Being Autistic and Not Knowing!

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[@OrijinaruBTC]

I sure am. Diagnosed aged 37 in 2010 despite countless reports since childhood detailing autistic traits so I missed out on all the support that kids get these days. When my father died in 1989 I was chucked in a children's home because they didn't understand I was having a meltdown rather than just being a psycho. Sadly I've had to put up with explosive personality disorder being on my medical notes ever since. In adulthood I was an ambassador with the NAS in the South West and got a lot of changes made to help and support autistic adults down here but sadly none of the things I put in place still exist as the local council cut funding. In 2014 I became the first autistic person in the country to be officially qualified as a football coach with the FA which I was very proud of.

[@SteveBott1963]

Great seeing this video. I was diagnosed 2 years ago at the age of 58, and like you, it answered many of the questions you had around why you were different. People don't realise how social situations almost crush you, and how masking makes it so much worse. Keep up the great videos.

[@Eddy-Hope]

Thanks for sharing Steve 👊🏻👍🏻

[@SlackHoffman]

I think i have this and I’m 56 ….i get the anxiety and depression and have diabetes although I’m in very good shape and perfect weight . I read some years ago that Anthony Hopkins is autistic and i also read that it often occurs in people with wide faces . I had a breakdown beginning in 2019 and I’m only just coming out of it. It’s been devastating. I got through the breakdown alone and without help or medication (i will not take any medication other than insulin) and i really have always known (for decades) that I’m different but fortunately I’m like you Eddie and it’s just not apparent to other people and only to myself. I really 🤔 need help but i think I’m going to have to see someone about it .God Bless Eddie ✌️🙏🍀🤙

[@Eddy-Hope]

Cheers mate 🙏👊🏻

[@philcarson6731]

When I got my diagnosis at 56 it was a relief and I stopped blaming myself for things that happened in the past,however I still feel upset and angry that I ploughed on for so many years without any support and went into situations that I never would have if i had known where I stood and the results of those environments and situations left me with a lot of depression and anxiety ,I'm hanging in there and trying to find my way

[@Eddy-Hope]

Part of the cure of depression and anxiety is to take responsibility for your own decisions and not to seek blame on others, even if you don’t want to. You’ll find it liberating. Your mental health suffers because of you, not because of someone or something else 👊🏻👍🏻

[@philcarson6731]

@@Eddy-Hope yep once I knew where I stood with my diagnosis I changed a lot of things .....and it helped

[@steventmpl1347]

I'm just in the process of being referred at 59. Watched some videos, done some of the online tests, all rings true. Reading what you said, I can relate to your comments. But at 59, it seems all too late. I had years of depression and anxiety, struggling with work, school etc etc... Massive breakdown at 50, now this, I guess I'm in denial but it all makes sense!

[@jayplays568]

Thanks for making this video, I have long suspected that I may have some form of autism but have never known how to get a diagnosis as I thought only children were diagnosed by the NHS.

[@annacross6370]

I didnt realise i was autistic until my daughter was diagnosed

[@relaxreflect5888]

It will be on nowhere near the same level as your masking Eddie but I mask my dyslexia, it can be embarrassing for me being around people when I have to spell. Even the company I work for (the name can be spelt in two different ways) I can never remember which one it is but luckily I just look down at my top and it’s there but imagine if the people I worked with knew I did that every time 😢it’s so embarrassing because I feel it would make me look stupid even know I know I’m not, far from it. So yeah masking, I imagine is something I do every day without even realising it. and i you where doing the same but not with spelling but how you are feeling, i can total see how that could become too much for someone. its great how you can talk about it mate, keep up the great work

[@Eddy-Hope]

Thanks for sharing bud 👍🏻

[@TheRanch4Life]

Thanks for this Eddy I can relate to everything you say. Im in Durham and have struggled my entire life. I have spent my life around animals and belive they have saved me in more ways than one. I just turned 50 in December and have been on an NHS waiting list for a secon assessment for over a year. I've spent my whole life feeling wrong and different but fingers crossed I will get some answers soon. Thanks again for sharing, Helen 🙂

[@Eddy-Hope]

Thank you for sharing 👊🏻👍🏻

[@SYoung-kk9od]

Eddy .. thank you for making these clips you talk to me and so many others on many levels. You are doing a power of good as it’s important we stop feeling alone and that it’s ’just us that feels this way’ and struggles with the things you describe. In your last clip talking about how stress & anxiety pushed you to retire early and this one describing how you have struggled with situations describes me!.

[@Eddy-Hope]

Thank you 🙏

[@Lonewolf__666]

What I hate is when Autistics say I have Autism, not I am Autistic. It’s like saying I have Gay, instead of saying I am gay. Saying I have.. implies it’s something you need to cure. And the other is NTs saying well.. we’re all on the autistic spectrum to some degree.

[@markr3140]

Keep up the good work Eddy! My son is autistic and we were very fortunate to get an assessment when very young. With an educational statement, made such a difference for his needs during school,not so easy when in his mid 20’s. Patience and empathy are key plus the ability not to push the social norms which isn’t easy at times, so we’ve got to adapt and adjust accordingly!!

[@Eddy-Hope]

Thanks for sharing Mark 👊🏻👍🏻

[@markmetters6506]

Thanks Eddie, really interesting

[@justinfletcher1882]

Thank you Eddie, not many around with your self accountability and honesty. Love the channels...

[@Eddy-Hope]

Cheers Justin 🙏👊🏻👍🏻

[@neilnicholas4028]

Thanks Eddie. This is a real insight into this disorder. I have spotted so of these traits in my son so will seek a professional diagnosis for him as a result. Thanks for sharing.

[@Mookiethedog]

Great information and video Eddy. So sad you had to endure what you did but great you found the diagnosis and are content today!

[@Eddy-Hope]

We all go through tough times bud. I’m not special but you’re right s out getting the best out of life 👍🏻

[@daveyhall]

Thanks for this Eddie. My daughter is going through tests now and it’s likely she has it according to the experts. Appreciate your honesty and candour

[@Eddy-Hope]

Let me know the outcome Dave 👍🏻

[@jerrysims6691]

Nice one Eddie. Love your part of the country - worked up there many years back and found everyone so friendly. Look forward to your vid on masking. I've had to mask big time in my profession and so agree how absolutely exhausting it can be. Have largely been self-employed and when have taken up substantive posts ultimately burn out after 18 months. I think the key to ASD is ensuring simplicity in how we work with minimal interference - too many overlays of structure or complexity do my head in big time. And don't get me started on micromanagement!!

[@Eddy-Hope]

Well said Jerry ☝️👊🏻👍🏻

[@tombain5665]

Fascinating and enriched my understanding of Neurodivesity. Thanks Eddie. I have just met a lovely lovely lady and that was really helpful for me. Cheers

[@Eddy-Hope]

Cheers Tom 👍🏻

[@davidmalarkey1302]

Excellent Eddie very informative for those who maybe and for those who are Autistic. I have a family member who is autistic my son in fact and he's 32 now and works full time so all is good for him. You take care Eddy.

[@Eddy-Hope]

Thanks for sharing David 👍🏻

[@jamesrogan1989]

Thanks for sharing Eddy. I do like these informative videos. 😀👍

[@Eddy-Hope]

👊🏻👍🏻

[@mylittlefilms7184]

I believe that I am autistic and a number of people have said they believe this to be the case. However, my GP nonsensed this, without carrying out and tests or even asking me any questions

[@willyb3463]

I spent alot of time around there as a kid, lovely part of the world, haven't seen it for over 20 years unfortunately.

[@mrchrismiller]

I really enjoyed this and your other videos on autism, I appreciate it might not always be easy to discuss this openly for lots of people. As someone who is undiagnosed as autistic - my Wife undertakes assessments as part of her profession and suggests I am definetly autistic - I can relate to what you talk about. Although it has impacted on some aspects of my life I guess I have been lucky enough for it to not to materially impact enough to meet the diagnosis criterea. As you say, it can impact people differently and not everyone is fortunate enough for it not to impact their lives negatively. I look forward to seeing your masking video. This is a particular issue for girls, who have more often masked to a degree that historically clinicians once believed only males could be autistic! Lastly, I think its worth mentioning the positives of autism. An ability to become a subject expert and to be able to be hyper focused on tasks are amazing skills that a lot of autistic people have which make them assets to organisations. And the creative industry (actors, comedians, artists etc) is brimmed to the full with neuro diversity. Viva la difference!

[@Eddy-Hope]

Great message mate and the positives of ASD is definitely worth a separate video 👊🏻👍🏻

[@owenbell307]

A little tear from me hear Eddy. It will be a big relief and hopefully my life falls into place once I have my tests. Probably waited a year now so not sure how long it will take. At the moment the thing that is getting me is what if I am not Autistic. I'm almost hoping I am at least then I will have some answers to my questions. If not I'm just going to be left wondering

[@Eddy-Hope]

Oh don’t get me wrong Owen, I’m not attempting to illicit sympathy. I’m deserving of no special attention. It’s just an interesting topic that is good to discuss. If you’re not ASD, you’ll just have to accept you’re a weirdo 🤷🏻‍♂️😃

[@marcusoreallly]

Honestly, Eddy. Our brains are so powerful. We cannot dismiss as some disability. We must see as a power. Many of the best managers of all time. They were intimidated by other events. Social media, sadly, has made things worse.

[@Eddy-Hope]

I have talked about it as a bit of a superpower too in previous videos. I don’t see it as a millstone 👍🏻

[@stephen3511]

Over the past several years a few work colleagues suggested I could be autistic. More I research the subject, I definitely exhibit many of the traits. This video is great and has given me some useful pointers in getting a diagnosis,

[@Eddy-Hope]

Thanks for sharing Stephen 👊🏻👍🏻

[@magscheshire8375]

It actually makes me emotional that they suspect as many as 20 percent of the population 1 in 5 could be neurodivergent and yet, society seems to still have this problem in adapting to that percentage and they feel they have to mask their traits daily. It is a super power really. Some can recite dates from times before they was born. Others can play music without any lesson or practice. That’s of course not a generalisation but an example of how gifted neurodivergent people can become.

[@Eddy-Hope]

I think the figure for ASD is around 1-100

[@magscheshire8375]

@@Eddy-Hope might well be but I think it could be more as many go through life not getting a diagnosis

[@Shithappens028]

Was good to bump into you the other day

[@Eddy-Hope]

Where was this bud?

[@IanEckert1977]

You Are Still My Favourite Newcastle United KZbinr Eddie Hope Son... Howay The Toon Army

[@Eddy-Hope]

😅

[@Cumbriamag]

I’m not the Author, I hasten to add but, to gain a great insight into autism - read ‘Born on a Blue Day’. Written by a lad with autism (Daniel Tammet).

[@neildavison7682]

Nice to have a bit craic with you earlier Eddie.

[@Eddy-Hope]

You too Neil 👊🏻👍🏻 video is out tomorrow morning

[@thegeordiefellwalker8878]

I'll just say I can relate eddie (would be to long winded if I gave details 😂) as long as we embrace who we are & keep on getting out enjoying our passion's we'll be fine 😉👍

[@Eddy-Hope]

Well said mate 👍🏻

[@akula9713]

South Shields has a beautiful coast line, beaches, coves, and cliffs. I guess you walked from South Shields to Seaburn, then metro back to the toon?

[@Eddy-Hope]

Nailed it 👊🏻👍🏻

[@keithhenson7500]

I was diagnosed at 28 in 2008 with asd.

[@Flukey_1970]

Yeah mate I definitely tick quite a few of those boxes and I know 100% I must be dyslexic with numbers I can not read strings of numbers. Yeah I have hear that from professionals that "we all on the spectrum" but they also did add that pursuing a diagnosis is only needed when the symptoms affect daily life that can be argued if that should be the case (Ii think that comes down to money). I would imagine there are thousands of people our age who were never diagnosed during school. I am not sure if there is anything that I could do now especially for a dyslexia diagnosis but I could have done with it at school as I was obviously terrible at maths. Interested in the masking video you are going to do I think I do that as well.

[@Cumbriamag]

You may have dyscalculia. Yes, it is a recognised condition

[@Eddy-Hope]

Thanks for sharing Martin 👊🏻👍🏻

[@raymondrichardson6061]

Thumbs up Ed

[@Eddy-Hope]

Cheers Ray 🙏👊🏻

[@paulos9900]

I've been on the waiting list for an assessment for going on 2 years now, while apparently the target is to see people within 13 weeks. As of 1 year ago there were 2700 on the waiting list for an assessment in the North East and 0% were seen within 13 weeks. I used to get letters every 2-3 months telling me I was still on the waiting list but they stopped doing those many months ago. I get a bit worried I'm no longer even on the list anymore sometimes.... Like Eddy I ended up on the waiting list after having something of a breakdown which I wont go into details about. Anyway, while at the RVI the on duty mental health nurse (not sure on his actual job title) asked me if I'd ever been diagnosed with autism and suggested it might be worth getting an assessment. He actually made a big point of saying that he doesn't normally bring it up so I guess he saw something that at least flagged up the possibility. No other professionals from therapists to GP's had ever brought up the subject of autism and I'd never raised it with any of them either but it was something I'd sometimes wondered about. Many things just seemed to ring true although a few didn't.... for example I've never really felt like my senses were overloaded by sounds or lights. I've done CBT before and medication and I've never really found it effective for me.

[@Eddy-Hope]

Aye, took be 18 months from 2019. It’ll be even worse now

[@mrchrismiller]

If a GP needs to refer you for a physical or mental health condition you have the legal right to choose the hospital or service you'd like to go to. Go to see your GP surgery and ask for the assessment to be done via patient choice. You can then choose a provider and you should be seen and assessed in weeks. There are a number of really good national organistions you can choose to get your assessment done quickly by. The assessment can be done online entirely (Eddie has accurately described how the process works) and you dont need to attend any physical appointments so you are not going to be stuck on any local waiting lists. This is a little understood right we now all have. My wife is an OT who does autism assessments and now sees patient choice referrals from accross the country as more people go down this route. Nobody should be left waiting for the help they need. Good luck.

[@jablot5054]

Eddy. How do get a diagnosis? I can't bring myself to make an appointment with a doctor and the tests sounds terrifying. Im at the stage now that im giving up work as i don't want to be around people.

[@Eddy-Hope]

Hi mate, as I explain in the video, your first point of call is your GP. The tests aren’t terrifying but they do need to be intrusive so as to make an informed decision 👍🏻

[@creativeproducer9035]

I wonder if it affected your ability to do police work and deal with the public. In particular if you have trouble understanding how other people think or are not good at reading social cues? Thanks for the video I’m very interested to follow your journey and learn more.

[@Eddy-Hope]

There were things I excelled at as a police officer, my attention to detail, investigation, suspect interviewing and dealing with chaotic and violent incidents. I’m also very empathetic with people. I was awarded three Chief Constables Commendations in my career. I wasn’t a very good team player, I micro managed when I was acting Sergeant, I couldn’t listen to someone and pay attention to my radio at the same time and if I was bombarded with information I would lose track. I also struggled to maintain positive relationships with my colleagues.

[@kevthedynamo]

I will have to disagree with you about your comments on nobody in this country being diagnosed with Asperger's. A former girlfriend said she had been diagnosed with Asperger's rather than Autism. She also suffered from high anxiety and couldn't hold down a job because of it. Nice to see a local lad on KZbin though!

[@Eddy-Hope]

Hi Kev, she may have told you that she had been diagnosed as Aspergers but there is no such diagnosis of that in the UK, unless this was many years ago? All of this was explained during the process and I’d invite you to fact check that yourself online. Glad you enjoyed the video Kev 👊🏻👍🏻

[@beltaaaa]

​@@Eddy-HopeI have to disagree with you on this one. I got a diagnosis of Autism in 2016 at 36 years-old. At the diagnosis the specialists said to me years ago I would have been classed as Aspergers but these days everyone is put on the Autism spectrum. Aspergers does still exist. It's just categorised different now. Chris Packham made a documentary in 2017 called "CHRIS PACKHAM ASPERGERS AND ME". Greta Thunberg has Aspergers. It's a part of the scale of Autism. Do your research yourself Eddy.

[@Eddy-Hope]

@@beltaaaa sorry, I wasn’t expressing an opinion. Chris Packham was diagnosed many years ago when we did ‘officially’ receive diagnosis of Aspergers. Greta Thunberg received an Aspergers diagnosis from a different country. We in the UK don’t receive a diagnosis of Aspergers anymore. We’re all ASD. This can be verified through your own research by checking with the UK Aspergers society and NHS

[@MichaelDJackson1958]

Hi there Eddy ... It's MJ here ... Big fan of your channel also have just added myself to this channel.. so I come across this video and it kind of rang a bell for me... Very insightful and knowledgeable in regards to what you were talking about... It's made me think that I may suffer with this and it probably would answer a lot of questions... About my upbringing you mentioned also about other forms like dyslexia and epilepsy which I suffer with... I think with what you said it's about time that I get myself ... Look at by a doctor or referred to see if I suffer with autism .. I thank you for the video it did help ...toon toon 🖤🤍

[@MichaelDJackson1958]

You've also mentioned about masking which I think I do... And I find myself being very awkward with myself in public I don't know if that has any linked to autism.. but just feeling very anxious and sometimes intimidated just being out in the world...

[@Eddy-Hope]

Hi mate, let he know how you get on with a diagnosis