Bertcast # 361 - Taylor Tomlinson & ME

[@rogerionascimento9080]

This interview was two years ago and I didn’t want the conversation to end. Taylor and Bert were so open and candid with their issues. It helped realize the things going on around me. I thoroughly enjoy Taylor’s material and how she delivers them to her audiences.

[@Lydia13778]

The amount Bert cares about her career and wants her to succeed and see how far she has come since then. OMG just amazing

[@MarlonOwnsYourCake]

Hearing her talk about how her mom died when she was 8 and it taught her not everything is safe and you have to be super vigilant about the things you can control just made me think Holy crap, she's comedy Batman

[@therocinante3443]

This is honestly one if the best podcasts I've heard in a very long time. These two people are so insightful and sensitive and just wonderful. This conversation really put some things in perspective for me today.

[@EDMTMLFilms]

Looking forward to Taylor's netflix special. She's hilarious.

[@taydiggs1623]

No she is not

[@gregmacsweeney7178]

@@taydiggs1623 get a life

[@kirkhambley8162]

By far the best podcast I’ve heard from you. Thank you both for having this conversation and choosing to open up to vulnerability.

[@stephaniemoss3497]

Taylor you are so full of empathy. I hope you find peace and success in life 💜

[@benkeyes5010]

I hope Taylor & Bert come back to this and see how they are both NOT GOING ANYWHERE! You're here to stay, and thank you for being so candid about mental health and struggles. Cheers!

[@tardisphotography4550]

I listen/watch Bert any and every chance I get. This is one of the greatest podcasts Ive seen. Bert and Taylor have a really great conversation. Thanks to the both of you!!!

[@sams3214]

I can relate to many things that was talked about through out the pod cast. The one thing that you guys reminded me is that I say “I love you” to my loved ones, because anything could happen and if something happens I want my let worlds to be to them is “I love you”. I love you both, you guys are amazing!!

[@ozzynomicon2817]

Comedians building each other up. This is amazing. I'm glad they're finally helping one another.

[@thedarkenergist]

Surprisingly candid and honest. Taylor's standup is strong as hell, and she puts on a pretty tough vibe. Very cool to hear her kinda be a regular vulnerable person. Great episode.

[@RyanBarsanti]

This really helped give me some perspective on my depression/anxiety, coping mechanisms etc. Thanks for sharing both of you, can't wait to see the special!

[@jessicagriffin614]

Thank you for having these conversations. The beginning about anxiety, although I have been in a very good place for several years, it just reinforces that everything I experienced is "normal" and the biggest thing that helped me overcome and process my anxiety is that I wasn't alone. Thank you!

[@loveystar78cloud46]

I love this podcast. Just two very real and honest people being very candid and open about life. No bs here.

[@KaiAndrew]

Here after watching her special on Netflix. Blew me away. New fan!

[@conor1423]

My dad was recently diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and passed a few months later. His cancer was caused by the brca mutation and Ive been too terrified to get the test myself. I came here to laugh with 2 favorite comics and was not prepared for how relatable this was gonna be. Thank you for sharing, it helped a lot.

[@drift13b]

I hope you got the test. My brother had a brain bleed from a birth defect. I was scared to get tested, but it helped me with his injury when I got a negative result. Please get tested, I wish you the best.

[@ktmualem]

I am so sorry about your loss. I hope you get tested. I know it is scary but it is better to know than to leave in fear because you don't know. If you end up having the gene, at least you can be proactive and be on top of it so that if something comes up you can catch it on time.

[@AirWindFire]

Conor1423, what did you decide to do and do you have any advice for someone who maybe facing the same situation now. Sorry for the loss of your Dad, losing a parent is insanely hard. My mum was diagnosed with cancer and died 10 weeks later, we hadn’t even come to terms with the diagnosis at that point. How blindsided we were was traumatic, but, I’m so grateful she didn’t suffer for years. Small mercies! Hope you’re doing good dude?

[@lalah9481]

Hey Bert and Taylor, love you both- Seriously, you both bring joy into the world and I personally want to thank you. You guys have helped me get through some tough times. Laughter is good for the soul. Something I’ve learned after years of therapy, take it or leave it, absolutely zero judgement. Anxiety is our body’s early warning system. Pay attention to the triggers. Practice your skills and tools to self-calm. Then just be in it. Breathe. Avoiding triggers does not work. Curling into a ball doesn’t work. Lashing out doesn’t work. Acting out doesn’t work. Coping can mean masking things you have to deal with (sometimes best to practice with licensed therapy). The underlying instinct your body is physically responding to has real world threats that are still there. You will waste an enormous amount of energy trying to push it down. Learning how to recognize the first signs of anxiety or active depression will allow you to keep it from spinning out of control. Practice visually identifying random objects around you. Speak them out loud. Touch them. At least 5 items. Sounds silly, however it can pause your brain long enough to breathe deeply, slowly. That’s one of my tools. Practice makes it more effective. Yoga is a healthy way to re-learn breathing. As you already know. It also gets you in touch with and in sync with your physical strength. Once you can see your triggers, therapy can guide you through steps to check yourself; reality checks usually means worst case scenario vs ‘normal’ or IRL true assessment. Get those things handled as second nature self care. Then exposure therapy can help for emotional and physical PTSD. This will open you up to accepting the amazing, beautiful family and friends in your world. Instead of focusing on all the scary things that go bump in the night or threaten your sense of security. Untreated anxiety/depression can lead to real health issues. It can also cut you off from emotional connection. Connections human beings need to survive. I wish you peace and joy. Peace on you and yours.

[@BoxerMom333]

Stop thinking about the age you'll get married, don't even consider it until you meet the right person. What a great interview, I really enjoyed it!

[@savannahgonzales9600]

Lost my mom at 20. Which I’m blessed I got to have her through my whole childhood. However, losing a parent at any age is life changing. And I never realized it could be the reason I always think the worst is gonna happen.. I never went to therapy. I probably should Lol. Love you Taylor. Can’t wait for the next special !

[@spartan8390]

Haven’t heard of Taylor prior to this, but after listening to her talk about how she is, I can’t help but like her. Very intelligent and honest. Plus she isn’t trash talking or gossiping, pandering, or any of that SJW shit. Glad to see things are getting back to normal.

[@jakobmorningstar]

I was a catastrophe thinker starting from a really young age probably about 5 years old. I wouldn’t spend the night at friends houses because I was worried something would happen to my family while I was gone and would rarely spend the night at my grandparents for the same reason. I was always worried about death and dying, and dying before I got to do the things I wanted to do. When I was 17 (11yrs ago) I thought everything was going pretty smooth (getting ready for some big positive life changes) when 3 months away from graduation my father committed suicide. Since then my anxiety has been on overdrive and depression has popped up. In other words Bert, you guys are definitely not alone in the way you think. I’m constantly coming up with backup plans in case something goes wrong, for example, since about the age of 6 I would pay attention to how my parents drove a car and how to operate it in case something happened while they were behind the wheel. My plan was to Getto the front set as quickly as possible and throw the car in neutral, shut off the ignition, put on the hazards and then bring the car to a stop and get help. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one out there who is that neurotic lol

[@mariyahanson]

you are so not alone

[@sikkinixxmc]

I used to do the same thing when my dad was driving! I didnt even realize until I read your comment.

[@emilyr1702]

Me too. I've always heard it referred to as morbid thoughts

[@bobrobertsNotUrBob]

100% Ive thought since I was a kid that if I didnt think of every possible negative outcome for a situation, that if I didnt think of 1 then thats the one that would happen. I now, still enjoy thinking of every outcome, not for worries sake but for brain training. Now someone will say I have an issue, and because of all my training, I can think of multipul outcomes (almost instantly) that'll help them. So it's become a positive thing, not a negative thing that haunts me constantly. If you are having issues of worrying about every outcome, just learn to trust yourself, that in that moment, that you'll do the right thing. I mean you have made it this far in life by trusting yourself and doing the right thing at the right time.

[@AndrewRoberthome]

I really like Taylor. She is very down to earth and knows herself.

[@kimberlyjackson1711]

Love both of you! Taylor really is great and just can’t be praised enough. She deserves it all. She’s so relatable! (She was lucky to have been on tour with great, respectable older men… it’s so unfortunate to have to think this way though.) Taylor Tomlinson has definitely arrived & is here to stay. Love your wife & kids too!!

[@Colin5Meadow3]

I've got all of this stuff you're talking about. I'm a blend between the two of you. Haven't lost anyone in my life too early. Felt invincible in college but now 27 and I'm not fun at all, living a healthy and relaxing life trying everyday to not freak out about stuff I can't control. Thanks so much for this awesome conversation.

[@kalmancaganteuber1306]

I love their chemistry.

[@nicotti]

19:38 Totally can relate. My dad died when I was 10 from Type 1 diabetes, I was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes at 17. Emotionally I was convinced I was going to die young too, no matter how illogical I knew that was. But I didn't get survivor's guilt for living longer, I actually dropped a lot of the emotional baggage, and felt relieved. Currently, I'm older than he was but have had diabetes for less time, I'm hoping more emotional baggage will drop off when I pass that age.

[@johnjiquin2406]

This episode was great. They both gel well in the father/ daughter roles. I like how bert is looking out for her and putting energy I to her self esteem. Great episode.

[@Thekeytolifeismusic]

Finding this three years after it airs and seeing the successes Burt predicted for Taylor is very gratifying. Nicely done sir. And what a positive role model and friend you are. Thanks for being a decent human!

[@je__.]

me too 😂

[@danahenry273]

My mom passed when I was 21 and I completely understand Taylor's thoughts on losing her mom. It is so nice to hear someone actually say the tough things. I have worries about addiction, but I worry about prescriptions from a doctor. I could never start taking something I have to keep taking for life. On a lighter note, saw Bert in Phoenix this weekend and the show was a blast.

[@AndrewDecriscio]

Literally at 39:00 you are talking about my biggest fear, which is flying.Then you stop and pause to say I wonder how many people are thinking “that’s me”. It’s like your talking directly to me. This podcast is helping me relax for the flight tomorrow to Ca . Thanks Bert. Maybe I’ll catch a show while in town. Stay up

[@davidsports2214]

Never listened to a podcast like this before, and I gotta say.... I'M GLUED! Love you both. Beyond the enormous amount of talent, I'm really digging these topics, and yall's points of view.

[@justinkirk9007]

she is a beautiful person inside and out

[@markbaldwin9701]

Hope you keep on having a lot of fun, Bert! I wish your podcast great success and a VERY long run.

[@jhsrecordsentertainment4972]

I don't know why I am just seeing this now. I have seen both of you at various times live...and you both slay'em on stage. What I want to say is this was an incredible interview & exchange between you both. Real. Raw. Honest. Relatable. Human. No pretense. As someone who has been in the music entertainment biz for over 40 yrs now (I am now 67), you both Rock. Stay true that honesty and Please keep us on our toes. Hugs to you both with a Thank You.

[@cindywatts6717]

Couldn't stop watching. Felt like I was eavesdropping on two friends just hanging out talking. I even found myself interjecting commentary when you were discussing Isla (sp?) and her independent nature. You two have a new fan.

[@andrewmcgee4307]

Everything you two talk about is 100% truth. I love it and you two are the best at what you do! Best podcast ever!

[@matthewkaufmann5164]

Saw Taylor in SF recently, so excited for her special! Thanks for having her on!

[@teetime29]

The amount of times I got goosebumps listening to this. I relate on so many levels. Thank you for sharing the realism of anxiety and depression. I’m grateful to know that I am not alone. 💜

[@rachele.o5187]

I LOVE her stand up Im glad you had her on your podcast! Thank you

[@ruralrebeltory7474]

Taylor, I so understand not being able to let go because I know if I do I will never be able to get back to normal. I still know that is true for me. Stay with what is good for you.

[@Runningdeering]

Thank you for having this conversation. The mental health stuff needs to continue to be a topic that’s safe to discuss. I definitely see a few of my anxieties growing up in what both of you shared. Y’all are both funny as shit, and I love seeing the other side of the coin.

[@jamesordwayultralightpilot]

Ahh Bert, you are my spirit animal. They say the star that burns the brightest doesn't burn the longest. I love you man. Take care of yourself. We all love having you around.

[@NataliaLampraki]

I love Taylor ! I have watched videos of hers on KZbin for many years now and I am always shocked how funny she is from such an early age

[@imastounded4376]

She’s so right. There’s a fine line. I’ve had my own battles with addiction & once I “let go” or “let lose” or whatever my thought process changed to why don’t I wanna feel like this all the time? Everything became extremely trivial to me. It didn’t make sense for me to pay my bills or go to work or basically live anymore. Looking back I see the insanity but while I was living that way I couldn’t justify doing anything “normal”, everything just became very unimportant & I lived my life as if the only thing that matters to me is how I FEEL right now. That’s a terribly unhealthy way to live. Idk why I felt like I should comment that, but whatever. I wish I would’ve thought more like her. 👏 I commend her.

[@DavesDimension]

Taylor is an amazing comic...i just came across her a month ago and im watching all her videos on youtube is is so amazing and you Bert are so awesome reinforcing her and supporting her like abig brother. #themachineforpresident

[@mrting8808]

Bert: “I want to kidnap you, get you to a beach, get you drunk...” Sooo not creepy Bert... 😂😂😂

[@SeanNelson1000]

What an insightful podcast, it’s just goes too show we all go though shit sometimes! 40:00 TRUST ME, WE ARE ALL THAT PERSON IN OUR OWN WAY. We are in all in this together. I wish the best for each and everyone of you!!!

[@bridgetwalsh6379]

Thank you for shedding light on all of our crazy prossesing tools and making being open and honest cool!

[@KITLEVEY]

Absolutely one of the funniest people on earth !!

[@aminkasraian8081]

it's great to see the issues that you have in life and just keep to yourself because you think you are the only one with it, is so common

[@BS-te3mn]

Bert practices yoga just so he can put his socks on without help

[@MidwestDankAlumni]

Isn't that called yoga?

[@krank23]

Here's a piece of advice I wish I'd been able to take to heart earlier: It doesn't cost you anything to say something nice to someone. Compliments, like apologies, are free. I mean, don't be creepy, but just telling people that you appreciate them and what they do and especially letting them know when they've done something specific that you think is good… It's the best. Supportive people are the best people, and building up friendships where it's natural to say good things to eachother is absolutely magical. Can absolutely recommend. (As a teacher, I can tall you it works there too. Not like dishonest stuff just to prop up someone's self esteem, but genuine compliments and recognizing when someone's worked hard and done something. Especially if it was something they haven't done before…) Yeah, I love how supportive these two are of eachother, even if Bert is a little bit more… overwhelming in his praise =) But maybe Taylor just needs it more. Anyway, seems like a very healthy friendship.

[@broknHaloCaz]

Great podcast. Talking about these things helps not only you two but ur listeners as well. Tks for sharing these stories they are inspirational.

[@austinlpeterson27]

Hadn't heard of Taylor before but got ticks to the Portland late show after watching this, can't wait!

[@drunkwizard]

i remember seeing her on a late night comedy show but didnt realize how gorgeous she was until this podcast! she seems so chill too im glad she found someone she "actually wants to be around all the time" lol i can totally relate. liked the part about stand up really helping with your mental health problems, wish you guys wouldve expanded on that topic more but still an awesome podcast!

[@kimmiemcworley7046]

We went to see her in Libertytown, outside Cinci, Ohio!!! She was terrific! I live in LA, can't wait to see her again!

[@NikolaiGazdzik]

Just discovered this podcast, really enjoyed listing to Taylor and you. You both are genuine and hilarious in your own rights. Cheers.

[@DroppingDaMike]

Bert + Taylor = Amazing show! My wife and I love your comedy!

[@chubbybehem0th]

I love her, she's gorgeous and so funny.

[@enolux]

This was great, Bert. Thank you! And thank you, Taylor!

[@MarlonOwnsYourCake]

I'm also always thinking about what could go wrong and what I could do about it but I feel like I'm laid back about it. I guess I'm also thinking about everything that can go right

[@philmartin3406]

When she was talking about losing a parent when you’re young and you assume you will die at the same age of that parent is so true. I lost my dad when I was 12, he died when he was 35 and the day before I turned 35 I was convinced I was going to die. Obviously I didn’t but I’m glad I am not the only one. I never thought I would get this kind of revelation from a racist podcaster. 😂 love you Bert love the podcast!!

[@scottmilligan1167]

Love Taylor, she cracks me up. Hope she performs near us soon. Bert, I feel ya on the daughter issues. Mine are now 19, 18, 15, and 14. Hang in there bud, it gets worse before they turn around.

[@bugkillintxn]

When you get up early for work and have to spend the next 1.5 hours talking yourself up enough to go to work. Gets so exhausting

[@Wiseeydude]

Thank you Bert! So glad to have been introduced to Taylor. I relate to her so much

[@user-me8cy4bn4j]

As anyone who teaches or learns survival, escape, and evasion tactics will tell you "everyone breaks in the end". Boundaries and expectations are supremely important to teach to kids, especially these days. Call bluffs and follow through like a golf swing.

[@redraven_the]

Bert, I love that you - more often than others - don't go for the "easy" guests. Meaning you also go for people that are not that famous and will maybe not get you as many klicks. And: You have more female guests on than all your friends. Thank you.

[@quintonwinslow9354]

She doesn’t use her being a woman as a punchline and the centerpiece of her act like a lot of counterfeit “edgy,” women comics do. She’s legitimately, genuinely funny and can make a anyone laugh, she doesn’t just play to one group or way and if you don’t think she’s funny you’re a bigot.

[@radcow]

Only just found her 100% real talent

[@RolandDeschain198]

I was 100% with you until "If you don't think hse's funny, you're a bigot". Fucking relax dude.

[@tigersunruss]

I just found out about Taylor in the last month and I want to see her perform in person.

[@wiaf8937]

I love all that "bertsplaining", coming from the heart. its so wholesome to see.

[@909outdoors3]

I’m watching this two years after it aired, I’m pretty sure they are describing me with the anxiety issues.

[@faithewallace5182]

I lost my mom at 14 and I kind of went the opposite, more escapist. However, when it came to my cancer, the vigilance came out. The being present thing....completely relate.

[@garethharris5521]

Seriously enlightening and necessary conversation on a tough topic. Nice work Bert.

[@stevegoodson9022]

Just watched her special, she really is superb

[@hipnhappenin]

2:45 I've been wanting to hear Taylor talk about her broken engagement with Bert. I see I came to the right place.

[@BloodFireDoom]

I want to hang out with her, she’s so cool

[@ZaurTheVikingSlayer]

this almost felt like an episode of Wife of the Party- in a good way!! great conversation here. keep it up Bertman

[@jacobbrown2483]

Listening to this podcast and then talking about feeling that panic and describing it I was like how did they find the words to describe that I thought I was the only one it felt like that I want to say thank you to both I know have words to tell others what's going on in my head that can make sense to people

[@nicoletoni3176]

Bert - maybe try telling Isla why it's important to you for her to tell you 'I love you' and how much it would mean to you. my niece has a very strong sense of self and really knows who she is and what she wants and seems to enjoy being obstinate (and hates hugs too - from everyone but her mom) - but if it is explained to her and she understands why something is important to someone else, it goes a long way. She digs her heels in because she wants to be right and get her way ALL THE TIME - she's not intentionally always trying to hurt people (sometimes she is...) but she's not a natural empathizer so it helps her when she understands it more intellectually. It's hard when you're a snuggly, empathetic person to understand another persons brain-wiring this way. hope it helps!

[@MrJoegotbored]

Just commenting so the algorithm pumps this one up. 100% agree. Communication is key and little kids learn empathy, they're not born with it. Teach her why it's important to you and, if she's uncomfortable with verbal affection, teach her how to share non-verbal affection, like a secret handshake or something. If you want your kids to learn how to express themselves, you have to teach them various ways of doing that. Once they learn, there's a decent chance that one of the things they'll express is their love for the people raising them.

[@marksherrick]

I didn't know a ton about Taylor, but she's really interesting! This is a different kind of talk than I'm used to from Bert, but this is a really good listen.

[@blackbanner416]

I first heard of her on one of those Netflix stand-up series things. I think it was the first season of "The Stand-Ups"? Anyway find it. She's fucking funny

[@alz5792]

Glad you love her she’s the best 💜

[@je__.]

greatttt podcasstt berrtt.. i love taylor too and how you end it to take her to see ur family ❤

[@alexgates7505]

My sister died from a seizure/aneurysm when she was 22 and I was 17. I can relate to all of this, except I'm an only child now so I feel extreme survivor's guilt and have had a failure to launch. I disassociate, but I'm also extremely neurotic so I always go straight to worst case scenario when someone doesn't answer the phone or I pull in my driveway and assume my cat will run under my tires. It's like Murphy's Law...anything that can happen, will

[@Johnny-tq9no]

So what if it's out of your control it's foolish to worry about it, it's almost like your embracing it.

[@jda671]

Night skiing is a great time

[@wileyjoyner5342]

I love this podcast. These two comic geniuses are so awesome and real

[@trumanquinn]

This is live footage of Bert trying to lure a girl into his van.

[@ruggerosmith1167]

trumanquinn probably for his sick aryan breeding program

[@johnsmith-vp3sn]

haha what ?

[@Fatherofheroesandheroines]

But he has candy!

[@Deshelton10]

When she said that she wasn't engaged anymore, Bert's face lit up a bit. Lol

[@nickapalooza861]

That is a amazing comment

[@dellam2195]

40:20 god this whole bit resonates with me SO MUCH

[@petedz1822]

" I want to kidnap you, take you to a beach, get you drunk, make you go awww(burp)" Quote of the show.

[@leanneharrington5612]

I was diagnosed with stage 4 Hodgkin’s Lymphoma when I was 20. I was misdiagnosed with a gambit of other things for 6 months, before I asked the doctor to just order some labs, or something!

[@juggalochef2399]

Only about 40 minutes in and this is seriously an amazing episode and totally helpful!

[@m.w.1402]

"Everyone feels that way. Everyone listening to this can identify with that. The idea that when everything is going right, you're like, 'when's the other shoe gonna drop'?" Fxxxing-A, we do, Bert! Good podcast!

[@michaelsmith1262]

I like the anxiety talk. it wasn't until recently that I learned that I basically have been dealing with anxiety my entire life. Now I have anxiety attacks though. It would be so nice to be able to live my life not inside my head all the time.

[@brocluno01]

Taylor, I dunno how to say this... Life is a gamble. The truck can cross the center-line any day and you are gone or a veggie. When I was your age I had just left the fire dept and gone back to college. I've been riding motorcycles since i was 13 and I'm over 70 now. I know while fighting fires I was trying to be careful in a bad situation. Ditto the Army. And almost always on a bike I'm looking for the accident that might get me, but I'll still crank it now and then. I found the balance when I was about 28. How much "edge" I could/can stand while maintaining a career, how hard I could hit a slope on skis (Telluride will help with your limits ...), but you are a thoughtful enough person to know when you find the balance. And that is how you live long and prosper - balance. Not too much stress, because stress is the one thing that will kill through inflammatory processes and other diseases. Some stress is OK, too much is very bad. You've got the mind and thought processes, and your comedy is giving you the alternative viewpoints to look w/o falling off the cliff. You will get there : )

[@cOr3t3ecks]

When she said "my mom and dad got married when they were in college. She didn't finish." The perfect comeback would be "well make sure you can finish with the guy you like before getting married. Sexual disappointment kills marriages."

[@colinthompson2462]

That was a great interview! Thank you.

[@kellybuehler5249]

Taylor is from Modesto,CA just like me!🙌🏼And I love Bert Kreischer!

[@icrawdad572]

Bert is great. Do not take health advice from him, please.

[@j_eezus_christ_bro_chill]

I crawdad this comments section is amazing

[@nthnppps]

I crawdad why? Looks don’t determine knowledge

[@jonathanf9129]

is it me or is this one of the best podcasts this month, first time ever seeing or hearing of Taylor Tomlinson. Thanks Bart She is amazing. stop being racist its unattractive