Borderline Personality Disoder & Co-Occurring Disorders

[@MedCircle]

Learn more about borderline personality disorder by watching our full series HERE: bit.ly/31Z5jar

[@DavidSmith-hc4bv]

Thank you

[@delaineyjohnson8238]

I have a question as someone who I believe has lived with an individual with BPD. When individuals with BPD ask for understanding and compassion; professionals speak about the stigma towards BPD individuals aren't both the BPD individual and professional throwing the emotionally stable or victim under a bus? There is a stigma for a reason, isn't there? And as a child who has dealt with calming a irrational adult tantrum, I can't imagine someone trying to tell me to understand.

[@oo1014]

Is it possible to have BPD and AvPD and if so what would that look like?

[@zabielecka]

@@delaineyjohnson8238 There's stigma against all mental disorders.

[@zabielecka]

@@delaineyjohnson8238 You see, I was also raised by unstable and abusive people and I happen to develop BPD, along with social anxiety and depression. Compassion helps all the parties, it doesn't mean that any survivor is invalidated. Hadn't it been for a compassionate DBT treatment, I wouldn't got so much better. Of course, a person with BPD can be abusive and it's much worse with co-ocurrent NPD or ASPD, but the stigma calls us manipulative, evil and what not and it's simply not true. Due to the lack of boundaries we very often fall prey to manipulators and people being abusive on purpose, to gain something out of it.

[@oliviathai]

This sounds so stressful. Sending good vibes to all who are suffering from this 💜

[@ella17734]

Thanks... it's exhausting. Many blessings to you as well

[@Bvbfangurl4life]

OLIVIA THAI thank you ❤️ it is really stressful but we all find our way through it

[@otakuofmine]

it is much. thank you

[@lunajz-1584]

thank you..

[@Kessiebear81]

Thanks really sweet of you; thank you. It is genuinely hell living with BPD (and other disorders) 24/7, but treatment is beginning to help some, and will keep helping as I continue. Much love you to for your support xox

[@mimisart]

BPD’er here. Just want to encourage those who are struggling. I’m living proof that things can get better and are able to be managed. Keep on going on!!

[@galsa1]

Are you in treatment? Therapist? phsycologist?

[@mimisart]

@@galsa1 I have a psychiatrist and a clinician (therapist). I have done DBT twice and have had some hospitalizations in which I learned a lot.

[@mimisart]

@@worm.lullaby I’m not sure if it’s common. I can ask my clinician.

[@mimisart]

@@worm.lullaby Does she know of any in your area? I would highly recommend going through it.

[@zabielecka]

That's true! Things got better.

[@sarahavery626]

I was diagnosed with BPD 5 years ago, and have just watched about 4 of these videos. And this is the first time in my lifetime that someone has described "me" as well as she does. Thank you for this

[@19MadMatt72]

I have at least 8 out of 9 of the symptoms, but have never gotten help. Heck, I went from interested to worried in one video. Someone mentioned “passive suicide” in a video, and I almost fainted. I don’t really trust doctors though.

[@genuinbud3887]

@@19MadMatt72 I'm in the exact same boat, I found a this really great guy who had BPD for years without knowing it and he writes articles on how to cope, understand, and eventually overcome, only just started reading but it is very enlightening stuff.. He also has a podcast, twitter.com/LastSymptom?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor hmu if you want to talk

[@moanamason2454]

Try Dr. Daniel Fox 🦊, if you haven't already found him. He truly gets BPD like no one else I've come accross. His video's have helped me immensely. Kia Kaha ehoa (stay strong friend)

[@Amused_Comfort_Inc]

@@19MadMatt72 Dr.Daniel fox has helped me a lot, hes here on youtube, and has very informative videos to help us who've been diagnosed or have traits, hes very sweet and smart, and has lots of information from his work. Give him a listen if you get a chance or need a new voice, hes very understanding and really understands the personality disorders he discusses

[@nee319814]

I couldn't agree more. It almost hurts to have someone take the things I have come to love about myself and find out they are "symptoms" but at the same time it's nice to know I'm really not a fucking crazy cat

[@xmcddddd]

My positive energy to those with bpd

[@elysiumo.2599]

I have very recently lost my closest friend who was suffering poorly treated BPD as well as a intense substance use disorder. Watching your series has been helping me to heal by giving me understanding as to what she was dealing with and why she behaved the way she did. Her self-destructive behaviours, instability, and the intensity of our friendship makes so much more sense in the context of BPD. I have never in my life met anyone as talented, open-minded, kind, intelligent and frustratingly complex as her. It's heart-breaking that mental health issues are so deeply stigmatized and that services are so challenging to access. Please if you are dealing with this, try to seek treatment. It's may be damn near impossible to do in our medical system, but there are people who love you dearly even if you might not feel that love for yourself.

[@knowledgeintowisdom694]

Thank you for your kind words. I will seek help.

[@stephaniefan1114]

I have a BPD friend who cut me out and I've been desperately trying to support him. Any tips on what to do? It's painful watching him spirally out of control.

[@Babigorl420]

I’m so sorry about your friend. Thank you for your kind words ❤

[@maggiebeltaa5421]

@@stephaniefan1114 It's really tough with BPD. The thing is that we(ppl with bpd) need to realize we need help and try to seek it. If you're friend isn't willing to do that.. it puts you and him in a really tough position. For a while.. my family and loved ones enabled my disorder. It was easier for them to just let me have my way. It didn't help me and it sure as hell didn't help them. It's such a thin line between support and enabling. The best advice I can give you is be there for him at a distance. Let him know you love him and are there for him but you can't sit and watch his life fall apart any more. It's going to be hard on both of you but you need to be firm. We (ppl with bpd) have to be the ones to take that first step. This is just my personal advice from what I've gone through but it's not fact and I'm not a therapist. So please, follow these at your discretion. It's really important that you feel comfortable with your decision on how to handle this. I'm going to be keeping you and your friend in my prayers. I truly hope he gets the help he needs. Please stay safe. 🥰🌹

[@maggiebeltaa5421]

I am so very sorry for your loss and what you've gone through. The fact that you've been learning more about this disorder shows how much you cared for her and that you're a great person! Please never forget that. Keeping you and your friend in my prayers. I hope you find peace and healing. Sending my love to you. Please stay safe. 🥰🌹

[@sweetpeace5]

She epitomizes someone who has truly found & is living their passion. In turn, she knows it so well that she makes something that is actually really complex, understandable, even to the novice. An excellent teacher.

[@melissah7734]

BPD and a mental illness and in recovery from drugs and alcohol. I used to be the shy little girl in the corner but DBT and Zoloft has made me stand up and speak up.

[@sjacott3953]

Keep taking care of yourself sis. A fellow bpd experiencer

[@kaytimberlake7764]

Good for you, happy for you...I'm still that little girl I'm so scared...but your post gave me hope

[@blank3115]

Hey I am wondering why someone I met made it seem like we fell in love and then they act like I don’t exist now... but when confronted they say nothing changed. They have BPD and schizophrenia.

[@charitygibson1705]

I’ve been diagnosed with BPD since 15. But I’ve never really researched it. Seeing ALL of these people who can relate to me and knowing I’m not alone, is EVERYTHING! I’m so thankful for every one of y’all

[@ninjakitty8224]

How does one not just hate themselves for ruining their relationships around them because of having borderline personality disorder and ruining realtionships with people they love :'( it's hard to swallow that my illness is why people abandon me and then half the resources out there tell people to leave if you're with someone with bpd. Then you hear that bpd won't ever go away. It's so disheartening.

[@ThePolaris87]

Just learned that my ex most likely has BPD (shows all 9 traits) and my therapist tells me there is nothing I can do and most likely my ex will never be able to have a properly functioning relationship. It's breaking my heart :-(

[@EclecticallyEccentric]

@@ThePolaris87 It's not necessarily true that people with BPD can't have a functioning and healthy relationship.

[@ThePolaris87]

@@EclecticallyEccentric yes it of course must be possible that some people can work around and through their problems. And I wish anyone with this issue the best and that they can overcome it. For myself I have been having an incredibly hard time with failed 5 year relationship because my ex-partner strongly demonstrates BPD but they are not receptive AT ALL to any idea of trying to work through our problems (they perceive EVERY little thing as a rejection and their fear of abandonment kicks in and they put up walls and distance even though they want the opposite, they can't help it). It's been awful 😢

[@leafyveins4985]

I know it's scary. I've been trying to wrap my head around this. When they say it "never goes away", they do NOT mean that the symptoms will always be unmanageable. They mean that it takes a life of effort and vigilance and taking care of your needs to help keep symptoms to a minimum. You have a whole life ahead of you and you have a say in it. Good luck on your journey!

[@miss_8thwonder]

You cannot hate yourself at all, because it wasn't your fault! Just like people who grew up in a functional family had a happy life and cannot apologize for it, just like that growing up in the horrors of movie with no choice, you shouldn't be saying sorry or hating yourself for that! It was all the culprits fault, who caused you the disease

[@Ella.L.]

Thanks for talking about it! I have BPD, AvPD, ADHD and C-PTSD (I guess I've won the jackpot in the mental disorder lottery, lol) - this all then often also brings a lot of other symptoms along, like depression, anxiety, body dysmorphia, dissociative disorder, etc... Let's just say it's FU*KING HARD to live/exist like that 😞

[@dianamgleaton]

I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD, CPTSD, bi polar and bpd. We’re alike ❤

[@Ella.L.]

@@dianamgleaton Sorry to hear that you're suffering from it all as well. Much love to you ❤️❤️❤️

[@deedeepohlman6833]

I call it alphabet soup! I have adhd, asd, bpd, and c-ptsd. It’s a lot to handle but I’ve found my online Campbell’s community is full of help and hope 😊

[@MiladySK]

That's me. 🥴 I now am agoraphobic (2 years now). I've cut everybody out, not intentionally. 😢

[@autumnmccabe5371]

Diagnosed with BPD, BP2, anxiety, and mild OCD. These videos help so much in explaining so well to loved ones how I tick. Thank you so much for your great work.

[@Rockoblocko]

My wife and I are 30. She is hospitalized atm, for the first time. These videos are so helpful. Moreover, they are helping with my own depression about her illness. Thank you.

[@Jacob-ot3qw]

Rocky Garcia im sorry brother. Dont give up.

[@twistednerve444]

I am so sorry. I genuinely hope things have improved since then. *big, big hugs*

[@sweetpeanbak]

I recently found this channel. I am so glad I did. Mental health discussions are fascinating and so informative. Intelligent conversations on mental health are sorely needed on platforms like this. As I'm watching a video and wondering this or that you seem ask a lot of the questions I myself want to know. I have severe depression and anxieity. They seem to go hand in hand too. So many people don't understand and its so frustrating. People ecpect you to just get over it, snap out of it. It's so taboo to talk about your disorder. People look at you differently and shy away from you. So thank you for having these discussions. It's what the world needs.

[@Kristen10-22]

Jenny Morris Wood take it with a grain of salt.

[@emcg.9655]

Double edged sword. Some do need to talk about this but too many people are quick to self label (just look at the comments on these videos) themselves with disorders when many are just lazy people who can't be bothered trying to deal with life.

[@larsjonsson7881]

Dr Ramini is exelent and your features have been very helpful to me! Thanks! Would wish Dr Ramani to be able to make a number of further features about BPD where she could get deeper into the matter. Thankful from Sweden!

[@Partycitybaex]

I am so pleased with all these new uploads specifically on BPD! I also have social anxiety disorder and major depression just like Dr.Ramani said, that a person with BPD is mostly seen with other disorders. My doctor actually told me that I’m at a risk of developing bipolar disorder later on in life if I don’t get treated. It’s a scary thought but that’s why it’s so important to seek therapy ASAP.

[@SaraSkyblue]

I really really REALLY appreciate this interview. I stumbled upon the first part and now I'm watching all of them. This is such a WONDERFUL interview. Usually we are portrayed as evil, manipulative, attention seekers. But this really opened it all up and really validated that pain we have. I feel like you really credited us for how hard this disorder is on us. Instead of saying the classic "they do whatever they can to avoid abandonment" which comes off kinda sociopathy in the sense of like "do whatever it takes to get what you want", you explained how it feels to us. You gave examples of how the simple actions of others could come across to us as abandonment. So much of what I read about BPD makes me feel like a monster. Even professionals run the other way from patients with BPD cuz we're difficult to work with, we're complicated, and we are very sensitive. But I didn't feel like a monster watching these videos. I felt like someone actually GETS me. You explained how not knowing your own identity, feeling empty, and feeling emotions so intensely is SO HARD for us. You talked about how we're NOT trying to cause problems for others, this is how we try to cope with what's inside us. And I LOVED that you addressed how once our angry outbursts end, we turn it inward. We feel shame and guilt. Most things I've seen end with just talking about the explosive anger and The End. I get sick to my stomach reading and watching things on BPD cuz it's all so negative, sometimes I feel like saying BPD out loud gets almost the same reaction as when people say schizophrenic (which is also very gross and I want to see that change). So thank you so so much for this interview. You did a wonderful job. Thank you for taking the bad light off us and not treating us like monsters. I can't wait to see more videos, I hope they also shed a light on other disorders that were given a bad name.

[@kylajames2017]

Yup, im a quiet borderline with generalised anxiety disorder and dysthymia (chronic depression)

[@silascochran9705]

It's funny the way you say it me too

[@niclasnorby]

Have you ever left a relationship and tried to rekindle things afterwards?

[@kylajames2017]

@@niclasnorby no i havent

[@NataliaMartinez-hr8tg]

uwu same here

[@thugga.thugga]

me exactly

[@ally8420]

I love these interviews, both the interviewer and doctor are very compassionate and thoughtful in their discussion. Information like this is extremely important in fighting the stigma of this disease that I and so many others don't feel they can share. I have BPD and depression and anxiety. A day with just depression and anxiety is a good day for me. My BPD is triggered by abandonment.

[@SaraSkyblue]

That's exactly how I feel! For once BPD wasn't portrayed as being a monster. You can tell she really cares about her work and the people she works with. Very compassionate and understanding.

[@mercedesspencer4342]

I have "personality disorder not otherwise specified" (my psychologist told me all of my symptoms point towards bpd but since I'm not an adult i can't truly be diagnosed) but i also have depression NOS and generalized anxiety disorder and the shits tough, but i promise you, YOU CAN DO IT! We all deserve the best, keep your heads up.

[@ShartySpice]

Holy shit, this is the first time I've ever heard the thing about BPD people suffering sleep disturbances, and it totally solidifies my self-diagnosis of having BPD :( Ever since high school I've been absolutely plagued with trouble sleeping in every single way she mentioned. No matter how hard I try, I cannot adhere to a "normal" sleep schedule. In college I never took a class before noon (all night classes) and found myself a job where I could work from 4pm-midnight. I'm most alert and alive late at night when the rest of the world around me is sleeping. I have taken Ambien for DECADES, as I have a terrible time falling asleep, and I very rarely ever get eight hours of sleep despite needing eight hours in order to feel my best. When you don't sleep it ruins everything else in your life, I swear. When I'm sleep deprived (which is almost always) I become even more irritable, depressed and short-tempered than I already am naturally, which is not a good thing. When I really think about it, I think the root of almost all of my major issues in life stem from my high level of anxiety. I'm just a nervous/anxious person. If only I knew how to rid myself of this stupid and often irrational anxiety, I think a lot of the other problems would lessen or even resolve themselves. The bane of my existence.

[@carlasullivan3637]

Me too. I struggle every night.

[@Pencraft]

Probably, your sleep disturbance situation is a result of you being afraid to go to sleep (anxiety issue) and not a BPD. You could try doing relaxation and meditation at let's say 11 pm. If you can't sleep, get up and do stuff you hate most like ironing or dish washing, then go to bed. If no sleeping again - get up and do it again. It's called behavioral therapy, many people say it helps.

[@leafyveins4985]

I'm so sorry you're suffering. I recently tried working overnights for about 2 months. I noticed I was plagued by a constant brain fog during the day, despite feeling so "alert" at night. I realized, for me at least, this was a bad idea. I was irritable all the time and I'm still having issues switching back to working during the day, but I know it's already had a positive effect for me. I'm slowly getting more sleep at night and slowly feeling the urge to stay up all night dissipate, mostly through Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Good luck on your journey, friend.

[@eileenhumes4884]

Wow you just described me perfectly

[@bornsinner000]

Do a video on quiet BPD!

[@omardaou5864]

yes!

[@NIS0RA]

God, thank you for mentioning quiet BPD. The angry outbursts have been the one thing I've looked at in regards to this disorder where I didn't quite fit the bill, and reading up on quiet BPD has answered a hell of a lot of questions for me.

[@beyondbeauty6921]

Born Sinner Sssshhh that quiet enuf!!

[@kylajames2017]

Yes! A lot more focus and research tends to be on the "classic" borderline

[@franceduffoo2867]

Born Sinner I fall into this category and wish so much for them to do a segment on it.

[@DianVx]

I got MISdiagnosed with BPD when I was just 15 years old. I'm now 20 and it seems to have been Autism this whole time.. Can you talk with her about misdiagnosing BPD?

[@DianVx]

-In The Netherlands they seem to be ok with diagnosing personality disorders in puberty. I really don't get it.

[@catatoniac]

I have BPD and autism! It sucks big time and I dont quite understand how it could be misdiagnosed with autism...

[@SpontaneityJD]

What are you primary symptoms?

[@aliciascat9433]

You can’t technically diagnose BPD before the age of 18. Autism is also often misdiagnosed. - A Mental Health Clinician.

[@DianVx]

@@aliciascat9433 They still diagnosed me when I was ~16.. Diagnosis went away when I was about 19. Fuckers.

[@karlbuttler]

I'm going to have to stop watching these video's, think i'm falling in love with DR. Ramani......

[@carlasullivan3637]

Thank her for not being judgemental. BPD is really difficult.

[@Elkablues]

If he says WOW one more time!! OMG

[@MostlyCloudy]

Cracks me up every time😂😂😂

[@jasminflower3814]

I find him very fake and annoying.

[@sairahaalexandria7253]

Please do more videos on BPD. This has given me insight on my mental illness i don't feel i have yet found in therapy.💖

[@noklarok]

check out vids by A.J. Mehari and Mr BPD

[@ishysaiyanprincefitnessfre4299]

Hi

[@BoopsNstuff]

I have bpd and bipolar II. This video helped me feel less weird about co-occurring.

[@Pssstization]

Thank you for talking about BPD. I have BPD, bipolar, anxiety and depression but live in a country where it's still taboo to talk about mental disorders and I don't have access to the help or information I need. This really helps me in understanding myself and my situation better.

[@colecoley3473]

It's insane for me to think people do NOT experience this? Like how lol this seems like life

[@sotiriapapadopoulou8945]

Cole Coley, what do you mean?

[@kristencreates1316]

@@sotiriapapadopoulou8945 I think she is saying this sounds like the average to her so she doesn’t understand there are people who don’t experience it like this.

[@sotiriapapadopoulou8945]

@@kristencreates1316 Yes, thank you, you are right. I read it quickly and I thought she meant "these things happen in life, it doesn't have to be borderline", something like that.

[@razorsharplifestyle101hard9]

@@sotiriapapadopoulou8945 Exactly,That's a confusing comment.

[@sanamsitaram7940]

Right? Same

[@user-pe8cu1vs6d]

I would appreciate some information on what people with BPD can do to heal. I find the description of the illness helpful, but far more helpful for me at this point is to know what can be done to heal.

[@leafyveins4985]

Talk therapy. Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Understanding breeds sympathy and sympathy inspires action.

[@chelseajensen6173]

It was really interesting to me that Dr. Ramani said they try not to diagnose personality disorders until you're an adult. I actually had a friend that was a victim to this, where a psychology diagnosed her with a personality disorder when she was only 16. Over ten years later, and they are finally willing to admit that she was misdiagnosed.

[@naomihobbit2758]

I wasn't diagnosed with BPD until I was in my 30s with a combination of severe depression and anxiety with PTSD and chronic insomnia. Therapy and meds are the reason I'm here typing this!! No rest really does make things that much more amplified and therapy is so difficult to get my head round and I've done group therapy ,CBT and one on one . And I can't imagine how hard it is for the therapists it must follow you home occasionally I hope that they themselves have some kind of therapy support... I love this channel and has helped me explain my illness to output it being overly emotional for all concerned! But I lost a lot of friends when I told them in had BPD and they just one by one cut off,saying their kids were not safe around me blah blah blah some of those kids were my god kids and I've never hurt a child in my life. Their is still so much stigma with a BPD

[@lunettepepperglow7472]

Oh! I am so unbelievably surprised by this video. This describes me! I had severe anxiety and obsessions as a young 10 year old and then teenager, suicidal ideations, became bulimic as a 19 year-old, I still suffer from secondary amenorrhea due to the severe anxiety disrupting my endocrine system, severe insomnia and hypnotic jerks, I received professional treatment for severe OCD, and I am highly sensitive to emotions and outside input - and have been like that all my life. If what I say next turns you off, I can't apologize - but Jesus Christ and God saved my life. Their constant influence and guidance kept me alive and directed me toward the right professionals. I have a master's degree, a great job, a fantastic family, and SO much hope! Thank you, Jesus!

[@Star-dj1kw]

I am so glad you know Jesus 💗. He will never leave or forsake you. When you feel anxious, listen to John Chapter 14 and the 23rd Psalm.

[@inolofatsenglekaba5026]

I'm diagnosed with BPD, GAD and PSTD. I often feel like BPD is the least of my problems yet my psychiatrist concentrates all her treatment suggestions on BPD

[@etch.asketch2420]

The way that guy goes "wow" must make the BPD-sufferer feel like an exhibition at the freak show.

[@지우-r9y]

not really, its just a reaction to wtf is this sh.t

[@Havokwreaker]

Bruh, we kinda are though. 🤣 It's such a rarity to have both of these disorders together that I'm not surprised that HE'S surprised.

[@jonbank7569]

Etch. A Sketch agreed

[@TheTekinha15]

I mean as a borderline I read it as someone being genuinely interested in learning about my disorder rather than invalidating it

[@foxstevens1012]

I have Borderline and I feel he is being genuine ❤

[@iamthatiam44444]

So much for going to hospital for treatment, you mean neglect and dismissal. I was in psychs office 5 mins as he read my 15 year old medical file. He closed it and said go home Julie there's nothing we can do for you! So I left feeling totally alone...thanks a bunch chermside mental health.

[@demelzabrooks1899]

I have stress related chronic pain,and I notice that my BPD/ paranoia definitely increases on days of bad pain. Nice vid 👍

[@uhis1686]

wow it all makes sense now, i got diagnosed with depression when i was younger, i'm 21 now and i noticed that i got more of the bpd symptoms over the last 2 years, as well as sleep problems

[@Moesmentalcorner]

this is exactly what I go through I have bpd, bipolar depression and ptsd I have breakdowns so much, I feel like the meds don't work, I need more therapy but its hard to get in because therapist always filled. Im so tired of hurting and your family feel like it doesn't even exist, this is why I made my channel because nobody knows the struggle it is, especially when nobody is listening.

[@Alice-jj2rt]

Adhd, depression, anxiety, and borderline personality disorder with psychotic symptoms 🙋‍♀️

[@Poopbuttguy]

That’s also what I have plus OCD 🤩🤩🤩🤩 yay

[@smilessantana2049]

I am so lucky I just found a team of doctors that wants to help me.

[@muhammadgbadegesin8043]

Theres so much relevance and truth that is pertinent to my life and situation that comes from this video that it's almost too difficult to watch. The truth is a bitter horse pill to swallow.

[@abotani662]

I had no clue about BPD but listening to Dr. Ramani has really helped me understand my mind and the choices I have made through my life that have hurt me. Finally to know that I have something similar to this disorder, I can finally observe it as a mental illness and feel better equipped to deal with my mood swings and destructive habits. Thank you Ma'am!

[@abotani662]

@Charlene Shanti Best wishes and luck for your journey ahead ma'am!

[@sweetsticky]

I had a recent diagnosis of BPD and am so grateful as I am learning to be mindful of mood changes.

[@ToothpickMe]

Great interview! I would love to hear Dr. Ramani talk about Histrionic Personality Disorder some time as it seems very similar to some of the other disorders you've talked about.

[@Nuunu88]

Oh.. The sleeping non-pattern is something I've always suffered from.. And I didn't think it could be from BPD, I've always just thought that it was because of my hyper sensitivity. What is doing the sleep pattern so..messy? Why? Edit: yes I've had BPD, but I lost some "points" (because I learned how to deal with some of the symptoms), now I've mixed personality disorder..

[@HopeUnquenchable]

Misselsa 88, good for you, putting in the work to learn to manage BPD to such a point! By all accounts, it takes major willpower and mind-boggling amounts of change over a period of *years* to get to the stage where you can shed the Dx😳 I applaud you; more power to you 👏

[@Jean-Poule_II]

Would be interesting to hear her on other personnality disorder such as avoidant personnality disorder or dependant personnality disorder. She has such amazing communication and vulgarization skills.

[@twiigster8848]

She did. Look in their channel.

[@Chanandlerbong-i8l]

The best coping tool I’ve found is shutting off my cares for those who aren’t significant in my life. If someone has no importance to me, I avoid to uncomplicated things. When you finally become independent from the need for validation, the other symptoms aren’t so suffocating. Respect for those who also have bpd.

[@lb6536]

I have been contemplating in getting my mom accessed and diagnosed for BPD. This video has confirmed that I should do it when you guys talked about is the cascadian disorder. My mom can't stay awake n the morning and becomes manic at 1am till the morning. Thank you so much for these videos.

[@Kessiebear81]

That was so helpful to watch - I was only diagnosed 18 months ago, though I had serious suspicions for several years prior - but at no point have I read or been told that sleep disturbances is common, which mine is (almost exactly the way described, but I also wake up many many times every night). Thank you to Medcircle and the Dr shown for doing videos on BPD - it’s is still so heavily stigmatised, and we are not awful people - we just want to be supported and understood, so we can help ourselves get better!

[@Whatshername1991]

The sleep disturbance information you shared, thank you so much. No one in the mental health field has ever told me that. In a few mere words you abolished years of guilt and frustration surrounding my lack of control over my sleeping pattern. Again thank you so much for speaking about this, I now know to bring this up in treatment.

[@Kelly-Mauricio]

My heart goes out to everyone suffering from this disorder

[@kali7906]

I am watching this after sleeping all day and waking up in the middle of the night! Sleep pattern disturbances... confirmed!!!

[@katpee93]

A video on cyclothymia would be really interesting! I have BPD and cyclothymia and it’s very difficult to work with both disorders!

[@dmmg17]

I was diagnosed with BPD, and as I changed so much of therapist and kind of therapies until find one that actually works for me, I was mostly disconnected from my diagnosis, I didn't want to call myself BPD so for me was easy to deal with my personality namely only my personality and work to make it more stable. Fortunately, it is working, but eventually my last therapist brought up the BPD topic which made me look for information about it, so I found these videos and I REALLY find them super useful, also to understand more about myself. The only thing I regret is that there is no subtitles for other languages, I am from a Spanish speaking country so although I can understand and learn, my parents can't as they don't speak English and I would really like them to watch these video. Hope in the future we can find subtitles for different languages.

[@aprilk8620]

Dr. Ramani is brilliant!! Love watching her videos :)

[@xyzauy5472]

Thank you for these series about BPD, Dr. Ramani and Mr. Kittleson. I’ve gained so much information and I can finally reference these videos to my partner to gain his support and understanding in me seeking treatment.

[@hannahrolston4]

I feel so seen and heard. This is an incredibly helpful video. After an unbelievably horrifying life experience I have spent the last 1.5 years being proactively engaged in my mental health. It really has felt like a full time job and sometimes I question if I’m doing the right thing. This just validated my experience so much. It’s been a long journey and progress is slow but everyday I notice improvements. Thanks 🙏

[@bettykroll]

Thank you for the great information. I was finally diagnosed with BPD 13 yrs ago. I have had clinical depression my entire life. I also have an eating disorder & sleep disturbance but it’s never been connected to my BPD. It’s like connecting the dots! It’s been a lifetime of depression, violent anger episodes, abandonment problems, all leading to me staying out of relationships for fear. I went through a year and a half of DBT therapy with mindfulness and meditation. It has helped me tremendously and I haven’t been suicidal in several years. I do still keep the suicide hotline number in my phone. Learning self regulation just helped me get through a difficult situation which in the past I would have wanted to die. I take life a day at a time and work hard to practice what I have learned in therapy. I can’t say that I no longer have violent or self harming thoughts but I am better at not acting on them. It’s been torture living my life.

[@erinbosch2775]

I have gone through both anorexia and bulimia and still have relapses here and there and recently found out I'm BPD and was misdiagnosed with Bipolar at 8. This all makes so much sense.

[@erinconnell7130]

This is so me. I have scizzoaffective disorder, bpd and PTSD. I have been in therapy since a child but really for the last 25 years straight with alternating many different combinations of medications. I have been thru icmp group and we finally got my mood disorder more under control then last year extreme trauma struck again to unfathomable low levels that my bpd is becoming out of control. I have been addressing the bpd with my therapist more so the last 5 months and we are making huge progress. Soon I will be going back to icmp with the Hope's of graduating to the dbt class after 4 months. I'm doing so much better theks past month. My impulsiveness is so much better already . But I am fortunate I have a therapist and psychiatrist that love working with borderline patients and I talk with my therapist 4 days a week and the crisis hot line if needed the rest of thw week. The few people I have left in my life are learning boundaries with me which has forced me to see when I'm out of control or have gone too far ans I feel instant remorse for my reactions out of pure fear. But by others putting up no tolerate boundaries it's really helping me realize what's going to happen if I dont get better control of my impulsiveness. When I need to rage I call the crisis hotline and tell them I need to defuse my emotions and we work on it or I talk with my therapist. I try very hard not to go to family and friends with my outrageous emotions because its driving them away from me. I'm determined to recover from bpd as best as possible. I cant in no way live the rest of my life with such fear and loathing of myself. It just wont happen

[@FATHIYA170193]

Dear Med Circle. Please talk about Borderline Personality Disorder and work/jobs. I’ve been countless times confronted about my low job performance. Like doing so well in the beginning and strongly deteriorate and lose motivation after. Despite trying again after many attempts, still get called out for mediocre efforts but you tried so hard. People just can’t see how hard it is for me. I tried so hard to fight everyday going to work. It’s like the same repetitive battle every single day.

[@Jenabebe]

watching this video at 4 and I have bpd and a couple other disorders I really wish I could see this lady she knows me so well.

[@tahliawhittaker1317]

Amazing. You just described my mother completely. BPD, eating disorders, depression and the sleep disturbance. Thank you for your content.

[@ryana411]

This Dr. Is spot on and absolutely easy to understand... I have been suffering for 10+ years and have only recently been properly diagnosed... but she makes it so much easier to understand!

[@mariaficks9002]

Dr.Ramani has such great compassion towards this illness I struggle with BPD, eating disorder and severe anxiety and complex ptsd living with these diagnoses I wish I never had it makes sense why this illness is so incredibly hard to treat and how crippling this illness. I wish she was my therapist. Dr.ramani your so great!!!

[@nee319814]

I love this video. I have been living with bpt, bipolar 2, depression and anxiety, belimia, and insomnia for over two years now. Obviously formed over my life span but at 23 years old I am 100% disabled army veteran. I have two beautiful young children and a very successful 2+ year old romantic relationship soon to be married and my meds are still not perfect. This video really helped me explain my life to my family from someone they can understand. Very very truthful and very interesting to hear someones description be so real of who I am.

[@AlexaAtrocity]

I’m BpD, bipolar and an alcoholic. This is so on point, sadly

[@valeriemcknight5608]

Thank you for discussing the link between BPD, eating disorders and alcoholism, all of which contributed to my sister's death. This issue is very serious and can cause what I call "slow suicide". The more we discuss the more we can catch these disorders before they become as serious as my late sister's.

[@johnstewart662]

As a BPD sufferer with bipolar mania and depression. Also a child of a BPD mother, child and adult abuse. I am an eager patient, I invest a lot of work to understand myself and help my family. I totally agree with continuity of care l. One topic I haven’t heard or found my troublesome problem with care. As a person of little means I am navigating the madicare/medicaide. It seems that as soon as I have finally opened and trusted and saw long term hope, they leave the clinic for greener pastures. In the past year, o have had 3 individual, 2 group leaders go as well as a DBT group structure that has been cancelled all together and post hospital extended outpatient program (IOP & PHP) seem to always go to the private payment patients. I end up lost

[@rivdickerson2797]

Hi! My spouse and I recently got married, and I have been on a quest to really understand BPD, as she was diagnosed with it a while back. I love her to death, and I want to make sure it's clear that I'm not researching BPD to CHANGE her, but rather to better understand her brain, her mind, and how she works so we can nurture our relationship in every positive way. These videos that you have done are intelligent and insightful, and I cannot thank you enough for this resource you have provided. BPD is not an easy disorder to have (especially when combined with ADHD), but I am so proud of my spouse, and I am so grateful for these videos. If anyone reading this is struggling with BPD: I'm sorry that your brain doesn't work normally and that, right now, there are really no good treatments outside of therapy. I hope that you take from me a sliver of hope - it does get better. It may not seem like it right now, but it will.

[@TalonOfDragon]

Schizotypal personality disorder with borderline personality disorder. Accompanied with depression, delayed sleep, chronic insomnia, general and social anxiety. My heads a mess but I'm here.

[@chrisjuliette]

I got diagnosed with BPD along time before i was told i was diagnosed with it but no one told me bc i was so young (got diagnosed at 13 found out at 16) before i was always told i have depression and anxiety and panic disorder but it never felt like that 100% like i could relate to those things but i always felt it was more once i got diagnosed with bpd and did some research into it and looked back it made SO MUCH SENSE. Also treatment and therapy never worked for me when i thought i had depression but now that i know i have BPD and im treating it im getting so much better!

[@Kryssee-Kurruption]

This makes me feel better but still frustrated as someone with BPD. I saw in writing that I also have chronic dysthymia, cptsd, and a anxiety disorder as well as other things. I feel all of what she says! I wish she was my dr♡ lots of love to my fellow peoples xx

[@serad4008]

Can you speak on the topic of adult children of sociopaths, especially mother and daughter relationship.

[@cenos8521]

Thanks for the insight .I dealt with a women who had multiple disorders for 5 years including panic ,eating , agoraphobia and borderline and barely got out alive .The physical and mental abuse became impossible to deal with and I finally manage to escape her and as a result ended up having to do therapy for 3 years just to get my sanity back . I could write a book on this matter.

[@dreamworkd]

I had anorexia as a young teenager and have been struggling with bulemia on and off for about 10 years (Im 33 now). I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder at 13 but sometimes I wonder if BPD would have been the correct diagnosis. I know I should probably seek treatment but, for me, and this is just for me, the more I understand BPD, the more I know how to help myself. Thanks for the helpful videos!!

[@nikkijaneallison]

Thank you for this. Can you also talk about Favorite Person/FP and what you should do if you are someone's FP.

[@MedCircle]

Absolutely. We've added this to our list of topics to cover :) you can stay updated on our latest videos by subscribing at bit.ly/2PQ4YOY

[@ajaykumara7158]

Thank you for educating millions of people

[@carlydavenport44]

19 next month and was diagnosed at 14 and rediagnosed every year since. Such a terrible illness. Praying for everyone else struggling or who have someone who does

[@SparkleAndShine-hh5vv]

I have BPD and Major Depressive Disorder and General Anxiety Disorder! I have always welcomed treatment! I love therapy! I have been in counseling for over half my life and it’s extremely helpful to me! I have done DBT and loved it and I have always welcomed treatment and I always will!

[@coloradoriveryogi]

Inpatient 3 times over 3 years … seeking answers ,, all my life. discovered borderline on my own a few months ago , every box checked , every ism , every wtf are you running from now answered.. these videos help , the tips the tricks the understanding I am not alone … and can be accountable for the crap in my head white knuckling it . I wish I could find a therapist because I am not a specialist but I do try my best for the people around me 🎉 my life the leftovers of the mess I made not understanding me .

[@carolinelaronda4523]

I see most people’s comments are from people w BPD but for me these videos have been sooo helpful in understanding my ex . I knew something was not quite right with him and he didn’t think he has any problems but sadly his behavior was so telling of depression at the minimum . It is now so clear to me that he suffers from BPD and it’s such a relief to me to know that when he was lashing out on me and tearing me down for no reason it had a name , splitting , and it was not my fault ! I did so much for this man and had so much compassion and patients but it was becoming painfully obvious that his problem was becoming my problem by tolerating the abuse that he would dump on me when he would all of sudden split . And to now know that his strange sleeping patterns and eating habits are a part of this disorder really brings more pieces of the puzzle together.

[@realtalk6340]

Sending good vibes to anyone dealing with people with these disorders.

[@SnakeAndTurtleQigong]

Sending love and support to anyone healing while dealing with BPD! 💙💙

[@ManlyPHall-ce8dc]

Holy....wow.....I literally got chills down my back. She spoke to my psyche and not my self....😅

[@kaisawtelle7444]

I appreciate all these videos as someone with BPD and co occurring disorders with them, however I have one problem with the age to diagnose. I have a narcissistic mother who ended up eventually leaving when I was 13. I went to therapy and they all diagnosed me with several things and brought up the fact I could be borderline, but the couldn't diagnose me since I haven't become a teenager and I was not 18. I took many medications that led to me being much worse is mental state. This grew my hatred towards therapist and I have a hard time everyday because I have type 1 diabetes and because I went so deep down and stopped caring and developed DIABETIC burnout. I now have neuropathy I'm my right foot and cant barely walk. That being said when I need them they weren't there I had no one I didnt know what to do and all they did was sent me for evaluations. So Why is it right to keep the diagnosis from the person struggling even if they are young. All the things I have now I had back then, but now it's harder for me as adult then if I had that help and support as a child. (10-16 the ages I went to therapy.) Up until I went back just to get diagnosed I have done very well and gotten alot better now that I personally went out of my way to help myself.

[@davidpratt2524]

This is very true ad someone with bpd, I also have high depression, anxiety and adhd. I was an alcoholic in my early 20s and now have been sober for 5 years. It's difficult for me to sleep with insomnia and night terrors but luckily there is a medication I take that helps.

[@marykaz3769]

I was first diagnosed with bipolar 2, and only some time later another doctor thought of testing me for BPD because no one ever had, and the treatment for bipolar wasn’t really working. So that’s how I got diagnosed with both of these disorders. It’s a relief and a daily battle for me. I want to live a normal happy life but see no way out. I’m scared a therapist and meds I’m taking won’t help me and I’m gonna be unhappy and alone in my suffering. I just want someone to help me but no one really understands. So that’s what it’s like living with border/polar.

[@terricain6438]

I'm so glad that mental illness is being explained in such detail in today's world. I've been hospitalised 8 separate times initially for suicide attempt or ideation. My final diagnosis for my disability are: mdd, bpd, bulimia/anorexia, major anxiety/cancer anxiety, PTSD, and ADHD. I was diagnosed 2 separate times as bipolar when i wasn't. On the wrong meds for 2yrs an absolute nightmare. There isn't a worse feeling knowing something is very wrong but you don't know what. I wish mental illness had come out of the closet 30 yrs ago. If you feel like something isn't right about you go get help, it's okay or will be. Don't live in mental chaos, it gets worse over time. Life is to short.

[@karatecorgi7685]

Took me 30 years to finally get assessed and diagnosed. It was such a lot of work and waiting, but I had got to a point where I couldn't deny that I was running and I needed to face it and learn to understand, treat and live a life acknowledging whatever was wrong. BPD and ADHD were life changing diagnosises for me, I've had GAD+SAD and general depression diagnosises for years but realising that these may very well be symptoms as well as standalone things? Blew my mind. BDP has been hell to live with, especially not understanding what it even was and feeling as if I was somehow just being difficult/dramatic and not understanding why I felt this way. Fellow BPDers, we're so heckin strong like woah ♥️♥️

[@Havokwreaker]

I have Bipolar 1 with BPD comorbidity, and I found this video very informative. Loving all the positive wishes in the comments too.

[@myfon8615]

i am learning that the woman i love has bdp. Her acusations, jealousy and delusional thoughts are breaking my heart right now. She is kind and loving inside but lately the stress of life has her in an abusive and jealous heart breaking cycle. i have been learning alot about how to deal with this episode. but i am trying to get her to realize her mind isnt doing so well right now. Does anyone have a video they would recomend that could possibly make her understand her current state. ?

[@twistednerve444]

My Fon I am so sorry you guys are going through this. This hit home for me. I suffer from PTSD, Depression/Anxiety, and BPD. It’s really hard to be honest with a partner, but it’s also very challenging for the other person as well. I just wanted to say that you’re awesome for trying to educate yourself and understand your partner too. It’s amazing. There aren’t many people like you. Anyway, the voice is this video is a little...idk goofy to me lol HOWEVER it did help me understand myself a bit more. Maybe try giving it a listen. You don’t HAVE to adopt that method of treatment, but the information provided is pretty insightful. Idk. Hope it sort of helps or maybe leads you to another, better video. :) good luck! kzbin.info/www/bejne/mKGxq52Jlryegsk

[@Grimenoughtomaketherobotcry]

You don't need a video; you need a therapist. And if she refuses to go for therapy with you, then go alone. Be prepared to focus on saving yourself- you will NEVER change her. Only she can do that, and her disorder will constantly tell her it's others and not she who has the problem. Wishing you the best of luck!

[@manny2731]

I feel you man. I suspect my wife has bpd as well as auditory hallucinations. She refuses to seek help and accuses me of manipulating her to think she’s “crazy”. I don’t know how much longer I can hold on

[@pickles974]

Self diagnosing and diagnosing others when you are not qualified are equally pointless. Maybe take her to a therapist as a first step to see if there is something wrong with her.

[@parrotfish1988]

I would advice you to RUN if you are not too deep into the relationship...A relationship with a BPD will drain everything out of you....at the end YOU will need therapy for life and they won't have changed.save yourself

[@lavendertownvip1908]

This lady just described my whole life. I wish it was easier to get diagnosed and treatment

[@RonnieNightDive]

Can you do a video on co-occurring BPD and PTSD?

[@Sameoldfitup]

When i was 7 years old i was betrayed by the one person i loved the most, my daddy. In the early 70s i was abandoned in the street by my step mother and placed in a childrens home. They placed me with a foster family for a year and i came to love them very much but the authorities dragged me away, i remember that day like yesterday i was screaming not wanting to leave them. Then i spent one year in a childrends home then 8 years in another till i was 18. I left the care system completely traumatised not knowing if i was homosexual or hetrosexual, i could not work or form relationships, i became obsessed with self image and absolutley detached from myself. The onething that i found very confusing was the homosexuality in the childrens home, what was i doing having sex with other boys? I know why i did it because it was love, not that i was born homosexual.

[@tabithamadigan9851]

Diagnosed as having OCD and Anorexia at 16, BPD and C-PTSD at 18, then Bipolar II at 19 - it really makes me wonder if only a couple are accurate. Symptoms of each feed into the others, so it's hard to tell if I've been misdiagnosed.

[@Sameoldfitup]

Avoidant personality disorder as been a curse all my life. I was diagnosed with (major) personality disorder in Jan 1982 at the age of 17 years old after a very traumatic childhood. I was mentally abused by my step mother at the age of 6 & 7 years old. I spent 11 years in a children's home after my step mother abandoned me on the street at the age of 7 years old in 1971. My real father betrayed me, because he allowed my stepmother to put my in a children's home. My real mother would not get me out of the childrens home after she found out where i was, and her actual words were "he's better off where he is". So i guess that's where the overwhelming fear of abandonment comes from. Dissociation was a major problem through my school years all i did was daydream. My life as been a total mess i'm now 55 years old.

[@iris-dz5fc]

thank you for making me understand my illness better. I love talks with Dr. Ramani she's so passionate and educated about what she talks about, and helps me understand things so effortlessly. Thank you! keep them videos coming :)