city. It was my first date after two years of not meeting anyone new, so I was pretty excited. I did my nails, I did my hair, I got a new dress, I did some beautiful make-up, I wore my nicest perfume and I hopped on a train to visit this guy. When I get there I see this tiny excuse of a man, wearing a sweaty football shirt, cargo shorts, and flip flops, he looks and smells as if he hasn't bathed in a week, when he comes to hug me I have a hard time not letting it show that I'm clearly bothered by the way he smells, just trying to be polite at this point. So then he takes me to this bar where I order one orange soda and he orders a beer and we have this awkward silence for a whole 20 minutes, when we decide to leave he asks me if I can pay for his drink and I do cause at that point I just wanted to leave, then he hits me with this "So uhm I can't invite you back to my place cuz I live with my parents but we can have some FUN in my car" I was just like "no sorry thanks gotta go" and he was quite offended that I didn't want to "have fun" with him, and said I wasted his time and if he knew I was so stuck-up he wouldn't have come. I am still shocked at the lack of just logic from this man, I spent 40 dollars on a dress, 30 dollars to get my hair done, 20 on nails, a whole hour doing my make-up, 5 puffs of my most expensive perfume, I went to a whole other city, I paid for our bill, and somehow I wasted HIS time because I didn't want to have "fun" with the hobo version of mario.

[@r.g.w9712]

Astounding how out of touch that dude was. I hope you find better!

[@chiaraconcolato5952]

I'm so sorry that happened to you, I hope you have better luck next time, but I have to you that "hobo version of mario" made me wheeze ahahah

[@dummyfool5937]

A real man will come to you or meet up somewhere that both sides agreed on

[@ericap5433]

Oh wow

[@CarpeNutella]

Hobo version of Mario 😂😂😂

[@rotinasemroteiro]

I never had a bad date because I always dated people I was already friends with, but in return I had two bad relationships. The second one, in particular, was the worst. I didn't know I was pregnant and he cheated on me with his ex and the stress caused me to have a miscarriage. I was 23 at the time. Today I'm 28, I've been in a great relationship for four years, I'm living with my boyfriend now and I realize that knowing someone for a long time isn't a certainty either. 😅

[@Takillama]

I've only been on one date in my life. We met in a laundromat and he said he'd seen me a few times and liked how I was with my son, he found it sweet. The date itself was a bit awkward but he was a nice guy. So afterwards, he takes me home and ends up proposing to me in my dining room! He made sure to emphasize that he was VERY well off, then told me he was a single father and was looking for a wife to help him with his kids. So he was basically looking for a nanny with benefits. LOL

[@js8qp2pwisos]

Lmaoo not him watching you with your son like it was an interview 😭

[@judycroteau482]

Nuclear torpedo dodged.

[@tarysunshine3878]

Wait You have a son You never date his Dad?

[@Takillama]

@Tary Sunshine The situation with his dad was a bit complicated. LOL We were together but didn't date, then later got married.

[@judycroteau482]

@@tarysunshine3878 I think this falls under the category of “none of your business”. Kind of personal mate!

[@jillianericson-pelton8106]

I went on a blind date with a guy a friend from school set me up with. She found out I’d never been kissed because I’d never really had a bf (I was in my twenties, yes it was a shame but I was a very driven individual and just didn’t have the time for dating) anyway this guy comes from the burbs into Chicago, we walk through the museum campus, along lakeshore drive, and navy pier. All along he’s telling me how he’s done jail time for practicing law without a license, practicing dentistry without a license, and had a kid he wasn’t allowed to see because he was incarcerated and can’t make enough money with the jobs available to an excon to go see his kid. At this point I know, I’m never seeing this dude again EVER. So he takes me to this bar where he knows EVERYONE and makes conversation with them all the while I haven’t been able to get a single word in. I go to the bathroom and the walls are lined with vending machines for condoms… condoms everywhere. So I’m like, I need to make an excuse and get out of here. So I tell him I need to get back to my place so I can work on my final. Instead of letting me hail a can he insists on walking me home. I relented, it was a short walk so we get to my apartment complex and I thank him for a nice night and I’d let him know when I got back after finals etc. Dude comes in to kiss me, and I’m like “no way is this dude going to be my first kiss,” so I dodged and he got my cheek. He does it again, this time grabbing my chin to keep me from dodging. Worst kids ever (I’ve had great boyfriends since and am happily married so I can truly say it was a terrible kiss lol) but it didn’t end there he kept pressuring me to let him come inside, fortunately our dorm had security guards and the biggest meanest one comes out to smoke a cigarette and blind date dude hurries off. I thank the guard and went inside. But wait, there’s more. In a follow up text dude calls me a waste of his time and money…. Gross.

[@dhf161]

And why did a friend of yours think this dude would be good for you?

[@tarzana4]

I am thinking the same as Diana F. I would be careful with that "Friend" if I were you I'd cut her out if possible. I would be wondering why this friend decided to set you up on a blind date with this guy. I could be wrong, but still I would watch out for the friend too. 😑

[@jillianericson-pelton8106]

@@tarzana4 unsurprisingly I never saw that friend again after that semester in uni. Still no clue why she thought dude would be a good fit for me smh

[@tarzana4]

@@jillianericson-pelton8106 I am glad you are in a much better situation. 😄🙏

[@debbylou5729]

No one walks along lake shore drive. Cool story

[@aaaapgp7192]

Why do we have to give an excuse? Because they yell at me if I'm honest, only one guy has been like "oh ok, no problem"

[@CharlotteDobre]

So true

[@bonnemoms5413]

I've had a number who were okay with me not being interested like that, but we are still friends now. They were weird on that date, turns out it was nerves, they are some of the coolest and finest peeps I know! Even my husband likes them. We don't hangout much now that I'm married with kids, but sometimes they are really just nervous. Sometimes they are just creeps.

[@thayah]

Yup had one guy that seemed to be mute on the first date. I wanted to give him a chance to open up so we went from a coffee date to a walk in the park date and my back hurt from carrying the convo the whole time. He gave me single silable answers so I just ghosted him after that. It's ok to be nervous but if you're closed off and don't even show a crumb of your personality don't expect to receive back to back dates and opportunities.​ He lived in my building and got salty af when I started dating someone else which is when I completely lost respect for him. Like my guy, if someone picks up someone you didn't even bother talking to you can be mad at yourself only. Some of them do think they own you, your time and your body just because they asked you on a date...istg smh@@bonnemoms5413

[@Fogysoks4709]

Because no gets us killed..... men are over emotional

[@trishhayes4457]

@14:50 - You are so real, respectful, conscientious, and fun. SO appreciate you!! 😁

[@jessleigh4622]

My worst date was with a guy I knew from high school, and we did a double date with my best friend and her bf. We went to a fancyish restaurant and I told him I’m vegetarian. He said that all girls say that but they don’t mean it, and proceeded to order calamari and was trying to literally force it in my mouth. Halfway through the date he said that I (blonde) should dye my hair red cause he prefers redheads…my best friend with us on the date was a redhead. Super awkward. We paid and left and when I got home he texted me saying I basically owed him sex for buying me dinner 🤢 it was awful

[@Cristallia]

Holy shit. Pls tell me you told your bestfriend about everything so you two could just judge him forever lmao

[@jessleigh4622]

@@Cristallia oh yeah, I lived with her at the time and it definitely turned into an inside joke lol

[@Cristallia]

@@jessleigh4622 awesome! Guys like that should be shamed hardly lol. If it was me I honestly would've told every single acquaintance that I have about him just so that they could avoid him. Like that dude is basically a bouquet of redflags lmao

[@jillhensley4919]

Horrible!

[@dg3798]

You should have told him yes, and then give him the wrong address.😂

[@InsomniaticPrincess]

For the first one, I’d wait for a server to come by and ask them to split the bill; no way in hell I’m letting someone treat me that way and let them get away with sticking me with the bill

[@Sunshineattacks3]

Exactly!

[@sngray11]

💯%.

[@tate_n]

And for the EXPENSIVE restaurant OF THEIR CHOICE 🤯

[@kikibigbangfan3540]

My thoughts exactly 💯

[@christid.8912]

Yep!! I dated quite a bit in college…lots of different guys…rarely had any ask ME about ME almost that entire time. Fast forward four years…go on a date with a guy who actually listened, asked follow-up questions, and seemed genuinely interested in learning as much as he could about me. I married that guy, had 5 kids, and have been very happily married for 25 years. Hey guys…LISTEN TO CHARLOTTE!! :)

[@cosmicrae]

A solid winner! 😊

[@thewizardsofthezoo5376]

Yeah I did that with my wife too, I noticed she liked to talk about herself, so I let her revel in it, and she loved it, 20 years down the line, she is still taking, and I still don't know what she is talking about, but it works!! You girls as as simple as men, the most intelligent just shuts the fuck up and listens, and it all goes well for years on end. The name of the game is: never lie to a man and never tell the truth to a woman, the rest falls into place automatically. (Tell that to your husband it's going to make him laugh!)

[@mamaluigi0993]

2:00 I showed my mom this video and asked what she would do. She said he’s just being an idiot 😂

[@Tesjhkyayy]

The first girls story is insane. I would ask the waitress to split the bill and that I am going to pay my half and he has to look what he can do for paying his half.

[@fionaleslie9037]

Absolutely!

[@GrandmaLoves2Scuba]

Facts.

[@lediona3996]

Exactly my thought!!

[@susantimmermann3114]

The story about Paul reminds me of my youth and inability at the time to set boundaries for myself. Because of abuse I suffered as a child and physical and sexual abuse as a teen, then a rape as an older teen, I had lost all sense of self and self worth. When you hate your body, it's really hard to set boundaries for yourself. It breaks my heart to hear her story. I remember situations getting completely out of hand, to put it nicely. When you don't care about yourself, you don't take care of yourself.

[@ioanaoros6937]

❤

[@CarpeNutella]

This breaks my heart for the SA girl and for you as well. You're so beautiful and brave. Abuse survivors in the States probably outnumberany other country because of this sick toxic masculinity here. Just ugh

[@deaniewinchester]

Same! I've been overweight most of my life and been in situations like that too many times.. Including my 10yr marriage. Who I married cause I thought no one else would ask...I lived thru 10yrs of abuse mental and physical. I'm 61 now so that was 30yrs ago but I still remember the feelings. My ex recently died of cancer and tho I'm not happy he's dead(I also have 3 children with him and 4 grandchildren) I won't miss him. He begged my forgiveness on his death bed but he died before I could talk to him. I'm not sure I could have forgiven him.. The abuse was so bad I'm not sure I could have honestly forgiven him.

[@kurtkyre]

Back when my ex gf and I were still together, we'd have dinner parties and there was a couple who would come over. Together they were okay, but the lady's husband really got under my skin. He asked me when we were going to hang out, just him and me... He wanted to help me in my workshop. I didn't beat around the bush. I said, "That's never going to happen. I don't like you."

[@lizzykayOT7]

Omg, dude...so weird.

[@kurtkyre]

@@lizzykayOT7 Perhaps, but I don't lie, so it's better for everyone.

[@terra_the_nightingale135]

That can happen, least you were honest. He give you a reason or was it just a weird vibe?

[@LazyIRanch]

@@kurtkyre Sounds like that creepy dude was on the downlow! Probably the same kind of guy who talks about how much he hates "queers", all the while checking out your physique. I'll never understand people like that. I'm a straight woman, but since I seldomly wear makeup, and dress like a ranch hand (since I have a ranch with livestock), sometimes people assume that I'm gay. I'm actually ace, meaning that I am not sexually attracted to anyone, male or female, but I've _never_ had a lesbian talk or act inappropriately with me. I've had gay friends all my life, men and women, and I typically feel most comfortable around them because they understand that sexuality is a spectrum, not an "on/off" switch. In fact, it was a gay male friend who first suggested to me that I might be "ace". I had no idea what that meant until he described asexuality to me. It changed my life, because up until then I thought I was broken and abnormal. I don't tell family and friends that I'm ace though. It's easier to let them keep thinking I'm lesbian, like some family members have thought since I was a child... just because I loved Tonka, Hot Wheels, erector sets and hated dolls. As an adult, I don't enjoy shopping for clothes (I hate malls), but I love antique car shows and going to the hardware store.

[@kurtkyre]

@@LazyIRanch Actually, I think he was bisexual, but he never made a pass at me. I'm straight, and an ally. I was the M in a 24/7 M/s relationship. His wife was much more of a Dom than he was, but he kept trying too hard to impress me with his "Domliness", or something and I don't suffer fools.

[@graceful_enigma]

Elyse Meyers is ELITE at storytelling. This will forever live in my head (the Taco Bell video and the arm grab on the way out lmao)

[@bigsisdi2]

After the divorce, I had two horrible dates. 1) Dating app, never hid that I was a “BBW”, told him that I was a heavy gal, he said, “No problem.” Met at the restaurant, nothing fancy, I got there first and waited in the lobby, and the first thing he says is, “You’re bigger than I thought, all gals say they’re ‘fat’!” Ate dinner, minimal conversation, he heads to the restroom, soon a waitress comes by and says, “He just paid and left. Sorry.” 😮 At least he paid! 2) Met a guy at some BBW dances I used to go to, seemed normal…how wrong can you be? Invited him over for coffee and cake. His first reaction to seeing two bookshelves was, “Wow! Have you READ all those books?” I asked if he reads, and he answered, “Well, porn magazines.” Lived with his mother and sister, in the basement! I swiftly told him that I had to get up early for work the next day, and I’d see him at the next dance. As he was getting ready to leave, he dropped something out of his jacket…a two-pound bag of UNWRAPPED CONDOMS! I don’t know what he was envisioning, but I managed to never speak to him again! 😳

[@Lauriash]

Omgggg yeah f that first dude. But what was 2nd guy doing with all those unwrapped condoms 🤔😂😭

[@judycroteau482]

@@Lauriash I guess he was expecting an orgy, not just coffee and cake. 🤣 He probably has never been laid before (because he only reads porn) so he wasn’t sure of the whole actual process - just wanted to be prepared. 🤦‍♀️🤮

[@ashleenicole71]

​​@Lauren C 😱😱that second story..

[@solong_abigail]

as a victim of SA, my heart absolutely breaks for that girl, ik how horrible it must feel and the trauma that follows after. i hope that she got better, or is healing at least 🤍

[@dinasilva9263]

Charlotte you inspired me to change some things in my life. Thanks to your opinions and sense of humour i finally had the courage to change what was making me unhappy. From my heart, thank you. ❤️

[@CharlotteDobre]

I love this for you Dina! Proud of you!!

[@adriana27100]

So awesome hun! 👏🏻👏🏻 do you mind sharing what you changed? I could use some tips 😋💕

[@sarahm9813]

Love this

[@dinasilva9263]

@@CharlotteDobre thank you Charlotte.🤗

[@Meeckle]

This made me happy!! 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

[@ninaamaral4434]

That awful story really made me think of how age and life experience matters. I was once on a date that could have turned into a very similar ending, as some have when I too was 19-20, but this happened when I was already 31: I went on a date with a guy I met on tinder. We had already found a few acquaitances in common do I felt a bit safer before I went. We went to this big Jack Daniels party and had drinks and my phone ran out of juice, so I couldnt call my own car and he actually said to me: "I'll only drive you if you guarantee we have sex tonight". I felt unnable to make a clean escape, so I said "yeah, sure, but let's get a hotel room because my mom is in town. I know a great place for that, I'll give you the directions". So we get in the car and I'm telling him to turn here and turn there along the way, but I'm actually just getting him to drive me close to my place without telling him that. It's the middle of the night and the streets are pretty empty so, when we get to this really big avenue and he breaks at the red light, I just open my door, jump out and bolt in the opposite direction to the traffic and just dissapear into the night, running home. Blocked him and all the people we share in common. BUT I KNOW that I was only able to think on my feet because I was no longer that young.

[@r.g.w9712]

That's a crazy story! What a sleazy guy. So glad you tricked him!

[@theuzumakis2624]

@@r.g.w9712sleazy? You mean rpist.

[@bodine219]

That’s absolutely insane. I would NOT have gotten in a car with that man. Literally asking a stranger for help would be better 😢😅

[@ladyelainefairchild3546]

Never ever get in the car. You go to the bartender and ask him to call you a taxi. Or you tell any woman what he said and ask her to call you a taxi. Yes an old school cab because you don’t need an app or a working phone and don’t tell the cab driver your phone doesn’t work. Or if you insisted on stupidly getting in the car you should have gone to a nice hotel with people in the lobby and deskman then refused to leave the lobby. If he had had child locks on or otherwise had the door opening disabled you would have been screwed.

[@ninaamaral4434]

@@bodine219 Bad decisions made in early ages. I was scared of saying no to a big, crawly man, especially while drinking, while being surrounded by strange MEN around us that were the danger I DIDNT know

[@NikkiJayne17]

My heart was broke! 🥺 … So thank you genuinely from the bottom of my heart for changing the tone for a moment to reflect the actual experience. And thank you again for bringing the mood back up after so that whomever posted knows it’s okay to feel negative about the bad situation that happened to you, but remember to turn it into a positive 👌👌

[@Azurko]

I had a really bad date once with a woman. She stayed on her phone pretty much the entire time watching TikTok and was showing me like I actually cared. Nothing I said / asked could get her to put it away and talk with me. I just shook her hand and said goodnight after dinner.

[@noodlechild666]

Worst date ive been on was with a guy who pursued me for months before i agreed to dinner; he then proceeded to talk about his true love Mandy for the entire evening, saying how she was the one, was absolute perfection and that no one else would ever come close to her. I was quite young and dumb at the time, and he was older, so i just stupidly sat there all evening and listened. Never went out with him again.

[@karicantrall8096]

Yes, when they talk about how much they Love there ex…. Red Flag

[@jmev.4732]

I had a first date not long ago. We had talked on the phone for a week before we went out. He talked a lot on the phone. In person he would ask me questions and the moment I tried to answer, he would answer. I got to the point I started saying "you just asked me a question, can I answer it?" He was like " wow, my bad" then continued to cut me off. He kept trying to talk about sex, I told him it wasn't the topic for a first date. He kept bringing up the fact I was over 40 and didn't I want to settle down before it's too late. I'm divorced with a grown daughter, I've raised my family. He said I'm gonna wind up being alone and old. I said I'm not alone, I enjoy my own company and I have friends. He said that doesn't count. He offered to move me in to his place when I told him I had a roommate. He brought up marriage at least 4 times. It was very odd for a first date. I did not go on a second with him.

[@tdelioncourt1268]

OMG yeah good for you, scaring you into a relationship... how romantic!

[@RandomSwiftie13]

Dude really tried to scare you into a relationship smh....

[@jmev.4732]

@T de Lioncourt He did ask me out again and I told him I just wasn't feeling it. He text me I wasn't a strong woman, and he could have given me everything I ever wanted. Oh boy.🤷‍♀️

[@heatherduke7703]

😱 Dude was fishing for someone with self esteem in the toilet. Not even trying to hide the abusive red flags…

[@jenrey5135]

​@@heatherduke7703 literally

[@joshneil12]

My worst first date: red flag number one on our date "he wanted to meet at his apartment"....red flag two he was stoned when I got there, red flag three I basically sat and watched him play video games and the moment I tried to play he made fun of the fact I didnt know how to play a game Ive never played before....we did have some decent convo but when I was leaving out of politness I just said casually "so did you have a good time?" and he laughs and says to me "I guess you need validation dont you"......I raaaaaaaan

[@furansus]

My horrible first (and last) date kept judging everything I drank or ate (which i paid for) because it had "too much sugar/calories". He wasn't a health freak, none of his food choices were exactly low calorie. He was eating tiramisu and when I ordered one too, he said I can't get dessert because I just had a soda. I was too petty and got my tiramisu and a milkshake to go. He said I keep making bad choices (regarding food) Like yeah buddy that's how I ended up on that date with you.

[@monroerobbins7551]

One thing I feel is important is clarifying some issues you have before the first date. For example: a pal of mine was about to go on the date, day before, and I was asking how he was gonna go out, what he was gonna wear, the tea. He told me, and I asked him, dead serious, “have you talked to her about how you get carried away in conversation a bit, and why?” We’re both on the spectrum, so sometimes we get on a roll and it’s hard to get off. He said no, I said he should. They’re still dating, a few months later, and he thanked me for reminding him. She didn’t mind, and they had long back and forths with the topics they were excited about.

[@ashleenicole71]

That's honestly the greatest thing. I'm glad you reminded him.

[@frankieamsden7918]

Great advice. I'm glad you told him

[@r.g.w9712]

My son is only 5, and he's on the spectrum too. All of this is new to me as a mom and I often wonder what the future looks like for him including relationships, although I know it's still a ways off. He's a little talker too and is my little encyclopedia, but sensory wise can get pretty overwhelmed. Is there anything your mom did, or you wish she would've done when you were a kid? Sorry this is so off subject.

[@LilThreat88]

​​@@r.g.w9712y mom never would remember or believe my sensory needs, making me tell her any time they came up, and always scoffing at them... Just try to never act like his needs are "a bother" - that will help for the rest of his life!! Edit: typo correction

[@monroerobbins7551]

@@r.g.w9712 I wasn’t diagnosed til I was 19, but a couple of things I picked up is number one: don’t go with the advice everyone tells you. Every person on the spectrum is a bit different, so some advice may not always apply. Number two: legitimize your kid’s sensory issues. Being told to suck it up or just to work through it is one of the worst things. Telling him that his feelings are valid, and that he’s not a freak or wrong for how he feels, that will do a world of difference. Teaching his coping mechanisms is also always good (like square breathing, grounding exercises), the like, but on top of telling him “if it’s too much for you, we can go.” If it is too much, and coping mechanisms aren’t helping, then sometimes you just gotta take a breather, then come back. I’d also recommend talking to a specialist about it, so you kiddo can get some specific guidance in accordance to his needs (avoid Autism Speaks, that place is a shitshow). That’s what I know works off the top of my head, it mostly depends on your kid’s sensitivity/needs.

[@sjnelson513]

I was watching this at breakfast with my boyfriend as per normal, and he said the whole "men who only talk and brag about themselves the whole date" thing is how a lot of men were raised. He told me all the older men in his family would tell him first dates are job interviews, and if you don't have anything big to offer (job, house, nice car, good education, etc) then the date wouldn't be interested in him.

[@tdelioncourt1268]

xD makes me thing of men who brag about their performances in their bedroom and the amount of pussy they get and I'm like "then why are you annoying me !!!?!?"

[@ajd8558]

Exactly this. And some of those online dating coaches seem to have the same idea, like peacocking in verbal form. It's sad that people feel they have to jump through all these hoops, which actually puts people off, instead of just being themselves. World has changed a lot.

[@MyVesta001]

Chelsea Handler is hilarious. Not sure why anyone would bring that convo to any date but especially to Chelsea cuz she will talk about it on her show 😅 I also love Elyse Myers stories! She knows how to paint a picture with her words plus she has receipt almost every single time 🤣

[@sarahfeefer]

Thank you for taking that young ladies date story seriously. That was SO sweet of you for being such a real girl's girl.❤

[@dessyvalcheva]

Oooh, I have a story. My sister is a teacher at a maritime school, she set me up with a very cute boy - one of her students (we are both about 20 years old at the time). 1st date, he arranges a date in a very strange place in the city (we are a seaside town with a huge sea garden and hundreds of restaurants, bars and cafes on the beach, most people under 50 in the summer are somewhere there). I thought - ok, he might know some super cool place that I haven't heard of. He takes me to an apartment - inside there is an old man, his grandfather, who is waiting for me in the corridor crying with happiness. The old man looked at the boy and asked "Is that her", he replied - "Yes, she is". The grandfather rushed to hug and kiss me - the man 100% thought he was meeting his future daughter-in-law. We ended up going to a coffee shop, but I left as quickly as possible. That was the first meeting. I was terribly angry with my sister for introducing me to someone so strange, but she began to beg me to give him another chance, that the boy was very good, etc. I agreed. Date number 2. We go to a cafe on the beach (I arranged the place), he made a comment to me why I was ordering two things (cappuccino and cola), I stated that if he doesn't want to pay the bill, no problem, I will, but the man who will tell me what to drink or eat has not yet been born. Other things happened and I ran away as fast as I could. He started calling, writing, waiting for me at home after work.I have no idea how he found my address, my sister won't tell him for anything in the world, he must have tracked me down. My parents were terribly worried. Colleagues and friends dropped me off every night and he didn't make any attempt to talk to me - I just occasionally saw him sitting in his car watching me . This went on for periods of several months (he is a sailor, 3 months on land, 7 at sea or something like that). At some point the calls and appearances at my house stopped. I figured he found someone else to turn his attention to. Turns out I was wrong, there was an accident on his ship and he died. Recently, a friend, a retired police officer, told me after hearing my story that he was glad I was alive, also that such cases end in murder, I was horrified. Just to emphasize - there was not a single hug, kiss or any gesture from my side. The boy sincerely believed that we were a couple. p.s. excuse my bad english, I use google translate.

[@edgloss1299]

I have a similar situation happened but thankfully my dad help me to dealt with him after he saw how uncomfortable I was and how the guy won't stop despite my constant rejections... I was thankful he stopped after the *talk* with my dad..

[@edgloss1299]

Then I started becoming more alert if I meet someone... I hope you won't get passed the creepy feeling and not get into any trauma..

[@BungaloHippo]

By the sounds of it your sister does not care about you.

[@dessyvalcheva]

@@BungaloHippo My sister loves me very much. It's just that her impressions of this boy had nothing to do with what I saw. In her class, he was always exemplary, good, he helped other students. She actually believed that this was a very good and well-mannered boy when she arranged for us to meet. After our second nightmarish encounter, she directly told him not to come near me again. The boy clearly had some mental problems.

[@dessyvalcheva]

@@edgloss1299 I'm fine, it's been a long time since then, but there was definitely a period where I didn't want to date. I am now happily married. To be honest, after his death I felt a little guilty - for months I prayed to God to leave me alone, I wondered if I should call friends to "talk" to him. The police told me that until he made some kind of physical contact with me there was nothing they could do. So I prayed to be left alone, despite everything I didn't want him to die. I know it's illogical, but there were a few months after his death where I really felt weird.

[@Out_GalliVANtin]

Taking this opportunity to reiterate that I LOVE being single. 9 years going & still happy.

[@RhondaKL]

Happily single for fourteen years here! I love my freedom!!

[@Out_GalliVANtin]

@@RhondaKL Yes!!!

[@crimsonfirelily]

Me too! 11 and so happy! ✌

[@lisastenzel5713]

Uh! I got 6 years now

[@nym4522]

Seven years in , best decision ever made, and glad to see other people feel the same because I mostly get ridiculed by my friends in relationships. I wish y'all a lovely weekend.

[@Midnightsadv1bez]

My heart was ripped out, drop-kicked, cut open, punched, sliced, shattered, and destroyed for that lady who shared her SA experience. I want everyone to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE and, as sad as it is, there are so many women (and men) who have experienced SA. You deserve better and you deserve to be heard. ❤

[@HomosapienNo94628]

My worst date was one that i didn't even know was happening, and was with a p*dophile. I was 14, went with my older sister (18) who wanted to meet her boyfriend (22) (we weren't allowed to go out alone at that point so i had to go with her) and found out that his friend had decided to come along. I didn't pay any mind to this until her boyfriend said "we will leave you guys to get to know each other better" and walked out giggling with one another (keep in mind that he knew exactly what was about to unfold and he purposefully decided to bring him along knowing everything!). I was mortified, because 1. I was a child and felt scared to be left alone with a stranger, 2. I didn't have a phone hence i had no way of contacting anyone if something was to go wrong, and 3. The guy was looking at me in a "weird" way 🤢 I ran to my sister and begged them to not leave me in that secluded and covered park area with this random person who i didn't even know the name of, but my sister's boyfriend just laughed it off and told me to, and i quote "take care of him" 🤮🤮 They drove off and then i was left all alone with this guy. He started the conversation off by telling me his name and how he was so happy that (sister's boyfriend's name) was finally able to arrange our date!!! I was obviously shocked, disgusted, overwhelmed, and embarrassed, and all i could reply to that was "...what?" He replied "yeahhh, i have been wanting to meet you for so long. When I saw you at (sister's boyfriend's name)'s brother's wedding, it was love at first sight, and I would've approached you if it wasn't for your family being there" (so he was well aware of how wrong!!!! that was). I was stupefied, i literally had nothing to say to that atrocious statement, so the only thing i could reply with was "I don't believe in love at first sight" (throughout the duration of this conversation, i was taking small steps away from him because i was super scared and there was no one around). He took these long steps towards me, getting all up in my personal space and grabbed my hand and then replied with "trust me, i love you so much that i would do anything for you" 🚩🚩🚩 i snatched my hand back, took two steps back and decided that the only way i was going to get out of this safely was by arguing with him (i don't know what my logic was behind this decision but i went with it). I said "do you even know my name??", he proceeded to tell me my first and last name and went on to spell it out for me aswell (i hadn't told him my name but i figured his friend might have, but no, i later found out that he stalked me), i asked him if he knew how old i was (keep in mind that i did infact look like a child, i even looked younger than my age), he replied "that was the only thing I couldn't find out, but I'm gonna guess 12" 🤮🤮 i replied "no. I'm 14." TO WHICH HE REPLIED "hmm not bad. Be my girlfriend (he said this as a statement, not a question). We will be the awesome couple with a 10 year age gap, isn't that exciting??" (EXCUSE ME WHAT?!) my mind was going haywire at this point and i replied with "YOU'RE 24?!", and started walking backwards saying how wrong all of this was. At this point i had tears in my eyes so he tried to 'console' me by saying "heyyy it's ok, you know age is just a number" so of course i started bawling my eyes out after hearing that. I had to beg him to call my sister from his phone, which he disgruntly agreed to after me pleading with him for 5 minutes straight. She picked up and i told her that she needs to come back because i want to go home, she ended the call right then and there. (Obviously unwilling to pick me up) This whole thing went on for more than 2 hours (felt like eternity), with him making pervy remarks, trying to hug me, trying to get me to sing, telling me about his previous relationship with his 16 year old girlfriend, and so much more stuff that I'd rather not get into, throughout this whole time i begged him for his phone 6 times, trying to call my sister (she obviously didn't pick up, but I couldn't call anyone else because he only had her phone number, and i didn't have anyone's numbers memorised), and yes i tried running away once during this entire thing but he caught me from the behind and picked me up and spun me around, as if we were playing some kind of game, so i didn't try that a second time because i didn't want to go through that again. Then my sister came and we went home and i cried my eyes out for weeks after this whole thing happened. All of this sounded even worse in my language, but this was the best way i could explain it. It's almost 10 years later and I'm still traumatised by all of that to this day.

[@pamelajohnson7813]

How horrible! How did you forgive your sister? Glad you got away from that without something seriously awful happening!

[@ladyportia3384]

Your sister was disgusting for doing that the guy was not okay but your sister should have picked you up or not let you alonr with him wtf

[@Sarah-oj7bh]

I have a sister who's four years younger than me. Sadly we don't go along well nowadays, but I would always protect her from creepy guys, including one of her friends who drunkenly thought it was funny to grab her ass. I didn't care how embarrassed everyone was, I got loud and told him to never do that to my sister again. (She didn't like being grabbed like that, but didn't want to make a scene.) Never would it have occured to me to leave her alone with a creep. Let alone refusing to pick her up if she begged to be rescued. That is more than just immaturity, your sister gives off really bad vibes.

[@HomosapienNo94628]

@@pamelajohnson7813 it took me a long time to forgive her and the only way i could find peace with the situation was when i realised that that guy had a really weird hold on my sister. It almost seemed as if he had, in a sense, groomed her to go with anything and everything he decided to do. He put her through the most uncomfortable situations just to see to what extent she would go, for him. Although she never apologized for it, I still decided to let it go, because i wanted to forget about that day, and by festering grudges, that wouldn't have been possible. Yesss, I'm so glad that i came out of that situation safely, who knows what could've happened.

[@HomosapienNo94628]

@@ladyportia3384 i completely agree with you, and after a while I gathered up the courage to talk to my older cousin about this, because my sister's boyfriend kept insisting to arrange a "double date" 🤮 and there was no way in hell that i was going to put myself through that situation, but i was scared that without telling me she was going to invite them over, which is why i chose to tell her. Unlike me, she didn't just let it go. She gave my sister hell for everything that happened that day, and decided to tag along with me and my sister whenever she made a plan to go out. She kept doing this for 2 years until my sister was old enough to go out of her own, I'm so thankful to her, to this day.

[@storylover_maggie]

I really need to take those red flags into consideration when I go on a date! Sometimes people, we really should listen to our intuition and instincts and stop down playing them. They really are right a lot of the time!!

[@maryallan453]

​@@missmayflowerI would have point blank asked him why he lied about his height. His answer would determine whether I stayed or not. Men are strangely defensive about height, and are under the impression that no woman will date them unless they are 6 foot minimum. I am 5'1", and prefer dancing cheek to cheek rather than cheek to moob.

[@tariqyousaf8635]

@@maryallan453 Because alot of women treat short men like shit and women don't say anything against it you women need to call out trash women who talk about short guys like that

[@3451namine3451]

So I had 5 pretty bad dates that lead to me bonding with the love of my life. First week, I had two first dates scheduled, one early in the week and the other one on Friday. The first guy stood me up, ghosted me. The second guy was so shy and introverted I felt like I was having a job interview, but make it dating, so a dating interview. I started my new job this Saturday as a bartender. I was trained by two men, one stoner type and the other one a tall nerd. I talked a lot with both of them, but mostly vented about my bad dates to the tall nerd. I was so done with dating. Next week, I had a week off, so I had 3 dates. The first one didn't let me say one single sentence, he would talk over me or interrupt me. He would ask me a question, I would be mid sentence and he would interrupt me to talk about himself. Super charming. Next guy was super hot, but talked so down at every "low paying" job and how "girls should be provided by a man,"... No thank you, I love my work, I believe every job has it's purpose and pay doesn't determine someone's worth. The third one was a second date, I was donating eggs at this time because I wanted to help families, he said to me "You must be so fertile, that's pretty hot" and then asked me to come to his place to "test his theory". Blocked him after the date. The weekend I worked at the bar again, me and the tall nerd was working as he is the main one to train new employees. I vented about my dates, I was so frustrated and I even started to cry.... He asked me on a "good date" after work and we talked for hours. Been together 1 year and we just bought an apartment.

[@golden_leader9227]

So happy to hear about you and your partner! Congrats!

[@ashleenicole71]

Well these happy ending stories make me happy.

[@ColletteSpagnolo]

Yessss!!! I knew it! Love this for you babe!

[@derda1304]

but well... you chose 5 really bad guys and didn't even consider the tall nerd nevertheless i hope it works out for you and the good person

[@judycroteau482]

@@derda1304 what are you talking about? It wasn’t that she “didn’t consider the tall nerd”, she had just met him at work and had only worked with him for a week. Not everyone is comfortable dating a new coworker or any coworker. Because if dating a coworker doesn’t work out, it can be very uncomfortable to have to continue working with them after that. OR Perhaps she was getting to know him first as a person before “considering” or even thinking to see if they might be compatible enough to mutually decide to date. Dating is not a one way street, both parties need to be interested in doing so. Furthermore, as stated in her comment, she did date him once he asked her out and they are still together.

[@ScreenSlayr]

I had a date with this woman who talked about herself the entire night, I could barely get a word in at all. Now, I’m not a quiet person, I am very conversational to the point that I often worry I’m speaking too much. This date has the audacity at the end of the date to tell me I wasn’t reciprocating conversation because I didn’t talk about myself enough 😂😂😂.

[@fuchsregen4794]

The moment you are totally mortified and offended by the situation that the girl who got sexually assaulted had to go through just to realize you had the exact same experience. And till today I was more ashamed and angry about my dumb self than about those disgusting individuals.

[@racheljoy6805]

Exactly, I feel you! We're not alone and I think a lot of women feel not only societal and peer pressure but also the fear of retaliation when saying no. It can be dangerous and you have to forgive yourself for being scared and doing something you didn't want to do. The last few times I went on dates and the chemistry wasn't there but the guy would try to kiss me, I just ducked and said sorry I'm not ready for that. lol This one guy I went to grab drinks with, stopped mid-walk on the sidewalk and tried to makeout with me, but it was so out of no where and random, and there was no chemistry between us so I ducked and he got an awkward hug. lol The next place we went to, we chatted and I told him straight up, I'm not ready for a kiss, that I wasn't there yet. After we left, and we walked me to my door, he once AGAIN tried to make out with me and I was like, no! lol I just said I wasn't ready for that. Guys are mental, lol especially when they don't respect your boundaries or your No. Took me till my mid-thirties to really speak up for myself so have compassion for the young, niave you and just promise the little girl inside of you that you will protect her better and never allow a man to guilt you into doing something that you don't want to do again! Men can be so disgusting. We can't trust them to set the expectations and boundaries for what we're comfortable with or we'll constantly be and feel violated. Lots of love!!!!

[@GingeRenee]

I suffered from extremely low self esteem which ended up with me using addictive substances and abusing myself. Self love and shadow work truly changed my self confidence. First point is to begin to see yourself as that beautiful little child you were and be the parent you wish you had. Do not refer to yourself like “dumb” as you stated in your comment just like you would never say that to a little kid. Give yourself forgivessness and props for everything you achieve even if it seems so trivial and small. We are always so much harder and crueler to ourselves then we would ever be to someone else. Once we start to see how our inner conversation and view is of ourselves we can work on that. I truly hope this advice makes sense and gives you some direction to loving yourself and treating yourself with respect, love and compassion. You deserve it hun. Wishing you the best and to success and happiness in all you do! ❤

[@loserplanet]

"You really creep me out and I gotta go." Yesssss. Just LEAVE you don't need any excuse.

[@kaycerawlins986]

Oh, I've got a worst first date story. For background, I moved away from my home city after high-school, and then moved back again a few years later. Very few of my high-school friends were still around, and I was faced with figuring out how to meet new people. So, like many young people in the 2010s, I took myself to the mall. I saw a fellow sitting at a table in the food court by himself, and he looked approachable, so I did. We exchanged phone numbers. After a couple of weeks of talking, we arranged to meet up for a date. He stood me up and ghosted me, and a few days later gave me the excuse that he had just been very upset because his ferret died unexpectedly. He apologized, and being the understanding person that I am, I agreed to meet up for our date the following weekend. He didn't drive, so I would need to pick him up from his grandmother's house (he said that he lived with her to help her, and that wasn't entirely a red flag for me.) I got there, no problem. He said that he needed to get some things together before we left, so I followed him to his room. (Flags were a bit orange at this point, tbh, but I was young and open minded.) The first thing that struck me was that his entire bedroom was a bare mattress in the middle of the floor surrounded by probably 500 empty Dr. Pepper cans, and then I was struck by the STENCH. the gut wrenching, horrible, and completely unwelcome stench. This dude turns to me completely straight faced and said "Don't mind that, it's just my ferret." Y'all. Dudes ferret died and he JUST LEFT IT IN THE CAGE IN THE CORNER OF THE ROOM. DEAD. FOR LIKE 10 DAYS. .... I just went home.

[@EmmaJewellEaton]

This story has chilled me to my core ... the deep breath I just took. 😅 I'm dead 💀 wow

[@jmev.4732]

Dahmer vibes, creepy.

[@julchensweet2538]

I‘m so glad you’re ok. ❤ Your story gave me an ominous vibe.

[@kaycerawlins986]

I never considered he may have been dangerous, I have always just marked it down as gross and pathetic. Hmm.

[@Jessicahasopinions]

The mom date is giving the one scene from mean girls "Can I get you guys anything? Some snacks? A condom?" lmaooo

[@jessicaf7476]

Once had a guy tell me the entire date that he thinks women should be a housewife only and never work. Back then I was super kind and let him go on and on the entire date. Now I wish I started laughing and walked away

[@thefrostyslime]

Right after graduating high school, this jock who always made fun of choir kids (which I was) spontaneously asked me out. He seemed sincere, and I liked his face, so I said yes. We met up at a cute coffee place downtown and played Scrabble to keep ourselves entertained. Scrabble was his undoing. This child got into a verbal fight with me in public because he was upset that I knew more words than him, lol.

[@annastebelskyj580]

My husband only played scrabble with me once. He vowed never again. It's been 15 years, and he's been true to his word :-p

[@anniacopeland8321]

💀😭🤣

[@treegreen941]

@@annastebelskyj580 Lol "true to his word" - great play on words :)

[@batiyland]

Legit question: If you go on a date and your date doesn't carry money, expecting you to pay, can you ask server to split the bill and only pay for what you ate?

[@maryallan453]

Yes. I always requested separate checks before ordering. His reaction will tell you quite a lot about him.

[@jillhensley4919]

I would!

[@andreavantzet1962]

I certainly would!

[@killerfreckles1162]

Yes! Do eeeet everytime! You owe that man nothing.

[@bmljenny]

@@maryallan453 And equally if not more important: it tells him a lot about you. Like no, do not expect a "payment" for this date.

[@user-xt7pz8dn7k]

I thank my lucky stars everyday that I never had to go through online dating. In 2009 a guy that I had known from high school, looked up my parents phone number in the phone book and called to ask me on a date. We had previously messaged each other through Facebook messenger, but the effort in looking up my number and calling me was so sweet. We were inseparable after that and we’ve been married for 14 years and counting.

[@mandygriffin5241]

Charlotte, what you said to that young lady was so kind. It’s easy to post the funny, quirky stuff. Thank you for highlighting the dark side of dating. To the lady concerned - you are immensely brave. Wish you well

[@1983simi]

I'll never forget my worst first (and last) date where the guy who I've only met once before when he asked for my number (in a club) handed me a little cheesy baby animal picture book with lovey dovey quotes on every single page (think little pink pigglets, baby rabbits and kittens going 'I love you to the moon and back), then while sitting in a café he kept going on and on about how hurt he was by his ex's betrayal who had cheated on him with his roomie and that all parents tend to instantly think of him as the perfect son in law. Then we went to see the movie "Secret Window" in which a writer kills his ex-wife and burries her in his garden to have corn cobs grow over her which he eats with relish, and that guy after the movie really thoughtfully went 'I really connected to that writer's character and his plight. A really deep movie.' Thank God finally at that point my mom sent me a really non-existent text message that I had to come home right away as there was some family emergency, an emergency in fact so drastic and including mysterious cosmic space rays, that on arrival at home my phone suffered a weird malfunction that wouldn't let me receive any of his calls or texts anymore ever again. Funny how these things happen

[@ember13dp]

So weird how your mom sent that non existent emergency text 😂😂😂😂

[@GrimDeath2012]

why would that guy give her a Gospel Bill if he's honestly going to go to hell

[@CharlotteDobre]

😈

[@Blue_Star_Child]

I would have said I'm going to the restroom and quietly left the restaurant

[@sngray11]

I would have gone up to the waitress, asked to pay my half of the bill and left. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@AmandaAlexandra47]

8:55 why does Charlotte suit that role so bad 🤣🤣😩😭

[@Merelisdebest]

In 2019 I studied in the UK for 6 months as part of an exchange, while I was there I met this british guy on tinder and decided to go on a date with him. He seemed nice and quite politically engaged so I was very excited. At first the date went sort of well, he talked about himself a LOT, but I was like ah whatever. Then eventually he went on to tell me that he was campaigning for the then upcoming elections for a left-green party or something and I was like oh how interesting. He continued to talk about the party like I was familiar with its ideas and stuff, which I was and still am not ( seeing as I am not actually from the UK, which he knew). He looked almost disgusted and then went on about other political stuff and started talking about the tories and stuff and I asked like oh which ones are they again. He goit super offended and reacted like “I thought you said you were a politically engaged person or whatever” and I had to defend myself about my lack of knowledge about the politics of a country that I was not a citizen of. Then when he was done sort of berating me I asked him, well if it should be so obvious, you tell me about the Dutch politics then. He reacted by saying that it was not fair to ask him that because he didn’t live there and then I just left 😂😂 to this day still can’t believe that he felt that entitled like of course everyone knows UK politics, why wouldn’t we 😂

[@lilangelfarm174]

My worse dating experience. I didn’t even know we were dating! So I had a really good friend (at least I thought we were only friends) that would hang out with a couple times a week. For over a year we would go to restaurants, movies, and other things that could be considered dates. We even went out for a couple months after I was dating my current husband. I even brought my husband (then boyfriend) along a couple times. When I say there was NOTHING that would make me assume it was a date. We never even held hands! When we first started hanging out I actually had a crush on him and would have been open to it. I remember one time we went to the movie in the middle of the day and we ended up being the only two people in there so if he wanted to kiss me or at least hold my hand he could have and he made no attempts so I felt we were just friends. Like I said I then met my now husband and after a bit I got a new job and didn’t have much time to hang out so we drifted apart. Fast forward about 3 years. I was married at that point and my sister called me to yell at me for never telling her I had dated him. I was confused and said we NEVER dated. My sister is my bestie and she was upset I had kept it from her. Turns out she ran into his mom and she was saying how upset he was when we broke up and I chose my hubby over him. She went on to say he was SO upset he lost 20lbs and then after finding out I was getting married he cried for days. I am SO glad he never made a move and I didn’t either because if he is that heart broken over a girl he never even tried to kiss I can’t imagine how he would be as a partner!!!!!! Also we were not teenagers! We were in our early 20’s!!!

[@dustinriley8059]

I find it odd that he did not object to you bringing a date to a "date" if he thought you were dating. That would be the first thing I'd bring up.

[@thebosshouse]

One of my worst dates was a guy who spent the whole date talking about himself. Then he told me he wanted me to train him for when he got a "real" girlfriend because he was a virgin in his 20s. I paid for my meal and left. ABSOLUTELY NOT!😒

[@patricksmith6776]

I've only had bad dates on plenty of fish, it really should be called plenty of daddy issues... Also never went on a bumble date but the unbelievable amount of weirdos that hit me up on there had me deleting it week 2 or 3. Just started using tinder, met my second match for our second date last weekend. Girl's amazing thus far.

[@starkitten0075]

I've had several bad dates, but one in particular was really awkward. It was about 15 years ago, met on eharmony. Picked him up at his house and went to get sushi. All he talked about was his female best friend. Like, every sentence he uttered was "my best friend this... me and my best friend that..." it was super weird. When our food comes out and I pick up a piece of sushi to eat, he's just staring super intensely at me. I'm ask him why, and he says "my best friend and I always laugh about the faces people make when they take big bites of food". Really dude? So I'm all paranoid about eating, and of course when I finally take a bite, he starts laughing and says I make a really funny face. Yeah, that date couldn't end fast enough. So as I'm dropping him off afterwards, I told him that I felt like I got to know his bestie better that I got to know him because that's ALL YOU TALKED ABOUT DUDE!! I also said he needs to sort out his feelings for her before going on anymore dates with other girls because it's pretty obvious that he was in love with her. 😅

[@bethanywashington4914]

The way I would’ve split the bill and made the first guy wash dishes 😭😭 I’d have told the waiter he was trying to dine and dash 😂

[@squeekers22]

I used to go to bumble and I met someone and he picked me up and we went to Walmart to get something for him 😂😂😂 I stopped using bumble, I met someone from another dating site, and now we are getting married in July 15th! ❤

[@CharlotteDobre]

Congratulations!!!

[@yamairad1]

What! Don't ever get in a car with someone you've never met. I'm glad you've met the right person.

[@squeekers22]

@@missmayflower it is a Christian website called upward!

[@squeekers22]

@@CharlotteDobre thank you!

[@squeekers22]

@@yamairad1 I was dumb back then!

[@acaciajacqueline]

Omg the taco story🤣 I would never

[@jamilahzahirahhadid]

All hail Potato Queen 🥔 👑

[@claudettelampley1287]

Father broke Potato Queen

[@PositiveVibesOnly37]

The Petty potato queen.👑

[@southerncatlady]

This potato has assembled! I understand how the girl who went out with Paul feels. She shouldn't have had to feel that way!

[@Bethsabee_Sheba_Newrose]

We hail 😂 We Hail Her Highness

[@Bethsabee_Sheba_Newrose]

@@southerncatlady 😢 I’m very sorry and you’re right… So it’s time to hunt down Paul 😈

[@DatFishGal]

I went on a bumble date one night last year and the two of us met up at a local coffee shop. It started off great, but I kept getting weird vibes. I don't know if it was the look he kept giving me. Like somewhere between super stoned out of his mind, or judging me internally. He kept bringing up all sorts of murder Mystery shows, and asked if "I Have any bodies in the trunk of my car" I brushed it off as him trying to be funny and continued on with the date. He also kept asking if I was a serial killer. Like dude had an obsession. The one thing that should've been a MAJOR red flag was when the date continued in his car after the coffee shop closed. Luckily, nothing bad happened, but at one point, he took his shoes off and placed his feet in my lap. I'm a short and petite woman, and from my lap his toes easily could reach my chest. Yes, I could smell them. I sat there awkwardly for the rest of the time until I "had to go" and left freaked out by the whole thing. Dude barely let me get a word in the whole time in his vehicle as he bragged about his "experience in Hollywood" and how life was better out there. The next day, I went on bumble to discover that he unmatched me. I guess I was too boring for him. I'm pretty sure I dodged a bullet because last I checked on his Instagram page, he's still single while I am happily in a relationship with a respectable man.

[@tylajo.moonflower]

That’s probably a future murderer you dodged 😬

[@ashleenicole71]

He's giving off killer vibes👀

[@MarysYouTubeView]

Her story is rape. Freeze is one of the responses to trauma. I’m so sad this happens. Charlotte, I love how you paused to address it. ❤

[@phoebe-chan1971]

I've only ever been on a Date with one man! My current bf and I haven't had a bad date but i absolutely LOVE to hear others bad dates stories!!