Body Language of Attraction

Don't misread another signal! As humans, we have specific physiological responses when we're attracted to someone. It goes back to the caveman times and not much has changed since then, in terms of body language.
In this video, I talk about what both men and women do to show they are interested... romantically. See if you can spot these nonverbal cues when you're out there in the dating world.
In this video:
00:00 Non-verbal communication and attraction
00:57 Female Love Signal #1
01:42 Female Love Signal #2
02:14 Female Love Signal #3
02:56 Male Love Signal #1
03:38 Male Love Signal #2
04:18 Watch out for this...
04:52 ...and this!
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[@ScienceOfPeople]

Find out more in our full article on this topic: www.scienceofpeople.com/attraction/

[@playboy_noplay_musick1935]

I'd like to meet you 1 day. I think you're awesome. I wish more women were like you. I am a leader, but I didn't know how to handle the control and attention. I lost all my employees and friends 🥺

[@gordongreer2243]

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[@adrianaristeo4724]

Hi, you're sexy. I like girls that don't care about their image, Even if they don't look atractive, but they feel as they were. Attitud is better than be really atractive, i like your personality.

[@uncledeva164]

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[@Er.Sunil.Pedgaonkar]

Thank you

[@josephe620]

Vanessa is not only smart she's one of the nicest people that I've seen on youtube .. look at the way she's so caring and considerate to other people's emotions, in this video even when this man interrupts her she tries to fix the sitiuation and brings up another topic whithout embarrasing him .. while keeping on a smiley attitude

[@Son_of_aesthetics]

Yea I agree Cheers for mentioning

[@meditationfills5758]

You are simping for her

[@lionsden5123]

A true professional, and a master of her art.

[@paulao7022]

I thought when a person crosses their arms in front of them, it meant they're hugging themselves for comfort.

[@eb2129]

Hahahah true

[@amywanja2695]

I thought so too😄

[@stephaniesarahkelly4147]

This is true 👍

[@derrickmwangi2967]

They are protecting themselves and are defensive

[@banderas2000]

they are comfortable being uncomfortable

[@twes619]

Imagine dating her... Every movement and facial expressions she's analyzing. *Update* Everyone, I didn't mean my comment with bad intentions. I literally meant, imagine dating someone or her and they're analyzing you and you had no idea because they're pro level status and you're already at a disadvantage. I'm a fan of Vanessa's channel and what she teaches.

[@shirleycameron7718]

Shes annoying........

[@abelflexes2]

She'd be like a Damn terminator!

[@Huveto]

Ha ha

[@tbirdpimp07]

All women do this guys

[@jamesturner3968]

Forget about what she seems to be on KZbin. People really aren't what they seem until you get to really know them.

[@stephenwiley117]

I always find Vanessa so real and sincere! She is gorgeous with a smile that is simply incredible...but beneath that, she is so likable, kind, and caring. She has the heart of a teacher and I really appreciate that. I can totally relate to her and love her teachings. Her husband is one lucky man! Keep up your hard work Vanessa!

[@quitemundane]

She has this aura that makes you want her to be your friend, everyone’s friend... because she sounds calm and genuine when she talks.

[@richardpauly1635]

Your very 😍

[@quitemundane]

@@richardpauly1635 thank you

[@lindsey607]

Vanessa has a smile that lights up a room. Clearly, she has it goin on. A complete package.

[@camjames8154]

keep that to yourself lindsey

[@mcanna5115]

i was really annoyed by the all the interruptions they made when vanessa was talking!! it was very interesting and they only were making jokes that weren't funny.

[@shyrose2466]

Mc Anna I agree. like shut up and let her talk. I am

[@jasonfarthing6931]

Dudette. Chill. And the other 77 people. That was all fun and games.

[@speechless00]

It's because they don't want their body language reactions to pour out. hhehehe

[@dona4him]

I agree. This particular show sucks.

[@jawynn615]

OH my gosh! I specifically scrolled into the comments to see if anyone was thinking the same thing I was about that! The interruptions are SO annoying! Vanessa has such great content but these hosts ALWAYS interrupt her!

[@ciociosan]

"Don't point your feet at me." 😂

[@Evelyn-ux8rn]

Wow, I thought I was going to hear things I have already heard but Vanessa surprises me EVERY time! I learn new things every time I see her and it’s always so fascinating

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Thank you for watching! I'm glad to know this video brought value to you!

[@hyacinthdibley]

"....I know they're drunk, but..." HAHA. BEST LINE EVER.

[@svinjamaria]

*brushes back hair* "PLEASE SMELL MY PHEROMONES" lol

[@daia5016]

Lmao

[@ujahonyedikachi8041]

Svinja I love your smile from Africa 😁😂

[@trje246]

isn't that when an ancient Egyptian steps on lego??? ...wait, no that's a _pharaoh moan_ ...nm mb ;o)

[@rahulthukaram]

whats funny in that??

[@RaymondYocum-uw5hd]

You smell like fish

[@whitneyangelie3682]

I’ve heard all of these a million times before because this stuff fascinates me and I’m always wanting to learn more BUT I’ve also learned take it all with a grain of salt. You really have to get someone’s baseline down before you start trying to read them through body language. For example: I always tilt my head (and raise my brows another supposed sign of “attraction”) when I talk to people, whether I’m attracted to them or not. Also I play with my lips a lot as a habit, so her last point would mean nothing with me. Also if I’m sitting in an uncomfortable chair or cold I will cross my arms. So while knowing these tips can be helpful, you have to pay attention to so many other factors about the person you’re trying to analyze and not jump to conclusions… IMO Reading micro expressions is a much clearer indicator when it comes to reading someone, but you have to be very observant and vigilant to be good at it.

[@plazawall586]

I sometimes cross my hands for comfort does not mean I do not want to be approached

[@nasithach8027]

+Paul Hynes right?! exactly, I do the same thing for comfort or when I'm cold.

[@plazawall586]

+Nasi Thach - I am no expert but simply if a woman is not interested in you I think you will pick up on that I think she would not look at you and would be less interested in talking to you

[@richardnixon2567]

+Paul Hynes Its more than just crossing your arms, its the facial expression too. I'm not an expert either but someone with their arms crossed and a smile on their face seems approachable.

[@nasithach8027]

Paul Hynes Richard Nixon ..great points. this whole body language thing is hard..I mean why can't we just have telepathic powers.

[@plazawall586]

+Nasi Thach - exactly it would make things simple why can we just not go up to a person and ask straight out wether they like us or not they don't teach you that at school I guess things like fear of regection and pride gets in the way

[@diamondmeeple]

This girl is an expert of attraction... and she LOOKS that way too... :-)

[@jahfus]

This woman has a very awesome spirit. Much love and respect to her

[@bravowebsolutions]

omgosh she's back to school you bro, luugat that outift [wowzers power grl]

[@glassbuddha]

I really like your videos. Simple and precise

[@ManishaSingh-qt4pm]

So so true... thanks for uploading....keep uploading

[@richardpauly1635]

Nice pic and smile

[@paulmannguyen5665]

Although body language can provide a lot of information as to what their mood and such is, fabricated body language can actually provide a negative effect. I had previously encountered an individual who had purposely tried to use the crinkle while we were talking for the first time. I realized that the individual had been doing so without proper tone changes; therefore, it indicated that he was not truly as passionate to the topic as his facial expression indicates. Therefore, this has not only changed my first impression of him; however, the thought of inauthenticity also lingered. Body language is nice to know to figure out people, and it should only be used to project how you truly feel rather than to fabricate someone else who is not you.

[@paulquick8806]

That's what i thought a narcissistic person is and Avoid totally sociopath..no dought

[@Chaoticdemon08]

Your amazing! Love the advice!!!

[@ShinyArjunSingh]

wow...man...made my life.... Nice one, Subscribed. Please keep them coming.....

[@nathantoth1527]

Thank you for sharing info Vanessa.

[@grantchow13]

Too much is made of crossing arms and the negative connotation of being negative and closed minded. It means to me concern and deep contemplation and focus.

[@thespokenword8540]

I think I can at times anyway have a flirty personality. It doesn't really mean much though but I notice I do the head tilt thing almost all the all time regardless if I'm into someone or not. I also smile a lot too regardless of who's there. Also yesterday, I touched my chest but it was because I had heartburn and nothing more lol. The worst was probably when I would lick my lips constantly when I was younger only because they were dry. So it's best not to take this stuff too seriously :) Other people may look really dead pan but might actually like you.

[@josephtvshow7467]

Thank you guys I have learned a lot from this program.

[@jacobeliottmcintyre]

One thing I 've learned the more you focus on working hard and bettering yourself. And not tryin to analyze people and just accept them and love em for who they are. The right woman will come along and y'all will just click

[@HeedAndSucceed]

I hope so

[@skipperx5116]

River Billy you are dead nuts on. Instead of trying to make it happen, just let it happen. Most important is to be yourself. If there is something about you that the other person objects to, better now than later.

[@007stuntman3]

I really enjoyed the information you shared, it was interesting to learn, but I have to say, the guy in the video was a crack up, thank you...

[@diegomoreno5927]

Those old people seemed very enthuasiastic about this

[@andyc9902]

Lol boomers

[@jimdamulira7058]

Fabulous n it's magically presented,,,just dope

[@KTHKUHNKK]

Great stuff Pretty much right on the money.

[@CatsAreNiceMeow]

Great video! I cross my arms a lot only because it’s comfortable lol I guess I need to be aware of my body language especially around a crush.

[@ibrahimhamada5751]

I admire for your comment and it really to see a beautiful and adorable woman like you with such an amazing smile iam Ibrahim from egypt and i am 37 years old i would love to learn more about you but that is if you don't mind sending me a friend request.thank you

[@MusketeerInc]

Wow these are some really great tips!

[@onkyomitsu4765]

these hosts are hilarious. i love it!

[@rajibchowdhury9088]

Vanessa, I love your book captivate , I am reading it . I am excited to learn more and more such a wonderful thing to understand others around us around so I start

[@Warenikk]

A classic study by Dr. Albert Mehabrian is often misquoted as “the total impact of a message is based on: 7% words used; 38% tone of voice, volume, rate of speech, vocal pitch; 55% facial expressions, hand gestures, postures and other forms of body language.” But Mehabrian never claimed that you could view a movie in a foreign language and accurately guess 93 percent of the content by watching body language. His research was focused on the communication of emotions - specifically, liking and disliking.

[@murrayfarrellmc454]

Warenikk I agree wholeheartedly. 7% is drawing a long bow. It turns the guru content into bunk. The moment I hear 7% I just turn off. www.speakingaboutpresenting.com/albert-mehrabian-nonverbal-communication/

[@antokindness]

Warenikk Thanks a lot for your clarification, which explains direct everyday experience far better than this reigning misquote: indeed, along the line of this misquote, one could never interpet correctly any recorded message or even the reasoning of Stephen Hawking. Thanks again.

[@lucyrosevelt5274]

+Warenikk well aren't you smart. I'm impressed and attracted - and I never even saw your face once. (Actually I do appreciate that tip because a lot of people do interpret that the way you said.

[@murrayfarrellmc454]

+Warenikk An update to my previous reply. Mehrabian NEVER included gestures, posture and etc in his analysis. In fact, the Visual component is restricted to facial expression/s only. I am pleased to say that I have had an email conversation with the Professor and ultimately purchased his book, 'Silent Messages'. The professor also stated that his findings are often presented as a "Gross exaggeration".

[@Warenikk]

+Murray Farrell MC I got that quote from Wikipedia, but thanks for clarification. I actually like the content of Vanessa and tried some of her suggestions with shaking hands and focusing on the eyecolour of a person. But it´s a shame that she doesn´t know her stuff as thoroughly as she makes people believe :D

[@1perfectstrangerr]

These 2 hosts are just horrifyingly bad with their constant interrupting and lame jokes....they down play evverything she's says by making stupid remarks...

[@danieljakubik3428]

Agreed

[@sumitd500]

Yes

[@bobbysweeney5377]

This was a pleasure to watch. That poor man was as awkward as one can be.😂

[@c_telking4433]

Not really. Weird observation 🤔

[@frj1154]

Nicely talk few points but very clear

[@dailylifetaste4091]

Thanks Lecture !

[@tamiz8895]

She’s so gorgeous, what a fun interview

[@blisswkc3344]

Thank You so much dearest sweeties 💐🙏 You’re such an inspiration ❣️ Stay Blissful Eternally 😇🕉💖

[@colouradventures8656]

This video blew my mind

[@user-bu6nq1ve6m]

Arm crossing isnt necessarily closing, if the arms are not crossed totally (one kinda rest on other) and thumbs are visible (fists no clinched) that is called self hug and it actualy means comfort!

[@naamchhemrumdali6701]

Great tips👍

[@truckerdamnyankee]

Very informative to upping my game...

[@addycool444]

shes beauty with brains

[@zainulabedeenmohammed7846]

Great information

[@petraspetraitis3380]

Labas vakaras, Su naujais metais 🤗🤗🤗❤️🌲Padarykime repeticija ligios teisės dėl visko givenu sau ačiū kad pasidalinote. Kalba tam kad galėtume bendrauti 😀😉👍👍👍👍👍

[@michaelashworth4172]

For years I taught that 7% of communication was non-verbal because you hear it so often until I decided to do some research and after half an hour found where it came from and that it's missing the context: small children showing whether they want to an ice-cream. The 7% figure when applied to all communication is just plain wrong. So bad it was in the first minute. I switched off straight away. (And I'm talking about training I was giving in the early 2000s, pretty depressing that the myth is still being repeated.)

[@MystesNeedSoul]

thank you!

[@rajsanfrancisco5074]

I so loved this. It's hilarious too

[@josephhoward1858]

She won me over at 2:21!

[@Cod4Wii]

Agree, that was so sexy

[@rahatzaman4158]

absolutely right

[@dipakkumar-jj8yo]

Simply amazing

[@rodneydockrill604]

Very helpful information, beautiful lady stunning, beautiful advice.

[@traineralsoofi-goahead1176]

Go ahead.. well done

[@pankajkumar-zw3to]

great video !!!!!

[@DrJoySmithMaxwell]

arms crossed has soooooo many meanings... for me it's often because it's so darn cold & women's clothing are inadequate!

[@caribaez5711]

Or I’m just thinking xD

[@jeancruse3765]

Very good advice

[@briancee953]

The good sell out i usually take note of is the combination of facial expression n tone of voice. its like someone learning to ride a bike for the first time, u usually cant master everything at once, when u master balance you are struggling with direction, when u have mastered direction you are struggling with balance.

[@alexbenedek28]

You're awesome !

[@theburningman5047]

Well, my feet always are a bit to the sides, so they point no direction in particular when I’m standing. My gaze is mostly either fixed at something that makes noise or I’m staring at nothing at all. My chin is always upright, and my hands are crossed behind my back. I guess no one can read my body language, lol. I just always stand around like a security guard, without an expression on my face

[@slavar21]

Great! I'm gonna crack my date tomorrow.

[@deandrejordan4975]

When she said, "you're revving my engine" I lost it lol.

[@kaartopower2793]

I from Somalia right now I speaking Somalia, this vedio is a great video, thank you so much.

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@Guy-cs8yj]

You really are something special @Vanessa Van Edwards

[@Guy-cs8yj]

Vanessa Van Edwards I only say it because it’s true 😊. You have so much to offer, and such amazing energy.

[@munawarshah373]

you are great

[@backcountyrpilot]

If you can see her face, she’s not running away. 🎉⚡️❤️

[@rg2027x]

"open up the truck, get in"... lol! 🤪

[@YuvrajWithAGuitar]

so vennesa was doing all those things while i was watching her right now! she is hitting on me! Congratulations vennesa its a yes from me!

[@binibinirocha5354]

Vanessa is awesome and helpful

[@subhashnisarta8040]

Thanks so much for your comments on the 🎁 body language also attracted to the 🎁 man action for your opinion good experience. So Thankful for your opinion.

[@sakiv9275]

Give one like to admire that young woman. Beauty with brain.

[@saudwolf9226]

Thank you

[@DancingWithBELLA]

I love this!

[@NippaMoon]

Curious, if a woman had her arms crossed, sometimes I would still approach her and say something off the wall ,,, silly,,, and they tend to then put the arms down and give the gestures you spoke of about being inviting

[@tamaramcnelly4204]

I always cross my arms, it doesn't mean I don't want to be approached though, it's just comfortable for me, hmmm

[@WayAboveYou700]

oh, really?

[@juarezsilva7677]

Tamara McNelly You know, it can be comfortable, but it transmits the impression that you´re have your "heart closed".

[@mdgsk824]

+Tamara McNelly It could've started off as a defensive gesture and you got so used to it and the comfort it gives you that it stayed. The point of it is that it happens 'suddenly' as soon as someone says or does something you dont agree with or when you get approached by someone unwanted. The key to understand someones body language is to study the individuals natural body movements and mannerisms first and then look for drastic/sudden changes in behaviour. Generally speaking crossed arms are a sign of discomfort(trying to get more comfortable) and resistance.

[@lucyrosevelt5274]

+Tamara McNelly where a sweater, smile and tilt your head. Your're pretty - you will be approached but keeps those arms down.

[@chippedtoothbeautysfamilyl8722]

Sparra Lina hi

[@BigEMarc]

Don't women (and all people) generally want to be attractive to everyone they meet? It means that everyone will treat you better than if you weren't. This means that you can't use these "cues" as reference for when a girl likes someone, because they will constantly (unconsciously) do these things to appear amiable.

[@gailwillis5198]

Nope.

[@BigEMarc]

Gail Willis No you are incorrect sir. What I said is true.

[@Durka-Durka]

No way! There's nothing more awkward than somebody liking you that you don't like back.

[@gailwillis5198]

Little Lynkx Nope.

[@BigEMarc]

Gail Willis Wow thanks for the insight!

[@stonedjedi87012]

That really explains alot

[@jameskipees3789]

Incredible

[@KenStentiford]

7% vocal, 8% body language, 85% finding them attractive.

[@patriciadenisesimmons5687]

I feel the same way about crossing arms ....I know if I'm upset or ignoring and distant I put my hands on my hips

[@vj8406]

These guys are very funny 🤣

[@videozapnetwork917]

I love this kind of videos!

[@GoKu-hz9zm]

I am learning

[@freddymbuyi1183]

great

[@GanggsterR]

Upload more videos please

[@markedwards7721]

Hands off the goods, Vanessa ....

[@nelsonpadillahenriquez1670]

i think you are the very best

[@NiaKitti775]

I tap my collar bone when im "breaking my barrier"

[@johnp2647]

Old man is hilarious lol

[@Guy-cs8yj]

LoL he’s not even that old

[@perfectlyimperfectmae6137]

Kinda Cute & funny😂😂😂fun to be with

[@stanbily9416]

He is not even funny. He’s annoying!

[@hotwireyouth4544]

@@stanbily9416 You realize you said he is not not funny, meaning he is funny. This sentence is an oxymoron.

[@stanbily9416]

@@hotwireyouth4544 It was a typo. *He’s

[@royterry8300]

Pearl Clutch!

[@kkkkkkkkkk955]

I like the male host. He's funny haha

[@novusordoseclorum1915]

yea I enjoyed him as a host lol

[@theoriginalloveandteavarie4285]

Awesome…

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Thank you!

[@avichalgrace6535]

you will give very experience

[@jewelsokike2712]

Social awareness of others.

[@joemartin1253]

Hi Vanessa😍

[@pedrocruz1]

The caveman reason is so funny.. right with the big bang

[@steverusso5369]

very good.. and funny

[@PHILIPWATSON82]

Relationships are now a thing of the past Good luck guys you're gunna need it