Before Vs. After: Coming Out

"At a certain point, I couldn't keep lying anymore. I couldn't keep saying, 'No, that's not me.'"
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[@daffodilclouds2443]

I came out to my boy friend so he knew why we were breaking up, and he came out to me... we are bffs now

[@idliketospeaktothemanager8836]

Luna 5381 😊

[@tyton4437]

Luna 5381 that’s wild and amazing at the same time

[@vetrri5570]

You're very lucky, man. Happy For You

[@olgagottfried5541]

Probably the best possible way a relationship could end.

[@thomasg7323]

OMG GOALSSSS

[@spiritedrenee9895]

I Came out 4 days ago. I'm have so much more confidence now.

[@lily-hazy8823]

isn't it so fuckin freeing? I remember the day after I came out. I lost friends but I still felt so damn free

[@sergiofridschtein2493]

Description Untitled I haven’t come out yet the only person that knows is my twin sister. I am bi by the way

[@oldiemaddyyy1132]

Description Untitled lucky..

[@smockhunt3346]

I wish I felt ready to come out now but I think I'm going to wait until I graduate high school because most of my friends are homophobic. -Bi 15 y/o male

[@yosr5090]

Good for you!👏👏

[@bengriffin4164]

I'm out to my closest friends but the thought of coming out to my parents absolutely petrifies me... I'll get there one day though...

[@Ryan-to9iw]

Same!

[@Rougetheidealistic]

Same...

[@zypizypizypitanotanotano9758]

It shouldn't be that hard, or at least dont thinnk/keep telling yourself it's gonna be hard, after all they are your parents, and they've spent the most time of their life and your life with you. I'm sure they'll be supporting, after all it doesn't change who you are.

[@LeilaLamb]

Do it when it’s right for you, but don’t leave it till you have regrets.

[@ibefree6212]

yes you'll get there. when I told my mom, she says , let me tell your father. I was fully prepared to do it myself , but she says she wanted too, she would tell him at the right time. when she did finally ,his response was, " sweetheart , I figured that out a decade ago, catch up with the times, are ya blind ". I frickin lost it when I heard about it . lol

[@aimy4862]

i just came out as bisexual yesterday! 💓 edit: it went great, but my crush is really homophobic so

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

No cares thought

[@cloudyclayella1846]

I'm questioning my sexuality. I believe I'm bi.

[@maddiewierda]

Awh congrats! I hope it went well

[@sugaryshadows]

How did it go? I hope it went great!

[@ap0llogetic427]

Steve N ... Not even gonna take the time to explain the difference.

[@owlright7524]

The biggest thing that changed for me after coming out is that now I don’t have to hide my phone or laptop if I’m watching or reading anything lgbtq+ related

[@maybehere_]

Except it it's.. Um. Nvm.. 😅

[@andreaenemegio6002]

I really cried. I came out 4 or 5 years ago to my mom... She is the only person I trust and she told me that it was just a phase. I don't have the guts to tell her again, years later, that I'm still bisexual, I still like girls, I love one girl. My uncle is really homophobic... He's the kind of person who talks horrible things about queer comunity... I don't have the guts to tell him. I really need them to know, not because I wanna show.my gayness or something... Just because I need them to accept me just for who I am. I feel so lost and sad about this... I think I would never be able to talk.

[@TallyWyte]

Andrea Enemegio you’re a walking revolution in society yourself. Embrace it. :)

[@tshiatshipo1264]

Already told my mom, and she said the same thing, "it's a phase", I'm not gonna tell her again so she shouldn't be surprised if I want to bring my girl home...I just hate being ignored

[@danorose9746]

I’m sorry I pray for you

[@lanehuntley5075]

I'm so sorry, I hope things turn out in the best possible way ❤

[@kwamiotoo4509]

Andrea Enemegio You got this girl!! Just wait until the time is right.

[@Xilotl]

I’m still in the closet ✌🏽

[@AllenTax]

Is the light on? Not to dark? Found your clothes to wear?😅

[@Xilotl]

I think I’m in some place called “Narnia”

[@maybehere_]

I'm past Narnia

[@tshiatshipo1264]

What is Narnia?

[@chiaraa-l3608]

@@tshiatshipo1264 look it up 😊

[@chipthegaygoose4046]

I am a closeted 14 year old bisexual female. I have a girlfriend and no one knows. These kind of videos really help me to realize that there are people out there like me.

[@TABAssassin]

Don’t listen to people like that, I’m the same, don’t let people pressurise u into coming out, u make your own decision, best to do it if u r gonna move out soon or in a safe environment. Good luck

[@brandon3740]

Same. It just sucks that I can't share my happiness with my family and closest friends

[@livelaughForte]

do your hw

[@cerinashippey]

Eva Owens we’re here for you 💖

[@RachelBastow]

I’m a closeted 19 year old bisexual girl and I know how you feel. Sending you all the love and support 💗💗💗

[@magentalilies8012]

Open the closet, and open hearts and minds. Open the door and others will follow behind.

[@shekleyslandhia]

Chivas Aurora yfkflgkrjrjri4voe

[@sarahlizette6124]

💖

[@DaddyNatron]

Chivas Aurora I’m a alpha so I’ll go I front.

[@irecluse1077]

Hoo Lee Fuk ……

[@jillgutierrez16]

Chivas Aurora this made me cry tears of joy

[@leahsmo928]

*talking about gay marriage with my conservative dad* Dad: it's not marriage marriage is between a man and a woman yada yada Leah: dad, but I'm bi, what if I came home with a girl? *pause* Dad: as long as she's not a liberal!

[@lorelei7754]

Leah Smo Sounds like your father is an idiot. Heh.

[@Dhi_Bee]

Do yourself a favor & move out after you graduate high school and/or turn 18. If he doesn’t get over it it’s his problem not yours. Surround yourself with people who like & love you

[@madaline5156]

... I just came out to my parents. Edit: It went quite well.

[@yousseferrafai4718]

Luna 1235410 how did it go ?

[@kheymaurasweat2840]

How did it go? Are you okay?

[@emma_burke]

Go you👍🏻❤️❤️

[@radmadz7093]

Hope it went well❤️💕

[@sarahverweij4436]

all the love

[@celine2688]

I told my mom im bi and she took it as it as phase, i also think shes embarrassed about me, and she wants me to keep it closeted but I don't want to I'm slowly telling more of my family

[@novas2905]

You should never hide who you truly are. If you think that's the right thing to do (which it is) you do what you need to do.

[@HedwigXD]

Same here, keep your head up and don't hide away

[@amirrahman782]

If you are younger than 21 IT IS A PHASE DEAL WITH IT.

[@celine2688]

Amir Rahman did I ask for your opinion?

[@ctylshi595]

How is sexuality “just a phase”?

[@PB_and_Jenny]

“You are no less of a queer person for it.” Say it louder for the kids in the back!

[@oliveg817]

How I came out to my mom: Me: Hey mom why am I like my hair? Mom: um... idk Me: cause I’m NOT STRAIGHT At this point, I dabbed. I hate dabs, I only did this so I wouldn’t have to look at her. It was great tho and she didn’t really care.

[@dylaneverett4ever]

Nerd is The Word i don't know why I laughed so hard at this, I hope she took it in a good way

[@TABAssassin]

I think this is the best coming out story ever

[@agatkagrzyb653]

lmao

[@artsyesther6395]

Tea n' Me I want to come out like this but I have naturally straight hair

[@rianleih9308]

Lol Imma try this too

[@CodyWhitlock]

This has helped me up things into perspective, I think a lot of people will benefit from this. Thanks buzzfeed 🙌

[@mojammelhossainrahad7622]

Cody Whitlock

[@sarahlizette6124]

Cody Whitlock hey i like ur channel im glad i saw this comment and ignore the negativity its often from people with bigger issues than most of us.

[@gabbyspeaks2616]

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[@cheecannugget6872]

Cody Whitlock I always see your name and comments Cody lol. Wanna be friends?

[@anukm3702]

I see your comments everywhere.

[@ilovelifeAS]

“No, here is why.. I know what the F is going on in my head” 🙌🏼♥️

[@banana_bread1012]

Why are so many peoples parents angry that their kids are gay, it doesn’t matter what the gender of their kids partners are♥️

[@alinanistor2913]

They just want grandchildren and one that actually is their blood mostly they don't care what gender is their partner it's just the fact that they won't have children .or they're supper religious

[@alinanistor2913]

Well not supper but religious

[@JWildberry]

Exactly! It's such a small thing when you think about it. Okay, that sounded dismissive of the pain and hardship that a lot of gay people have to go through, but that's not what I mean. What I mean is that it changes nothing. If someone tells you they're gay, they've always been gay. Their personality traits are exactly the same as before, it just means they are attracted to the opposite gender.

[@jessehall5569]

Banana_Bread 101 because it's unnatural

[@bambino9235]

Gypsy Paver yeah tell that to the thousands of natural species of animals that engage in homosexual behaviour and all the scientific professionals that agree that it is a natural phenomenon

[@Ryan-to9iw]

*I just came out to a friend on Monday.* It feels great, I don’t have to hide anything from her anymore and I now have someone to talk to about it. *Edit: I’m out to 3 people now.*

[@gdeaa5017]

[@dg44562]

Good for you! Wish you all the happiness :)

[@annayeh7437]

I just came out to my mom I know what you mean it’s like a weight was just lifted

[@aartistanimation4186]

My now gf (I'm a girl too) told ALL of my friends she liked me before she told me... so I mean I didn't even need to come out to them 😂

[@ashvinete9043]

ik im a stranger but im proud of you, know that you have support and are valid. Good luck in your journey !

[@Chris-fe1kx]

I hate hate hate being in the closet. I’m 17, most of my friends already know I’m gay, everyone knows except my family. I wish I could tell them but I just physically can’t.

[@fezrayoos]

I live in indonesia where being gay is a crime by law now. I can't come out because not only that my family will for sure disowned me in the name of religion, it also possible that i will serve jail time. The hardest part, i just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years that been with me this whole time and can't talk to anyone. I turned into a ball of mess and tears every night without able to talk to literally anyone about it.

[@yiumyoumsan6997]

OMG sama. Emangnya sekarang jadi gay jadi dikriminalisasikan ya? That's sad if you broke up with your boyfriend. Dunia orang dewasa kok keknya kejam banget ya :(

[@reveranttangent1771]

I'm sorry

[@Kevinhillcrest]

No one will notice this but I feel like there should be a disclaimer: Find a gay community before you come out because you will need support especially if you arn't in California.

[@cerinashippey]

Kevinhillcrest /// NYC

[@teaaddict813]

Alright, i can come out (i live in Poland. Very homophobic there 😭) but i will come out in Christmass

[@wildredrazor1481]

Who else needed this?

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

Nobody

[@kcmn0089]

I did

[@agatkagrzyb653]

me

[@cici6496]

i came out yesterday

[@anuradhapandit9824]

lonelysunflowers How did it go? I'm proud of you!

[@nicolethomas647]

cici Yay Congrats!

[@rianleih9308]

Congrats!I'm so proud of you!

[@Rabiose123]

This is really nice. But remember that coming out is 100% optional, you don't own anyone an explanation. And if you think someone could make you have a hard time after you tell them (friends, parents, anyone really) don't feel obligated to tell them, you deserve to feel safe. And in the case you suspect someone won't accept you, that's not the people you should be around of, you also deserve people that are going to understand and support you if you tell them !

[@rookshanaasaram3962]

Bp BDM

[@chestnutfamily3614]

I am bisexual so I plan on coming out to my parents soon but this helped me like a million times more with my friends and all my relationships with friends and others.

[@kung-fukennyfamily]

It doesn't matter what you are at the end of the day we all are humans.

[@miranda3622]

Amen

[@sarahlizette6124]

True 💖

[@Zhyst]

Nah im a cat

[@baylorbrouwer7848]

Not true

[@sarahlizette6124]

Myrica l jajaja cheeto!!!!

[@katiebohren6654]

I’m 11 and I came out 5 months ago and I’m much more comfortable with my self

[@sleepdeprived785]

I came out at 14 and now I'm 18 and my family accepts me. I used to think that I was trans but I realized I wasn't a boy, then I thought maybe I'm non binary, now I'm not really sure what my gender is and that's okay. I'm not sure what my sexuality is either, and it's okay to not be sure or to change your mind on what label you use. Don't be worried you're a fraud if you decide a label doesn't quite fit as well as you thought it did. I went through many different labels before I found some that fit me. It's okay to experiment, no one knows who they are at that young of a age and it's alright if you change your mind on what label fits you (if any label does).

[@toby7308]

I'm 13 and I'm trans female to male and I'm so lucky to have a supportive, well mainly supportive, family. You are beautiful no matter who or what you are :-)

[@faithb.3254]

Shmem That’s great to hear :)

[@muyeongkim7146]

Shmem 💙

[@hdbb126gaming5]

Same. I haven’t even told my parents.. Also, heya sans the skeleton

[@mmx123]

Shmem a "girl" in my year is transistioning and he prefers male pronouns and a male name and it is adorable seeing how the teachers are so accepting, always calling him preferred pronouns and name during name-call.... and I am now also proud of your family equally

[@kingk6142]

Ur a man now

[@aryanam953]

Sometimes I think, and I really wish that I was able to come out when I was ready, and not to have been forced to come out when I wasn't. I started to question myself when I was 14, and I tried everything in my power to shove that away. In turn, I lost an opportunity with a girl that I had really liked at the time. When I was 15, I fell in love with this girl who was my best friend. I shoved that all away as well for fear of what my family would have thought, and fear that she wouldn't like me back. I remember when she got into a relationship, she told me that she had really loved me, and I had broken her heart because I would sometimes tell her that I could not date her because she was my best friend and that felt wrong to me and whatnot. I remember going through such a hard heartbreak, and feeling like I was so alone and that nobody was there for me or would understand. In those years, 14 onward, I was closed off from my family. I didn't tell them anything, which really hurt them because I grew up really close to my family. A week after my 16th birthday, my parents found out that I was gay and they did not take it well. I had hinted before, but they pushed that away as well. I got grounded for several months, and my parents didn't trust me as much anymore. They thought that I was ruined by the people I had been around, and that I was lying to myself. It's been almost a year since they found out, and I feel so much happier that I'm able to be free and not hide from my close family anymore. I realize that it's going to take a while for them to accept it, and that coming out to the extremely homophobic side of the family is going to be hard, but truthfully, I'm glad that I've had the experiences I've had, and I wouldn't change myself for the world. So to all of you out there who feel hopeless, things will get better. Not immediately, but eventually. Stay strong

[@morgandawson5734]

Aryana M God bless you :) I hope things get better for you in the long run and I'm happy you're free 💛

[@aryanam953]

Morgan Dawson Thank you so much :). I wish you the best in everything that you do and send much love ❤️

[@emilia111111]

It's like my own story. Thank you :)

[@aryanam953]

No problem, I hope things are okay for you right now and they continue to get better!

[@aryanam953]

Doololly2001 I’m so glad that you’re much happier now that you’re out. Sometimes the process itself is painful, but the outcome can be really great. Love yourself and spread love 😊

[@nessan029]

I came out at 14 to my family, and to my school this year, or like my classmates (I'm 15) I feel so much better now, earlier I felt like I was lying to people... I don't know, it's hard to explain, but the people who gets it, just gets it, ok?

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

Ha gayyyyyyy

[@nessan029]

Jozef Klemens Piłsudski so what? What about it?

[@nessan029]

pellet ziemniaczany so what? Is there a problem? I'm gay, wow, not

[@tanginataiyeba6219]

Nessan 02 hey just ignore the trolls, they dont mean it. im really glad your coming out went well and that its made youre life easier :)

[@AllenTax]

Yes as you feel it isn't the truth that your straight. As others assume so. Feel you have to correct them.

[@dollysolon1236]

I feel sad for those people who still feel the need to "come out", when it shouldn't even be that way. I never came out to my parents, relatives, and friends literally, or through words, this feel the need to announce that I'm gay, never even happened to me. Throughout that moment where I feel that I was "different", I just gone with it. It just grew to those people who surround me, and automatically understand that I'M DIFFERENT, that I'M GAY. No question asked, I didn't even have to say a single word. I was lucky enough that people actually understood from the beginning about who I really was, and I don't even need to say it. It seriously made me feel normal than ever, just because of that. To those who are still struggling, just keep your head up. Right time will come, and things will get better.

[@aimee-uq9mr]

I just came out as asexual today.

[@dannysanz3705]

aimee 21 good for you 👏👏👏

[@lizaalexeeva7009]

I m still in the closet.

[@myroeganilees6230]

@liza alexeeva Just come out When you feel safe enough💕

[@fizzyuwu1348]

Tonight I'm going to come out as transgender to my mom. Edit: I'm FTM so He/Him pronouns please :) also, update in comments

[@laurencampbell5893]

TØP Trash please let me know how it goes it went great for me I hope the same goes for you. What are your pronouns (so I know how to refer to you)

[@SangosEvilTwin]

Good luck! I hope it goes well for you.

[@isabellajohnson4608]

Good luck :)

[@matthewleech7901]

Good luck!! ❤️❤️

[@ivette4108]

Good luck, friend.

[@thegoatworld4572]

I came out in January my mom said as long as I’m happy❤️ it took me a year to come out just take ur time. I have a girlfriend and I feel so happy❤️❤️

[@JetFuueled]

Congrats!! It's always great to hear this@

[@katlinoneill2497]

Good for you and congrats!

[@Gayredheadbitch94]

welcome to the rainbow club, we have cake

[@thegoatworld4572]

Katlin O'Neill Thank u

[@odetteviolett5890]

Aaliyah S I came out to my mum in january too :-) finally!

[@ainsleigh351]

this is the most useful info i’ve gotten since i’ve come out: don’t hide your rainbows. if you want to find someone else with rainbows, but you’re not showing yours, it’ll be much harder. the best people come into your life when you’re being yourself, not someone else.

[@katrinaj.7348]

ainsfoxy There's this poem by Shel Silverstein that remonds me of your comment. It goes: "She had blue skin, And so did he. He kept it hid And so did she. They searched for blue Their whole life through, Then passed right by- And never knew."

[@ainsleigh351]

Katrina J. yeah, that’s where i got it from. the poem means a lot to me

[@amdoggod7551]

10 minutes lmao, my heart is still racing and it’s been ten minutes since I came out 😂

[@quaidyba]

I came out today!! And it went well!!

[@peyton4895]

My principal outed my close friend to his parents even though when my principal asked him if he wanted him to talk to his parents my friend said no. I was so mad when I heard this. Our school is very small (our class has 50 people which is how my principal found out) I and I knew our school was extremely homophobic however how could a person with authority do that. And because my friend is only out to his parents and his friends he know he can’t do anything without risking getting outed completely which he is not ready for. I don’t care what you believe people should get to decide who they are and tell other people on their own terms

[@kung-fukennyfamily]

I actually love this video it feels like a movie ❤ .

[@aircactus9168]

Yea it makes me want to be gay now.

[@aartistanimation4186]

AirCactus lol

[@joojoochen]

I'm so glad everyone I came out to was accepting - my family, my friends. I'm truly grateful for that.

[@TheBaldingFish]

I'm pansexual and I feel that I don't need to come out so I don't think I will.

[@madisontwede7957]

Andrew Little I feel exactly the same!

[@cerinashippey]

Andrew Little I’m pansexual too. It’s the best. Everyone is hot. But I came out to my mom/fam/friends

[@TheBaldingFish]

Cerina Shippey im so proud of you for doing this, your so brave.

[@TheBaldingFish]

madison twede its good to not feel alone.

[@lakhsmiwulandari8326]

What is pansexual?

[@IshanAli]

Amazing video Buzzfeed! Love is love

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

Didn't know mental illness is love, but whatewer

[@magical_wolf158]

Jozef Klemens Piłsudski Didn’t know having a squirrel on your face was okay, but whatever.

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

The Confuzzled Potato Pardon me?

[@willgrider6531]

Jozef Klemens Piłsudski being who you want to be with who you want to be with isn’t a mental illness, being ignorant to the fact that people live different then you do is, it’s called narcissism.

[@amirrahman782]

Chelsea Lynn Jones yeah it’s a lack of self control

[@Demonfoxgirl2459]

This video was what I needed right now, I was thinking about this today right before this video. Helped me calm myself, thank you

[@bradleyshipley3145]

Captain Aryes same for me

[@anissamarie89]

Im 28 and just came out and this has helped me so very much. Its been hard for me trying to be someone i wasnt and now im slowly getting to where i want to be

[@darrahh8885]

Im so happy for you

[@doaabutt1330]

Its hard.... But they are brave❤, wish I was like that

[@_.sock75._72]

Ok but the piano in the background reminds me of my alarm for school and I kept getting nervous, lol.

[@Tumtetums]

I wish I had as much courage as these people. I struggle to even think about coming out without anxiety to the point where I feel like I'm either going to throw up or cry. This was a great video though and it helped me have a little more of a level head.

[@ashleypeach960]

I just started dating this awesome girl and now that I'm out I can share it with the people I care about. I had to hide my last girlfriend from everyone.

[@darrahh8885]

Im so happy for you

[@ilikemusic2726]

I'm still in the closet, but I'm dating my best friend of four years and I think I might marry her one day. Both of our families are accepting, my family pretty much already knows and has almost forced me out actually. Her younger sister is pan (though her younger sister came out as pan the day after my girlfriend told her that she might like girls and then dated one girl as to prove her point, but has been dating guys ever since so my girlfriend thinks she did it as a way to overshadow her because she has a history of doing such things, this was years and years ago by the way) so her family is already accepting, her dad even told her it was ok if she was gay or "half gay". I'm just personally not ready yet, plus we just kind of want to enjoy our relationship on our own for as long as we can.

[@unexpected_girl]

It is so sad the one in the red shirts mother would be awful to her!

[@jimmywilson420]

I'm not gay but that was powerful.

[@aberkadaber8963]

It makes me so happy to see this, I am in an extremely religious family and the religion is extremely homophobic. I always have wanted to come out and get it off my chest but I know I would be in danger if I did. I would just disappoint everyone around me and that would crush me. I don’t think I will ever come out to anyone of my family but seeing things like this really makes me happy to see that they are all happy in their lives!!!

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

Return to Jesus and give up those lies!!!!!

[@matthewleech7901]

Wish you the best! ❤️

[@OnCamWithCami]

If your family is Christian/any religion, they should still love you for who you are! Relationships with God shouldn’t be about rules and strictness! I pray for your success and happiness!!❤️

[@Youwuvebere]

Me too and that’s fine... just try as much to be you and tell them intolerance is not in the picture of what you believe in. I love you ❤️

[@trinayo1434]

this is very moving I'm so proud of all of you

[@retrogamergirl9x]

I came out to my Dad as Bisexual. He didn't like it and told me go to see a doctor. It teared my heart and my whole family didn't support my relationship with a girl. Then now I break up with her and I felt like I don't wanna love anyone else. Cause I'm afraid of hurting.

[@yiumyoumsan6997]

Don't worry. You can just live independently without your parents restriction if you're already 18. :D (I'm assuming you're still under 18)

[@Martinplayssocfer12355CHI]

Nikki. You have no idea how much I needed to hear what you had to say in this video. Thank you. ❤️

[@ArtVaB]

I absolutely love this

[@techblogger8323]

Anyone remember when KZbin was basically coming out videos every week Uh the good old days

[@tr3xgaming807]

This hit right in the feels. I spent years pretending to be someone I’m not and I felt like I had this huge weight on my shoulders. As soon as I came out and started taking T my life completely changed and I feel so happy and free now.

[@wiltonya87]

This made me cry. For years it was a struggle to be out of the closet and proud. But I’ve been out now for 3 years and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I’m 100% me at this point. #biandproud

[@MyTurtleApril]

I'm bi and I'm scared to come out but I'm going to!

[@amandacogger3075]

Hope it goes well

[@MyTurtleApril]

Me too, Amanda

[@flowerfloc]

Nikki is just so nice

[@ajdean5121]

I just came out to my step-mom and she is so supportive and it makes me so happy

[@bobbygloria8528]

Dear, Buzzfeed I decided to come out to my parents in 5-18-18 during this moment I felt completely scrambled or cracked.I Felt extremely sad my parents tried their best to change me into what they thought was good for me but I felt crushed.I wasn’t able to change myself and I was afraid to do normal things that made me happy it made me sad to know that things do have bad cracks in them but I want to move forward to be the person I see and it’s been hard it’s been very sad I do hope that if any buzzfeed member reads this I hope they can change anything that scares them I just hope my future will be something with the words Happiness and Hope cause I believe that what a person wants to be or just thinks is what they think is happy then do it cause no matter what your happiness is your strongest mental power and I hope and wish I can destroy the walls that keep me alone and move to a future that is truly happy❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@sadiet3342]

seeing all the dislikes makes me sad. the lesson in this video also warms my heart

[@Zhyst]

Omg i feel so emotional

[@sarahlizette6124]

💖💖💖

[@sylvesterotte9740]

Mina Bae lol wtf

[@a1r9a9shi99]

I believe that what makes someone loveable are their actions and hearts. It never mattered to me what “box” they fit into or don’t fit into. I think everyone is free to have their opinions and beliefs, but everyone also has to be respectful enough and civil with each other whither you agree or disagree. Just because you don’t understand something or disagree, it does not make that opinion wrong! It makes it a different choice. Look up the word “wrong” and “different” in the dictionary-those words do not mean the same. I always say that people are allowed to disagree but no one is allowed to be rude, put others down, make fun of someone or be verbally abusive disagreeing. Besides, if you are so bothered by it, just respectfully walk away, look away..etc if you have to. You have the freedom, rights and a choice to do so!

[@juul3837]

I was a really violet, angry and restless teenager at age 12-14. I never struggled that much with being gay but I did struggle with coming out, afraid of what people would say especially in school and my parents. After I came out the violet, angry and restless side of me almost disappeared. I’m still like that sometimes but I’m in a good place right now and socialising with other people is going great. A few people have pointed out that Im more calm and able to hold “normal” conversations now. I really believe that coming out made me a better person.

[@aliendeamor]

Juul ❤

[@eduardbrodka7028]

"DO NOT GIVE UP"... Thank u buzzfeed

[@keliahc5854]

I’ve always felt very lucky to live In the time I do and with my family being accepting of it because I was never really scared to come out to my parents (the rest of my family is a different story and I’m still not out to them) but from a young age my parents told me that if I was gay it was okay and they would still love me the same and I think that hearing that from such a young age really helped to shape me into the person I am today. I’m so proud of everyone that comes out or doesn’t for safety reasons as long as you’re content with who you are that’s all that is important, it is okay to be gay

[@cassidyfranklin7064]

I'm 16 and out to everybody sexuality-wise, have been since I was 13 or 14. It was very hard for me to work up the nerve to come out to my family but I knew it'd be better to do sooner rather than later because I was and still am very certain about my sexuality. Overall it went pretty well except with my dad. I think it's very inspiring to hear other people's stories because it helps me connect deeper with my community as a whole, and gives me strength knowing that there are others who understand and have been through similar experiences out there

[@skylersmistake7584]

Im going into the wave of comments Pray for me 😥

[@yourfavouritegayshit1964]

Why is it bad?

[@yourfavouritegayshit1964]

I'm gonna make it big when I come out.

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

Aaaaand no one cares

[@bryangaytan8373]

• Emmai Nightcore • don’t worry be brave! Even tho I’m not lol

[@condeuiosandilixtos7858]

I'm nearly 27. I've never done anything with anyone, not even holding hands or kissing, because I didn't know what I wanted and, when I realised that I'm gay, I couldn't be open about and was too scared/traumatised to actually look for someone. I've recently moved out of my parents' house to a very far away town, and I finally decided to try a dating app. I've ended up meeting a guy who actually thinks highly of me, but I just can't do anything with him without feeling weird. I like his personality and feel attracted to him, but I fear that I've forbidden myself from emotion for so many years that I can't actually feel anything anymore. I don't even know if it's just my depression doing its thing.

[@15mice31]

I came out at 13 to my friends and 14 to my parents. I was lucky wherein nobody yet has thought less of me in the three years I've been out. It is a freeing experience wherein you can be completely yourself. I don't think straight cis people understand how much being closeted can affect your daily life and how you perceive how you should present yourself. Good luck to anyone who is on the road to coming out!

[@thelooker5476]

I'll do it someday 😃

[@reveranttangent1771]

Good luck

[@maxcontinue8732]

I love you guys

[@trybalwolf]

*gays

[@heytherejun]

+ gals, and nonbinary pals

[@livlyfe3272]

Before 2015 when marriage equality was passed, I had no idea what being gay was. I had never even heard the word until then. I have grown up in a very overprotected environment. It was an overdramatic sobbing moment in my theatre class when I came out. I came out to my friends that weren't in my class, and then my parents. I wasn't worried about what my mom would think, it was my dad I was worried about. He grew up in a conservative household, and I knew he'd be mad. He still is. Probably always will be. Am I ashamed of it? Never have been. Never will be. I'm proud of being bi. Proud of being open, and out of the closet. Am I still scared? Yes.

[@sirenaestrella4563]

my mom forced me to come out to her, and when i did.... all i felt was, heartbroken, alone, sad, misunderstood, and i still feel that way

[@twylaevans6862]

Sirena Estrella you are not alone. We’re here for you.

[@shabalabadingdong1761]

Why do most lesbians take the role of the typical image of a heterosexual couple? Why do they feel like there has to be a masculine and feminine partner in the relationship? Why don’t they both usually either dress in wedding gowns or tuxedos? This is what I think needs to change in how we present ourselves, we deny hetero-centrism but at the same time we develop these unnecessary habits. For gay men as well by labeling themselves in a hetero centric role. Like why? There doesn’t have to be a dominant and submissive role, there could be both of each. Idk just a thought.

[@rike2040]

Shaba Laba Ding Dong because they like dressing like that? Clothes don’t have a Gender. There are so many straight women who wear androgynous clothes and tuxedos and no one says a thing. There are many femme lesbian couples but people always think they’re sisters or best friends.

[@AllenTax]

rike Yeah. I was gonna say.😅 All the straight couple roles don't apply to anyone. I know plenty of gays who don't do straight roles & some hate it. They be just themselves.As there are plenty of gay online to KZbin couples who be themselves and don't do sex roles. Just a limitation to weaken, control the sexes.

[@doseofsweetness603]

Being gay was hella fine back then before christ. Everyone was gay before Christianity came in.

[@OnCamWithCami]

Dose_Of_ Cringe Your comment doesn’t really make sense, but God doesn’t hate gay people. And if a church or person made you believe that, they weren’t sharing God’s love, but rather they wanted to play God, by using judgment.

[@jessehall5569]

Dose_Of_ Cringe WRONG....it was looked down on back then just like today. Sodom & Gomorrah was destroyed over 2000 years before Jesus walked the Earth. Get your facts straight bro.

[@palomacardozo-willigs2314]

you’re right.

[@altuzarraok]

I came out to my brother like a week ago, months after I did so with my parents. He surprised me by fully supporting and understanding me.

[@MySnicker123]

Came out to my parents and best friend about two weeks ago now...Went a lot better than I expected

[@laura_2145]

Oh gosh

[@gmz1925]

Who is the guy he's so cute

[@melissam7]

Thank you so much for including Jen's point about people not coming out. I didnt realise until now that it was something I wanted and needed to hear.

[@Zawmbi_]

This makes me feel bad and good, I'm a 16 year old girl that my entire family made me come out. I felt so hurt, they told really mean stuff to me and even remembering makes me feel so guilty about what I am and who I am. They made me feel ashamed of myself, after they made me come out I started to be myself. Im starting to know who I am and what I want even if their stairs hurt me and make me feel so ashamed, after all of that suffering I can start being me. My mom doesn't know what I am or what I like, she just knows I'm part of this amazing community. I don't have to explain nothing to her. I feel a little bit better of her knowing.

[@abbyrobertson6234]

This is such a cute video

[@Emxfmm]

I'm sorry for not understanding but why is there so much pressure to come out?! Why does it have to be such a huge secret? Nobody has ever come out to me so I just don't get it that's all

[@maddiewierda]

EmmaPolly it’s because a lot of people still think that it’s a terrible thing to be LGBTQ+. Some people can lose friends, family, homes, etc. People also get bullied in school because of it

[@katrinaj.7348]

I think that in a lot of areas today, there is no need to come out and/or it is widely accepted and no one bats an eye. But where I live, for instance , it's a very conservative area and many people treat LGBT+ people poorly. When I came out , I had to decide if I wanted to sacrifice my reputation for this "stigma" of being gay. I knew people wouldn't see me as ME, but rather they'd see I was gay and treat me worse because of it. I didn't want to lose opportunities or friends or be treated differently for my sexuality. But in the end I decided it was better to be out; meaning , when people asked I don't deny being gay or when asked who I'm going to prom with I'm not afraid to say "my girlfriend". I hope that eventually it will make no difference what sexuality or gender someone is and coming out won't be necessary , but for now it depends where you live. Friends of mine are struggling with accepting me because their religion has taught them to hate homosexuals, and I have a strained relationship with my parents. Coming out isn't always good, but like this video's message says, it feels better to not be hiding.

[@agatkagrzyb653]

because society might not accept you the way you are

[@BM-ef4sx]

I grew up in a strict Christian house hold so coming it was hard. I came out in 2019 on social media as bi bc it was easier bc hiding begins the screen is easy. But someone screenshotted my post and sent it to my parents. I didn’t get to tell my parents that I was bi. They were okay with it bc at least I was still interested in guys. It is now 2020 and I am gay. I haven’t told my parents bc they say they say they aren’t homophobes but every time something gay pops up on the TV I can see the dissatisfaction in their faces and it hurts bc they know I’m attracted to women. But they don’t know I’m only attracted to women. We don’t talk about my sexuality and due to quarantine I feel like I’m suffocating. It hurts seeing my friends parents so supportive and accepting bc mine aren’t. But I do have social media, and I know there’s a huge group of people who are proud of me and rn that’s all I need

[@SillyWittleGoose]

Wow a video that actually informs and helps in a way from buzzfeed. The only one in existence here

[@NaveedShah]

like >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

[@mudflaps5686]

Dear Buzzfeed, Please. Please. Please take your company public on the stock market so I can use every penny I have to sell it short.

[@GeneralDamascus]

I just came out to my best friend and fiancé 2 days ago. My best friend was super supportive and trying to listen and be there. He kept asking a lot of questions to get a better grasp on who I was. My fiancé of 4 years was not so understanding. We have a 2 year old daughter and things were just miserable through most of that. I've felt this way for most my life and one night I told her that I thought we should break up. I told her I we could still raise our daughter together, but that I didn't want to be in the relationship anymore. I told her I needed time and wasn't going to come home that night after work and probably just sleep at work. She cried and cried saying that she would change and that she would do anything it took. She started talking about wanting to get married and be more affectionate, both of which she was against for the longest time. She started talking about going to counseling and really working on the relationship and I just couldn't let her go on so I told her. It was the hardest thing in the world I've ever had to do. She's still processing and things are a mess. I don't know if I'm mishandling the situation. I don't know what's going to happen. I was...am scared of what's going to happen. Everything is getting slightly better little by little but it's all overwhelming and I don't know what to do. I've yet to come out to my parents or the rest of the world due to fear of how the response will be. My sister came out years ago and my parents were horrible to her. I just know they are going to be the same way and I don't think I can take that right now with everything else that's just happened.

[@scumtardprime1838]

This video just made me cry scared yet happy tears... I came out as bisexual to one of my childhood best friends(& a bartender because I have a big mouth) yesterday, I've been in the closet for going on 10 years since I first made out with my best friend at the time so we could watch these 2 girls make out as a reward... He never knew how I felt about him & what that experience felt like for me because he moved away across the country, & passed away during both of our senior years before he could come home to visit where I was going to open up to him about everything... I'm about to turn 25 in a few weeks, & I've never felt more confident in myself after so many years of beating myself up over something that is so far out of my natural control... I don't know how my parents are going to take it because I've heard the way they spoke on the subject or people like me growing up & just had to turn the other cheek to their ignorance... I'm okay with being disowned though because even if they don't love me as a person living the lifestyle I want to be living I know they'll both never stop loving their son no matter what boundaries they put between us... Thank you for this Buzzfeed, thank you so much.

[@rubenvoets1647]

I hate the people who disliked

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

Ruben Voets Sorry for hurting your feelings, do you need to go to your little safe space?

[@rubenvoets1647]

Jozef Klemens Piłsudski wtf

[@slovakianmonarchist7097]

Ruben Voets Your not offended?

[@SangosEvilTwin]

Jozef Klemens Piłsudski It's more likely people who have an issue with this that need a 'safe space', away from people moving forward and accepting the reality of the world.

[@rhys87392]

you forgot to use 'triggered' and 'libtard', if you're going to resurrect 2015 politics memes at least make it the cringiest

[@virginiarogers7206]

Hi omg hi

[@laura_2145]

Virginia Rogers 😂

[@tanu2175]

Hi Virginia rogers😘

[@sarahlizette6124]

Jaja hi!

[@itz_kale7791]

I always thought my family knew and were just waiting for me to say something. Turns out they really didn't want to know. I Hope they will come around. Don't assume people's reactions when you come out, it can be dangerous.

[@hansmex2116]

Finally came out to my entire family this year and everyone accepted me I feel so free and relief now I’m so lucky, now I’m catching out and making new friends, going out and living free, it’s a slow process since I caged myself all these years and now I’m free to live my life

[@esmediamond]

Please stop thinking that you owe it to people to tell them about your sexual preferences, whatever you do in your bed is your business and nobody else's. We have to deconstruct this whole notion of having to come out, as if you're in the closet stuck in a miserable life without anybody knowing what you do sexually with others. You can be happy without telling others, and letting this label define you

[@jessali_]

But being gay or bi or pan or even ace is so much more than who you go to bed with. It's not all about sex. People have crushes, people fall in love, and people want to talk about these things with their friends, siblings, or parents. We have to deconstruct the notion of sexual preference having everything to do with sex.

[@Yashtcm]

so how's the collegiate life treating you?

[@lilyvoon10]

Collegiate by that logic, straight people dont need to introduce their significant others, gf, bf, or finances to their friends and families. Since no one wants to know who theyre doing in bed with. Don't introduce your husband or wife to your family then.

[@dollysolon1236]

This is what I did, it just grew to those people around me. And it feels so normal, it made me feel normal. Not a single question asked, I didn't even have to say a single word. Now they're all here to support. 💕

[@AllenTax]

lilyvoon10 IKR. Should be saying that often to straights who don't get it.😅😒