Brené Brown Reveals Which Four Skill Sets Make the Best Leaders

Brené Brown talks about her new podcast Dare to Lead, what working with members of the military taught her and which five songs she can’t live without.
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[@jennifernielsen599]

I studied Social work in College and my husband studied mechanical engineering. He could not wrap his head around social sciences. Twenty two years later, we watched Brene’s Netflix special and he got it! Brene’ taught my husband vulnerability! It has changed our lives! Last year for Christmas all he wanted was his own copy of each of her books! He’s read them all numerous times. I wish I could hug her!!!

[@Mina-ee4ns]

Now this is moving... Thanks for sharing this story with us!

[@peggygibbons479]

I ADORE Brene and Engineers have a different way of thinking, that's just facts. My niece is married to an engineer. That's why some people can be astrophysicists & other people, like me, say Don't tell me, it's too overwhelming & my brain cannot comprehend all that! God BLESS your husband for opening a new area of his brain and God BLESS you for your work in social services!

[@bobrodgersperformance]

that is absolutely fabulous.

[@coltonnewkirk326]

Wut. Brené has a Netflix special?!!? I'm about to cancel my plans and watch it!

[@shelleykerr8411]

You have made me want to buy Brené's books now! She is brilliant x

[@nobuhled]

1. The ability to rumble with vulnerability. Don’t tap out when things get hard, including giving or receiving feedback 2. Learn how to live into our values through behaviors. 3. Build trust 4. Know how to reset and get back up when you fail

[@nalachincuanco]

Thanks for this! I was just typing this exact comment HAHAH

[@mirandahatescats8513]

omg thanks for the homework answers

[@mars1783]

Thank you so much... I jotted those down too.

[@rachelnelson8707]

Doing gods work here

[@alexbegs.]

Brene Brown changed my life. God bless her. Thank you, Brene! For always rocking our souls.

[@stephaniecornwell8766]

Me too

[@yankeeladee02]

Brené is a ROCK FREAKING STAR 🌟

[@sherrykamke4156]

Yep!

[@nancyvigeant8985]

Hi options pick ppl

indeed!

[@burntwaffl3s]

Yeah Ik her 😎

[@mars1783]

Yep... love her, she's helped so MANY of us!!!

[@cassisparks9546]

Please have more people like this on your show. We need more of THIS!

[@dianemorris9561]

This woman is a genius.

[@bobrodgersperformance]

yeah, she speaks the truth. now, we all need to listen and then weave those elements of change into our lives 👍

[@nancyowens357]

Brene Brown is one of my all time favorites...she does the research and presents with such authenticity, heart and humor. I’m so glad you had her on Jimmy!!

[@jmm8558]

The series is amazing. She is such a wonderful influence, especially during these days.

[@lilianaamador5405]

Brene Brown is amazing. I am reading her book "Rising Strong" along with 9 friends. She leads us to get in touch with our emotions and get curious about them.

[@Shodanza]

I'm so happy you had her on the show! I love her books❤

[@lindseyhinrichs4446]

I absolutely LOVE Brené Brown! I'm so grateful to get a double dose of her inspiration on a weekly basis now in the Dare to Lead podcast AND Unlocking Us podcast. I feel like I fell out of the lucky tree, hit every branch on the way down, and ended up in a pool of cash and Sour Patch kids.

[@bobrodgersperformance]

that kind of progress is fabulous 👍

[@natalie9884]

Love her. There’s always a Brené Brown group at a mental health treatment facilities . Her words are so powerful 💓.#ThePowerOfVulnerability #ThanksSierraTucson

[@purplehaazebee1649]

Brene' Brown's Braving the Wilderness has been a saving grace for me, especially in these uncertain times.

[@aatt3209]

What a powerful 5.5-minute to spend with Fallon, I shall watch this segment of The Tonight Show every morning as part of my breakfast, thank you so much for bringing Brene Brown on your show.

[@AnneWilkynson]

On top of being brilliant when it comes to the importance of vulnerability, she has amazing taste in music 🎶 🎶 ❤

[@ambertran8678]

My professor has this book as a requirement for reading for leadership and I am so glad to have stumbled upon this course for personal and professional development

[@martynakucinskaite]

It’s so great to see Brené on the show! Thank You!!

[@ahmmustafizurrahman5310]

This woman mentioned Townes Van Zandt as her first song, that's so awesome. The most underrated singer songwriter ever!

[@MrSerpent60]

she is very clear and explicit on being present and what that truly means. engage fully. Brava!

[@taylorbutler2712]

I was just recently recommended to listen to her podcast, so this is a nice introduction for me.

[@exclusivetv4673]

Cover kzbin.info/www/bejne/bn2Vpp6EoJeai6c🙏

[@gimletrose1985]

You won't be disappointed.

[@crapitoutjim]

Those five song picks were just incredible! Love, love, love that she picked Townes.

[@dnwanja]

Dare to lead podcast is gold!! Get the book too...

[@katherinecurley7315]

Dr. Brown's "sad if i couldn't find them when i needed them" songs: 1. If I Needed You. Townes Van Zandt 2. Amazing Grace. Willy Nelson 3. Before the Last Teardrop Falls. Freddy Fender 4. Angel from Montgomery. Bonnie Raitt & John Prine 5. Let it be. Carol Woods & Timothy T. Mitchum

[@littlelana696]

Somehow she packs the most profound powerful principles into one sentence. You have to pause and let it sink in, so good!!!

[@d.f_g]

I'm so grateful for Brené's work and (even as a non-American) I'm so glad there will be an actual leader in the White House again. :)

[@Logiconfire]

Joe is not a leader.

[@manuelapop105]

Brene is one amazing woman. Thank you for everything you do Brene! You are making a huge contribution to the world!! leaders have to be good examples to the rest, otherwise they cannot be leaders.

[@lunaopenyourmind7554]

Love me some Brene Brown, Texas pride 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@danielledarter4998]

I love this lady's work. Life changing.

[@katrinaraysaulis257]

John Prine/Bonnie Raitt Angels from Montgomery is an amazing choice. I have a tattoo of lyrics from that song.

[@ahouseofbees]

I love Brené so much! So glad you have her on your show!

[@graphicallydeb9897]

Love her.. Thank you Jimmy!

[@Ilovethebush]

my 5 songs: The song of people talking The song of the wind through the trees The song of the water in the streams, creeks, babbling brooks The song of my breath the song of my heart beat

[@heathercook4344]

Reading my book right now! It’s awesome and so is Brene!

[@12Happiness34]

She is exceptional! Gotta love this woman 🚀🌸🕊

[@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS]

I've used "everyone is a leader" as a core premise behind human growth and development trainings that I developed and conducted for decades. That people don't seem to understand that everyone has a role to play and influences people around them is beyond me. You can be a positive leader or a negative leader. I don't think a negative leader that gains power is good for anyone's future. So when people try to say that Trump is brave, they've lost me. Brave people don't other people; brave people don't stoop to scapegoating and name calling. He does.

[@artwithmamafairybreadd]

“ don’t tap out of hard conversations “… I wish I knew this years ago….would have changed my life for the better….

[@zenoramahabal5648]

She's an awesome person with priceless advice. Rumble with vulnerability, live into our values, trust and meaningful, meaningful conversations, being able to reset. 👍👍👍👏👏👏😊

[@cheriefrank5402]

💕🙏💕 love her! I was told that my voice sounds like her💕🙏💕

[@ayeshamurali]

Love Brene Brown. She is such an inspiration

[@adolphesax1982]

I just found Brené Brown! What an amazing woman. Thank's for the video, Jimmy!

[@SkyFung]

Love brene! So glad you had her on your show!

[@gintaremaksimovaite2955]

Thank you to dear Brené Brown for the wonderful video.

[@olgajensen3005]

Thank You Jimmy Fallon for having asked Brene about the Songs 🙏🏻🎼👏🏻

[@mars1783]

Thank you so much Dear Brene, you've been such a blessing for so MANY. Your research and beautiful delivery of it has helped people see that being honest is worth it... I'm in a bit of a shame spiral due to my bipolar rants, but I'm also proud that my vulnerabilities have sparked much needed conversations.

[@Deerych]

Love her!

[@angiem.j0217]

I absolutely love her…braving the wilderness great book

[@cate4338]

such a worthwhile listen.... and I decided to test myself - Dog Days Are Over, New Sensation, Sabotage, Fallin', Killing In The Name....

[@stephaniecornwell8766]

That you cover Brene Brown’s work…bravo. She has influenced so much for me! Amazing person!

[@chingbachiller2613]

I am inspired with songs, a part of my life, the reason I write. I can express my thoughts and feelings. Why "haaah"? it sparks my mind and begin to share, a true story and experiences to tell. History repeats itself but never to forget to love and respect. ✌️🙏🏿Thank you so much. God bless. 😘

[@patriciaoffer9585]

They look like the happiest mom and kid ever. (He's too young for you, Dr. Brown...!!!)😍

[@brucewilson1958]

Moving around in space looking for opportunities to uplift others...Leadership. Nurturing human potential. Walking a path of service.

[@steveconn]

If I Needed You, Angel From Montgomery, great songs (I saw Freddy Fender in one of his last performances before he died, Dickerson's Barn, LC, NM lol).

[@MonaMarMag]

Truth , Respect , Honesty and Strenght of spirit ( not the muscle .)

[@waltergodsoe5526]

great interview.

[@christinamariehicks1078]

Ive always been here ..daily watching..

[@frankiewoodgie7104]

For me, a literal lifesaver.

[@Msfruity44]

Yes!!! She’s my shero!!!!

[@patriciagurwitz509]

This woman is absolutely brilliant.

[@mattpeisen7835]

Brené, I love you so much. My celebrity mom.

[@daniellacracknell4157]

The iconic Dick Clark says, "Music is the soundtrack of our lives."

[@Mina-ee4ns]

THE QUEEN. My mentor.

[@Goody_Deids]

Vulnerability. Values. Trust. Resilience.

[@channahsorah]

That was pretty cool. / Right on Point.

[@erinhappy-go-lucky5040]

Here are my go to songs- American Authors- Best Day Of My life Andy Grammer- Grow Des’ree- You Gotta Be Justin Timberlake- Can’t Stop The Feeling Pharrell- Happy Pink- A Million Dreams Andy Grammer- Give Love Andy Grammer- Workin’ On It Meghan Trainor- I Love Me Francesca Battistelli- The Breakup Song

[@valclub479]

Yes, exactly!

[@hannathompson7998]

So she also has great taste in music!!

[@kathleenodonnell2206]

Best person ever (Brene)

[@jamic6351]

Just finding out about this woman, she’s great,. Her bubbling up enthusiasm....it’s like a puppy who wags and smiles and gets all up in it.....all life stops....address this enthusiasm. She has tools, and that’s what we need to hear about. We’ve been through the ringer this time.

[@peggygibbons479]

Jami C look up her interview with Russell Brand. It's AMAZING!!

[@jamic6351]

@@peggygibbons479 I will. Thanks. Just stumbled on her podcast which is excellent too.

[@christinamariehicks1078]

Nice videos of those times ..pictures of everyone of them..

[@giovanny492]

someone knows the name of the song that plays at the end please

[@chinabillchinese9180]

I am from China, to the kind American people that’s reading this. You are blessed and unique, stay happy and healthy during this pandemic ❤️ My dream is to reach 10k, I been struggling to get there

[@mayaram2411]

Damn, Spotify is getting all the good podcasts first. Rogan and now Brene Brown.

[@lynnrich114]

that shirt is on point... love you

[@radicalhonesty3628]

I try to focus on the video. and I fucking can't. all I can do is sob my soul out. people always think I'm much-much older than I am. and it's so-so very-very humiliating. it fills me with overwhelming grief and rage and shame. how will I ever attract a mate, if the opposite sex isn't attracted to me? I literally die inside. part of me dies: from the powerlessness and the shame...

[@iknowjeff749]

In any hierarchy each individual rises to their own level of incompetence and then remains there. - Murphy’s Law.

[@iknowjeff749]

@Teresa Walker Murphy has a bunch of laws

[@crowevil4658]

I’m always shocked there aren’t more comments here.

[@ella17734]

What are the 5 songs you have to have? Mine: Rhiannon, Fleetwood Mac It's gonna be a beautiful night, Prince Whole album, Led Zeppelin 4( yes, I count it as one and it's cheating, 🤷) Killing in the name of, RATM Fairies wear boots, Black Sabbath Your turn...

[@BhushreeThakur]

What are your go to top 5 songs/your playlist? I would love to know music from around the world that I most probably don't know about.

[@TaraRoseAstrologer]

Here are my top 5 favorites that I couldn’t imagine life without: Above the Storm by Stick Figure, Here comes the Sun by the Beatles, Sunshine by Matisyahu, Let the Good Times Roll by Griz, and Chop Suey by System of a Down. Thanks for asking! 😄

[@erikpeterson25]

Yup

[@peggygibbons479]

When Brene's day comes, she's going to the place in Heaven where only the most enlightened people go! People like Ghandi and John Lennon :)

[@joanjettboy]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@tinkerbellmuse3059]

Jimmy looks so much more awkward than usual besides her genuine smile and authentic gaze

[@zyidar4149]

“Can you expand on that...” He has no clue what to say 🤣🤣

[@TurquoiseInk]

I think he was giving her an opening to explain what she does.

[@237keys8]

Anyone know the name of the song for the outro that the Roots play?

[@christinamariehicks1078]

Thier in chicago..bus loads..

[@EmilyBarr64]

Love you

[@alaaalsaadi6871]

Proud to be Coog! Go Goocs

[@DrPatrickKingsep]

Hi - Patrick here from Mind LIfe Flow - Brene Brown has such important information to share with the world! What are your favourites?

[@ayagonen4656]

Love these souls....come to Israel please

[@Dyejob01]

I find TRUST to be the one skill that employers never live up to.

[@mattbrdn]

If you ask the questions 'What's the future of leadership and who's going to be leading in 5 or 10 year's time?' and then accept and publicise the answer 'We need braver leaders' as valid or in anyway 'useful' without trying to redirect your respondents to clarify their response, and make it applicable to the questions you actually asked ...maybe don't start pontificating or obfuscating. Self help, buzzword, unawareness. A Joseph Smith for the modern age. I thought of that whilst in the cheap seats, but dared to type it only once I was in the arena...at least that's the story I am currently telling myself.

[@cigel6952]

🙌BB

[@nTu4Ka]

I don't think there is an issue with vulnerable militaries nowadays. We have Admiral Rachel Levine! Yuppy!

[@christinamariehicks1078]

What are you building in 234 countries..curious..

[@christinamariehicks1078]

Antenna cm 4228 ..

[@phoebemailwane7949]

What is trust? Does trust mean conformity?

[@mohammadishraquezeya7939]

GANG RAPE (INDIA) in chronological order👇 1972 (26mar) en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mathura_rape_case Gadchiroli district MAHARASHTRA 1990 (30may) en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/1990_Bantala_rape_case Bantala WB 1992 en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ajmer_rape_case Ajmer RAJASTHAN 1996 (16jan-26feb) en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suryanelli_rape_case Suryanelli KERALA 1998 (23sep) en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jhabua_nuns_rape_case Jhabua district MP 2002 (28feb) en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naroda_Patiya_massacre Naroda GUJARAT 2002 en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/2002_Gujarat_riots Ahmedabad GUJARAT 2008 (25aug) en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/2008_Kandhamal_nun_gang_rape_case Kandhamal district ODISHA 2012 (16dec) Delhi gang rape and murder en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2012_Delhi_gang_rape_and_murder Munirka DELHI 2013 (7jun) en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2013_Kamduni_gang_rape_and_murder_case Kamduni WB 2013 (22aug) Shakti mills gang rape en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shakti_Mills_gang_rape Mumbai MAHARASHTRA 2014 (21jan) en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2014_Birbhum_gang_rape_case Birbhum WB 2015 (14mar) en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2015_Kandhamal_gang_rape_case Ranaghat WB 2016 (29dec) en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2016_Ariyalur_gang_rape_case Ariyalur TN 2017 (4jun) en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2017_Unnao_rape_case Unnao UP 2018 (10jan) en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kathua_rape_case Rasana J&K 2019 (27nov) en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2019_Hyderabad_gang_rape Shamshabad TELANGANA 2020 (20jan) en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/2020_Patna-Bhabua_Intercity_Express_gang_rape Bhabua road railway station BIHAR 2020 (14sep) en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hathras_gang_rape_and_murder Hathras UP 2020 (29sep) en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Balrampur_gang_rape Balrampur UP

[@sasharemez7459]

Leader have to have intention to serve others. If their intention is to serve themselves that automatically disqualifies them as a leader. Call them anything you want, but not a leader!

[@nolaheart]

President Zelinsky is the example of the leader our world needs.

[@christinamariehicks1078]

Doing chrity runs in oracle cancer research ..my sql..