Breakups: Looking for the best form of revenge?

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Susan Winter

Susan Winter

7 жыл бұрын

Bad breakups with cruel behavior can tempt us to thoughts of revenge. The trick to kick-starting Karma lies in non-interference. This is the magical property that levels the playing field and does for you, what you could never achieve with malice.
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@richardeliasjames5190
@richardeliasjames5190 4 жыл бұрын
I once heard that when a relationship ends you don’t mourn the end of the relationship, you mourn what the relationship could have been.
@LucySoo1
@LucySoo1 3 жыл бұрын
Yes, it’s ‘the dream’ we mourn most of the time
@jamesritch5245
@jamesritch5245 2 жыл бұрын
What you "thought" it could have been
@marengo08
@marengo08 Жыл бұрын
and yet the other person didnt get it....
@saphiresh
@saphiresh 4 жыл бұрын
and the person may not reach out, but once you start feeling good about yourself, that is YOUR beginning
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 4 жыл бұрын
absolutely
@itzajdmting
@itzajdmting Жыл бұрын
Well said 👍🏼
@peteriastring-vm8qq
@peteriastring-vm8qq 11 ай бұрын
He wanted me after he was living with somebody and now he says he DOSENT Evan like me to my girl
@31Alden
@31Alden 8 ай бұрын
A huge AMEN there!
@georgespangler1517
@georgespangler1517 4 жыл бұрын
You have to remember your life before them,,and remember you made it that far without even knowing they exsisted.
@nailpolishinhale
@nailpolishinhale 3 жыл бұрын
Yes this is true. I'm trying to reboot myself back to that point. They aren't even worth the 'lesson' I'm supposed to learn from the bad relationship.
@melissam1142
@melissam1142 3 жыл бұрын
@@nailpolishinhale forreal!
@soulshaker205
@soulshaker205 2 ай бұрын
I love this!!!
@juliejuju7419
@juliejuju7419 5 жыл бұрын
"He could feel the absence of my presence".
@diegogonzalez7279
@diegogonzalez7279 3 жыл бұрын
That’s right
@mitchell8697
@mitchell8697 5 жыл бұрын
Simply put, go no contact. Work on you and you will heal. Do not in any way try to contact them, look at their social media, look at their pictures, nothing. I'm not saying it's easy. IT'S HARD. But it's the only way. No contact.
@xonlytyrek3601
@xonlytyrek3601 5 жыл бұрын
Mitchell these are good points
@chynadoll77cyn59
@chynadoll77cyn59 3 жыл бұрын
It’s been 10 months and I once never checked his social media and no contact. He’s dead 💀 to me
@zizi9028
@zizi9028 3 жыл бұрын
True...
@mariahsmith5380
@mariahsmith5380 3 жыл бұрын
@@chynadoll77cyn59 and they didn’t reach out? Wow
@DiamondsRexpensive
@DiamondsRexpensive 3 жыл бұрын
@@mariahsmith5380 It is better if they don't reach out. They are supposedly an ex for good reasons after all.
@adie5137
@adie5137 6 жыл бұрын
I seriously cried at the last part of your video. "I want you to be happy, I want you to be free, the best revenge is to cut the mental chord, quit feeding the beast, let life do in its own and you'll see miracles happen". I really lifted by that sentence. You made my day. Thank you! 😘 I even downloaded this video so that I can watch it again and again.
@evizohiyt7822
@evizohiyt7822 5 жыл бұрын
I cried during the whole video
@massimo7219
@massimo7219 5 жыл бұрын
Success is the best revenge. Moving on and finding someone else who is better in every way.
@ranfyg29barca
@ranfyg29barca 5 жыл бұрын
True.! An experiencing that myself.!
@astyk150
@astyk150 4 жыл бұрын
No, that's not always work.. Sometimes life so sucks, that your ex may marry someone who you thought better than you. The best revenge is to love your self fully, retract your energy like what Susan said.
@Happy-Me.
@Happy-Me. 5 жыл бұрын
The best revenge is success. Go out and be successful! Their loss. No more fuel from you!
@OkThen2024
@OkThen2024 5 жыл бұрын
I agree with this... when we think of them, we give them some of our life force. .. and they love it! I choose to be free. I'm hoping it will get easier with time.
@orubek355
@orubek355 5 жыл бұрын
How are you now dear?
@suzs5991
@suzs5991 7 жыл бұрын
OMG needed to hear this today..universe talks to us through beautiful people like you :)
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
thanks Sue B
@STEJTHEGREATEST
@STEJTHEGREATEST 5 жыл бұрын
@@SusanWinter You don't sound very grateful. Always makes me laugh when you lying women put on a bright, cheery, vibrant front in your pics and videos, smiling like butter wouldn't melt, but then your online messages and texts reveal what frigid little ice queens you really are.
@user-bl4kj6gv9v
@user-bl4kj6gv9v 15 күн бұрын
אתם מדהימים. המילים שלכם מרגיעות. תודה
@philblane5752
@philblane5752 Жыл бұрын
The best revenge is getting to a point where you no longer care about revenge.
@JoannaHenwood
@JoannaHenwood 6 жыл бұрын
There is never any need to seek revenge on anyone. The laws of Karma will take care of all that. Just sit back and life will do the rest. Not that we wish harm on anyone, but if someone goes round being a bad person, sooner or later it will catch up with them, and they will reap their just deserts, without you lifting a finger. "As you sow, so shall you reap"..."What goes around, comes around" etc.
@rayjulian8044
@rayjulian8044 5 жыл бұрын
Joanna Henwood : Amen!
@Bazujkaz
@Bazujkaz 5 жыл бұрын
I like your reply. Seeking of revenge could create a loop, where people are dragged into, again and again. Now I would think deep if I want to go into a relationship where a person is expressing forms of revenge early on.
@brienmaybe.4415
@brienmaybe.4415 5 жыл бұрын
Laws of karma? Universal punishment system? You know there are murders and rapist still walking around free and will die peacefully in their sleep. That happens. So tell me where is this karma or universal punishment system you speak of?
@Mollybad
@Mollybad 5 жыл бұрын
@@brienmaybe.4415 Perhaps because there is so much negativity around that person already, the law of nature has no room to act. Hell, I don't know but you make a good point.
@Superman-xr1oh
@Superman-xr1oh 5 жыл бұрын
@@brienmaybe.4415 Google is your friend.
@LittlePoet
@LittlePoet 7 жыл бұрын
Wow...".I want you to be happy...but more then that...I want you to be free. " I have to buys your books. You sort of rock my world.
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!! Love you kind words, LittlePoet
@shehb711
@shehb711 5 жыл бұрын
What books?! I'm new to her channel
@parisvaughn5381
@parisvaughn5381 5 жыл бұрын
My sentiments exactly
@bryanw9840
@bryanw9840 5 жыл бұрын
She HB ... look on Amazon, Susan has a little ~30 page booklet ($0.99 Kindle version) that is very helpful IMO. I also did a one-on-one phone session with her and she is fantastic.
@blueseptember2174
@blueseptember2174 2 жыл бұрын
Love your channel little poet
@DonnyDaison
@DonnyDaison 7 жыл бұрын
This is so true. Anytime you just leave it and don't get involved with someone's bad behavior, the universe orchestrates the perfect lesson. I have had it happen to myself, and I have seen it happen to others. Every time, without a doubt.
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Hi Greedy Rick. Isn't that amazing? If we get out of the way the universe will actually correct the situation. Thanks for your terrific comment and observation.
@Superman-xr1oh
@Superman-xr1oh 5 жыл бұрын
@@SusanWinter But what if we get in the way?
@katiewilliams9381
@katiewilliams9381 7 жыл бұрын
Hi Susan, I would just like to add that you are so right about feeding the beast and them living odd that energy from thoughts. My children's father left me for another woman and I was absolutely devastated! I tried everything to get home back for months but it was completely useless, he had absolute no interest whatsoever in getting back with me. He broke up our family as we have to children together and he told me many times he was in love with this new woman and he had no plans to ever get back. I was broken hearted but I could not imagine my life without this person..as you mentioned in another video..I was fixated on the dream that he fulfilled. A family, stability, love although looking back it really wasn't what I thought it was. Anyhow, as I decided to consciously move on and stop seeking him, I stopped contacting him, started to go out with friends and allowed them to get on with it. And guess what happened..he came back..telling me h had made a huge mistake and he wanted me back..he still says it now, he is still seeing this other woman but he is kicking himself. I just wanted people out there to know this as it is true!! And now I have absolutely no interest whatsoever in ever getting back with him, I feel like he is mentally 'blocked' from my mind and heart! I puts amazing! Thank you for your wonderful words of wisdom and sharing xxx
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Katie, thank you so much for your note. I'm truly sorry for this huge upheaval in your life. But isn't it amazing how the power hidden behind this event has shown you a whole new reality?? And how liberating this knowledge? I'm thrilled you've come to this point. It's an incredible observation to witness how depriving our ex of our thoughts, activates their desire to regain our love. By that time, we rarely want them. Not only do we set ourselves free, but we turn the tables. For evermore, you'll be 'the one that got away.' Every man carries this story. Ask the men you know. They all speak about the one they let get away and kick themselves with wondering how they could be such a fool.// As for the dream, you've got that awareness. It was the dream you wanted, not the man. he activated the dream and was the conduit to the dream... but not THE DREAM. You now have new dreams. And you'll find those who want to participate in the dream you have, with you. What a lovely note. Sending you a virtual hug!!!
@katiewilliams9381
@katiewilliams9381 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you I have only just read this..I have now moved on and met some amazing guys along the way...it hasn't been easy, I have a chronic illness, I'm a working single mother of two children, so finding a partner hasn't been a priority for me as I need to heal... However I have met somebody wonderful now.. GoneRe the nights I cried myself to sleep and thought life was hopeless...I am now very grateful for the experience as I have now realised as you said, he was not the dream...he activated it but was not it!! Had he'd not cheated I would still be in a loveless, empty unsatisfying relationship, always miserable and wondering why I was allay feeling so negative.. So to all you viewers out there, give it time, be patient. I don't have good looks, a great body or anything but by being rid of him, pushed me into raising my vibration and I am so much happier single.. Hang on I'm there, nothing lasts forever. Thank you Susan for all your very encouraging and kind words, by watching your videos, I am actually successfully dating and things are going well.. All thanks to your wisdom, you are truly an amazing woman xxx
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
YAY!!!!!! EXCELLENT, Katie. Loved your commentary. Thank you!!
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Revenge only shows they still have your emotions captive. It's the absence of caring that shows you've really moved on. If they never cared, they'll never care that you left. But if you're content with your life, they'll wonder if they made a mistake.
@chriseleuterius
@chriseleuterius 7 жыл бұрын
The topics in this video are so true! I have witnessed them myself. I don't know how they work, but they do. It is simply letting go of your attachment. It isn't easy, but when you do, I have seen how powerful that Force is in delivering a crushing blow of Karma. Plus the ex DOES feel the withdrawal of that energy. It is amazing, and yes, your hands are clean. You simply let go. I have watched this video over and over. So encouraging! Thank you Susan!
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Big C, you are welcome! It is rather magical. And unless you've experienced it yourself, it might seem that one is making it up. But it's a real thing, as you know and have experienced
@0527lance
@0527lance 6 жыл бұрын
Iam going thru this right now. I cant able to get mad at her even she dumped me twice. Its LDR and she cheated on me twice but still I cant get myselr angry with her, because we didnt argue or what its just the distance and she cant take it. Im so lost right now in pain and I wish soon Ill be okay. 😥
@deeptikaur4458
@deeptikaur4458 5 жыл бұрын
Will it work if he's not my ex or present bf?
@thesandyreport2383
@thesandyreport2383 4 жыл бұрын
Mandy Gangotre did it work?
@julieling1212
@julieling1212 4 жыл бұрын
what do u do whan u nick'door nigthbourth is sexall hassmeant police don't help he's partner don't believe me whan I have got all the texted and all the cards he got my number of the door whan it was for the gas man keeps getting my letter out of my boxs and going to over thing I don't what tham to go
@ronkarson8314
@ronkarson8314 4 жыл бұрын
I had a terrible break up. I hadn't heard from her or thought of her much in 6 months. I was at a dinner and ended up sitting, by a lake and a fire, talking with woman I met that evening, until 3 in the morning. When I felt it was time to say goodnight, I walked her to the cottage and out of nowhere she gave me one of the most amazing kisses I had ever experienced. Within 10 minutes of that kiss, I recieved a message on my voicemail from the woman I had separated from. She asked: something happened. I can no longer feel you.
@fanniemiller3343
@fanniemiller3343 7 жыл бұрын
You have been the best coach on speaking about relationship that I have ever seen! Keep up the good work!!
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Fannie Miller thank you for saying that! Your words mean a lot to me. 😀
@tanyabriggs9382
@tanyabriggs9382 6 жыл бұрын
She's definitely THE best!
@genallen769
@genallen769 5 жыл бұрын
I had your Australia moment. The moment I felt at peace with the breakup and started feeling strong, I was enjoying vacation abroad and what do you know? He contacted me. After almost 6 months of no contact. Apologized and admitted he could’ve handled things differently. Funny how the universe works. Let go, cut the chord. You are so right, Susan. Keep doing what you’re doing. Your videos have helped me through a pretty rough part of my life.
@magdalenanull9999
@magdalenanull9999 4 жыл бұрын
“Nerve cells that no longer fire together, no longer wire together “ Joe Dispenza. Thank you Susan you are a Genius 💕🙏
@michaelhickman3580
@michaelhickman3580 4 жыл бұрын
Just walk away and don’t look back sounds hard until you do it , next thing you know it’s a year later and you are 👍
@PositiveMommaLife
@PositiveMommaLife 6 жыл бұрын
I call those people emotional vampires and I call the disconnect psychic cord cutting. Great video. Control your thoughts and control the energy. I agree with everything you said. Powerful lecture and 100% true.
@jenniferbang4506
@jenniferbang4506 5 жыл бұрын
"He felt the absence of my energy" that is so true and powerful!!!!! Thank you Amazing lady!
@lioydwilliams1850
@lioydwilliams1850 3 жыл бұрын
Jennifer Bang, you look stunning
@jenniferbang4506
@jenniferbang4506 3 жыл бұрын
@@lioydwilliams1850 🙂
@lioydwilliams1850
@lioydwilliams1850 3 жыл бұрын
@@jenniferbang4506 which country are you from?
@MR-bq6xu
@MR-bq6xu 6 жыл бұрын
Yep. Started to move forward with my life and cut all contact. My ex contacted me and I ended up finding out that he totaled his car, hitting a palm tree on his way home from work from over partying and over working🌴💥🚗 did I feel bad? Maybe. did he deserve it? Yes. thank you for this message I think everyone needs to listen to this
@johnnypreer5276
@johnnypreer5276 3 жыл бұрын
What an incredible video. I’m two months no contact, but “no contact” doesn’t mean “no energy.” That’s where the power is. I’m vacationing with friends in a few months when covid dies down, and I know I need to use the next few months for self improvement and stop giving her the energy of my thoughts. Hopefully by then I’ll be at the same place you were, and the cherry on top would be to hear from her again. Who knows. Incredible video. Thank you. Just to add: I watch plenty of “ex back” type channels, and they all say that there’s always a possibility. I get the vibe from yours of “even if there is, let it go and move forward.” I think that’s what everybody needs to do regardless. Moving forward is, well, the only way forward.
@paul-vk8eb
@paul-vk8eb 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Susan. This is what I needed. Revenge is for amateurs. Cut the mental cord and let life deal with them. Thanks again. This is priceless.
@jgooge2
@jgooge2 5 жыл бұрын
I didn’t want this video to end... thank you!
@oscarwilliamson1264
@oscarwilliamson1264 3 жыл бұрын
Jill googe,you are absolutely Charming 🌷🌹🥀🥀🌷🌷🤙
@lioydwilliams1850
@lioydwilliams1850 3 жыл бұрын
Jill googe,hope you are with a good man cause you are too precious!
@laflakadr14
@laflakadr14 5 жыл бұрын
I did what she said in the video and today he went to my job. But I told him to leave me alone. I believe that your ideas are helping me a lot because I was having a depression because of this guy. Thank you Susan winter
@mattykay1137
@mattykay1137 5 жыл бұрын
I’m Mathew from Australia 🇦🇺 Thankyou so much Susan It’s been just over 6 months since my split with my GF It’s been a real struggle too let go I’m slowly getting there I’m not crying anymore It’s been the first time since our break up where I havnt cried I’m really working hard too cut the cord I feel it’s not too far away 🤗
@symeon.k.9894
@symeon.k.9894 5 жыл бұрын
So f***ing accurate.What i love the most about her advice is the fact that she really focuses on the heal and not on fake hopes like other promotional-mercatory "coaches".
@chriseleuterius
@chriseleuterius 7 жыл бұрын
This is one of the BEST channels for relationships!
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
THANKS, Big C!
@mysa.relind977
@mysa.relind977 5 жыл бұрын
It s actually the best for me..
@cherylcuttineau7916
@cherylcuttineau7916 5 жыл бұрын
Chris Eleuterius This IS the best channel for adult dating and relationships! I am 66, and it’s a whole different world out there! Susan Winters has saved my life!
@kathleenwharton2139
@kathleenwharton2139 5 жыл бұрын
Jesus gave us the Best solution. "Forgive and Bless your enemy." God takes care of the rest. I have been rejected and hurt by three men and later.. when finding out about them..They are all in a bad unhappy place. I still pray for God to Bless them..
@MrSamadolfo
@MrSamadolfo 4 жыл бұрын
😇👍
@nduncan79
@nduncan79 4 жыл бұрын
thats beautiful and i agree
@kathleenwharton2139
@kathleenwharton2139 4 жыл бұрын
nduncan79 I am not sure if there is karma or not..but my xhusband left me for a woman who had money and now he is married to her and in her territory. She has all the power and is very mean to him. He has to pay rent and not even allowed a key to the door. The second man.. he had a business and a nice home when he threw me out and now he lives in a fifth wheel with two cats and severe Arthritis. The next man left me and married another woman and later I got a letter from him telling me his wife didn’t love him..he was not well..he thanked me for the only two years of peace he had in his life. I don’t know what happened to the 4th man. I lost track of him. I was hurt but I did not ask God to do that!
@nduncan79
@nduncan79 4 жыл бұрын
@@kathleenwharton2139 I was agreeing with you praying for them and wishing them the best. Vengance is the Lords. Sometimes you have to pray for mercy on others behalfs that wronged you. Im sorry for the mens misfortune. Not thrilled how they treated you either but, you seem healed after yalls time together so thats a blessing.
@kathleenwharton2139
@kathleenwharton2139 4 жыл бұрын
nduncan79 Yes! I am Healed. And now it is all behind me..I can understand. There was a lesson or more there with every man. There were things about me..needed to be seen and fixed. Your enemies are your best teachers. It was not very pretty though!
@TERFClub
@TERFClub 7 жыл бұрын
Haha this is the first time I've ever heard someone say what I was thinking all along. As soon as they feel that emotional bond slip away or cut they want Your emotional support. And they tell you they miss you. Happened to me not so long ago.
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
That's correct. Amazing, isn't it? The animal instinct feels the lack of our psychic energy feeding their ego. Thanks for the confirmation and for watching this video.
@LadyofCleves65
@LadyofCleves65 5 жыл бұрын
I wonder when they finally do call how many go back to them cause in a way we are addicted to their energy just as much if not more.
@InJesusNameAmen143
@InJesusNameAmen143 4 жыл бұрын
@@LadyofCleves65 SUPER SUPER TRUE. MY PROBLEM IS I LOVE HER ROUND BUBBLE BUTT . I LOVE THE SEX .
@jaimiehill2028
@jaimiehill2028 4 жыл бұрын
So weird happened to me numerous times. Years it took me to get that liberating feeling that I was free then practically the intstant I had that feeling I was contacted.
@flyprincess69
@flyprincess69 4 жыл бұрын
The best revenge is no revenge.
@salt.and.light.
@salt.and.light. 6 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love your advice, thank you so much. You are so right and what you have said I have heard/read before, that even when you are thinking of someone all the time you are feeding them with energy, even when you have no contact with them at all they can feel that energy and presence. That cord of energy that connects you to that person is preventing you from being available to receive what you really deserve from someone else. So I totally agree, cut the cord, take the high road, walk away with your head held high, at the end of the day their life will be a mess without you anyway. And you are so right, God, the universe or whatever one may believe in, has a way of leveling these people who have wronged us. We don't have to do anything but walk away.
@deeptikaur4458
@deeptikaur4458 5 жыл бұрын
Will it work if he's not my ex or Present bf..I love someone who dont love me..I did alot of efforts for him..I got too much attached to him...We used to talk alot alot..Sometimes he shows interest but sometimes he make me feel i m nothing...I really cried for him alot..He knows how much i love him but he dont value it..yesterday he told me to leave him alone...i begged him to stay but he said go away...I really want to do this method of cutting cord so that he can feel my absence
@PeaceFan1
@PeaceFan1 6 жыл бұрын
Hey Susan ... I have to tell you that EXACTLY what you said, happened to me recently! I decided to move on from a Friendship/Flirtation Thang and I just Moved on and Ignored this person and after a Month ..They Reached out to ME....LMAO!!! So, what you're saying is SOOO TRUE!! xo
@zhangfan5955
@zhangfan5955 6 жыл бұрын
Cut the Core, Stop feeding the beast, when you free yourself from mind and soul, the minute you starting to do so , they will soon notice your absence and whatever the rest they do will blow your mind ... That's the kind of Revenge you should set yourself for, and the rest of revenge games are for immature. So freaking true. Love you Susan, You again made my day. And I never get tired of watching your videos even if I've watched them already. One of the only greatest addiction for long lasting wisdom. Thank you!
@sksea
@sksea 3 жыл бұрын
*'Cutting the energy cord'* is not only true for love life but also for other areas of life. Wonderful advice.👏🏼
@horrorcops
@horrorcops 6 жыл бұрын
I want to be free, too. This is so helpful I just got back from a trip and the moment I got home I got a message from my ex. I understand I was keeping myself in a place of pain by feeding the thoughts I need to stop talking about him to my friends even when tryouts my to figure out what he is doing. I am cutting the cord and making a conscious effort. Thank you Susan wonderful advice on your channel x
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your comment.
@brunoantony3218
@brunoantony3218 4 жыл бұрын
Finally someone on KZbin with intelligence. I've been watching dozens of videos after my breakup which happened about 45 days ago and this is the most sane, powerful and brilliant recipe for recovery and freedom. Now it's up to me to do the mental exercise that she's talking about. Wish me luck.
@gayelspence5615
@gayelspence5615 7 жыл бұрын
I have always thought this but no one ever explained this like you .Finally I understand 8 years of mental abuse and how he thrives on depleting my energy
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Hi Gayle. I'm so happy to read your comment. Yes, that's the key to your own mental freedom and to disempowering your ex. Wishing you well on a new life with ALL of your energy going toward yourself.
@gayelspence5615
@gayelspence5615 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you.my companion is a Narc......Ex companion.We still live together.......
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Makes this all a little more complicated.
@lioydwilliams1850
@lioydwilliams1850 3 жыл бұрын
@@gayelspence5615 you deserve better
@positivevibes1306
@positivevibes1306 5 жыл бұрын
This happens to me.i felt good, I stopped thinking about him and I felt that text coming that evening. It happened every time. I have had to block him now and really move on.
@siyamahmed9907
@siyamahmed9907 5 жыл бұрын
When i called him crying hurt i remeber me feeling a Sharp pain in my heart and i remeber right at that moment he laughed and said" just admit that you still love me and you cant live without me so just admit that and i will be nice and talk to you " "let go of your ego"and he enjoyed seeing me hurt .he could be on the phone with me and i would talk for almost 2 hr complaing crying yelling telling him i love him and all that without him saying a word and when he gets tired he hangs up with out saying bye and when i call back he blacks me .it hurts so bad and we have a 5 year old
@homerminshewiii9751
@homerminshewiii9751 5 жыл бұрын
Dear Ms . Winters , I thought what you said about making the mental cut was , hocus pockus. Well it worked in my situation , too. I am astounded . Thanks for helping me. God Bless and Gods speed.
@Superman-xr1oh
@Superman-xr1oh 5 жыл бұрын
I still think it's hocus pockus. And what of those situations where you did cut off all that energy you're feeding them, and yet they never try contacting you?
@vasiliosagio3127
@vasiliosagio3127 5 жыл бұрын
Amazing true Info , I have experienced this before with a partner a few years ago , wen u finally stopped thinking or caring or hoping , everything turned around she wanted me to bring her back from Malaysia to Australia to get married after she had two relationships in the mean time , the moment u cut that thought and move on this happens , did I bring her back to oz , NO !! With a smile 😊
@sarahgx4589
@sarahgx4589 6 жыл бұрын
What makes your videos so genuine that they don't come out of theories or nonsense blah blah we hear on KZbin , no , they come from your own experience followed by educating your self about what happened with u in the past ... that's what make them so believable and true .. you are the best .. a real relationship guru
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Sarah!! I want to reach through the computer and give you a hug!!
@sarahgx4589
@sarahgx4589 6 жыл бұрын
you deserve a BIG hug filled with LOVE for sharing these valuable techniques ( gained in the hard way) with us for FREE . some people in this world are Above the world and you are one of them .. i wish you an international fame and success
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын
Sarah, we definitely have a mutual appreciation and society between the two of us here. Thank you again, from the bottom of my heart. Your words are so inspiring and they keep me going. All the best!
@DedraAllen007
@DedraAllen007 5 жыл бұрын
That is an incredible revelation to know that not thinking of someone, is starving them of your energy! Great info!
@beautylife310
@beautylife310 3 жыл бұрын
Can't agree with this more! My best revenge was to become the best version I could be and enjoy life as much as I could. Then by chance I met him again several years later, I was happy and feeling good about myself, he couldn't stop contacting me since...I stayed polite and calm, as I no longer obsessed with him. I eventually got my power back, for me that was the best revenge!
@josevanga666
@josevanga666 5 жыл бұрын
I love this video. I've listened to it over and over again in the past few weeks since I first heard it, especially when I'm feeling bad. It's all I have. I can do nothing more. This person broke my heart terrible and I let them walk all over it further for months after that until one day I got my head out of my a-- and stopped communicating with them and later blocked them months back. It wasn't until then that I started to heal. But it's been very hard living with the pain, anger, and indignation they caused me and left me with. Thankfully I was never rude or ugly to them, I kept my class. But still it hurts so much and I just want to see this person acknowledge the wrong they did to me, the harm, the pretty way they threw me aside for someone else the moment their needs changed or the opportunity arose and the sad, hurtful justifications they gave that unfortunately I feel for at the time. But I agree with this video, maybe I'm not there yet but one day the healing and closure will be complete in my heart and mind and I won't think about them anymore or care (though I don't care for them now, I don't want them back) and I'll be free and focusing on myself, living my own life and creating my own happiness. And if and when that day comes, if they contact me, all I'll do is look at that message and put my phone away. They'll have to live with the actions they've then realize they committed and what they lost and who they had, and hopefully that will make them grow too on day into a better person, but they'll never have me or what we had back in their life.
@MasterOZero
@MasterOZero 5 жыл бұрын
Shes been through 3 men and now onto her 4th this whole year, she always asks for me and how I'm doing which brings up my feelings of hatred all over again.
@camille0704
@camille0704 3 жыл бұрын
"Cut the mental rop" : those are the best words ever. Thank you so much for making me realize what I needed to do to feel better and to stop thinking of him all the time and to allow my mind to let him go.
@marcyallison5996
@marcyallison5996 7 жыл бұрын
I watch this everyday to give me strength. Thank you!! You are a Godsend.
@cashtaylor9804
@cashtaylor9804 7 жыл бұрын
BRAVO👏👏👏 One of the best videos I've seen! I've dealt with the exact feelings you're describing. I'm just leaving "her" to Karma. God bless you & have a wonderful day... much like yourself😎
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
CASH TAYLOR!!! Oh my, this is a beautiful comment. Thank you. And as for Karma, that's the part that's truly astounding. I swear, I witnessed events unfold in front of my eyes that I would have happily paid to make happen. They occurred because I didn't interfere. Please know the whole Universe is on your side. You'll see!
@marcyallison5996
@marcyallison5996 6 жыл бұрын
You are my inspiration, Susan.
@ericmayfield5878
@ericmayfield5878 7 жыл бұрын
all I can say is damn!! I've been searching for answers and you are basically an angel giving them to me.. this video all by itself was so informational I just want to say God bless you and just continue to help people the way that you been doing💙💙💙
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Hi Eric. Thank you for your gracious words.
@vickicsurbs444
@vickicsurbs444 4 жыл бұрын
Yep as soon as you take your energy back and cut the cords they feel it because they feel your energy detaching. Your right the do contact you. YOU ARE SPOT ON SUSAN 🙌 Been doing this for years cut cords, detachment, take energy back and move on. They aren't worth it and you have your life to live dont give it away to evil energy vampires! GET TO LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE NOW🙌🙏
@sandym3239
@sandym3239 6 жыл бұрын
OMG, this has happened to me several times in my life. We are connected in ways we do not even know.
@oscarwilliamson1264
@oscarwilliamson1264 3 жыл бұрын
Sandy M, you look stunning 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🌺 🌺🥀 🥀.
@lioydwilliams1850
@lioydwilliams1850 3 жыл бұрын
Sandy M,you deserve a better man!
@captainmd2315
@captainmd2315 4 жыл бұрын
Whenever i listen to you i just feel peace and calm like my someone close person giving me advice..Thanks❤
@chlit604
@chlit604 5 жыл бұрын
I appreciate your informative topic. I experienced this exact thing. I did just that, cut the cord /forgave/ and moved forward! Life is Glorious!
@doshinirav83
@doshinirav83 4 жыл бұрын
Dear Susan - You not only help us heal but also empower us with your amazing words that has such a profound effect on our minds and hearts. What you said has helped me so much immensely - "Revenge is a game for amateurs. You want a sophisticated technique and you want a real revenge? Cut the cord on mental connection. Quit feeding the beast". That's savage! Thank you. I am positive that Universe will give you in abundance everything you deserve, for helping heal millions of hearts in the world. Thanks, again.
@EmilyIsHere1111
@EmilyIsHere1111 5 жыл бұрын
This is one of Susan’s best of the best videos. I am feeling so empowered and grateful for Susan’s guidance!
@willavietinghoff1
@willavietinghoff1 6 жыл бұрын
This is the best video for cutting the cord from someone that I have ever seen. Thank you for sharing your fantastic experience - I guess we are all truly connected by energy. Disinterest IS the greatest power - it’s just getting there which is the hard part. THANK YOU. I’m going to watch this again.
@LA-gh3mi
@LA-gh3mi 5 жыл бұрын
My old addiction is on holiday with his girlfriend who was his previous ex girlfriend...(he used me as the rebound) she currently treating him like crap as she might aswell have a remote control for him🤣he's spending all of his hard earned cash on her...so it's good to know they're putting each other through their own personall hell....my work here is done🤣🤣🤣the more drama you create the more Karma you get😉
@selflessly101
@selflessly101 5 жыл бұрын
Your a sad person..
@lecer1187
@lecer1187 5 жыл бұрын
I've been watching this segment last year, almost everyday,.. getting a deeper inspiration for the worst heartache i have even encountered,. One year has passed, this pops up again in my feed and now, I am just laughing all about it. Thank you Susan. I cant thank u enough for all the videos u have shared for us. You have helped us to choose ourselves and let go of the pain that will never be productive at all..
@littlemissy8356
@littlemissy8356 2 жыл бұрын
Thats the key. When you think of the person, just say "STOP." I think she is right, and the more you can do this, the better. I want to see what happens.
@joscleo3567
@joscleo3567 6 жыл бұрын
This is very true. After months of the torment of my thinking about him, I made a decision to focus on me and my life and being present in thought for my best interest and when my thoughts turned to him, I stopped myself and said "no ...I do not give you this power over me" and oddly enough out of the blue I received an email from him. Go figure. Thank you for your videos, they are wonderful!
@deeptikaur4458
@deeptikaur4458 5 жыл бұрын
Will it work if he's not my ex or present bf..I m inlove with one guy who dont love me back..I got too attached to him, sometimes he showed me interest but sometimes he say that he dont have anything with me...I feel so bad bcz i really love him...we have been talking from new months and usually call each other..Yesterday he told me to leave him alone..i begged but he told me to leave..I really want to try this method of not thinking bcz i want him to feel my absence..plzz reply me dear
@zan752000
@zan752000 6 жыл бұрын
Love you Susan, the right words at the right time.
@charlesvalerio7718
@charlesvalerio7718 5 жыл бұрын
This brought me to tears.. Thank you for this message.. I play it when I cash myself thinking about her and it truly helps.. THANK YOU!
@katzumihanzo5471
@katzumihanzo5471 5 жыл бұрын
Wow, I never saw it that way, you’re right, it’s the energy that keeps them in a power position
@lucyjones955
@lucyjones955 7 жыл бұрын
Best video you ever made!! Wow! You raised the bar on our healing. God bless you! Thanks so much!
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Thanks Lucy!!!!!
@jcr-studios
@jcr-studios 5 жыл бұрын
Even though this is a reminder of something I‘m already aware of, it has helped me so much. Thanks Susan!
@lioydwilliams1850
@lioydwilliams1850 3 жыл бұрын
Jacqueline Rimmer,your pretty smile can make the news!
@susankim9991
@susankim9991 Жыл бұрын
Omgawd Susan! Love this! My husband tossed separation papers in my face three months ago and I've been thinking about it, crying burdening friends and family with "why..boohoo, cry cry" even quit my job to be at home, reasoning with him - how pathetic! This is the best advice ever! Thank you so much 💓
@e.l.a.4028
@e.l.a.4028 5 жыл бұрын
Another youtuber referred you on her community page... I really have to thank her because you are amazing.. your videos aren't long and I can tell you now I listen to one of them over and over for an hour... why are you so amazing?? Everything I needed to hear you've told me in under 10 mins... you're amazing.. simply amazing
@xoxosydnayy
@xoxosydnayy 6 жыл бұрын
This is absolutely amazing and I wish I found this sooner. Thank you Susan. The best relationship advice I've ever heard to this day.
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Sydney.
@marisolmontalvo8875
@marisolmontalvo8875 6 жыл бұрын
I receive that ! and I PROMISE, I will PRACTICE it. 🙌
@emily_spellcaster1600
@emily_spellcaster1600 3 жыл бұрын
We can both get your ex back , if you want
@kpporter8883
@kpporter8883 5 жыл бұрын
Girl you are so fkn amazing! You describe things so naturally as they really are. Very impressed with your words of wisdom.
@morpheus3190
@morpheus3190 10 ай бұрын
I agree with everything you said and I am struggling to cut the cord. She keeps sneaking back in my mind. No contact for a year but I still think about her. Trying to break the cycle for good. No malice, but if Karma pays her back for her betrayal, so be it.
@denOfProgramming
@denOfProgramming 6 жыл бұрын
Great words of wisdom Susan, yes absolutely, 'thoughts are as real as a poke in the eye' - Edgar Cayce and the etheric cord is very real. Love your videos Susan. Thank you!
@tinysteps2330
@tinysteps2330 6 жыл бұрын
Listening to this for the third time. Suzan thank you again and again. You shine in so many people's life's. I want the very best for you and your beautiful energy. You are an amazing shining angel to us in need of help. You have made me a stronger, wiser, being . I'm humbled to be your friend. X
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын
How beautiful. Thank you.
@sofiaekholm1140
@sofiaekholm1140 7 ай бұрын
This video is amazing! you are truly the best! everything you said is so true! currently going through this, its really really painful. But will try to keep my head up still! Thanks! a lot of love to you back!
@MG-cd9ek
@MG-cd9ek 4 жыл бұрын
SO SO SO SO SO POWERFUL SUSAN! They always call when you've let it go. The sucking of the life force is depleted! And they know it! Wow so true! You're very deep and you're profound. Thank you!
@Davinci__man
@Davinci__man 5 жыл бұрын
Wow... It blew my mind, it’s amazing and freeing , my good karma brought me to your channel Susan Love you lots.. Thanks a lot form India 🙏🏼
@ShantiForever
@ShantiForever 7 жыл бұрын
Amazing! thank you. Im going to practice this technique NOW! Im not giving him any more thought, good or bad.
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Fantastic I am Shanti. Let me know how goes.
@jewlstah2010
@jewlstah2010 6 жыл бұрын
Wow, Susan. Your words are truly life-changing. You are a BLESSING!
@pradeepdheer6225
@pradeepdheer6225 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Susan for being so generous .. I could feel the concerns you made.. it nailed it.. Loads of love
@joannadaria8272
@joannadaria8272 6 жыл бұрын
I love how you put it .quite feeding the beast!!
@lecer1187
@lecer1187 6 жыл бұрын
This has been the best advice i have listened after tormenting myself for months of trying to get my ex back. thank you ver yesterday much susan..
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU!!
@tenikaj70
@tenikaj70 6 жыл бұрын
You are on point with this. It is so true. I went through it after leaving the narcissist. Thanks for sharing 👍
@kori4580
@kori4580 10 ай бұрын
Oh man Susan, I left my home in Canada to be with my partner in Australia and after 13 great years he broke up with me, leaving vulnerable and alone. Cutting the cords of thoughts about him is a struggle but today I managed not to contact him so I'm hoping I get stronger and persistent with each day. Thank you for your videos!
@crystallight1113
@crystallight1113 7 жыл бұрын
amazing !!! thank you Susan,what a wonderful video . this mirrors my experience too .
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Crystal, this is amazing. Isn't it wonderful when life creates sitautions like this? Karma, energy, or what-ever balances the situation. Thanks for your note.
@lioydwilliams1850
@lioydwilliams1850 3 жыл бұрын
crystallight1113,you look stunning
@peterlyngesrensen1518
@peterlyngesrensen1518 6 жыл бұрын
Never wanted revenge. Only sadness was dominating.
@raythedodger
@raythedodger 5 жыл бұрын
My revenge came in a venting email where I called her out for all the BS. I needed to do that and have zero regrets. I also told her I was moving on and to not contact me. Now it’s time to cut that cord.
@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 5 жыл бұрын
Good job I did the same thing to my ex girlfriend let's say my so called ex girlfriend.. I gave her so many chances to change .. For one she didnt know her sexuality until me and her had sex . we (were both bisexual girls). But anyways she would always cheat on me with some guys .. But onlying that I found out she would open her legs to anyone. After I found out she was cheating on me this lasted time . I just realized she ain't no keeper she didn't want to be kept anyways. Like I said when they chest they will always a cheater, jumping around.. I called her out for the BS Also.. What she did on the phone. I told her don't contact Me anymore . I told her I don't want to see her ever again
@raythedodger
@raythedodger 5 жыл бұрын
Camille CE good for you. People will try and get away with murder when they know someone loves them and will take them back. Sometimes they need a dose of reality.
@rabihh78
@rabihh78 6 жыл бұрын
It’s the first and probably the last time i would write a comment anywhere, i felt really would like to give you the credit you deserve, for me listening to these videos were just reminding myself of things i already know and listening someone else definitely helps however your take on any topic has always a new angle and vision that seems so obvious just after you say it. Thanks a lot!
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын
thank you for taking the time to write. I do appreciate your words and your wathcing these videos.
@yomamasbackhand
@yomamasbackhand 5 жыл бұрын
Iiving on our energy without us physically in their life! ha! couldn't have pulled out the scissors quick enough! thank you for confirming my intution 👏❤
@violetlune72
@violetlune72 6 жыл бұрын
Best advice ever! 😘😘😘
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын
Lyric G. Thank you!!!😊
@xo_zuzi
@xo_zuzi 3 жыл бұрын
Susan, you are a life saver. Feeling so grateful for your videos. They are more helpful than you will ever know. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! 🍀
@claudiaj.1994
@claudiaj.1994 5 жыл бұрын
By coincidence I watched this video and I found it so clear, so accurate and well explained that I had to subscribe!!! The way she explains makes so much sense.
@robertootero1558
@robertootero1558 6 жыл бұрын
Me as a 44 year old man for about a year I have to pain with my ex-girlfriend her having this power over me but once you explained it to me in a simple but deep spiritual way I gain my confidence and understanding that I wasn't the one who made the mistake I realize now with my respect and confidence as a good person not just feeding into her power and her mind games but I want to thank you again for inspiring me and watching your videos for the first time today thank you very much
@seh2018
@seh2018 6 жыл бұрын
This video works for me all the time. I have a shortcut link of it on my fav bar and watch it each time I have a break up/heartache (which is quite frequent as I wear my heart on my sleeve lol). somehow we hurt even if we are the dumper haha. I brood; loose my appetite and cant focus on work for a few days after each break up and mentally obsess about that person for a few days. so this video gives me the courage to go back out there and try again and again bec I know deep down that what's the worst that can happen - we get a heart ache for a few days .. but this video will put us back on track.. so good luck everyone on your search for love.. don't be afraid of a heart break.. it is always temporary..
@zycorum
@zycorum 5 жыл бұрын
You are soo right regarding your comments on the Dynamics of the energy!! Brilliant Susan!
@smiletown5201
@smiletown5201 7 жыл бұрын
Another brilliant video, I think I've dated all these guys at one stage or another! But you are so spot on with this one, and it's come at just the right time. I have recommended your videos to many people struggling in relationships...if I'm in any doubt I just pop on one of your uplifting videos...and all is right with the world again....thank you Susan!
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you Kate! That's wonderful. I really appreciate your kind words and your support. All the best!!
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