People Don't Respect You Because You Can't Say "NO" | A Guide to Setting Boundaries

[@BahjaAbdi]

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[@privatesoulll]

Hi I hope you are doing well I just want to ask how do you film your videos and edit them to make them so smooth and clean and beautiful. I don't know if you will answer this question but I was just asking this to learn from it have a great day

[@treneceblack2493]

I’m 51 years young learning from you and being motivated by you. ❤

[@BahjaAbdi]

This is so wholesome 🥹🫂

[@morenijejiagoro3710]

Same here...anazing how life makes sense through you. Alihamdulilai

[@oumniyadaoudi]

Subhanallah Bahja! I just had a conversation with my friend about getting rid of bad friends and told her that having bad friends have a great impact on you. She agreed with me. Tonight, I watched your video, and this is exactly what I was telling her. You also taught me that I cant change the person, but I can set an example. That really helped me in ways that no one could ever imagine (except Allah). This video was a miracle sent down and Inshallah as I always comment, I hope you will always spread good messages no matter how you do it. Can’t wait to see you get to 100k or even 10mil cuz you deserve it tbh😊 Love youuuu from a fellow muslimah

[@BahjaAbdi]

This is the sweetest message ever. All praise is do to Allah who allowed me to post this when you needed it the most. I'm glad your having those conversation, I pray god blesses you with good friends 🥹🤍

[@oumniyadaoudi]

Ameen luv you sm!!!! 😘

[@SonicSerenityMeditationsAffirm]

You are so insightful. Selfishness is an underrated form of self-care for people who are used to being overly self-sacrificing. It's uncomfortable but it forces you to be true to yourself and not someone else

[@beyzaxoxo]

omg true we can't save everyone, I tried to make my fiancé grow, he didn't and I just lost so much time and energy on him. And he was just not capable of understanding or just stop to self sabotage. I felt really sick when he spoke, he made me run my fastest in the gym because that's the way I release anger lmao, that was yesterday. That is the last day I saw him and I hope it will stay that way. He just cares about instant gratification, I care about the world and my people and my career in order to become something. it just does not match

[@kandis7755]

I honestly wasn’t thinking about this at 22. Happy to see younger women, creating better habits for themselves.

[@linaa1311]

What a coincidence! i was just today saying to my mom that finally i decided to become selfish and that this is not always that awful. My mother did not understand the idea of me separating myself from people that i dont feel them adding value to my life and she always wanted me to be that social butterfly even if it is heavy on me and draining. people dont understand that u can still respect others and love them but also set boundaries and put yourself and your energy first. Iam so happy that you are spreading these ideas. i really reallllllly feel very different and very satisfied since i started to choose the people around me carefully . Thanks Bahja I wish u all the best

[@saraaaaa05]

Your content is so fun and entertaining, and I can't help but smile whenever I watch. Keep up the amazing content and beautiful advice! Sending you lots of love and support! 😊💖

[@BahjaAbdi]

Aweeee!! Thank you sooo much for the love and support, it means the world! 🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@hudahassan2659]

The energy we need in 2024💪🏽

[@ariannasheets7853]

You need a podcast for sure! I love playing your videos while cleaning or doing other tasks. I’m in sobriety and recovery as well as on my path to becoming Muslim. I adore you and your content and it’s helped me tremendously

[@loveline2100]

thank you for the story about your friend because that really helped me. i love my friend so much and we do have our fun moments but i do feel drained afterwards even if she’s not doing anything bad. she’s very supportive and cares a lot for me, so i feel bad for thinking about this kinda of thing these days. but our habits aren’t the same, our definition of fun isn’t really the same and she’s self aware of her self deprecation/bad habits but just blows it off. it’s so true the in one ear out the other, because that’s exactly how i feel and i feel bad because i feel like i’m nagging/boring when i talk about wanting to be better. but i really realized this hanging out w my other friend who’s back from school and we can talk about self-growth and we have meaningful and fun hangouts. when i get a little into self-deprecation, it’s not a funny relatable thing to her like it is to my other friend and i feel motivated and happy after i hang out with her. but my friend (who i now go to school with, we have the same classes + major) is so nice to me but i really do keep thinking i dont want to be like her and i feel bad for it. sorry for the rant 😭😭 but i feel like i won’t find anyone like my other friend who makes me feel good and care about those things

[@BahjaAbdi]

You will always find more people who are similar to you even if it takes while. Don't lose hope but also don't settle because you feel like you'll be "lonely"or have no one, sometimes that time alone is where you'll grow the most. The people you spend the most time with play a huge role in who you become so choose wisely. sending you all my love 🤍🤍

[@kxkxsxi6305]

I have learned so much about become a woman on your channel! I am so happy these days I feel so good knowing I am in my feminine energy and I can be productive too . Best of both worlds! 💕

[@BahjaAbdi]

This makes me so happy 🥹🤍

[@whome4851]

Girl you are just touching everything I am discovering of myself.

[@elifaktas1566]

I am getting new job and my friend meant that I am not good enough for the job. I really hard stuied for months to get it and I am still studying and working on myself for changes but people don't like when they see positive changes on you. Don't listen others don't give your time to useless people around you. Every day has a end and you only person get the result of it. Trust yourself just keep to say positive and supportive things to yourself.

[@ayanjama3248]

The way I was literally just thinking about my circle of friends rn and certain people that I feel like I wanted to cut off - Cus they no longer fit my vision and where I’m trying to be at in life - I’m watching this straight after school 🫡🫡

[@BahjaAbdi]

Summer Fridayssss

[@maryan1367]

Thank you for being so motivating everytime and watching your videos makes my day lil better mashallah

[@BahjaAbdi]

Aweee this is so sweet 🥹🫂

[@safiyyahyt]

my current favorite KZbinr 🥹🫶🏾 so excited to watch!!

[@ijuswannasleepbro]

Bahjaaaaaa loveee!!😭 wallahi i needed to hear this SO BAD. I was feeling real low after spending time w a few 'friends' and i was js thinking of leaving them and stuff and then GUESS WHAT. I COME ACROSS YOUR VIDEO. Youre literally the big sis we all need! May Allah increase you and reunite us in jannah. Lovee youuu and what your doing! Keep going girll 🫶

[@BahjaAbdi]

aweeee, allahumma ameen 🥹🤍 the timing could be more perfect god knew the girlies needed to hear this, alhamdullilah 🥹🤍

[@amberbarnes9839]

When you said and for my empaths you ate frfr

[@BahjaAbdi]

Ahahaha it's hard out here 😭

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bahja is like the older sis we older sisters needed. tysm girlie. you're truly amazing. may Allah bless u.

[@BahjaAbdi]

Allahumma ameen!! Ilysmmm 🫶🏾

[@temi.whoosh]

you are sooo unrated !! i was literaally thinking about this topic and just found this video !! thank you i learned smm

[@BahjaAbdi]

🥹 im glad you found it when you needed it

[@temi.whoosh]

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[@menaa22]

like i said 100k by the end of January!!

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You are Sooo beloved to Allah swt,shukran for who you are to us sissy😇🥰

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You always come through the right time!

[@BahjaAbdi]

I love that sooo much 🥹🤍

[@Adama-m2n]

I loss most of my good friends because I want to be someone better. Tbh I’m really happy with the decision I chose

[@123amberdavid]

27:42 this was peak advice I giggled too but no more 2 cents 📝

[@wendyxkuma]

I said no to a hug from an old friend and it was the strangest experience.

[@BahjaAbdi]

gurl... I can't imagine!!!

[@internationalkitchen8905]

why did you say no?? i want to know

[@Noname11196]

Thank you Bahja

[@melimercedes]

Girl, you are amazing! Thank you for the great advice. I aspire to be like you. One step at a time 🙏🏼🫶🏼

[@BahjaAbdi]

One step at a time, me and you both! Thank you so much for the kind words 🥹🤍 I wish you the best!

[@perse_phone]

giirl i just have to say that ur videos are amazing not only contentwise thay always look sooo attractive and fancyy and like a professional made the thumbnail and decorative details you are soooo goood at ur craft keep shiniiing siis

[@somiacoaxum9307]

This reallyyyy spoke to me. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@typicalaeisha]

needed this video so bad you have noo idea. the bestfriend like a sister hit the nail rightt on. 10 years plus and i honestly just been prayingg. i definitely think i maybe influencing her for the better but i don’t want to get dragged down as well you know. may Allah swt bless you 🩷.

[@aisatacapri]

Every piece of this video was so inspirational ✨ thank you for all of it 💕

[@BahjaAbdi]

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[@loomsinator]

Luv these videos Bahja! Thank u so much

[@BahjaAbdi]

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After praying fajir an getting a video from my favourite 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤

[@BahjaAbdi]

aweeeee I love you loads

[@Ummukhuwaylid]

Bahja, may Allah grant you whatever is kheir for you. Okay, now lemme watch the video.

[@BahjaAbdi]

wait this is soooo cute! allahumma ameen 🥹🤍

[@kumababybear]

Your content is golden and so rich with information. I feel so inspired listening to you and I could listen to it over and over. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom

[@BahjaAbdi]

awe, thank you so much for the kind words! You have no idea how much of an impact it has on me 🥹🤍

[@aimemaggie]

You’re so close to 100k!!!

[@BahjaAbdi]

lets gooooooooo!!! ahhhh 🥹🤍

[@kvdagod888]

aye yo ion know how found you love but your videos been on shuffle for the last couple of days💪🏽

[@becauseisaidso291]

You're the friend I need

[@BahjaAbdi]

I got you 🫂

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Your videos are amazing This is one of my bests honestly ❤

[@BahjaAbdi]

Yess I loveee 🩷

[@faranaazbarnes9909]

alhamdulillah for you Bahja. may Allah reward you for the good work you do💗

[@BahjaAbdi]

allahumma ameen 🥹🤍

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Aaah the queen has posted 💗💗🌸 you’re honestly saving usss

[@BahjaAbdi]

🥺🥺 I love you smmmmm 🩷

[@farhiya5943]

Than you sis may Allah put baraka in all that you do.❤❤❤

[@ounaidavessah.thewakeup]

Since I discovered your channel, I like video before listening cuz i know that I’m gonna like ❤️‍🔥😅

[@BahjaAbdi]

you so sweet omg 🥹🤍

[@Aliyahsarchive]

Bahia please do a fitness journey video, you inspire me so much ❤️

[@bmary8283]

You're videos are so useful, mashallah ❤❤

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my good sisss is back!

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Wow!!!!! 🙏🏾 Thank you! You are a true gem 💎

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Thank you beautiful for your words of wisdom I really appreciate it 😘😘😘🫶🏾

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“I do not date, and I don’t want you” 😂

[@BahjaAbdi]

ahahaha shut it downnnnn 😭😭

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I am always looking forward to your videos..I love u so much❤

[@BahjaAbdi]

I love you so much more angel 🥹🤍

[@Vita-jxtn]

Iam a KZbin girle and out of all the people on this app no kidding you have awakened something inside of me..and you came exactly at a time when I needed someone like you. You have inspired me in ways I can't explain and because of your messages I feel so empowered..idk how to explain 😂I don't have the right words for what I want to say buh I hope you get it...keep doing wat your doing..you are helping many..may God bless you absolutely and give you all your hearts desires ❤️

[@Vita-jxtn]

And thank you for replying to my comment...am really excited for some reason 😂

[@RashidahWhite]

I can relate to this exactly

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Keep going girl👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💙✨🦋

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Perfect perfect perfect 💎

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حبيت اسمك مره حلو ماشاءالله 🌷

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Amazing ❤

[@Stethnscope]

Just watched ur first video tday andddd u inspired me likeeeee wowww Ur wordz are extremely amazing❤ Stay blessed lady🙂 You are beautiful inside out💫

[@BahjaAbdi]

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Thx a lot 😊

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i like your long videos

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Bahja, you‘re so beautiful ma sha Allah

[@BahjaAbdi]

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33:30 - 33:40 !!!!

[@Perigordian1]

May Allah Increase you

[@BahjaAbdi]

Allahumma ameen

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Omg 🥹I am always the first❤️❤️

[@BahjaAbdi]

I actually love you so much 🥹 literally first ALL THE TIME 🫶🏾

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[@josianeebah1192]

So true

[@hanajrde4924]

I’m not gonna lie, the only reason I put people first is so I could gain from my akhira but at the sametime I hate myself for it, cuz I feel like I’m the only one miserable after every decision I make, for example I would work extra hours when I don’t want to, or a college or a work manager would ask me to stay while I have gym training group booked after work and I would cancel it for them. I hate it so much but what can I do? I’ve been like this since birth and I’m 22 soon 23 and I want to change

[@hannaxoxo12]

being a people pleaser doesn’t mean you’ll go jannah. Be kind to your mom and your family. Have boundaries outside of that

[@BahjaAbdi]

Firstly, it's never too late to change. Second, you need to change your perspective; there are so many ways to gain for your hereafter, and self-care is one of those ways. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "Even intercourse can be charity" (in a halal manner, lol). This Hadith shows how regular habits and personal needs can be rewarded with the right intention. If you attend your workout classes and remember Allah, doing it with the intention of taking care of your body and physical well-being, it will be rewarded. You can perform small acts of kindness such as smiling at others, holding doors, and being kind and gentle. Burning yourself out and being a people-pleaser will cause you to resent others and can be detrimental to your hereafter.

[@hanajrde4924]

@@BahjaAbdi true thank you for the advice sister, I think it has to do with our upbringing as well, I was always raised to be respectful towards elders (as I woke in nursing home) I’m the youngest there so it’s easy for them to use me, but I don’t want that and I don’t want to be a people pleaser. Ur advice made so much sense to me and I want to change mainly for me. Thank you once again

[@rimben]

Salam aalaykom, can you please explain to me what " wishi washi" means ? P.S I am not anglophone i just learn it

[@IshaShantai]

I means “dodgy” or unstable ❤

[@samiyagani22]

How old are you bahja?

[@BahjaAbdi]

22

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I'm literally 12😂 1:54

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[@terradargana3301]

To be a a Muslim woman mother daughter the expectation is sacrifice always forever till the end ….. feeling frustrated

[@Rxngocodm]

I am so glad that people my age still have sense 🥹 I love you, very motivated and more inspired. ❤

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Women...

[@saroara]

I’ve been loving your videos sooo much! I also listened to almost all your podcasts but they’re gone for some reason🥲 could you reupload them? They were really good and had a lot of mind blowing truths. I really love how kind you are to yourself it really inspires me to work with myself not against myself so thank you❤

[@BahjaAbdi]

awe, im so glad you loved them! I have this huge itch to start the podcast again, once I finish my current projects it will be back inshallah 🥹🤍

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Are your podcast on another platform ?? omg i would love to know i can hear more of you!!!🤗