13 Signs Your Man's Babymama Is Not Over Him (and how to handle her)

Uncoupling is hard to do, but when you add a child to the mix, some people can have a hard time going from romantic partners to just coparents. When the heart breaks, it doesn't break evenly so one party may be ready to move on and the other may not be ready to let go.
Stepfamily Coach, Naja Hall gives 13 sure-fire ways to tell his a mother wants her child's father back.
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[@phedelineprophete1134]

Sometimes she doesn’t want him, she just doesn’t want him with you

[@travelchic908]

This is exactly it. His ex tortured her first husband too when he left her. She does not want anyone but her to be happy and that is what drives her. I've watched her attempt to destroy anyone that doesn't agree with her (from schools, employers and even her own children). Some people are just sick and won't get help.

[@starsaber9631]

Top comment. The I don't want you but I don't want you to get with someone else 😓

[@orangeisthabest]

Owwwwww, you ain’t neva lied

[@pinsku-wh5ze]

Not one lie told here. Yes u so on point 🎯🎯🎯

[@lisastumphf9431]

"He is stuck with her for the rest of his life, but you're not...RUN, Run,RUN!"

[@globalsetdarkpool8276]

Exactly.....

[@Jafithagreat]

Why does he deserve that ?

[@danielrice6063]

Run, fly ,skate , swim , dodge and most importantly, pray. Don't stick around and plant a seed in something with spoiled soil and whom already has seeds grown.

[@julyfiedcrafts581]

Trueeee!!!

[@IAMNOTAYOUTUBER]

@@Jafithagreat it’s not about him. It’s about the woman not accepting the BS.

[@oshynblair7907]

I’m so over dating guys with babymoms most men don’t know how to put their foot down and I’m not here for it

[@desdior1207]

They don’t want to fumble the access to the box 💯🚮

[@pattycakers8189]

So true!!

[@gailainsley6939]

Yeah. They lowkey like having two women around. Any woman that doesn’t have kids, has no business dealing with a situation Iike that.

[@LizaBMarie]

Put their foot down for what? I’m honestly curious for like a couple examples because I am dating a guy who has a really crazy baby mama, but he’s really good with putting her in her place now, but oh BOY do I have some stories from a few years back 😂 that girl was willldddd

[@essenenaziriteyirmeyahu851]

The issue is this, most women don't know what they want until another woman has him. Then she watches him happy & growing with another woman. Many narcissistic sisters go through this. Play too many games, until the man gets sick and tired and walks away, into the arms of another woman.

[@ariane4043]

I completely agree with this

[@balenciagadior3391]

Everything you said 💯

[@claribelcenteno5358]

Sounds about right

[@PhaMa1002]

I’m the girlfriend making him happy and brining him peace and positive energy. She’s the bitter BM that made him stressed everyday with unnecessary arguments. She only want him because she can’t have him now. I’m over her nonsense! 😒🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Believerfearless]

Some of us truly don’t care and we want to move on and that angers the men

[@jrichieander6832]

My baby mom is why I am strict on my dating I refuse to experience anything close to what she was

[@Spokentruths725]

Sucks man hope you prevail through this. It sucks because the laws favor women in these situations.

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

All you have to do is wrap it up. It’s really not hard. Don’t have careless unprotected sex. Value yourself more and who you share your fertilizer with. Take it seriously.

[@jrichieander6832]

@@KurosakiLuvar01 We planned our child nothing was careless over here. People just change.

[@desdior1207]

Unfortunately having a spiteful baby momma will keep potentially GOOD women with actual self esteem away from you.

[@4kblixx]

@@jrichieander6832same bro

[@oshun2866]

Baby mama may also receive mix messages from the man. A reason to believe reconciliation is possible. Proceed with caution.

[@TheDudeAbides1998]

Oshun- that's why they are not to be taken seriously. They are just for fun.

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

This is almost ALWAYS the case. They are still intimate or he leaves things with the notion there is still “hope” to rekindle something. Men are manipulative af with things like this and is the reason I believe they get women pregnant in the firsts place; to Mark territory to go back to her when he pleases until she’s had enough and cold turkey his behind.

[@Ascendedqueen33]

Yup!

[@Loveparfumss]

Exactly this is very true 💯

[@nbee6217]

Yep, proceed with caution and be ready to exit with haste! She is not flipping without reason.

[@mrsdavies1984]

That’s why baby daddies are for single mothers to love. Baby mama drama is not meant for a chick with no baggage.

[@Spokentruths725]

Best decision i ever made was to leave them alone. Literally not worth it. Even if he’s a good one im sure there’s one out there with no kids whos better. Leave the good one with kids for a good single mother.

[@mrsdavies1984]

@@ally5451 If you single mothers don’t deserve baby daddies then who does?😂

[@iam3035]

I'm single no kids and I can't see myself dealing with a man with kids to much drama

[@Wiickked_Wiz]

Gtfoh

[@edithnotime4losers295]

GTFOH do you think even single mothers deserve this stupdity. No one deserves baby daddies that are still sleeping with someone else especially black women. No black woman deserves this headache.

[@shayjackson6072]

1: She tells him 2: cause problems in new relationship 3: tries to alienate father from children 4: calls at inappropriate times 5: competitive with ex 6: extreme dislike for stepmother that did not cause break up 7: brings up past relationship 8: jealous of his new life 9: Assaults/stalks you 10: Flirts with him tries to get his attention 11: always tries to find a reason to talk to him 12: gloating about life being better without him 13: Perfect coparenting until he gets in a new relationship

[@actually_tai]

That's the exact same thing she did to me and I got tired and left him. I'm still mad about it. He was my first relationship too.

[@w.d.2018]

@@actually_tai happened to me as well. You're better off without him and their drama. Live your life!

[@pinsku-wh5ze]

✅✅✅✅✅✅✅✅✅✅✅ TRUEEEE!! I just laugh at her . Talking ish like she knows me.

[@patriciaandsamuelmystaffyb3710]

Needed this! Thank u

[@nolwandlemkwanazi6627]

My advise to all the baby mama’s is don’t call,don’t text and don’t make yourself a fool. It’s really hard to be in this position,I know and you can act crazy because it hurts. The fact that you have to be a good mother and still see your ex move on can make you bitter. It’s not fair but life is never fair. Get down on your knees and pray to God for a better man,because you also deserve happiness ❤️.

[@gpotter1575]

Or stop picking no good azz dudes👍🏾

[@userofyoutuve]

The fool is the person dealing with it

[@Amarillo2012]

Amen!!!!

[@JesusandKui]

It's not about making herself a fool.. People should just accept that relationship sometimes don't work, it's just like a normal heartbreak except on this one you two have a child together.. He accepts to co.parent,please give him peace of mind and move on.. Because if you don't you'll just hurt yourself even more and you'll push him even farther away for being so desperate.. Men don't like that

[@CarlosGonzalez-qd6fh]

You Jus Don't Get On Your Knees To Pray For A Better Man 😩😂😂🤦🏽 Now That Is A Automatic Red Flag. Why Don't You Jus Move On And Build A Bright Future For You And Your Kids. Everything That's Meant For You Will Fall Into It's Place.

[@AquaDiLuisa]

RUN! NEXT!!!! Why would you want to get/be involved with this mess???? YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT!!!! #selflove #putyourselffirst

[@Ascendedqueen33]

I have to it’s just so painful when u built a life with the person smh

[@cutlyfe]

You should do signs that he isn’t over his baby mama

[@kristinalouise009]

Definitely will like to see this

[@cjjohnson8567]

🤡

[@Theruccibanks]

Yes

[@Yahweh430]

You must be wat she is talking bout trust me he don't want you

[@njfecunda3589]

Yeah

[@Claymoreinurface]

My husbands ex asked him to take her shopping in exchange for sex. He said no. Then a few years later she left a relationship and started calling my husband just to chat and he allowed it to go in for a bit! We were married by then. Leave if this is happening. Save yourself the pain that I’m dealing with 16 years on. These types of exes don’t stop if your man has weak boundaries.

[@budrick2003]

Damn

[@tee_7737]

Never deal with a man who is not in his masculine frame. Weak boundaries makes him a weak man.

[@_prettybrownbrown7729]

Dam couldn’t be me sis

[@guapaholism9742]

You don’t deserve that

[@ayannasimmons3194]

If she’s not over him , that’s his problem and we need to subtract ourselves

[@taystee91]

This is what I needed to hear. I'm new to all this and it's always "the bm fault". I'm only 3 days in and looking for the exit already

[@ohmarscibby]

THAT LAST ONE!!!! She was totally chill with him til she found out about me. Then the devil was released. Lmao

[@bnicole0227]

Me .. all of a sudden she in my DM talking bad about him to me 🙄🙄🙄 .. smh lol

[@ohmarscibby]

@@bnicole0227 Thats what they do. Don’t let her get in your head. I let it happen unfortunately after so long of her badgering me and I’m living in hell now. I’m pregnant with him and she has him wanting nothing to do with baby and I. I hope she stays in her lane for you

[@OctaviaGraves-to9zt]

Exactly he talk so highly of her and said she don't cause any problems he can see his daughter whenever he wants, but now out the blue he wanted to see his daughter but his daughter was at his mom's house I guess his mother picked the child up from the baby mama cause she dont drive and he wanted to leave with his daughter from his mother's house now all of a sudden he tells me that his Baby mother don't want their daughter to go with him and she saying I hate you and blah blah and he was like she ain't never do this before and she doesn't know about you. And I know for a fact his mother knows I live with him does I been around his family i feel like she told his baby mother on some sneak stuff that me and my son stay with him but still sis he didn't even want the baby but since you kept it he being a man and taking care of his daughters now all of a sudden you don't want y'all daughter to go with him. She had to find out about me cause she was letting him get her anytime he said 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@tamikasalermo3482]

I'm currently married to a man who has a daughter from a previous relationship. I was young when I met him and didn't know how it really was, but I personally would NOT recommend it at all. I love him very much, and we have 4 kids, but dealing with the mother and daughter is a nightmare not worth it if you are young and have options!

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

Simp beta woman providers

[@shannane5171]

Don't ever get with someone with an ex wife. It's literal HELL.

[@Spokentruths725]

Or someone with kids from a previous relationship at all. Im 26 and still see how my mother loves to play on this baby mama role real hard even though im far from a baby. Always said men with kids aren’t worth it and my own situation shows me that. If he can’t regulate and put people in their places then just stay far away from that boy. Only a boy would create these problems for women and children anyway.

[@babyhandgrenade4004]

Yep I've learned that the hard way

[@tee_7737]

If he was carrying himself correctly as a man the situation would not be hell on his new woman. There is no way his ex wife should be causing you any form of drama. If his ex wife is causing problems it’s only happening because he is allowing it.

[@rushondabritt5478]

Sooooooooo true

[@iam3035]

Oh no don't tell me that I'm dating a man with an ex wife lord

[@eileenhenrriquez158]

You just described 9 out of 13 things my fiancés ex does. And its breaking me

[@tee_7737]

It’s up to him to stop her from doing what he’s currently ALLOWING her to do.

[@officiallykayanna]

cancel the engagement

[@Lena-so2lq]

All you need to know. Im 47 , ive seen the world. Engaged 2x, no kids. And no of my own family. I love my BF, but his ex has 3 kids, 3 different men. And its not worth it.

[@mikayacox3035]

Step 1) He has a baby

[@lekiaj2784]

Second step ) if you don't have kids 🏃

[@edithnotime4losers295]

@@lekiaj2784 3.) Third step if you have kids and are not co-parenting a 100% single mother on your end still run. That not fair even to single mothers to have to deal with baby mama drama and stess espcecially if the single mother out there is not co-parenting with anyone.

[@YamaraLoves]

Ladies this goes on forever and ever....children are grown and married, but their momma still can't let go.

[@Lena-so2lq]

Yep, and im too old to invest in the what wont be MY grandkids.

[@RareAr]

2 years I been going through this, the harassing, pop ups, stalking, stalking my sisters. I love this man dearly but I just can’t anymore. It’s ruining my sanity and could possibly jeopardize my freedom 😣 This pop up on valentines was the last straw. this video confirmed what I already knew

[@browngalbigeyes8287]

🥰🥰🥰🥰 strong women. 🥰🥰🥰

[@lyn9415]

No offense but this would make hell of a story time on YT.

[@SNUPE_FOXX92]

And this is EXACTLY why I refuse to date men with kids. Hell no. I don’t have children and I’d prefer if he doesn’t have any either, and ladies they ARE out there.

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

How to handle her? Break up with him. Not worth it because he’s clearly still tappin the ex.

[@kaynishaballet]

My husband told his bm not to call him late as a boundary and his baby mom got angry and she won’t let him see his kids. Every time she calls she acts like she’ll let him see his kids then when it’s time she brings up the past and starts cursing him out, cursed me out and wished death on our current baby together now she’s cut off all the way my husband is hurt but she’s disrespectful and won’t even let him see his kids she pops up every other month to do that so he changed his number

[@monica106ful]

Lol Im watching this videos but my boyfriend don’t even have a baby mama and my boyfriend don’t even exist 🤣🤣🤣

[@cantecante2410]

Lmao

[@MoDavI-sl7iy]

😂😀🤣

[@sam5687]

Want one? ✋

[@niadmichelle]

😭😂😂😂

[@Alex-pn9hp]

8 months ago I didnt know I'd be lmfao to this comment 😂

[@incognegro2315]

At the end of the day, every woman wants to be #1.

[@yasminejordan3243]

First it was my boyfriend and his daughter taking a family trip together... somehow now his baby mama wants to come... Puerto Rico 5 days.. without me... he said “will smith” does it... lol you’re not will smith tho... I respectfully bowed out of that... I already knew what drama that was going to do in my life and mental health....

[@Spokentruths725]

Yes not worth it and yea hes not Will smith. I never went on a vacation with my mom and dad being separated. It’s inappropriate regardless of children or not. A lot of people use their kids as an excuse to act like children themselves.

[@TheDudeAbides1998]

Yasmine Jordan- probably still getting that. Good move.

[@gailainsley6939]

Smh. Bringing up Will Smith. Who does he think he is? 😅😴

[@Amarillo2012]

Be careful which of this advice you believe, you never know what that man is telling his children's mom when you're not with him. She not acting that way for no reason Hunnay...and it isn't always bc she wants him or to bother anyone--things aren't always what they seem. I would say practice grace, patience and respect as much as yourself is involved. If he has right intentions toward you, then he will make sure any issues are resolved openly, thoroughly, peacefully without it harming the kids or sowing discord between adults. I think when all this is happening, it's bc he secretly trying to have his cake & eat it.🤷🏽‍♀️

[@ogbonnayaogbu3529]

Hello do you need help why don’t you try dr oba he was the one that help me get my ex Back

[@ogbonnayaogbu3529]

Whatzapp

[@ogbonnayaogbu3529]

[phone]

[@shawnshawn1366]

No, they are really that fucked up. I can tell you never dated someone with kids. Jealous baby mommas are no joke. And 9999 percent of the time it’s the baby momma. Not the dad.

[@ricgillis1280]

Great Video! NEVER Date, Or Marry A Single Parent! Don't Surrender To The Buts, Ifs, And "Ands" Scenarios! The Risks Are Just Too Plentiful!

[@ashabee2178]

Don't cut yourself off like that. Some people actually DO completely disconnect with their exes. Some are great people, just made a bad decision at some point and are able to move on. People aren't born single parents. Something happened to get them to that status.

[@logical-minds]

That's a very ignorant statement. Just because somebody is a single parent doesn't mean they don't deserve love. Most people don't choose to be single parents by choice their relationship between those two particular people just didn't work out. It's not fair to the faithful one of the relationship with children

[@JVOnGreenStreet]

Omg I’m dealing with each and everyone of these things. I just want my freedom. I just want to be happy with the blessing that God gave me. I no longer wanna deal with these women. I’m truly blessed to have my lady and I only wanna provide her with the best happiness ever.

[@wonnielee3407]

Set boundaries brother that's the only way my man and I persevered through silly BM DRAMA

[@desdior1207]

And realistically how are you going to do that?

[@babyhandgrenade4004]

This is exactly what I go through with my son's father's ex. He has three children with her and she is the queen of stomping boundaries and not caring that he has moved on. She has made it clear to me that she hates me simply because I'm with him. She's constantly texting him about stuff that has nothing to do with their kids. I'm fed up with feeling like there's another woman in my relationship and I've told him either he handles it or I'm gone.

[@asiarn4272]

Goin through the same thing

[@noopie26]

Going through the exact same thing also! Like when does it stop! Like I’m about to call it quits

[@lindatallon4036]

You chose him. End of story.

[@eyllieprecious4704]

Same here❤️❤️. She comes to his house and he hides me when she’s here to pick up her baby’s stuff

[@thelookout5802]

@@eyllieprecious4704 oh please. This man of yours is still dealing with her...

[@jackiewilliams11]

Thank you for this. My man is coming over for a longggggg conversation later about this baby mama drama bc I’m done. I’m going to have him watch this and if there are no changes made I gotta step out. I love this man so much but I’m tired of her threats and disrespect.

[@christinadukes6927]

Me and mine are having the same convo tonight. I was just gonna show his this video lol!

[@jackiewilliams11]

Christina Dukes I showed him this video as well. It helped out a lot. He’s got my back it just sucks because we cannot control another persons actions just our own. She disrespects everyone in that mans life including his own mother who gave her a car to drive and a phone... smh. She acts a fool around the baby too screaming cussing all that. We had a good conversation and decided that neither of us will engage w her at all and just let the courts and the law handle it... sucks it even has to be like that but hey she is making her own bed. He’s handling it the best way he can and I gotta support him and stay by his side for that.

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

Gurl you better leave him before you get GOT. lmao

[@jackiewilliams11]

@@KurosakiLuvar01 oh girl he’s long gone 🤣

[@Spokentruths725]

@@KurosakiLuvar01 thank you because I was going to say this. Take it from me as the child who grew up in this situation, these baby mamas never quit. I see it in my own parents and im close to 30. Its kind of sad at this point. This girl will be kicking herself years from now if she doesn’t leave and never look back. I bet my stepmom wish she did lol

[@marcusphilpot1376]

I'm about to get married in a few weeks. My sons mother found out when I am going to get married, she wont let me see my son and she wont talk to me when it comes to my son. She mentioned that if I marry my fiancee she will ghost on me and I will never hear from my son again. Plus I am waiting on my legitimation case. I even wanted my son to be at my wedding. I shouldn't have never gotten with her to begin with. Especially if they have a mental disorder and baggage

[@keoshadavis4130]

I went through the absolute worst babymama drama in history...he was still messing with her... Went back and told all my personal business to her and even showed her naked pictures of me...I will never date another man wit kids ever again...

[@AlysiaRidingDolo]

Literally going through this. This man was sitting around telling the baby mama that he “can’t stand” that we were fighting when we weren’t, told her all my business, and even told her stuff I told him in confidence. Reading his messages to her made it clear that he was comfortable with her having no boundaries and knowing not only his business but mine as well. Disgusting.

[@keoshadavis4130]

Woooow I'm not the only one that went through that....that's crazy... I'm so sorry to hear that and its like...why tf does your babymama need to know all of my personal business?? Niggas coming like bitches these days

[@ellenringer5236]

@@keoshadavis4130 Exactly why I divorced the last husband. He discussed my business with anybody who would listen to him, yet he did not tell them about the skeletons in his closet. Never tell people your business, especially a man who runs his mouth all the time.

[@GodisEverything]

​@@ellenringer5236Facts💯

[@desdior1207]

@@ellenringer5236well my ex told his bm my son was slow and I was crazy over him etc. He’ll never be able to be acknowledged by me ever again💯

[@Milla_cpt]

Run ! Run ! Run! 😭😭😭😭

[@lisastumphf9431]

Too late.

[@adhfinancial]

@@lisastumphf9431 I feel you

[@violetvillas]

Omg. You just described the struggles I go through with my boyfriends baby mama! Thank you. Thank you

[@shenika4103]

Me too. Same here. I'm glad I'm not alone.

[@tawnytirado143]

My boyfriend ex is s nightmare. She meets everyone of these. We now use an app called talking parents because she was texting and calling and causing issues. Even texted at 3 am. Don't waste time on women like this. Use the app!!!

[@Amarillo2012]

Thanks for sharing! I'm bout to get this app too, I'm the ex wife that just don't care to be bothered with my ex spouse no matter who he dates...perhaps this will work until he meets a decent mature woman I can trust with my kids a d I would rather deal with her instead of him.

[@audreydyann6035]

My husbands bm hates me since day 1 she’s hated me and I have never ever done anything to her

[@shannane5171]

As someone has experienced this.....its not worth the hassle, get with someone without a kid and bm x

[@josegrullon024]

Lol. You know what you do. Kiss your husband in the morning before breakfast and put it on social media so she can see it. Be sarcastic with your responses when you interact with her. BM going end up taking herself out 😂.

[@ricgillis1280]

You don't have to "DO" anything to make her feel badly!, as the fact that you're with him, is enough!

[@LifeasMochaBeauty]

@@shannane5171 that’s almost impossible

[@eleseclarke6038]

My ex's baby mum calls my boyfriend to help her with things around the house which irritates me and she says it's for the kids she knows that he will do anything for the kids.. she doesn't like me for no reason and doesn't want me around the children so my boyfriend has to separate his time

[@deadspacegrave2219]

Sounds like shes still into him and you should express your concerns to him.

[@GrindnRepeat]

Move on

[@omarcampbell5022]

Baby mama is getting triggered by my posts on whatapps... Telling me I'm fake in her personal opinion. I had to tell her I don't care of her opinion. S

[@rialee9789]

If he is helping her around her house,they’re still involved.

[@cantecante2410]

If my bf did that we would be DONE. They are still messing around.

[@ashleyrobinson4048]

Seriously needed to hear this, I recently married and am trying to establish a relationship with my stepdaughter and I’ve never experienced or seen this type of behavior. It’s disturbing.

[@lanadoyle7110]

Especially the habitual lies she tells

[@cantecante2410]

I'm engaged and its the same situation. It's so weird to me.

[@travelchic908]

Within one day of learning my name, she had her lawyer after me. These women are ill

[@faithk9787]

Anytime she contacts him it’s because she wants him to leave me so they can “be a family again”.(btw she has a new bf) Even if he was a single Pringle it still wouldn’t work between them, she a bipolar narcissist that can’t let go. Very frustrating that she has no respect for her relationships or the relationships others.

[@biteynibbles8444]

Eye opening. Thank you for helping me move on. He is just not that into me. I get it and step aside gracefully. 🙏💞

[@kadiva3429]

GOOD VIDEO...You nailed it! My fiances BM (not bowel movement) is unstable. Just as you said, she's fine as long as she thinks he's single but wigged out the moment she found out about me. She's not only not over him, but also jealous of me because i have my shit together and really don't need any dude to hold me down UNLIKE HER who scams dudes for a living which is how they met BTW. Now she has him in court with FALSE accusations of Domestic violence just because she has no other cards to play. Why can't she just be a REAL WOMAN and co-parent with him like normal mom's? oh that's right, she's unstable! I pray she grows up cause i'm not going ANYWHERE!!!!

[@tiarawilliams3042]

She's not jealous she will always be n the picture she's the BabyMama.

[@TheMuveTube]

My exact reality 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@starrystudio351]

@@tiarawilliams3042 Yea she's the babymama but that don't give her the right to act how she is to her

[@sprinkles611]

​@@tiarawilliams3042honey she is jealous that's why she causing drama.

[@dominique5562]

i'm bout to run.. this is all i had to hear! thank you!

[@miro11912]

Did you run👀

[@guiltymanners]

My step son’s mom had the audacity to come to the restaurant entrance to get him during a Father’s Day lunch before food was ordered! Another one, was when she called wanting to talk about how his friends are going to come over and to come play with them instead of being with his dad. I’ve never ever seen this before! To see my SO being treated so unfairly....gets my blood 🩸 boiling.

[@Jafithagreat]

My bm tells me my daughter can’t come for the summer because she’s on punishment

[@omegatanya]

I am so sad and frustrated. He can't see her manipulative behavior

[@Shabaka87]

It's REALLY hard to just "get over" someone you were madly in love with and thought yall would be together forever and have a family with kids involved. He never was really in love with her.

[@ogodosarah604]

*Hey friend I got my relationship fixed back with the help of a man who brought my partner back in 48 hours after many years of separation.♥️♥️*

[@ogodosarah604]

*Contact me for help*

[@ogodosarah604]

@十13316420065👈♻️🚻你好，親愛的現在

[@1trompet146]

These type of relationships are just very unnatural. The “stepmother” often resents the entire first family. Dad often has trouble giving enough attention to his children. Baby mama often resentful for abandonment. Children get harmed by all the drama and having to live in two houses with no one truly being happy. It’s sad.

[@EliseXO7]

All I heard was run. Yeah it looks like I’m single again.

[@rushondabritt5478]

I'm glad I came across this. This helps a lot. I'm the Stepmother and it has been pure hell.

[@ogbonnayaogbu3529]

Hello do you need help why don’t you try dr oba he was he one that help me get my ex back

[@ogbonnayaogbu3529]

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[@ogbonnayaogbu3529]

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[@beautifulsoulgirl8683]

This bought tears to my eyes. I’m a stepmom and I’m dealing with 12 of these. It’s so hard and I love my husband so much but she makes our lives hell. I constantly wonder if it’s worth it.

[@meandepiphany]

12 what? Babymamas?

[@beautifulsoulgirl8683]

@@meandepiphany no. 12 of the signs in the video 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@meandepiphany]

@@beautifulsoulgirl8683 Well you put stepmom and dealing with 12 of these in the same sentence lol. I was like sheesh.

[@WordzBig]

This is exactly 💯 % what I have gone through. My ex used our 2 daughters as a tool 🔧 to hurt me as the father and my parents. Money 💰 first and foremost, then when it seemed that the kids gravitated moreso towards me and their grandparents all hell broke loose. It caused the girls to be dysfunctional, confused, depressed..even affected there educational processes. It has gone on for many years. She got married and moved on , which I was so happy. But that didn't solve the issues at all.. I just want my now 20 and 24 yr old daughters to have functionally successful lives...

[@aaliyahsashabrookes7952]

Are you serious? Even after she’s married????

[@mcclamc]

@@aaliyahsashabrookes7952 Girl, some of them get married and are still bitter with the baby daddy and have a whole man next to them every night. LOL

[@aaliyahsashabrookes7952]

@@mcclamc Mam, a year ago I was considering being with a man who had children and was trying to research . Today I know better. I'm happy taken and waiting for marriage. 😩😂

[@meanttobe5161]

You are absolutely gorgeous .. makeup and hair is ON POINT

[@bigfacts5829]

child support do not make sure the man's get their visitation right they make sure you get the child support money but they don't make sure visitation right it's sad when the child get older they know happened why they Mama kept the child away from their daddy and they realize what the woman do with money

[@Pingvin666]

Ik even not discussing about the law which is 85years old

[@jas8471]

If a man has moved on to a new relationship without clearing his past then that is 🚩🚩🚩🚩 (several red flags). That man is still intimate with that previous woman. A man doesn't have to do or say anything and will be fully in love with his ex she just most likely had refused to take him back without him changing his habitual ways and that's when he love bombs the new woman and chooses her as his second option.

[@desdior1207]

This sounds exactly like what I went through

[@wonnielee3407]

My man's BM told him he could only visit his child at her home for them to play the ps5 there... ha! I nipped that right in the bud because there is wifi and electrical sockets everywhere. She got some act right real soon knowing i wasn't a pushover!

[@dallaspaige11]

My boyfriends sons mother is 13/13... pray for me 😕

[@feliciabelknap4181]

I’m 3-4 years in stepparenting and I’ve been called crazy abusive and followed to my car. And the time I’ve tried to have mommy time with bio and connect she brings up inappropriate questions and comments about the past. We moved state so I deal less with it but it is definitely boundary issues. I quit talking to her mostly.

[@adhfinancial]

Oooh Chile as a step mom bio mom did all of this. I screamed when you got to the part about showing up to the family events in scantly clothes 🤣 she tried it but I stayed home to stay out the jail

[@Vivienwestphal]

Slightly off topic but I have to say this 😅 you are literally the first person I've ever seen that looks STUNNING with green eyeshadow on 😍😍😍😍❤️👌

[@babyhandgrenade4004]

She's not stalking me but she has me blocked on Facebook when she doesn't even know me. I've never met her face to face even though I've been with this dude for three years because every time she comes around I'm not there but like I said in another comment, she's made it clear she doesn't like me. When I first met his kids she made the comment that she didn't believe he was with anybody. Now if she was over him then why would she ask that? I'm not stupid, sometimes I think he's just playing dumb because he doesn't want to deal with her drama or he's not over her either and doesn't want to admit it. Either way I'm tired of being disrespected. He claims he has to keep her happy social let him see his kids but I told him that there's free lawyers that will help him fight her and that I would even help him with it because he asked for my help. But I'm over this crap, either he handles it or I'm gone because I'm tired of there being another woman in what was supposed to be a two-person relationship. I told him that's sometimes I think he's really not over her and he just needs to admit it otherwise he wouldn't been able to her behavior.

[@phenitagomes1292]

Sometimes she doesn't want him, sometimes she's bitter because he's not doing his part as a parent. And so she's bitter that she has to do it all by herself. I understand that there are women that are still in love with their child father but I wish content like this would keep a space for women that don't want their child father, don't care who they go with or where they go but they're bitter because they have to take care of the child alone. Also I'm not speaking about women that have multiple children. Sometimes you can just have one. All you have to have is 1 become a mother.

[@Carriparker]

I'm fully in the middle of everything. You just said everything I've been experiencing with my new husbands borderline ex. You said things I keep saying to him but he isn't seeming to be willing to hear it and deal with it or accept it. It brought me to tears and gave me justification finally that all i've been saying is in fact so true. I don't know what to do. I've read and listened to hours and hours of podcasts, articles and books. you nailed it. Finally somehow who talks about the impacts it has on the new woman. I need more of you in my life. I don't know what to do next. It's been five months since our wedding and everything is crumbling.

[@ellenringer5236]

They expect you to accept the bull and I would not. Love on yourself and do not expect them to ever change. They will not. If he is worth the marriage, stay with him and do not allow them to run your marriage.

[@tamikalightbourne5051]

Be encouraged lady. Choose the best option for you!

[@andrewthomas891]

The business of raising a child!!!!! Brilliant Ms. Naja your wisdom will help not just reduce stress for all involved but. Whole lot of potential.legal issues and costs!!

[@hquinn8635]

I tried to co parent for years with my son's father but he was just spiteful. So when my son became of age I got him a phone so his father and his family could contact him independently. I let him be the father he wanted to be instead of pushing him to be the father he needed to be. For a time we had to co parent through our mothers. Then me and his mother got into it in early 2018 because they were upset I wouldn't let him claim him on taxes (His father pays no child support and doesn't help me with anything) it was part of an agreement that they would watch him weekends and summers while I worked. No point in child support if he constantly couldn't keep up with payments. And him going to jail meant I had no babysitter if his mom couldn't watch him. My mom had 2 yr old twins when my son was born. Then developed cancer in 2014. So I couldn't rely on my mom she had enough going on. She died in late 2018. So I ceased all contact with me but they are still more than welcome to contact my son. He's 16 now. He rarely sees them and he's ok with it. He prefers to stay home with me. So ladies you don't have to bitter. These kids know who do for them and who don't and they gonna react accordingly. Let them make their own decisions unless it's an abusive environment .

[@PhaMa1002]

Love this and going through this right now. This is my 1st time dating a man with a child. I just met their son and he called her via FaceTime for me to meet her and she had a huge attitude and hung up. Sent him long ass text message trying to say that he’s a bad father and he’s not. She turned a great weekend into drama! She does want to be back with him. She’s said that and he made it clear to her that he’s moved on and in love with me.

[@deerob0412]

Same girl, BM flipped out when he introduced me to his kids after being with him for over 6 or 7 months. But then come to find out her new bf met the kids barely a month after them talking. BM hits just about all of the numbers in her list. But I also don't want to leave due to the BM behavior

[@ctl6233]

How old are yall? Did he tell her he would be calling on face time ahead of time?

[@thevudolady6775]

My husband BM is definitely bitter as soon as she found out about me she withheld the baby she found me on fb and tried to tell me about their sexual stories then just a week ago she came to his mom house to fight me but claims she don't want him like girl idk you then wtf is wrong with u

[@keturahholmes2070]

Everything you said is what my fiancé bms are ! But same time bio parents should mature adults when their is kids involved ! It’s absolutely hard dating a man with kids ! I just know if it was vice versa that I wouldn’t like my ex be a problem to him or my family . Seems like it is both . Sometimes I feel men try so hard to ignore what she is doing but at the same time ignoring it causes more drama and problems . I truly feel like it’s up to the man to set boundaries and not let them get to him or his family head with this . Even with court order they try to make it extra . People say find a man with no kids but it not very rare depending on age . So many people have been in divorces or separated relationships with kids

[@ashleynicole8074]

I been thru this with my husband ex wife they got a son together... when we first got together she was about so much drama..and always said she wanted a relationship like how me & my baby dad was because me and my husband can go with the kids to his house and hangout without all the drama because me&him just want to make sure our son is happy at both homes..but it took her a long time for us to get there with her but we been working on it together now she will call and want to stay on the phone with me for a hr or longer..

[@GraceandGrowthjourney7]

I'm a stepmother bee dealing w this for 2 years. It got even worst when we welcomed our own baby last year n now expecting another. Literally she checked the boxes 1-9 & 11-13 🤦🏽‍♀️. I'm her #1 enemy bc I'm not like his other ex who they would get together to bash him n when she tried that in the beginning w me I shut it down. I defended him.

[@parisabram]

30 years later she is still acting up??? Confronts us in public. Their child is grown married with children??

[@Spokentruths725]

Ive seen this personally. Its a cop out to find a reason to keep the drama going and to seem like she still has control. As the kids are growing she has some control over the situation but when they’re grown she does not. Some become desperate and will STILL attempt to act in this role of the baby mama even when the kids are no longer a baby. Makes no sense to me but now I understand why a lot of baby mamas feel they have to deal with a guy they had kids with for life. When those kids are grown yall have nothing to talk about, but they actually want that security of thinking that giving him a kid means she will always hold a place in his life. Being raised in this situation i can tell you the most they do is 18 years and after that you really have no reason to call or maintain contact unless it’s literally like an uncommon unfortunate circumstance. If you still try to talk to your baby daddy about grown kids near 30 who also have their own lives, it’s because you want to. There is no need in that and you need a life too.

[@prettydamsel9237]

Waaaat are you serious

[@04Mrs]

WOW!!!! You just described my husband BM TO THE T!!! Unbelievable!

[@ASIAinsomniac]

You were on point, and straight to the point!

[@kingsatan6663]

My sons mother has been keeping them from me for months I filed for custody of my son even

[@Queenish2006]

I would like to know what it means when the baby mama wants the baby daddy to watch her other kids that's not his constantly ????

[@sarabrooks5487]

Omg I would like to know too smdh

[@somebody2474]

@@sarabrooks5487 Ladies the man has weak boundaries or she feels she still has a hold over him

[@rhonnieminnie]

My ex's baby mama is still not over him. He left me months ago and i spent the time healing. I finally got the courage to tell him i wanted my stuff back and I'll even pay for it. The baby mama interjects herself. She said he didn't want kids with me...or her 🤨....then called me petty 🤣. She was legit more pressed about me getting my stuff back because i moved on than i am. He left me and still didn't pick her. I finally get why he left. She would never allow him to be happy. But its on him for not having healthy coparenting and telling her all our business. Like sis, shouldnt you be happy im doing the final step to get him out my life 😬.

[@joannweaver9745]

I took your advice to run before I ever saw this video. I am very happy now😁😁😁

[@aaliyahsashabrookes7952]

How did you manage this? I’m falling for someone who is a father of 2 but they live cities apart.

[@joannweaver9745]

@@aaliyahsashabrookes7952 when you get fed up enough or cheated on you find a way to move on lol

[@tlr4974]

I’m dealing with many of these and my bm has married another man!

[@michellepalin4871]

Wow you nailed this I told my son the same thing she is always bringing up the pass and he has moved on so she pull his daughter away

[@colleenc.9900]

I can't believe this. How did I become this? Thank you for the wake up call. I'm literally the woman I used to laugh at. I'm trying to be aware. I'm actually the one who asked him to leave. What in the world...

[@skeledin5858]

I said all these things and begged for my baby mama to come back and she went out and had another baby with a friend of mine, destroyed my reputation, and has lied about me and my family and has us all blocked on social media. Yeah it fucking hurts.

[@ForeignJewel]

My man is so firm with his ex wife we don’t have any problems. I even have her number😅 only to discuss her son when necessary

[@slyfly4829]

My ex is so obsessed with thinking that I want to know about her life and that I probe for information. When In reality I could careless what she does. She messaged me long pages accusing me of this and that. It's ridiculous and I can't stand it. It never ends. It's like she's wants there to be conflict between us.

[@cj7girl280]

Baby mamas be crazy.... 😬

[@shanicrystal8671]

Trust 💯 I could make my own version of Netflix ‘you’ with regards to a baby mamma. Shi she prolly hiding in my bushes as I type this 😅

[@aalihayaallums6542]

My kids dad has me feeling extremely crazy when it comes to his new relationship and new children I felt like I was a bitter baby mama but all I do is try to communicate with him about our child she wants to be intimately involved with that situation when I already have a volatile situation with the father it’s gotten to the point where they both came to my house and both assaulted me mind you his girlfriend is completely welcome to come to every pick up drop off Exchange we have she has expressed multiple times how much she dislikes me and does not trust me so I allow her to come to every interaction me and my child’s father have

[@ctl6233]

may I ask how old yall are? I hope things have gotten better

[@realtalk6192]

All of this applies to my ex and went on for about 10 years. I remember hearing a court clerk say that they have never seen such a thing. It was like a nasty divorce only we were never married....smh Bitter to the core and still is and my child is 19....smh

[@greglj16]

Even though she cheated and she got caught up and she still have the right to feel like this man that's crazy

[@OUstillSUCKS]

I'm dealing with this my bm keeps my son from me but only pops up to ask questions like who I'm with and will I mess around with her. If I ask about my son she quickly changes the topic and ignores me. Now I had her served and we went to court I won't have to deal with this I only want to be in my sons life but she keeps him away from me. I CNT even buy my son clothes cause she won't tell me what size he wear or nothing. I have Christmas gifts from 2 yes ago still wrapped up in a closet he hasn't got. Its sad

[@iiam_liyha4127]

She still in her feelings don’t let her try to control your new relationship or you cause they will try it and can physically and emotionally and mentally mess you up

[@tiarawilliams3042]

But you still have to Respect her she's your BabyMama not girlfriend.

[@balenciagadior3391]

Yesssss his ex is simply bitter she has done bout all of these things grabs running shoes 🏃🏾‍♀️💨‼️

[@ashleysantos3979]

Facts . Everything you just said is straight fact , lived it still live it at times.

[@laronroberts1066]

Going threw bullshit with her now.

[@ashleynicole861]

What about the new partner who stalks, harasses & tries to cause problems with the mother because of her own insecurities?

[@aliciae24ify]

Thank what I'm going through now. Sometimes I just feel like cutting ties all together.

[@krisbennett6383]

I needed this!! Thank you.

[@rody3636]

I really needed to hear this ❤️

[@OUstillSUCKS]

Omg this is 100% true !!! I got attorney to help me see my son she got mad but everything you said is proof of my bm not overme. Plus she even stated that thru fb msgs which I used against her

[@Vagorim]

My baby momma has alienated my child from me, to make things worst she put a protective order against me the last thing she ever said to me was “you’ll never see your child again” it hurts.

[@rebeccagaston4359]

It hurts but don’t give up involve the courts and be responsible for your child

[@ctl6233]

Why

[@Curbsidehustle87]

Great video I’m goin through this right now with my child’s mother she move in immediately wit a new man so I moved on and she still sends I love u texts smh iv gone no contact except 4 keeping my daughter fully still connected to me

[@henna1435]

Could never date a man with children 😔

[@ronjayrollaz4774]

Dragon Princess not even a child??

[@henna1435]

Ronjay Rollaz nope , never

[@SarhaXimeliPaulse]

Never say never.

[@henna1435]

Sarha Ximeli Swanepoel I cant . I know I won’t , it’s just too much drama .

[@SarhaXimeliPaulse]

@@henna1435 Story of my life. I'm currently going through this. Married to a man who has 2 kids from his previous marriage.

[@camillenashtv2434]

I appreciate your feedback. I would have liked to hear you address the women that were #cheating with the man while married. Divorces and breaks up family. Then he leaves the marriage gets with the one cheating with... stepmother then doesn't want the man talking to Mom. Perhaps topic for another show. Many men play lot of games causing flooding, and hurt for the family they dismantled. The child should be priority at all times.

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[@blackaneesebarbie5331]

What about when he is deleting their messages but telling the first baby mama you have nothing to worry about your second baby mama. Smdh!!!

[@TyNTwanTheDon_]

Girl your hair is bomb 😍

[@bwhite9589]

My husbands baby mama is pretty evil. She hates me, was trying to get him back constantly, and now she’s dedicated herself to shit talking us online cause now we’re married lol.