Black Men Are Dating Outside Their Race Because Black Women Don't Choose Good Men?

[@lilangel646]

I've personally always been attracted to the "nerds" - I'm a sapiosexual and love an intelligent man! But even some of the nerds/academic types behave like the Pookies and Ray Rays when it comes to relationships and how they treat women. Just my experience and what I've witnessed. I now acknowledge that dogs come in many breeds...

[@moniquem1873]

Right. Most people don't understand that the nerdy type still desire to be bad in some ways which makes it harder for women to choose a decent partner.

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

My wife says I'm a nerd lol.

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

" I now acknowledge that dogs come in many breeds." Wow. I have to use that one.

[@BlueDude-cf9mk]

"Sapiosexual" is such a meaningless term. 🙄 Ladies have labels for everything. You like guys who aren't idiots. I call that being a mature adult.

[@BlueDude-cf9mk]

When most of the women in your race are single moms, it's hard not to date outside.

[@black_n5492]

Yes, single Moms who got themselves pregnant. What you mean to say is when majority of men in your race are no better than animals in heat sleeping with the first available mate and lack basic reproductive health skills, then you have a single mom issue because of the absent fathers.

[@bromack3]

@@black_n5492 Birth control and pregnancy termination is open to all women. Women "choose" to birth children. To say anything otherwise is just plain ol foolish.

[@KelliRocks]

@@bromack3 Women also "choose" which men they birth children for!

[@black_n5492]

@@KelliRocks then how come all I hear is women this women that. Shouldn't both parties be talked about? Or are you going to pretend to be so dense that you don't see how these conversations tend to skew towards demonizing solely the women?

[@KelliRocks]

@@black_n5492 When have the sole decision over which babies are born. That's why we should get all the heat. Having a baby is less of a decision to the modern woman than who she will marry. That's the problem.

[@stephenoyoko4143]

A lot of young black women would prefer to be with a drug dealer instead of a surgeon or software engineer

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

Intresting. Even suburban black women?

[@deniseeugene1852]

Not true. If you are referring to The multiple baby mommas only fans and strip club women. That’s what you are attracted too. Most BM are looking at the physical. Lol. It’s all good. Because BW are too. I think BM have always dated and married WW. Before social Media. Now social Media is opening interracially for BW. WM feel safe approaching a BW online.

[@jeanghrey]

You’ve polled all young black women in the world?

[@jeanghrey]

That’s like saying all young black males wanna be are rappers and basketball players, any actual studies to support this?

[@7reasons617]

@@deniseeugene1852Y’all have been having sex with other races of men for centuries. Y’all just don’t get married.

[@orcaunoo]

i feel the most unsafe around black men. period. from a teenager to now as an adult. family and all. especially the younger ones.

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

Why?

[@akendon7260]

@@perrykeshahwalker5321 She meant pookies that she had dated.

[@orcaunoo]

@@akendon7260 so i dated my family and people i dont know as i walk down the street? riiight. and y'all say women are delusional. hehe

[@markelraya10]

@@orcaunoo because when a group of BW walk everybody feels comfortable. And BW are super negative.

[@prolyfikentertainmenttv5925]

As long as she has your best interests at heart.. respects you.. does what you'd like her to do without any negative mindset or bad attitude about it, it doesn't matter what color she is. 💯

[@Itsme-qf4oc]

In uk mixed relationships are a normal thing, has been for decades!

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

I don't see nothing wrong with them; just asking a question. Thanks for commenting.

[@michaelb.3438]

Love Knows No Boundaries: Love transcends cultural, racial, and ethnic lines. When two people genuinely care for each other, these external factors become secondary. Interracial couples often celebrate their unique backgrounds, learning from each other’s traditions, languages, and customs. take care and God bless

[@ericahenry53]

I come from a two parent home but I was raised in a culture where everyone around me had a marriage mindset. As I ventured off the college and made more AA friends it was evident that that bm was really seeking sexual pleasures. I did end of meeting a guys whose parent been together since he was born but to find out they were just living together. I did become a single mother to his child but dating has left me feeling unwanted and less than because of my child. I still believe in marriage and sticking with my community but at this point understanding the true motive is hard to unravel. I never dated the bad boy nor was an ever attracted to them. I am more apprehensive to date a good guy because they all have broken me in one way or another. I have left it in God hands honestly.

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

I'm so sorry to hear that . My daughter is facing a similar thing she hasn't had a baby out of wedlock but she has had a heartbroken several times but guys who ensure that they cared about her both black and white. I guess as a father I'm trying to make sense of it all it just seems like it's a wild west of relationships out there. No me and my daughter's mother have been married for 27 years so that's all she knows is married people &married couples but she interacts with a group of males whose story isn't the case. Just keep your head up don't listen to these red pill people that tell you that you're not valuable because you have a child. When I married my wife she had two children and they both call me dad there's no difference between my two oldest and the two youngest. And there are still great men that find women that have children valuable. I hope this helps

[@peachyyy4eva]

No one can speak for all men just like one person can't speak for all women. But to be mature about it ppl love who they love and love was never a trend until social media. Before social media we loved and built because of what was in our hearts not for likes and views

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

Great answer. Thanks

[@marcwilliams3313]

Deflection!!

[@peachyyy4eva]

NAh you're just social media driven and society driven , I'm very grateful I experience life without others ppl narrative

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

@@peachyyy4eva Guys, please don't argue. Everyone has an opinion and that's cool. We all may not agree. However mam, you do have a point. I remember in the old days before cell phones and social media we used to meet people organically and that was great but unfortunately today, technology has interrupted that. I wish it could return back to those days. I think that there would be a lot less problems because I don't remember a lot of these crazy issues like today back when I met my wife in the 90's

[@peachyyy4eva]

@@perrykeshahwalker5321 I'm just stating my experience and what I have lived through. Honestly it's not that hard to turn off social media and go outside to meet and greet ppl. Most just refuse to use these platforms for entertainment. Life is still out there to create a beautiful world it just up to us as individuals to make that move

[@krista8425]

That's pretty presumptuous on her behalf. She must be speaking about herself. My family would never accept me dating someone who doesn't have something going on for himself. I think most people's families, black or not, would feel the same. In my opinion, most of the men in my family date outside of our race and the reasons I hear is because of the stigma society has pushed on black women. For instance, my brother said he didn't want to have fully black children because of colorism and he feels like a mixed child would have a better chance. That's what he told me. On the other hand, I know his and my cousins very first sexual experiences in middle or high school was with a Caucasian girl. I'm dealing with that again with my own son. This may be a factor as well. I don't think every situation or reasoning is the same. Generally, I feel like people do what they want, and no excuses are necessary.

[@pterodactylbull]

I don’t understand black men like that. Do they want to eradicate their own race or what? lol at this rate we won’t have many black men at all

[@r.walker7986]

Being a "good man" is great but you also have to be attractive, have chemistry, and have things in common in order to attract a mate.

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

True . But that can also leave you alone.

[@thomascuyler6262]

I don't have to be anything except a option, I don't have to except you or your Pookie kids! The chick that brings the most value earns me

[@r.walker7986]

@@thomascuyler6262 most men will only ever be a prize to women who are not prizes themselves...

[@JohnHoulgate]

I find it interesting that of all interracial pairings in the US, white man/black woman has the lowest divorce rate. Maybe Black women should consider the possibilities of dating outside their race, rather than commisersting over Black men who won't date them.

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

Wow. I didn't know that. I will look that up. Honestly I never really had an issue with interracial marriage marriage at all. The only issue I had, was when either the black man or the black woman will look down on their own ethnicity as being inferior to whom they married. As the lady in the video said that's called self hate when they do that and it's also disrespectful. With that being said, my older sister is married to an Italian man and he's one of the coolest dudes I've ever met.

[@JohnHoulgate]

@@perrykeshahwalker5321 It's not as common as other interracial combinations, and that may explain the low divorce rate, but it is a positive indicator for relationships. As a white man of mixed hispanic heritage, one thing I've observed about Black people (I'm 65) is that everyone has an amazing knack for individualized thinking, probably more so than whites. This is why I don't buy into the self-hatred tropisms we hear about all the time. People are who they are and love who they love.

[@karenlai8320]

A family member of mine is dating a white man. We are black and she never had the drama and chaotic stories like I do with black men. Her relationship seems normal.

[@alfredxavier5880]

The way I see it is that men in general just date whoever they see fit what they like just like how you want steak today and tomorrow a gourmet burger and the next day a pizza. Also I may want to drive a truck one day and later take a ride on my motorcycle. I don’t see why anyone should feel bound to anything or anyone. Whatever floats your boat but hopefully your not making a mockery of yourself and putting people down but just speaking truth on your experience without making a whole negative talk on saying one particular race acts a certain way. But we’re all here for a short period of time and we like to see what the world has to offer so why limit yourself on the people, food, culture, and experiences.

[@Hiphopfeevernewz]

I put BW first for a long time because I love them and will always have love for them but im currently dating out interacially from now on.

[@moniquem1873]

I must say, I've never been attracted to the street/bad boy type. Nothing exciting about it 🤷‍♀️

[@adamivey9103]

Yeah Right.

[@pterodactylbull]

Right huge turn off

[@NigerianCel]

lol

[@pterodactylbull]

@@NigerianCel if you think most women like that shit then you’re around some toxic ass women.

[@bendigiorgio2830]

Good stuff ! Thanks .

[@1dbhsa]

I agree with everything you said here. People are so brainwashed by social media and only want to go after what is promoted through those platforms just like back in the day tv and magazines used to do. The difference is that we didn’t have access to people of different backgrounds before as we do now. I don’t have a problem with interracial dating I have a problem with people who stereotype and intentionally date within or outside of their race because of their own self hate or prejudice because they rather follow than be unique.

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

That was the point of my video . People only promote the worst of the black community. There's plenty of great examples. I have several prominent friends that are brothers that are married to black women . like I said most of the sisters I grew up with, wanted somebody that was going somewhere with their life. That bad boy stuff was a phase. At least that was my experience

[@MICHAELASHER.]

The very term of dating outside your race, is messed up! Especially if you live in any major city. Since we're talking black men dating outside, consider black men are about 7% of the US population, the remaining aprx 43% are non black women. There no great geographical or economical ( meaning no men, black or white care about a women's income) divide in the Western world, it would seem for that reason interracial relationships would be natural. Also from my personal experience, there is no danger, of mass homogenization, as if that were a danger. I realize this commentary is for black women concerning bad boys, but when the repeated conversation of black men and white women came up, l felt my comment might shed a different perspective, since essentially my household is full of black men and white women and everything in-between. Oh, by the way, my daughters ( four of them, l have ten kids) never chased the bad boy. They, when matured looked for personal character, not even professional security, and they got great husbands of high moral character. Thank you

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

Love the egg head response. Lol😃 Thanks for commenting.

[@MICHAELASHER.]

@@perrykeshahwalker5321 You mean like Vincent Price, in the Batman TV show! Lol

[@imperfectlyperfect3961]

That title doesn’t even make sense in explaining why anyone would date outside their race! They date another race because one gender chooses wrong in a mate? That’s crazy 😂😂😂

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

Actually, I chose a part of the video where the original content creator goes into great detail of the black females preferences that's why I included the complete video cuz I didn't want to get a copyright strike and her video was quite long. So you may want to click on that link and she goes into great details on other reasons as well. But thanks for commenting. I like your answer LOL🤣

[@imperfectlyperfect3961]

@@perrykeshahwalker5321 I’ve been married 22 years and before that I was proposed to 3 times before my husband and I said NO because I knew who each of them were and probably still are today! I was abstinent and I prayed for the type of man I wanted leaving all superficial and monetary asking out of it! I prayed for the character of the man. My husband is PR. First and last person I ever been with outside of my race. It’s wasn’t race that drew me in. We met in Afghanistan and I Fell in Love before a single touch was shared of any kind! We could talk about everything and pray together. Which was different. I refused to date him until my grandmother (my grandmother could rub down someone’s history and their future and would be accurate, her connection to God was unmatched) approved, she fell in love with him too and it didn’t matter that he wasn’t AA/black! Love who you love and don’t base it off of race. You could miss out on your forever!

[@eljay3390]

I can't speak for all black men, I can only speak for myself!! And, I actually prefer black women, on the condition they wear their natural hair.. But, even worse than that, it's how they are these days that I don't like..

[@quinnbat]

They love evil !!!!

[@davidford3073]

Blk on blk love will always rule the day…… that other person will have power of you when the cops show up the job interview that credit score there family will say the (n) word behind close doors 🚪 😮

[@shorts26]

Bw have the same power to get bm arrested and jailed and they used it

[@markelraya10]

Not really, interracial dating has got up 74% with black men and 50% in black women. That black love stuff genz don’t wanna hear it.

[@ramonamron5194]

I was married to a black women for many years until her passing. Still, over 80% of blackmen are with blackwomen. So, black love does exist.

[@rb2546]

It’s okay to date outside your race, just be respectful to everyone. However, bm seem to go above and beyond as if they’re getting paid to try to harm innocent bw. That’s why I struggle to feel empathy for their struggle in this society. It’s karma.

[@okera424]

Who " we" pick have nothing to do with anyone else, it's how u feel about your " collective " self...everything for us is based on self hatred/ Mentacide...

[@originalanimation7487]

Here's God's answer that most of yall not gonna agree with. Ecclesiasticus 26:23 A wicked woman is given as a portion to a wicked man: but a godly woman is given to him that feareth the Lord. 24A dishonest woman contemneth shame: but an honest woman will reverence her husband. 25A shameless woman shall be counted as a dog; but she that is shamefaced will fear the Lord. 26A woman that honoureth her husband shall be judged wise of all; but she that dishonoureth him in her pride shall be counted ungodly of all.

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

No. I'm not offended. That verse makes perfectly good sense. The Godly woman won't be offended because she will be blessed. However, the immoral anything goes woman will be offended and will snap at you if she's called out. Thanks for sharing.

[@aslysa2277]

I have to be honest and say I’ve never been attracted to black women despite having black girlfriends before. I’ve always desired and found white and latina 1000x more atttactive features wise and feminine wise they are just more beautiful too me. Not being self hating just my opinion tbh and with how black women act these days ain’t no way I’d ever consider dating one again

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

Sorry to hear that but could you elaborate?

[@sau2949]

​@@perrykeshahwalker5321he thinks black women are not attractive, that's sad but it is what it is

[@michaelgriffin691]

I was raised to speak and carry myself properly by a very disciplined mom, a lot of black women were turned off by that , I was called an Uncle Tom or Wannabe, started dating females of other races, I can be me

[@lv2756]

No women is turned off by a man that carry’s hisself properly. Do black women often believe (as they are taught) that they don’t deserve a good man, a provider, protecter, kindness and love all at once..absolutely. And I’m not assuming that you are any of those things, but nobody’s turned off by someone carrying themself well. If you don’t believe you deserve something or it’s not possible to obtain than you’re not going to kid yourself into trying to obtain that, your going to settle. Many black women settle for crumbs because they have the lowest self esteem, their men often encourage this

[@pterodactylbull]

@@lv2756you know how many times I’ve been called a white girl in a black girls body? I still get pursued by black men but for a black man , i can definitely see where the original commenter is coming from. My cousin deals with the same thing i told him date whoever respects him.

[@r.walker7986]

That's never the real issue, they don't find you physically attractive...

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

Yeah, that can be tough. That’s why I intervened with my sons early.

[@lv2756]

@@r.walker7986 thats harsh habibi 😔but someone had to say it

[@karenlai8320]

I would love to be with a surgeon or engineer. They seem to like a certain type though with a certain look. A lot of black men i have met in my state have terrible attitudes and are only polite if the like the woman. They do not give off smiles.or friendly vibes. Only when they are attracted then i see the change in bebavior. I am black and black men are the only group of men from teens to 50s that i have encountered that will dis a woman in public for fun or to be mean. From my experiences if i ever had a chance again i would date outside of my race. By the way,i was married to a black man.

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

Wow ,sorry to hear that. But know this, not all black men act like that. Still, when black men and women debase each other like I've seen on social media, it sends a narrative that all black men and women are like that. Which isn't true. But to the hurting l, these narratives are true. Thats why channels like mine are trying to show people a different way.

[@yumyumb0125]

Your title says "Men Are Dating Outside Their Race Because Black Women Don't Choose Good Men?" How about Black women don't choose good "black" men. Other than that I could care less who a person chooses to love or date.

[@mgivens8844]

A color isn't the same thing as race. Outside of the Human Race what other race are you guys referring to?

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

Ethnicity.

[@mgivens8844]

@perrykeshahwalker5321 Still doesn't mean that we are all different races. Again, we are all part of the Human Race, yes different ethnicities, but that's not what they meant.

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

@@mgivens8844 you are correct but most of us have become accustomed to using race interchangeably with different ethnicity.

[@mgivens8844]

@perrykeshahwalker5321 I'm a manager, and usually, I catch people doing things wrong. That means they are not following proper procedures. When I tell them that, the first thing they say is, "I've been doing it this way for x amount of years." My response to that defense is, so you've been doing things the wrong way for this many years? We've accepted sayings that make no sense because we refuse to challenge the status quo. All I'm trying to do is to promote a thought process. Thank you for your thoughts, and have a wonderful day.

[@perrykeshahwalker5321]

@@mgivens8844 you're right. We need to stop using terms just because they've been normalized. I've got this bad. My pastor always says there's one race,"The human race." Thanks for keepin me on my toes. Feel free to correct me. Sometimes we need that. That’s how we become better. Thanks.

[@stoogie375]

so by their own accord, they're bad men?

[@JohnJunior-l9z]

I love white women.