6 Signs Of An Emotionally Abusive Relationship You Shouldnt Ignore | BetterHelp

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Emotional abuse is a severe form of psychological trauma. It’s otherwise known as mental or psychological abuse; however these terms refer to the same concept. Unlike physical abuse, emotional abuse doesn’t leave visible scars. That doesn’t mean that it isn’t damaging. When a perpetrator abuses a victim emotionally, they use several forms of manipulation to control the person.
Abusers break down their victim’s self-esteem to the point where they feel worthless. When a victim believes that they don’t deserve love, they are at the whim of their abuser. The perpetrator may engage in name calling, shaming, and telling the abused person that they’re unlovable. Threats are a large part of the emotional or mental abuse. The abuser tells their victim that they won’t be able to do better or find love.
The victim often hides the mental or emotional abuse from friends and family because they are ashamed. However, there are some signs to indicate emotional abuse is happening. If you think someone you love is a victim of abuse, don’t ignore that intuition. Check in with them and see if they need help. You could save a life.
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[@happyhippie1133]

If you searched for this video, it’s a sign. I hope you have the strength to get out of that relationship.

[@mrsc4760]

Ouch

[@baoanhnguyen4128]

To get to know. You know sometimes we can educate ourself for the future

[@aswathynagesh8603]

Hoping ..so.

[@longislandny696]

I left August 22nd and he keeps apologizing but I keep telling him HELL NO! I gave him 1 too many chances,I’m DONE!

[@helahsn2860]

yes if u are looking for such videos it s a sigh trust ur guts feelings and act

[@jkraemer280]

It is so dificult, sometimes we get dependent on it and accept anything.

[@francesgracegragas5290]

That's the saddest part. You want to end it but you just can't and you don't know why. 😢

[@fgtbossboss5092]

Probably here comes personality disorder .

[@truthteller2575]

It's not worth it.

[@donnamariedavidson5065]

@@francesgracegragas5290 that is where I am at now. It hurts like hell. I don't understand why anyone enjoys continually hurting the one who truly loves them.

[@pragyapriyamvada8817]

@@francesgracegragas5290 same here 😭

[@katiejaynerothwell1135]

Six months ago I was crying my eyes out watching this , six months later I’m prepping for university to do my dream course 🥺💖it does get better I promise 💖

[@guinevereinthefield176]

It’s hard admitting that they are not the person you thought they were. The heart takes a while to catch up with the head.

[@forestque1531]

If I am brave enough to leave, I will never be in another relationship again. I can’t ever do this again.

[@cordinavillasenor2610]

I know it does feel like that right now. I pray u find someone better and worth your time

[@Ddeath.Eaterr]

Frfr I’m done for good

[@Kerrviii]

Forest Que same

[@avinabachatterjee]

That's the fear i am going through

[@shel0016]

Sometimes the most high may want us to be alone and grow that way or he has someone better in the works

[@lostintranslation3367]

I was emotionally abused - but I was the one who was looking up his phone and trying to find proof he is cheating and lying. Finally I found out it was true, but because of the gaslighting, I needed solid proof. Emotional abuser can make the victim act like an abuser.

[@ryanw2839]

In my experience, they don’t flat out deny ever having said something, but they reinterpret what they meant by what they said. This makes you feel like maybe you were wrong. But after so many instances of this, you begin to see the pattern of avoiding responsibility and gaslighting

[@guinevereinthefield176]

This!

[@khitai8227]

Yup they make remarks and comments and deny saying what they said and tell you YOU are the one being unreasonable

[@bayleaf7588]

This happened to me :( He insulted my family, mocked me, spoke poorly of my physical appearance.. and when I brought it up, he made it out like it was my fault??

[@teresa4645]

Absolutely

[@steveos5112]

my ex-wife....

[@chibzie]

Been there for 4 years. The moment he left, was the best day of my life.

[@kasumigyoubu9963]

i have learnt that emotional abusive people are so manipulative and it might be hard to identify them

[@fgtbossboss5092]

I kind of did but the problem is that u coming from a family where parents were cold manipulative and narcissistic so u trapped and u feel that u can't live without ur partner imagine you not free enough to think u good enough to get a normal partner if u leave one you already have

[@Bishop472]

I know what you mean. I'm dealing with one.

[@ShoJ369]

I agree with you, they hide their true self, until you fall for them. Then the fun starts, They seem to know who to target, so they are smart, manipulating, but smart.

[@donnamariedavidson5065]

@@Bishop472 I am as well. What do we do? It hurts so bad.

[@jessicakabelwelter2774]

I think I may be in one.....

[@HiThere-sc2jr]

Passive aggressive & emotional Shutdown/withdrawal, destroying Your self worth

[@wisdomislife8989]

Don't give up on life and the universe I know of a great man who helped you me fix my broken hear beat relationship and everything was restored to pormal in days without delay

[@Victoria_Fama]

I just got out of an abusive relationship ((((:

[@GS-st9ns]

lilly s Bravo for you. Don't go back

[@rashuharshu]

Lucky person

[@MeJustAimy]

same.. good on you

[@shaylatownes4417]

God bless ❤❤❤

[@ki11aqueen5]

Good

[@ladennayoung2939]

Generally what she described is a narcissist. If you find yourself in a relationship like that. Walk away from them immediately if you can. These people will literally drive you crazy if you let them. They will literally take everything from you.

[@mutiaraalnisa6454]

There's the point when you already now you already in emotional abuse relationship but you just can't get up, like hoping he could change, and you set more low and lower your own boundaries..

[@matthewcallaghan1512]

Happens to men to. We may generally be bigger and stronger however we have the same vulnerabilities it happened to me and I feel humiliated. Thank God I jumped in my car and left. Never have gone back. Withstood the abuse, the stalking, the hoovering, the manipulation. If I told you what she did you would be sick. It hurt like hell because I loved her but I discovered I loved myself more. The pain feels like death sometimes but I kept moving forward. The journey gets easier. Hang in there sister you can get through this

[@cristinahart1611]

Mutiara Alnisa thats me right now..

[@jackgoodings]

Yes, absolutely. And people don't understand this

[@frankmurray2185]

@@matthewcallaghan1512 Exactly. I'm one of those men too. It started out beautiful -- like a fairy tale. I genuinely thought I was going to marry her -- we even picked out names for our future kids! Five years later, she forced me into a joint bank account, would take all of my money, refuse to let me use any of it, forced me to do things I would NEVER do otherwise (but i did them, because I loved her). Among other unspeakable things. It's been two years since we broke up. I just found out she's marrying her rebound (they started dating a few months after our five year relationship) in two months. I'm bewildered, but also relieved. I dodged a bullet. I'm still healing, but now I know what to look out for and how to love myself. Thank you for sharing your story and letting other guys out there know it can happen to them too.

[@Bishop472]

I know what you mean.

[@blankfrankie3747]

I used to wonder why my relationships always ended badly, then one day I realised that *l* was the problem. I refused to believe it at first but when I started really being honest with myself I could see that I was dishonest, selfish and emotionally manipulative. It’s sad to think how many people out there are just like me but will never have the come-to-Jesus moment that I did, and go wrecking lives with no idea that they’re a monster.

[@lizkelley9852]

Just wanted to say that I made it out of a mentally and emotionally abusive marriage two years ago, and it was the best decision of my life. I'm with a loving partner who makes me feel strong and brave, and I'm thriving in my healing journey. There is hope-- protect yourselves!

[@bouncybutterfly7753]

What about neglect? It’s incredibly abusive!

[@sermonsamakove8323]

I wish I could find courage to leave 😭😭

[@JustineMfulama]

WOW THIS IS SO POWERFUL. I love the point about control. A lot of women think that it'S cute when a man is jealous and wants to know everything, but it can also unhealthy and toxic.

[@FreeRunful]

Hardest thing is believing yourself. Even as I listen I try to argue the point that there was good reason behind it, but there is no excuse for someone disrespecting you or making you feel crazy (gaslighting).

[@ryannavickas2266]

The worst part is that u know ur in one, but u love and care about them so much that u feel u shouldn't or cant leave them....

[@architadesai7876]

I didn't know I was being gaslighted until I heard the first sign. Also been threatened that they'll leave. Also been blamed for their bad behaviour

[@aybaybay5432]

Wow I am in an emotional abusive relationship. I’m too kind and caring to deserve this abuse.

[@ddddddd338]

It has been my experience that an emotionally abusive person will try these tactics on most people: they will test the waters with just about everyone.

[@moonaa4495]

Yes,this is true, it in their personality

[@viridianaavalos2353]

I got out of mine! Been this way for 5 years now. I couldn’t take it anymore he would even call me ugly names and cuss at me. I’m so happy and feel free to be out of that. Never looking back ✨

[@kumarlavanyam9904]

Excellent signs explained about Emotionally abusive relationship. Especially I agree the sign of blame from some persons. Instead of changing their bad behavior, they blame others that they are the cause of their behavior. Thanks for sharing.

[@therisoseroke353]

This is everything my husband is, this is my marriage described in 6 minutes .....

[@curtistinemiller1560]

It is so sad when a parent emotionally abuses thier own children ,I feel the best way to deal with abusive parents is the less contact the better,if a parent cannot treat you right why bother trying to have a relationship?.NO CONTACT!

[@astasna]

Try to remain kind and patient yourself, while respecting yourself.

[@natalieboult4726]

It’s the worst cause the child internalizes the abuse to their self esteem .. 😔

[@garrett5559]

The only reason is still visit home is because of our family dog who i miss soooooo much

[@ivanab6858]

The harder part is to get them out of your head

[@acharich]

@@natalieboult4726 💯😕💯😕💯

[@zephyrxcyrus]

It's tough, but more than anything it feels like a thorn removed from the side. It hurts, but the healing can start.

[@acharich]

Amen.. 💥❤💥

[@amiryoussef9291]

Nice video. You don't have to waste your life with an emotionally abusive person. You have to make boundaries and make that person respect your choices or leave

[@allisonbennett9209]

Cannot wait to sign those divorce papers.✒️🚀📯🍾⏳☮️ When you leave that's when you see them crumble. This man is going to need 7 lives to be forgiven. I bless you all who cannot leave🦋

[@firefeethok_tui2355]

The hard part is setting aisde the numbness that has insidiouly creepd in, so that you can make a sound decision.

[@dianaelena289]

Currently getting out of an abusive relationship with episodes of domestic violence. It's not easy. It really isn't. But I know that I have to do it.. For my own mental and physical well-being. Thanks for this video.

[@TheRosablanca1]

It's so hard to get out of these relationship for different reasons but I feel the worst is financial abuse.

[@lioydwilliams1850]

Blanca Rosas,hope you are not with a narcissist!

[@franciscaobar5611]

Thank you for this insightful video. I went through all of these emotional abuses in my marriage. I thank God everyday for giving me the strength to leave him.

[@lokendrathapa5839]

This kind of video really helps people to find out their actual relationship status and gives courage to get rid off such kind of an emotional abusive relationship.

[@skorpijabg1789]

Don't ignore these signs of emotionally abusive relationship!

[@saracahanin]

Sadly, not all counselors/therapists have the skill to help. I am a therapist myself, and have experienced the abusive tactics contained in this video, and have sought out therapy but despite quite a few attempts, have not found many therapists skilled in this area. That was an eye opener. Maybe a video on how to find such a therapist would help (I provide such help to my clients, but of course, I cannot help myself, such is the nature of therapy and human connection). This video is excellent and I have shared it.

[@maheshkumar4228]

Some of those signs I never thought were emotionally abusive. Thanks for enlightening me.

[@monausa4881]

Me, too!!!

[@robyndaniels1381]

Learn to be indifferent to these people. Not to care if they are in your life or not (especially important for parents or children of emotionally abusive people) so that whatever they say or do has no effect on you. Works for me!

[@amberm2777]

I just want it to stop...it's like a nightmare I can't wake up from

[@kklock9057]

This was such a clear description, free of anger for the abuser, just breaking down the pattern of behavior. This was the most helpful resource I have found, other than the support of my therapist. Thank you.

[@desertmandan123]

This video has just mentioned every trait my ex wife had. Controlling in all aspects...it's not always men who are control freaks,

[@ds-nb4ln]

Very useful video and nice tips! Extremely serous problem widely spread out. The truth is that really the victim usually hides the mental or emotional abuse from friends and family because they are ashamed. We should help!

[@jenniferfalalrubanga9936]

It is all so familiar to me.One wise person told me once that It Is important to be financially independent and have family support.

[@SnookOnTheFly]

I recognize the emotional abuse. The problem is that I’m alone with these scapegoats so nobody else understands

[@chiqui4212]

Emotionally abusive relationships become one of the worst headaches when we do not know how to detect it, the worst decision is not to finish it and have to deal with it. Great video!

[@wisdom47397]

Man! Do you know what woman wants? Be considerate, respectful and love her.

[@robertcampbell9946]

It goes for both genders

[@fgtbossboss5092]

Is frustrating to know that such animals exist

[@Bishop472]

👍

[@prithviroy4426]

It's not only for women

[@EdMcCornhole]

Quit nagging.

[@UsefulYoutuber]

Every sign exists in my relationship

[@aksharasonam3410]

My relationship wasn't good and I want to break up with my partner and I was in a doubt about him. But these signs explained helped me a lot. Now I'm very clear of my thoughts. Thanks a lot.

[@marciafab7]

Straight to the point. Excellent! Thank you.

[@therealflamelit]

sad that this behavior comes from the people who claim they love you the most

[@jisbinsanjose6231]

i am sure that you are doing a great job of helping people suffering from mental or emotional abuse by providing them with easily accessible online counselling. expecting more videos like this.

[@davewemmel7333]

It is really hard to find these signs and most people ignore these symptoms, helpful and informative video. Thanks.

[@ashleywilliams5256]

Happiness is within all of you, we are all big hearted people that deserve to love ourselves first. Make it a boundary to love yourself and learn to, it doesn't come easy. Get out of the negativity and create light. Don't ever let a manipulative person ever define you. Define yourself.

[@rosegregory7643]

Wonderful vibes ❤❤

[@supermodelatlanta1354]

She seems to want more help (helping us) than the clients do. Thanks for the sincerity

[@prabagaranravi4346]

Really this video helping people suffering from mental or emotional abuse by providing them with easily accessible online counselling. Thanks for this video.

[@whoswhoo]

When i told my therapist about my brorthers abusive controlling behaviour she told me that i still needed him in my life as i had no other person to turn to . He was abusive precisely because he knew how dependent i was on him for social interaction .i ditched the therapist and my brother and got my self respect back and a huge feeling of relief . Some people offering therapy are unqualified for thir job but keep taking your money anyway .

[@jamesfallon5278]

I'm glad I now know the signs of this and will look out for it in future, great video.

[@luissaade2305]

What a quite interesting and informative video I have found! This video shows really possible situations that happen in the lives of all people sometimes. Emotionally abusive relationships become one of the worst headaches when we do not know how to detect it, the worst decision is not to finish it and have to deal with it. Thanks for sharing this helpful video with us! I'll be looking forward to watch your next videos!

[@izawaniek2568]

Great video, great examples, emotionally abusive relationships are so very common everyone should have access to such videos.

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Awesome video about 6 Signs Of An Emotionally Abusive Relationship. You gave a detailed description of this. Very informative and interesting video. Thanks for sharing.

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This video given a fantastic knowledge about signs of an emotionally abusive relationship. Thanks a lot

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Thank you so much for the excellent and detailed video. Will definitely keep your tips on mind. Expecting more like this...

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Excellent video, thank you so much!

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This is truly incredible content. I have overjoyed you are creating this type of content because it brings more awareness to these important issues.

[@voxer9554]

Useful details about signs of an emotionally abusive relationship. Thanks!

[@kenshin5670]

This is a real thing that happening on most of relationship. A professional counseling is indeed necessary for this kind of situation.

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you for concise and straight to the point advice.

[@mohithreddy3387]

I learnt a lot from this video. Thank you very much from heart. Keep up the good work.

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Such an informative video, that create awareness among us about emotionally abusive relationship.Really great job. Its really helpful to think again and make accurate decisions. Thank you.

[@Kronen9700]

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

[@delishajones3999]

The guy i was talking to had every thing she said i left on 12/4/2019 im proud of my self and i chose me and my lil girl this time no more controlling me im free

[@giannimiseria76]

thanks for the video! It is very informative and teaches a lot of thing about relationship! I will pay more attention on this point by now

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It is difficult to settle down issues relating Emotional Abusive in relationships, through this video i have learnt this 6 signs relating to this problems arising in relationship, overall thanks for sharing this important video!!!

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I'm impressed, your video came just at the time I needed it most.

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Really such a wonderful video, it is very useful to me to handle some wrong relationship to rid of.

[@SerbSimulator]

These signs are a must watch if you want a relationship, you can prevent much harm if you notice any of these!

[@RekhaKumari]

It is very necessary to take action against such emotional abusive people. Ignorance create problems in future.

[@FT10DDR16]

wow this is really helpfull. thanks so much for that video. i dont want anybody manipulating me so this can really be usefull for people who are in position like this.

[@EDIKITPRODUCTIONS]

Thank you so much for posting this video

[@loveflickx369]

I have been in one and I didn’t even reliase it I’m embarrassed to say as he had me convinced it was all me and I needed professional help...and I was really convinced it was me too ! If I took a step out of his line he would leave me for days and block me , refuse rent owed if I got him angry and control with money , threaten to leave me if I didn’t let him be right..and would make out it was me with the problems and I believed it was me . I still love him weirdly it’s like an addiction but I don’t think I could go back as he won’t accept his behaviour or acknowledge it . It’s been 4 weeks since we split up and it’s hard I would usually beg him back and give him emotional control of me but no more I can’t . Thankyou for this video ❤️

[@fabitsok]

We have to be very careful and know the people who are around us, this video is really helpful in detecting short-term problems

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this is very useful video for youngsters. I appreciate that you made a video on this topic

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[@lightworker5720]

Thanks for your advice,spot on..

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I never knew about these 6 signs. Well, now I will be aware of them for sure!

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Its a great, useful and informative video about how to cope with emotionally abusive relationships. Thanks.

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very useful advices ! Thank you

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Great video, those are definitely signs of an emotionally abusive relationship!

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