Breaking free from seeking attention | My journey to modesty as a Biblical Wife

[@rebekah.griffith]

"we wouldn't be talking about my body, if we couldn't see my body" so good!

[@kap849]

Bingo! I've been saying this for a very long time.

[@rebekah.griffith]

this is seriously the best video on modestly i've ever seen!

[@mrand_mrsM]

Wow im convicted i could relate to a lot of what you said especially to proving im worthy when i am already approved by God. Our bodies are the temple of God and just knowing that truly makes us show up and act differently. I guess this really reminds me of the verse that says, "Man look at the outside but God looks at the heart". When God works on our hearts we show up differently. Thank you for sharing

[@messy2mastery]

That is so well communicated, thank you for sharing that verse ❤

[@athens6187]

When sister started preaching and saying she is secure in Christ, I got up and shouted AMEN! When we give our lives to Christ, it's IMPOSSIBLE to stay the same! I used to wear crop tops/high waisted jeans with my butt popping out, etc. Even in my beginning walk with Christ I didn't think it was a problem. But the more I started to read the Word and allow it to marinate in my heart, my desires to Godly desires rather than fleshly. My pastor told me once, "you may know the Word, but does the Word know you?"

[@messy2mastery]

Wow! That is such a powerful statement from your pastor. Thank you for sharing that! I absolutely love that you shared your journey. I think a lot of us are learning similar things ❤

[@AmySomers-y1n]

God convicted me too on my dress. It is a beautiful thing to be obedient to His call. It makes me think of the verse that he who is faithful in the little things will be faithful in much. Thank you for sharing your journey. He promises to finish the work He began in each of us, praise God!

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for sharing that verse. This gave me a lot of encouragement ❤

[@elisawilliams9319]

It is so beautiful to see the Holy Spirit at work in you. Transformation is not always easy, but it's a wonderful thing. The word says be ye not conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind. I'm so glad your video popped up in my feed. New subscriber. Great video.

[@messy2mastery]

Yes, you are so right - Transformation from God is a beautiful and powerful thing ❤ Thank you for your kind words!

[@isabelfaith]

Love your transparency! I felt a similar conviction when I became a mom. It is so freeing to live for the opinion God vs the opinion of man! Praise God for changing our hearts

[@messy2mastery]

YEEES! God's approval vs man's approval, I love that. Thank you for sharing that ❤

[@JennAlmaguer]

Thank you for this! ❤

[@messy2mastery]

Thank YOU for being here!

[@kirbythsquirrel]

I switched to board shorts or skort type bottoms and crew neck workout tops with sports bras underneath. Best decision ever! I feel great, and I don't have to worry about applying sunscreen under/around straps or on my chest. It's so simple. And I don't have to wear a cover-up!

[@kirbythsquirrel]

**for swimsuit**

[@messy2mastery]

That is such an extra benefit - to not have to think about applying sunscreen! I didn't even think of that. Thank you for sharing your journey ❤

[@jessicabulloch5302]

Thank you for this encouragement. This is a lot to think about . Pride, validation, vanity and our identity is so tied to our outward appearance. Its something I work through as well.

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you for sharing that you are also on this journey! It is not always easy but it is so worth it ❤

[@rebekah.griffith]

God has convicted me about a lot of clothing options. i've always dressed modestly, but i've been convicted about graphic t shirts and what me, or my kids, are representing by wearing it on our chest!

[@messy2mastery]

I absolutely love reading this - Thank you for sharing! I used to looove graphic t-shirts too! It's amazing the growth we go through when we are obedient ❤

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

The Lord is having me really be mindful of covering my bust. Thank you for sharing.

[@messy2mastery]

That's awesome to hear - I love stories where God is speaking to us and we are being obedient! Thank you for sharing your journey ❤

[@lifethroughhereyes3958]

Amen! Thank you, so much valuable lessons. Even without being aware, we are constantly comparing ourselves to others, trying to show ‘our best looking selves’ to everyone around us. All because we have been ‘imprinted’ by the world’s view of success, beauty and such. I really want to be a good example for my daughter too. ❤

[@messy2mastery]

Your daughter is so blessed to have you as a mama! That's amazing to hear that you are wanting to be a great example to her ❤

[@lifethroughhereyes3958]

@@messy2mastery aw, thank you so much! The Lord gave me my first living child after 7 years of praying through infertility and miscarriages, I guess it made me take nothing for granted and more thoughtful about the way I want her to grow up, too!

[@messy2mastery]

@@lifethroughhereyes3958 Wow, what a beautiful testimony. I know a lot of women who would feel so hopeful hearing your journey. I love that you kept going and trusted God with your daughter ❤ Thank you so much for sharing!

[@lifethroughhereyes3958]

@@messy2mastery 😯You made me aware I DO have a testimony… I really felt like I didn’t. I am struggling a lot with how to have an intimate relationship with God, how to hear His voice, and how to turn my knowledge about Him into KNOWING Him personally… even doubting whether I even know Him at all and am saved or not… I will pray about this,too! Thank you for encouraging me!❤️ Blessings from the Netherlands 🇳🇱

[@messy2mastery]

@@lifethroughhereyes3958 I just prayed for you and will keep you in my prayers, that God works through you and guide you to have a personal relationship with Him so you can also experience the peace and joy in doing so ❤

[@rossa.889]

God is so patient with us and I’m so glad you are able to hear and obey and honor him.❤

[@messy2mastery]

You are so right - He is sooo patient ❤

[@123gigiroxx]

Love all the point's you've made. Sanctification is a journey it doesn't happen over night. Very inspiring video

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for saying that! I tend to forget that and would prefer having a change of heart over night 🙈

[@Maggie216_]

So amazing to see God’s work, thank you for sharing!

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much! Yes, God's work is mind-blowing ❤

[@nadanalia3000]

Love this, thank you 🙏

[@messy2mastery]

I'm so glad you found value, thank you!

[@melodydito4723]

amen! 💞👏

[@messy2mastery]

Jesus is AWESOME ❤

[@Finace_chic_777]

Thank you for this video. I can wholeheartedly relate to this. God bless you.

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for your encouragement! I'm so glad you found value and related ❤

[@Mrssupermumm]

This is such a great video, again. You are very humble and open about yourself and what you've been through in your life and with God. I have 5 daughters (and 4 sons) and i am very aware (and have been for a few years) of the effect i have on everyones view on modesty. We protect our children from prying eyes, then we realise we have prying eyes looking at us too. I like us all to be covered up. 😊

[@messy2mastery]

That is such a blessing that you have five daughters and four sons ❤ Yes, it blows my mind how much we become aware of certain things when we become mother!

[@Mrssupermumm]

@@messy2mastery Thank you, we are very blessed.

[@beautifulinsideandout9822]

I actually have the opposite effect i have never thought i was pretty and i compare myself. My father have always said i was ugly. So I've always believe it word stick with you for life. Smh but is still working on me. And hes not done yet. ❤❤❤❤ thank you for this message.

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry this happened to you, and nobody should ever experience things like that, especially from those closest to us. You are beautiful and Jesus loves you ❤

[@wem-c9f]

What a biblical example for your girls.

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for your kind words ❤ We all do the best we can!

[@rosemarysoto8912]

Love this! Thank you for sharing your journey. When my girls were little I bought gymnastic outfits for their swimsuits. Idk if they still sell them, but they were basically one-piece shorts/tank top.

[@messy2mastery]

Oooh, thank you so much for the suggestion! I will definitely look into those!

[@celinaatwi2797]

Thanks for sharing. Modesty is like many other things a journey and not a destination. Even when I am dressing modestly I can have excessive pride or arrogance, and these are sins to be vigilant and repentant of in our hearts. Let's also remember God creates and defines true beauty. I find Christian women to be the most beautiful. They have a gracious and merciful look to them.

[@messy2mastery]

You are so right and it is so well communicated! God knows what is happening in our heart inside ❤ Thank you for the reminder!

[@vanessapierce1861]

This is SO beautiful and heartfelt! Thank you for sharing :)

[@messy2mastery]

Wow, thank you so much for your kind words, I really appreciate it ❤

[@mv1714]

Thank you for being so honest. It’s refreshing and you have a new subscriber here 🙋🏻‍♀️ I been going through this journey as well, and I know it’s the Lord. He loves his daughters just how you mentioned you love yours. Powerful message made true by your vulnerable way of putting it into words.

[@messy2mastery]

Wow, thank you so much for your encouragement. It means the world! I'm so glad to know you are also going through a similar journey. It is such a blessing! God is so powerful ❤

[@LeighannRiceDietitian]

I love this. Thanks for sharing. I’m a first time mom, and God has been using this experience to open my eyes and rethink how I feel in my clothing.

[@messy2mastery]

Congratulations on your new addition! Thank you for your message - I'm so glad you found value and that God is also using your child to guide you to what He wants you do ❤

[@kassandrashimotsu1568]

THIS! Thank you so much for openly sharing your journey with modesty. You explained things so well, those deep changes that only God can do and a heart that only he can give... praise God that He has given you confidence and worth in Jesus and his love for you! What a gift! Thank you, also, for not making this a one-size-fits-all or a judgmental video. The Holy Spirit is the best friend and guide! I had a dear friend growing up that would keep me accountable with where my heart was as I was purchasing clothes. Looking back, that was so precious to me. Also, once my sister-in-law had two boys, I started noticing how other girls and women dressed (especially at the pool) and my heart was broken that those boys would grow up having to navigate seeing girls next-to-naked. I have a bathing suit and then swim shorts and a rash guard that makes me much more comfortable, but still allows me to enjoy the water!

[@messy2mastery]

Wow. Your message brought tears to my eyes! Thank you so much for your kind words, I feel so grateful! I love that God is using people around us to guide us to what He is convicting us to. Those boys are very blessed to have someone so mindful like you are in their life ❤

[@kassandrashimotsu1568]

@@messy2mastery God is good!

[@YeahxxOk]

This was refreshing, thank you for being so open and truthful. I feel I am going through the same journey. God is so awesome!

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for your kind words! I love that you are also going through a similar journey ❤

[@oceanikki]

Thank you for sharing your story ❤

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for being here ❤

[@BernadetteVogel]

What else is not honoring Jesus? Well said! You are helping me think about my clothes and why I choose them. Thank you. Rewatching this a second and third time😊

[@messy2mastery]

Bernadette, thank you so much for your kind words! Our everyday choices are an opportunity to honour Jesus, and I feel so honoured that you are finding value in the video and even rewatching it-your support truly means so much ❤

[@wagnerfamily2043]

Thank you for sharing your thought process with this. I think many of us have the same thoughts but don’t realize it or don’t know how to express them.

[@messy2mastery]

You are so right, it took me TONS of reflection to realize I needed to change my perspective. I didn't know what kind of thoughts were going through my head and let alone how to communicate them!

[@MarieFouche-s9r]

Thank you a message needed in this age. Trust the Lord use you, your testimony even more be blessed.xx

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for your kind words! It is very encouraging ❤

[@estherbayer7164]

This was a perfect explanation! Thank-you for sharing

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm glad you found value ❤

[@BernadetteVogel]

Great video. Great message. Thank you for sharing!!!

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much, I'm so glad you enjoyed it!

[@jolab1810]

What a great testimony!

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for making the time to write encouraging words ❤

[@Roosje-kv8hn]

Loved this!

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for the encouragement!

[@BellaJoyeuse]

I appreciate your perspective and experience. It’s interesting. Personally, I dress so I feel like myself, I’ve never dressed to impress others. But I’m introverted and don’t like to get extra attention, especially publicly

[@messy2mastery]

Yes, I hear you - I also thought I was dressing for myself. Until I realized I could be dressing for Jesus! That’s when I was able to go back to the roots of the true reasons I was choosing to dress a certain way. Ultimately, it’s awesome if you are already dressing for God ❤

[@shakeelacecil9654]

I went through a similar journey. Thank you for sharing❤ just want to say I just discovered your channel and excited to follow you along! God bless you ❤️

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for your kind words, I feel so honoured ❤

[@madelineelizabeth2516]

Also maybe something about distrusting our husbands to not look at other women and keep their eyes on us. Like we’re not competing to be mean but to keep our husbands attention. Which is between him and God and we are to pray and we are to make sure we’re not a stumbling block to men and to women as Christians. Yes and amen dear sister.

[@messy2mastery]

I am so sorry for the delayed response - I somehow missed this in my notifications! Thank you for sharing that - Yes, our role as wives is not about competing or controlling but about prayerfully trusting God to work in our husbands’ hearts. We can focus on reflecting Christ in our own lives and not being a stumbling block ❤️

[@escapekat8860]

❤❤ thankyou 🙏

[@messy2mastery]

Thank YOU for being here ❤

[@tanvigawde1612]

We have the same lamp!

[@messy2mastery]

Awesome lamp!

[@ellees3521]

Beautiful! What revelation ❤️

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for your kind words ❤

[@andreawright3505]

So honest and helpful ❤

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for your words, I'm so glad you found value ❤

[@Gingerlydesigns]

Thank you so much for this video. It’s so timely for me

[@messy2mastery]

I love how God works in our life! I feel so honoured that it blessed you at the right time ❤

[@antoinettemoore976]

Wow! You completely hit the target on this video. Seems like we have been on the same journey. Why did I feel the need to dress provocatively or with tight-fitting clothes? It was because I had no self-worth and was looking for validation from others instead of from our Lord and Savior. I wanted to show the girls how much better I looked than them, and I wanted to show the guy's how good I looked. Yuck 🤮!!!! Talk about feminism .🙄 God has been nudging me into modesty, but through my daughter, he had truly made me change. One day, she asked me why I wore makeup. I told her that I needed it. She looked at me and asked if she needed it. I told her, of course not, and that she is absolutely beautiful. Then she told me that so was I because we looked like twins. Talk about a reality check. Needless to say, she and God won my heart. ❤

[@messy2mastery]

WOW! I absolutely LOVE your story with your daughter! Children are so wise and they tell us the truth ❤ And yes, I so hear you - Recovering feminist right here 🙈

[@Vannywealthscreations]

Absolutely beautiful!❤

[@aribella6913]

Thanks for posting.

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you for your encouragement ❤

[@shasha26able]

Wow, thanks for sharing as I’m on this journey right now and like you I just can’t see how a different cut of clothes could look on me so I’m trying to submit and embrace the change

[@messy2mastery]

What a beautiful journey! I am so proud of you for being obedient to what you feel God has convicted you on. I know it is not always the easier thing and it is totally worth it ❤

[@PraiseHisname777]

Great video x

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much! I'm so glad you found value ❤

[@rebekah.griffith]

so so so good!!!!!!

[@seasonsofwonder]

Hey sweet mama. Just subscribed to your channel. I loved listening to your testimony and journey to modesty. Thank you for sharing! 🙏☺️

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much, it means the world ❤

[@Vivian-ip2jd]

Iam a catholic mom of 3. Thanks for your video. Last month I got rid of 5+ large garbage bags of clothes that I dont want to wear anymore. They are a lot of beautiful sexy dresses that I have been proud of to put on for years bc it's showing my curves, a lot of crop tops , shorts... Thats a true but most of us dont think or dont care, thats showing off our body is WRONG. Someone told me long time ago.. we need to be humble in our thoughts, our words..and our clothes at well. We adore attention too much. I didn't click it back then but now I understand. I want to be simple in God. ❤

[@messy2mastery]

Wow, that is very inspiring that you got rid of five bags! I love it when God changes our heart ❤ Thank you for sharing your journey in being obedient!

[@coconut602752]

Beautiful! I love this ❤️

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for the encouragement ❤

[@theothen2857]

❤❤❤❤

[@messy2mastery]

❤❤❤

[@007lamiss]

💖

[@denisekyle6603]

A while ago I was impressed that I should wear shirts that are loose and a bit baggy and they need to cover the front side and backside! And I love the look and comfort! I think we are all getting ready for our Savior!

[@messy2mastery]

YEEES! Thank you for sharing you also were on a similar journey and followed through on what you felt God was convicted you about ❤

[@shaunaferguson6102]

Yes so good! Having girls is the exact reason I started changing the "undergarments" I was wearing too❤️

[@messy2mastery]

I absolutely love how God uses our children to get His points across ❤

[@shaunaferguson6102]

@@messy2mastery yes! So beautiful ❤️

[@yesorno1768]

We don't make people dress how we do but those that love Christ will eventually come to the freedom of needing validation from others. What a great freedom, feeling respected as a person not just some lustful stares.

[@messy2mastery]

Yes! Freedom comes when we stop seeking validation from others and focus on our worth in Christ. It's such a freeing experience to dress in a way that reflects our values and honours God, rather than seeking attention or approval. It's a beautiful reminder that our identity is found in Him, not in the opinions of others ❤

[@noble604]

I had a comment up. Not sure why it was deleted.😞

[@messy2mastery]

Would you mind recommenting? I didn't see your message!

[@noble604]

It was something to the effect that I’ve begun attending a new church since the beginning of the year, so for about one year, and I’ve chosen not to show much of my body at church. I wear pretty (but not necessarily “sexy”) dresses... long flowing sundresses in the summer ... in an effort not to call attention to myseif and my figure. I definiteky know how to do that and not necessarily all at one time ... highlight my waist here, show hips there, reveal a bit of cleavage there ... but I don’t. The downside has been, as a single woman who would love to meet/marry a Christian man, I also haven’t gotten the looks and attention from men there that I know I could get if I chose to wear more body-revealing dresses. I also don’t wear “sexy” shoes or heels to church, shoes meant to draw attention to my legs, ankles, toes, etc and how I walk. I know how to attract eyes and male focus on me. That’s not hard. I just don’t and I pray the man for me will see my inner godly beauty without my putting my body on full display and leaving a little something to the imagination. I believe he’ll be pleased to see the outer wrapper once he can. Praying for this.🌸

[@messy2mastery]

@@noble604 Thank you for sharing your heart! It's so encouraging to see a young woman trusting the right man will see and appreciate the beauty of your heart and character first ❤

[@LatoyaBenskin]

God also took me on this journey and for the same reasons....

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for normalizing the journey ❤

[@kerenkroll]

I used to be attention seeking too! And I have also reformed. I used to want to look good, now I just don't want to look bad. I think I wanted to be seen to make up for my ADD mom who perhaps didn't give me as much attention as I wanted/needed as a toddler. I am Jewish and modesty was an easy fallback from my culture as well.

[@messy2mastery]

I've been learning how our childhood can affect so much our adulthood and the way we parent! I'm so glad to know you are also on a similar journey ❤

[@noble604]

I love the modesty of Jewish culture. I see the young women running on our local track in knee length black skirts while the other young women and girls have on next to nothing. It’s very beautiful and refreshing to see 🍃🍃

[@messy2mastery]

@@noble604 I love that Jesus is speaking through a lot of us for our modesty journey so we can all learn from each other ❤

[@tinapastrana5252]

Hello you are absolutely right The Lord will change you from the inside out. The Lord will make you new and things that you used to do you won't do anymore. isn't our God good he always works out for our good and he will work through you so don't think that you can come to him when you fix yourself come to him just the way you are he will accept you love you but after you've been with them a while he will change you and it's a good feeling because remember God is holy and that's why we have to be holy. God bless and thank you for sharing.😊

[@messy2mastery]

YEEEES! This! This is so well communicated, thank you so much! God is so patient with us and welcoming us with all our flaws ❤

[@homewardbound799]

How can a man respect you for who you are and not what you look like but still be attracted to you physically? Im a young Christian woman praying for a godly husband to find me. Your statement struck me though.❤

[@messy2mastery]

Modesty doesn't mean sacrificing elegance. I've learned that modesty, to me, it's about respecting myself and choosing t dress in a way that doesn't draw attention for the wrong reasons. In today's world, there is often a strong focus on outward beauty. I've found that when relationships are based primarily on appearance, they can miss the deeper foundation God intended. A godly man will be drawn to a woman’s heart for God and her character first, and physical attraction becomes natural part of a whole picture, rather than the focus. I hope you keep praying for your future husband - I've found prayer one of the best ways to prepare our hearts while we wait ❤

[@KA2HRO]

Is there a way to slow down the speed of this persons voice?

[@messy2mastery]

If you press on the settings gear on the left, you can choose the playback speed!

[@sw1679]

Agreeeeee

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you, I'm glad you found value ❤

[@marfialennox2642]

I have so much respect for you. Ask any of these nearly naked females, and they will tell you that they dress for themselves and not to be seen. A BIG HYPOCRITICAL LIE! If it were true, they would admire themselves in the mirror at home and it would be enough. Two of the saddest things about how these women dress; they are usually walking next to a fully dressed man, and this way of ‘NOT dressing’ always seeps into the church

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you for your kind words! It's encouraging to know others also value modesty and its deeper meaning ❤

[@Jesus-already-won-joy]

That's great now but if you would show us what you wear now... Show us what it looks like on you... Then we would have a better idea of how we should be dressing. A flowy circle skirt looks different on everybody.

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you for being here! I thought I had mentioned this but I may have forgotten: This video is about my personal journey to modesty, a path that is unique to every woman. Modesty is not a one-size-fits-all look; it's more about the heart and intention than any specific style. While I'm happy to provide inspiration (make sure you subscribe for that video!), I encourage every woman to explore what modesty means for them personally, rather than trying to replicate someone else's exact look. I hope my journey can be a meaningful guide for you as you pursue your own ❤

[@LilianaM-q8v]

I really enjoy your content, but u talk so fast, it’s hard to follow what you say. If u could slow down just a bit, it would make it more enjoyable to hear 🌺🌺🌺

[@messy2mastery]

Thank you so much for the feedback ❤