Bad Trans Anatomy (it got worse)

[@Jammidodger]

Hey Spuds, thanks for watching!! Exciting news - you can now pre-order my book The T in LGBT in paperback, here's the link if you're interested: uk.bookshop.org/p/books/the-t-in-lgbt-everything-you-need-to-know-about-being-trans-jamie-raines/7682886

[@rosieg6989]

@DebraJammis Letting trans kids be themselves is not child abuse.

[@rosieg6989]

@DebraJammis Kids aren't born walking around on a road, kids though can be born trans.

[@miatrenthood3033]

@@Jammidodger hey it’s really hard not to bash people who hate on things like this. the fact is they are most of the time people above 30 who didn’t grow up with much available knowledge. who could barely even make it passed first grade in today’s schools and yet still think they are always right. Claiming basic knowledge will tell you everything you need to know not realizing what is needed now is way different then what’s needed now what will be needed to know later will be way more different than now. We see animals literally change everything about themselves. We call it evolution we need to continue to evolve too. I mean seriously do they think computers just always existed? No we change things backed off our brains.

[@martind2520]

@@rosieg6989 There is no scientific evidence that kids are born trans, and the social construct theory of gender directly contradicts that possibility.

[@Alex-gh8iu]

​@@martind2520that's hilarious, coward. 😂😂😂

[@Veela666]

When people tell me sex and gender are the same, I tell them I didn't have gender with thier mum last night.

[@Blake-ij4kw]

🤣🤣🤣 /pos

[@Thelastunicornlover]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@armie4172]

Oh damn, now that is a burn!

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

YT doesn't like when I post that same joke. Unless it thinks you're referring to chrysanthemums.

[@electronics-girl]

@@FrozEnbyWolf150 I think that KZbin treats different people differently. A lot of time my comments disappear, even when I'm not using any words that weren't in the comment I'm replying to.

[@richardpurdy2764]

Hi sweetheart I am a 60 year old gay man and 40 years ago the treated us the same way they are treating you now. I truly hope it won't take another 40 years for them to accept you. I love your content. I have had trans friends for the past 40 years and I whole heartedly give my support. Love always stay strong and above all stay safe.

[@angelcollina]

Thanks for replying! I’m so glad to be able to read your comment! I long for a day when we’re past all the bs

[@K1ntakat]

Man this is the kind of support that we need to see, what an absolute legend dude

[@richardpurdy2764]

​@@K1ntakatthank you for your response to my comment. I will always fight for LGBT people especially young people who can't fight for themselves yet especially now.

[@Adrian-aaaaaa]

Bruh u slaying queen, u the ally we need unc

[@StrandedOnDuna]

@@Adrian-aaaaaa yessssss 💅

[@ihateunicorns867]

There was no record of Pluto before we discovered it in the 1930s, but I’m pretty fucking sure it was there.

[@duas9468]

What a great line

[@PerfectAlibi1]

Pluto just wasn't discovered yet, you see it's very far away. 😉 Yet we had discovered all about Humanity for as long Humans existed. But now all of a sudden we pluck new genders out of it?!

[@ihateunicorns867]

@@PerfectAlibi1 Given that the first records of trans people we have were from around 200 BC, I assume when you say 'all of a sudden', you're talking in relation to the age of the Earth. That's what you meant, right?

[@PerfectAlibi1]

@@ihateunicorns867 No we don't have such records.

[@F00L_Of_A_Took]

​@@PerfectAlibi1there are literally ancient Greek myths and explanations about Trans people. Just because you've done no research on the subject doesn't mean they aren't there. We also have records of people in the 1800's and throughout the 1900's who socially and sometimes medically transitioned (including their names, photographs, articles about them at the time). Denying history is just idiotic. The evidence is right in front of you and you're choosing to gouge your own eyes out not to see it.

[@eddieamazon]

When someone says that something is "basic high school biology" this is what I think of: "Multiplying doesn't exist - It didn't exist when I was in 1st grade, so it isn't real. Stop trying to change math!" Just because you haven't learned/heard of something, doesn't mean it isn't real - it just means you need a better education. I didn't know the word "agender" until I was 39-40, but I have been agender all my life: my gender didn't change, just the word I use to describe it because I finally learned the right word.

[@JayeEllis]

If the basics was all there was, there wouldn't be higher education in the topic. I have also used the "calculus doesn't exist - because arithmetic." Yes, I took basic high school biology. What they don't tell you in the basics is humans have complex biology. That's why you can study advanced biology.

[@zakuraRabbit]

I can't belive the Woke went back in time and changed Jurassic Park to make the dinosaurs change sex. They probably did it the same time they went and planted references to loving women in Sappho's poetry.

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

It was because they used a frog DNA from a species that could change sex if there werent enough females or males in their environment wasnt it and that's why the Dinosaurs ended up doing the same?

[@RainbyFIN]

You're joking, but there's more and more conservatives who are insane enough to believe that 😂

[@Whateverhasbeenmynameforyears]

I don't think the dinosaurs are changing gender just doing something some reptiles and amphibians can do (which was what they mentioned in the movie). Parthenogenesis where females produce young on their own. Unless I miss remember.

[@zakuraRabbit]

@Whateverhasbeenmynameforyears No they explained some of them did in fact become male. Because they were created using the DNA of a frog that had that ability.

[@RandomCommentMakerPerson]

@@zakuraRabbit if the dinosaurs can do it you know what that means

[@ZephyrusArts]

Agreeing with what David Tennant said recently towards the British government about trans people “shut the fuck up and let people be”

[@joshuacoleman8000]

David Tennant sounds based.

[@breeeeeaaathofthewild]

yes, we love David Tennant 🫶🩵🩷🤍

[@aceandgay]

David Tennant is the most wonderful person ever, he’s just a great dude

[@ZephyrusArts]

@@aceandgay being a nonbinary trans kid and having looked up to him for such a long time and hearing his support for me and my community and for his love for his trans kid is so important for me- he’s the best

[@Thelastunicornlover]

❤️🏳️‍⚧️

[@artheenbyrogue804]

Under the topic of trans anatomy (sort of) I met this person quite randomly and she noticed online I have a trans and pride flag on my account. Before even saying hello she immediately asked "oh, what gender are you, what's in your pants? Did you get surgery? Are you transitioning?" Never mind that I'm not even 18 yet . It was very uncomfortable to say the least.

[@semperfi818]

I'm sorry you were subjected to such egregious bad manners from that random, my friend -- the only possible response to their vulgar, intrusive line of questioning would be the classic "Now why would you ask such a thing?" At the very least, that riposte provides you with a classy cover while you disappear from chat and block the offender; it's worked well for me, both online and IRL.

[@artheenbyrogue804]

@@semperfi818 thank you and thanks for the tip! I play a competitive sport where the environment is extremely conservative so I've had people ask those questions many times IRL and online, I'll definitely use your line!

[@Thelastunicornlover]

It’s weird that she asked that.

[@semperfi818]

@@artheenbyrogue804 I'm glad I could add a useful arrow to your quiver, friend; you'd be astonished at how often that simple question, delivered with calm conviction, will cause a bully to back off -- because only a bully would ask such rude, intrusive questions...and all bullies are cowards who can't deal with those of us who know our own worth and how to defend it. Another one that has worked for me: "It never ceases to amaze me what some people think is their business."

[@semperfi818]

@@Thelastunicornlover "Weird," sure -- especially from a stranger, I'd call it intrusive, vulgar and just plain rude, worth no more of one's precious time than a "Now why would you ask that?," or maybe "You know, it never ceases to amaze me what some people think is their business," either line delivered straight, level and with deadly calm conviction.

[@rumblin_cynth_rampo374]

As a very confused kid in the 60s and 70s (Im 67 now and tranitioned in 1992) I wish I had 1% of the info available today about being trans. The first time I realised I wasnt the only one was a throw away line from an English teacher in 5th form when we were discussing 12th Nigh. He was talking about how female parts were played by males, so Viola disguising her self as a Cesaro and falling in love with a Olivia would have been funny to the Elizabethians. He mentioned that people existed who actually changed their "sex". it was like being hit in the face with a brick.

[@intercat4907]

I was 40 in El Paso, Texas. A healthcare workers at my clinic was the first nonbinary person I met. I told zhem I was trans, thinking the transitioning process was still primitive and headline news. I expected to live silently,. Zhey said, rather impatiently, "Why don't you just transition? Everyone else is." "Wait, what? WHO everyone else??" It took me a year, on this whole new planet.

[@Thelastunicornlover]

❤

[@thatrandomnerd6996]

I hope your face is ok after the brick XD Seriously, tho, modern information is so wonderful. I'm so glad I had access to that kind of stuff so I could figure out my sexuality

[@Cr3Ek_l0v3R]

It's cool to see an older person who is trans

[@EllieK_814]

​@@Cr3Ek_l0v3R Means we get to live that long 💖

[@Cecilpedia]

My cousin is an OB/GYN. She was actually the doctor who delivered me when I was born. She can confirm that assigning a newborn's sex at birth is literally just getting a cursory glance at what you can immediately see. They don't test hormonal levels, they don't look at internal genitalia, they don't check chromosomes unless there's problems during the pregnancy, and secondary sex characteristics like facial hair and the like don't even show up until puberty. She also staunchly opposes the nonconsensual surgeries that intersex babies are often subjected to. She is intimately familiar with the "basic biology" that transphobes love to go on about. And yet she still supports transgender and intersex people. It's almost as if biology isn't as simple as transphobes make it out to be.

[@mogznwaz]

Biology IS simple. Your chromosomes make copies. This works fine most of the time. Occasionally you’ll get a bad copy so you get mutations. Many mutations are benign and unnoticeable. Occasionally you’ll get one which has negative effects and are ‘birth defects’ - intersex falls into that category as undescended testicles, undeveloped sex organs etc can cause problems

[@Cecilpedia]

@@mogznwaz Do you know what a bimodal system is

[@rookideetrainer1635]

@@mogznwaz I think you cause bigger problems than undescended testicles, because we can't even remove you *if* you consented

[@dark7859]

@@mogznwaz "Biology is simple" well someone never fucking looked into biology

[@claramarie7923]

⁠​⁠@@mogznwazFun fact not every type of intersex is due to a genetic mutation like you described, and it isn’t always a “birth defect” that causes problems. Some people have chromosomal aneuploidy (like Turner syndrome or Klinefelter syndrome), some people have a genetic mosaicism of XX and XY cells, some people are intersex due to congenital or epigenetic factors and not genetics, etc. None of these really fit in with your “simple” biology.

[@meztlistormheart2636]

I love that you mention left handedness. My mother was beaten so badly by the residential school on the US "Indian Reservation" she grew up on. The woman has beautiful, fluid, amazing hand writing with her left hand, but never uses it except the few times I've encouraged her, because every single time she tries it brings back the trauma. SHe would rather use hastily written, sloppy handwriting she feels makes her look uneducated because she was so bleeping traumatized by her teachers.. It's very similar with gay and trans kids in so many part of the USA. They are traumatized into acting straight and cis, when the truth is they could lead much more beautiful, happy lives just being accepted for who they honestly are. I still have scars from growing up in the 90's as the "only lesbian in my school".. and the only one to date a non white or hispanic person. I don't want that for any other kid. I wasn't even a lesbian. I was told you can't be both. The reservation elders teach about Two Spirit people who are born with one body and have the soul of the other and are meant to live as the other lived. That they were women with the flesh of men, or men with the flesh of women. The ONLY shame was on the person who didn't accept that the Great Spirit created them this way to teach us about unconditional love and respect for one another.

[@Thelastunicornlover]

I hope your mother is much better now. ❤❤❤

[@Marshthekazorra]

“The only lesbian in school” That really hits me hard, because I’m nb and it feels like that, and I just really want a friend that’s also nb

[@Alone_and_awesome]

These stories just show how you can’t force it out of someone ❤😢 a person can hide something, but their quality of life is minimal. It’s heartbreaking to see someone who wasn’t allowed to live authentically

[@BiggerinRealLife]

The people who made that “what trans people actually look like” meme has obviously never seen Samantha Lux or Luxaría. Gorgeous.

[@tdelioncourt1268]

Hunter Schafer >>> gorgeous woman, I watched all of Euphoria and much later learned she is a trans woman playing a trans woman and I was like oh that's cool!

[@17scaryscorpionsunderyourbed]

@@tdelioncourt1268 Didn't she say something like "nonbinary people who don't transition aren't trans"? I could swear that she was transphobic towards enby folks. Not contesting her appearance but she might not be the best trans role model.

[@ErisIsAnAbomination]

I forget his username but there’s a trans man on TikTok who constantly gets hate messages about “really being a woman”… and the guy literally looks like a Norse god. “We can always tell”, my ass.

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

It also directly contradicts the one implying that trans women should be barred from beauty pageants, implying they have some kind of inherent advantage.

[@rosieg6989]

Personally Hailie Sahar Alexandra Grey are the most gorgeous to me, but that is simply because they are my type. Samantha is great too!

[@kg6276]

Why would they not teach kids about sex and gender before THIRTEEN?? Most girls have already hit puberty before that. They won't have a clue what the hell is going on, and there's the whole child/teen pregnancy thing. Yikes. Not knowing how something works leads to... bad things.

[@electronics-girl]

Yeah, there was a similar thing in Florida, where they wouldn't teach girls about periods, until after the age where most girls have already had their first period.

[@ArturGlass.C]

Got SA at 4yo. I said it before and will say it again. The more you wait to tell kids what sex and sex characteristics are the more you open the door for sexual predator to do whatever they want, teach you whatever they want and control whatever they want. There are no age limit to discuss it it's just a matter of adapting the vocabulary.

[@somehimbo]

literally. trans guy here and i started puberty at 9, started bleeding and i was TERRIFIED because i didn't know what was going on.

[@j.d.l._666]

Yeah.. In Germany you have SE in 3rd of 4th grade. So, most kids start school beeing 6 or 7. So in 3rd Grade they would be 9/10 years at max 11 years old! But still! Some kids get into puberty at 9 already! So I think it should be sooner! Sure! The kids will laugh at it because they will find it funny (we did!) but it's verry important!

[@isabelcarrasco4528]

​@@j.d.l._666question, what do you mean by "SA"? Because I usually see it used as sexual assault.

[@DedeAdams]

32:24 I agree whole heartedly. Had there been Trans awareness in the 80's when I was growing up, I would have been a man for the last 40ish years. Instead, I've been a closeted, hidden "Ultra Tom boy". I am now going on my transition journey, at 54. Top surgery is in less than 3 months. And I am looking to complete my journey very soon. It's NEVER TOO LATE! And I've never felt better about myself. I can actually LOOK at myself in a mirror and not cringe. But yes, I guess I am one of the "exploding " number of "Lefties".

[@Yk-qe8dz]

Hey, congratulations! I guess you must be impatient, it is always nice to read people going for it at any age 😊 There is indeed no such thing as "Being too late" when it comes to happiness, we can only live in the present after all 😁 I may be only a 10 month baby trans at 30 going in the opposite direction, but I can totally relate to never feeling better about myself once I started my journey 😊 May you have an excellent day, and the most fulfilling things to come throughout your journey!

[@Thelastunicornlover]

❤❤❤

[@Cecilpedia]

As a younger trans man, I just want to say thank you for being here. Trans people don't often get the privilege of knowing people in their communities that are much older than them.

[@electronics-girl]

Yeah, I'm pretty much in the same boat, except that I'm a trans woman, and I started my transition at age 47, a couple of years ago. In college, in the mid '90s, I was desperately trying to figure out why I felt "weird about gender". Unfortunately, no one around me pointed me in the right direction, so I just suffered in silence for decades.

[@cewla3348]

I hope your surgery went well!

[@VTB12]

I knew about trans men since middle school, but I only found out that trans women existed about 3 years ago because I was never exposed to it. Almost all of my friends in school were trans because I knew I identified in some way, but I felt I didn't belong and didn't think that it could go the other way. which, now feels really stupid to say, but I felt trapped and unable to express myself and still struggle with it to this day. I'm scared to express myself in my home country because I'm scared that I'm going to get shot. It makes me mad that they think we are the privileged ones when many of us are scared for our lives just walking out the door. Edit: omg. Thanks for the support. I honestly didn’t think that this was felt by so many people. I hope this helps you feel like your not alone.

[@LunarEcho-rt9jm]

❤️

[@berrysnowyboy5251]

as a trans man of his own genders, I'm sending hugs to you, friend 🫂🫂🫂🫂

[@VTB12]

@@berrysnowyboy5251 🫂🫂🫂🫂

[@VTB12]

@@LunarEcho-rt9jm ♥️

[@VTB12]

@@berrysnowyboy5251 🫂🫂🫂🫂

[@dietotaku]

not only are there trans men and cis women with a prominent laryngeal cartilage, there are trans women who DON'T have it because they were able to take puberty blockers and start estrogen before it developed. and hopefully that will become the norm as gender affirming care becomes accessible at younger ages so that no one has to go through the wrong puberty and be stuck with permanent bodily changes that don't reflect their true selves.

[@Josilyne]

I, as a trans woman, went through full male puberty and still don't have one (not visible I mean) My little sister, older sister, and mother all have more prominent Adams apples than I do I've been blessed by Baphamet

[@dietotaku]

the guy saying sex and gender are the same thing... ok buddy then your brain and your mind are the same thing, therefore changing your mind means causing physical changes in your brain matter and getting brain surgery alters how you think. hell, that means physical and psychological are the same thing too, right? cause if physical sex is the same as psychological gender identity...

[@Thelastunicornlover]

Yes❤

[@princesskatarina351]

I didn't begin hormones until I was 38. Unless I tilt my head back, my Adam's Apple is almost nonexistent. ❤

[@CorwinFound]

It also just depends on build. A trans fem friend of mine just has no visible Adam's apple and never did apparently. My cis male ex doesn't have one visible. And many cis women do. For some reason in my head, I feel like there is a correlation between prominent collar bones and visible Adam's apples. Wouldn't be impossible as my guess for both is a matter of fat distribution and and muscle attachments.

[@ErisIsAnAbomination]

People who think there’s a “wrong age” to know truths about yourself are absolutely unhinged. I remember knowing I was nonbinary as early as 1st grade; nobody had even told me what a nonbinary person WAS and I had no vocabulary to describe what I was feeling, but I knew I wasn’t a girl despite looking like one. I was genuinely shocked to learn about gendered colors, clothing, topics, etc, I was uncomfortable being assigned into female-only bathrooms and groups, and I hated even being *called* a girl. Nobody explained this to me when I asked about it, so I grew up and struggled through school thinking something was wrong with me. Kids have WAY more autonomy than conservatives make it out to be, and it’s a complete disservice to assume they can just be molded into accepting anything you tell them and are “in danger” in schools. They’re not stupid, they know what makes them feel uncomfortable, and they know who and what they are.

[@Marshthekazorra]

REAL I’ve known I was nb since third grade and my first thought of being trans was probably 1st or 2nd grade

[@waffles3629]

Yep. I didn't learn trans people existed until 16, non-binary till 18, but I damn well knew at 6 that I despised being called a girl. Literally referred to puberty as torture (got laughed at by every adult who heard that), but instead of just knowing I'm trans, I felt like a broken failure. Like oh yeah, that's so much better. 🙄

[@papershredder3240]

Exactly!! It's so frustrating seeing people think children are just... not sentient. Or have free will. There were several signs from my childhood that I was gender non-conforming while not knowing trans people existed. Finding out they existed, however, gave me the ability to understand myself better during my preteen-to-teenage years.

[@Daeneiracorn]

Kids are short not stupid

[@LunarEcho-rt9jm]

Me too. I always knew that I wasn’t a girl, but I didn’t come across the term non-binary until puberty (by which point I was already facing crippling dysphoria). If I had had the language to describe my experiences then it would have saved me a lot of hardship - but somehow my dad still thinks that teaching kids that trans people exist (outside of the “they’re all just predatory men” narrative) is somehow inappropriate.

[@nikkicoyotie8431]

13:17 Another reason there's suddenly a big number of trans people in the past "3-5 years" is somethign DID happen. Covid put a lot of people into isolation, leaving them alone with their thoughts and gave them a quiet place to actually think about who and what they are, and a safe space to explore that as well

[@LoremIpsum-dp1li]

I remember seeing a meme in one of Jamie's older r/egg_irl videos (from 2021, I think) which showed pictures of F1NN5TER, one with short hair in masc clothing, captioned "One week into quarantine", and one with him in a dress with long hair and makeup, captioned "One year into quarantine".

[@mikuenjoyerXD]

​@@LoremIpsum-dp1lilove finn

[@christopherb501]

If only it didn't have the same concentration effect in those primed to hate them.

[@waffles3629]

Yeah, like shocker, having a lot of time to think tends to cause people to think.

[@toby1004]

not to mention, people have been and still often are saying trans people "didn't exist until a few years ago" for literally as long as i can remember. as someone who used to be one of those people and was more active in those spaces than any 12 year old should be *anywhere*, i can absolutely attest that they are are absolutely being disingenuous and about 90% of the time they're completely aware of it too

[@mirandadewey9998]

Not all cis women areborn with a uterus. As organic beings, everything is a spectrum. Variety is part of life.

[@Thelastunicornlover]

❤❤❤

[@LoraLoibu]

Isn't there a tumblr post that's someone coming up with multiple "Behold, a man" jokes about that (pro-trans, it's on tumblr iirc) "Women are people that can become pregnant and give birth!" (shows a postmenopausal woman) "Behold, a man!" just a bunch of things liek that

[@spook6394]

These people would be intersex, I believe. I’m saying this because I’ve talked to intersex people who say it’s not cool when people use intersex experiences as “cis” experiences while omitting the fact that they are intersex, especially when fighting for trans rights which should be intersex rights as well (and intersex rights means explicitly including them in our advocacy).

[@CharlotteSWeb-oh7ou]

@@spook6394 Cis just means that your gender aligns with that which was assigned to you at birth. Ergo, some intersex people are cis, and others are not. It's true that intersex rights are a key part of the fight for bodily autonomy and must be included in advocacy.

[@basementdwellercosplay]

According to transphobes, my mom wasn't a woman, even though she gave birth to two kids, cause she had a hysterectomy and didn't have a uterus for a decent chuck of her life

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

Teaching that trans people exist will not turn cis kids trans, but it will teach them to be more accepting and understanding of any trans people they should happen to meet. This acceptance and understanding is exactly what anti-trans legislators are trying to prevent though.

[@cryochick9044]

It will do the same as showing kids that they can be a firefighter. Some will go down the path of being one. Some may be intrigued about being one and end up not becoming one. There is nothing wrong about having curiosity about being trans, also fun fact the majority of people who identify as something not cis. Still identity aligned with their agab but like 2 of my ex's don't feel comfortable with the labels and ideas associated with their agabs. My ex bf hates toxic masculinity and doesn't exactly view himself as a cis man, but still as a man. I forgot my ex gfs reasonings but they were similar. These people don't go on hormones, don't get any surgery, but still are under the trans umbrella. Including or not including this group of people as people who are trans can massively shift the % of trans people reported as well. They often don't even fully consider themselves as trans or nonbinary, all nonbinary people are trans unless they were a very rare case of assigned intersex at birth. So not only is the number of trans people likely higher for trans people who are scared of admitting it for the fear of abuse and harassment. The number is even higher if you include or don't include trans people who identify as close to their agab.

[@ArturGlass.C]

They're in denial about trans people existing. They actually think we're all cis and none of us actually exist so of course they think it'll turn cis kids trans since trans "doesn't exist". Even one person being trans is a "cis person turning trans". They're just detached from reality. Like some are intelligent and preach intolerance for perverse reasons when we're just a crutch, that's Def true. But a lot are truly that dumb that this legit makes sense in their head.

[@John_Weiss]

Exactly. Teaching Hate is the _entire point._

[@tombrewsaugh1399]

There is the problem. People who have a limited view of what male and female is. Or those who by their religious teachings only see the world in black and white don't want anyone to know that others not like them exist or have existed from the beginning of time. I had a cousin the family always talked about in hushed tones. I was around 14 when I realized "oh he's homosexual". That was in the early 1960's and that realization didn't change how I felt or thought about him. Funny thing is my father was more accepting of him then his own father.

[@berrysnowyboy5251]

this (saying as a transmasc dude), because transphobes' fake concern of 'protecting the children' isn't actually about protecting children in the first place, but trying to exert their will and control over children [and transphobes certainly hate trans kids and kids who do not fit into their fucked 'cishet' headcanons transphobes have of their biological children [in some instances, because not every bio child of a transphobe is able to cut contact with transphobic bio parents] who no longer speak to them]. To summarise: it was never about 'protecting' children... it's all about transphobes exerting their wills and control over a child and their self-autonomy.

[@breeeeeaaathofthewild]

a transphobic man in my work was giving me (a trans man) "tips on 'how to tell'" if someone is trans, and he said look for their adam's apple, because we have a trans woman coworker too (she's nice, I like working with her much more), and he calls her a transphobic term and misgenders her (despite me telling him to stop). so he was giving me this "advice" on noticing that "only men have adam's apples" and I was explaining that everyone has them, just despends on the individual's biological factors and hormonal levels how visible it is. he would not listen 🤦‍♂️ pre-T me had a prominent adam's apple, literally

[@Thelastunicornlover]

🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[@electronics-girl]

Luckily for me (a trans woman), my Adam's apple has never been prominent. I have a super-thick neck, so I think it's just buried in there somewhere.

[@Mi..Mi..]

​@@electronics-girl same

[@cewla3348]

wait, i'm a woman now? better than before, but iont like it

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

It’s not old news that -JK Rowling- She-who-shall-not-be-named is more famous for being transphobic than for being the creator of one of the most popular book series/movies.

[@christopherb501]

I call her JK Umbridge.

[@17scaryscorpionsunderyourbed]

call her Joanne because she hates that.

[@Thelastunicornlover]

@@christopherb501I’ll call her Umbremort (Umbridge+Voldemort)

[@sdbegotist]

@@17scaryscorpionsunderyourbedBeen the recent discovery for me. It definitely undermines any authority she has, and I bet it annoys her to no end. Reminds me of the stick in the mud teachers that get so bothered about a student using their legal first name

[@nielsjensen4185]

I call her Mother Terfresa. They have one thing in common, their love of hurting people while believing it was for a higher cause.

[@loloverlord1664]

Yeah... As a teacher, I'm appalled by this kind of bigotism. We teach kids equations, the history of bloody wars, the reign of ancient kings that commited genocides, the complex procedures of how a law can pass inside our democratic countries, and little bits of geology and evolution... But somehow: transgender identity is too much for kids? Come on! I was taught how the french king Clovis opened the head of his general with an axe, a quarrel about a precious vase, when I was eight years old. How is "a person born as a man wants to live as a woman" too much to understand?

[@Thelastunicornlover]

I’m not a teacher and I am appalled.

[@Marshthekazorra]

Slavery in gruesome detail: 😊 LGBTQ+ education: 😰

[@stealthyfuck3217]

Yea, because youre paid to teach basic facts and not fill my kids heads with your opinions, its my head to fill out with nazi propaganda 😂❤

[@IntrovertAncom]

I've been appalled for a very long time, but having grown up in a fundamentalist/evangelical family/church, I can't say I'm surprised. As a kid, during the 1970s-80s, I remember the hellfire and brimstone sermons covering the Bible, including the graphic, gory, and genocidal parts, but then, during fellowship hour afterward, I overheard adults complain about how graphic and gory modern media was becoming, and about how everything was going off the rails. Nothing's changed as far as the complaining goes, they always find at least one group of people to demonize and blame for all the world's problems. What's changed is now these people have larger platforms and a great deal of political clout.

[@myself0510]

I agree, though, for me, equations are much easier than people (any of them)

[@QUEERVEEART]

when i was a kid, i was terrified of my chest growing as a teen. if i knew there was something i could take to prevent that, i would have done it. i didn't even know about my gender until college, but i always knew i didn't want a feminine chest and when i had one i knew it wasn't mine, like it wasn't supposed to be on my body? i had these feelings and thoughts before i knew gender dysphoria and trans people existed. yes now i'm a nonbinary boy and i got top surgery in college in 2014 but gosh i just imagine how much better my life would have been without ever having grown a chest that wasn't mine.

[@genderqueerpeer]

I remember being kinda forced into puberty as a kid. It was like "this is what happens, deal with it". I never understood it then and met a gay person when I was 11 and met a trans person before transitioning when I was 16 and transitioned at that time. It was then when I learned about LGBTQ+ and started to realize a lot of stuff. I am basically enby, but still trying to learn about myself more.

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

Kids in my Catholic school started making fun of me at age 9 and saying I was going to die because I was growing tumors(boobs) on my chest. I wwas very frightened and came home from school crying a lot.

[@SaturnPandaCat]

Oh I feel you. 90% of my dysphoria is around my chest. Fate hasn’t been kind in giving me a G cup. I’m 55 and can’t have surgery as I have a a heart defect. Can’t wear a binder either for the same reason.

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

@@SaturnPandaCat I have a G cup. I've also survived Inflammatory Breast Cancer so they one that got removed + replaced is now an FF Cup. For some reason nipple equals half an inch in the bloody cup sizes when they do a reconstruct and so I only have one real nipple now. They couldnt save the other one. So I feel a bit like a mutant with no powers. I came to terms with being female after I learned about an archtype no one talks about anymore. The FERAL female. She's all instinct, all joy, rage, happiness, lust(thats the only one Cancer treatments took away), chaos etc and she perfectly matched my emotions growing up. She's definitely NOT a tame glitter girl. Shes wild, she's a free spirit and she's not to be messed with. Good archtype for someone who was later diagnosed with BPD from all the offhanded abuse.

[@rowens71]

as a fellow nonbinary trans boy, congrats on getting your top surgery even though it was like 10 years ago now :)

[@voidmxne_]

My mom told me I would get fat if I transitioned. Bestie I'm already fat tf you mean 😭🙏 She also claimed that I would be miserable being in the right body... yeah right 💀💀 Edit: thank you guys for the support ❤️ I haven't been able to start medication due to Floridian laws (and also financial reasons) but hopefully one day I'll be in the body I want to be in :)

[@KarmicID]

she's just saying stuff just to say stuff

[@badcaseofstripes]

Yeah I'm sure someone else knows what's best for you living in your own body 💀/s

[@RonanDahlman-ci1ql]

Yeah yeah, that’s sad, utterly terrible. Anyway, how’s the transition going for you?

[@NorsePearl]

Being forced to live as somebody that doesn't feel right to you must be even more horrible, I can't even imagine what gender dysphoria feels like... I hope you're doing well now and being true to yourself!

[@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos]

I put on 40 pounds after starting HRT and have literally never been happier with my body, lol. 40 pounds in the right places isn't an imposition in the slightest

[@IT_217]

Graham Linehan tried going on a lesbian dating app with a photoshopped profile pic and get banned for being an obvious troll, twice. A bunch of KiwiFarm types also tried trolling by signing up to lesbian dating apps with no effort pics trying to make some kind of point but just ended up finding each other, taking screenshots of each other and mocking each other on their forum, just for the others on the forum to reply "But that's me!"

[@Gorehoundula]

Every accusation is a confession.

[@waffles3629]

Yep. Reminds me of the "source" someone sent me as "proof" that cis men will pretend to be women to sneak into women's bathrooms which was...a cis man pretending to be a woman to prove it actually happened because he couldn't find any evidence of it happening. Like if you have to do the thing you are claiming happens, it doesn't happen.

[@aymcleonidas195]

That is actually hilarious

[@ArturGlass.C]

Once again I feel sorry for lesbians. They really can't exist or have spaces without rando men trying to fuck with them. Like damn just leave them alone.

[@Cicada-Screams]

Reminds me of the time my little brother made a fake dating profile and only got matched with other fakes. He used a babdly photoshoped picture of nick cage. Good times.

[@galactica_2]

“Jk rowling is incorrect” She’s literally a holocaust denier, so yeah

[@Thelastunicornlover]

👍💖

[@genderqueerpeer]

WHAT?!?! Why would people deny the Holocaust?

[@rosieg6989]

@@genderqueerpeerBecause they are Nazis who want to repeat history, and it’s always easier to repeat history if people don’t believe said history is true.

[@alexisdvorkin6611]

That, too?!? Glad I was never a hardcore fan.

[@JazniaDraw]

This reminds me of the saying "The bar was so low it was but a tripping hazard in hell, yet here you are, limbo dancing with the devil"

[@Dodrebur]

[16:47] "ruins tabletop RPGs" had me laughing so hard I was wheezing lmao Tabletop RPGs center around *collaborative* storytelling. The GM and the players decide what kind of story that is, so how in the world is people being trans having ANY impact on your RPG experience? I'm an aro/ace GM and don't feel comfortable roleplaying romantic or sexual encounters, so I've warned my players that relationships with and between NPCs will always be expressed in a platonic way with anything else being alluded to or up to player interpretation. If they didn't like that, they wouldn't be playing in my campaigns. Tell the stories you want with the people you want to tell stories with, and let everyone else do their own thing.

[@ArturGlass.C]

Also with how popular it is with trans people being involved in the Tabletop RPG scene I think it's safe to say if anything we're CREATING and SUSTAINING the scene. There's lot of indie tabletops that are made by trans people. Literally would not exist without them. That guy is just clearly salty he joined a campaign that has trans people and when he complained he got kicked for transphobia or smth.

[@nicoler1183]

I'm a cis lesbian who went on a date with a trans woman I met on a dating app, and it was one of the best first dates I've ever been on. We talked about books and music and travel and life for hours. She made me a delicious risotto. 😋 I was kinda bummed when the relationship didn't pan out, but still remember that date fondly. 10/10 would date a trans girl again.

[@katyamcadams]

​@@DoomMan26Cornell University, Columbia University, National Institutes of Health, Stanford Medicine, HealthNews, HealthyChildren, Zero to Three, Mayo Clinic, MedicineNet, and Caring For Kids (CPS) Man is the gender identity of the male gender, which is normally but not always based on the male sex. Woman is the gender identity of the female gender, which is normally but not always based on the female sex. However, we should look at what determines sex as well. Hormone washes determine sex, trans women go through the hormone washes of that of a female. Trans women, biologically, become female. Strength, power and aerobic capacity of transgender athletes: a cross-sectional study From Cambridge University: "The dispute between the transgender-rights movement and “gender-critical” activists represents a stark division in British public discourse. Although the issues of contention are numerous and require their own philosophical treatment, a core metaphysical concern underlies them. Gender-critical activists, such as Kathleen Stock, tend to argue that recognizing trans women as women requires erasing the category of biological sex. This implies that all trans women are male, and thus recognizing them as women rips female biology from the root of the category “woman.” In this article, I argue that this view is mistaken. As exogenously produced sex characteristics should count toward a person's sex classification, all trans women are (or are becoming) female."

[@paramambalia6024]

​@@DoomMan26What exactly are you tryna imply here

[@RedBigz]

damn now i really want risotto

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

I love the way baby Pud is staring at us

[@timothyisstupid]

He knows what we are

[@quiestinliteris]

That little expression of awe and respect was honestly kind of a confidence boost this afternoon.

[@artheenbyrogue804]

​@eventhorizon9567 I think baby pud was tired of the bad trans anatomy and lost their shit :(

[@Snek86]

​@eventhorizon9567same... :(

[@Thelastunicornlover]

Me too!😊❤

[@Gemwasalreadytaken]

Jammi, your videos gave me the confidence to come out as Bi to my family. Thank you! Edit: Thank you for 300 likes!! (This is the most I’ve gotten) Edit: 400 likes?!? (Rip my notifications. I just woke up to 17 notifications) Edit: OMG 500 likes?!

[@FernWilliamsFern_The_Boi]

🌈Hope it went well!✨

[@Gemwasalreadytaken]

@@FernWilliamsFern_The_Boi Thanks, it did!

[@FernWilliamsFern_The_Boi]

@@Gemwasalreadytaken Happy to hear that :)

[@stephenie44]

@@Gemwasalreadytakenso happy for you!

[@majiwarusentosen]

Congratulations!! I am so proud of you! :3

[@Cosmowos]

I find that atoms apple thing so hilarious, my dad is a cis man and has never had a visible atoms apple, like his neck is smooth man, but then there's me his trans FTM son who's neck has always looked like its broken whenever I look up LMAO

[@nobodynowhere3322]

Adam's apple. The name itself tells you how prevalent the stereotype is, it has been thought of as a male trait for a long time, even though it isn't exclusive to cis men.

[@CREATIVEART100]

An argument I’ve heard when I’ve brought up the fact that cis women can be infertile too so their definition doesn’t work is they say “no because you had to have been born with the ability regardless if you get a hysterectomy later or whatever” and my response is typically “you aren’t born fertile to begin with, and there’s still cis women that never become fertile anyways” and it gets to a point where the response ends up being just discounting anyone that is seen as an anomaly or not the “majority norm” so they clearly love excluding cis people too that don’t fit 🤷‍♂️

[@mothball5425]

Women are born fertile, they have all the ova they will ever have while they are in the womb. Look it up.

[@GavHern]

an adam's apple is just a protruding part of the larynx which is a moving part in the vocal tract. while androgenic puberty does increase the size of your vocal tract, a primarily goal of vocal feminization is to raise your larynx which usually ends up hiding your adam's apple. definitely not a great way to tell if someone's trans, its basically a harder way of just listening to their voice.

[@electronics-girl]

I have a deep voice (bass), but I've never had a prominent Adam's apple. I think it's just that I have a super-thick neck, and my Adam's apple is just buried down in there somewhere and not visible.

[@GavHern]

@@electronics-girl yeah it’s different for everyone

[@moviemaestro800]

My neck is too pudgy for one to even be visible, and I'm a cis man. 🤣

[@nakiska5941]

It infuriat me when they say "It's basic biology" YES IT IS, NOW TRY ADVANCED BIOLOGY GREG

[@RandomCommentMakerPerson]

they're too dumb to get that far

[@ninjawizard]

YEAH GREG

[@Xanderj89]

It’s the “use common sense” defense, aka “I’ve never had to actually consider this topic I’m running on vibes and don’t want to have to change my mind”

[@will-stetson_supremacy]

Greg is my dad’s name 😭😭😭

[@someonessidechannel1485]

here's something wild to chew on: my mother has had a complete hysterectomy, _and_ gets testosterone injections. Her uterus had to be removed after c-section complications, and she was recently prescribed an absolutely miniscule amount of T (5mg a *month*) because the lack of T naturally produced by ovaries was negatively impacting her health. Does this make her a man? Less of a woman? Would you "know," if that's the case, just by looking at her? The very simple answer to all of those questions is no. And to say "a woman can have babies" excludes millions, *millions,* of actual cis women, a fragment of whom would kill to carry a baby. Your reasoning only stands to attack people you don't deem as "performing gender" good enough.

[@saoirse2963]

Here is something wild to chew on: gender critical and "terfs" don't say there is a check list you have to fulfill in order to be a woman. They say all that it takes to be a woman is to be adult human female. That's all. So you all can keep your beloved straw man, but this isn't what they are saying. You just have to be female. That's all. Female is being of the sex that typically produce large gametes (eggs) and able to bear offsprings. If your body is designed to do that, that's it, you are a female. You don't have to actually bear offsprings in order to be a woman, you don't even have to produce big gametes, it's enough that your body is designed to do so. It does mean, though, that no man would ever be pregnant ever, because men are males, and human males cannot, no matter what, get pregnant and birth a child. Their body is not designed to do that, so they can't. So they'd never have to worry about accidently get pregnant or getting pregnant due of rape, while for the vast majority of women before menopause, this us definitely something to worry about.

[@Josilyne]

​​@@saoirse2963 "Female is being of the sex that typically produce large gametes (eggs) and able to beat offsprings" "Typically", so you mean, not everyone This definition an includes many, many intersex male conditions It also excludes MANY intersex women who are technically male Try again Things aren't as simple as "male and female" Thats secondary school logic Please, I beg you - just try to make a definition that incorporates everyone you'd consider female without excluding anyone you'd consider female - any exception allows for trans people Good luck

[@jacineyatrakos3149]

@@saoirse2963 "There's no checklist" - proceeds to list requirements that need to be met

[@Alex-gh8iu]

​@@saoirse2963Terfism is white supremacy, Karen. 😂😂😂

[@Smol_Schan]

That last meme is wild because it's like, "Ah yes, because the "essential function" of any woman is simply to give birth and nothing else."

[@jessarie98]

"its basic biology" YEAH SUSAN. "BASIC"

[@JoULove]

Ya basic, Susan

[@AnnaReed42]

"You're so basic that you stopped learning biology after preschool."

[@mxdnxght_moor]

dude if I was taught as a kid about being trans and gender identity and everything I wouldn't have gone through *years* of mental health issues with depression and dissociation as soon as puberty started. It was literally like my body could sense that everything was wrong and wanted nothing to do with it. puberty blockers and early transition would have saved me so much pain and struggle. Because of all of that, I'm transitioning rather late (I'm 20 now, and am only JUST NOW coming to terms finally with being trans after YEARS of going back and forth). I would've had a *much* better life if I could've lived as a boy as soon as possible.

[@waffles3629]

Same. I felt like a ghost, just watching myself go through the day because I just hated puberty and wanted it to stop.

[@christopherb501]

Reminder to always vote, and with increasingly rare exception, NEVER conservative. We do not need more of this garbage.

[@Thelastunicornlover]

Preach it!📢📢📢

[@jameshulse1642]

I have to add that Reform is a thing that exists and makes the Tories look competent and good for this country

[@AnnaReed42]

I had to register as a republican in my state so I could vote in their primaries (the only way my vote will actually matter in my extremely conservative and gerrymandered state). It made me gag to vote for some of them, but my options were "bad" and "absolutely vile" in most cases. In general elections I always do my due diligence in researching candidates, but it always ends up being straight D in the end 😂

[@John_Weiss]

@@AnnaReed42 I, Internet Uncle-Gay🏳‍🌈, don't judge you for being strategic in your enrollment.   The only reason I don't do that is because I don't want to get the Hate Propaganda from the Republikkkans. Sends my blood pressure dangerously high. We need ranked-choice voting, and no primaries in elections where no other parties are running a candidate. Enough of this Soviet one-person-on-the-ballet 💩.

[@elaineb7065]

Done!!! (there's an election in the UK today, & it's not too late yet)

[@mysticmoone7659]

I am intersex and i have been on both estrogen and testosterone and somehow still don't have a visible Adam's apple, so yeah, it would just be genetics! Eta: they don't want it discussed in schools because the less informed everyone is, the easier it is to keep us all boxed how they want! Edit 2: yeah my grandpa was left handed and the nuns would try to correct that, but he would just use his left hand again when they stopped looking! Edit 3: wow, the fact that they said that the eggs get put into anywhere lower than the uterus just shows how ignorant they are! Also some cis women cannot get pregnant either, so ability to conceive does not a woman make!

[@Thelastunicornlover]

❤❤❤

[@elaineb7065]

Re 3: BINGO!!! On another vid I wrote a poem about what defines a woman, & for everything these bigots try, there's actual living cis women who contradict it

[@LoremIpsum-dp1li]

19:28 I actually love the fact that this person was saying that trans women are better than cis women at looking pretty when every other time, these same people portray trans women as "men" with bad makeup and facial hair.

[@Thelastunicornlover]

r/Accidentalally

[@ArturGlass.C]

So true. Trans women have a biological advantage at being pretty lol.

[@AvaFayIliza]

I'm 40, and when I went through school, we were never taught about transgender individuals. If not teaching about transgender individuals in school means no one will be trans, why the hell do I, a trans woman, exist?! Their argument just doesn't make any sense. Thank you for the video, Jamie! 💖 -Ava

[@HumbleWooper]

Agreed, and the same goes for us asexual/aromantic folks (though I'm just in my 30s). It's just assumed we'll be attracted to *someone* eventually as we get older, and we'll 100% want to do the horizontal tango with them. I haven't heard even a peep about kids being taught that having little-to-no interest in sex and/or romance with ANYONE of ANY gender might be an option. If school sex classes are as big a factor as 'phobes and right-wingers claim, I wouldn't exist as I am now.

[@ianbarnes961]

Doesn't the guidance for schools in the UK call for the use of changing rooms, etc, which align with the assigned gender?

[@draalttom844]

In canada too, hence why its always so complicated, thats a bad system

[@spook6394]

@@draalttom844oh shit i’ve not been following that rule at all 😂 oh well!

[@rosieg6989]

It isn't great.

[@lauraelaineallen21]

I just had someone come in the comments of one of my shorts to say that they "could tell that I'm a woman." that God made me that way, and that I would never change that. I'm a cis woman. Never said or implied anything else. Transphobes literally have no idea what they are mad about.

[@nielsjensen4185]

My mom had both dyslexia and was left-handed. When she was young both things were considered rebellious actions that needed to be beaten out of people. It broke her. For the rest of her life, she had a significantly lower level of intellectual curiosity since her instinct was anything of the sort would be instantly "rewarded" with pain. It really showed when she began developing what I suspect was dementia because she reverted to her instinctual behaviour in tune with her cognitive abilities failing. I never want ANYONE to experience anything like that again. It was horrifying and I'm educated to cope with things like that. I'm unable to imagine how bad it must feel for other people.

[@supermangarritano6636]

Transphobia should not be a trend or a legacy to follow or start .

[@tycathedrawer]

But it isn’t? Edit: READ IT WRONG IM SO SORRY

[@Thelastunicornlover]

❤❤❤

[@voidsatas1524]

​@@santosdr2Mehhh not really, y'all don't really have good enough arguments to consider. Y'all keep making statements that don't include people that are cis and I think you should fizzle out unless you actually get a good argument. Basically recognize sex is a spectrum and that trans people aren't new, frogs literally can change sex so it's neat that us humans are attempting to mimic it to be happier. We're attempting to mimic a bit of nature we never inherited, and it's working. But some are against amazing advances in science and culture, which is kinda funny because in terms of our sex and gender stuff, WE ARE SO FAR BEHIND COMPARED TO CERTAIN APES!!!

[@sonnentausnest]

It's going to be a very sad and ugly legacy from some.

[@zyerkos]

​@@santosdr2 nobody will notice when you pass.

[@oldeskul]

I'm not trans, but the way I've always explained to people who purposefully choose ignorance in very simplistic terms is, "Sex is biological, gender is psychological and psychological." Then many times they try to hit me with the purposefully obtuse arguments, "If you have a penis, then you're a man." So I ask them, "If a man gets into a horrific accident that causes him to lose his penis and testicles, is he still a man or is she now a woman." 9 times out of 10 they reply, "He's still a man." So then I ask them, "How is he still a man?" The vast majority of the time they reply somewhere in the neighborhood of..."It's because he was a man in his mind before he lost his penis and testicles." Then I respond, "Exactly! Gender is part of this weird, wacky and beautiful psychological construct called The Self. All someone who is trans does is make their outside part match closer to their mental part, to match closer to their Self. We don't think any different of someone who gets tattoos or piercings or dyes their hair or works out to get bigger muscles, they're simply doing the same, making their outside look closer to their inside, their Self and during that, there's a transitory period." At which point it usually boils down to them going into argle-bargle-vargle, intermixed with some scary-sounding buzzwords, to which point I say, "You can fix everything, but you can't fix stupid.", then walk away.

[@tealkerberus748]

Brain function is biological too. Gender is an expression of brain function, so it's biological - just rather harder to draw a picture of for a biology primer than two different stylised sets of genitals or whatever.

[@KarmicID]

Transphobic People : *do the same error during 2.8 million years of evolution* Trans people : it's been 2.8 million years, are y'all evolved enough now to acknowledge that i exist? Transphobic People : *throws a tantrum* Trans people : guess i'll come back in another 3 million years

[@gone_mad-tryagainlater]

Not long enough

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

Tantrum(Decepticon) STOP THROWING ME AT PEOPLE. *storms off*

[@M_M_ODonnell]

Trans folks aren't even all that unheard of historically and cross-culturally. Transphobia requires essentialism, which isn't necessarily baked into human experience.

[@randomperson9732]

@@M_M_ODonnell True, there even was a trans roman empress (Elagabalus)!

[@M_M_ODonnell]

@@randomperson9732 The transphobes love to insist that trans people's existence is "ideology," when more realistically trans experiences are reality leaking through the cracks in the social practice of dividing people into sex/gender categories -- it's people's physical reality, including their biology and neurology, saying "hey, you've put me in the wrong category here." Trans experiences are more real and less a fundamentally ideological practice than transphobia. (True of individual cis people's experience, too, but that's not usually contested.)

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Literally the first being about DNA. Who’s have seen that coming?

[@Thelastunicornlover]

I did.

[@Rubymagicalgirl88]

Oof, if you're in the UK, remember to vote tomorrow!

[@yabadeedabadiii]

Yes and lib dem or green as Labour are just tory in red now!

[@yabadeedabadiii]

KZbin is deleting replies i think. Dont vote red!

[@MichelleHarris-zf6wn]

Yessss!! Get them out!!! Every vote counts.

[@hello_i_am_jacob]

Vote 👏 labour 👏 guys

[@BLEBBLEB]

!

[@jessicaholscher4097]

23:38 That kind of shit is what upsets me. As a cis woman, growing up female is a big reason why I care for the trans community so much. They are heavily impacted by sexism and toxic masculinity too. I've felt super uncomfortable in my own body, and I've felt judged for the way I present myself, and all those moments made me feel for the trans community. Plus as a tomboy who former used to only dress for the male gaze because i was so wrapped up in being feminine, I also love the trans community for helping me feel more comfortable embracing my tomboyishness.

[@elaineb7065]

THIS!!! Imagine being a girl who was assigned male at birth, socialised as a boy, & every day, often multiple times, whenever any weakness, softness, emotion, or failure was shown, it was called "girly". Imagine being taught from the year dot that being like a girl in any way was abhorrent & shameful, while deep inside your soul the strong feeling that you ARE a girl refuses to be suppressed. Misogyny hits trans women ten times as hard as cis, because how they feel when they express as female goes so against how boys are raised to think of anything feminine. That MUST hurt!!! Just as much as it hurts cis women to even encounter this culture, let alone be immersed in it.

[@NorsePearl]

You don't need to be trans to have compassion and empathy for trans people... I mean, you see photos of people pre- and post transition, and it's wonderful to see how much more alive and happy they are after gender affirming care. It's utterly baffling to me to see all these hateful examples, how can people think such horrible things about other people simply because they're trans?

[@j.d.l._666]

Thank you!! 🙏🏾🙇🏾‍♂️

[@JoylessBurrito]

Honestly, when a close friend of mine transitioned I was surprised by how beautiful it was to see. It's not something I have any idea how to describe, but all of a sudden she just had this sort of aura around her that radiated "I'm finally how I was meant to be"

[@NorsePearl]

@@JoylessBurrito right?! Seeing people happy and true to themselves is a wonderful feeling to witness, and it most likely pales to the happiness they experience

[@sammi6453]

Thank you, my feed has been filled with so much transphobia recently 😓 it really hurts and I'm dealing with so much internalised transphobia. Keep being a positive voice Jamie 💜

[@aloeveracool]

jammie, im a trans man, i started watching you before i realized, i always felt like i didnt relate to being a girl, and you helped me know why, you helped me through out all of my trans journey, from coming out to my family to expressing myself and veing comfortable with who i am, thank you!!

[@mert828]

Um... I'm old and I'm pretty sure tabletop rpgs have always been pretty trans inclusive.

[@rosieg6989]

Don't know for sure if they game creators had trans people in mind, but groups that play rpg have often been trans safe havens, yes.

[@stillcantthinkofaname4800]

Half of that post is just being jealous a trans person (stereotypically women in the specific fields they're talking about) is better than them at something

[@miatrenthood3033]

Idk who you are but I love you I found it funny because it’s kinda true but like in everything there are a holes.

[@HumbleWooper]

When your character can be a whole different non-human species, being your own species but another gender isn't even worth blinking at. Heck, I'm sure there have been trans folks (both out and not) who've used their tabletop game characters as a safe place to try different ways to act or present, before they do it IRL.

[@massive.nerd.potential]

My DnD group is entirely neurodivergent and almost entirely trans; we are 6 people, 4 of us are nonbinary, I’m a transmasc demiboy and we have one singular token cis boy.

[@JessRenee91481]

I'm not trying to "redefine woman" to fit me. I am trying to redefine myself to fit as a woman. I am alleviating my dysphoria. Making women be more male defeats the whole point of transitioning.

[@tealkerberus748]

Nah it's us cis women who are redefining womanhood every day we live it. When I was a child it wasn't womanly to operate a chainsaw or a welder. I wanted to do those things, and I am a woman, so therefore it is now womanly to operate these and many other power tools. Welcome to womanhood. It's a bit of a shitshow at times, but if this is where your brain tells you you belong, then you belong here. Enjoy.

[@emmanarotzky6565]

You should never change yourself just to fit into society’s idea of what a woman should be. I get that strict stereotypes can sometimes seem helpful to binary trans people because it’s easier to pass when everyone believes simplistic things like “someone with long hair wearing a skirt is a girl” but the few benefits to the people who happen to fit the stereotypes aren’t worth the costs to everyone else. People should just respect your identity without you having to conform to anything.

[@cewla3348]

@@emmanarotzky6565 her joy comes from people recognising her as a woman. she is redefining her so that others will see her outside as closer to her inside. She isn't fitting into stereotypes; she is being feminine.

[@GraupeLie]

If womb transplants really do become a thing, I'd be happy to give mine away to someone who actually wants and needs it...

[@rosieg6989]

Uterus transplants are a thing, but currently they are only going to cis women and all are from recently deceased donors.

[@GraupeLie]

@@rosieg6989 interesting, at least something is happening there. I'm still alive, though, so I'm afraid I can't donate mine just like that...

[@katyamcadams]

​@@GraupeLieyeah. But the fact that there's something happening to do with that research means that eventually we'll get to the point we hope to get to.

[@GraupeLie]

@@katyamcadams Oh, absolutely!

[@rosieg6989]

@@GraupeLie Oh yes, in March of 2020 McGill University concluded that if a trans fem individual is fully medically transitioned, that they should be able to go through the exact same process of a uterus transplant as cis women (receive the transplant, start having periods, go through IVF to become pregnant, carry the baby 8 and a half months, give birth via c-section, possibly have a second child, than after two years the uterus is removed). Now their initial estimates to allow trans fem volunteers was 5 years later (2025), but a combination of the pandemic and the current skyrocketing transphobia seems to have pushed the time tables back. Either way, within the next few years it is highly likely trans women WILL be able to become pregnant.

[@Mal-bl1ui]

Got your book. Thanks man. You talking about the lost years was really impactful. We've talked with our son about this. I want him to feel accepted no matter what and to help others feel the same.

[@Amoebatirith]

I think the size "conversion chart" belongs in the "are the cis people okay?"

[@Thelastunicornlover]

👍

[@Thelastunicornlover]

It does

[@xRollermaniacx]

As an avid DnD player, writer, and homosexual, I have not observed trans people ruining any of that for me.

[@wacawaka1802]

I had a trans person show up and demand I use gender in my campaign. And by a I mean 4. But to be fair 2 cis people did too. What’s with you guys and gender?

[@Alex-gh8iu]

​@@wacawaka1802cry about it.

[@NYEHHHHHHHHHH-t8b]

as an avid DnD player, game developer (close enough), and homosexual i second this statement.

[@asteriouslyguitar]

the guidance for schools you talked about in this video also puts an age limit on when children can be taught about consent. children should be taught that no means no at any age, and that they do not have to consent if they do not want to. its horrid and will harm young kids.

[@tealkerberus748]

And it's completely possible to teach kids about consent without making it about sex. "If you don't want a hug, that's fine, you just say no and you don't have to hug anyone. Not even grandma when she visits - you're allowed to say no to a hug and she's not allowed to be grumpy about it." Obviously you have to teach them about times that adults are allowed to do things, like moving a child to safety if they're in a dangerous place, or stopping them if they're doing something that could be harmful - but if you treat your kids like they can understand these things, they will understand them. It's not rocket science.

[@mangantasy289]

About the "sudden" raise of left-handed people and trans people alike, the fact that individuals of all age groups can get visible at once when stigmatization decreases. Other than the number of "new" members of that group being aligned with how many of them are born/old enough to tell when it has become socially acceptable.

[@YourResidentQueer]

Ty for posting again. I also JUST BOUGHT YOUR BOOK ASDAKLDASFKDLFJA DON'T DROP PAPERBACK NOWWW

[@haumenic]

1 MINUTE AGO?! DID I CHECK THE CHANNEL AT THE RIGHT TIME?!

[@Thelastunicornlover]

You did.

[@scrunkliestscrimbo9981]

this channel actually really helped me understand more about trans people. i'm not in a very supportive area and were it not for channels like this i don't think i'd have realized i was transfem until much longer. thank you.

[@kenoohki]

The dinosaurs in jurassic park could change sex because of the frog dna

[@Jackie_Sins]

🦖 are awesome. 🏳️‍⚧️🚫 is not.

[@Thelastunicornlover]

SO TRUE! 🦕🦕🦕

[@Lostforstories]

This has to be a very late April fools joke, 1. Your trans it said in your videos. 2, hate to break it to you but dinosaurs are extinct

[@Just_Reading_Comments]

@@Lostforstorieshow does that have anything to do with OPs comment? 1; Of course a trans person would say transphobia is not awesome. 2; Dinosaurs being extinct has no bearing on whether people think they are awesome.

[@lichencoatedboulder]

@@Lostforstoriesno, they are saying “dinosaurs are awesome, transphobes are not” that’s it! Hope this helps

[@Cr3Ek_l0v3R]

​@@Lostforstories Are you slow or something? "Dinosaurs are awesome" but if they're extinct it's not relevant?

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

Well, I started puberty at 9 but I didnt get sex ed classes til 12 at secondary school and to be honest, it scared the crap outta me. I thought I was watching a horror movie. I allegedly(told by witnesses) screamed, threw up then passes out. I dont remember much. I was sent home later. It was too much of shock and the most graphic film I had ever seen up to that point. I came from a Catholic home and they didnt tell me about sex. When I asked where I came from, I got told I came out of Mum's tummy which was technically correct as I am a C section baby so she didn't lie and I didn't ask further. I didnt know what Trans was until about five years ago. Yes I was that isolated from the world but back in the 80s and 90s, we were just told about Straight people(normal), Bi(confused) and Gay(evil) because CHURCH influence was still strong in families.

[@Thelastunicornlover]

Sending you love. 💖💖💖

[@sebastianlavallee706]

And that's just one reason why not teaching sex ed before 13 years old is insane (even with the stipulation that's it's only "specifics about sex") - the other of course being that predators exist... The best way to stop predators is for children to know when lines are being crossed. But I guess, for some of these "anti-groomers" that's a feature, not a bug.

[@TwelveNotes87]

Funny you talk about adam's apples.(well not haha but ya know) One of my co-works clamed to know I was trans because I don't have one and I was all ???. also side note I'm finally getting one. (its the little things)

[@rainIight]

yay!! hope your transition goes well ^^

[@TwelveNotes87]

@@rainIight D'aww Thanks, I've been on T for 2yrs now. I've never been more confident with and in myself.

[@Thelastunicornlover]

🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[@cryochick9044]

Im a trans women I have no prominent one

[@comradefriendship]

It's crazy how some people can't believe that sex and gender are different things. Like guess what, we have categorized (or tried to) people based on some physical characteristics (genitals, breasts, etc.) and we've also come up with a bunch of random societal standards for people who we've put into two different categories. Yes, we have correlated women with the female sex and men with the male sex, but since when was it biologically mandated that when we see someone with a penis we have to refer to them using he/him. Gender is merely the social construct that, while having heavy roots in the sexes, it has evolved so much more beyond that. Now we have fashion, complex languages, social standards, etc. that have contributed to the idea of gender, but they in no way impact or are determined by sex.

[@M_M_ODonnell]

Even dividing sex up into categories (let alone the exact borders of those boundaries) is a social practice. And deciding whether and to what extent a trait with a difference associated with a particular division of "sex" into "sexes" counts as part of the phenomenon of "sex" that's going to be divided in the first place...

[@Ali-cya]

These terms aren't even precise, it was just a way to categorize the most common things, so uncommon things like people who have mixed or non-identifiable characteristics like intersex people or creatures with multiple or none at all simply didn't get a term, they were just lumped into a general 'multi' and 'sexless' categories which don't even apply to people due to how dehumanizing it is to do so. Human language and categorization is a mess in general.

[@comradefriendship]

@@Ali-cya yeah it's kinda funny that ppl think they can categorize everyone into a strict binary system when there are 8 billion people

[@voidsatas1524]

Gender and sex are a spectrum after all, no part is built the same. I remember telling my siblings that for every new person there is a new sex technically but they used species as a counter argument (they are not transphobic but they sure lack a brain). How do I tell them that species and sex are quite different without hurting their feelings?

[@Ali-cya]

@@comradefriendship Bet, everything is either human or not human. There, a binary that categorizes everything ;p

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

Pud: FREEEEEEEEEEEEDOM *jumps off camera*

[@happyhippoeaters4261]

I am still confused by why people can think hating someone can be something god would want, isn't god's biggest thing being Love?

[@crypticlol]

Because their God is a false omnipotent being that tries to eliminate all things that they can't control properly :)

[@cicalinarrot]

There's only biological male and female because that's what I've been taught in school. There's no such thing as a Chinese alphabet because I was only taught 26 letters in school.

[@nielsjensen4185]

There's no need to even go that far. The Nordic alphabets have 28 letters, which by the logic you were taught means that there's no such thing either.

[@mattm8870]

Actually Chinese technically dont have an alphabet or letters because its logographic not phonetic. The largest actual alphabet is either the Khmer alphabet of Cambodia with 33 consonants and 41 vowels for 74 letters or Tamil with 12 vowels 18 consonant 1 special and 216 vowel consonant combos for 247 letters (if you count the combos).

[@Your-mum-when-she-sees-this]

There are only three states of matter. It's basic chemistry

[@cewla3348]

no such thing as french people, i didnt come out the womb waving a french flag (i also didnt come out of the womb at all, macbeth fears me)

[@adanoh4ck]

ijust saw someone’s comment that your videos have helped them come out to their family and it made me think how the way you and shaaba explain everything sexuality and gender related with such respect helped me open up to my mom about being nonbinary and gay and it has had a great impact on our relationship so thank you so much please keep being an amazing trans icon loveyou

[@Sancheroid]

I like that mention, that in 20 years we'll look back and be like: "What the *quack* were we thinking?!"

[@_-Pixie-Pixel-_]

I love these "bad trans anatomy" videos cause it reminds me so much of my little brother. One time he asked me if trans men and trans women swap voice boxes😂 I tried to explain how trans men get deeper voices but he just looked so dumbfounded. Love him tho❤ he's trying his best

[@michellecoleman5577]

Omg I would donate my uterus so fast. Surgery does not scare me and I damn sure don't want it. (context: cis woman.)

[@cryochick9044]

Before I knew what trans was I had dreams when I was like in 3rd grade about a machine that transferred consciousnesses between bodies Imagine if this existed irl. Trans people could literally swap bodies I had one too many dreams about something that made me have a womans body. If I knew what being trans was I would have probably came out in elementary school. Now my mom says Im not cause normally there are signs when they're a child. Like bitch you remember me playing with literally every girlie toy my cousins had? I also didn't know till highschool.

[@glorpri]

​@@cryochick9044when I was younger I just thought that with modern medicine I surely can change genders

[@rosieg6989]

Sadly for now all uterus being used for transplants are from recently deceased individuals. When the process becomes more available I'm sure they'll open up to live donations.

[@electronics-girl]

@@glorpri Yeah, in junior high or maybe early high school, I imagined a machine that could rearrange cells, rewrite DNA, etc. I fantasized about that machine for the next 30+ years. I even wrote my college application essay about that machine, except that I reframed it in terms of repairing organs and curing diseases. (I made no mention of "Oh, and it could also turn me into a girl.")

[@eevee-hn8xd]

why though 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮f'n leave your uterus alone

[@JuzALilGayBean]

No one bullies adoptive parents, and shouts at them that they're "not real parents" So why should people act that kind of way with trans people? Edit: I realized apparently this does happen actually, woops

[@oreolaw9911]

so people do actually say that sort of thing to adoptive parents and even to women who had a C-section and from what I have seen is not actually uncommon either

[@JuzALilGayBean]

@@oreolaw9911 dang, that sucks too

[@zekkun16]

Unrelated to the video but i tried binding today! I wasn't brave enough to go to uni while binded but it was insane the difference it made and how happy i felt with a flat chest.

[@CallumTimothy]

Yay, go you! It felt like a big step for me to bind while at uni classes etc too, but probably no one noticed and definitely no one was weird enough to comment.

[@cryochick9044]

Ya know. I find it funny how trans women and trans men both are happier when a part of the body that jutts out is smoothened

[@baglehishket361]

imagine they made "don't say left-handed" laws

[@baglehishket361]

why are there numbers in my username i don'tremember putting them there

[@saoirse2963]

Stop equating left handed to trans. Nobody "realises" they are left handed as teenagers or even adults.

[@Josilyne]

​@@saoirse2963 Left handedness is a useful comparison when showing how reducing or eliminating social stigma makes people more comfortable to be themselves, accounting for the "massive influx" of trans people in recent years (that has plateaued already)

[@aleksabanjevic8316]

​@@saoirse2963no, they realise when they start to draw or write.... What was ur point?

[@rosieg6989]

@@saoirse2963 People are born left handed, people are born trans, it actually equates decently well.

[@Farfarellos]

My kindergarten teacher in ‘91-92 taught my class using our left hand was wrong and any of us who could use their right, had to. She made the lefties prove they were at the beginning of the class. She argued with at least one kid who insisted they really couldn’t write right handed until she gave in for not being able to read the assignments. I was the only one she decided was faking it because I said I could use both. At the beginning she’d just shame me in front of the class if I wouldn’t switch but then started putting me in the quiet chair for the rest of the lesson if I so much as picked up my pencil off the ground with my left. Eventually I stopped using my left even at home for fear I’d slip at school.

[@ardenbalzer4560]

Is it just me, or do transphobes just forget about the existence of trans men?

[@rosieg6989]

It is just more proof that trans women are women, as cis men put all their negative attention onto them and no one else.

[@theashwoodfaerie2]

Yeah trans men are completely ignored

[@meilinrivera1]

Its part of their inherent misogyny

[@Alex-gh8iu]

​@@eevee-hn8xdonly one who's a threat are Christians, coward.

[@katyamcadams]

​@@eevee-hn8xdneither are a threat. People being themselves are not threats.

[@dietotaku]

to the "sex is the same as gender" guy, i guess that means the brain is the same as the mind? and therefore if you change your mind about something you've made a physical change to your brain. if you've had brain surgery, you have altered who you are in your mind. hell, must mean physical and psychological are the same too, right? no. physical sex is not the same thing as psychological gender identity. that's WHY THERE ARE DIFFERENT WORDS.

[@M_M_ODonnell]

The next level is that sex is _also_ a social practice. Dividing a phenomenon up into categories and deciding the exact boundaries between those categories (and how many you're dividing the phenomenon up into) is a social practice. So is deciding which things count as part of that phenomenon vs which are just statistically associated with it.

[@oiytd5wugho]

@@M_M_ODonnell I mean, sex _is_ a social construct too, I talked about my thoughts on this in another comment here

[@maximusharbour3463]

I completely agree with your sentiments but I like to nitpick things so I would like to point out that changing your mind will cause a (small) physical change in your brain. It requires thinking, which makes electricity move around, and I'm sure the energy from that electricity would make a few of the molecules in your brain move around a teensy tiny bit.

[@Lily-y8m]

"Trans people ruin movies" Just wait untill these people learn who directed the matrix

[@andeeharry]

26:35 I am not sure if anyone noticed, but Rowling has taken the time to argue and fight with a few horror writers on Twitter the Xitter lately. They write horror, shocking scary things as usual, stuff to frighten people and she asked them to stop doing it, because it hurts her. She went on a rant about her ex abusive husband and thier stories are opening old wounds. The only scary stuff they write about is the mythical monsters that are born from people's imagination. She has been raising a few eyebrows over this.

[@elaineb7065]

How dumb can you get??? I can't read or watch the majority of horror films & books because I have high empathy. So I don't read or watch horror. If you can't handle it don't engage in it, simple

[@BlueSodaFox]

Referring to Rowling as the queen of the terfs just gave me the mental image of a hive filled with disgusting bugs and larvae and Rowling on a throne, posting garbage while her servants fan her.

[@linden5165]

I'm a genderfluid parent with cis children - I did say to them as they approached puberty they had a choice about it and checked they were comfortable with it and let them know they had options. In no way did it influence them, they know who they are and it gave them a chance to express that. Rather than confusing them I think it was affirming as they consciously chose to go through puberty rather than it just being inevitable.

[@Johnny_T779]

Lol, trans people always existed! I was a trans boy in the 70's and 80's , and was thrilled by the Famous Five books because there was George in it! Anyone remember him? The OG fictional trans boy, I used him to make adults understand my feelings and it helped alot. Representation is super important for kids, and I'm happy there's more of it now. I'm 56 now, and I assure anyone that I was trans BEFORE I was able to read, and not because of the George character! Transphobes are incredibly dumb 😂!

[@emeraldlily673]

I read The Famous Five when I was a kid so didn’t pick up on it. It was actually my *mother* that mentioned George reads as trans. I love that series

[@jonal5126]

Yeah i was reading one of the books in my cousin's house and i was kinda surprised when i say that character. Especially for its time the book was published

[@1991LMR]

Oh, I love the Famous Five books! I definitely remember George!

[@alienwandering]

I really needed this video today. I live in the States and it is getting quite scary here. I know that over a long enough timeline, progressives win, but some days are harder to get through than others

[@ronaldoalberto3510]

Cis woman here! I love your videos. Previously, I have been in favor of trans rights but I did not have much insight about the difficulties trans folks face and how ridiculous our world has gotten with transphobes doing all sorts of mental gymnastics to justify their anti-trans agenda. I feel like thanks to your videos, I know how to approach the subject of trans rights with more understanding and empathy, and in general how to be supportive to a trans friend. Lots of love! ❤

[@luckypunk72]

i got harassed for being trans at work today by a customer, this was exactly the pick me up i needed ♥️♥️

[@ChloeClements34]

The amount of taxi drivers that say to me.."When you going in for the change?" I am like errr its not like that. " Oh i thought you go in get all the changes and its done"...It might offend me but not as much as I wish it was so true and it makes me sad. Set a date go in through some magic where you come out the true you the next day...I need to live in this world!

[@electronics-girl]

For decades, I fantasized about a machine that could do a 100% perfect, down-to-the-DNA transformation in a few minutes.

[@d4rkw0l75]

"because if we don't laugh we cry." well said. this can apply to so many other sad/unfair things 😢

[@thegreenplayer5266]

Just had an LGBTQ+ party with my 2 best friends, 1 being a transgender guy and the other an aroace girl. For context I am a gay guy, I love those 2, they are hilarious and make me feel good 😊

[@Thelastunicornlover]

🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@glorpri]

Sounds kinda gay

[@thegreenplayer5266]

@@glorpri I would argue that's a good thing

[@glorpri]

@thegreenplayer5266 never said it's a a bad thing. Just that it's kinda gay

[@thegreenplayer5266]

@@glorpri it was infact, pretty gay

[@user-rh7nd5xv7y]

BLÅHAJ SPOTTED

[@RelativelySaneStudio]

Totally empathise with feeling like you've "lost some years" due to not being taught sooner. I'm gay, and for most of my childhood, I only heard about gay people as an insult. Took me so long to realise and accept who I am, and when I did realise, I was so upset, because I'd been taught that being gay was freakish and wrong. I wouldn't wish for anybody to go through that.

[@lenya7502]

Hey Jamie ! I've followed your channel for a while now, and it has given a lot of confidence in being queer and non-binairy. Just wanted to say I have gotten top surgery in the last week, which I've wanted for a long time, and it's been going very well !! So thank you a lot, you and One Topic !!

[@theminxiekitten3812]

Transphobia is the reason I'm consistently on edge and anxious every time my daughter leaves the house. With the government having shut down so many avenues to gender-affirming care I literally have no idea what I can do to help her; all that seems possible is to helplessly watch her struggle on a day-to-day basis and pray she doesn't end up where so many trans teens end up (unaliving). I can't even get her to see a gender therapist because of the mess in the NHS. Puberty blockers might save her life, but there's no way to get at them. Seriously, fuck transphobia.

[@babs_babs]

wish you and your daughter the best having a parent like you is no small thing. i’m sure she feels that

[@theminxiekitten3812]

​@@babs_babsThank you so much for your lovely words! Being part of the LGBTQIA community myself I've had plenty of unpleasant interactions, and I desperately wish she wouldn't have to.

[@rosieg6989]

@@theminxiekitten3812 It will be rough, but one of the biggest things that lessens the chance of suicide in trans youth is having supportive parents. Again, I won't say it will be easy, with how things currently are she will struggle, but having you accepting her, supporting her, and loving her unconditionally will help her get through it.

[@tealkerberus748]

The biggest thing you can do for her is love and support her. Even while the world outside your home is a pile of garbage, knowing that she is safe and loved as her real self at home gives her that haven of assurance. Sending you both hugs. I hope you're able to get her the outside support she needs soon.

[@ambrosesageblack]

Jamie, my dear, sweet, sweet summer child. The 80s and 90s were 30-40 years ago, not 20 years ago😅