Brace Yourself!! She's 28 & The 7th baby mom to her PIMP boyfriend. She's NOT taking accountability

[@mrscdenise]

No self awareness and accountability. Her mind is chaotic, she can't answer a simple yes/no questions. No one taught you "stranger danger!?" a vibe and a connection is code for "sexual energy, lust, and a crush" not facts, logic and reality. She keeps trying to justify why she did what she instead of saying "I moved to fast, I believed what he said, I liked the attention and affection and I had unprotected sex. You basically gave your womb to a stranger and now you're carrying a strangers child. No shade just cold hard truths. People lie! Assume everyone is lying until their actions and character match their words.

[@chukie30]

And the previous child’s father was a similar situation as well…I agree with you 💯, she needs therapy

[@Nicki_____Rose]

@@mrscdenise exactly

[@veeanderson2874]

@@mrscdenise 101% nothing but the truth

[@pershyawinters2266]

Yes! I came here to to say something similar. Men lie. So it’s up to women to be able to have self control. She played herself.

[@Sonja85Love]

I would agree with you one million times! I was watching this live & I was screaming to myself the same exact thing.. no accountability & no sense of discernment! She has a lot of self work to do & I hope she realizes from watching this back & reading peoples feedback.

[@shannel1980]

Ashley has great patience because my goodness 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Nicki_____Rose]

@@shannel1980 I thought this 😂😂😂I need this kind of patience when people are venting 😩😩😩

[@Kimberly.T]

@@shannel1980 Yeah cause I would’ve accidentally ended the live 🙄🤣🤣🤣

[@robinhampton81]

Like she didn’t even let her talk! & she up here wanting advice!!

[@amiianectar]

One more thing. She’s talking over Ashley and a mile a minute to avoid accountability. She doesn’t think she’s at fault at all for her current position.

[@Powerdriver777]

You have to be humble to learn. Arrogance has deceived her.

[@kim_316]

❗️❗️❗️❗️

[@Sum1Budgets]

Exactly 🎯

[@lk2207-sq6lu]

🎯

[@lovingmylocks2]

She doesn’t listen

[@TeriMYaki]

She didnt want advice, she wanted validation. Ashley is right. She doesnt need to focus on men, she needs to focus on herself. In order to discern you have to have awareness, she has none. He was 6'7 driving a benz, and bought her son IHOP and she was smitten. These women think life is a fairytale, They think a fine, tall man with money is going to sweep them off their feet and they live happily - It could happen but in the real world, ppl lie, manipulate, and take advantage of your naivete. It's up to you to use your better judgment.

[@lk2207-sq6lu]

💥 Boom. She got conned by grandpa🤦🏽‍♀️

[@jayc5756]

EXACTLY. Thank You!!!

[@anlu3365]

Why would she do that? She has government help to bring up her kids

[@deeand975]

I didn’t catch her age. She is obviously young and foolish. It’s sad her Mother, Auntie or older Sister or Cousin didn’t teacher her the game. She is clueless regarding men

[@nameunknown1519]

She is exhausting 😮‍💨, doesn’t listen, moving recklessly, and refuses to admit she fell for the game. She also attracts liars because she’s lying to herself.

[@MsDiva7]

My thoughts exactly

[@goddesslivy]

OMG this!!!

[@nailartexpress-pressonnails]

Yes she is definitely lying!

[@SxCense]

She exhausting, and toxic and will continue to birth children if she doesn’t stop dating.

[@lionessnala2000]

Its so scary that she slept with a stranger without using protection...a mother of 2 being so careless. Now stuck with another child. No accountability at all and talking over Ashley. I think she needs a mentor/ counselling.

[@allthingsmia007]

And that's what lead to BAD BAY BAY KIDS.

[@nameunknown1519]

And took her child to a first date. Like GIRL WHAT 😳

[@ToriUptown]

a literally stranger

[@sherryderrywade7712]

So many of these young females NEED mentoring and mature guidance. I wish I could talk to them with love, and to set boundaries and value/ cherish themselves. I am 58 yrs young, have NEVER and will NEVER be intimate with any male so quickly , NEVER!! A female needs to set solid boundaries. On line dating….people mostly looking for sexual activity it appears. It’s best to court a little before getting into sexual activity. I am valuable . I don’t even meet someone unless I have spoken to them for a few wks. A man has to show consistency, respect with talking before I will even meet him for coffee or brunch in a public place. He was into her quickly because he realized he could get her quickly . Bring a stranger to my home where my chn reside?? Hell NO!!!

[@maybaby198806]

@@lionessnala2000 also a man coming back to you after every 3 months to randomly sleep with you is not the flex.

[@bgurley1998]

Some women live in perpetual victimhood. Realize what you did wrong in the situation, move on, and do better!

[@lionessnala2000]

She is not taking responsibility for her part....not at all.

[@TheTylinShow]

Exactly!! She struggles with taking accountability for sure

[@TheQueenrevolution]

That's it! That's all!!

[@stillwaterss]

Perpetual victimhood.

[@mariejane1567]

Men will use her as the poster child to bash black women

[@Mrs.Terry17]

Letting a stranger meet your child, having unprotected relationships with a stranger and no accountability.

[@ChynaJayde]

It’s actually sad smh

[@Amodernelder]

It’s giving Love after Lockup energy.

[@Humbled_Imperfection]

Ashley directly told her to focus on her, her kids , and go to counseling, and she’s bypassing the advice being brought to her!

[@maybaby198806]

Example of you can lead the horse to the water, but you can’t make them drink

[@Kimberly.T]

She’s ashamed of herself and her choices, which is why she needs a long drawn out explanation for everything she’s done. She’s also not trying to do or be better. She has an excuse to try to explain away everything.🤷🏽‍♀️

[@BigShrimpin416]

Exactly. It’s ridiculous and sad

[@sicajessouca]

This lady stressed me out. I couldn't imagine living like that.

[@goddesslivy]

Me too, but I also saw my old self in her, and I am so glad I can easily recognise those mistakes now because I have owned them and I'm a totally different person❤

[@TheeTage]

2 days in and your child is being exposed and hanging out with a stranger? Mhmmm

[@mgraham7822]

My thoughts exactly

[@Matureme-b2y]

5 hours.

[@danielleledford2891]

This!!! This is crazy!!!

[@ShaunaShai]

She didn’t want any advice, she just wanted to vent and not listen!

[@UpdatedView]

There is nothing you can tell this lady. She has it all figured out and it will happen again.

[@BeautifullyMade-ur6yc]

And again and again smdh

[@dianahkumi317]

“How do I know a man is lying?” Shera:”If his lips are moving” 😂😂😂 We live & learn

[@Isika123]

She’s always got a reason for EVERYTHING. Lawd ah mercy

[@Mylilworlddd]

Facts and the way she cuts Ashley off like why even ask her?

[@robinaaayyeee]

EVERYTHING!

[@itsokaee]

Because she embarrassed

[@ToniOne03]

Ashley you have the patience that I pray for ❤

[@StephSteph5]

I’m really trying to make it to this level!! Amazing lol❤

[@PSYCHDEGREE63]

Yessss, bless her heart ❤️❤️❤️

[@jetskipapi6193]

"Raw Relations" in less than 48 hours...Folks like to live life on the edge.

[@logicalcritik2144]

At minimum, not even a condom requirement; god help this generation.

[@danieljefferson9816]

Less than 24 lol

[@nanajones79]

So, height is high school but a first "date" him coming over to her place to talk outside in the car is....? First red flag.

[@amandaubah3133]

😂😂😂😂

[@ConstanceBM]

If she wasn't intrigued by his height, she wouldn't have mentioned it in the first place.Baby girl is delusional.

[@mf8201]

She gonna be a single mother to 4 after the next dude sweet talks her smh....and why would she let some dude meet her son within the first day of meeting him???

[@jayc5756]

Sad but true. Mann. SMH 🤦‍♂️

[@TheQueenrevolution]

Yup

[@luvoshun]

Pretty much. All that fast talking and deflecting because she refuses to learn.

[@bandidapromax]

Soo in conclusion she blames the TikTok creator who shared their Hinge experience? What a weirdo.

[@Isika123]

🤣🤣🤣

[@sundaymorning9666]

Fr 😭😂 you were looking ma’am! Delete the app if you don’t want them to text you

[@chukie30]

Right…she’s gonna say I wasn’t looking for a man but TikTok made me do it! Are you 12 TF!

[@joanaperez3277]

I have a “friend” just like her. She spent 2 days at my house and she drained me with her drama. Does not take accountability and loves dramaaaa. I give her advise but she don’t listen. People like her are going to do what they want.

[@lisa20244]

💯experienced it too

[@itsokaee]

HEAVY ON LOVESSSSSS DRAMA OMG

[@itsabovemenow9607]

Her standards are beneath the ground 🤦🏾‍♀️ I imagine a lot of men “fool” her. She has no discernment or common sense. Yikes

[@Nicki_____Rose]

@@itsabovemenow9607 😩😩😩😩

[@jayc5756]

Exactly. Mann. SMH 🤦‍♂️

[@mariestorm3321]

Sadly you're right 😔

[@jayc5756]

@@itsabovemenow9607 I don't see my original comment...but yes I agree

[@ashleym.2981]

I don’t even know why she called. She over talked and wasn’t accepting of any advice.

[@blissfulsperspective]

this is scary and very reckless, how can you sleep raw on the first date, STDs?????

[@LadyVeee7878]

In Atlanta out of all places smh

[@Janet-rg4di]

​@@LadyVeee7878Now that's scary 😨

[@kristinbrown7144]

What part of this story says I can’t control myself. All of it honey 😂

[@tisha812]

Even the way she’s communicating with Ashley. It’s like talk talk talk…no listening. 😩

[@feliciasjourney]

Fr fr

[@stampswithsteph]

Literally 😂

[@SNova268]

There comes a time when you just have to admit you messed up. No one is saying the man is right for lying, your parents not teaching you about life. However, YOU must take accountability, youre an adult. Take it as a lesson, admit your wrongs and do better moving forward.

[@sundaymorning9666]

Literally she’s 28 grow up

[@Malakkah]

She has a problem for every solution. I wonder how ppl see themselves when they watch this back. I hope she watched this replay.

[@tisha812]

I came to say the exact same thing.

[@sagittariusbeauty]

Just turned 27, and chile I’m so glad my pretty self has standards and options. 🥰

[@veeanderson2874]

I find it extremely strange and disturbing how some women believe things men tell them, don’t they realise men will say and do anything to get sex and use women. It’s crazy.

[@ANYTHINGISPOSSIBLEBELIEVE]

Yea! I couldnt be friends with a girl like this😂 always drama and always getting into some dumb ish

[@UpdatedView]

This lady didn’t come for help! She came for validation that she is the victim and nothing is her fault.

[@Mythoughtsin2024]

“Asking questions” isn’t vetting, baby girl. It isn’t.

[@Megan6772]

Right. Cuz talk is cheap.

[@JUWLZ777]

Bless her heart. This is what zero accountability looks like. Ask Ashley is not a therapy session. She wanted to vent but not hear any truths about her actions. ❤️☀️

[@tynicole1513]

Not a crumb of accountability here. A trillion excuses and unable to take in new information. As a therapist, these are the most difficult types of clients. Just going in circles over & over…. Draining 😔

[@sundaymorning9666]

Too draining if I was her therapist I’d say come back when you’re serious

[@tynicole1513]

@ like seriously, cuz this gonna go in circles lol

[@ciciburton3200]

This girl doesn’t want to take responsibility for her actions. 😢

[@Lala-lw6pi]

What she fails to realize is that nobody owes you to disclose who they’re true self is when you meet them, but you do owe it to yourself to take your time and put the pieces together and get to know someone, so you can judge if what they’re showing you is resonating with the energy you discern is coming from them. Thats where accountability comes in, but some people LIKE to be lied to. Some people are willing to subconsciously play these games, that’s why the predators are attracted to these victims and don’t feel bad for them, because they can see that it takes 2 to tango and that the victims are WANTING to believe them

[@claricedodd9179]

She’s a know it all, she has all the answers 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️🥲

[@denissevargas2385]

The First Lady needs to get off social media. Take a step back and focus on her kids a relationship will come when it needs to. God bless 🙏🏽

[@chasingladdis6350]

She won’t let her get a word in

[@chabba2809]

She needs to learn the term - Be slow to talk and quick to listen. Because I don't think she listening at all

[@auntynetti405]

She listened to respond, but not to comprehend and learn.

[@schokococoa575]

She probably didn’t even get to listen to his answers before she slept with him because she had a backstory to every question she asked.😭

[@chabba2809]

She doesn't want help she just wants to vent!!

[@gummybear347]

This was crazy and convicting to watch. As a woman, you must set boundaries, even with yourself, to have the best life, partner, and outcomes. It's so hard sometimes, but the pain of being careless is devastating. Take accountability!

[@CortezTheKyng]

I don’t want to laugh at someone's pain, but even being advised to give the relationship time. Then, to look over that advice twice and ask for advice again is very telling.

[@Megan6772]

🎯

[@autyyx]

You need discernment ESPECIALLY because you have children! Never meet up the same night, hell not even the same week. You need to appear busy even if you’re not!!!

[@marawood3801]

So she didn't even use protection after going out for 3 days. Okay ..... Did they got tested for STDs before sleeping together????? Ashley said you didn't give it time. She said he was attentive... Okay.....

[@Dallas_214-wy1ix]

@@marawood3801 exactly. These women don’t care about themselves, it’s low self esteem.

[@flrbase]

But they were vibing and he hugged her and made her feel safe 🤦🏿‍♂️

[@marawood3801]

@@flrbase 🤣🤣 sure, that's so important. 🙄🙄

[@TiffNicholexo]

@@flrbasehaving two kids yet never being held is super strange

[@blacklionmystic6948]

It was actually the second meet up first meet up was just sitting in his car smh.

[@ijmimi9186]

She is not accountable. Evades it at every turn. She didn't give it time. She is blaming the connections lol. She doesn't expect people to lie, but also doesn't give people time to show themselves. She moved too fast and was attracted to his looks and coin. Yea people can lie for years, but this was reckless. Not up to a week and no wrapper on the sausage.

[@ijmimi9186]

It's Hinge's fault. It's Tik Tok's fault. I wasn't looking but people were messaging me even though I didn't want a relationship bla bla. How can you learn and grow if you don't take ownership of your missteps?

[@Dallas_214-wy1ix]

A lot of women live life like it’s a game. I feel bad for the children with mothers like this. I can’t believe there are women out here like this. She wants to be a victim, therefore she will continue to be a victim. She will never learn.

[@ChloeLux]

It’s crazy because this never would happen if she had asked the questions AND waited. sleeping together on the same encounter and wondering how you can vet people better, does not make sense.

[@AnisaAli-vz1yf]

Ashley is that older sis /therapist/mom/Auntie we all need

[@cjedwards5024]

She literally had the patience of a saint! She's definitely walking in her purpose. 💜

[@Tortorbutterfly-s5y]

She is exhausting. Just save your breath

[@J.R.noexcuses2013]

She repeated the same thing over and over like that was supposed to erase her bad decisions. Yes he is trash but she ain't owned up to nothing... If the same thing happens from both dudes by having babies everytime you meet a new dude then SHE'S THE PROBLEM

[@adrianjohnson832]

But she asked her QUESTIONS lol

[@Powerdriver777]

This is the oldest trick in the book. I have a Mercedes now your pregnant by diddy. In 2 days......at 28 yrs old almost 30. Claims nobody taught her

[@bornWORTHY.]

Ladies Ladies please know you’re born WORTHY. He knew how you felt about yourself and he moved in full steam ahead. Focus on you and your babies. You will recover but we must see our value and worth and know we deserve better. Be well.

[@MsBlackIntrovert]

Yes I’m doing exactly that , thank you ❤

[@bornWORTHY.]

🖤🌸

[@SELFCAREGROWTHCLUB]

No connection is strong. People will lie to get what they want. He did not care about you or your kid 😅 you were a desperate single mom. That’s what he hunts for.

[@marcyazhane1484]

No connection is strong, especially after 2 days!!! And in those first two days, she already had him around her kids. He was a predator and she was the perfect prey.

[@Lia_Alexis]

Poor lady is a little walking red flag. The guy saw a sucker and he licked it 😢 I mean the in the most respectful way.. but she’s broken and she’s still not ready to take accountability for her role in becoming a single mother of three 😒

[@kineticfractal6804]

The ever present chirping of the smoke detector...

[@buildingmy3Bs]

I guess my question is…then proceeds to answer it herself over and over again. Nope 🙅🏽‍♀️

[@Megan6772]

Yesssss 😂😂

[@bernie_2003]

How could you bring your child around a man that you don't even know? She's so childish and careless and isn't taking any accountability for it

[@Sonja85Love]

She annoyed me the entire time I watched; NO ACCOUNTABILITY, NO DISCERNMENT, LACK OF SELF AWARENESS!

[@auntynetti405]

Just 2 days, had her son around a stranger, had unprotected sex with the stranger, and wondered why he lied 🙅🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[@logicalcritik2144]

😂😂😂

[@itsokaee]

Could have been a freak. Just stupid.

[@hazellbaraj]

Ashley when we say thank you for all you do, we literally mean for ALL YOU DO! cause your patience during this conversation was amazing!

[@Prettyinpink611]

The fact she let anyone around her son is a bit alarming for me. Very reckless behavior and she needs therapy because I feel she lacks self love. Someone who love herself wouldn’t just give up her body so freely and with no protection.

[@mariestorm3321]

Wouldn't have exposed their child just for a IHOP breakfast Smh

[@Flauhoodie]

She needs to fix that smoke alarm first

[@flyingturtle]

😂😂 Huge fax, that smoke alarm is so irritating smh

[@MeetMeOnTheMoon]

This is wildly toxic. Clicking off. Thank you for the content Ashley.

[@arewethereyet9395]

This is not meant as a joke, but it’s giving potential bipolar or schizophrenic. The racing pacing and recklessness. Easy to judge and condemn bc truth be told the whole story is a mess, but I also feel for her bc she may not realize there could be a mental health issue beyond childhood issues and lack of accountability.

[@mary_jane47]

Unhelpable next caller

[@lambo_em]

22:25 this where she’s missing the whole plot. In her flawed thinking, there was no way for her to avoid getting knocked up by this dude no matter how much vetting she think she did. The outcome would’ve been the same. And she’s probably right, because she was never vetting for a HUSBAND or FATHER or even a stable relationship. She vetted for a 🥜 and that’s what she got.

[@thekingtwins02]

Ashley was quick with this upload.... Im excited to watch the full video 😂😂

[@kiyapugh6271]

Where were her kids for this 5 hour car and food run situation? Assuming he left her around 2AM then breakfast with her son a few hours later and unprotected seggs that day... This sounds so negligent

[@vicksautocareandvjewels]

She didn't listen to a word you said. She stuck in her ways and these things will continue to happen to her.

[@ericabbbb]

I think it’s absolutely crazy she invited a man she does not know to her house the first day of talking to him. Even though he didn’t go inside, he now knows where you live. Then, you had him around your child immediately….shes simply not thinking. You developed feelings bc he bought your child some food…from ihop? Is she hearing herself. Girl, did you really think you’re going to genuinely know a person after a couple days? lol. Ain’t that much “attentiveness” or conversation in the world…. She says she’s logical but is letting her emotions lead her…the opposite of logical. Was the connection strong or was she just really physically attracted to him? I think she’s confused about the differences. She needs to take a step back and really get herself together.

[@billiejean1242]

Any man can pretend to be Prince Charming for 2 days. As a mother of two, she should be mature enough to know better.

[@TheresaDean-iq5ku]

Did she really come for advice or to hear herself talk? She’s very young minded.

[@Theseekinggrowthpodcast]

She kept saying she not looking but they keep approaching me 😂 girl say no. You not interested!

[@EAO-ql8hk]

Dated someone for a few weeks. He talked about his dream of traveling around for the rest of his life. He had a daughter who he only saw a few days a month. Left it there. This lady would have had a child by him.

[@queenofthesouth4205]

Ladies please slow down. Get to know men; his true identity will be revealed

[@sirmayse1545]

She has a fairytale in her mind and he touched the line on what she wanted and she gave him full access as if he was her husband. No discernment. No accountability. No awareness. No desire to learn.

[@betty568]

They need to change the apps name to unhinged 😂😂.. I love your braids Ashley I’m copying you next month lol. Ashley is so sweet but this girl needs brutal honesty bc she needs serious guidance and help. Pray for her

[@imanimcdonald4200]

This “baby mom” culture in our community is so detrimental. You don’t want anything else in life, so this is your life. Hopefully your kids will have a fighting chance but most of y’all have nothing to pour into kids. Really sad because they suffer. We need more shame in our society

[@StillLearnin4332]

Too late. The behavior is prideful and intentionally rebellious at this point

[@imanimcdonald4200]

@ indeed. very sad

[@Livelaughcarti]

"like I said before" is her way of justifying with her mistakes to make her seem like a victim as if she didn't play a roll. And telling her to wait isn't something she wanted to hear.... she just wanted to talk to ashley she ain't actually have a question at all 😩

[@montezdiamond7065]

She is bothered and triggered because she is a broken hearted person. She is hurting and was offered great advice. Prayerfully, she will be positioned for her deliverance and break through. Each person is on their own journey and it is timeless.

[@courtneyemm8894]

You took your son on a first date, with a stranger….

[@s.c889]

No Accountability. Ashley, you are extremely patient.

[@EAO-ql8hk]

I was once catfished. Wasn’t even a dating site. Just wanted to make friends. Found out about it, chatted for a few weeks and left it there. This woman would have had a child by him.

[@cindymann3673]

I wonder what she wanted from this interaction…for someone to be on her side?…she kind of contradicts herself a bit too (mentions his height, saying it’s her first tall guy, but then says that high school stuff when Ashley mentions it…then saying she only got on Hinge bc of an ad seen on TT, but mentions that she deleted Tinder). It seems to that she is not acknowledging her responsibility in the interaction. I don’t mean this to be ugly or accusatory, but drugs? She’s so beautiful. I truly hopes she finds peace.

[@tisha812]

She’s not being honest with herself at all.

[@genovasquez8361]

Listen to how she talks to Ashley??? This is the reason NO man she messes with, is gonna stay. The way she talks would drive me up a wall. She doesnt respect the thoughts of others. She just like to to hear herself talk.

[@feliciasjourney]

All it took was a 3 hour conversation, and a iHop breakfast??? I was friends with my husband for 8 years before we even started dating. 😂 Even being friends for 8 years, we waited a month after dating to even have seg. I made sure to truly know his character before letting my guard down.

[@TenJ.]

I don’t know why she is smiling or laughing . Nothing is funny. And she doesn’t want advice at all.

[@Heyitschy03]

coping mechanism

[@ambersummer2685]

I say this from experience. You can blame all your poor choices on a lack of guidance but what you do now, later and tomorrow weighs on your shoulder. If you want a loving and stable relationship, you’re going to have to be strict with yourself. Temporary moments of pleasure and feeling wanted is nothing compared to something that had to organically and lovingly develop. I have to constantly remind myself that. Sure I wish I could get warm cuddles and kisses every night but right now that’s the best decision I can make for myself. I’d rather cry myself to sleep bc I’m lonely over a man I thought liked me and made me feel good.

[@jayc5756]

Tik tok ending soon...so Ashley should be coming back to KZbin soon for her Lives. Cant Wait!!!

[@NigerianBeautyQueen]

Having a baby with a literal stranger is WILD. Everything she said was just noise. She knows how babies are made. YOU are in control of your womb period. Yea I sound judgmental. Maybe it’s time to bring back shame and judgement

[@luvoshun]

All she has is excuses and kids smh. How old is she to still be blaming her parents for her bad decisions 3 kids later…

[@91WriterzStatus]

I really hope she finds a mature woman that can provide her with guidance on a daily basis. And I hope she has the resources to find a therapist.

[@Mxhellga]

She was failed by her parents that didn’t teach her the game. People without knowledge will get taken advantage of every time.

[@Blahblahblah-b2d]

Her parents didn’t teach her how to fuck yet she has 3 babies 😂😂😂😂 people learn what they want !!!

[@malcolms3220]

@@Blahblahblah-b2d😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@itsabovemenow9607]

This was so exhausting

[@jayc5756]

Nobody ever taught her how to vet. Mann. Bless her heart! ❤

[@TheTylinShow]

This poor baby needs to learn to love herself. Seems like she’s looking for love in all the wrong places. She also struggles with taking accountability. She had an excuse for every decision she made instead of realizing there were things missing within herself which is why she ended up in these situations. We can’t keep blaming everybody else for the decisions we make.

[@lashonyahutton148]

Dangerous Mom Sure does need a therapist

[@jamipty]

👉🏽 Some people just love to hear themselves talk 😑