Tips and Tricks for Flirting to Make a Genuine Connection

Dating expert @DatingByBlaine shares her research on creepiness and provides valuable tips on flirting. This video is filled with practical advice for anyone looking to improve their flirting skills and form deeper connections with others.
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In this video:
1:10 - Research on Creepiness
1:14 - Fear of Being Perceived as Creepy
1:32 - Survey on Men's Interactions with Women
1:39 - Negative Impact of Creepiness
1:52 - Goal of Finding a Partner
2:06 - First Step to Flirting
2:13 - Pressure-free Flirting
2:32 - Practice Flirting
2:58 - Reframing Flirting as Making Someone Smile
3:14 - Anyone Can Learn to Flirt
3:16 - Starting Small with Flirting
3:38 - Using Body Language to Make Someone Smile
3:53 - The Power of Smiling
4:30 - The Difference Between Real and Fake Smiles
5:00 - Focusing on Happiness
5:02 - Flirting Tips and Mindset
5:36 - Flirting as Play for Adults
5:54 - Forming Deeper Connections through Flirting
6:12 - Avoiding Pickup Lines
6:24 - Triggering Excitement with Questions
6:48 - Considering the Relationship Stage
7:17 - Nonverbal Bridges and Pre-touch Cues
7:55 - The Importance of Testing Comfort with Touch
8:46 - Different Levels of Intimate Touch
9:15 - Conclusion and Call to Action
9:18 - Texting and Flirting
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[@WhoElseWillIHaveIceCreamWith]

Thank you Vanessa! Really great collab video with simple and to the point responses

[@ScienceOfPeople]

You're so welcome! Glad you loved it! 💖🙌🏼🙏🏻

[@CPRforyourSocialLife]

This is sorely needed advice. Thanks Vanessa!

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Always happy to help! Thank you too! 💖🙏🏻

[@tisminnit]

As someone who is completely oblivious to flirting, this is helpful. I can never tell if someone is flirting with me. It's also good to know I'm kinda doing a good job trying to flirt with my crush, I love making her laugh and smile, it's my goal whenever I see her. So at least I got that part down!

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Glad to know that this was helpful! That’s wonderful to hear! Making someone laugh and smile is a beautiful way to connect. 🙏🏻💖

[@laurakobetich9809]

Guys, if you’re trying to make a woman smile, don’t tell her ‘you should smile’

[@HolliCMcCormick1]

A freakin men!!!! This is the furthest thang from flirting

[@CSenn_]

👏🏻

[@CSenn_]

Although… It would quickly clue me in that the person would not make a good partner for me.

[@HolliCMcCormick1]

@@CSenn_ so true. We aren’t looking for owners that command us but partners that share with us 🥰

[@FruityHachi]

I find it even weirder when a random man messages you and complains you didn't put a smiley emoji after "hi" happened to me a number of times

[@1matim]

thanks, good video

[@therock1232100]

Great content from Blaine!

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Glad you think so! 🙏🏻

[@spontaneousbootay]

Great video

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Glad you enjoyed it 💖

[@PeterParker-ff7ub]

How do you get natural like from someone? nOT JUST TRYING TO MAKE THEM FEEL GOOD

[@IITJeeadvance-fk6bp]

Idk, sorry but for me the background and mic were hard to handle, I would me grateful if you change it, it will be much easier for us to hear and process. Thanks 🙂❤

[@whw5]

Creepiness is easy to define. It’s wanting to talk or say something, and not, but lingering close to someone’s physical space. Women pick up on that super fast. As far as flirting, pay attention to Body language, eye contact, verbal tonality, physical proximity, and physical escalation 🥰. With physical escalation start with small touch and pay attention to the response (yes, no, neutral). Does she touch you back? Small touch is an invitation to get closer. Anyway, you already know how to do it, you just forgot. Go practice and like they said, take the pressure off yourself, enjoy the journey!

[@PeterParker-ff7ub]

not eye contact?

[@ibahimEljoundi]

A woman's heart is a pearl that needs a skilled fisherman.

[@999sk09]

Yesterday ☺️i visited somewhere ☺️i had not taken any bath or even facewash , just went outside even withiout any hair comb without any good hair style. The place i visited , i was just looking at both & interacted with one more & other less . I was never trying to impress her but whenever i was speaking anything the grl on other side was just giving a very good😋smile ... I was thinking that i am not saying anything extraordinary or trying to impress but in return she was giving extraordinary smile to me .The other grl was feeling jealous coz i was not interacting with other grl .This was my first visit ☺️why the grl was smiling so much🤔🤔🤨🤨

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Sounds like you had a pretty memorable visit! 💖 Authenticity and genuine interaction often speak volumes more than we realize. Your candidness and natural demeanor might have been a breath of fresh air for her. It's interesting how simple encounters can leave us pondering, isn't it? Keep being you - it seems to work wonders! 😊

[@999sk09]

@@ScienceOfPeople but recently i met a grl on social media network means i am her follower means subscriber, i am in love with this grl , she is not responding so much 🥴😔🤨i like this grl very much which i met on social media much then the two girls which i met physically in my own city 🥴what shud i do to follow & try on a girl of social media who sometimes responds & send smiley❣️ sometimes not responding & the grl which i met physically is from other religion i.e sikhism & i am hindu . I like the grl of social media much more( felt love for her ) then i met physically in my city ( felt attraction means infatuation only but not love ) .what to do 🤔🤔grl of social media has other followers also & she is sending small small ,❤️❣️to them , i am feeling jealous.🥴😞. I know that the grl whom i met physically in my city can give better response coz the face to face interaction happened but i felt only attraction , infatuation because she is pretty , the grl which i met thr" social media although no face to face interaction with her ☺️bt i am having very deep feelings for her ... Why this happened or happening 🤔🤔🤔with one grl felt attraction, infatuation ( met face to face ) other which i met thr' social media - highly attached & deep love for her 🤨☺️

[@HolliCMcCormick1]

Honestly, you need to work with Bumble to get this information out to guys. Thank you so much for mentioning don’t make it sexual right away. Unless a woman is looking for that which some are it turns the rest of us off right away.

[@sharing1234567]

Love the content! But I find this video difficult to follow, you speak so fast and the font of subtitle is not easy to read either.

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Hi! Thank you so much for your kind words and valuable feedback! 😊We're thrilled to hear you love the content! We understand the importance of making our videos accessible and enjoyable for everyone. Your point about the pace of speech and subtitle readability is taken to heart. There's an option to move the playback speed to .75x just in case it's still too fast. In terms of a more readable caption, you may click the "cc" button on the screen for another caption display. Thank you for being part of our community! 💖

[@richmarko8704]

;) Thx.

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Any time 💖

[@maximovillarreal5781]

Sassa you are the best ! Love your video’s contents keep up the hard working on your research or investigation on the vast world of the human behavior. You are doing amazing ! (Introvert & extrovert) Firs video I saw you was at 8 Icebreakers and then at PSYCHOLOGICAL TRICKS To Be More Charismatic & Confident TODAY! Vanessa Van Edwards. You are awesome at what you are doing it’s helping 100s of thousands of peoples.

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Thank you so much for your kind words! It truly means the world to me to hear how much you've enjoyed the videos and found them useful. 🙌🏼 I'm thrilled you found me through those videos, and I'm committed to bringing even more insights and helpful tips. 🥰💖🙏🏻

[@BeautyNeedsAWitness]

❤❤

[@ScienceOfPeople]

💖💖🙏🏻

[@HolliCMcCormick1]

Vanessa, those questions that you mentioned are all that men do on the dating app and it gives me the Iroll because it’s exhausting and boring to answer those questions 1 million times over. I tried to change it up based on your other suggestions, but I also get exhausted and then give up any suggestions on that?

[@travdaddy11]

Imagine all the connections lost because women are so "bored" with answering easy questions. Women these days only want to answer quirky random questions to connect because it is just the coolest to be a conversation snob!!! I am a guy that asks "Hey, what are you doing this weekend?" before I ask a person on a date. I am asking about this, not because I actually care about the answer or that I want to talk about planning weekends, but to move a conversation along to what I want it to be. It is not my fault that the question has been asked and answered in conversations that were not with me. If a person can't cooperate a little in their own pursuit, they have no social curiosity and will probably just continue swiping for dopamine and/or be alone.

[@FruityHachi]

@@travdaddy11 also, if a person wants to find a serious relationship they will be asked "boring" questions on a daily basis seems like the women complaining about "boring" questions aren't looking for anything serious

[@HolliCMcCormick1]

Wow y’all really have it all figured out don’t ya? Way to judge someone before you even know them. Did ya not catch that I TRY TO CHANGE IT up? If a man was to ask this in person, different story. There is tone of voice, body language and chemistry. But behind a screen? Nada. Science shows according to Vanessa that asking the same question puts the brain to sleep! Why do you want to put a woman to sleep???. Yes it is not your fault the question has been asked a million times before and the woman has been put to sleep. But why be like everyone else dropping into her inbox? Make yourself stand out by asking a slightly different question. It shows you have confidence, can think creatively and don’t want to be another blue colored pill that she cannot see thru all the other blue color pills. Why wouldn’t you want to give yourself an advantage? Its not that women don’t have social curiosity …try a different question and see if she does. If a different question doesn’t spark her interest then move on. But putting a woman’s brain to sleep with the same question EVERYONE else is asking her says NOTHING about the woman. It says everything about how boring the apps have gotten and how men are probably also bored of this interaction and not sure how to break out. If a man cannot ask a different question or respond with a question I ask a question of him (which honestly you have gotten the hint that you only need one new question cause all other men are asking this question) it shows lack of interest and trying on his part. It just shows to me he is bored and putting in the motions too. That’s called conversational skills. Those can be demonstrated in a million ways on apps outside of “how’s your day going?”

[@HolliCMcCormick1]

@@FruityHachi yes so WHY START WITH THE BORING? Also later in a relationship those questions have a different meaning because people have BUILT A RELATIONSHIP. It shows care and consideration, interest and a chance to deepen and already existing relationship. In the beginning before there is a “knowing of each other” what can that question really get you? A one word answer? A long winded complaint? How does this help to build the foundation to GET TO KNOW the other. Here’s the thing. Again this question in person works. There is body language and tone. But online its flat.

[@FruityHachi]

@@HolliCMcCormick1 if you lose interest from the start from being asked boring questions then what will happen when the exciting questions stop and you fall into a routine? would you drop the person and find a new prospect to spark your interest again? yes, it does say something about the woman, that she seeks novelty

[@8randomprettysecret8]

Did I write to you in the right way these days?

[@UnconventionalReasoning]

This video confirmed: It's too complicated, don't bother.

[@richmarko8704]

Ah come on, stretch yourself, after a while it feels good. The science is out, loneliness kills. kzbin.info/www/bejne/n4rXlWanodWVoMUsi=CPurKqivzJl5CLmq

[@joshgreatscott]

There is good advice here, but this video sucks… can you please redo this, not in that room, and not with that person. The audio is dreadful and they are annoying.

[@MCR0709]

I don't like the F word. Do you have another word?

[@whw5]

I’d disagree about smiling tbh. Smile with your eyes but approaching with a full on smile just looks try hard af and overly invested imo. I’d say emotional congruency is more important. The exception being body language. Stand up straight for sure. Own how you are feeling in that moment rather than “time to put on a happy face and talk to the girl!!” And yes I know what I’m talking about haha, despite my awful profile picture from 15 years ago, I have both a girlfriend and an open/long distance relationship so I’m meeting/chatting/etc with other women out fairly consistently and never have negative or rude interactions 😌

[@stankulp1008]

poor men are creepy, millionaires are excentric

[@Chepecafeteria]

Flirting is creepy only if ugly men flirt. We men don't even know what creepy is😂😂 but we know women know that word too well!

[@Azmarith]

Dating sites are a terrible idea for men. It's a 10:1 ratio. There's no point even trying.

[@lalosalamanca8574]

Then cold approach

[@Azmarith]

@@lalosalamanca8574 I agree that cold approach is a way better option. You're not at the mercy of an algorithm for a start. Plus, I find that just the act of going up to someone and starting a conversation shows confidence, and sets you apart from other. Also, you're not lost in a sea of countless other guys. That being said, anyone you meet through cold approach is going to be a dyadic relationship, which has its own set of problems.

[@lalosalamanca8574]

@@Azmarith I been cold approaching since 1996. I never used dating apps. I lost my virginity in 1997. I slept with 21 women throughout the years. All through cold approach.

[@paulenzor6993]

These two women don't realize that they sound like this to Men..... WA WA WA WA WA.. WA WA WA...waa waaa ewaa WA WA... 😂 It's like they are in a girl's slumber party. Not working for guys

[@zachcain2639]

I thought they were useful tips. Nice to hear women’s perspective on this rather than some sleazy guy pitching pickup lines

[@Septumsempra8818]

Girls suck at flirting. They are good at telling if flirting is good or bad, but they can't synthesize a good flirt. It's kinda like how we can all tell a good movie from a bad one, but we can't write a good movie. Easiest framing that's good for guys goes like this: Level 0 flirt: talk about a thing/event. Eg. The drink spilt. Level 1: talk about her with regard to the thing/event. Eg. The drink spilt, you're clumsy Level 2: talk about your relationship dynamics and the thing/event. Eg. You're too clumsy, that's why we'll never be friends. It's not perfect, but instantly frames the chat and can be increment without jumping into top gear.