Boyfriend's Mom Is Intentionally Poisoning Me By Putting Garlic In Every Dish r/Relationships

[@benjie128]

Everytime I hear about someone not taking allergies seriously I remember the coconut story. The oP had 2 kids, one with a serious allergy to coconut. The grandma used coconut oil on hair, refusing to believe the allergy was that bad. Spoiler, it was. Grandma was watching the kids one night, used coconut oil on the kids' hair and sent them to bed. Only when she checked on the allergic kid, they were blue. The grandmother deeply regrets it, but the OPs words still haunt me. She'll forgive her mom when she can hold her child again.

[@maryjanedodo]

Pretty sure the grandma was using it like leave-in conditioner. There are hundreds of different conditioners on the market - they're cheap - what a stupid reason to ruin everyone's lives.

[@CrazyHLady]

I read that story😢😢😢

[@sophdog2564]

​@@maryjanedodooiling hair is a thing in some cultures, especially ones where textured hair is more common. It's part hair care, but it's also somewhat of a ritual between mothers and daughters that can be important in some families. But coconut oil is not the only hair oil out there and that story really is so disturbing. I'm pretty sure the grandma thought that she was lying about the coconut allergy to prevent her from oiling the granddaughter's hair, which was obviously not the case. Also I think the grandma realized that she was really allergic before they went to bed and rinsed her hair, but didn't wash it or take the girl to the ER

[@ajzephyros7454]

3 kids, but it was more centered around the twin girls, poor big brother was sent to the neighbors as grandma and grandpa took the already deceased child to the hospital. All of those kids suffered, especially the younger twin who grew up as a twinless twin feeling like something was missing her whole life.

[@betheguy_posts]

​@sophdog2564 It's even worse than that. Grandma noticed she was having a reaction in the middle of the night so she DOSED THE KID WITH BENADRYL. That story raises my blood pressure every time I think about it. It's also the reason I will NEVER marry anyone with crazy/unreasonable parents. Won't catch me on r/JustNoMIL.

[@sadtitties222]

Story 1: OP's ex is going to be in for a rude awakening after he realizes that every woman he ever dates after OP will leave him because of his mother not approving of them and doing everything in her power to get rid of them. Honestly, he'll deserve it.

[@kaykay8855]

He would realize until his mother starts pestering him for grandchildren. Mothers like her babies their sons until they decide his ‘ready’ to have children.

[@shadowdemon2272]

He'll probably end up with exactly "the type" his Mom wants when he's actually looking for marriage/kid material. In my experience, especially at the ages mentioned, it isn't uncommon for dating someone their Mom doesn't like to be a form of "rebellion" against the parent, but it's a cowardly rebellion as all the dislike tends to be pointed at the disliked partner rather than the "rebelling" child. My opinion: ex would probably eventually reveal he thought OP's piercings and hair were childish and she should "grow up", just like his Mom.

[@Songbirdstress]

OP has a boyfriend problem, I wouldn't go to the dinners either if my mother was intentionally hurting my partner. Might even go low contact over such a thing, pretty nasty behaviour to be honest.

[@LunaP1]

You said it. People like OP's ex are too attached to their parents and refuse to grow up. He keeps choosing his mother over his personal relationships.

[@dionysus_adores]

Yeah his mom is trying to harm op she's assaulting op. The mom is unhinged and the ex is like "yeah that's fine."

[@crawdaddy2004]

Story 1: “It’s not like you’ll die”? Really? “Because it won’t kill you, may I break your arm?”

[@colleens1107]

Story two: just THANK GOD OP had her father to take her and little brother in, even though he’s not his kid. Between the lawyer and driving an hour to bring OP to her college, sounds like he’s a good guy. I’m so thankful they weren’t trapped in that house or thrown into foster care. I also had the same thought as representativegur250 though, why DID OP end up in foster care and not with her dad. Makes me wonder if he had also been an addict but actually got clean and turned his life around

[@azadalamiq]

it not always easy to get in-contact with out of wedlock births with the other parent. I possible was in foster care for a bit due to my mom having deep depression after separating from my the guy she married and wasn't sent to my bio-dad, due to being born outa wedlock.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: so instead of op’s ex bf breaking up with op because of mommy dearest he chose to be complacent with his mother poisoning op. If he was attached to his mother’s apron strings at least be a classy mommy’s boy and break up with op, instead of poisoning her.

[@eponymoususer8923]

Story2: wow. Passing up a full ride would be a tragedy. OP needs to find a way to get distance from their mother.

[@HackiePuffs]

I just want to hug OP in story 2. The way they keep blaming themselves and feeling like they need to step up and handle adult responsibilities and wanting to be there to look after their little brother it’s all just so sad. It’s clear that OP has been parentified and abused possibly even before David showed up. I hope that OP and the little brother are able to get some type of therapy in the future for all of this and I wish those kids the best..

[@johnbradbury8610]

Op needs to pepper spray her sorry excuse of a mother.

[@jbrennan381]

She should pepper spray the mom too lol

[@avaphynx]

Poisoning someone purposely just because they don't like someone is definitely some psycho ish. Story 2 single mom's who date low brow people like the boyfriend. She's a terrible mom, why actively bring horrible méñ around your kids.

[@Iflie]

Yes, even without the drugs many seem far more interested in keeping a guy/any guy than keeping their children safe. Even when he beats her too. Some sort of derangement for sure. "I deserve love/a life" No you don't, not at the expense of your children, stop dating.

[@pippo17173]

hearing the history with the mom, you can see why she is likes this now. I wouldn't be surprised if this is her way to try to forget what happen to her. Still pretty crappy what she is doing.

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

Story 1-fun fact if it’s a SABA inhaler the more frequent the use the less effective they become to the point where they literally don’t work anymore. Making her use her inhaler when she shouldn’t have to could b storing up future problems. Also everyone, make sure your asthmas well managed if it’s not see your doctor:)

[@avaphynx]

@@pippo17173 it's not an excuse. I know plenty of people who had incredibly hard upbringings. And not actively terrorizing others.

[@pippo17173]

@avaphynx oh of course. Just more of an observation when hearing this.

[@elski5067]

Story 2: these didgusting single mothers, that love to move in strangers too abuse their children make me sick.

[@danacarter9147]

Same here. If someone notices OP's living situation, they would contact social services to not only remove OP and her little brother from their egg donor, but also declare OP a ward of the state, and place her little brother in foster care, and with another family through closed adoption.⚠️

[@topperharley2593]

Learn to spell and use grammar correctly before you decide being a single mother is the problem in this situation. None of this has anything to do with being a single mother

[@alurafox666]

Gosh this garlic allergy story reminds me of something recent wit my parents. I suddenly turned allergic to cherries, and my parents doubted me. So I went without allergy meds for a day (I take them daily cause I'm allergic to like.. 8 things.) and ate 3 whole cherries.. My throat closed up, my lips swelled up, my tongue swelled and I could barely breathe. They finally believed me but they said 'take some honey so the reaction lessens'... Yes. I couldn't swallow and they wanted me to take honey. I left and went to the hospital by myself, pointing at my face, and barely managed a whisper with 'allergy'. They got me on antihistamine right away.. I'm no-contact with my parents now.

[@dragoneffect7360]

I will never understand people that "want to test" allergies. I'm allergic to pot, parsley, and turmeric. You wouldn't believe how few people believe me. 😅

[@wesleywesson]

“THE ICK” brought to you by garlic

[@maryjanedodo]

🏆🥇👏🧄🤢

[@BloodSunBlast]

Story 2 sounds like what my life was like before moving out. Exactly I didn't have anything but a pocket knife to protect me.

[@mandalorianhunter1]

I'm sorry that happened to you, I hope your family gets a ride awakening

[@BloodSunBlast]

@@mandalorianhunter1 ex step mom. Oh I hope she does too. She relied on me for a lot of bills. I know full well her bf won't pay.

[@danacarter9147]

​@@mandalorianhunter1Same here.😔

[@MrArielK]

Did you won the legal case against your family?

[@BloodSunBlast]

@@MrArielK it's a protection order and currently sadly had to reschedule the court date as my ride fell through

[@britnicox3929]

1: the fact that they genuinely just expected OP to deal with being poisoned by his mother until she demanded better is wild. Some best friend and boyfriend huh? 2: I am so glad that we got a good ending for this because these poor kids deserved a break! The number of people who shit on this poor girl - a CHILD - for not wanting to potentially put herself and her brother in a dangerous, abusive foster care situation when she herself experienced it before is awful. I’m glad they got the help they needed and her dad was able to pull through

[@jamaicangirl8933]

If someone response to you telling them about your allergies is you won't die it's time to drop them completely

[@Gumbier_Than]

Man, I hope I never find out a person tampered with somebody's food when I'm around. I do not play about stuff like that.

[@QuayHollywood]

That first story: gotta say my aunt is like really allergic to chicken to the point that if she touches it, she wells and gets hives in seconds. At a family event yesterday, she waited in another room while everyone got food, and I made sure there was no chicken near anything she could eat safely. I'm big on food allergies as I have many too, and I I refuse to let anyone be near it if I know it will harm them.

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 2: I'm incredibly unsurprised the mom and David were using drugs, was either that or David was also abusive towards her as well given that the mom was enabling the abuse of the brother. Mom got off so lightly though, hoping life kicks her down hard, which there's a decent chance of now she's apparently on her own now, which doesn't pair well with a co-dependent druggy.

[@kamikelly3908]

Yeah I love garlic put it in 90% of my dishes but if someone had an allergy I'd either not cook with it or make a separate dish

[@slippyquack7672]

Last story: 3 years PROBATION for mother??? Yeah, no. She should've gotten actual jail or prison time cause apparently, it wasn't just her shitbag boyfriend but her too that was abusing the little brother! Spitting him, putting cigarettes out in his food then forcing him to eat it, while subjecting both of her own children to CPS, boyfriend, and doing & having harmful drugs around them! How is her sentencing not so much harsher than what it is??? Do I even have to say it?!

[@AWildJirachi]

Also, imagine berating someone who's technically still a child for not immediately knowing how to properly respond to a situation like what OP #2 was going through.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

I know. And her apologizing for not cueing in on the fact that her mom was back to using drugs. Like, it’s not her responsibility to monitor her mother’s drug use. She was already doing the bulk of the housework, paying bills, and watching over her kid brother. I wonder if the mom was working so much so she could afford her drugs. It puts a different spin on “she works so much but still doesn’t make a lot of money”. Yeah, piss on those Redditors who “yelled” at her for not taking “the proper steps”.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Good thing OP realized that her supposed bff was also a problem and cut her off.

[@jessierobles9218]

Asthma is absolutely life threatening. My kid has almost died a couple times from asthma.

[@hyzenthlayrose2176]

OP in the second story was such a great sister. Not to mention her dad taking both her and her brother in. Even though the dad isn't the brother's biological dad I hope the two of them are able to have a happy father/son relationship.

[@maurer3d]

Story 1 (before update): NTA (of course), You and your BF have to stop going, until she stops this shit or at minimum make a portion for you that does not have garlic. His mom will not even make a change until it affects her relationship with her son. With most allergies every exposure makes the next attack worst, so every-time she tries to make you eat garlic she is loading the revolver loading it with a bullet and spinning the chamber. Yes right now your reaction is "just asthma" but it could quickly become full blown anaphylaxis. Story 1 (update 1): If anyone in my family (including friends) did this to an SO of mine I would never be around that family member for at least as long as the relationship lasted (possibly longer).

[@kristinewatson3702]

Story 2: if OP'S mom brings that BF back in the home call CPS.

[@flamelily2086]

Story 1 My sister has an allergy to eggs. Many people refuse to accept that you can be allergic to eggs. My sister's mil deliberately mixed egg in with the meal to "prove" that my sister wasn't allergic. My sister took two mouthfuls and had to run to the bathroom to throw up. After that her mil understood that my sister did have an allergy and even found an egg free brand of salad cream that my sister could use. My sister is lucky because she throws up immediately if she eats egg. In more serious cases, an egg allergy can cause anaphalaxis. Story 2 Good for OP for pepoer spraying David. She shouldn't have done it but I don't blame her. David sounds like a bully and her mother sounds like the type of mother who puts her boyfriends over her children. The people cursing OP out for not going to CPS need to pull their horns in. OP has explained that she has been in care and it was not a good situation for her. As her mother is using again it gives OP a good reason to take her brother and stay with her dad. Her dad is a champion taking the brother who is not his child. I am glad that they are both safe and happy.

[@streamerssaymyname]

No, she SHOULD have pepper sprayed him. He is more than capable of killing her little brother, and it happens so so often. It's better that they got out and are safe - but he needed to be stopped.

[@potatoempress5731]

There should be some law that includes "allergy test" as assault

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 1 - I consider myself lucky that most people, even if they initially had reservations about my colorful hair, piercings, and tattoos, have come to realize I’m just a person and that there was nothing to be worried about . If my partner’s family member kept trying to trigger an allergic reaction in me because she doesn’t like the way I choose to look and my partner isn’t cutting them off or going super low contact, I’d be leaving.

[@MemristerBoogieDown]

I was a tattoo artist for just over two decades so I'm the old lady with all that jazz. You know what amuses me the most? When I meet people in public and I'm myself, they ALWAYS tell me in some way about how surprised they are that I'm friendly, polite and didn't offer their kids a bump. LOL!

[@angelaa7388]

I dont think OP is selfish for not going to the authorities. She has to make her decision based on what will be safest for her. The uncertainty of foster care is worth weighing against her other options. I'm glad her dad was willing to step up.

[@emilybarclay8831]

Listen, I fucking LOVE me some garlic. To the point where I genuinely wouldn’t date someone like OP (nothing against them personally, they seem cool) but if someone I knew didn’t like garlic, let alone had an allergy, I would gladly pass it over. If I can do it, MIL can do it

[@maryjanedodo]

Raw garlic 🧄 gives a lot of people migraines for some reason

[@charitynordstrom5734]

Second mom is worthless for being more worried about loser boyfriend than her own children

[@josepherhardt164]

Loser BF is probably her source.

[@ZombieSazza]

OP in story 2 did everything right, she protected her brother from a monster, a man who’s mooching and treating OP and her brother poorly whilst the mother just doesn’t care, and all she gets from her mother is “you ruined my relationship with David” OP, report David to the Police for assaulting a minor, let them know your mother didn’t care. See if there’s relatives that can take you both in temporarily/permanently if they’re able to offer. You are NOT safe, men like David will continue to get more and more violent and your mother won’t care because the violence isn’t directed at her. I say this as a child abuse survivor (violent brother and neglectful mother), I escaped at 18 with the help of a young persons charity, my mother regularly chose crappy men over my safety and your mother is pulling the same crap. It’s actually worth exploring staying with your dad and taking your brother with you, let the Police know your father will happily file for custody/adoption, whatever it takes. CPS won’t take your brother away as they like to keep families together, especially if a relative (your father for example) is willing to step up to keep you together. And lastly, don’t blame yourself, you’ve been parentified, your mother neglects you and expects you to being up your brother like he’s your own child, David will continue to get more and more violent and it’s obvious your mother doesn’t care about your safety, this is NOT your fault.

[@jenniferdaniels701]

Story 2- for some reason, I'm wondering if she really was SA'd, and it's just an excuse to never go to them. Maybe it's just not trusting the mom.

[@aprilfox9205]

One of my sisters made claims like this, we found out she was stealing from that side of the family and using hard drugs. So u are probably right.

[@MrJpaynebb]

Many, not all but many SA survivors turn to alcohol and drugs for coping unfortunately. Being an addict maybe an explanation for her behavior but it's not a pass for it. Glad OP is out of that situation.

[@amandasunshine2]

SA can lead to drug abuse.

[@streamerssaymyname]

​@@aprilfox9205a lot of CSA teens and adults cope with their trauma by doing drugs. Just because they are a drug addict, or just because they run away, or start stealing, does not mean their abuse is fake. It's almost so predictable that acting out is a sign to look out for when suspecting child abuse.

[@aprilfox9205]

@@streamerssaymyname Oh, I understand that, I didn't mean to imply that wasn't the case in many circumstances. I apologize for seeming cold and implying that doesn't happen. I just know that in my sisters case she admitted later she lied about it.

[@maurer3d]

Story 2: NTA, David is an abusive AH, and if your mom refuses to get rid of him you need to call CPS (or your countries equivalent). Story 2 (OP's comments): Do not pass on college, that would be an extremely stupid decision, especially with a full-ride scholarship. Otherwise you are most likley going to end up just like your mother, unable to cover the bills without your child helping. Call your father ask him about moving you and your brother in, then call the police/CPS. You father will qualify to receive money from the state to help raise your brother till you finish college and are able to take him in. Story 2 (final update): So glad you took all the great advise, and now you and brother are in a safe place, it is also great that the college is only an hour from your Dad's so when you do live on campus you can visit your brother every weekend (or visa-versa).

[@babybookworm003]

Story 1 my younger sister is allergic to citrus it gives her severe migraines and my older sister is allergic to nuts and we find it easy to respect both allergies. Its not all that hard

[@DeathclawJedi]

I know someone who has this problem with onions. Not nearly as prevalent in dishes as garlic is but still has to watch what he eats.

[@drea4195]

Doesn't sound like boyfriend's mother is really such a "wonderful person". (and stop calling her MIL, you aren't even engaged to him, much less married). Refreshing to hear her actually admit to trying to break them up, though; usually in these cases, the evil mother just doubles down with the gaslighting and evades the issue. Well done OP on sticking to your guns and not letting her off the hook. Story 2: OP is a champ! Thank God for her being in her brother's life, OP is the reason he will have a chance to heal and move forward in life.

[@joskubl6017]

Allergy story: my son has a dairy allergy. Ppl would try to get him to eat ice cream. My brother tried to feed icecream to my son (4yrs old at that time) my brother said it won't hurt. My son replied: " Uncle, that little bit can kill me." My son smiled then went off to play with his cousins.

[@MemristerBoogieDown]

Sounds like David needs a visit from a toothfairy. Toothfairy: a person who can be paid to bring you someone's teeth. Usually around 50 to 100 bucks a tooth or 1500 for the toothfairy to take a crowbar and make it a clean sweep.

[@superior_cream_puff7798]

I started having an allergic reaction to apples a few years back, seemingly overnight. Figured years ago that it's caused by a tree pollen, and affects all my favorite fruits sadly. Cannot eat them raw or my throat and mouth get painfully itchy, and worst cases make my thoat swells up. My familly seems unconvinced (except my grandpa who saw me happily eat a plum and suddently rush for water) but don't force those fruits on me, and somehow always seems surprised when I eat those fruits in cooked forms (despite me always telling them I can id cooked)

[@Emmie.the.Kraken11]

Story 1: I have a weird allergy. Menthol/Mint. One day peppermint oil made my wrist red and itchy then a few years later I had something mint flavored and I felt my throat tighten and my arms got red. Next thing I know I’m off to urgent care. It’s a weird allergy, and I’m fortunate that the only one to cause accidental encounters has been me, and I’m lucky my friends and coworkers are careful too. Allergies are random. One day I put a bandaid on and suddenly my wrist is red and itchy. Anyone who isn’t a professional tries testing them should and can legally be sued because these things can turn deadly on a dime!

[@lifewithlee6298]

I’m guessing when Dave see the kids won’t return , Dave will loss interest and leave the mom. Than mom will come crawling back 😅 but op not going to have it 😡

[@lenax9798]

I have a stinking suspicion that dad wasn't allowed custody and thus the kids went into foster care. But now that mom is willingly signing away her custody and op not being a minor anymore, the court had no other option than to put them with dad

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: "I brought my own food but she freaked out and made the dinner uncomfortable for everyone." OP, this is your red flag right here. She's made garlic-free food before, but suddenly now can't live without it being in a single dish? And when you bring your own she has a temper tantrum? Keep bringing your own food and when she flips out, remind her that as long as she's going to put an item you're allergic to in EVERY dish, you're going to keep bringing your own meals. That said, she doesn't like you. She's trying to get rid of you, either by making you and your bf fight over this, or by your allergy eventually getting worse and killing you. And your bf sucks for allowing this to happen. S2: NTA, your mom is a huge AH. Sounds like you're parentified (taking care of your brother, doing a majority of the chores AND paying bills at 17?), but the part that made me want to pepper spray HER was her worrying about fixing her relationship with that abusive slug! Call CPS. Your dad can probably get temporary custody of your brother since his father legally abandoned him, and your home is an unsafe environment right now. Also, if brother's dad is on the birth certificate the courts could probably find him, it was up to your mother to sue for child support so that you weren't responsible for paying her bills.

[@morganleanderblake678]

Pepper spray: You are a fsking legend and you did everything I wish everyone could do.

[@VelcroYuppie]

I loved my mom, but if she was poisoning my girlfriend, I for damned sure would not be going to the monthly dinners.

[@alyzu4755]

Story 2: Poor OP is taking on so much more than she should. The people berating her are garbage. I hope she contacts the police and get get herself and her brother safe. ❤️

[@Em-n-m]

Story 1: Imagine bringing the MIL poison Ivy hand lotion and insisting she use it every time you’re over. Ya know, cus you went through all the trouble of making it and it’s not that serious since it won’t kill her.🙃

[@cnow82]

Whenever Markee says "shrimp on the Barbie” makes me think of Dumb and Dumber. That movie is a classic ♥️

[@LostCause-69]

Doesn't the bf and mother not know people can die from asthma attacks.

[@paulaanderson9770]

The garlic allergy - you can die from asthma! She needs to explain that.

[@user-kl8lo6rj5i]

Last story, OP's Dad is a class act! Recommend 100%!!!!

[@defuncttoad9552]

Someone told me i couldnt be allergic to lettuce cause its "crunchy water". Its insane how people treat people with allergies

[@rebeccalahti9468]

I have never heard of a lettuce allergy but even then if you tell someone they should respect it

[@emilycolbert2852]

I'm so happy to hear she got it off a bad situation and I'm even shocked sitting the has pineapple allergies. It's so random but it sucks

[@rorimorgant.williams6647]

I am Polish and am pretty badly allergic to beets, it would be worse if I were Russian and allergic to beets but whatever. I loved the traditional Christmas soup (which was made with beets) (1 day a year and I would take allergy medicine before hand) but I had to have it because I loved it. When it became three or four days of pain and lots of allergy medicine I stopped. I think if I were to become allergic to horseradish I would just have to hand in my Slavic card. Because I have food allergies my children’s pediatrician had me feed them NOTHING but formula/breast milk for the first year of their life. No cereal, cheerios or anything, just formula, it seems to have worked because they are 33 and 26 and have no food allergies when both I (mother) and their grandfather (my father) had many food allergies. I am also allergic to latex (anaphylactic) if you are allergic to latex you are also allergic to mangos and kiwis. Mangos are the seeds of the trees that latex is made from and kiwis are closely related to the plants.

[@CensorshipVictim]

Story 1 NTA: RUN OP! This story is almost as bad as the r post about a MIL who was poisoning her DIL's food during family events. One time the DIL switched meals with her husband (unbeknownst to either hubby or MIL). And yep, hubby got sick that night. When the DIL told her hubby about switching the meals, he violently attacked her (he knew all along what his mother was doing). It was evil

[@vinnie6604]

Story 1 The easy solution to the issue is not to attend the dinners or else my personal solution to dump spineless boyfriend. Story 2 Tell your mother you will call Children's Services on David if she decides to let him move back in. Also ask your mom if having a boyfriend and drugs is more important than her child's safety. Congratulations on the outcome to this bad situation.

[@Hinatachan360]

I wouldn't eat any food she made or come over to eat.

[@nobodynowhere3322]

story 1: this was my mother. as an adult I developed a sensitivity to onion and garlic, and I'm vegetarian and my mom just insisted on putting meat and garlic and onion in everything. if I cooked my own food she would eat it but complain it didn't contain garlic and onion. one time I went ahead and ate it while I was staying overnight with her, and she finally realized that it actually made me physically sick. she still continued to cook with meat and garlic and complain about my cooking without it, but at least she stopped trying to force me to eat it.

[@VidGirl88]

Story 1 BF knowing his mom is being a bully and doing nothing is a giant red flag. Glad OP got out of there. 🚩🚩🚩

[@tmlizzy]

why do people think that anaphylaxis is the only reason to avoid food allergies? Allergies can and do advance. And if she's using her inhaler, she's definitely at risk of having a more and more severe reaction with each exposure. That's how my shellfish allergy advanced. I used to take a Benadryl after being exposed, then later I had to take one before and then after a meal with shellfish.... and then one day, I was in the ER because what I thought was asthma was actually anaphylaxis.... Now I'm hyper-vigilant. I don't eat pasta salad because people often include clam juice or other shellfish products thinking it's not in the same family.

[@gabinathan5499]

LAST STORY WELL DONE TO OP FOR SWITCHING TO WONDERFUL BIG-SISTER MODE TO DEFEND +TAKE CARE OF HER YOUNGER BROTHER AGAINST THE TERRIBLE MOTHER + HER HUSBAND/ BOY FRIEND. OP WISHING BOTH U +YOUR LITTLE BROTHER A WONDERFUL LIFE IN THE FUTURE ,TO OP'S DAD IF I COULD I WOULD SHAKE YOUR HAND +THANK U FOR THE MITZVAH (GOOD DEED) U DID SAVING OP'S BROTHER'S LIFE EVEN THOUGH HE IS NOT YOUR CHILD BUT OP IS. MAY M.R GOD REWARD U.

[@AWildJirachi]

Food allergies *can* turn anaphylactic over time.

[@PurpleHeartsOnFire]

If you need an inhaler for an allergic reaction then it can turn into anaphylaxis

[@damien678]

I'm not allergic to it, but garlic and onions give me terrible headaches if I have a bit of them. Over the years I've been testing how much I can have before it gives me a splitting headache. This is a hard endeavour and I've struggled to get people to respect my avoidance of both in the past. I try nowadays because I love the taste of both.

[@phoenixsky6124]

Asthma can absolutely cause death.

[@tigernotwoods914]

The people in the comments of that last story clearly have no experience in the system. A bad home is far better than most foster homes. Foster care feels like a punishment at best and at worst is a more severe situation than the home you left.

[@shegeek5559]

Allergies can escalate without warning, as any allergy sufferer knows. I'd be devastated if I had to stop eating garlic.

[@maxinemyers9215]

Thanks Markee💐

[@amyyaku5022]

S1: Me and my immediate family can't have milk. It's not lethal, but we do have digestive issues for days. I have a high pain tolerance, but even then the pain can get so bad I can't even move. With that said, the mom should've been arrested for potentially poisoning OP. S2: NTA. Staying with a trusted family member is a lot better option than CPS and the system. Sometimes it can help, but in most cases CPS takes years to do anything and the system can also fail (as OP stated). Regardless, it's no excuse to harass someone for not calling CPS. Have some empathy Redditors 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@amemooress6291]

The fact that it isnt safer for kids to be removed from an abusive household -- fixing this should be the country's top priority. Ffs.

[@francissobotka8725]

Sounds like the mother is trying to break them up.Well yep I was right.Nobody will be good enough for her special little boy.

[@phoenixsky6124]

See if you can threaten mom with police without calling if that’s enough to keep the boyfriend away. Maybe your dad can foster the little guy.

[@june7343]

Story 1 OP run girl

[@AMRELMAR]

Monster-in-law vibes. Crushed nuts in the gravy. Yikes

[@wickedbird1538]

😮😮watch out for mild allergies. My cousin had a mild peanut allergy. In her 40s, that mild allergy put her into the hospital. It nearly killed her. That was 30 years ago and she still has to carry a pen.

[@HoneyBakedHamlet]

Story 2: if ANYONE slapped my own 8 year old son in the face, they would lose theirs. 😡😡

[@DocKrazy]

Dang. Story 1 is just... I am allergic to chili (my lips itch and I get mouth sores. I also get really fucking pissed off and agressive, see below) and my mom would for *years* disregard me complaining about the pain cause she would "only put a little bit" into the food. I literally reached my breaking point when *I* cooked a whole batch of food and she spoiled it with chili after I was done and didn't tell me. I only noticed after I started eating, then accused me of throwing a tantrum after I blew up on her. She stopped doing it now, but that had been happening for literal years and she never apologised. Just pretends to not hear me if I bring it up. She also definitely acts like I'm an asshole for "forcing my family to eat 'unseasoned' food when I come to visit" (as if chili even has a taste beyond pain. It literally does not. It's a neurotoxin.) I recently talked to a dietologist btw and when I mentioned my symptoms she also said "yep. That is definitely an allergy"

[@wordforger]

Sheesh, not like you can season it AFTER serving it up, or make separate batches. How DARE you get mad about her causing you pain! *shakes head* Some people, man.

[@idiotsandwich4912]

This attitude kills people. A little girl died over something like this. Coconut oil… long story short grandma didn’t think that an allergy to coconut oil was real and was adamant that coconut oil should be applied to of both her granddaughters hair. Mom told her absolutely not.. one of the girls is allergic. Grandma said “oh fine!” Or something like that and let it go but one night when the girls spent the night she applied coconut oil to both of them before bed. The next morning she awoke to crying from one of them and found one crying and screaming next to her deceased sister.. she couldn’t breathe due to the swelling and it had killed her. She started having a reaction immediately.. and grandma just gave her an allergy pill and LET HER GO TO BED LIKE THAT. So yeah this is a big deal.. it can and will kill and it isn’t a joke.

[@Tsuki_Itsubi]

Story 2: I thought OPs mother was a weak and pathetic coward who'd rather let her boyfriend abuse her kids than be single. Then somehow she just kept falling more and more with every update, what a horrendous human being who should be in prison. Scum.

[@SherlocksLeftNipple]

Story 2: Karma is a bitch, and she's especially viscious to losers, who hit children. OP's mother sounds like a real gem, too. Childhood trauma is no excuse to date a low-life and endangering your kids like she's doiing. I'm glad OP's brother has such a capable sibling, who's looking out for him, and that they both had somewhere to go, away from their mother's mess.

[@wyvern723]

Story 1: ex's mom was trying to hurt OP. Full stop. That was malicious. The fact that the ex suspected what was going on, yet did nothing is absolutely disgusting.

[@telinhajp]

Good night, Markee! Wishing you a fantastic weekend!　おやすみ！ ❤️🤗

[@sequoyasierra5671]

OP's boyfriend needs to deal with his mother. Any asthma attack can be fatal. Sit withthat for a minute. Any asthma attack can be fatal. Most aren't but why take a chance? I would quit going over for dinner.

[@brialapoint2608]

It sounds like attempted murder

[@rhondasisco-cleveland2665]

1-the sex is easy do not to leave after you have eaten the food so she hast to watch what she’s done to you. It’s simple. 2- should have called the police on David. DO IT.

[@MaxPower-js1sk]

Garlic allergies are extremely rare and normally extremely mild.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

Story 1: I wonder if the bf's mother would listen to a statement from a doctor?

[@theresamnsota3925]

Allergies can and often do get worse. Just because it’s not deadly now, doesn’t mean it won’t be that case in the future.

[@mikeremski2102]

S2: Mom you can GTFO

[@cameronb851]

I notice someone commented on this in passing, but then not much more was said about it, but giving someone food that you know impacts their health, is a prosecutable crime. It's treated legally as no different to putting poison in their food with the intent to kill them. It doesn't matter if it doesn't kill them, it doesn't matter if you think it won't kill them, it doesn't matter if historically it hasn't killed them, all that matters is that they have told you they have a medically diagnosed allergy that requires medical intervention of some kind to stabilize and you actively persist in still giving them the food that's an issue. It's pretty serious as a criminal offence. You occasionally hear about cases with vegetarians giving people soy meat substitutes to trick them into accepting that they don't actually need meat in their meals, only to have to deal with the legal consequences of soy allergy medical emergencies.

[@MsAntiflo]

Markee, I enjoy listening to you every day, you really make me laugh.

[@aubreymorgan9763]

1 Mom knows what shes doing. kinda reminds me of an old askreditt. woman though her MIL was poisoning her food because each time her and hubs visited mom (weekly or monthly) she got violently sick but he was fine. She did try to talk to him and he kinda did the nah you're crazy mom isn't hurting you. reddit advised to swap the plates around, and she did so when hubby went to bathroom. he got voilently sick that night and torn into her for swapping the plates when she confessed trying to show that mIL was doing something. last update was she filed for divorce.

[@steveadams7592]

Story 1: Mom doesn't hear you or doesn't listen. Tell your BF to let you have this one and scream at the top of your lungs, "NO (F'ING) GARLIC!" She needs to understand once, and for all, a food allergy is a medical issue for you.

[@SCP01986]

I read this story and the mother completely understands OP does not like and cannot have garlic. She spiked the food deliberately because she hates OP and wanted her gone.

[@hookerhands]

Story 2, throw the whole mom away, holy ish.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

I’d say if you give me a hard time about taking my bro I will report you both to CPS and police. She won’t want that at all

[@eponymoususer8923]

Something you can blow off like lactose intolerance? Ask someone with lactose intolerance whether they can blow it off. Maybe out their asses after hours of bloating and cramping. That comment is offensive and hypocritical in the context of the post.

[@maryjanedodo]

I think it's just because lactose intolerance is really common food allergen & well managed/understood by the majority of people & accepted + catered for widely, unlike less understood & scarier allergies to things like nuts or harder to detect ingredients...

[@joaolima7131]

Maybe they meant lactase capsules? But even if someone takes it, you shouldn't overdo it with milk products.

[@jillimi]

But an asthma attack can kill you, so if garlic makes her to have asthma attacks, she can die because of garlic.

[@darklightmagus1222]

I have a jalapeño allergy. This is a pain in the ass as I'm Hispanic and live in South Texas. A lot and I mean a lot of the food served around here has jalapeños in them. The allergy isn't anything serious yet. Smelling the Jalapeños causes a tingling sensation on my lips and a numbing sensation on my tongue. If any of the viegar or juices from jalapeños gets on my skin will cause it to turn red and feel irritated like a chemical burn. My stomach will start gurgling and then I puke if I end up consuming jalapeño. I let my friends and family know about it. My mom thinks I'm being a drama queen about it. My friends take it very seriously to the point that they verify ingredients in food more cautiously than I do when I'm around. There's been a few false alarms and a few close calls. I'm very grateful that they take my allergen seriously. I'm quite disappointed that my parents treat it like a non issue and I'm just being picky with my food.