Brett Cooper REACTS To Online Dating Profiles

[@TheCommentsSection]

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[@juliansilk3927]

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[@LucasRDL.]

Hahahaha Dog Mom

[@barrett2069]

What are these traditions you are trying to protect ¿ just curious

[@LucasRDL.]

@@barrett2069 None in particular, I just thought it was funny when she said she wasn't a dog mother and immediately got an exposure, I laughed a lot at the time.

[@gonzos-twin]

My favorite profile said "there's a pandemic, get off tinder"

[@IgnizAnima]

Being a monogamous, romantic soul in a hookup, poly culture is a special kind of hell.

[@puddleglummarshwiggle4236]

It's more hell to NOT be a monogamous person...just saying

[@coolmatrix15]

@@puddleglummarshwiggle4236 true. One day you'll wake up and realize you've lost your youth chasing the short highs when you could've built a strong foundation with friends who'll be there for you - and marry one if you're lucky

[@blindmonkey4131]

Well said.

[@laurenmarie5]

Right

[@HookerHeels]

Preach...

[@True77]

"People use astrology as an excuse for bad behavior." 100% accurate. THANK YOU.

[@Tyler_W]

Anything astrology is an instant red flag.

[@ashfordj81]

Same for the sarcasm thing. Anyone I have met who introduces themselves as a sarcastic person is just providing verbal prophylactics for the fact they're an ass and a complete drain to be around.

[@racheljane_]

Lol seriously. “iTs bEcAuSe iM a CANCER” 🙃 No you’re just emotionally unstable, won’t try to regulate yourself and take accountability for your behaviour.

[@ilusoriob]

@@ashfordj81 Yeah. People with authentic good sarcasm don't go around saying "look at me, I'm a sarcastic one".

[@samstromberg5593]

And for me I’ll never tell people that I’m sarcastic because if they’re not smart enough to figure it out for themselves or if it hurts their feelings than I don’t care to be around them🤷‍♂️it’s part of my vetting process

[@tmarie6211]

The fact that the editors added in a clip of her saying “she’s my daughter” about her dog… was wonderful 😆

[@elenrie11]

Hahahahhah it was the best !! And that slow motion !! I cracked !! 🤣🤣🤣

[@emilistankschool]

They lost their jobs after that 😂

[@elaynarice7389]

"she likes candy and is conservative" are the perfect personality traits

[@JackTulsen77]

Don't forget she loves fishing too!

[@anastasiya256]

Candy is gross man… sugar is cocaine 🤢

[@leto-nl]

@@anastasiya256 I am perfectly fine with eating candy and then for weeks or even months not. I doubt that be the same if I would try cocaine though lol

[@jimmcneal5292]

Conservative is not much better than liberal

[@The.JuanWhoKnocks]

​@@jimmcneal5292what do you gain from blatantly lying on the internet?

[@Joel-nl5qi]

Not all subreddits are created equal. Relationship and dating subreddits are absolutely trash. The app-specific ones (Tinder, Hinge, etc) do tend to be kinder.

[@Anotherguy1st]

Yeah I agree especially since I got banned from r/dating because I didn't agree with the mods that shooting inside a condom against your partners wishes isn't grape. So yeah they are crap!

[@tomat8]

@@Anotherguy1st What?

[@Anotherguy1st]

@@tomat8 I'll explain in more detail. So a woman created a thread titled "Was I graped?" She proceeded to explain her situation which consisted of adult fun with a male friend. It was consensual which she mentioned at least twice, I believe more than that though if I remember correctly. Well the problem arose when he asked to finish inside his partner, she said she didn't want that. He asked again and she said no again. Well despite this, and despite the fact he was using a condom he decided to finish inside his partner. Keep in mind this was inside the condom, one of the reasons you use them in the first place. Her question to the rest of reddit was if it was grape. She hadn't thought it was but after talking to one of her friends she thought it might be because she told her it was. I responded that it was not in fact grape, she was having consensual intercourse of her own free will and her partner had chosen to disregard her wishes in one particular area. The closest thing that he did that could be considered to grape would be stealthing, but he never removed the condom so it wasn't that either. Well because of this response I was permanently banned from the subreddit r/dating. When I asked them why they claimed I was soapboxing/promoting an agenda. Basically they didn't like what I had to say so they silenced me.

[@landonmoore5077]

69 likes nice

[@ashfordj81]

I can sum up all of the relationship and dating subreddit majority advice: break-up/divorce/cut them out of your life/they're toxic.

[@Agentfirestarter]

I LOVED the “I don’t think I’ve called myself a dog mom” montage lol

[@latenightladybug4505]

Same 😂

[@HateDietPepsi]

A dog not big enough to protect you is useless.

[@cap.barbosa7619]

That edit team has no chill LOL

[@db9944]

@@cap.barbosa7619 Seriously. I wonder if Brett knows about it.

[@simdoughnut659]

I enjoyed the montage too, but I have questions. What is this fad with modern single young women owning scruffy looking dogs who look like they just ate poop and forgot to wipe their chin? I see them, and my first thought is always "I bet that dog smells like wet dog even when it hasn't rained in months".

[@z_xchhh]

As a 20 year old GenZ Christian man, all I genuinely care about is being able to find a woman to settle down with and build a family and I refuse to use dating apps. You think with being this young I would be focused on my career or preforming random high-jinx with friends but somehow I find myself caring more about finding love and expanding my blood line. Which I don’t know why I have that desire. I do have to put God first and Myself second however. In due time my desire will be fulfilled, but if I let it consume me now, I will fall apart and it will never come to pass.

[@danieldancer4065]

Same here bro.

[@jupiterrising887]

Don't put pressure on yourself to meet someone, because you'll end up settling for anyone. Just work on yourself and ask God for a wife, He will send her to you when you are ready. That could be a year from now, or ten years from now, but take it from me the wait is worth it.

[@OlgaSmirnova1]

Based on your words you are getting the wisdom that only comes from the Lord, the only wisdom. Trust Christ that all your needs will be met. What you need will be given to you, that’s a promise.

[@brawndothethirstmutilator9848]

I’m about twice your age lol. At 20, work on yourself and setting up a life that you’re proud to invite someone into. Build your physical health. Build your moral and mental robustness. Build your financial position. Find enriching hobbies. Sounds like you have the right mindset, so if you do that the rest will work out.

[@lrfpv5292]

God will not bring you a woman who is compatible. This is so that you will grow in accordance with His will. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Let God bring a woman to you. Let Him open the door for you to walk through.

[@susannaspence4512]

Met my husband on Tinder, we were each others first match and didn't even go out with anyone else, really fortunate it went that way for us.

[@josuedavid3786]

1 in a million chance

[@MyAmazingUsername]

That is so sweet. Congratulations. :)

[@chrisbaxter]

Congratulations to you both, but statically online dating doesn't work for 99% of people in finding meaningful relationships. There more single people than ever, 50% of woman over 40 are childless and single, one on three men are either virgin's or haven't had sex in the last year.

[@susannaspence4512]

@@josuedavid3786 I know! So blessed honestly.

[@susannaspence4512]

@@chrisbaxter This is so sad. :(

[@woodworkingandepoxy643]

I had a woman I matched with that I messaged and she read I am a conservative and very politely replied with there's no point in wasting any of our time because our views on things were too different and I very much appreciated that. Nothing worse than someone claiming they can look past it just to get in the relationship and a year later fighting with you on everything

[@sterling557]

I didn't used to follow politics that closely because I had a job, and other interests. And I wouldn't have cared that much about a lady's political views. I would date them if they were pleasant. Until about 4 years ago. Liberals are absolutely insane now. No F'ing way.

[@chrislong8559]

Makes no sense overall. If she read your profile or bio then why even match with you in the first place? If she knew it from the get go why swipe? So obviously someone was swiping for attention and validation.

[@joshraphael9511]

I met my wife on a dating app (bumble) I think it's important to pick a dating app that represents what you're looking for, maybe don't use Tinder if you're looking for a serious relationship. The year I met my wife I went into the dating scene with the attitude of "it's ok if it doesn't work out, if I get rejected, or if I'm not into her, it's just a date, move on and try again, don't get discouraged." With that mindset, I had about 10 first dates that year (some good, some horrible), dated 2 girls for a couple months each, and then met my wife in November. For reference, I probably didn't do that much dating in the entire 8 years prior. That's the kind of I don't care attitude you need to have. I also talked about my intentions, and what I was looking for on my first dates. My wife and I talked about kids and our 5/10yr plans on our first date, at the time we were both in our 30's living in our parent's homes, 4yrs later we are married bought a home and have a 1.5yr old hoping to have another child in the next year or 2. Anyway, that's my online dating success story no one asked for lol.

[@joshdaboss2365]

I’m glad you had success

[@oneofwonderland450]

That’s a beautiful success story! Congrats to you and your wife! Thanks for sharing some happy, the online world needs it!😂

[@josephleoned]

Brett's next episode should be about internet safety based on the weirdness we've just witnessed in the world of online dating

[@Taylor-zg2hb]

fr tho

[@Blox117]

my profile: I give out free sausage to girls named brett

[@ceci82]

Definitely agree

[@michaelward5302]

I'm not into online dating but if I ever did try it, I'd like to know that I wasn't noodling. You know, getting catfished.

[@GreyBlackWolf]

My mother and sis had some issues with scammers on dating apps so i had to help them verify people and let me tell you. I eventually had to teach them how to do it because they ran into so many people with red flags that turned out to be scammers

[@mikewilcox9348]

"Don't take group photos." Imagine going on the date, the guy looks disappointed and at the end of the date he pulls out your profile and asks if you can give him the number of the person beside you. 😂

[@SancLunatic]

LOL exactly! Everytime I see a profile and their default pic is a group pic my mind is just hoping that she's the hot one. 😂 While logic might tell me she might still be a good date and still otherwise pretty, my first impression already swiped her away.

[@gonzo1168]

I'd do that 😂

[@DiamondPaintWithDiamondDave]

@@SancLunatic Yeah typically its not the hot one...its the one unattractive one thats in every group of hot girls, and if you try to talk to one of the hot ones they always try to hook you up with the unattractive one...lol

[@rennoc7177]

Honestly that'd just be a brutal wake up call for the girl

[@asssis8565]

alpha male move

[@lukeh1172]

“I’m super easy going” “im a super intense person” Brett make up your mind 😂

[@littlejackalo5326]

You can be intense and easy going. Easy going implies that you don't really mind doing anything and stuff doesn't bother you.

[@Woo_Woo_Woman]

It's a trait of a choleric-phlegmatic personality. I'm the same, very intense and passionate about my values and morals but very easy going in other ways.

[@dryanmurphy5619]

"When the going gets intense... the super person gets easy"

[@ladyfibonaccii]

She is human. She can be both.

[@purple.9919]

Same though

[@BruceJC75]

I honestly can’t imagine having enough time outside of work to actively date. Any hope of me ever having a relationship will be purely by chance.

[@pt7181]

I think a lot of ppl are like that now, so ppl hit at work imo.. also now u change jobs much more than before.. like 4 5 6 years and is normal to change job, so u meet someone at work and change jobs.. or she does, doesnt matter..

[@beansmama8914]

If it's something you want, you have to make the time for it ,. And it's not like a 24/7 thing if you sign up for a dating app and someone msgs you, you can take some time to answer back it's what you make of it

[@dim9753]

I met my bf when visiting my brother one summer. They are good friends. I didn’t want to do long distance but he pursued me for a long time. Finally dating and he’s the one I think. No dating app required

[@royalbridge]

19:58 When the editor has a chance to make fun of their host or the person that gives them a job basically, trust me they will take the chance, we physically cannot let the joke slip by.

[@Good100]

When I tried dating apps, the biggest problem was that people you match with absolutely refuse to hold a conversation, and even the ones who do will randomly drop it. They won't unmatch. They won't explain. They won't tell you they're not right for each other. They'll just stop talking, and then you don't even figure it out until you wait a few days and nothing happens. Women are so scared of confrontation that they don't even respect guys enough to say "I'm not interested, sorry." Of course, then I realize, "if she doesn't care about common conversational politeness, she's probably not worth pursuing anyway.

[@b.calvinsaul1909]

The vast majority of females on dating apps are looking for validation, not dates.

[@theinsurance2450]

It because they are looking for attention. They don't unmatch or say they are not interested because they like the attention you give them. For example they will say they are busy or mis the message which is bs. You tell them mean instead of something nice. They will respond 50% more likely. Meaning they are seeing your messages they just choose not to respond. That why you match a girl. Tell her eww you ugly and unmatched her immediately.

[@eg568]

Men also do it, but different way. They say hi, ask for photo of you right now and if they don't like it, just don't respond.

[@Lavender-Waterfall]

It’s because when we do send a message to kindly tell them we’re not interested, they call us a whore, bitch, tease, or say we lead them on. Or they accuse of us not giving them a chance, not knowing what we want, and of being shallow. And then they tell us we’re going to be alone forever. I am not exaggerating, and this is not a rare occurrence. It’s happened to me and several women I know. A lot of men act nice until they get “rejected.” And a lot of women (myself included) are just afraid to send these courtesy messages. Perhaps I’ll start sending these messages again if there really are men out there who appreciate it. But from what I’ve seen, most men view it as a slap in the face rather than a courtesy.

[@nikkig4847]

I always delete the app after a few days and by that time all the covo is dull

[@lextheap1638]

Hardest thing with datimg profiles and meeting dates in person (besides taking a decent picture) is trying to present yourself as genuine without coming off as too intense. And then pulling pack a little and seeming like you aren't taking it seriously. That delicate balance is hard to find

[@leviathantoobz]

This deserves like 3000 likes. So true

[@bobhope5114]

Fly casual..but not too casual lol

[@AGoldenBoon]

I hate it cause it seems like a power struggle where the person who cares less wins. I’d rather have someone be too into me than too cool for me. Any day of the week.

[@BB-ed4om]

@@AGoldenBoon it’s gross though when someone is too into you. It’s exhausting as well. Then you feel like the person has no life other than you and has no social skills because they’re always depending on you to entertain them, reassure them, pay attention to them, etc. even if you want to go out for a night with buddies they bother the sh*t out of you. Not fun. I’d rather have a genuine girl I see once every two weeks than a cling on.

[@wistaban]

I've been single and working on myself for about 6-7 years. Whenever I'm ready to date again it won't be with dating apps. People are sketchy on those sites most of the time. I want to meet someone out there in the real world,a real person. Maybe I'm too old fashioned. Heck I'm not even on Facebook, tiktok,IG,Twitter etc because profiles don't even represent the person behind them in real life.

[@aaroncromwell]

Brett... a pretty, ambitious, well-spoken, fun, successful, level-headed individual... is low-key giving all the single guys a key to make their profile more appealing to her. Take notes fellas.

[@PandoraStolen]

Yes but it sounds like she's not on those apps so it's not like it matters LOL

[@sarathejesusfreak7]

I met my fiancé on bumble but the secret was to make sure we were aligned with our beliefs and desires for life and then we went straight to talking on the phone that night and he asked me out. Keeping it online for too long is a sign they just want a feel good fix and not to pursue you. That’s what I learned

[@dirtybird311]

I’ve been married almost 21 years, and other than love, one of the reasons I have stayed married, is to avoid online dating. It seems like a nightmare, but it sounds alright for your team.

[@lanamcneill2633]

What's your secret for long term relationship? Both stayed faithful to each other? Never got bored of her? I'm genuinely curious. I'm not trying to be rude.

[@dirtybird311]

@@lanamcneill2633 it hasn’t been easy. We’ve almost shut it down a couple of times. In both of those times, communication was the problem. I had to fix what I could fix. I had to listen to what she was saying, but also communicate my needs effectively. I also read my Bible everyday, and I pray for her…that’s probably the biggest thing. 🙏🏼

[@Kiki-fe2le]

@@dirtybird311 So true! Marriage is impossible without knowing Jesus Christ. We are all naturally too selfish and sinful for the kind of love needed to make marriage work.

[@brawndothethirstmutilator9848]

Jason Kelly, Online dating actually advantages the top 10-20% of men most of all. All the women swiping like mad for the same 10-20% of dudes. I spent some time on dating apps years ago. It completely warped my sense of the value of dating and courtship. When you can line up multiple dates with different women every week with very little effort it really skews your life outlook and morals. I had multiple dates in the same day several times. I’ll never go back to that. Closed all my social media too (except for KZbin), and I hope to find a suitable partner that shares my disdain for social media and dating apps.

[@Mikael-jt1hk]

You stayed married to avoid dating? Im sure your husband feels so very special.

[@MakeItWithCalvin]

I have tried Hinge twice and it is sad when 90% of the profiles are people who are drinking in every, single, photo. Not against a casual drink here and there, but that's a HUGE red flag to me. TLDR, I got rid of it pretty quickly and have no regrets about it. I know quite a few people have met online and that's great, but hookup culture killed it sadly.

[@filmandfirearms]

It seems like different regions have different problems on Hinge. I tried it, and I barely remember anyone drinking in their photos. Instead, the problem I had was that 90% of the girls were, for lack of a better word, whores. I remember one profile in particular, she chose a question along the lines of "what is your life's goal?" She wrote "taking a 9 incher". Now, I only know of 2 things that "9 incher" could mean, and I'm fairly confident she wasn't talking about a WW1 heavy artillery piece

[@p00lboy]

when your tldr is almost in the exact middle of your post🤣💀

[@briannaberlin6851]

I have a rule -- if a gentleman is drinking in more than two photos, or if he's drinking in the first, it's a no. That being said, I appreciate people who put those pictures up because they're being really transparent about their lifestyle and it just isn't a match for me!

[@mattkennedyuspsa]

Too relatable man. I share your pain.

[@MakeItWithCalvin]

@@briannaberlin6851 For sure, and hey for those who are into that stuff that's great. It is just I feel like if you need alcohol to be yourself, that's something I find sketchy.

[@Stirthepotwithscott]

As someone who was homeschooled I appreciated her "Clearly I was an unsocialized home schooler" comment 😂

[@dannyarchila]

I'm a left-leaning, civic egalitarian who is surprised and even so glad by how often I agree with your perspective; politics aside, your show never fails to be the most fascinating and fair program on the Internet. This largely has to do with your very real grasp of the real world and what REALLY needs to happen for anyone interested in returning to the abyss of dating. Not gonna get into details, but I just left a long-term relationship and it's tough but I think jumping back into piranha-infested waters of worry when I don't even know what I want just yet is definitely not the move, given the essence of your point, illustrated at 15:48 - 15:58. Enjoying the single life, watching your show. Thank you so dearly.

[@jimmcneal5292]

What does "civic egalitarian" mean?

[@NovatusRSGaming]

I was in a 12 year relationship (age 15 to 27) she cheated on me and we separated. I had never been single all my life, so I had a hard time trying to find a date afterwards. I used Hinge and Tinder (tinder was awful) and I had no matches for 7 days, then on the 8th day I got 10 matches lol. I found one I really liked and we’ve been together for 6 months now. But she said she’s been trying to find someone online for about 2 years now, so I am very fortunate I have only used the app for a week.

[@shovitjha5679]

The best part is where the editor pulls up a clip of her calling rocky her daughter🤣🤣🤣

[@melissabrown3976]

I met my husband on Bumble 2 years ago & I completely agree with being upfront about what matters to you. We are both Christian conservatives & put that out there from the start. I thought it helped me weed through men that I'd have nothing in common with. We were blessed to find each other quickly & get off the app.

[@AlanTuringWannabe]

Her editor calling her out like that is hilarious

[@461weavile]

How long do you think it took to dig that clip out?

[@prussen9889]

It really was 😂

[@xavnyseth6313]

I noticed that lol

[@rosemeteor54]

I've found that reddit is one of the more supportive and nice social media thingies. I quite enjoy going on there because I don't have to see people I know enjoying themselves without me but still have nice people to talk to

[@nicolelam4701]

I met my boyfriend on Hinge by putting "My most controversial opinion is that abortion is wrong and we should ban porn." I had almost no matches but I just needed one lol

[@agentorange3774]

Asking for dating advice on Reddit is literally the worst thing you could possibly do to try and improve your love life 😂

[@puffdaddy69]

Unless you want a furry partner

[@frogskinshoelace]

I used to ask for dating advice in Reddit. Led me to a series of terrible decisions and dates. As soon as I deleted my Reddit account I found an amazing partner.

[@Woodsaras]

Um, whats wrong with reddit

[@regulator18E]

@@Woodsaras what's not wrong with it? Safe haven of the alphabet crew, incels, conspiracy theorists, progressive pushers and everything else wrong with society. YT comments, a swamp in itself, is light years ahead of it

[@frogskinshoelace]

@Mister N Perfectly said.

[@srt5musik]

"Be staunch in your values" so simple yet so many people put on a front initially to be more likeable.

[@leeeeeeutz]

I actually met my husband on tinder in 2016 and I have friends who use dating apps now and I am absolutely BAFFLED by how different it is from when I was on it to what it is now. I am very grateful that I lucked out as well as I did because I truthfully don't think I would survive the modern dating world.

[@thesprinklerguy2598]

I was completely expecting something different. I tried online dating on at least 4 different sites, your staff member that said "don't be a guy" is a understatement.

[@julias.3835]

As a Peruvian, the Machu Picchu thing made my heart smile. ❤

[@lincolnfrey7754]

As a 31 year old never married man who lives out in the middle of nowhere I find online dating incredibly difficult because it seems like you have to have some sort of pick up line. .. also Brett keeps saying that guys struggle to get one like a day.. more like one match a year 😂😂

[@digiwhale]

I just commented about this. so true!

[@wholesome122]

Just greet the person and make a comment about a hobby they listed or took a picture of that seems interesting to you. It’s not so much having a pick up line as much as it is small talk at first.

[@Morgyborgyblob]

The previous time I tried, I got zero matches in the month I was on. Six months later, I've been on for about 4 days, and had one match...whose profile was deleted due to "potential fraudulent behavior". So it's going well. For the average guy, dating apps are a barren wasteland.

[@WaitWhatsMyName]

I live in the middle of nowhere too, it just says no one is near you lol

[@mazaroth7]

Yeah I am not exaggerating when I say I get about one match out of a 300 or so. And then out of those matched maybe like one out of 20 we will go on a date.

[@olliehughes6774]

Then there are the female profiles I like to call the eighty. It felt like 80% of the profiles I ran across were describing the exact same person. Hiking, adventures, loves to laugh, sarcastic, tacos, (...) It's trying and tiring just to revisit their banality to highlight the observation.

[@Tyler_W]

Don't forget their love of margaritas, desire for a guy with a boat, and their obsession with their astrology signs. Those are important...

[@awsambdaman]

I’m willing to bet a lot of money that the most used word in women’s bios on dating apps is “travel”

[@ashfordj81]

Why bother putting in effort when you can half-ass the assignment and get an "A"?

[@voskresenie-]

@@ashfordj81 Mainly because they don't get an A, they just get the D. If you're looking to hook up as a woman, just do whatever, it doesn't matter. But if you're actually trying to find someone for a longterm relationship, you are turning those people off by putting generic low-effort crap in your profile. These are probably the same women who complain that guys are pigs, but of course the guys they meet are pigs because they only match with guys they find attractive, and attractive guys have options and aren't going to swipe on you if you put in no effort unless they're just trying to hook up.

[@atyomommashouse9881]

"travel" with someone else's money. That's basically for weeding out the men who don't have money or signaling the men who do have money. Most women never even consider how much their lifestyle costs,they see men's wallets like a hermit crab sees shells. For them it's on to the next one,they don't lose anything

[@ItchyNavel]

I matched with a woman on hinge a couple weeks ago. She thought my comment on her prompt was funny and clever. I asked her about one of her other prompts where she essentially said you should leave a comment if you can do laundry and clean the dishes. She said the prompt was a result of a conversation she had with some of her friends, and how if guys wanted to attract "quality women" they would talk about being able to do stuff like the laundry. That same "quality woman" ghosted me after sending 2 messages, and unmatched without a word the next day. I'm starting to think that maybe we had different definitions of the word "quality".

[@mr.s9783]

Oof. Can definitely relate. I had an absolute bombshell of a woman literally ghost me less than 24 hours after we both talked about how much ghosting hurts and she promised to not do it to me. People suck.

[@ItchyNavel]

@@mr.s9783 They really do. This particular woman, in terms of physical attractiveness, was way out of my league, so I wasn't surprised it didn't work out. I get that telling people you aren't interested is hard to do, but ghosting is just way worse for both people involved.

[@mr.s9783]

@@ItchyNavel I 100% agree. To me, it's like meeting a person at a party or something and they just get up in the middle of a conversation, walk out the door, drive away, and then move to France in the morning. I can handle rejection just fine, but I do poorly with people just disappearing in the middle of an apparent connection with zero indication as to what I did wrong. If I even did anything wrong! It destroys my self-esteem.

[@oneofwonderland450]

@@mr.s9783😂😂😂 I just had to say your “move to France” portion of this comment had me dying! If you’re this funny in person I’m sure you’ll find your match soon! Best of luck to you!

[@Liz-in8lu]

This was a hilarious convo between you all. Thank you for the laughs! The “move to France” got me too. I’m a female and men ghost me - just disappear or a month later they respond…

[@brendonlay8722]

I love how Brett learned what a pick me girl was and has used it ever since. It’s a nice little character development arc.

[@Mareezyweezy]

😂 Dog mom moment was hilarious

[@Jp-fe2jj]

I always tell my daughter that the key to all of this is to first get yourself to the point in life where you know what makes you happy and then you can decide who you want to share that happiness with.. if you do the opposite and rely upon someone else to be the thing that makes you happy you will be disappointed every time

[@oneofwonderland450]

That is fantastic advice! You have a very lucky daughter

[@The_AndroidSentByCyberlife]

17:18 I felt dead sorry for Brett here. Idk why, maybe it was the way she said it. Honestly Brett, you're not a pick me girl. None of us think you are. You're absolutely awesome mate

[@TheArchetypeGamer]

She said she's not a pick me girl, she knows her worth and what she wants in a partner.

[@Woodsaras]

"pick me girl"? Thats such a fckng american thing. Whats wrong with wanting a fckng partner? Lol.

[@skillbopster]

The whole 'pick me' thing is just manly feminists trying to shame women.

[@ethankillion786]

Was seeing a girl who had "I'm a dog person" on their dating profile. I found it strange that she never introduced me to her dog though so I thought it might have died and never brought it up. Around our 6 month anniversary she asked if we could spice things up. I said sure. I was on the bed waiting and she came in on all fours wearing a wolf fursuit and a leash in her mouth. I wonder what she is up to sometimes. 🤣

[@rezonance4937]

Well, she was in fact, a dog person

[@hush7359]

Did you hit that still ? Or you dipped?

[@ethankillion786]

@@hush7359 yes I hit

[@brawndothethirstmutilator9848]

LOOOL! 😂 😂 Honestly I was making the cringe face because I thought you were about to take that story in a much worse direction, but that is still wild 😆

[@Malvear1825]

WHAT

[@globalrider9700]

I literally just got done trying to talk to a gal. Just a friendly hey. She looked like she couldn’t get away fast enough. I work in a hospital doing medical things. When I leave the hospital I pass the oncoming shift. They typically try very hard to make sure they don’t look my way. Like a tense look forward. If they ever actually look my way I say hey and I hope you have a wonderful day. Granted I look rough. I’ve been through quite a bit in my life but I make that my reason to be extra kind to people

[@KFrost-fx7dt]

Clean yourself up. You're obviously scaring them.

[@globalrider9700]

@@KFrost-fx7dt by looking rough. I mean in the eyes. Old souls have hard eyes and it’s not exactly something you can just shake off. Other than that I’m clean shaven with groomed hair. Unfortunately at the hospital I have to wear a scrub cap so it leaves my hair awry. All to say, how someone looks doesn’t define what’s in their soul.

[@KFrost-fx7dt]

@@globalrider9700 looks are the first thing people see so if you want positive results, you have to present a positive image. I promise you saggy eyes or whatever isn't the problem.

[@ellieb4004]

@@KFrost-fx7dt you do realize he said he works in the hospital? It's not 'saggy eyes', it's the fact that people work in the hospital lost people and that can scar. Yeah, appearance is the first thing that is seen, but the people he's surrounded by know why he looks how he does, by experience.

[@ellieb4004]

@@globalrider9700 hope this was accurate

[@yoavmor9002]

Brett: I don't have any photos of myself alone Video: 24 photos of only Brett per second

[@legendreoli]

True dat

[@jacobrichardson611]

"The fish is smaller" Wise words brett

[@greeneggsandhamsamiam6154]

I'm surprised no one mentioned the profiles saying things like "all men are trash. Change my mind"... that's something I've seen a fair amount of and it's a pretty baffling way to advertise yourself to men

[@yourfriendlyneighbourhoodvue]

I don’t swipe right on those profiles, it’s repulsive

[@kayla5323]

Oh my god the way I shrieked with laughter at the part about not calling yourself a dog mom. XD

[@wendyhodges7172]

I am newly single at 53 years old and cannot even fathom the thought of online dating. I just left a 12 year relationship (my second relationship after a 20 year marriage ended) and I don't even want to think about dating again. I tried online dating after my divorce and it was a shit show, so I most definitely will not be trying it again.

[@clion4155]

Oh man I feel terrible for you, it really sounds like you’ve been through a lot in your love life

[@wendyhodges7172]

@@clion4155 oh I have...it has been a Rollercoaster ride for sure!!

[@sjguy1962]

Sixty here and I agree I am content with my life (mostly, always room for improvement) I enjoy just being with people but if someone came along and I wanted more in a relationship I would explore with no regrets for its outcome and I have some great woman friends as a result. Since I stopped hunting (read hunting as trying too hard) for that next relationship my relationships with people have been genuinely been better.

[@wendyhodges7172]

@@sjguy1962 I think when you genuinely stop "looking" is when you tend to find people that you may stand a chance at forming a relationship with. I myself tend to be more with people when I don't feel the need to try as hard to impress them, if that makes sense. I'm at a point in my life where I would just like someone that I can spend time talking to about things that are important to me, things that I love. Of course we would have to have some of those things in common or how boring would that be? 😄

[@jacywilson]

Mask photos are actually kind of useful to know who you should avoid... Lol.

[@db9944]

This.

[@quantumleap1491]

This right here, It paints a thousand words, like I know who you voted for and that I shouldn’t talk to you, so I encourage the mask photos so we know who to stay clear of.

[@tonyak2446]

Same if they got the jab

[@heskettconway]

The "casually looking" line meant that he is just getting back in the market (just divorced) and is hesitant about dating again so he is more or less window shopping, but his ultimate goal is marriage.

[@awesome9174]

WTF

[@platypups]

Agree, I didn't see a problem with this. I don't think he's playing, I don't think he's stringing anyone along, I think he's just feeling tentative and there's nothing wrong with that in his position of being recently divorced. He's probably feeling pretty overwhelmed!

[@b-0220]

Yeah, well, that’s how it is. Women look to disqualify you in any arbitrary way. Here, a guy whose ultimate goal is long term, but considers the climate and would enjoy short-term companionship anyways, “ugh! You animal! You’re just a sad loser who will take anything! Gross! Loser!”

[@Wickedtingzz]

@@platypups sometimes being honest isnt what people expect or want to hear

[@461weavile]

"Casually looking" is just a bad way to say that. The idea is to not make people read between the lines. If your interpretation is right, the person should've put that.

[@RatsoMan20]

I as a guy will always read profiles if a girl catches my eye and won't swipe if they have any pronoun or poly and won't waist my time on overly liberal or girls that say they are hard to handle/mental problems

[@raftguy]

Brett, you are hilarious. I just discovered your channel. What a breath of fresh air. You really look like you're enjoying yourself, which is awesome to see.

[@weightupmountainguy]

*this is positive* I love that this shows just how much girls overthink literally everything, and how fast their thoughts derail if they don’t have enough context. This is actually very helpful. Thank you Brett

[@Lunarwingluna]

Reddit actually has a lot more diversity than people might think, and I'm glad to see guys out there helping each other out with these dating apps because it's pure chaos, and like the last poster said, you're at a disadvantage

[@jackr2287]

The main/front pages are dominated by the lefties, but if you drop into the controversial rankings of comments, you'll find the dissidents. Sometimes someone puts up a big fight, but most often it's just single comments having a war of votes not quite breaking even.

[@Generallyannoyed2024]

Reddit is amazing with helpful people that generally are open to different opinions. Well, as long as you stay away from the r/politics

[@betsyclark2502]

Online dating is like digging in a tar pit and hoping you'll find something good in there.

[@Endoptic]

As opposed to going swimming in community outhouses...

[@olliehughes6774]

I'd told my friends it felt like trying to pick the least moldy piece of bread whilst dumpster diving in a sketchy part of town.

[@WaitWhatsMyName]

Tar pit filled with herpes and AIDS

[@jonathandevereaux298]

Like dinosaurs..... which are awesome

[@kenyanicholas6809]

@@jonathandevereaux298 exactly

[@scottw1732]

The things WAY too many women post in their profiles that just irritate me: "I love to live life," "I like wild nights out and quiet nights in," "I want a guy who will make me laugh," "I love the outdoors," (and a photo of themselves boozing it up with a bunch of their hot friends.

[@jessa1895]

@14:31 “please touch me I don’t care” -Brett cooper 2022 😂

[@OlgaSmirnova1]

I met my husband on “Plenty of Fish” many years ago ugh I would hate to go through online dating again, I don’t think I would do it, by the Grace of God I found a caring, decent man, who shares my ideology.

[@olliehughes6774]

PoF mighta been decent several years ago, but I'd taken to calling it plenty of fails/flakes/fakes due to my experiences with it 2017-20.

[@teliumstone7410]

3:19 When a guy is casually looking it means he’s going into a relationship expecting it not to work out so rather than put time and effort into it he just lets it happen as it will, then he’ll decide if it’s something he wants to continue long term. You’ll see this “casual dating” usually after a break up or if the guy has been through a couple of close relationships. It just means his guards up.

[@joescott5322]

Or he’s not looking to look desperate

[@Salamistallion]

Why explain this to a woman like she cares?😂

[@Ntmoffi]

Internet dating apps suck. Even had trouble on Christian sites with bots and catfishing. Would rather find someone in person.

[@Blox117]

would agree if that were possible. in person ♀have the conversation skills of a rock

[@victor382]

Hahaha, loved how the edit team outed her as a fervent mom dog. Hahaha. I’ll never understand why you’ll call your pet your child, it’s beyond me.

[@weeyum99]

MOM DOG

[@idorus]

well because you love the dog and it can't survive without you. you take care of all its needs like feeding and etc. we obviously know its not the same as an actual child.

[@DiamondPaintWithDiamondDave]

I classify myself as a cat dad...My kids are grown and have kids of their own...the only comanionship I have 90% of the time are my 2 cats, which I classify as toddlers that will never grow up...

[@alexanderingham4650]

My dog is my baby

[@glenncook]

Here's a piece of advice I've noted after my divorce and several years of dating before I met the right woman. If you ever read my children are my world I assure you they are not her world

[@coravidae]

I downloaded tinder this year, the amount of couples looking for a third is wild 😩

[@hush7359]

If it's a lesbian couple then shit I'm down

[@livingter5079]

@@hush7359 are you a lesbian yourself?

[@coravidae]

​@@hush7359 Its almost always a guy and girl. And usually its the dude who wants a second girl :') Mans is building a harem or something, idk

[@brawndothethirstmutilator9848]

“Ethically Non Monogamous” is apparently a plague on dating apps. I haven’t been on one in years, but a female client of mine was just complaining to me recently that she could barely find a guy that didn’t have “ENM” in their profile. She had to explain to me what that meant.

[@hush7359]

@@livingter5079 i am a lesbian male yes.

[@BreaPotts]

I only have the female perspective when it comes to online dating, but it is 100% easier than in person these days....for the girl. It is so, so difficult to find guys who will make the first move. I have had to be the forward one (I am a timid person it is not in my personality to do this), and I have friends who have as well. The guys that were gutsy enough to ask me in person were generally the very controlling type and one guy I went out with a few times tried to convince me to go vegan and change my religious beliefs...but when I tried online dating I was INUNDATED with matches. Like literally to the point where it was overwhelming. Of course I met some bad apples through online dating too, but I also met my husband, who is a down to earth, fun and silly guy who basically never got any matches. I understand why men have a hard time approaching women with the way things are today, it's hard to tell what you are going to get. But I promise, there are still nice, normal people out there. I know you can do better than the philosophical soyboy I briefly dated..

[@ninjagamer1359]

This is encouraging. Not sure how well it would still apply in an extremely blue state, like where I live, though…

[@lmul1441]

that is one of my main concerns, with how things are nowadays it's unnerving to ask in person because you don't if it would be a simple no or a big drama scene.

[@rodiusmaximus]

@@lmul1441 that's probably the only advantage to online dating. You won't get fired, punched, slapped or taken to court for trying to ask someone out.

[@lmul1441]

@@rodiusmaximus 😆

[@jackr2287]

Given the matches I find are well over a hundred miles away in most cases, I'll try and work on being less timid. Now if I can just work on my eyesight to pick out single vs claimed....

[@DoginSuit]

The sassiness of Brett is impeccable

[@adrianaamado473]

The “Samantha” and “I didn’t read this before” got me laughing 😂

[@SabiKatz]

6:23 ''LIVE LAUGH LOVE HEHE HAHA GIGGLE GIGGLE FUNNY I LIKE TO HAVE A GOOD TIME'' GOD HELPPP MEEEEE LMAOOOOO

[@meganreese1486]

I'm incredibly blessed and lucky to have found my husband at church. And your comment about needing to figure out what you want and what you can take on before bringing someone else into it rings soooooo true! When we met, I was actively dealing with some serious depression and I told him. I told him, "I'm not ready right now, *but that's not a no!* I see potential for something serious here, so I want to figure out what is going on and what I need, because if *I* don't know what I need, how can you possibly know what I need." And here we are 7 years later with a 1 year old son.💜

[@sol-hunter2332]

There is an interesting behavior people tend to exhibit where increased options, decreasing decision making, and increasing buyer remorse (where you wonder id you made a mistake and should've chosen the other product.). I definitely believe that dating apps is causing this to happen in the dating market. The more options a woman has, not just the more picky she becomes, but the more she might struggle to commit or wonder if another guy would be better. Not judgements for feeling that way, as it is a common behavior, but one to be monitored and worked on if you experience it. Can happen for men as well, but probably not the same degree.

[@haraldtopfer5732]

Well they are like other social media apps. They took basic human behaviour and shifted it in overdrive.

[@btb554]

75.8% of Tinder users are male. 24.2% of Tinder users are female. Most Hinge users are men, 64% and 36% female Do you think that's the reason for a lot of men in these dating apps not getting a match, the shortage of women in dating apps compared to men?

[@aylal5240]

I did it the old fashioned way: marchmaking! Dated one guy, married him, waited for intimacy for after marriage (as did he) and 5 yrs and 3 kids down the line!

[@smeissner328]

100% agree with being honest about your values, even if they're not popular. Shared values are the bedrock of strong relationships. Compromising or hiding your values in your profile is only going to get you dates that end in disappointment, with both of you realizing that you have fundamental disagreements. Waste of everyone's time, including your own. Also agree with your producer on "I like going on adventures," lol. It means "I want you to plan fun things and take me places (and I probably don't want to pay for any of it)." Hiking is overemphasized on dating apps because everyone wants to seem outdoorsy and in shape. If you say you like cycling or tennis or something, you have to actually have a bike or know how to play tennis. "I like hiking" is an easy way for many people to pretend they exercise without needing to invest in equipment or have coordinated skill. No offense to people who truly do love hiking; I know you can invest in it and there is a level of skill you achieve...but lots of people don't do or have any of that, and just want to make potential matches think that they get out of the house on a regular basis.

[@smeissner328]

Also there's a big difference between loving dogs and being a "dog mom." Dog moms are the women who love dogs because they're easier than kids. Women who are too immature and selfish to make the sacrifices that children require, so they've latched onto dogs because they provide companionship in exchange for 1/10th of the effort and commitment. Loving dogs = great. "My fur baby is better than your skin baby" = puke. And yes, I have actually seen people say things like that. "Child free" forums are horrible places.

[@Fun_Sized_Gigi]

I treated dating like a job interview. I joked that I wanted to see a resume, references and credit score but you can’t. My now husband gave me a resume and had three friends ready to talk to me as references when we started dating. I knew I had a good thing when he got my humor 😂

[@Isaac-hm5ef]

Really enjoy these "off the clock" videos. Nice to just see Brett let loose.

[@CHolmes]

"Reddit" and "increased hope in humanity" are two phrases I never expected to hear in the same sentence.

[@lordoflizardsp]

the more videos of Brett I watch, the more I like Brett.

[@ekulanders]

NO FILTERS!!! You are who you are I do not want to show up and run once I see you.

[@stevenatkins5206]

I actually appreciate that kept coming to the"These Reddit Comments are way better than I expected " loop,It made me laugh continuously and also gave me more hope for humanity.

[@davidbigd9047]

I stopped using dating apps because, even though I was extremely honest with who I am and what kind of relationship I’m looking for, I never was able to actually go out on a date with a woman since they dropped the conversation after a few days to 1 week. I’d rather meet people in person.

[@yuqis.9027]

I just learned you’re 20??? I thought you were 26 at least. I’m 28 and I learn so much from you. I’m impressed 💕💕

[@d.d.8208]

Wait what I totally thought she was older then me but she’s a year younger 😦. Ngl tho I think Brett would be such a fun friend.

[@victorcates9330]

I drove someone to a party as they spent 30 minutes photoshopping their dating profile picks on a phone. I can't imagine you can do a particularly sophisticated job on a phone and it just seems like an act of self-hatred.

[@housewife8832]

LOL my now husband started off by saying he was looking to casually date and I replied to him that I was flattered he was interested and commented about his profile but that I wasn't looking to casually date. That my hope was to find a long term (hopefully forever relationship). He messaged me back almost immediately and said that he was very recently divorced and he wants to find a long term relationship but thought that it might be to soon to put that because it might put some women off knowing he basically just got out of a relationship. I gave him a chance and honestly we were almost immediately inseparable and either of us could be any happier. =)

[@carlboike8585]

The problem with male dating profiles is most of us dudes have very few decent photos of ourselves so subject matter tends to be repetitive; fishing, hunting ect.

[@sfurtado3]

Absolutely love you and your content. Hurts that you had such a bad view of Reddit. I guess it could have some crazy shit but there is really such good content and amazing people on Reddit. It's so diverse.

[@mehtacotute]

Casual dating and wanting something potentially serious is basically what every profile says.

[@Dr.Mister98]

I love that she said i don’t call myself a dog mom… instant flashback cut to her calling her dog her daughter. 😂

[@mbrsart]

I think you hit the nail on the head with the "Looking for long term but open to short." He wants a long term relationship, but he's so desperately lonely that he's willing to do short term relationships, even if he doesn't achieve anything with them. It might be a smart thing to do short term relationships if you're looking to use them to meet more people who might be interested in long term, but it does come across as desperate.

[@Igeltod]

rule on dating apps is - as a woman you dont have to do anything, you can literally put a picture of your fridge on there and still get matches. most dont have a bio or any tags cause one down angle cleavage picture is enough to get showered with likes and messages. actually the more she gives away in her bio the less you want to hook up, since often times they just use their bio to rant. as a man... totally different game. you need every trick in the book in addition to look at least somewhat attractive to stand out among all these competitors - its exhausting. Tinder is damaging to everyone on there, enough experiments have been done to show the reality of it...

[@dakkarnemo1094]

As a fisherman, you should be able to post pictures of your best catches.

[@paulaelli]

The best guide to avoiding SA Harassment 1. Be Attractive. 2. Dont' be unattractive.

[@wanupgirl]

I met my husband on a dating app. we've been together for 9 years now married for 7 and have a young one.

[@MA-yc7pz]

You are one in a million

[@gonzo1168]

The astrology comment -- pure gold. One of my favorite memes was one my buddy sent me where someone was offering another person an astrology chart and the second person responds with, "None for me, thanks. I take full responsibility for my shitty behavior." 😂

[@ZacPricener]

"I like going on adventures" translates to "I get bored easily and you need to keep me entertained."

[@artawhirler]

If somebody tells you straight up that they will always love their dog more than they will ever love you......believe them.

[@tyranus159]

I genuinely like Brett. She seems like an amazing woman off camera, and would like to get to know her. Dating apps are the worst though.

[@nkfd4688]

Online dating is a minefield. Tread carefully 😥

[@ninjagamer1359]

Is it any more of a mine field than real-life dating? 😬

[@turbot8er672]

A minefield would be more exciting

[@olliehughes6774]

As a one-legged veteran who became so due to hopscotch mishap in an actual minefield, I'll agree with the comparison to online dating, even if I feel a little called out.

[@LuisGarcia-ps3mx]

I just love listening to Bret, she is so smart, I am in love with her. I hope she gets far with her goals

[@xamidi]

4:28 That's actually false. How can you even believe that when reality contradicts it so badly?

[@jasonmckinney8955]

I love your content to hell and back, Brett, but especially love the mention of Broadway in Nashville remark. With that said about my hometown, watching this vid made me even more grateful that I've been with my wife for the past 24 years.