BREAK The Cycle Of Self Sabotage & STOP Your Shame Spiral | La La Anthony

Today, I welcome La La Anthony, whose story is a shining example of self-discovery, resilience, and making a positive impact on the world. La La Anthony is a talented actress, TV personality, bestselling author, and a passionate advocate for prison reform. She's not just about the glitz and glamor but also about creating positive change.
In this episode, we'll dive into La La's life, her experiences, and what she's learned along the way. We'll discover the importance of being true to yourself, even when the world tries to push you in different directions. From personal challenges to finding one's authentic self, La La's journey is a lesson in self-acceptance and embracing who you are.
In this interview we’ll discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:05 Give Yourself Grace!
03:48 Figuring Out What You Need To Heal
05:56 Dealing With Jealousy
07:09 The Truth About Social Media
09:36 Finding Real Friendships
12:41 Advice If You’re Struggling
14:36 Turning Pain Into Growth
16:00 Dealing With Guilt
19:32 Being A Parent During Chaos
23:10 The Mistake Parents Make
25:17 How To Maintain Motivation
28:31 Dealing With Rejection
34:45 Becoming STRONGER From Failure
36:54 How To Stop People Pleasing
39:14 Accepting Criticism
41:36 You Need To Tell People THIS
44:49 Prison Reform
50:15 Navigating & Learning Through Challenges
59:12 Moving On & Finding Love
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[@JayShettyPodcast.]

It was great to hear La La's insight on navigating life's complexities with authenticity and resilience. I’d like to invite you to join this community and subscribe to the channel. By hitting the 'Subscribe' button, you're not just becoming a subscriber - you're choosing to make a positive difference in your life.

[@Scottt07]

Hope you had a great Diwali Jay 🎉🎉

[@Invest1nu]

JAY I JUST BOUGHT YOUR BOOK THINK LIKE A MONK IM SUPER EXCITED TO GET STARTED

[@flokie8161]

Yb

[@W.dahum2023]

Wow it was an incredible podcast I am listening to it from Saudi Arabia and I feel supported afterward thank you Jay for interviewing La La she was so honest I can feel it thanks alot.

[@kolynslester6858]

​​@@Invest1nutrust me bro, you will be glad you did. But then read it over and over again and let the words from the book completely infiltrate your body systems..That's the only way you can understand the book better. Enjoy.

[@user-zw6xx3kp1v]

Whenever i listen to Jay Shetty asking a Question to the guest. I used to pause the video right away and feel it like Jay is asking me the Questions. This is how I'm healing, understanding myself better.

[@HopeTixe]

This is a great idea 💡 Hope it's been helping

[@peachesandpoets]

Great idea! I'll try that! Wow!

[@AP-su4so]

Same. Use it as your own therapy

[@lela1291]

Thanks I just started doing that ❤

[@user-zw6xx3kp1v]

@@peachesandpoets yeah you must. Also create notes how the guest is explaining like how to deal with guilt?

[@jemiyawills7208]

“If you’re looking for something to knock you down , you’ll find it “ I never heard that before , I love that .

[@xcharbarx1]

It's wild that we are the MOST connected as a world, but yet we all seem so disconnected...Sending peace and happiness your way!

[@majiixon]

beautifuIIy said

[@toure8]

Lala is not only super gorgeous, she's smart, speaks so eloquently and is so articulate, thank you for blessing us with your presence. much love Queen 💗

[@katherinegutierrez4727]

I definitely appreciate the openness of La La. She’s beyond humble and real. Love this episode ! ❤

[@theblackkidfromnorway4925]

she famous for her sexx scenes.-..gtfo

[@missheartbreak]

It's so apparent that La La's strength is her softness. This makes me wish I could sit down with her to share, share, share and learn, learn, learn.

[@shontiseb]

I like this comment

[@uascertpilot486]

“you don’t get married to get divorced” preach!!!! I am dealing with the same thing!! ❤❤

[@blackgirlsbeauty8246]

We will get through it too❤

[@chaeafri1153]

Yes why Get married if you dont want to changed or work thought touch things?

[@teresarobinson1677]

Hello I just went through that. Got married on July 31st 2021, and got a divorce 3 days later😮

[@lamarblac79]

Yo that's because divorce is glorified today like it's the thing to do and that stems from marriage being materialized it's about what women can get out of the deal the True meaning of marriage is gone women only look at it as a come up until that is fixed marriage will always suffer.😮

[@sagexlionreacts8579]

This is definitely the podcast I needed because I was just talking about how I self sabotage myself all the time 😅

[@marcusbangemu6041]

Same ❤

[@peachesandpoets]

Samesies.

[@cheyennexo5714]

Sameee

[@thabilemkhize3783]

Same whatapp!group🤪

[@dmiles8406]

You’re definitely not alone in the self sabotage game. 😢😅

[@lindapedroso9364]

I can relate to so many points during this conversation, minus the kid part. But I love Lala's views on raising her son post divorce and teaching him to be a humbled young man. By the way, I hung out with her uncle and his wife a loooong time ago on holiday in Punta Cana. We were the only "New Yorkers". He was so proud of the woman she is. I can see now, why he had so much pride. Thanks for this panelist. Lala, was def a great example of hard work ethics and realness! I was inspired.

[@holdenludwig]

I’m a big fan of how real they are in this.

[@JayShettyPodcast.]

Thanks!

[@doreenbroaddus4657]

Yes, we don’t get married to get divorced!!! But when life sits you in it, you have no choice but to heal and love yourself. Wishing you your hearts desires LaLa!! ❤

[@marrisajoseph379]

A podcast i didn’t know I needed! This episode resonated with me in every way. I don’t give myself enough grace. Wow! Thank you for this

[@JayShettyPodcast.]

Glad you enjoyed!

[@tamekawhitney2049]

“Celebrate the people who are there” it was THIS statement that hit my heart like a dagger 💪🏽 💯 🫶🏽

[@hhamid724]

This was such an amazing interview and helped me in so many ways. Being 6 months out of an 11 year relationship/8 year marriage, "healing is messy" is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thinking I was over my ex, and then feeling sad again as our anniversary just passed, La La articulated what I was feeling so eloquently in just those three words. Thank you for being vulnerable and for the reassurance to forgive ourselves!

[@Ingridnco]

As someone who’s struggling now with burnout, it was comforting to hear La La and that many resonate with this self sabotaging behavior, especially for those who have come from low income communities and have worked a great deal to get out and better financially. Yet, at the expense now of my health

[@ntbarnes656]

I was a Lala fan from the jump, excited for her when she landed her job at MTV. To see how she has grown and excelled in life is so beautiful. This interview was so genuine, down to earth, and it shows how close to her roots she still is after all her success. She is the epitome of being humble and I pray that she is forever blessed. Jay has THE BEST INTERVIEWS!

[@user-js3cr6wu7g]

Jay, all my problems were coming from binge drinking! I quit 2 years ago and it's thee best decision I ever made. I lead a decent life, playing in bands and writing songs for publishing companies, but at 43 I knew I had to quit. I just wish I had done it when I was much younger. It was holding me back, slowing me down. I would be ultra focussed on my goals when not drinking, but when I would go on a binge, I basically got nothing done, putting things that are important to me on the backburner, and feeling guilt and shame as a consequence, and beating myself up for a week with a hangover from hell. Now, my mind is much clearer, and I've got more done in the last 2 years than I had in the previous 5 years. Drinking is a complete waste of life!!

[@kimondio1204]

Wow amazing read. Glad you quit drinking. If you don't mind me asking, what publishing company do you write for? I have so much stuff written...i would love for someone to sing about them. Thank you

[@itsJuanita1]

I quit alcohol in October 2023 😊

[@WhoIsBlossom]

Amazing I’m hoping for the strength to stop smoking weed so congrats!!!

[@metamorphosis_x]

Hearing La La talk about what she honours about herself is definitely something I can relate to. I've expressed out loud on numerous occasions how frustrated I feel with myself when I feel I'm still not over something and how I should be over it by now. When I find that I'm still experiencing difficulties in specific areas or I'm still being triggered by specific things I seem to think that I'm not making any progress and almost get mad at myself like how are you not over this yet? I think it was a nice reminder from La La that healing definitely is messy and it's not as straight forward as we may want it to be. It takes time and you just can't put a timer on when your healing is over because that will just leave you feeling disheartened, and disappointed because you're not healing at the speed you think you should be. Give yourself grace and always be kind, loving, and understanding with yourself because healing is one of the most difficult processes a human being can go through and beating yourself up about the fact that you're still struggling in certain areas isn't helpful to yourself at all.

[@rebekahromero5303]

“Just trust in the timing & continue moving forward” that point made at 31 minutes was key!!

[@cynthiac735]

I honor you both for such a raw and beautiful interview. We all have our journeys and I can relate to the challenges that refine us and make us stronger. There is beauty to see every day in life, if we choose to see it, in spite of the struggles that we endure. Most people wonder how am I still standing after overcoming so many challenges, but I want to tell everyone to love and know yourself and live from the heart.....love is the key to life and trusting in the Universal Creator and the power that is within you as a Co-Creator with the Universe.

[@user-mc2vh5ph3i]

So powerful said. I'm still incarcerated. Never thought someone is going bring it up to talk it over in a healthy way she did. So many people who need to be told they're worthy to be loved and supported what in most cases is going to make them get better at reaching social justice they exposed to get to by court order. ❤

[@carmenpalacios5896]

I haven’t even fully dived into the video and 1 minute in and I’m like WHO ISNT LALA’s FRIEND?!?! She’s also actual friends with JayShetty?? This woman has to be the most phenomenal ♥️ I’m convinced! She’s for sure a genuine loving human being

[@edhabt7695]

I appreciate Lala for not seeing herself as a victim but a survivor

[@keepingitrealwiththebrowns]

Been a huge LaLa fan. This was such a dope and intriguing interview. Goes to show we are all growing, evolving and figuring this thing we call life out one day at a time.

[@JayShettyPodcast.]

💯

[@dmiles8406]

I really relate to her son being her best friend and the happiness 😅you feel when you hear compliments about your son. I also understood Jay extremely well when the mom was anxious to help her son until she realized that “He’s got this!” as he handles the situation with grace and ease. Great interview!

[@angeliaimeanttoloveyouharr8404]

"Healing is messy." Yes It Is

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤

[@dmiles8406]

I’m a huge fan of both La La and Jay. As soon as I saw self-sabotage in the title I knew I’d want to learn what helps them. I’ve seen La La playing basketball 🏀 with her son in KZbin videos and I also loved her character in the “Power” series and so much more. So proud of both of them!

[@mili5398]

So glad this showed up on my feed. Been going through some downs with no one to talk to. This gave me a boost and a warm hug. ❤

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

I hope whatever you are going through passes soon ❤ It isn't easy for everyone but try and find someone you can open up to ❤

[@lifeofjustinjames]

At this point, this channel has completely helped me heal and head into positive directions in my life. Thank you Jay Shetty for the well produced content.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

congrats on your growth! ❤

[@SecondPassport-Consultant]

Thanks for coming together to share this.... this really lifted my spirit and day up. God bless you Both...

[@nanonano.beepbeep]

What an amazing interview. Thank you, Jay, for giving Lala the opportunity to share such a resilient view. She truly is beautiful inside and out, humble, and kind. Wonderful conversation.

[@theotherway1639]

I made a commitment a while ago to not shame myself any more. I was conditioned since a kid to do everything...literally everything...from a state of shame or to avoid shame. That caused a lot of self sabatoging, especially by not knowing how to set boundaries and owning my time and energy. Books like "30 Days to Overcome Shame" by Harper Daniels were a nice help, and a funny book called "You Suck" by Paulie Amigo.

[@user-my1kp2jf8h]

I just wanted to say that I am grateful for this video. Thank you Jay and La La for bringing so much positivity and useful advices. God bless you ❤🙏 Greetings from Croatia! 🇭🇷

[@ra_bi_ah]

Absolutely feeling, "seen, heard, and understood," and grateful to have tuned in. Thank you.

[@804BlaccBonnie]

This was sooo amazing to me... someone that I have a different life style than me but at the same time a mirror reflection of me as a person. I've always admired LaLa and loved seeing her accomplishments. This session has most definitely encourages me to keep going on my path. Thank you Jay and LaLa for this enlightenment you have no idea how you both have helped me today. Thank you so much for that.

[@The_Apex_Wolf]

I really enjoy listening to your videos while i work Jay! I always get something out of them. One of my favorite podcasts by far

[@antrob1225]

Thank you La La for showing your vulnerability and being so so honest and raw in this interview. You are an amazing mother and a beautiful soul. Thank you for taking the time to give back to our communities. GOD is pleased 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@RamulongoRatshilumela]

Hi Jay! I can't miss any episode for anything. Always so fulfilling and inspiring. I'm based in South Africa.

[@tiffanyq.3740]

I’ve made it a priority for me to listen to this episode multiple times, just because I knew there were messages or words that I needed to hear to help me. Thank you Lala thank you Jay❤

[@Darlene-xv8wo]

Imagine is Jay and Lala quit pursuing their dreams? Beautiful humans exist! What an excellent Podcast. Really needed these words of wisdom! Wonderful work!

[@Ralphlloydy]

Lala ! I could listen to you all day and night long… you give me joy to talk about my boys… I love your honesty ❤❤❤

[@shush03]

Lala has such a beautiful soul. What a pity that she doctored her face and body, allowing insecurity to take over. She is THAT girl, beautiful in and out. Wishing her all the best, she deserves it ❤

[@areplica-]

She was shaped very differently beforehand I think the mistake she made was getting trendy surgery she can probably modify anything she may no longer want

[@JoyfulJenn]

Why does changing your face and body allow a person’s insecurity to take over?

[@aliciasmith5012]

Such a eye opening episode . I really appreciate her insight and perspective on how she has overcome her challenges while acknowledging that she is still progressing/working through things along the way. I appreciate her transparency .🙌🏽

[@moyetri2235]

I'm sooo relax now cause ladies & gentleman we are human being we all are experiencing life , don't assume someone isn't. This podcast is really profound to this topic. I'm feeling very very relaxed now 😊 thank you lovely people, thank you God i love my life and my role on earth in this character ❤🎉

[@ntbarnes656]

Wow, Jay, I have been allowing myself to receive people's positive experiences of me, and compliments to me. It is so nice. I feel so much more grateful in my daily life now after doing so.

[@corrinastone4683]

I love how open and honest you are.

[@Jewels.9]

Lala is THAT girl! I love it! She has inspired me so much throughout my life. She has a beautiful energy inside and out! This was the video I needed to hear. Is to be kinder to myself. Thank you both! I love you both!❤

[@ManuelReyes-mu6zd]

I love this conversation. I felt every message you both gave. Thank you for having such an amazing way of thinking. Also thank you for all your help

[@holiayeh1063]

Yes.....don't blame yourself. That's so true. Inorder to move on and heal yourself we need to stop blaming ourself.

[@jillyannfrenche3570]

The people around me not only have your back but understand you... and take energy from that! You are blessed sir!

[@nathanleung5592]

Another purposeful conversation on the podcast! Enjoy listening all about the power of self acceptance, ways to heal after life’s setbacks & friendships you should be prioritising! Keep up the great work Jay ❤😊

[@Focused7X]

Jay you have no idea how much your podcast/mediations via the Calm app has blessed my life. I primarily don’t have a strong support system to rely on. Whether that is family or friends. However your platform has allowed me to have the conversations I wish I could have! I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for caring enough to follow through with Gods plan for your life!! Because without it; I just don’t know. I live to be inspired & to inspire even my troubles. You’ve helped with that! Thank you ❤ To Lala, Queen I see you, I felt you & heard you! I saw so much of myself in your authenticity! As a single mother of two w/no contribution from their fathers or their family. I am too am a people pleaser. Having not much of a community who is on the self improvement journey as am; it’s rough! I also am a workaholic because when it’s all on you; you don’t have a choice. I appreciated hearing your journey & I am also trying to have grace w/myself in it all. This time of year is always so hard emotionally/financially. You spoke to my pain! I love you & respect you. Keep thriving ❤ Sorry this is so long ❤

[@TysonMichael77]

This is so important for me as a young creative and recovering burnt outter and achieving career and money advancement. I feel like I have been and I am still learning how to be kinder to myself and slower with myself to have fun, relax and let go. I have learned in american society and coming from the background I did. I had to learn to stop allowing work, money achievements and career be my identity and learn to give back all that energy to myself. Sleep is one of the new things I am learning as well as just putting away the work and not trying to figure out every detail of my life. also, learning I don't have to explain why Iv'e made certain decisions. I am just extremely proud of myself for de-conditioning from my parents, society, family etc..

[@marilencerda1391]

Brilliant , I felt so identified with lots of scenarios you talked about it. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Keep doing this is so helpful and I am so grateful for being able to learn how to become a better person , grateful for what I have and growing from the inside. Thank you

[@keynolivia]

Good interview. I support her if she never wants to get married again, especially if that equates to a peace of mind which is priceless.

[@deja_1111]

LaLa is Awesome and inspirational… I hope she starts a podcast soon ✨💞

[@margueritajohnson9340]

Jay, you have mellowed me out numerous times. LaLa journey remains me that I'm not alone.❤I love you.

[@somayinaayerite7643]

La La, thanks for shining light on fame. So that we can understand what it really means to be famous. God bless you ❤.

[@DominionAnako-bb7ry]

I love your podcast because it helped different people with their difficulties problems.

[@cristinamontano1338]

I just wanted to leave a quick comment. I’ve always known about Lala, but just by listening to this video, you tend to have a bigger understanding of who she is deep down inside and the battles that she has overcome I have to say that it has given me a different, insight of who she is and that is amazing, loving and caring

[@monicalevyt]

Yes, ppl have been talking a lot that happiness is an inside job, but life is not so easy like that!

[@groundtenpro]

I like seeing this side of lala, I feel like they put her in a box so much it's nice to see her side of things

[@user-ow7yu5ft8s]

wow her message in the intro is so healing thankyou

[@LALA-fy8ng]

we love you guys, thanks LALA for your honesty and these words

[@BahamaMamaInItaly]

My goodness what an awesome interview. La La is so eloquent. Truly enjoyed watching this. Thank you.

[@Skins4497]

Such an amazing inspiring woman. Really hope she meets someone who can see her value and love her truly 🙏

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

she will! ❤

[@Mariliza.]

If you havent already, I highly recommend Jay's book "Think like a monk." So many gems in 1 book. Really.

[@DarrellColemanShamrock7504]

This was a great video. Thank you for being open LaLa, and a thank you for Jay for being a great listener and Friend to everyone.

[@Gloryb4shine]

La is the truth and siss I know we relate on another level.. this made me want to watch some more videos on you. I've watched a few other interviews with her and this one especially shows me a different aspect of my girl LALA. We all need that reminder time to time💕💕💌

[@kapzvara5732]

Great talk and some great advice thank you for this. One thing i have learned is what we plan and what happens is 2 different things.

[@larisamavromati3302]

Great interview Thank You both ❤️❤️ Jay.... I love your smile!! Wishing you the best always 😊🙏

[@JamesDigiJS]

Love your work Jay. Subscribed and watching a lot!

[@Genis973]

These conversations are so important 💯

[@Luckykat218]

This episode hits home. This was totally me as well until I gave myself the kindness and grace that I always gave to others 🙏🏽❤

[@akeilatasby6501]

Amazing show! Lala thank you for being transparent 🙏🏽Keep doing what you are doing no matter what🙏🏽💖

[@abundant_one]

We love Lala ❤ great interview!

[@tmichelle1842]

This was a great interview. I always had a lot of respect for her hard work and maturity.

[@simonejdevone]

I can definitely relate to several of the topics discussed with LaLa...having fear/guilt when doing something special for yourself is one of them that has taken me some time to get pass.

[@louisrajaona5939]

Thanks Jay, thanks La La ♥it was a wonderful interview !

[@hellofficials4351]

Sometimes storms are not to ruin your life They are just to clear your path..!!

[@AbiolaRaha]

She giving me a goosebumps, been in business in 10 yrs and can relate with many things 🥰

[@ntbarnes656]

I 100% relate to almost everything she said about her experiences in life.

[@locroyalty1227]

This was a real talk episode that hit home with me. Thank you, La La!

[@aliciagarcia9379]

I’m glad to hear what you had to say. Thank you Lala for your testimony. Exactly what I feel about my life right about now. I’m being patient

[@jeremiahmfanafuthi6158]

That story of the young boy made me want to cry. You guys are doing great job

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤

[@Diamond_Motivation]

I love this!! It spoke to my spirit!! Let's get it done!!!

[@louisatorca]

Great episode! i love lala's energy :)

[@jpdubey1381]

Loved the conversations!! It really great how humble and real she is.. and same way she has grown her child.

[@marcuspugh7499]

I love how you can tell that they both genuinely care for one another. If he wasn’t married I’d think they would be a great couple! Beautiful episode ❤

[@marshathompson3776]

I resonate with acknowledging there is no time frame to healing. I use to beat myself up for thinking I should be further along in life or beating myself up for staying in a marriage longer than I should have when i realized I wasn't respected or loved properly. Learning to show myself grace.

[@LatoyaFord-gr2gz]

Thank you Both for such a Powerful interview. Its so intriguing and so many Learning moments. I really needed this Today especially about Fear. You both are soo Dope❤

[@gilkesmits]

Love Love Love everything about thissss! It was so easy to listen to/watch, what a blessing to have La La on the show! (L)

[@missquinones2768]

I clicked on this so fast I love her interviews love LALaaa

[@rosemiller1448]

This journalist is just always on point and great at his interviews.

[@6lackDiam0nd]

Thank you for your bravery. Your strength will help strengthen others. 🙏🏽❤️

[@Monica-mm2vv]

Abandonment issues are so difficult to heal. Hoping this best for this beautiful person. Hopefully she won’t allow any negativity to stop her from moving forward, those people just simply don’t understand.

[@priscillaquiah1837]

Such a wise lady, I like the interview, thanks for sharing this.

[@truebeautyandBREyond]

Wow.. she is me, and I am her. I appreciate Lala for her openness in this interview. Love her 🙌🏾🫶🏾🙏🏾

[@Latrice0021]

we love you lala !!!! Thanks jay for bringing her .