Bride Loses Her Best Friend Over a Strapless Dress! | Say Yes To The Dress Bridesmaids

[@zeecaptain42]

Give the woman a piece of fabric that matches and drape it over her shoulders? Respect others boundaries and needs.

[@Bribreezzzyy]

Your Quirk exactly

[@midnightmave]

My thoughts exactly! I was basically screaming “shawl” by the end.

[@aplicqu8761]

Another great solution. The largest bridesmaid needed a shawl. Her arms looked bad in all the dresses. Getting a dress that flatters and is comfortable for everyone is the goal.

[@zeecaptain42]

@@aplicqu8761 i don't even think she looked bad. But she herself wasn't feeling it, so that don't matter anyway

[@zeecaptain42]

Even making her show herself on camera was just mean and unnecessary. Making her show more than she is comfortable with on world wide tv? Screw her friends!

[@grayson5000]

I’m not religious at all, but I believe you should respect people’s boundaries especially in relation to their bodies

[@pog.fr0g637]

Exactly. Your body, your rules.

[@pandasushi9126]

Then she aint gotta be in the wedding. At the end of the day its the brides wedding. If she got an issue with showing she aint gotta be in it

[@rockstarskyzoomer5575]

I respect that but you don’t want to be the one to ruin your friends wedding because I don’t like a dress

[@aliciatrotter8089]

Then she should have politely declined the invitation to be in her best friend's wedding. The bride has a right to choose the dresses she wants for her wedding.

[@purpl3qu33n6]

Yes I do believe that however the dress is on for a few hours. She was willing to sacrifice her place in the wedding for a dress, that my friend is not religion that is attention seeking.

[@wildcatste]

Shawanda was willing to be a hostess. she was willing to take the less visible /less glamorous role and still help out the bride. this wasn't about a power struggle but about the bride having no respect for her best friend's boundaries or religious convictions.

[@clairey6407]

Absolutely. If it was about a power struggle then she would have found it demeaning to be a host and refused to do so.

[@peacheskong2245]

Ohh yess! Didn't even think of that.

[@nilnil7325]

And if they are best friends the bride already knows how religious and conservative her friend is. The bride is the one who was on a power trip, she wanted to flex her muscle and make the friend do something that made her uncomfortable.

[@heba4434]

AMEN!

[@sarahmcvay6689]

Christianity is not popular, but a believer is willing to sacrifice people in honor of the Lord. Sorry, not sorry. My eternal soul matters MORE than your wedding

[@Phoenix77-ml5bm]

I literally HATE how they made Shwanda look like the villain! Being someone who hates showing skin, being more comfortable in clothes that cover my body, and being religious myself, I am completely on Shwanda's side. Like my sister wants to get married soon, and there's no doubt she'll ask me to go along with her to choose dresses, and I've told her/my mother/my entire family so many damn times that I hate wearing strapless dresses because of how anxious I am about my body, that if she still went along with the whole strapless idea then I would without a doubt stand up to her about my comfort! And if she acts like how this bride did with Shwanda, I'll be so bloody heartbroken because I love my older sister and my comfort/happiness in what I wear should come first in her books. Even if it's the same colour that's fine, but I NEED to cover my body because I'm so self conscious that everybody would judge me/say that my body is ugly! It legit pains me to tears to watch this clip, but I can't help but come back to it every so often because of how much I relate Shwanda.

[@maryclaremayo6157]

Seriously though, the last dress she tried on had a tiny little strap around her neck, and Shawanda was okay with that. What's the difference, really? She freaked out about taking out that TINY little strap. The same amount of skin was showing.

[@beckyedwards5771]

It shouldn’t matter what you want it all about the bride

[@epNian]

​@@maryclaremayo6157the straps gave her a tiny amount of confidence that the dress will not fall off accidentally flashing everyone.

[@lunarbunny3021]

@@beckyedwards5771sorry, but someone’s religious beliefs are more important than a dress.. even if it’s for a wedding The bride was being a b-word

[@feurigerStern]

💯 I would respect anyone's religious convictions or concerns about modesty

[@litatjie]

Can I just say, I'm so impressed with how understanding the comment section was with Shawanda. I wasn't expecting that.

[@TEdwards3161]

Shawanda was clear from the beginning about her beliefs, the bride just ignored that and demanded her way. I wonder , did Shawanda go as a hostess?

[@nickysoicky]

back in 2019 when this was uploaded everyone was against shawanda, im glad they switched up

[@Kachow_3]

@@nickysoicky can u send the link to the other video

[@adriannafearon1235]

i agree with everyone about shawanda also to it look like the dress doesn’t support her bust really well. you need to get a dress that can help suit everyone not just what you want

[@Jade-in9xn]

@@adriannafearon1235 yeah plus keeping the straps on just for her would also be okay I mean it’s a little different from others but it’s not like it’s a different dress at all😅

[@jessicalee989]

“If strapless is more important than friendship then what is it worth” so why can’t you let her have two little straps?

[@SalemElaine]

Jessica-Lee Pearson because it’s not shawanda’s wedding.

[@anxngel618]

Raven LaShelle but if she’s her “best friend” she should allow her to wear 2 little straps. it VERY obvious she doesn’t want to betray her beliefs. so what’s the problem?

[@flirty413]

So true!!!! If she was really her best friend she would respect her religion and boundaries!

[@mistid1485]

@@SalemElaine ...but some very religious people believe showing too much is a sin and it goes against God. And going against God means you are going to hell (according to them). And nobody will risk eternal damnation for a dress... I'm not religious but people ought to put that into consideration.

[@jericawilson1484]

@@mistid1485 That's not fully the mentality of it, but you're on the right track. We aren't afraid of angering God and going to hell. The whole point of Jesus is that we aren't held accountable for when we do go against God. If anyone is only a Christian because of fear, I'm afraid they've missed out on the point. It's like, "I am in love with God and I will not compromise my relationship with Him over anything". If a spouse has certain reasonable wishes their partner will, out of love, go out of their way to respect them. It's more like that.

[@insightpetadoptions]

Im an atheist.. and i hurt when they took hurt straps down.. that little piece of fabic msde her feel more comfortable.. respect.

[@celestialvenus6711]

@@nobody-xh6ii But why should she be forced to wear something she DOESN'T WANT TO?

[@sromero6738]

@@celestialvenus6711 then she shouldn't have agreed to be a bridesmaid if she knew she wanted strapless. But that dress was beautiful with the straps.

[@adrianaortiz7818]

Lets forget about religion its just fine straps...if she felt more confident why don't just let her?

[@aliciamutasingwa6890]

Bubble Butt wrong. she looked like she liked the dress with the straps, but as soon as they came off, she looks very exposed.

[@sammierivera6063]

Celestial Venus BECAUSE ITS NOT HER WEDDING. She can come as a guest lol

[@Woo435]

I’d rather lose my best friend than have her force me to do something I definitely don’t wanna do.

[@malissakpadeh8951]

EXACTLY THIS!

[@DonyaSaffold]

Exactly. She’s trying to bully her, then starts crying stating “I guess we’re not best friends”. What kind of best friend are you?! Respect her need for modesty. Straps on one person will not upset the entire wedding party.

[@ava8146]

literally NOBODY there was respecting her boundaries including the workers.

[@devinreis5811]

Why not compromise with a halter?

[@elisamcerlean7301]

If they were really best friends the bride would respect her right to have straps

[@momentsformoms9467]

@@devinreis5811 right at least it still didn’t have straps,just a little neck string no ones really going to see.

[@mel924]

Why couldn`t she wear the dress with the straps on & the others with the straps off?

[@maisn-finn904]

True

[@jamietesh7719]

The bride already knew beforehand that she wouldn't wear strapless she even says at the end that she thought her friend would just give in and wear what she wants her too. I like how none has mentioned it when its clearly manipulative behavior on the bride's side

[@aiko-chan3108]

Yep I’m surprise on why the workers couldn’t step in and tell them that they can change the straps or make them look better. It was probably just for the drama

[@GameChanger597]

But Shawanda was being rude and difficult when she refused to wear Tiffany blue. That wasn't right. And she also said at the end she didn't "like" the dress, not "I feel uncomfortable bc my shoulders are showing." I think it was part religion and partly her just being difficult.... and maybe even a little jealous or possibly a little hurt that her friend is moving on and things are changing forever now. You never know- but I do think there was another issue other than simply just religion. There was definitely something else emotional under the surface.

[@prettyhandsomegang5227]

@@GameChanger597 rite becuz the strap wasn’t really changing nothing the bride could let her keep the straps and had the other 2 without but I liked it bett with the trap it look cheap without it

[@kimm6589]

The fact that she thought she'd give in says everything.

[@shon7425]

If that was the case the so-called best friend should have not shown up or participated

[@miriamjohn4078]

That’s like forcing a hijabi girl to take her hijab off “if she’s your best friend” it’s her religious belief you have to respect that! If she’s your maid of honor she can stand out in straps!

[@celestialvenus6711]

Or full sleeved gown ☺ which is what I'd probably wear 🤗 And yes girl, I couldn't agree more!

[@mychrome]

💯 exactly.

[@celestialvenus6711]

@Glamorous Taee Well, once she realizes what kind of a friend you are, she wouldn't want to come anyway...

[@kayceequesadilla]

Except that the hijab is intended to demean, oppress, and shame women, as if we are siren-like temptresses, and cannot keep our legs closed around men other than our husbands. Whereas, a person's individual standard for modesty can be about her own self-respect.

[@eimaanmohammed7132]

Brier-Rose HopeDiamond well actually it is not. A proper muslim home should allow u to wear hijab if u want or dont want to. Some families are just corrupt like in every other religion. There will always have strict families in the world. I happen to wear hijab by choice as a 14 year old. My muslim friend does not. Not trying to be rude or anything just pls dont judge an entire religion just bc there are some bad eggs. Or dont base the fact that some ppl have to wear hijab bc some ppl actually have a choice

[@justkerry173]

I'm not religious but I respect the fact that she decided to be a hostess than give up on her standards. Well done!

[@resurrectionkratos]

Amen.

[@lgw3721]

I agree! There was no need to push a "dear friend" to compromise her deeply held convictions. The Bride knew her standards when she asked her to participate. This Bride put strapless over a friendship. That pretty much says it all. I'm tired of Brides feeling entitled to have their way at the expense of everyone around them.

[@deborahclayton6525]

It's not her wedding...

[@-crackhead_incorporated-8126]

I get that it’s her wedding, but I find it ironic how she says, “If strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth” but doesn’t take into consideration that she doesn’t want to wear a strapless dress because of religion. I just think that she should’ve respected her religious beliefs a bit more

[@ILoveRomances]

I completely agree, however, I think the best friend should have stressed more that it was about religion and not just that she didn't like the dress. Just not liking the dress you should make the sacrifice and wear the dress but when it comes to something like religion, you should absolutely stand your ground and have your beliefs be respected. Every last one of them should be ashamed of themselves for trying to bully her.

[@LittleImpaler]

It goes both ways. It's the braid's wedding. You wear what she wants you to wear for that day. Her friend did the right thing.

[@ILoveRomances]

@@LittleImpaler Religion is off-limits, though. Should a Muslim woman take off her hijab or a Jewish person take off their yamulke because of the aesthetics she wants for her wedding? The woman didn't just find religion. She was a member of her religion and was immodest due to that long before the bride got engaged. You can't expect anyone to temporarily halt their religious principles for your wedding or any other reason. She's well rid of the bride as a so-called friend. Good riddance!

[@LittleImpaler]

@@ILoveRomances It's her friend's wedding. Period. Don't like it, be a guest. This goes both ways. Her friend who is over religious shouldn't have agree to be a bride's maid. Are you telling if it was the other way round, that if it's the religious friend's wedding Her best friend should object to a very modest bridesmaid dress? It goes both ways. It's the friend's wedding you put on what the bride wants. Don't like it, don't go.

[@ILoveRomances]

@@LittleImpaler If it were the other way around, the best friend would be objecting on the grounds of personal preference, not religious objection. There's a reason the U.S. will not send you to war due to religious objections but will if you just don't want to go. Apples and oranges. The bride knew her friend's religious principles and had the audacity to think she should override them for her. That's a total lack of respect for who her friend is and what she believes in. So, if she's pro-life due to religious reasons, she should go with her to the abortion clinic because she's a friend? Miss me with that. No one should ever ask or expect you to betray yourself for them. Like I said, if it were just a matter of fashion preference, suck it up and wear it, but if it's about your core religious beliefs, stand your ground and dare the other person to say something.

[@allison8076]

“I wonder if this is really about religion or a power struggle” It is so obviously about religion. She looked so uncomfortable taking those straps off.

[@lauralizarragaortiz7629]

I think is a little bit of bit. Swanda's attitude is a bit shitty from the start. But you are right. She does look uncomfortable.

[@allison8076]

Mei Long She wasn’t in the greatest mood, yeah, but if my friend had been badgering me about my religion for a while, as is implied with the bride saying she “thought she’d give in by now”, I wouldn’t be looking forward to this day either. But it all could be edited to make both the bride and the brides mate look bad, and the friend maybe did have some second motive to be like this. I don’t know, who really knows what went on and why.

[@eloisagarcia3300]

She was feeling naked and we all felt it...at least I think

[@SecretsofShade]

@@eloisagarcia3300 I agree. She looked so uncomfortable. As the bride said, "letting some straps ruin a friendship", she was just as guilty! If you are good friends with someone, or best friends as implied here, why would you force someone you care about to be so horribly uncomfortable?!

[@marss0754]

She looked violated😢

[@minae.d4540]

The friend didn't decide that "strapless was more important than friendship". The bride did smh.

[@kyleighwhite1409]

Mina E.D exactly

[@yoot5449]

Ikr she threatened her to wear a strapless dress

[@achocolatebiscuit5087]

The bridesmaid bad wtf you talking about?

[@xchrysantha]

"I just thought that she would give in." That really says it all for me. I understand the bride wanting things to be in her vision, and maybe there's a lot of background between their friendship that we don't know about; but trying to grind down someone's boundary about their body is unacceptable.

[@nicocheree9344]

It’s not about the dress being more important than the friendship, it’s about the fact that the bride, her “best friend” can’t respect the choices she makes regarding her body. If it makes her uncomfortable, you shouldn’t be forcing her to do it.

[@wifflebat681]

The thing is that she wasn't forced into the bridal party she was asked knowing full well what the bride wanted especially because they were best friends but on the other had the bride definitely should have had more respect twords the bridal parties opinions especially knowing that her best friend had her beliefs on what to wear

[@nicocheree9344]

@@wifflebat681 she forced her to wear something strapless. That’s her “best friend” and she’d rather choose a dress than have her best friend in her bridal party. All she had to do was allow her friend to keep the straps and all would be good, but no, she would rather have the “perfect bridal party dresses” than the “perfect bridal party” and then she got mad when her friend walked out. She can’t get mad that her friend didn’t want to wear something that went against her beliefs.

[@wifflebat681]

@@nicocheree9344 no I know but what I was saying is that when you're asked to be a part of a bridal party you agree to wear what the bride wants you too, now is the bride wrong for not wanting to make a compromise yes and no, yes because if she was supposed to he the brides best friend the bride would have known about how her friends limits but at the same time it is her wedding, im not here trying to start arguments with anyone but I want people to see that they both could have handled the situation better then they did is all

[@GG-vt1tc]

@@wifflebat681 they could of handled it better but the bride was ultimately trying to force her “friend”. Obviously the friend knew what she wanted but that doesn’t mean that she has to sacrifice her beliefs and being comfortable just because it’s her friends wedding. Compromising on a strap for the dress isn’t a big deal, she isn’t ruining her wedding. She could still have the sweetheart neckline and color and everything else; but she can’t let her friend wear the strap?

[@augustineabram1545]

@@wifflebat681 its hard to handle the situation differently when one person is not willing to listen to the other.

[@singingsuga]

You can see how uncomfortable she was when they removed the straps... I actually felt for her. Looked nicer with the straps anyway!!

[@justinehamilton140]

Elizabeth Jones honestly I felt so bad for her when they did that!! I get having a vision for your wedding but you also have to respect your friends boundaries, this women had a good set of bridesmaids in comparison to other episodes for this show!

[@singingsuga]

@@justinehamilton140 Absolutely!

[@311dreamteam5]

I felt that Because i was in a situation like that before ;-;

[@ladynoir8157]

Straps look so good on her, and it suited the dress pretty well- The bride was extremely selfish and inconsiderate. They are straps, for God's sake!-

[@mu-ei8yd]

ikr i feel bad for her

[@andrealuissaa]

I’m usually of the “whatever the bride says goes” attitude but not when it personal beliefs. Asking someone to compromise their religious beliefs for you isn’t something a real friend would ever ask of you

[@baileydavis1786]

I don’t think it was exactly that when Tammy said the color shawandas face just showed that she hated it. And I don’t think it was a big deal. The straps she had wasn’t really hiding anything

[@uccello297]

@@baileydavis1786 it made her more confident bc she knew she had something over her shoulders

[@lampsenpai4325]

@@uccello297 or maybe supported like it wouldn't fall and expose more than she is comfortable with(I personally hate strapless dresses for this reason)

[@TastyGamingQc]

Yeah that wasn't HER wedding tho. Force your bridemaids to be dressed from head to toe on your own day. Today wasn't about her, if anything she could've just brought a vest.

[@Neyjina]

As a friend you shouldn't force your friends into something, they don't feel comfortable in. You're not picking out decorations, you're dressing people who are dear to you. You should be considering their thoughts.

[@melissarajacobs6182]

I'm actually with the bridesmaid on this one. If I had a friend who was that uncomfortable with not wearing straps, I'd compromise because you can't force someone to wear something that they are uncomfortable with, especially for religious beliefs or convictions. No ma'am.

[@beckyedwards5771]

Than she shouldn’t be in the wedding

[@CottageDreams23]

@@beckyedwards5771 Yea I agree

[@RedVinesTheUmbridgeW]

​@beckyedwards5771, she said she would host (which is honestly rude af for the bride to even say, like she can't even come as a guest? she still has to be serving you?) like if strapless dresses are so important to the bride and she didn’t want to wear one because she's not comfortable showing skin, they could have compromised as having her as a guest or even a shawl or cape added to her dress. the brids was trying to bully her but the bridesmaid refused to let her hold that power over her.

[@raelv504]

@@beckyedwards5771many people who are close to a bride have and feel the pressure of being in the wedding. My best friend and I expect each other to be in each other’s weddings but we would never put each other in the position of demanding one compromises the other’s values like that even if that means we don’t completely match up to the bridesmaid style we have in mind.

[@serixaqua]

This bride didn’t “lose” her best friend, she chose a strapless dress over her best friend and kicked the out of the wedding (tehnically out of the bridesmaids) just because she had certain boundaries about HER body and the bride couldn’t respect that.

[@dragonofmordor]

I hate how Lori and everyone else was going along with the bride's framing of it too. Just no. A lot of the time, probably most of the time, bridesmaids acting like this are just being stubborn because it is the bride's day. But in this case it was religious beliefs and about someone who wasn't comfortable showing that much of her body. And that is perfectly okay.

[@sheepyleepy..2806]

@@dragonofmordor true

[@sheepyleepy..2806]

how can you lose a friend over some damn clothing 🤦🤦🤦🤦 thats weird it dont even have to be a big deal that she didnt get to stay a brides maid they can still be friends and she dont have to wear that dress strapless just childish

[@iluv.raeeee]

she didn’t kick her out she thought she would give in and if you can’t wear what the BRIDE wants then don’t be in it it’s HER dream wedding.

[@christalony5711]

I’m ngl the strapless was the same as with those 1 inch sleeves. I think it’s deeper than just clothing

[@Lilly-vm9du]

I see that the bride wants strapless and everyone should respect that, but when someone is clearly uncomfortable in a dress because of their religious beliefs, it is not fair to them out there. Idk just my 2 cents:)

[@justjaein]

I totally agree

[@katelynsousa6591]

exactly!! it wasn’t just to be difficult, nor a matter of difference of opinion, but religion is really not something to be messed with. especially with her being the maid of honor, it really wouldn’t look out of place at *all* for her to wear a dress that’s a little bit different

[@kermitcult4845]

You read my mind and said it better than I could’ve

[@AravaxElvor]

@@katelynsousa6591 yeah even if it’s not particularly religious but they’re just very uncomfortable about it I think it’s wrong to back her into a corner like that

[@guessimshakespeare7736]

Idk it just bothers me for one reason and one reason only. Doesn’t Shawanda have to sign off for the release of the episode? If she was uncomfortable, why did she sign off? Why was she okay with being on national television in a strapless dress, but not okay going to support her friend at her wedding?

[@sillesbrowne3561]

I really hope Shawanda sees these comments and rests assured that she was not wrong in this situation. You weren't saying no just to be difficult. You had your very valid reservations. I'm an aspiring fashion designer and I know that some of my friends are more reserved than others, so I don't force them to wear certain garments that they're uncomfortable with. I just work around it. Now you know she wasn't your true friend, Shawanda

[@パステル猫-z6y]

I agree

[@marvawilliams2820]

Shawanda needs to get along with the bride

[@Furiafelina]

My heart goes to Shawanda. F#@! The bride.

[@aliciamirelleemmanuel8965]

I watched it....Shawanda actually gave in!!!

[@mastersnips1095]

@@aliciamirelleemmanuel8965 huh?

[@batoulabed192]

You go Shawanda, you don't need friends who disrespect your boundaries or believes. And they have the audacity to make her feel like the villain

[@emmajanepoteet2339]

She actually looked hurt to have to say that she'd rather be a host..she really loves her friend and wanted to be in the wedding but no one should have to violate their personal beliefs because of a DRESS A FREAKING DRESS

[@cynthiatucker2147]

And time factor doesn’t make a good enough excuse to compromise.

[@emmajanepoteet2339]

@My Opinion people can believe what they want, she wasnt trying to forcer ger beleifs of modesty onto the other bridesmaids, but in turn they were trying to force her to wear something she was uncomfortable with and its not ok,

[@natashakuzmanoska9656]

They have some strange Master-Sl. friendship.

[@jennypink7464]

Yeah agree. And then the girl in the short blonde hair was acting like shwanda was making it a big deal cause she that it could be a "power struggle" instead of religion. Im not a very religious person but I feel uncomfortable with strapless dresses two and I wouldn't want to go to a wedding if I cant enjoy myself there with everyone. She wasnt even being rude at all too.

[@jenniferm.4412]

And the bride had the audacity to say, "Fine! Go ahead, go take your clothes off." to her 'best friend' like an owner yelling at a dog.

[@feretstudios7176]

I feel so bad for Shawanda. She looked so sad when she was told to leave. Girl, if your friend ditches you over a dress, it's not worth it. ):

[@duckduckgoose526]

Maya H sometimes people need to respect other peoples lines. she didnt feel comfortable with a strapless dress and if her "friend" couldn't respect that then it was right to leave. there is many dresses out there that would look good on her and something that she felt comfortable with.

[@duckduckgoose526]

Maya H Look I personally dont agree with you but i respect your opinion, but i think you can be more polite instead of calling her a weirdo, its offensive in my opinion and doesn't make you look good

[@duckduckgoose526]

Maya H Yes and that is why i am saying that i respect the way you feel towards her, but i also think you can show more respect. It can really hurt people by your comment because to me you're implying religious people are freaks and i juat think you can tone it down with the words i would consider as insults, now you might not agree and that is totally ok we have different opinions.

[@duckduckgoose526]

Maya H Ok I totally respect how you feel and i dont know if you are saying just to state out your opinion or to try to make people be on your side. Either way i think it makes you look like you dont know what you are talking about but again i respect how you feel and respect your views, but i do think its wrong. 🤷‍♀️

[@duckduckgoose526]

Flurry The Gem Hybrid thank you

[@LEEKNOWSLAUGH]

“If strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth”. Shawanda wasn’t saying that she wouldn’t wear a strapless dress because it didn’t look good on her(she looked beautiful), she didn’t want to wear it because of her religious beliefs. Being her bestfriend, the bride should have understood that.

[@aprilmahaffey492]

Exactly! Shawanda can do better she doesn’t need a best friend who’s going to force her into wearing something she doesn’t want to

[@cyflym11]

I'm surprised the other girls were happy to wear that dress to be honest, as religious beliefs or not it wouldn't have flattered any of them. Perhaps the bride wanted them all to feel uncomfortable and unattractive so that she could shine in comparison.

[@KristaKissinger]

100%

[@freecalypso311]

thank you!!! if that was REALLY her bestie she should already have known that it wouldn't fly... if you've never seen bestie bare her shoulders in everyday life why would you expect her to bow to an ultimatum just for your wedding? she wasn't a good friend anyway, clearly.

[@dainrichardson265]

I'm with Team Shawanda! Love all the support for her in the comments! It's a shame it had to end that way.

[@Halinka91]

how did they twist it to be the fault of the friend who stood up for her convictions? The bride did it only for the aesthetics so if anyone "ended the friendship for the strapless", it was her.

[@GameChanger597]

But Shawanda was being difficult by complaining about the color and making rude faces from the very beginning. She seemed to have a lot of "opinions" and complaints about everything. I think there was more under the surface going on than just "religious beliefs."

[@tripleagirls3775]

@@GameChanger597 what complaint did she make besides color and her religious beliefs. Even if she made faces she didn’t say anything because she understood it was her friends wedding. The bride acknowledged that she was incredibly religious and still refused to accept that. I would have said a lot more.

[@Genkiooo]

@@GameChanger597 I see you've been replying to comments with the same argument.. I think Shawanda made the right decision, She knew where to hit the brakes when she knew when to hit the brakes.

[@AravaxElvor]

Yeah it was all edited to make her seem in the wrong.

[@casscendo8353]

@@GameChanger597 i have to disagree she truly wasn't comfortable in a strapless dress and i don't see why they couldn't accommodate straps for her and have everyone else have strapless.

[@kittenpaw5276]

The look on the best friends face when she had to take the straps down just so the bride could picture the dress strapless was unreal. She was EXTREMELY uncomfortable to say the least. This wasn't about a power struggle at ALL. The bride was being inconsiderate and showed a complete lack of respect and care for her "best friend". Pick a dress with straps and when you look back at the wedding pictures, you can say you picked friendship over the "perfect" brides maids dress. THAT shows more character. I HATED the ending with everyone consoling the bride. It was the best friend that needed consoling, NOT the bride.

[@diamondcrystal9308]

Shawanda was too nice to her, if it was me, she would have problems sitting

[@prettyrecklesdes]

You could tell she was uncomfortable before the straps went down but she was willing to deal with it until the straps were gone.

[@madigan1323]

I agree.

[@LoveBritishShows]

@@prettyrecklesdes exactly! She was already compromising and clearly uncomfortable with the dress even before the straps went down! The bride already knew how shawanda felt and just did not care.

[@cyndyb1]

With a "friend" like the bride, who needs enemies? If she were a true friend, she would have chosen 2 styles, so that ALL the bridesmaids were happy.

[@sophiamergine1444]

The girl looks like she was bout to cry when she was in that blue dress and they took the straps down

[@hj665]

Sophia Mergine omg like the look on her face I just wanted to give her a hug and have a whole wedding in a bridesmaid dress she feels comfortable in

[@amnajaved6894]

Yes it felt like she was going to have a breakdown

[@mary80brown]

I thought that was so wrong! I actually got mad!

[@klausval]

they didn't even ask for her permission first, like wtf

[@zk6954]

" if strapless is more important than friendship" The irony of those exact words coming out of this bride's mouth... She knew her "best friend" has a strong preference in dressing modestly, yet she pushed SO hard and was absolutely unwilling to compromise / budge a single bit even after choosing to include her into the wedding. As her "best friend" she should've seen how uncomfortable her friend was when they removed the straps from that dress. terrible friend.

[@zoranunley233]

“I thought she would give in” So you were trying to manipulate her out of her modest beliefs?

[@countbeccula]

Thats what i was thinking. Disgusting behaviours. When the straps were taken down, you could tell she felt like she was being striped naked infront of a crowed. I felt so awful for her. Sick to my stomach even. And her "best friend" is mad that she couldnt break her. Some best friend that is.

[@diamondwalker560]

That is what I think

[@hezelgee6012]

@@countbeccula Right! Not simply a religious issue - though that might shield her - but this is deeply personal and private. Something painful that is not discussed. They would all look better with straps anyway.

[@8kikyo_]

@@countbeccula So can I ask this, when she put on the spaghetti strap dress was there a difference in skin in reveal as to when the spaghetti straps where pulled down?

[@AnaRomero-xh8po]

@@8kikyo_ not neccessarily but its all about comfort because those itty bitty straps make a dress feel more secure than a strapless one that could feel more exposing and that it could fall down i dont know how to explain it other than the straps make it feel more secure

[@kipnelson177]

I love how she's like "if strapless is more important than friendship..." when it's literally the same thing with you wanting someone to be uncomfortable just to get your way

[@chaosspy6723]

Notice how she threatened the friendship and not simply being absent from the wedding. That's a red flag. She can be a guest and cover up all she wants to but that wasn't even brought up as an option, just an ultimatum.

[@User_4578]

It’s her wedding tf

[@KaileBrogan1025]

I'm proud of her for walking out

[@jazznpercy]

The crazy part is they don't all have to wear the same dress. All of those options came in Tiffany blue. Why not let each bridesmaid choose the one she prefers? Maybe eliminate the one with ruffles if the bride really hates it, but there were other options with straps. One of the other bridesmaids wasn't complaining but she really didn't look very comfortable with the strapless dresses she was wearing. Friendship goes both ways.

[@mimismom17]

@@jazznpercyand tbh I, a bigger girl with huge boobs, would look horrible in the dress she chose. Why couldn’t they all have a different strap pattern or different variations? For my best friend of over 20 years wedding we all got a dress off of amazon and the wedding was beautiful.

[@donquixotemom]

The producers clearly showed who they agreed with through the editing. Shawanda got dorky music and the bride got sad face close ups and touching music. Whyyyy?

[@acequinz9247]

Oh because they don't really respect the friends wishes unless the bride is being overly rude they always put the bride first ... I get it's her day but the friend wasn't trying to steal the limelight of the friend she was just uncomfortable and they couldn't understand that

[@nicklense407]

Ace Queen she shouldn't have accepted the role as briadsmaid in the first place, because she knew at the gecko that her friend wanted strapless.

[@donquixotemom]

Nick lense But it shows that she didn’t know the bride wanted strapless. She was surprised to find out at the appointment. Also, they are “best friends”... the bride should have known how Shawanda would feel about it. No no no

[@Stillpril]

I know. It was annoying

[@olivias.1615]

Because the bride is always right... on tlc at least 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@SophonsCookieCreations]

I stand with the bridesmaid. Wanting to be modest is admirable. 🌹 Bride should respect people's boundaries. "HOST IT IS." 🙌🏼 No one should EVER compromise personal integrity to please others. That's what I call ✨CLASS✨👑

[@brigittapekelharing3163]

Seriously, you can't expect someone to throw away their modesty for you. I couldn't wear a single one of these dresses and I wouldn't change that to suit the bride. Colour or style, fine, but you can't expect someone to actually go against their modesty because you prefer something.

[@catherinevaz6139]

Amen!

[@duckydae]

Brigitta Pekelharing The religion thing was a total cop-out. She clearly stated she didn’t like the dress and rolled her eyes at the colour.

[@slimmie85]

🙌🙌

[@giad9643]

Brigitta Pekelharing yes, but it’s their wedding, it’s THEIR big day, not the bridesmaids.

[@carterjones7050]

Why could she not wear something over it. Like a jacket or a cape

[@leethellama2187]

Man, she just looks so uncomfortable. You would be a horrible friend to make your supposed “best friend” that uncomfortable

[@yazminecaraballo8863]

And she is an horrible friend also for trying to change the bride style of dresses

[@pandahtoemateo3321]

@@yazminecaraballo8863 Are you religious, I'm just asking so to have a good spirited debate with you, on why you think she's just as horrible as the bride.

[@aylayzrianne]

@@yazminecaraballo8863 the bride acting like two straps is gonna ruin her whole wedding...it really doesn't make that much of a difference. you wouldn't make a hijabi take off her hijab, and in the end the bridesmaid said she's just not going to be a bridesmaid if they keep breaching her boundaries and the bride's acting like she ruined everything.

[@speIIas]

I’m your 1.1k like

[@officialsashasix]

Exactly what i said

[@cannothandlethetruth]

The bride forced her to take the straps off on the recording of the show and you could see the hurt and uncomfortableness in Shawanda. She is there for you and you have to be there for her. This is a violation of personal space. She could not say no in front of everyone so she allowed them to pull the straps. I don't want to call the bride selfish but... When Shawanda chose not to kow tow her reaction makes me feel like Shawanda could do better in the friends department.

[@logoanddesign5682]

am lost as to what u r saying

[@cannothandlethetruth]

@@logoanddesign5682 while filming of the episode the bride asked Shawanda to remove the straps so she could see how the dress would look if strapless. If Shawanda was uncomfortable wearing a strapless dress during the wedding, she would have been equally embarassed to do it in front of the camera for the whole world to see.

[@nonyabizwax5892]

@@cannothandlethetruth S dead man could see she was uncomfortable in the dress even with the strap. When they took it down it was like their bared her soul to see. At least give her some lace to throw over it. I see both sides but I’m not causing a best friend that kind of discomfort over a strap. Some battles aren’t worth fighting

[@user-pz9uw1d07]

@@nonyabizwax5892 I totally agree with you. The bride was very mean though showanda made a compromise by wearing that blue dress

[@koniroyval7467]

I would have said NO. Keep your hands off MY body and clothing

[@finnyoak]

I'm not religious, but if they're actually best friends, then the bride KNEW she had these religious convictions beforehand. The disrespect and disregard for her boundaries is insane.

[@macsyung8757]

I don't understand why she couldn't wear the dress that made her feel comfortable and everyone wear whatever they wanted as long as same fabric and color. They are too old for this mess.

[@melissahaletky8223]

Not a bad idea

[@andreazcosio]

Or they could even pick the dress that had straps but turned ins a strapless, and then the bridesmaids could choose if they wanted the straps or not.

[@melissahaletky8223]

@@andreazcosio that would have been fine to. But some brides are so picky. It makes me sad that some people know who their friends are and just expect them to change.

[@BugGutzzz]

Or like similar style but with straps

[@melissahaletky8223]

You know there is one Idea that could have saved lots of time, money, and stress. Forgoing bridesmaids and just having a made of honer. Or having the bridesmaids buy their own dresses that way they can wear what makes them comfortable and give them a color pallet. Or forgo bridesmaids all together. Just let the bride and groom be the center of attention.

[@KamoreaM]

This is probably one of the first ones where I side with the bridesmaid because she shouldn't be pushed out of her comfort zone her wedding or not

[@lydiamolina4310]

True

[@LAShadz]

I'm sorry but you knew your best friend had this issue before getting married. She told you before you went dress shopping. Why are you surprised? Why embarrass her like this? A little variation would not have hurt as long as all the dresses were the color you chose. If it were me I would have dropped out of your wedding for good. You were being completed selfish and belittled your so called best friend. I admire her for standing up for her beliefs.

[@crystalpinkston1718]

@@LAShadz I agree with everything you said.

[@summerdawn6777]

Absolutely agree

[@shannon4191]

Jeon Jungkook then she doesn’t have to be in the wedding

[@Acesspaded]

But- the bride was so willing to let her be uncomfortable for a strapless dress. When i saw how the consultant removed the straps from the dress, my heart broke for the friend. She looks so uncomfortable and very uneased. Like you willing to make your friend feel like that for your wedding day? And i didn't like how the other bridesmaids said it was "Just because she didn't get what she wanted" like for real?? Yall know how she feels about her religion and you go say something so fucking gross? Tbh that friend is better off without that group.

[@christensummers9641]

I was raised very conservative as well, and when I went to try on wedding dresses the other day, it was very uncomfortable trying on any dresses that showed cleavage, to the point I wanted to cry because I felt so exposed. It destroyed my self-esteem and I felt like I’d fall out of the dress, so I totally know how she’s feeling. People should be allowed to wear what makes them confident, comfortable, and happy. Edit: I would like to add though that I had a wonderful support system who were nothing but loving even when I didn’t feel confident in myself. My mom even apologized to me later for raising me to be sort of ashamed of showing my skin, and explained it’s how she was raised (actually even more so) so she never knew any better, but that I should always feel confident in my skin.

[@Acesspaded]

@@christensummers9641 exactly, and im sorry that had happen to you. I myself don't have a religion but even i can see how it can harm ones believes to be exposed im such a way. Its sad people can be purposely blind to someone else's needs for the sake for a wedding day-

[@tidepodpadthai2633]

The friend was the one in the wrong though, the entire wedding shouldn't have to change just for one person

[@zohabaig6426]

@@tidepodpadthai2633 It's a dress, not the "entire wedding". I'm religious and so are all of my loved ones and friends, to different extents. When I get married I'm just going to give my bridesmaids a color or fabric and tell them to wear something in that, because everyone has their own body type and comfort level. And guess what? They'll look better that way, because they'll all be happy and comfortable.

[@amirah4719]

Ikr, she should respect her beliefs and let her wear a dress she is comfortable wearing. If sh doesn't wanna show her body that much, it is completely fine and should be respected and accepted. Shawanda shouldn't have to give up her standards just so her "best friend" has her wearing a dress that she is uncomfortable with. It's toxic.

[@maryamzakipour490]

If my friend humiliated me like this on national tv I would never speak to them let alone attend their wedding.

[@wdcart.co.8206]

“Host it is,” you go girl! Honestly, I couldn’t possibly go in strapless either. It’s very hard to be that revealing if you haven’t done that all your life. It’s about lifestyle. It’s not personal. It’s her body and she has to own it. And she has to protect her values, especially the ones that are attached to her body.

[@logoanddesign5682]

if she was her friend she would have known that she does not show her body like that. but clearly, she does not respect her friend and her beliefs at all. u go girl!! stand up for what u believe

[@absolutenewb8879]

What I don’t understand is why she was fine with straps? They’re not sleeves and don’t really cover anything so what’s the difference?

[@wdcart.co.8206]

@@absolutenewb8879 typically it’s not about hiding the shoulders as much as protecting the lower neckline and the chest area. So compromising for a strap is typically because it’s extra security. Holding the dress up. But I think for her it was about a comfort level

[@absolutenewb8879]

@@wdcart.co.8206 she said she was “showing all this” as if it wasn’t shown with the straps. I mean I understand security but that just seemed petty

[@Munequita0-0]

Shawanda (bridesmaid): “It’s like me against the rest of the world” Nah hun the rest of the world got your back it’s just your bad friendship that make you feel that way

[@jeonkhargosh1213]

Yeah😍😍😍😍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@CocoCece08]

My aunt was religious. If I wore strapless, she'd flip a table. But when I wore a white lace cape over it (with 3/4 sleeves), she loved the dress.

[@Lana-os9zv]

Ingrid Witty I want to like this but it’s on 666 and I don’t wanna ruin it

[@jeonkhargosh1213]

@@Lana-os9zv 😂😂😂😂

[@simrankaur-nn9vr]

I completely understand how that feels...

[@estherjohnson5706]

Ok I'm a Christian myself and dress more conservatively, but some of my friends are even more conservative than me (they wear skirts 24/7) and if they asked for a certain style to protect their modesty I would give it to them without hesitation. The bride needs to understand that, while it's her day, she needs to be respectful of her friend's beliefs. Props to the bridesmaid for sticking to her morals instead of caving to a "best friend" who wouldn't respect her boundaries.

[@jaypritchett6846]

For my little sister's wedding. She had strapless dresses, so she let me wear an over. (She was totally fine with it)

[@lunalovegood4613]

I agree it’s like asking a person who isn’t so religious to turn up naked

[@gappedtoothbabe]

Or she can just not participate

[@AO-hk7dj]

GappedToothBabe exactly why isn’t she just not participating an option. The bride can respect her friends views and not force her to go strapless and the friend can respect her friend’s views and not be in the wedding. There is this unwritten rule where everyone has to bow down to the views of religious people and if you don’t, you get painted as being evil. They can both still love each other and support each other in a way that doesn’t go against their views

[@stephaniemc9948]

Yup..I don’t get the whole bridesmaid thing anyway. A maid or matron of honor and a best man are all you should need.

[@traciannveno]

This is heart breaking. Makes my stomach turn. I feel so sorry for that bridesmaid. No one should have to wear anything they think is indecent.

[@Ellie-yb1de]

My mom was smart with her wedding, she told the bridesmaids “it just has to be a pink dress” and they chose what style they felt comfortable in and what they liked.

[@norajolley8372]

That’s what I’m doing. I told them a color I’d like them in and that it’s floor length, but otherwise free range:).

[@diamondcrystal9308]

this only works with people who have great fashion style

[@norajolley8372]

diamond crystal17 most of my friends have better fashion sense than me thank goodness. I also sent them inspiration pictures which helped a lot

[@MsJubjubbird]

I will send them the fabric I want and they can get it made themselves within the guidelines that it is long and conservative enough - this is a wedding not a nightclub.

[@IdiotSnakeParent]

My best friend did that. We sent pics to her and she approved.

[@430nanaaananana]

*i feel so bad for Shawanda, the bride couldn’t accept that she doesn’t want a strapless dress. It’s childish to fight over something like that.*

[@sarahh9214]

Omg yesss stan SF9!!!!!!

[@katrinah5340]

Yes it is another ARMY !!!!!

[@borah8383]

Katrina Ho we’re everywhere why are you surprised lmao

[@katrinah5340]

@@borah8383 lol yea ofc ik thats but im just happy😁😁😂

[@wilsoncheyenne]

wait, its the brides day then her-

[@phyplis5653]

She was the one who was forcing and bullying her “bestfriend” into a gown that obviously makes her feel uncomfortable and she has the audacity to cry? What a petty witch!!

[@shalinijha294]

True

[@itzsu3adz249]

actually non of her friends like the bride u can see that in their faces

[@Laura-jc2ww]

@@itzsu3adz249 RIP

[@Lokitty-vk6xj]

Excuse me don't tarnish the name of witch like that 😂

[@khuloodalhosani9181]

My exact thoughts thank you !

[@calise.]

always come back to watch this. she stuck her ground and was NOT gonna budge! great reminder that boundaries are GOOD!! this has helped me learn to set boundaries even for my own family. never have i ever felt better since i drew the line with them. so thankful for this episode ❤️

[@fern0226]

**Everybody comforting the bride when she made the problem** Shawanda- *being by herself and crying without support*

[@brianna-reneejeanjordan9160]

Is that what happen in the full epsidoe ? I would love to watch the full epsidoe. I like the strapless dress. But I'm more for the 1 shoulder to me it looks more classy and elegant. I love the one that Lindsey had on. But I didnt not like how it fit underneath her bodice. But i loved the bow though on the one shoulder strap.

[@flext-rex8284]

@@brianna-reneejeanjordan9160 who cares! She's uncomfortable, that's all that matters! If she was really her best friend than she'd be okay with putting straps on the dress, shes an awful friend and doesn't deserve good friends.

[@yoot5449]

I really hate the bride's attitude. She's the one who forced her to wear that dress. She's a horrible friend, it's like a strapless dress is worth more then their friendship

[@flext-rex8284]

​@@brianna-reneejeanjordan9160 she shouldn't be upset when her "best friend" decides to drop out of the wedding then, she gave her best friend a choice to wear the dress or not be in the wedding; she chose not to be in wedding. She shouldn't be sad and cry because of her stupid decision she gave her, no one should feel bad. It's not even like the bride is PAYING for the dress (which she should regardless), she would be making her "best friend" pay 100+ dollars for a dress she'd only wear once that SHE'S NOT EVEN COMFORTABLE IN, what fairness is that?

[@flext-rex8284]

@@brianna-reneejeanjordan9160 but it doesn't matter though, she doesn't feel comfortable in it and shouldn't be forced into it (especially if SHE would have to pay for it), if she was really her best friend they'd allow her to wear straps, especially if it's "not that big of a deal" for her not to wear straps it shouldn't be a big deal for her to wear straps.

[@kylkinger]

This is honestly the only episode I've seen where I completely agree with the bridesmaid. The fact that the bride doesn't respect her beliefs because "it's her wedding" is ridiculous. I feel so bad for Shawanda

[@JustRaiya16]

Lol those black dresses were horrendous. Taffeta isn’t anyone’s friend.

[@YourMom-st5tg]

If you look up "taffeta dress" on google images you'll get plenty that look good, but pretty much every dress on this show is ugly.

[@pastelpixyish8785]

Your Mom There are a few good ones, but this show was filmed awhile ago so you can’t expect too much lol

[@seraby7151]

bridesmaids clothes looked ugly here

[@mar-ui2sr]

One of them was beautiful.

[@chandimasenevi88]

If that was me, I won't even attend the wedding as a host.

[@anastasiam9017]

once i saw shawandas face when the straps came down my heart really fell... a true friends should respect her religious beliefs and i really felt for her 🥺

[@MissLady83]

She looked VERY uncomfortable

[@miacanning3979]

@Autumn Shouse yeah but with strapless it just draws the eyes to the cleavage a lot more and she obviously didn't feel comfortable to her body being shown that way

[@KNNK]

Still, it’s the BRIDES wedding, not hers. She should at least try

[@quinnoq1642]

なかむらKarina usually i‘d completely agree, but not if it goes against her religious beliefs. that‘s just a no-go.

[@aveaillium8754]

Okay but she is showing it to the whole world now.

[@paigemckinnie3207]

I would just give all my friends strapless and give that friend the same dress but with straps. I mean you gotta respect peoples religions.

[@devegas4910]

paige mckinnie great minds think alike.

[@ruthanne6002]

Exactly

[@obviouslykathleen1163]

You do have to respect it but i mean, it is her wedding. If she doesn’t want straps, then she just doesn’t. She just doesn’t get to be a bridesmaid. They’re clearly not as close as the bride made them out to be anyway. If they were, this wouldn’t of happened

[@ghostdragon5735]

Then she should’ve said right then and there I’m not comfortable with doing strapless or if you want me to do strapless can I have a shawl or something. It’s not about the fines religious believes it’s about somebody is a special day that you agreed to be part of

[@obviouslykathleen1163]

JJ exactly. So if its not working out and theyre not seeing eye to eye, she doesn’t get to be in the wedding lol. The bride usually always chooses the dresses, in this case she is so 🤷🏽‍♀️ her wedding, her call.

[@Stellie3341]

All of those dresses are hideous

[@kookiebunny5925]

Ikr. I wouldn't wear any of them even if it was required.

[@aikarin6280]

alex steller true they all looked terrible

[@Badaszmaya]

They had to be the cheap dresses .. Look like a Ross brand dress or something 😂

[@daniellemitchell2342]

alex steller lolllll right! I was like this has to be the worst selection of dresses I've seen in one episode

[@lisajohnson9662]

Everyone of them.

[@BlackFiresong]

I just watched this on TV and had to look up what the Internet had to say about it, and I am SO glad to see that the comments are overwhelmingly on Shawanda's side! I am so sad that Tammy and the rest pulled the "bride" card and railroaded Shawanda into wearing a dress she wasn't comfortable with. She was polite, respectful and classy throughout in her behaviour, and Tammy completely disrespected her boundaries and beliefs. I can't believe she had the audacity to come out with "If strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth?" while LITERALLY placing her need for strapless bridesmaids' dresses above her friend's boundaries and comfort level! Grrrr!

[@maeyoung2039]

She tried to guilt-trip her into wearing a strapless dress knowing it makes her uncomfortable.

[@imperfect13]

the bride was not a good friend. Way before choosing her as a bridesmaid, she should have known the values & belief her friend has. I wear a hijab 🧕 and if my friend was to suddenly ask me to wear a strapless dress I would look at her like she is crazy.

[@April-Marie_]

If someone was going to end a friendship because I won’t wear a dress that goes against my religious convictions, then that is someone I wouldn’t try to win back

[@sylverengabonziza3282]

None of the ladies looked comfortable in those dresses. Even Francis said it. To be honest none of the ladies look good strapless. The straps or not it didn't even make a difference in shawanda's dress.

[@dishabiswas8074]

That's some toxic friendship I see there.. And you know your friend.. You can't make her do something she's not comfortable with..

[@tibbynibby]

You could see the discomfort she felt when the halter came off.

[@acatspectator]

And strapless doesn't actually look good on them

[@puddin_3901]

The whole point is that the friend knew she wanted strapless and wanted to be a bridesmaid anyways. She has 9 other people so why would she compromise for one if she's not gonna do the others? If you don't like the style of dress don't be a bridesmaid.

[@gooberfries6692]

Exactly. She had a right to not want to feel naked. A velaro jacket would have been cute and respectful to people who feel uncomfortable being overexposed.

[@tina-gp3jn]

She could just put on a shawl or a cardigan instead of being a rat about it

[@janalock6267]

"If strapless is more important than friendship, what is it worth?" Honey this question goes both ways.

[@taylaarbon5611]

It’s not that the bridesmaid is being petty or stubborn, the dress goes against her religious beliefs and makes her feel horrible. I feel bad for Shawanda.

[@grobanite4ever85]

I feel bad for her too

[@lizanete18]

The bride knew how religious the friend was and she knew that the friend wouldn’t feel comfortable wearing that...

[@laurenmenzies5397]

Some women feel uncomfortable with showing cleavage.

[@jadinhackett9729]

It’s her wedding though

[@borah8383]

Jadin Hackett the fact that it’s her weeding doesn’t mean it’s okay for her to step over her best friend boundaries and forcibly make her were something she’s obviously uncomfortable with What kind of best friend are you if you’re totally okay with your best friend being totally uncomfortable trough your whole weeding just because of a dress I think it’s sad for the bridesmaid

[@rebeccahefner3559]

I so glad Shawanda stood her ground. No friend would ask you to go against your convictions, she knew before she even chose dresses that Shawanda wouldn't be comfortable she just thought she could bully her into it.

[@Hadesbaby69]

She didn't think that she could bully her into it it's her choice and her day she can choose whatever she wants to brides maid to wear and if they don't want to wear it then they're not going to be in the wedding

[@rebeccahefner3559]

@@Hadesbaby69 She knew her friend wouldn't wear her style to begin with! She DID think she would get her way!

[@Hadesbaby69]

@@rebeccahefner3559 you're right I made this comment before actually watching the full video and now that I've watched it a few times I agree with you

[@jonessa802]

@@rebeccahefner3559 the girl that doesn’t want a dress isn’t right at all and the bride isn’t being a bully

[@_kiearacovee]

@@jonessa802 They are both being dramatic. Shawanda doesn't have to wear that, the bride is just acting like she could get what she wanted. Life isn't fair people!

[@chesirez00]

I disliked how lori went, "I wonder if it's really about religion"...yes it is.. There is no power struggle.... It's her belief. It's her right. Why the hell was she being attacked

[@EijiTheRonin]

There have been some clips where people will use religion to manipulate the bride. I'm not saying Lori is right but there have been instances.

[@katehenry2718]

Half naked doesn't belong in a wedding.

[@EijiTheRonin]

@@katehenry2718 but they werent?

[@chesirez00]

@@EijiTheRonin well sure if you're being forced into a religious belief which isn't yours then that's wrong. But is she was genuinely trying to hold onto her beliefs, then no one had any business to make her look selfish

[@EijiTheRonin]

@@chesirez00 and I understand that. I agree with that

[@guinnevereschronicles2225]

My mom got married recently and she compromised for me because she knew how uncomfortable I would be in a sleeveless dress. I would’ve worn a pantsuit, but I compromised by wearing a dress with sleeves just to make her happy and make me comfortable at the same time

[@mamapotato1638]

bride: if strapless is more important than friendship than what is it worth me: umm you should take your own advice honeyyy

[@sangitakatunsarminkatun5504]

I am s

[@MsSHINeeTVXQSuju]

Lmfao, freaking hilarious

[@Mya_the_diva]

Why should she have to wear something she doesn’t want on her wedding day it’s her big day not hers if it was the friends wedding she would have to cover up

[@MsSHINeeTVXQSuju]

@Mazani Cruz uhm, so give up her own morals and values to make a person happy for one day? lmfao

[@mamapotato1638]

@Mazani Cruz the bridesmaid was willing to wear the dress the bride wanted but with straps. She did try to compromise cause let me tell u that dress does show some cleave

[@tishamanda36]

She should have picked a color then let each bridesmaid pic the style in that color. The heavy set friend was as miserable as the one who refused to go strapless.

[@mrsardesch80]

Exactly! I chose a colour for my bridesmaids, and said pick whatever style you like. Not every style suits every one. She was just being pushy and rude. Definitely not worth losing a friendship over!

[@drool2043]

My mom just gave her bridesmaids the color and fabric and they designed it themselves

[@caramelkaya8364]

Tisha to each their own. For me, I’d want all my bridesmaids in the same dress

[@Cindy99765]

@@caramelkaya8364 But bridesmaids have different body shapes and weights, so the same dress might not look nice on everyone

[@zadams1816]

@@Cindy99765 exactly. I stepped down as a bridesmaid in my cousins wedding because the dress she wanted was so low cut and as someone with bigger boobs than the other girls I felt really exposed and it just wasn't a good look. Id be uncomfortable and wouldn't enjoy myself coz I'd be worried about a nip slip all night. But it is the brides day, so there's no harm in stepping down if you truly don't agree with their vision.

[@reevese99]

“I just thought she’d give in”. How damn disrespectful! She’s not going to give in when she’s told you it’s her religious beliefs! I think shawanda got a lucky escape from that selfish woman!

[@diamondcrystal9308]

I just want to know what kind of brain problems the groom have to ask this disgrace for a woman to marry him

[@leajinlinszhy8517]

@Mazani Cruz a simple strapped dress that is a bit different than other brides made dress is not going to affect the whole wedding and they have been bestfriend for so long and the bide cant even consider that her friend is very religious, she needs to respect that she wants to cover up her body.

[@leajinlinszhy8517]

@Mazani Cruz the bridesmaid wont be able to chose between the brides happiness and her religion. I am afraid that you cant really see the whole picture here

[@karlalove4864]

@Mazani Cruz I agree

[@okaykh-o5316]

She didn’t escape. In the end of the full episode she wore the dress. They guilt tripped her into wearing it to the wedding.

[@sspencer4036]

I was bridesmaid for my brothers wedding, i was 14 and told future SIL the neck line of the dress was too revealing for me. I had big boobs even then. She CHANGED the style of the neck line so it wouldn't show much of my chest area. So grateful she didn't just force me to wear something i was uncomfortable in.

[@Luna-fw9to]

"If strapless is more important than friendship, than what is it worth?" Gurl what?? Was is really that hard for you to let her have those tiny straps, and let the other girls without them?? Nobody would've noticed and more important, this whole drama wouldn't have occurred! If I was her bff, and she would do that to me, I wouldn't even want to go at the wedding no more.

[@aiko-chan3108]

Yep I’m surprise on why the workers couldn’t step in and tell them that they can change the straps or make them look better. It was probably just for the drama. They’re could’ve just added clear straps or the ones that go on the arm. It would’ve looked nice

[@Luna-fw9to]

@@aiko-chan3108 Yeah, and it would've made her feel more secure, because when you wear a strapless dress, your main concern is that it might slip down. I don't see why they couldn't agree on smt, but as you said, it's all for the drama smh

[@jessicaellina3878]

BTW.... All the bridesmaids looked flaming miserable😏😢 None of them seemed to like what was picked for them... and l don,t blame them🤣🤣

[@Kt-cn2rq]

@@aiko-chan3108 Randy wouldn't have stepped up and gave options.

[@christinelavoie2644]

@@Kt-cn2rq Gok would have smoothed this over in no time flat.

[@abbyscott7847]

I am not religious, but you can't make someone wear something that they don't feel okay wearing!

[@GameChanger597]

She could have just let the bridesmaids wear strapless and the maid of honor wear straps. It's very common for the maid of honor to wear a different dress than the bridesmaids anyway. The sales ladies should have known to suggest that from the very beginning.

[@jewels3400]

@@GameChanger597 you have a very good point

[@userplorddexter69]

Aggreeeddd

[@ultraviiolenced]

agreed she should just wear something thats more modest but still matches with the other bridesmaids

[@arlyan1242]

The bride was the horrible friend. She knew and she even said it that she was very religious and it was gonna be hard to convince. So I think she was trying to humiliate her on TV

[@signalfire15]

“If strapless is more important than friendship” Uh, I’m sorry, but it’s this woman’s RELIGION vs friendship, not strapless. If you were a real friend, why are you putting her in a position where she has to choose between her religious beliefs or her friendship with you? The situation could be so easily resolved by the bride allowing that one bridesmaid to wear a coverup! I’m not religious but if one of my bridesmaid was, I’d want her to customize the dress to fit her beliefs. I’d never ask her to compromise her beliefs for my special day. That’s so selfish.

[@blacksiberiancatkitty5981]

I wholeheartedly agree

[@noriyyo5908]

Finally someone said it!

[@momma8954]

Or some wear straps

[@purpleeyeshadow9560]

Ikr? Like I can name 3 ways to fix this situation off the top of my head. Coverup, some type of 'jacket', or KEEPING THE STRAPS ON! UghHhHhh

[@kaitlintropper2061]

I’m a Christian and my prom dress was strapless. My bridesmaid dress will be strapless if the bride wants too.

[@bazza9254]

I love you Shawanda😂👏🏻💕 I love how she smiles while everyone about to cry Iconic 👍🏻🤣💕 my greetings from the Arabain gulf

[@Lauren_Fields]

“I thought she would give in” I don’t like that attitude at all. It screams “I don’t care about your boundaries”

[@luciatat4084]

Lauren Fields exactly!

[@BabblingMee]

Good point!

[@toobatanveer8004]

Exactly!

[@ceceliasmith821]

It also screams I will get what I want no matter what. Feelings and boundaries? I don't know her

[@Getitgirlllll4717]

I get the bride has a look she is going for, that's fine. HOWEVER REAL friends only come by, once in a lifetime. If that is your REAL friend, the Bride should respect her friend's boundaries. She could've put Shawanda in a dress w/Straps so she is comfortable and then put the other bridesmaids in Strappless dresses. Or put all the bridesmaids in different dresses but all connect w/ the Brides theme/Vision, that are comfortable for the other b-maids wishes, if possible, then that way all the b-maids are in dresses they like that are still w the brides vision. Come on now its not hard!! She Knows her best friend is Conservative, she could have respected her wishes. I think she did that on purpose to get her out of the bridal party, Not cool. Good job Shawanda for sticking to your beliefs. What's crazy at the end, then that heffa has the nerve to cry about it Girrrrrrl Bye!!!!!!! stop it!!!!!!👋

[@Tatteredace]

The bridesmaid's face when they took the straps off should have been enough for the bride to let her wear straps. She looked so uncomfortable. I felt horrible for her 😒

[@brookehope7131]

Damn that was like some serious peer pressure bs, good on her for staying with her morals and beliefs under that kind of pressure

[@thequeenashd9421]

RESPECT FOR SHAWANDA STICKING TO HER BELIEFS. That Bride should have compromised. Smh. It’s her fault she lost her best friend not the strapless dress….

[@Jamaican19Girl]

She could have allowed her to wear the dress with straps. She said she was uncomfortable so why force her??? Not a good friend period!!!!

[@Mariana-bk5lq]

@@random9163 Then understand your friends. Let her be a host without being petty about HER choice. She is still attending it

[@ckzckw]

I can't stand when people try to force you to be more revealing. That is bullying especially 6:00 with that rude utterly mean disrespectful wave. Shawanda you deserve a better friend a true friend who respects you.

[@cy4n1d3_]

Bride: “If strapless is more important than friendship, what is it worth?” My thoughts exactly. She shouldn’t have to ignore her religion for your strapless dress.

[@khaithkhulaqi6870]

aaaaarmmyyy

[@alessandroiannonemusic]

what's the correlation between religion and a strapless dress?!?!?! Religious people are so strange...

[@kayandkaycorp13]

@@alessandroiannonemusic The correlation is that lots of religious people prefer to dress more conservatively, and for some, a strapless dress is less conservative. It can show cleavage, and even if it's fitted not to show cleavage, it still shows a good amount of skin.

[@alessandroiannonemusic]

@@kayandkaycorp13 and that's the problem? Showing skin? you're not naked, and you're not less religious if you show your collar bone....

[@kayandkaycorp13]

@@alessandroiannonemusic I'm not religious, though I am spiritual, and I believe that God doesn't really care how much skin you show. But for some people, they believe that God wants them to dress modestly. Even if that means covering up to the collarbone. Maybe something about avoiding leading men to temptation or other sexist stuff. I personally believe the bridesmaid is just using religion as an excuse but actually just has insecurity issues about her body. No shame in that, everyone has insecurities. But sometimes a woman will say she's insecure about a body part and her friends will try to build her up, telling her how pretty she is, etc, but it doesn't actually solve anything because the problem is much deeper and sometimes it's just easier to let her wear straps.

[@YarnCrafts4lefties]

I COMPLETELY respect the friend for saying this isn't me. She intimately said "I will support you as your friend while being a guest to ensure your vision for your bridal party is fullfilled." If you know your friend is very conservative why would you EVER demand they compromise their convictions?

[@kristikblank]

The fact that she wasn't respectful of her friend being legitimately uncomfortable in the dress was absolutely absurd. Bridezillas are not cute. At all.

[@Dexters.LaBOREatory]

By her own admission, the bridesmaid has been very spiritual and conservative since she has known her. So why would she put her in a compromising position? Its borderline abusive.

[@kellyalves756]

UrsTrulyKJ I agree, although what I muttered at the screen was “That’s f’ed up.”

[@jannathumaira7014]

Girl if she's not comfortable with it, then you don't have the right to force her or emotionally blackmail her.. PERIOD!

[@rachelleravenclaw793]

If it were me, I would just choose a color, and let the bridesmaids pick what style dress they want

[@Anyachakata]

Rachelle Rodrillo that's what my best friend did. We all say down, and searched through and found ones with the same color and similar material. Then she made an options list and everyone could pick what they wanted from the list to wear. It turned out beautiful and I am highly religious and it worked out perfectly for everyone!

[@lydiajipripal2989]

😁😁😁😁😁😁

[@Krimson-do1st]

Jesus if I was the bride I would have given her a costume version of the dress that covers her and gives her straps while getting the original for the other girls. Like what type of find would I be to force my maid of honor to be uncomfortabl

[@kendalmariehudson3106]

I agree. I’m not even a religious person but it’s common decency that if someone feels a dress is too “sexy” for them or they do not feel comfortable based off of religious or self made morals and aren’t just claiming such to get their way I would respect it! Who am I to tell someone they must wear strapless, something that they wouldn’t even wear for themselves and feel exposed bride or not?! I feel so bad for her. Seriously all she wanted was straps, she even compromised and was willing to do those small straps versus the more covering one she preferred. That dress with the others the same but strapless would’ve looked great!! No one would’ve even paid attention honestly! If I ever have a wedding with bridesmaids (I’m more of a just a short private small ceremony with no bridesmaids or groomsmen and then fellowship with family and friends and not spend much$$) I would give a color palate, a fabric, what length I’d prefer (while taking everyone’s standards and morals into consideration of course. I’m not opposed to some long and some short dresses as long as same fabric and overall look) I would send them on their way! After all they’re paying for it. They should find something they can afford, in whatever neckline or strap they feel comfortable in. I think brides forget that bridesmaids can look good and flow great together without being in identical dresses. I’d even let my bridesmaids have hairstyles they prefer as I know some girls don’t like to have hair up if In strapless. There’s ways to line them up and arrange it for it to look good. It’s so sad how people have lost respect for others. Im glad to see in the comments many haven’t. It’s refreshing to say the least.

[@marycanary3871]

the comments on this video are so much more sympathetic toward the bridal party member with boundaries than they were on the video where a bride’s sibling was a masc lesbian uncomfortable in a dress and that’s super telling.

[@LPSwolfgirl]

When she said “I really would like to be in your wedding” it broke my heart. It was so sincere. Just give her a shawl :(

[@carolineshaw564]

Shes been friends with her for years but she still can't respect her religion???

[@diamondcrystal9308]

that's not best friend, that's best snake

[@latteknowsbest6365]

Caroline shaw seriously.

[@yesyes-bl7hj]

I wouldn't either

[@diamondcrystal9308]

@@yesyes-bl7hj huh??????

[@yesyes-bl7hj]

@@diamondcrystal9308 yes it's my wedding I would do it the way I want 💀

[@calciferdfire]

she's her bestfriend, she should atleast understand the fact that shawanda can't wear anything revealing to atlest respect her religion, or just to respect shawanda as a person and her bestfriend.

[@ImJustShayeB]

What pissed me off is that she gave her an ultimatum and then she got pissed when she picked the other option. Like...girl what?

[@tinad7484]

@@ImJustShayeB then she was like get goodbye 🤬🤬

[@Havis_Princess]

It's her wedding. She has her vision. Someone else's opinion doesn't matter because it's about the bride. One day for the bride to shine and have everything as she wants it

[@elizabethsemarge4800]

Shawanda, was saying I don't like it. What she really should have said. Is I dont feel it's appropriate for me to wear. Saying you don't like it, us sending the bride the message your opinion isn't as important as mine

[@sage-qrtz2319]

@@Havis_Princess true but don’t everyone shouldn’t be looking at the bestfriend like a bad guy when they know her reasons behind not liking the strapless

[@Psychotechmusichead]

I liked the black dress on Shawanda! She looked beautiful!

[@crunchx3254]

They could have let Shawanda at least wear a shawl, a necklace, a scarf, or even just the straps if she was uncomfortable with it showing her sholders or chest. Even though it's the bride's time to shine the bridesmaids need to have a say if it goes against a religous belief or makes them uncomfortable.

[@truffles365]

My sister's friend asked her to be a bridesmaid and specifically asked the dress tailors to add full length sleeves to my sister's dress as she's Muslim. This is some real bs a couple of straps would have been fine. Also, I usually love Lori but she really dropped the ball on this one. As if it was about a power struggle! It was about religious beliefs and freedom to dress modestly if she wants. The bride was being immature. I don't know if the staff or people who have been on the show watch these clips and read comments but if they do then there is certainly a lesson to be learnt here.

[@emwestlake2167]

Girl, you didnt lose a friend because she didnt like the dress you chose, you lost a friend because you couldnt respect her beliefs and her opinions. She was being so mature about it, she didnt force you to chose anything you didnt like, she backed out. You tried to manipulate her emotions to get her to wear something that made her uncomfortable and compromised her beliefs. You keep saying she's your best friend, but you're not treating her like one. I hope she wore a beautiful, conservative dress to that wedding, something she felt comfortable in, and I bet she looked fabulous.

[@riannebenoit5686]

is it a crime to like a dress? her friend was being very unreasonable. using religion as an excuse to not wear a strapless dress. she could just wear the dress with straps without being so rude and unreasonable. i agree her friend could’ve given her a shawl or something but then it wouldn’t look good because no one else wanted the shawl or would wear it. how is the bride going to please one person? she can’t just give up what she wants because one person doesn’t want a strapless dress.

[@flagellationynfluencia1971]

Lol if she can't wear strapless then it's not the bride's fault, wedding isn't about maid of honor or bridesmaids it's about the bride and groom, whatever bride's want it should be follow. Can't you see that girl keep contradicted the bride, if she want to be followed then she should pay for the bride's wedding all of what should bride's gonna pay and be the bride lmao.

[@itsbbyk5895]

Why she just couldn't do all the bridesmaid strapless and just have her best friend with some spaghetti straps or something or just all of the a cover up or a jacket or something. She did not have to lose her best friend over bridesmaid dress

[@hannah_1009]

Who’s side is the comment ? I’m confused

[@_.maryamfatima]

these replies are so weird. the friend was being reasonable because the brides maids all have to match its a culture. and using religion isnt "an excuse" whatsoever for example my religion is rlly strict on what parts of the body you reveal in public so if that was me i woulda been acting the same exact way because thats my religion and im not abouta disobey it just because my "friend" wants me to 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@hhhh.h954]

Big respect for Shawanda, for her commitment to her believes and morals. We should respect others believes

[@NOAHSMOMMY]

I'm so proud of EVERYONE in the comments for applauding her for standing up for her beliefs. She wasn't rude about it at all, either. The bride was the disrespectful one in this episode, for sure! I respect the lady for not giving in and for NOT going against her beliefs! EVEN though she felt humiliated! Shame on the bride! I just hope she never allowed the bride to talk her into going against them in the end!

[@FrauIndian]

I am not Muslim or Christian. I would not agree to do sleeveless or show cleavage for any wedding either. The bride needs to be respectful. I am a size 6. Respect her religion.

[@amandarosefoell703]

I don't know if it's just her belief. Is there a religious belief against Tiffany blue too? Because she had the same attitude about the color as well. I just think that if she was so uncomfortable she maybe should have suggested a pashmina. Sorry if I misspelled that word.

[@katie4335]

If the bridesmaid wants straps give this bridesmaid what she feels comfortable in. Those strapless gowns were ugly af

[@amandarosefoell703]

@@katie4335 I didn't want to deal with that, so I eloped.

[@kbilly1]

NOAH'S MOMMY2012 they should have given her a shawl to wear

[@pippetandpossum]

"If strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth?" Are you talking about yourself? Because for her it's whether strapless is more important that her values and beliefs.

[@ericelestineyorfrylle1525]

Ikr, if she really value their friendship she should've respect her friend's belief and not push that strapless dress.

[@Isabelle-mn9zh]

This might be the only one where I side with the bridesmaid. Bride is not wearing the dress so why is she trying to push her bridesmaid out of her comfort zone.

[@TriniMonstera]

Isabelle Some just want everyone wearing same style for uniformity in photos, I felt sorry for how Shawanda was treated.

[@Tess623]

I love your profile picture 😂

[@t.matthies3049]

And Shawanda was visibly very uncomfortable with having the straps taken down just on the show. It's not about straps-it's about having autonomy over one's body and how much is or is not showing, and having that autonomy be respected. Nobody should try to force someone to wear something they're that uncomfortable in. Based on what Shawanda said about modesty, I feel like the relatively thin halter straps was already a compromise for her (but one she seemed willing to do for her friend).

[@michelevsc]

i dont understand why the bride could've just bought shawanda a strapped dress while the other bridesmaids wear strapless dresses