Bridesmaids VS. BRIDEZILLAS - REACTION

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[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

Rule of thumb: when the bride comes out of the dressing room always ask her opinion first. If she loves it, agree with her. If she's not sure and wants your opinion, always point out the dresses flaws. NEVER point out how the dress "makes your boobs look flat/arms look huge". Focus on the dress, not the bride's body.

[@bugstomper123]

Well, I mostly agree with this. Although, I personally would appreciate it if I was told it made a certain part of my body look bigger than it is (sometimes it's hard to tell...but honestly I would probably ask whoever I was with if it made a part of me look bigger than it is). I think in a lot of cases, how you give a critique would depend on 1) your relationship with this person. 2) how receptive this person is to criticism (are they a little sensitive, or are they difficult to offend? Does this person have body issues etc). and 3) How to SAY the critique. The sandwich technique where you say something nice about it, say the critique, and end with something else that's nice about it, is always good and it doesn't make the person your critiquing feel awful about themselves.

[@PrincessPresident]

I agree with this to some point. I'd like someone to tell me how the dress looks of me. I want to look great in the dress. So tell me that it make my ass look flat or my boobs small so I know, I want to know what you think but say it to me sincerely and not like those bridesmaids who were laughing at her and acting malicious. I don't know if it's me or the fact that Caribbean people are used to this type of thing.

[@bugstomper123]

@@PrincessPresident It's not just you. I am the same way and I'm from the states

[@terranova4078]

Sounds like some hater shit. I still want honest opinions but stop use my judgement. You fake af

[@godiswithyou.5358]

People forget that they themselves do not have to love the dress because it’s not their wedding. To you it may be hideous but dude it’s HER day. If she likes the dress, you love it. It isn’t about you. If it was, you’d be the one trying on dresses that day. Some people just be hating and don’t know how to cope!

[@elzbietabetlej4085]

I think the bridesmaid that refused to stay in expensive hotel was right. Not everyone earns the same amount of money and the bride seemed to forget it . Like she was sacrificing a person for a bigger picture she created in her mind.

[@jessicadias5014]

Some resort destinations offer ridiculous discounts for weddings if the bride and groom can get 10 or more people to book under them. I knew someone who did this (also a bridezilla) and with the discount her wedding at this beautiful beach resort cost her and her husband about $2K which is ridiculously cheaper compared to paying the regular price for a venue and catering. So essentially it's a way for bride and grooms to have their guests pay for their wedding.

[@maurer3d]

Yeah, $650 a night is ridiculous for her to expect everyone to be able to afford....

[@Rose-hh7mk]

“Everyone needs their own room” bitch what? No

[@addicted367]

The bride is just a control freak. I would stayed at the cheaper hotel anyway.

[@zellagrace445]

Couples really need to think about what is convenient for their guests when planning a wedding. My fiancé and I wanted to get married in Disneyworld but we wanted bridesmaids, grooms ladies, and our families to be there. None of us live in Florida so everyone would have had to pay for flights,hotel accommodations,etc because we couldn’t afford to pay their way. I have two nieces that are married with children of their own. Since I know a lot of people take time to plan family vacations to Disneyworld I felt like I would have been forcing them to take their children when they may not have been ready for the trip. So our wedding will be local and I’ll wear cute mouse ears with a veil during our Disney honeymoon ❤️

[@Annie-A]

I was invited to a wedding for a friend I have only met in person once. I hung out with her and another friend on Zoom a lot watching movies together during the pandemic. My mom was fired when she got COVID, so things have been tight with my family. I apologized that I could not afford to give a wedding gift at that time. Not only did she tell me that was okay, but she and her groom offered to pay for my flight to get there with no expectation to pay her back. Our other friend had lent me money for the flight, so their offer was not necessary but it was incredibly kind. She also bought sugar free popsicles just for me since she knew I couldn't eat anything else due to my GI disorder. When I get married in the future that's the kind of bride I want to be, working to accommodate people and make sure they have a nice time so it is a shared special day for everyone. Update- I sent her a venmo gift around her anniversary 💜

[@SQUIDELIZA]

THIS IS THE SWEETEST THING !!! Ugh this makes me so happy

[@lorinatchie9632]

This is so freaking sweet, she sounds like a wonderful person

[@alisemaleneohme4666]

My best friend married in Scotland (to a Scotsman), and she made it clear that she just wants as many people as possible to come. Everyone from Norway (where we're from) was told that we didnt have to bring any presents, just ourselves. Since the party was at a castle, they booked and paid for the whole thing. Oh the difference between people🙄 (My gift was that I sang for her in the Church, so she got something at least!)

[@sssgggg8808]

❤ this

[@randomaccount64]

Your friend sounds amazing. That's the kind of friend i want

[@demondogmom7221]

One of my dearest friends set me down and said..."I'd like you to be a bridesmaid but I know you hate wearing dresses or being on display...you tell me, do you want to do that? I won't be upset if you say no." I said "no...I love you but I'd probably pass out in terror." She laughed... and informed me I WOULD be at the wedding AND the reception. I attended both, had a lovely time celebrating them, and no one got upset. Normal people with compassion and caring..it works

[@Ziffelzoovop]

Wholesome Bride Story I got confused for being the maid of honor at my friend's wedding because I was doing a lot of stuff to help with the wedding. I'd flown in a week early to help her get everything set up. I did this of my own accord because I was just so happy she was finally in a healthy relationship and I wanted to show her as much support as I could since I had been there and witnessed the abuse of her previous relationship to someone else. I wasn't even an official part of the wedding until the day of when they realized they didn't have anyone to cue the bridal party for walking down the aisle so I did that. Her brides maids were her sisters and one friend from childhood. The wedding was super small as her previous boyfriend/abuser had driven a wedge between her and almost everyone in her life burning the bridges as he went. The bride was so sweet and kind, she didn't dare ask anyone for anything as she still struggled with self-esteem from the previous relationship. Another reason why I flew in a week early was to make sure this new guy, who I hadn't met, didn't give off any red flags. He didn't. He was so pure and loved her with all his soul. The bride had a hard time believing any of it was real until sometime partway through the reception when it finally became apparent to her that she IS loved. She straight up glowed with how happy she was. It was a very simple wedding, paper plates and plastic dollar store decorations, but it was the most beautiful wedding I'd ever been to because of the genuine love you could see and feel from the couple. She insisted on taking me to the airport a few days after the wedding, taking time out of her honeymoon to do so, I told her I could get a cab but she wouldn't hear it. We weren't super close friends before the wedding but I think it was really important to her that I showed up anyway. We had a long and tearful hug at the airport and she has since been a crutch for me when I ended up trapped in a similar situation she had been in. I aspire to be as happy and kind of a bride as her if I ever get married.

[@Froggy77100]

Thank you for sharing your story with us. You sound like an amazing friend I wish you all the best!

[@plaguewifedaydreamingastro8411]

That's beautiful:) what a wonderful friend

[@Nil_Sama]

I'm crying!!! As someone with really low self esteem, and very few friends (I hardly see or talk to them as I feel like I'd be a bother if I reached out first), my only wish in life is to have a friend like you. Thank you for what you did, it really does mean the world for people like us. You are a wonderful human being~♡

[@jefferyschic]

After spending 17 years in an abusive marriage, always check for flags! Always! I have since found my love of life and happiness, simply the best! Old chic advice!

[@Sodone-s3m]

😊😊😅б

[@writinggamer8059]

I remember that episode of Say Yes to the Dress where the bridesmaids were being mean to the bride. It was both really sad and made me angry. The bride loved that dress and it looked amazing on her. When she came out wearing it, her whole face was glowing she was so happy, none of the other dresses had really impressed her so far. Then her friends were just laughing at her. I also had friend-enemies as my wedding party because I didn't have sisters or any real friends, unfortunately. So I really felt for the bride and I hope everything turned out okay for her in the long run.

[@RoseyVamp]

That’s so sad. I don’t have a lot of friends tbh and I think if/when it comes time to get married I’ll probably have just as few if any and I’m ok with that. I’d rather have at least 1-3 people close to me as my bridesmaid (no maid of honor I’m not doing that) than a bunch of women I don’t like who really don’t like me either

[@lynneufeld3175]

Just got married and soo much s*** went wrong. Hugs to the other couples who had this happen!

[@jeng8401]

I assume the producers prodded them to say mean things to create drama. All those shows back then were all staged. To get on the show so she could get a free dress.

[@PunguinYoga]

@@jeng8401 For years I've been hearing none of those "reality" shows are as spontaneous as they want viewers to think.

[@dustinriley8059]

@@PunguinYoga They aren't. I knew a girl that was on Survivor. They egged people to say and do stuff, and if you didn't play along the way they wanted they got rid of you. None of the votes were real. The producers decided who they want to kick off. If character A was the one they wanted kicked off, they'd cut any video of person A succeeding at things or doing any work out. They'd only show clips of when that person failed or was taking a rest. They could have been working hard for 12 hours of the day, but they're only going to show that 5 minutes of footage where that person was resting and saying something like, "This is hard work. I don't want to do this." Then they'd portray that character like they just complained and didn't do any work at all.

[@bowie.90]

"It's always sucky to find out you're not your best friend's best friend" felt that in my fucking SOUL, CHARLOTTE

[@maddison5154]

I felt this too.

[@jlt131]

my two best friends married each other and i wasn't even invited to the ceremony, just the reception. i felt so crushed. (meanwhile the best man's new girlfriend he'd known for like a month got to attend the ceremony.....why?!?!)

[@lygophilia4127]

Yeah, I don't think I've been anyone's best friend since first grade (I'm 34).

[@AgtWashingtub]

This is my life. I have had several 'best friends' or people I considered to be that person for me. But any time it comes back around to having to do something minor for me, in return for all the time, money, and effort I sink into friendships (I get it, that is my own fault for being nice and expecting that to eventually come back around), suddenly I am such a low priority that I finally see that I was just a wallet to fund things, a back to lift, and a truck to load and drive someone else's shit around for them and not a friend in any sense of the word. So now I just dont have friends, or people in general, in my life.

[@oceana3070]

@@AgtWashingtub I feel you! I am actively stepping back from a friendship that I’ve given far far more to than received. Of many examples (and since this is a wedding related video), I spent over $2000 to attend and celebrate this person’s wedding. When it was my wedding I received nothing from them - no gift, no card, no assistance with planning. They acted like it was a complete non issue.

[@ixxieangel]

It's actually a very simple situation; Daphne paid for the dress so it IS her dress and she either needed to be repaid for the dress or have the dress returned to her to sell on her own. You don't get to rob people just because it's your wedding!

[@AgtWashingtub]

Apparently Charlotte thinks it was fine.

[@DwarfDragonwulf]

I totally agree, she paid for the dress, she owned it. It was stolen.

[@nr7701]

Agreed. I can see perhaps the sister-in-law not paying for the full price of the dress as long as Daphne is also not be expected to give a gift for the wedding.

[@jacyevans]

Yeah, $200 is far from "pinching pennies," especially when people don't have a lot of money. Daphne was right to be pissed off.

[@DwarfDragonwulf]

@@nr7701 Why should she be expected to give a gift for a wedding she didn't attend? Seriously, she doesn't owe them a gift. Sorry, misread. I've re-read it now.

[@phynixhuhn-simmons90]

You have to see the full story of the last Say Yes to the Dress clip. The bride told her friend, that she has known since childhood, that she wasn’t the maid of honor because she “assumed she knew”. The bride literally told her while they waited to be taken back for the appointment. The girl she did make the maid of honor was antagonizing the friend the whole appointment and throwing it in her face that she didn’t get the role. I definitely felt bad for her and she definitely wasn’t just crying to make it about her.

[@xx528491xx]

Yes! That clip was so out of context! I'm very disappointed someone would cut the video that way and add a title like that! That poor woman was so hurt and treated so badly by those awful 'friends'.

[@solarisjade2292]

It definitely seems like there’s more to it… id be upset too if a supposed “friend” kept throwing something like that in my face, especially if she was still trying to be there for the bride. At some point people are gonna break if theh keep getting shit thrown at them

[@myahbeautiful8779]

Did the show say why the bride did not make the crying one maid of honor??

[@xx528491xx]

@@myahbeautiful8779 The way I remember it was that the bride had two best friends whereas the bride was the only best friend of the crying girl. So the bride picked her other best friend. But that other best friend is a rude person that loved to gloat and rub the situation in the girl's face and the bride loved to be the centre of attention and having two friends fight over her. So the girl was crying because her best friend didn't see her as her best friend, the bride picked a generally rude person over her, the bride told her she wouldn't be maid in honour in front of everyone, and to top it all off, no one cared that she was upset and they made fun of her instead. When she tried to separate herself from the group to have a little cry, they kept following her to rub more salt in the wound.

[@12wer3wer9]

@@xx528491xx I hope this poor woman isn't friends with any of these women anymore, wow!

[@TheSitygurl]

I remember that episode of Say Yes to the Dress where the bridesmaid cried finding out she wasn't the maid of honor. I was so proud of her she cried instead of punching the other bridesmaid.. just think, you realize that the bond you thought you had isn't the bond you actually have. She had to endure the pain of that and constantly be antagonized by the other girl.. she did much better than I would have

[@preciousmcfadden4291]

I saw that one too and I'm like WHY did you wait until the day of the dress fittings?? So rude! I would've been upset too.

[@eleanorcooke7136]

I would've left and talked to the bride after.

[@Buzzbar94]

Charlotte should've showed the clip of the salon owner clapping back on those sorry excuses of friends.

[@TEWMUCH]

They were terrible. The bride seemed to not care. She made the issue by not telling her ahead of time. I hate ppl that make drama.

[@Marilyn2401]

It's staged

[@AJ-qe5xj]

I’m sorry but no one wants to pay $649+ to attend someone else’s wedding, like it’s just not worth it… so many entitled people that expect the extravagant from others

[@Mama_Bear524]

Exactly. As someone who got married: nobody cares about the wedding but the couple 😂 Also, I see it as “the host pays for everything”. If you host something since when is it ok to expect the guests to pay? Especially the wedding party?

[@otterlyawkward912]

Especially when you consider $649 was JUST FOR THE HOTEL. Like that didn't even cover flight or food for the entire trip unless it was an all inclusive. Also, that's per night...we don't know how many nights were they going to be there. If it was a 3 night stay that's $1947 for one person. Nooooo. I feel like if you're going to have an expensive wedding, it's your job to present a breakdown of costs for the wedding party before expecting them to commit. Dear lord.

[@AJ-qe5xj]

@@Mama_Bear524 yes! I barely want to attend weddings when they’re free… no one wants to have to pay money to attend a wedding. Sure guests will often provide a gift, but that’s more so as a congratulations to the couple not a wedding fee! And yes, while your bridal party does often pick up some expenses, as the hosts, the bride and groom should be trying to mitigate those costs as much as possible, not expecting others to fund their wedding and the fund an extravagant honeymoon or items (houses, cars, vacations, etc.) through gifts/donations at the reception. Yes, a wedding day is a huge day for the bride and groom, but it doesn’t mean it has to be for every person that couple knows, is friends with or related to!

[@pistypondue1611]

If you’re having it in a destination that people want to go to, people for sure want to pay to attend a wedding. It’s a time where you and all your friends can go on vacation and have fun! I mentioned in another comment that I went to a wedding in Las Vegas. It was one of the best times of my life even though it was expensive as hell. It just has to be understood by the bride and groom that not everyone will be attending. And gifts shouldn’t be expected at destination weddings.

[@sonyaberry9805]

Yes. I wondered if it was an all inclusive too.

[@kyote1089]

I was MOH at my sister's first wedding. I did ALL MOH duties while I was pregnant... 2 weeks before the wedding, I was demoted to only saying grace... *_BECAUSE I WAS PREGNANT!_* She'd known this fact for 7 mths by then! I'd even paid extra for my dress knowing my situation! As a Christian, I didn't mind saying grace, even though they're atheists, but to be demoted after I'd done everything for them really hurt!

[@fairyspunfibers9098]

Wowwww. Just....wow. 😭 Well, I guess with a sister like that, who needs an enemy?!?

[@jeng8401]

She didn't want you in the wedding photos being big. She is a pretty lousy Sister you got there.

[@AgtWashingtub]

I was given usher duties at my sisters first wedding. Told her after her divorce that I would not be involved in any way (attending or participating) in any further wedding dumbassery she felt she needed. She tried to act like her second wedding was her first, but pretty sure half the guests were at her first one, but she still demanded the full treatment. Didnt go, and wont talk to my family at all anymore as they continued to be toxic alcoholics that I realized I do not need in my life.

[@danielleking262]

Wow, that's awful !!!!!! I am so sorry that happened to you! She sounds like a spoiled little brat.

[@zammymynakersnackstbmoth]

Ida cut her off. That was highly selfish and manipulative of her.

[@MsBlulucky]

I was at a wedding 2 weeks ago (first time for me) and the more bridezilla videos I watch, the more I appreciate the bride (a close friend of mine)! I had to travel for 10 hours to get there, so I had to spend 2 nights in the area and since I'm still in uni, I don't exactly have tons of money to spend on a room - so the bride just invited me to sleep at her parents place for the night before the wedding, which meant I even had the chance to help her into her dress, distract her when she started getting nervous etc.. She's the nicest person ever and I loved spending these special hours with her, especially since we don't see each other very often. The wedding itself was wonderful - the ceremony, the food, the venue, the guests, the music - just chef's kiss!

[@LazyIRanch]

That's wonderful! That's also supposed to be the point of having bridesmaids is for the bride to have help on her big day. You'll cherish those memories forever.

[@wheatgerm1208]

Some brides seem overly obsessed about how the wedding party will look in the photos. Well here's a shocker, ladies: NO ONE wants to look at your pictures. Okay, maybe your mother. As far as the rest of us are concerned, you can display a nice shot or two of the happy couple, stick the rest in an album, and lose it. Don't destroy your friendships for something so shallow that no one cares about but you.

[@Essiggurke-r2h]

BUT INSTAGRAM :D :D

[@navarabellatrixdinivien6791]

I remember that episode where the bride "Kymberly" pulled this. I found it was extremely disrespectful towards her friend and just down right cruel. That no one got the best friend was another really bad part Backstory is, that the now bridesmaid had been friends with the bride for almost two decades (at least over 15 years) since they were kids. The MOH was a newer friend of just a few years. The bridesmaid and the bride had been through everything together growing up and the bridesmaid rightfully assumed she was going to be the MOH because of the bond they shared They bride purposefully waited until that day, to tell them who was going to be the MOH I to this day, find it really distasteful. Not because she chose someone else, but because she avoided that conversation until that point. The poor bridesmaid had no idea and it was really sad to watch this I know this is a TV show and probably not real, but damn, I've been upset about it ever since XD

[@myahbeautiful8779]

Did the show say why the bride did not make the crying one maid of honor??

[@xchrysantha]

Not to mention that the MOH kept antagonizing her through the entire episode, and twisting the situation to make the childhood friend look like an attention-seeking villain while she was the classy friend looking out for the bride. It was disgusting to watch. The childhood friend wasn't being dramatic, you could tell she was genuinely heart broken and crying from her heart.

[@anadubar4819]

In cases like this, the TV producers have to take most of the blame. Most likely they were the ones who persuaded the bride and the new friend to act like this, because they need drama for the show. Which is extra disgusting because the old friend was not just hurt, she was publicly humiliated in front of the TV cameras, so the audience could feed off her tears like vultures. I have worked in TV for 15 years, this is how it works.

[@nicoley8844]

“I was looking for something nice… that was just awful” I’m sure the bride was thinking the same thing about you guys

[@monstermcboo7282]

I think there’s some spotlight-grabbing cattiness going on, out of envy. Look at the bride and look at them. Take as old as time. 😞

[@monstermcboo7282]

*Tale

[@LazyIRanch]

@@monstermcboo7282 My thoughts exactly! That was pure jealousy oozing out of the bridesmaids. I think that bride looked gorgeous, and from what I could see of the dress it was beautiful and flattering to her knock-out figure. I bet if THEY picked the dress, it would be long-sleeves with a turtle-neck and hideous!

[@whatever9929]

@@monstermcboo7282 yes that was pure jealous

[@nicoley8844]

@@monstermcboo7282 I feel like it was partially bc there was a camera

[@meeckeymouse8637]

I watched that say yes to the dress bridesmaids episode. I must say the bride was a bad friend and i can understand why the bridesmade was upset. Her and the bride were bestfriends since 5. The other girl that came in the bathroom judging was the friend from college that got maid of honour ( btw the 2 friends dont get along and they are catty to each other, so she came in thr bathroom to cause issues) The bride knew how her friend would react but waited until they were on tv at the appointment for bridesmaid dresses ( after the consultant asked who the MOH was) to tell someone she called her bff that she wasnt MOH. She embarrased her on national tv. And waited till the last moment to do it, where the MOH shamed her and was rude to her. She was trying to hold it together and walked off to catch herself when she couldnt. This little clip made her look worst than she did.

[@jeng8401]

keep in mind so many of these shows are staged. And for all we know they were all in cahoots to create drama. Since the bride gets a free dress to be on the show.

[@meeckeymouse8637]

@@jeng8401 true it could have been staged. But this was 'Say yes to thr Dress Bridesmaids' so the bride wouldnt get a free dress because it isnt about finding the brides dress. It is all about thr bridesmaid dresses. Also brides on the show still have to pay for their dress, says people that have been on the saw ( they talked about how the show makes you feel forced to buy an expensive dress you might not really like). I dont think any show is giving away millions of dollars in dresses for free. People go on it to be on tv or get an appointment (because the waitlist at that shop is long). You only get the most $500 for being on the show.

[@irisairsoul]

Exactly. The bride waited until the day of the fitting to tell her basically "You mean less to me than I mean to you". She didn't try to comfort her in any way, she let the chosen MOH bully her and cause problems, and she acted as though she didn't understand why she was so upset. She knew she was going to be upset. A good friend would have at least told her in advance that she wouldn't be the MOH so she could come to terms with it while not on camera. The way this was cut wasn't fair to her at all. Because I watched the whole episode, I don't think her "meltdown" was staged. I think they cut a lot and put it together for entertainment purposes (because they made it look like the chosen MOH said something awful to her every time she opened her mouth and the bride seemed uncaring) but the fact that Kymberly didn't tell her until the day of and let her believe all this time that she cared about her more than she actually did shows that the true "zillas" in this was the bride and the chosen MOH. I would have chosen Anita because even at the end of the episode she set aside her feelings and helped choose a dress for her friend's big day where the chosen MOH just kept making it about herself.

[@moyasatterwhite4019]

They all sound awful.

[@madisondean1074]

Agreed! They all sound awful! Except for the girl who was supposed to be the maid of honor.

[@lindapatton4478]

The last story, where the bridesmaid found out she wasn't the MOH and had a meltdown reminded me of my best friend's wedding The bride and I had known each other for years. We occasionally lost touch due to moving cities, but always managed to catch back up at some point. We had agreed since we were teenagers that we would be each other's MOH. I ended up eloping (another story, looking back it was rather stupid) but she understood why and was just happy that I was happy. One day out of the blue I got a wedding invitation. I called her and said, "I don't hear from you for years, didn't even know you had a boyfriend and suddenly I get an invite to a wedding??" She replied "Well, I didn't even GET an invite to yours, so we're even." We both laughed as we each knew the other was joking. I said "oh, do you still want me to be your MOH?' She said she already had someone else that she had become friends with through work. I didn't mind, just happy that she had found someone. Went to the wedding as a guest, was there early so I could see her while she was getting ready and was able to help her get dressed. The wedding was beautiful, and it never bothered me that I wasn't part of the wedding party. We are still good friends to this day.

[@hinnyu7748]

I attended my BFFs wedding not being a MOH. It's fine with us. What did hurt me was giving me the worst table at the reception...

[@pistypondue1611]

Why do think eloping was a stupid decision? Just curious because it’s something I’ve always wanted to do.

[@pistypondue1611]

Why do think eloping was a stupid decision? Just curious because it’s something I’ve always wanted to do.

[@lindapatton4478]

@@pistypondue1611 In my case it was for all the wrong reasons. The tech school we were at had separate housing for men, women, and families. Couldn’t be in opposite sex single housing after 10 pm. (This was in the 80s, different social norms). He had already been there for 3 quarters, and was on his final warning for a different reason. We went out with some friends and I drank too much. Got sick on the way back. He carried me into my room and was making sure I was okay. Was only there 5 minutes, literally about to walk out the door, got busted by monitors. He would have been kicked out of campus housing, making him homeless. So we asked about family housing, said we needed to married and have the license to prove it. So we stood up before a jp and moved into on campus married housing. The worst part was I robbed my mother of seeing her only child get married, as we didn’t tell anyone in either family until after we moved in. I will always regret that part of it. It also set the tone for the marriage. I was always bailing him out of legal trouble up until a few years before he passed. Took me far too long to take off those rose colored glasses.

[@LaShumbraBates]

I didn't get upset when I wasn't moh at my bf's wedding. I already knew she wanted her sister in the role. I, being an introvert with severe anxiety, jumped the gun when she asked me to be an actual "usher". She was telling me she was engaged, and I was so excited, so when she said "will you be....", I just said yes thinking I would be one of the bridesmaids. The biggest problem was that her pastor didn't want anyone coming into the sanctuary after the wedding had already begun, so I had to stand in the hall with the doors shut and telling people they couldn't come in. I'm shocked I didn't have an anxiety attack. By being in the hall, I didn't get to actually see the ceremony. 😔

[@carmenroche1631]

When I told my family I was getting married, the woman of my family started getting out of hand and fighting who's getting what role without asking me. I looked at them and told them I'm done no one is going to be in the wedding and I only had my flower girl and ring boy. I was happy and didn't have to deal with all the drama. Lol

[@M_SC]

Hahahah! My family always starts arguing without consulting me too

[@samantha8268]

I can’t imagine how many lifelong friendships have been broken all because people treat their weddings like they’re gonna be televised and in magazines

[@Birdbike719]

My best friend and her husband (eloped) got married at a local gazebo. A minister friend came on his lunch hour to marry them. I was the "best person". We all went to a lovely Italian restaurant afterwards. The staff gave them a nice dessert acknowledging their special day. They dropped me off at home on the way to their honeymoon. Simple and beautiful. Theyve been married for almost 30 years now. It's about who you love, not the color of your flowers

[@jeng8401]

Social Media has created monsters of people who want bigger flashier glitzier to have pictures to show off. Everything is a photo op now. Hardly anyone does anything simply and quietly now.

[@user-jy3zl2vp4b]

I love that!

[@marcilk7534]

The best wedding I had ever been to, it was held outdoors by a stream. There were no bridesmaids or groomsmen. The small number of guests stood. Prayers were said and the bride and groom took their vows. Near the stream was a small building with a long table in a room. The invitation requested guests bring a dish to pass in lieu of a gift. Everyone went out of their way to make something extra special. We all went inside after the ceremony, grabbed a plate, and worked our way around the table dishing up. There were no decorations. There must have been tables somewhere, but I really don’t remember them. No tablecloth, centerpiece. The wedding was the simplest you can get for a wedding and reception, but it was filled with spirit, and joy, and love. You could truly feel it, and that’s what made it special.

[@Steph_M_L]

This sounds like an introvert’s dream wedding!🥰 I told my mom I wanted a small simple wedding. I will have some decorations though. I love roses and I wanted them everywhere lol!

[@marcilk7534]

@@Steph_M_L That sounds lovely. If I ever marry, I just want immediate family.

[@LaShumbraBates]

@@Steph_M_L I was just thinking the same thing. I'm an introvert with severe anxiety, and would absolutely love this for my wedding or one that I was attending.

[@emmamoose-dragon1110]

That's so lovely! I had a tiny covid wedding with immediate family only, except my sister's boyfriend who took our photos, and we also held it outside in an orchard. The only decorations were the flowers already growing there and it was beautiful. And then we had barbecue and cake delivered to our house for the after party 🥰

[@infinitum8558]

That sounds perfect honestly.

[@zusheen619]

I've always loved how every time an image pops up, your face is photoshopped on it. It always makes me howl with laughter. Thank you Charlotte, truly, for making these videos SPICY.

[@darrenrobinson9041]

The one with horns is becoming a classic.

[@zusheen619]

@@darrenrobinson9041It is, it truly is

[@audreyd859]

I totally agree!! 😆🤣😂😹

[@kelseyregank-drawproductio9510]

So the final episode of Say Yes to the Dress… The crying bridesmaid had been bffs with the bride since grade school and found out at the beginning of that appointment that she wasn’t MOH. Instead the bride’s other friend was appointed. During the entire appointment the MOH was openly mocking the bm whenever the bride wasn’t in hearing shot. BM excused herself to go to the restroom and the girl outside the restroom “trying to calm her down” Was the MOH who’s been tormenting her all day.

[@adreena456]

My best friend’s wedding was lovely, it was in Scotland and all we had to pay for was our own transport there (from England). The bridesmaids were just asked to wear green, it was a lovely occasion and no one argued!

[@Garbeaux.]

The entirety of the UK can fit into 11 states all on their own. Going from England to Scotland is like going from Georgia to South Carolina. Still I get your point as it was a destination wedding. The US and UK share so much in common but our concepts of distance greatly differ.

[@butterflyslinky]

RE: Dropped bridesmaid giving her dress to FSIL: I do think Tara should have paid Daphne back. It was an expensive dress that she wasn't going to use, and it's not unreasonable for her to ask to be reimbursed like she would have been had she returned the dress to the shop.

[@HaengbokSara]

I was thinking the same. If she felt incomfortable asking her future sister in law to pay, she could have paid for it... Else Daphne could have returned it or sold it elsewhere

[@hyde1885]

Yes! At the very least she should have been giving the dress back after the wedding. Then she could have possibly sold it to get some of her money back.

[@pineappleink]

Exactly! Plus as a college student $200 is a lot of money. Even in a higher cost-of-living state that would be a month of groceries for one person. It would go even further for a lower cost-of-living state. I wouldn't have even given her the dress if she didn't pay me for it.

[@cassandramuthleb2486]

I don't understand why Charlotte said this situation was a hard one. The bride was completely in the wrong. The more interesting part is all the people that were going to attend the wedding would have also brought gifts from the registry or given cards with cash. That bride lost more than a friend. She lost out on so much more. I wonder how many of those who skipped the wedding and helped that young lady by giving her the money the would have given the bride and groom have also not given the couple anything since. Just a thought.🥴

[@RoseyVamp]

I don’t get why the new maid of honor wasn’t asked to pay Daphne for the dress? If all the other bridesmaids had to pay for their dresses then it makes no sense why the replacement wouldn’t too

[@DankrumStar]

I always get the impression when brides act like this that their wedding is most likely the peak of their existence, and will be the peak of their marriage. There is nothing to look forward to after.

[@Roxyredshoes]

Since when does agreeing to be in a bridal party mean the bride suddenly owns your soul?? Bridesmaids/groomsmen…even if you say yes, you don’t owe anyone ANYTHING. You don’t have to stay anywhere, pay EVERYTHING, wear anything, look anyway. They do not own you. Repeat: they do not own you.

[@revinaque1342]

Yes!!! If anything, being in the wedding party is already a hassle in and of itself. I was part of wedding parties twice, and the couples paid for our dresses and makeup, and gave us thank you gifts. All we needed to do was show up for the preparations on the day itself, and we weren't even expected to give wedding gifts. Even just the idea of the bridal party paying for their own dresses (which usually have a color scheme or style that the bridesmaid wouldn't wear in everyday life) is insane to me.

[@jenniferburnett2165]

Love this, ppl aren't entitled to anything from you, u give what u give cos u want to ,end of

[@eleannakarra9123]

Please say it louder for the people in the back!!!

[@whocares650]

They do owe you one thing and that is to show up like they said they would. I paid for everything at my wedding and didn't want a Bachelorette party and still had a bridesmaid not show up. Her excuse, she was hungover. I believe her but even so I waisted money on her and had to make a groomsman sit out.

[@saratrice3051]

You know, a bride literally stealing the souls of her bridesmaids would make a great horror movie!

[@rosie288]

My best friend didn’t have a maid of honor at her wedding because all three of us were her best friends. We stood according to height. Loved it.

[@seameology]

Same for me. I was in one wedding. We stood according to height. Her sister was tallest so she was in the MOH position. I was second. I thought it was really cute that her only sister got that.

[@AxllsFly]

Wow. Gave my bridesmaids a choice of dresses. We agreed on floral and said as long as fairly close in style, length. One friend (co-worker who earned same as me) could not afford and so I paid for her dress because I wanted her there. As bride (no parents), I was careful on my costs and saved for my wedding including a little extra. Everything went well. Sadly, 5 years later, friend whom I bought dress for demanded I attend her daughter's wedding insisting I pay for her dress as MOB, a new dress for myself, and pay for two gifts (one for her to give to her daughter and the other for me to give to her daughter). I met her daughter only once years earlier. I declined to pay for her so I was disinvited. No regrets.

[@aditikamble1533]

Ungrateful person.

[@renae9365]

I got married 48 years ago. My hubby and I got married in my mom and dads living room, the cake cost $35.00, and punch around $10.00, were still doing AOK, we had about 30 people…just the people we were closest too.

[@Mama_Bear524]

Because you didn’t get married to be a main character or just for the wedding. You had your priorities right. These ppl just want a show and to be the star. It’s sad really. Your wedding sounded lovely. Congrats on 48 years. I’m almost at 18. Ours was a bit bigger, the traditional hotel type reception but 90 ppl. All direct family members and a few friends. I couldn’t have handled any bigger

[@kylie7780]

Same with my parents. They just signed the papers (in nice attire from Target), and their wedding party was super casual. I have the picture of them cutting the wedding cake while wearing Jeans and Flannel.

[@jeng8401]

if social media was around it may be different with everyone wanting to flex on insta.

[@Zardox2]

Been married twice. Both times I bought the bridesmaids dresses. The second wedding I only had a MOH... no other bridesmaids. So, we went shopping. Found a dress that she loved (and looked FAB). It was on sale, from the prom dept of a major retailer (after prom is a GREAT time to get formal dresses). Here's the kicker... I waited until after we found her dress to chose the wedding colors. That way it would not restrict the dress choice. Royal blue turned out GORGEOUS! WHY do brides/ bridesmaids make this so damned difficult?! It's about sharing a special day with loved ones. It can be beautiful without causing harm.

[@jeng8401]

because everyone wants to be in 'control' and dictate what happens. It should be a joyous day that is usually miserable for most people dragged into it.

[@malaksafa4074]

@@kendallcaminiti-hess2243 my condolences 🙏 to you. I hope your coping well, and that your life is still filled with love of all kinds.

[@cariwaldick4898]

We're on the same page. I let my one attendant choose her own dress, and based my wedding colors on that dress. It was pretty. We were so young, no one could afford to spend a lot of money on expensive outfits.

[@CaseyMarie11-11]

@@kendallcaminiti-hess2243 I'm so sorry for your loss! My best friend who I'd known since 1st grade also died tragically and unexpectedly in October 2016 ❤️ the 11th to be exact. He was a good man and a great father, and absolutely my longest/dearest friend. I'm sure your husband was an amazing man as well 💜 again, I am so very sorry for your loss! Sending love and positive vibes 💕💜💕

[@chetlajackson9060]

That destination wedding was a crazy story. I went to a wedding over a weekend in Jamaica right before Christmas last year. My friend wasn't mad at all that i couldn't afford her hotel, I stayed next door and walked across the beach to hang out with her and the groom. She was grateful as I was the only guest, everyone else backed out due to Covid or thinking it was too expensive. Everyone tried to convince her to cancel her destination wedding and get married in the States. I felt bad for her but encouraged her to go to Jamaica. We had a blast...even though it was just a few days for me, that was all I could afford. They appreciated it still. People need to learn to be more grateful that anyone even wants to celebrate with them.

[@PiraticOctopus]

I’m still eternally grateful that my sister, who by all accounts easily could have been a low-level bridezilla-type, took the approach of “I don’t really care what y’all look like, just do what you feel good with” (and the dresses just had to be in a certain shade, but any full-length style). She was even fine with me wearing flats (I rarely wear heels but chose to for this occasion), and one of the other bridesmaids wore cowboy boots. It was a good time. I really think that’s the best approach to have.

[@MrsMuffin11]

Thats honestly the best way to go. If you want everyone to look their best for your wedding, then you have to allow them to make the choices they are most comfortable with and let them look how they know they will be best. Making everyone wear the exact same thing with same hair and makeup just doesnt turn out as well. I let my girls choose the style dress, wear their own silver jewelry, whichever black shoes they owned (it was an outdoor ceremony in late fall so i told them they could wear boots if they wanted, as long as they were black lol), wear anything over their dresses if they were cold and they could style their hair and makeup any way they wanted. We all looked stunning and the day was absolutely perfect.

[@lisalove6370]

I always thought I would be a bridesmaid at my friend's wedding as I had been friends with both bride and groom for over 10 years. When we talked about it, she informed me that because I am fat I couldn't be a bridesmaid. I still feel bitter about it (25 years later) and our friendship didn't last long after that.

[@ShidachiOm]

What a pity your friend is so limited. A number of my bridesmaids were overweight. I have never understood why that's even a factor, apart from choosing a dress design that will flatter everyone. It's a wedding, not a fashion designer's photoshoot. Her loss.

[@snbproductions5482]

Definitely sucks to not be on the level of friendship you hold for someone else. I was invited to a wedding and this dude was someone I grew up with, considered a brother. I didn’t think much about not hearing about his wedding as he had told me to expect the most non-traditional wedding with no wedding party. Walked into the MOST traditional wedding I’ve ever attended with a huge wedding party filled with ppl I didn’t even know. Really put things into perspective for me, could have been a really simple text but instead I find out at the event, including the bachelor party I wasn’t invited to. Never made a thing about it but it fucking stung like no other. I saw my buddy all of 20 minutes and he was plastered so it really was like I didn’t see him at all. I couldn’t get out of there fast enough. The next day I got a pity invitation to join them but it was far too little too late. I agree it’s all not that important but damn, just didn’t see it coming. Hate how dramatic this sounds but I know myself and our friendship will never be the same again in my eyes. (I am working on level setting my expectations and how I react to things as I do realize the day was not remotely about me but I’m human and it fucking hurt.)

[@CaseyMarie11-11]

That was definitely a dick move from your friend 💯

[@soumeebanerjee8331]

I was a pretty non chalant bride and was a firm believer of 'those who want to attend will attend with one invite, and those who won't, will not be there even if you beg them'. Weddings in our community last over 4 days, the last day being hosted by the groom's family at his hometown. Most of my closest friends were from my husband's hometown since I met them while studying there. They had come to my town for the day of the wedding. I greatly appreciated it since it was a bit of a travel. But no one attended on the 4th day even though it was in their hometown. That day, it was majorly my husband's family and I could have used the support. In hindsight, they were all saving their time off from work for the civil ceremony of another friend in the group, which was within a week of my wedding and not even the main ceremony in our culture. (barring 2 friends), everyone attended that one. I am totally aware of that friend's status as the glue of the group so it was understandable. My husband and I attended her ceremony on a layover to our honeymoon because she means that much to all of us. But 0 out of the bare minimum 5 expected on our date was a tough pill to swallow. One of them, who is a little tough to handle but I have a gift with (😂😉) didn't travel to my hometown for the wedding, and frankly i didn't expect her to. But even for the 4th day, she said it was too far (it was in the same city and she has a car) and since no one else from the group will be there she couldn't come. I was the bride and couldn't be with her the entire time, true, but she couldn't put aside her hypothetical discomfort for a couple of hours to support me. It was kinda onbrand for her, but I somehow expected more cz it was my wedding. Broke my heart even though I didn't think it would. 3 of my friends from the group, who all live in the same city, have gotten married since then and most of the others have attended all 4 days of festivities despite no major change in their financial/ time off status since my wedding. I have attended only the weddings and nothing more, especially the '4th day' ceremonies. Helped that I dont live in the same city and had to fly in and visit my in laws and parents in the same trip. I have since accepted, kinda made peace with and used to my full advantage my status as the 'fringe friend' continuing to wish them all well, like I always have, even if from afar😂😂😂

[@tashika3012]

@@soumeebanerjee8331 4th or last day is usually reception day and it’s usually from grooms side. I won’t show up to my closest bride friend’s reception either if I am not invited for that day. Don’t know if they want me to come unless they ask to. Specially in today’s world when it’s so easy to be called entitled For a multi day wedding, one should send invitation specifying which all functions guest is invited to. You said you believed that ppl would come with 1 invite and don’t have to be begged But it’s not begging when u give them detailed invite as it makes them sure they are invited and not feel awkward

[@soumeebanerjee8331]

@@tashika3012 they had been explicitly invited to the day 4 event by my husband with a separate invite.

[@godiswithyou.5358]

It’s okay that it hurt. That sucks man.

[@I_Am_SciCurious]

I had a beautiful wedding and it cost $4,000 for everything. Bought our dresses at an outlet, had the wedding off-season at a luxury boutique hotel, etc. The hotel had an exclusive restaurant and wedding organizer on staff, so the hotel handled the catering and cake too. The hotel already had flowers everywhere, so all I needed was my bridal bouquet. Our 30 guests absolutely loved it. They felt special in the beautiful hotel with the gorgeous food and a smallish group.

[@cortney3798]

My SIL had her wedding at a GORGEOUS spot about 3 hours away. We arrived at the hotel that they paid for to gift bags for each of us. We got ready and jumped on a coach bus that shuttled us to the event. We were just guests and I felt as important as I did on my own wedding day 😂

[@j.jtilling1722]

I know how the crying bridesmaid felt. My own sister didn't ask me to be any part of her wedding party. Pretty sure it's because I'm disabled these days and she didn't want someone on a walking frame or in a wheelchair on display for "her special day". Although I'm hurt, I wouldn't make a public scene about it.

[@tigersinateahouse]

This sucks though, especially if the motif is ableism which makes it straight up awful. I wouldn't blame you for saying how you feel.

[@janmcguire5268]

I’m so sorry! I can’t even imagine. I was thinking of having a baby when my sister asked me to be her matron-of-honor and she assured me that she didn’t care if I was pregnant at the time of the wedding, no one else could possibly ever take my place and that I was her matron-of-honor no matter what. She is six years younger than me, but we have always been very close. She would not have cared if I was in a wheelchair or a body-cast or whatever. I wasn’t pregnant, but I was the only overweight person in the bridal party. She didn’t care about that, either. I wish you could experience sister love like that. You deserve it!

[@t-and-p]

Oh, that's awful! I'm truly sorry that you were treated like that. Please know that, as much as it hurts, it was well and truly your sister's loss - not yours. One day she'll realise, but I doubt she'll ever admit it. You deserved better and I'm sure that the guests who knew your family all judged her as to why you weren't a part of it... I'm completely with @Jan McGuire on this one. When I got married, I just wanted the people I cared about there. People who want an "Instagram, picture perfect" wedding are just wanting fakery, not reality - not a great basis for a long term relationship... When a good friend of mine got married, I was a bridesmaid and her sister was severely disabled. So she was MoH and I was her assistant, to help her with her duties. We had her dress specially fitted, made accommodations at the venue, and I supported her, ensuring (after lots of conversations in the lead-up between myself, the bride and her sister) that I wasn't stepping on any toes. I helped her with the speech (as it wasn't something she was comfortable doing alone). I did the bulk and she delivered the lines that were important to her - all done at her request. I would've been *mortified* if she'd felt pushed out in any way, and knew the bride felt the same way. I'll never understand people who focus on what disabled people can't do and not what they CAN do. They're still people, still our loved ones, STILL IMPORTANT! You are worth more and you deserved better. This internet stranger is sending you a huge hug and a reminder that you're awesome, regardless of the heartlessness of others 💕 x

[@janmcguire5268]

@@t-and-p How wonderful that you all worked so hard to include and accommodate for someone with a disability! My own flower girl was my husband’s niece, who is intellectually disabled. She was precious and did a beautiful job!

[@t-and-p]

@@janmcguire5268 That's kind of you to say but, honestly, I can't imagine it being any other way. I also send the exact same sentiments back to you! That was a beautiful thing you did for your husband's niece and, I imagine, it was the best possible way to join the family- by accepting all members for who they are and embracing their abilities. This world could do with more awesome people like you 💕

[@xxEvilEmoAngelxx]

So I have a wedding story. Backstory, my mom and this girl’s mom had been friends since high school and me and this girl practically grew up together. Our families were super close for my entire life. We went to each other’s graduations, proms and other big life events when money allowed. We will call her Megan. Megan’s family was wealthier than ours as we had a big family. Well I was in college and found out that she was getting married. I didn’t expect to be a maid of honor as we had kinda grown apart as we got older but I thought she would have at least called to tell me she was getting married. I had to hear secondhand from my mom that she was getting married. She called my mom to tell her and personally invite her. Well my mom of course was upset to find out that not only had Megan not called me but she also didn’t put me in the bridal party and was stating that her oldest friend was her maid of honor, which is technically me as we were in diapers together. My feelings were hurt a bit that she didn’t reach out to me like she did my mom but I was over it. My mom however was not. My mom called her to tell her that she had hurt my feelings by not asking me to be in her bridal party. Then I get a call from Megan. She offers to let me come to the bachelorette party that’s 2 weeks away, which of course I have to work as I am paying for college and can’t go. Then she proceeds to tell me that if I want, she can put me in the pictures with the bridal party, not actually be a bridesmaid, if I buy my own bridesmaid dress, which she provided a link for. But. She leads with, “I found a cheap version of the dress since I know you can’t afford the actual dress.” This of course has me almost in tears but I thank her and tell her I will think about it and let her know if I can do that. She didn’t even originally invite me to the wedding and the only reason she offered to let me be in the photos with the bridal party, is because she loves my mom and my mom was mad at her. Ultimately, I decided that I didn’t want to be in the photos and I really didn’t care to go to the wedding as I needed the extra shift with work. My mom did go to the wedding, and boy did she have plenty to say after the fact. The word she used to describe the wedding was Clusterf*ck. The bride’s mom showed up completely trashed acting wild and making a scene. My mom had to step in to help Megan get ready as her maid of honor and her other bridesmaids were not helping her. The maid of honor also insulted my mom by calling her a lumberjack and a redneck because of where she is from.The wedding started super late because one of her sisters locked herself in the bathroom and wouldn’t come out. She had also made room in her bridal party for both of her sisters to be bridesmaids after they threw a fit to be in the wedding. They divorced after a year. Also, just a side note, the reason we grew apart was because she would barely speak to me but would contact everyone else in my family. My mom and I would go and visit and she would treat me like I didn’t exist. She also threw me on the ground once as a teenager out of nowhere just joking around and I got hurt and instead of apologizing she just said that I needed to toughen up but didn’t say sorry or anything and I just let it go. AITA for not going to the wedding?

[@ananket.3518]

NTA

[@lizzykayOT7]

NTA, and you shouldn't think too much about people like that. She "likes" your mum because she wanted that kindness since her mother sounded like a piece of work. So she was probably really jealous of you actually having affection.

[@godiswithyou.5358]

No, she just did not love you as a friend. Hanging onto people like that is like hugging a cactus. It’s painful. Completely rewardless. And it literally makes so much more sense to just let go .

[@alira9990]

I have been married twice and can say honestly if I added up both weddings and parties afterward the total would be less than $8000. that is dresses, venues, photographers, meals etc. at both after parties we had loads of fun. even at my first when my bride got into a fist fight with a party crasher. but unless Miss Charlotte says yes then I am never getting married again

[@janeguarnera7700]

Laughed when I read your comment...I too was married twice, the costs minimal (a couple grand or so,) very small but fabulous, some intriguing happenings...the 1st, the JP forgot us and when finally tracked down at a community BBQ was well toasted, just the tip, but made the reception the next day all the merrier as we laughed at the many snafus. The 2nd, even more memorable...my papa had reservations about attending, a fella who liked a good party, interesting people, in the end he relented. Watching his reactions to the wide range of attendees, to see him having a great time in spite of his reservations, priceless. And then there were the crashers, a small heard of bulls crashing through the woods 'cross river, loud enough to interrupt the ceremony, but indeed unique. The real and staggering cost came in ending the marriages and so no, will never marry again. It's somewhat sad to see folks with such high expectations, entitlements, go into debt, screw up long held friendships, familial relationships for a days event, half of which will end up in a divorce...live and learn, I suppose.

[@ms.annthropic6341]

I’m with you on marrying Charlotte, so funny and such a babe 😍

[@pearlofthedarkage]

Please send Charlotte the story of the bride vs party crasher (if you're willing). I bet that would be a great video!

[@projectmicky1226]

This is my second wedding I’ve had…and I think maybe 400 bucks. With only $100 on the last one (not including filing fees for paperwork)

[@amberpierce2044]

Only been married once, but our wedding total cost us total $5000, we knew people that owned a chapel, and we also knew people at a really neat Irish pub and it all worked out. My designer dress was from Saks off fifth and out of season, worked out great.

[@aimeeprincessofpower]

A wedding like this is a surefire way to see who your real friends are and see who's the negative people in your life are so you can cut them out

[@evaveronica5222]

This girl who locked herself in the room: I watched this episode. They have known each other from a childhood and were best friends forever and a new bridesmaid was just her co-worker she knew for a year or something? If I remember well. A bride took the girls to choose a dress and then she admitted that her co-worker would be a bridesmaid. So I do not really think that girl overreacted. She reacted as someone really hurt and betrayed actually.

[@katievader7453]

This! And the MOH knew it had upset her and kept pushing and making comments to get her to that point and continued to even afterwards.

[@donnabaker5096]

Terrible friend to do such a thing to her supposed best friend. Why is it so difficult to be just decent ppl? Smh.

[@Handmadesewciety]

I’m so glad you chose to include some Say Yes to the Dress. I went through a period where I obsessively watched every episode on KZbin. Everyone thought I was obsessed with getting married.. no those people on the show were crazy and oh so horrible 🙈😅 a train wreck you can’t look away from

[@rebecculousrk]

This whole thing of expecting others to do ANYTHING for you…it’s the EXPECTATION for me. I was married (1988) at my new brother-in-law’s condo. I got my dress on sale for $300, I paid for my flowers. I was marrying the man I loved, and I invited people to witness our commitment because we wanted to share our happiness with loved ones and I expected nothing more than attendance. I didn’t have a honeymoon-we we’re poor! But the best man gave us a night in a nice hotel as a gift and it was one of the happiest days of my life. These entitles brats make no sense to me, and it often seems that the love, happiness and family togetherness that’s the whole point of a wedding gets totally lost.

[@reniasva]

I watched Charlotte's videos during chemo. She made me and my "neighbour" laugh inappropiately quite often. It was fun tho. I'm fine, I'm through it, wasn't that big of a deal, but seeing people suffering a lot on a nearly daily basis was tough. "Die Kartoffelkönigin", as Charlotte is called in Germany, made two people laugh a lot. Thanks for that!

[@CB-jq6nx]

I feel bad for the last bridesmaid because it seems like she was trying to remove herself from the situation to deal with her disappointment in private, but everyone followed her and made a big spectacle out of it.

[@HaleyJo1992]

Dear lord, you can give your opinion on a dress without being insulting. Something like "That's a pretty dress, but it doesn't accentuate your shoulders and you've always had such gorgeous shoulders" or something to that effect. You can wrap up criticisms in compliments so it is clear your issues are with the clothing, not the person wearing the clothing. People who are "just being honest" just want an excuse to say something mean.

[@Mama_Bear524]

This 100%!!!!!

[@lindalehr1551]

Isn't it funny how people who pride themselves on being "honest" seem to never have an "honest" opinion that compliments someone? 🙄

[@nicolecook6159]

Invited to one of my best friends wedding (in Belgium) so, destination wedding. It was a week long adventure. I was happy to spend the money to go, even though I wasn’t in the wedding. She kindly gave us 2 hotel options, however the less expensive option was the Hilton. I picked my own hotel so that I could still afford to attend the daily events. The entire week I was shaded for not staying at one of the hotels she had chosen. I somehow managed to keep my shit together.

[@waywardgoddess7219]

The hotel one is ABSOLUTELY INSANE! My sister got married at The Bellagio in Vegas last year, and thankfully, the rooms were included in the wedding package. If they weren't, she wouldn't have cared at all where we stayed as long as we made it to the ceremony. Hell she didn't evrn have bridesmaids or groomsmen and the reception was in their suite! It was intimate, relaxing and absolutely beautiful

[@evaveronica5222]

Polish way of wedding: a couple who got married pays for all their guests, including food, hotels, etc. Sometimes it's even like hundred people accommodated and they don't pay at all. It is usually a huge celebration with a live band, photographer and never ending courses of meal and vodka on the tables (no limit). No doubt that a band and a photographer will be fed and they will drink alco, too. On the second day we have post wedding party :))) Normally the wedding ends at 5-6 a.m. and post party starts already at 11 a.m. with a huge dinner (we traditionally drink vodka during the wedding so it's the best way to avoid hangover: eat a lot and drink again!). So basically, it's like 2 days wedding, in some regions 3 days. As I said, the couple pays for all of that, most of guests don't give expensive gifts and the only people who buy very expensive gifts are very close family members, for example parents, grandparents, godfathers, godmother, not even siblings. Right now it is very trendy to ask guests not to buy presents but donate money for a dog shelter or buy some petfood (that is brought to the shelter by a couple). Usually the bride pays for her party a week before, buys alco etc. Girls usually buy some present together and if possible, hire a stripper. Guys just drink and eventually go to a go-go club (if it is a big city). Sometimes a couple organises a party together for few friends a week before. They pay for everything then. There is only one bridesmaid and one best man and we call them "witnesses". They pay for their own clothes and usually a bride doesn't even decide what they need to wear. They can consult but mostly that's it. We dont choose witnesses because they look good. We choose brothers or sisters, or best friends. Most of Polish still did not adapt Western trends, thank god. It's still just uncontrollable drinking party with some fights of drunk guys or passing outs 😁 Just be like Polish though. If you want your friends to be on your wedding, do that because you love them, not because you want to earn the money on them or gain anything what could cross your mind.

[@OrontesRM]

Same in Italy, the guests only pay for the wedding gift, nothing else. If you want them at your 'destination wedding' you have to pay for the whole trip, for every guest, good luck with that. - I would feel ASHAMED to ask for money; I'm serious: these stories have an added layer of cringeworthiness for me...

[@Terrenea]

I think in the last part from "Say yes to the dress", the bridesmaid actually found out at the fitting that she wouldn't be the MOH and that's the reason she couldn't contain herself. The bride and her had been childhood friends while the MOH was someone the bride met at college, but connected well with. At first the boutique staff were baffled by her behaviour but then they kinda understood her when they got the whole story. I think that was how it was if I'm not mixing other instances from SYTtD. 😅

[@cc1526]

If that’s true, I don’t blame the bridesmaid at all. That bride is cold to not only not have her as maid of honor (which I get is her choice but still you know that’s gonna hurt her really bad) but makes it 10x worse by revealing that at the appointment. She was hoping it would contain the drama by doing it in front of a group of people and at an important event which was totally selfish and embarrassing. Bridesmaid has my complete support if your recount of the events is true.

[@fidelianerina]

@@cc1526 My thing is, don't most brides go around asking girls to be their bridesmaid or maid of honor, or maybe it's just something in my state. Clearly she wasn't asked to be the maid of honor, so it should have been clear before hand that she was not the MOH. Also, if this bride had skipped out on asking, it shouldn't really matter how long you have known a person. It should matter who the bride is closest too, or feels could take on the responsibility better. It's possible to meet someone later in life who you connect more to, but that doesn't mean your oldest friendship means nothing. And, I mean i've seen a few girls who would ask siblings over their best friends, and vice versa.

[@bandmonkey101]

Oh my God, I have a story. I was the maid of honor for my sister's wedding a long time ago now. Her best friend was PISSED. Kept making comments the whole day about how she should have been the MOH because my sister was HER MOH. She eventually asked if she could be the witness on their marriage certificate because she deserved to sign since my sister signed hers. Turns out... They only needed one signature and they used my bro-in-law's dad as their witness. The sweet, subtle joy I felt when she was told was incredible. She was like 5 months pregnant at the time and I am very much a pacifist so I definitely was not going to engage but karma had my back.

[@evaboerlage1914]

I am singing in a band and we do a lot of weddings. One time we came into this beautiful location on a little island. When we got inside, the bridal party was eating at a really large table. Dead silence. No one was speaking the WHOLE dinner. So we were worried that this gig would become difficult. It turned out te be ok though. At one point there were people hanging on to the bar en de bride and groom left the venue on highway to hell from ACDC. One of my fellow bandmates went to the maid of honor who was the best friend of the bride, and told her what a great party it was. She answered: "yeah, but i don't think that the bride and I are going to be friends after this". What exactly happened between them, I don't know. But the bride turned out to be a huge bridezilla's and she made everyone's life a living hell during the time she planned her wedding. It explained the silence at the dinner table.

[@thewizardsofthezoo5376]

I don't expect anyone to get into debt for my wedding, and that includes me, in fact. With my wife we decided that the best way of not to divorce was not to get married, so instead of wining and dining all the half brains we know, we put a deposit on a house and we've been together for 16 years, and boys she is a great girl!

[@beaubella2488]

When that group of HENS were picking apart that beautiful young ladies dress I was shocked. The dress was gorgeous, she looked good for just being a fitting, on her wedding day, she would be beautiful in it and all those women sitting around criticizing it and smirking like they were proud that they ruined it for her. Shame on you ladies if you ever come across this video and see yourselves. I hope she ignored them and stuck with her decision. Sometimes ladies your”friends” are really enemies in disguise. Obviously a bunch of single miserable or married miserable, doesn’t matter it was sheer envy showing on their faces.😡

[@LazyIRanch]

Wasn't she stunning? I think that dress was perfect, and she's beautiful. Her friends, not so much. They were clearly jealous and not true friends.

[@zellagrace445]

I hope she replaced all those asshole bridesmaids

[@fairyspunfibers9098]

PREACH IT! That's what *I* said... sheer jealousy! Nasty old cats with their claws out. Hissssss, indeed!

[@addie-eileenpaige6460]

I agree, I thought the bride looked good. As Charlotte said in the video, they could've said it just didn't look like the right fit for the bride, but belittling & BULLYING her is another story.

[@Nekogal21]

That say yes to the dress episode is the reason why I have next to no female friends. I'm sick to death of having other women tear me down and bully me over what I wear and how my body looks

[@0o0eM]

I feel the last one... My "friend" of 10 years, for whom I have always been there when she needed me, got married this weekend. Although I did not expect she would include me (and our mutual friend) into the wedding party, I was shocked when she didn't even bother to send me any invitation, avoided the topic altogether when we asked about date, venue etc. and then suddenly posted a bunch of pictures on facebook but didn't have any decency to block us as she "blocked us" IRL

[@KatieBellino]

I can understand the stickiness of the situation. I had a best friend from elementary school, but was less in contact with her through my college years. If I had gotten married at age 23, one of my college friends might have been the more obvious maid of honor and several others might have gotten bent out of shape that they weren't selected. My friend from my pre-college days still would have been invited into the bridal party, but I might have been more torn about who should be maid of honor. At that point in time, I always thought I might circumvent the issue by just using a few female relatives and simply inviting my friends.

[@DaniBauerTHEGoddess]

I saw the episode that last clip was from. The girl that was crying was the bride's best friend since childhood and the other girl was her friend from college. The friend from college always treated the other friend like dirt and was rude to her during the appointment. Plus, the bride waited until the appointment to tell the childhood friend that she wasn't the maid of honor. They did kind of did her dirty. Plus, the bride wanted the maid of honor to have a different dress from the other bridesmaids and that also kind of set the girl off because they kept selecting really nice dresses for her and dresses that didn't look good on her, while the maid of honor made fun of her and how she looked in the dresses. It was really rude. They did finally come together and and the bride apologized for not telling her sooner and the maid of honor apologized for her behavior and they finally picked a dress that flattered all the bridesmaids. So it worked out. But it was sad.

[@cc1526]

Sounds like fake drama for the camera then cause you definitely don’t just “make up” with someone that’s outright bullying you while your “childhood best friend” stands there and let’s it happen. I would’ve just left. But SYTTD is notorious for that reality tv fake drama so not surprised.

[@Lulaluna603]

Regarding that hotel block that went for a rate over $600, that’s just insane. When we were looking for venues in Miami, the main concern was getting a room block that the guests could afford. We booked three room blocks at three different hotels of different price tiers. Yes, it is YOUR day, but you need to take care of your guests. Feed them good food and find affordable places for them to stay. That said, Miami is expensive, we are from there and we knew it would be pricey for some of our friends from out of town so we did our best to make it affordable for them. I never required my bridesmaids to stay at the hotel where we held the event, but they booked rooms there because it was convenient for them. Some of our guests stayed at AirBnBs. My in-laws hired drivers to get guests to the wedding. It’s YOUR day, but it’s not just about you. You want your day to be filled with love and good vibes, no one attending your wedding needs to walk away from the event in debt.

[@Fireflycolor1]

Weddings are great to know who actually think of you as a friend. About 7 months ago I learned that a friend of mine is getting married this year (Her mother told my mother and my mother told me). We have been friends for 16+ years (since we where 9yo). I knew that she couldn't afford a big wedding but at least I hoped that she would tell me that she was getting married. She never told me and this morning I finally decided to simply congratulate her. Her response was that she couldn't afford to invite me but I could attend if "I whish to" I basically said that I understood and that she doesn't need to worry. Of course I'm not coming to the wedding but at least I know that our friendship is very low in her list. I'm at fault for waiting, but I honestly thought that she would be hyped to tell me (she has told me many times, since we where little, about how she desired her wedding to be like and ask my opinion. Well turns out she doesn't want my opinion for the actual thing 😞).

[@kissit012]

You can have more than one maid of honor. It’s your wedding. Social rules are arbitrary and not as important as they seem. Traditions are just peer pressure from dead people. Do what you want and enjoy yourself

[@scarletonyx8507]

Charlotte laughing at “whortel” made this vid for me 😂

[@suzi_mai]

Hey, I have stayed at a few of those!

[@SusieQ3]

Ok, so I live in East Texas and had an unironic barn wedding. My requirements for my bridesmaids were: wear a blue dress that is flattering, not too expensive, and that you'll want to wear again, and wear boots as it's a barn and there's livestock roaming the property. They all looked absolutely stunning! I wouldn't have had it any other way.

[@missrandom2404]

My friends had a wedding at a hotel and they specifically told us on the invite that they were hoping to get a certain number of guests stay so that they could have the whole place for the weekend. They listed prices and asked everyone to RSVP and confirm if you were coming or coming and staying at the hotel. So simple, almost everyone booked a room (some people shared) and it was the best wedding I've been to.

[@DJTM0315]

I work in a hotel in the Caribbean where we hosted around 300 destination weddings per year (BC= Before Cov*d) and yes, most likely that bride is going to have to pay a penalty fee if she / her wedding guests do not "pick-up" all the rooms/nights she committed to (in case they signed a room block contract), I am actually having this issue right now where a couple is reducing around 60% of their originally contracted rooms/nights and are refusing to pay the penalty which by the way is clearly ESTIPULATED IN THE CONTRACT THEY SIGNED!! #IDontMakeTheRules #ReadWhatYouCommitTo

[@msdeviantdizzy]

I've been on a binge watching those bridal shows (I'm not interested in ever getting married, it's just addicting somehow- the drama!) and they can be brutal. From the overbearing moms to the entitled friends/bridesmaids, it can turn into a clusterf*k of estrogen and tears. Delicious.

[@LaShumbraBates]

I used to be so addicted to those shows, but had to stop watching because the anger I had toward the parents & "friends" at the appointment gave me so much stress. Off topic, I have come to love when someone uses the word "clusterf*ck". I have yet to find a situation for me to properly use it. I'm still waiting. 😂😂

[@ahoward3503]

Yeah, I would say if you want to do blocked rooms, make sure to do so at a place were people can afford. That way not only do people not feel left out, but they can all still be around the rest of the guests. If you can book the nicer rooms/suits for the bridal parties, or even get an air b&b for the bridal party to get ready at .

[@sari-kitty]

The bridesmaid who said that the bride looks like she belongs in a circus has a lot nerve saying that when she's sitting there looking like she belongs in a high school marching band with that hideous jacket on. 😂

[@ProfessorChaosKitty]

I can kind of relate to the last bridesmaid. I wasn't a bridesmaid in this situation, but I discovered one of my best friends wasn't that much of a friend. I had been invited to the hen's night (bachelorette for Muricans/Canadians) and I hadn't received an invite to the wedding. I thought that maybe it had got lost in the post, so I asked when the invites were going out, only to be told I wasn't invited to the wedding! I was pretty hurt by that. If I hadn't been relying on someone else to give me a ride home, I would have just quietly faded into the background and left. I had to sit there the rest of the night listening to the others rave about how they were looking forward to the wedding. I understand that you can't always invite everyone you want to, but if someone isn't invited to the wedding, should you even invite them to the hen's night? It feels really off to me.

[@fairyspunfibers9098]

Yeah, that's waaay off!

[@jeng8401]

And sadly, you were probably only invited to the hen party replacing someone that canceled. I have gone to a few weddings knowing I was just a seat filler for people who canceled last minute. Which I was fine with since I got to enjoy the party. And would bring a small gift.

[@missflowerpower8724]

Please stop saying “Mericans”. It’s insulting!

[@ProfessorChaosKitty]

@@missflowerpower8724 This Strayan apologises unreservedly

[@Essiggurke-r2h]

the thing with "destination weddings" is, that they come out cheaper for the couple.The hotel gives them a really good price for the reception hall, etc. as long as the required number of rooms are booked by their party. So by having a destination wedding they can offload some of the cost onto the guests.

[@caljones]

I remember seeing the “shan’t be attending” tweet.

[@lostshadows768]

I do feel sympathy for the bridesmaid in the last one, since it sounds like the bride didn't bother telling the group who the MoH was until they were literally at the store to pick out dresses. Throw in a camera crew filming everything, I'd probably lock myself in the bathroom to deal with my reaction too.

[@seraphimdagger]

That’s exactly what happened. I remember this episode. Bride has a bunch of friends. sad bridesmaid and bride knew each other since second grade. Mean bridesmaid met bride in hs. Sad thought she was the moh. It was at the shop on camera that bride says sad is not moh and sad “should have already known”. Mean really rubbed it in. Bride half assed her apology. Everyone made fun of sad’s dress choices. I hated this bride. Wished better for sad because she deserved better friends instead of that toxic bs

[@xxdeviousv2]

@@seraphimdagger I remember wanting to slap the chosen MoH. She was horrible!

[@CynAnne1]

@@xxdeviousv2 - Bridezilla's 'karma' is coming...hopefully, Sad MoH will be there to see it happen. "Ooh, so sorry, bestie...that *must* be a real bummer!" 😏

[@alinaadkins80]

I would give anything to be a guest at my best friend wedding rather than MoH or even bridesmaid. Who on earth considers that time, effort, high school drama and financial resources as a fun job ?!

[@McFizzie_67]

My Step-Mom and sister used to love Say Yes to the Dress, and we watched the episode of the bride being put down by her “friends” she , objectively, had the best body out of all of them and she rocked every dress. Every dress she tried on they were super rude, and you can even see it in that one bridesmaids smile that they were enjoying tearing down a beautiful girls confidence. Lori the owner gave them a super stern talking to, almost kicking them out, while the bride was crying in the fitting rooms the other consultants railed the bride to try on her favourite dress again, she looked amazing and she did end up getting her favourite dress.

[@stephaniekern603]

"I'm in the bridal party and had to stay at the hotel she picked." No, no, no! When my cousin got married, I as well as other members of the bridal party stayed in different hotels. Since there were a lot of hotels in the area, she was totally cool with that. All she asked is that we were at least within driving distance.

[@londonsmoker]

why don't these bridezillas simply hire a bunch of models for their weddings and be done with it.

[@Mama_Bear524]

Seriously!!

[@fairyspunfibers9098]

Brilliant notion!

[@riakun]

I remember watching that episode of Say Yes to the Dress where the bride got bullied by her entourage. I legit had to get up and leave the room and I told my cousin (who was watching with me) to tell me when she chose her dress. I was legit so angry with her "friends", but I believe she found a beautiful dress in the end (I could be wrong tho)

[@librarianontheloose]

She did but I think that was the one where the guy who worked at the dress place basically gave the wedding party a dressing down and said they'd better love the next thing she came out in. That one was awful.

[@deek6115]

All these "wedding gone wrong" videos make me SO relieved that my hubby & i got OUT of the Wedding Video & Photography business. 🤣🤣 THANK YOU CHARLOTTE 💞

[@PastelAmulet]

When I got married 10 years ago, my (now ex-husband) refused to have friends, so he had no groomsmen. I really pushed it with having three bridesmaids. Well, one friend got very angry I didn't choose her as one of them (we weren't THAT close, ever... She used to not even like me.) So while I was totally unaware, she started planning and funding a pricy local bachelorette party plus other things, and basically I found out that in her spite, she was trying to do stuff so I'd feel GUILTED into adding her to the wedding party. She legit was trying to make me feel indebted to her. Y'all, I'm poor. I was 20. My mom had total control of my wedding. I didn't need this. So yeah that wedding sucked and if I ever marry again, it's a tiny event with no BM/GM.

[@jemase7931]

The best solution I ever saw for a bride who had 3 sisters and 1 SIL all fighting over who should be Maid of Honor was the bride asking her only living great grandmother (in her late 90's) to be Matron of Honor. No one dared to say a word of objection and the old lady had a great time at the last large family gathering she ever attended.

[@theasinclaire52]

Her cousin DOESN'T deserve her! She's beautiful!

[@dieterkoch6563]

These Bridezilla clips are obviously the goose that laid the golden egg for you! Congratulations girl-you deserve it!

[@TheScarlettrouge]

One of my good friends got married in 2019. He and his fiancée booked room blocks at a hotel a few blocks away from their venue. At the time, I was working as an admin for a vacation club, I got a 40% discount when I would stay at a partner hotel. My friend was perfectly fine with me doing that. And I was just a guest. I was a bridesmaid in another friend’s wedding in 2017. When the bridal party went to pick out bridesmaid dresses, each of us were tasked to pick out Top 3 dresses to try on. The one I fell in love with had POCKETS!! Unfortunately, I was overruled 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Donna-qt1ot]

Evie Winchester, who says no to a dress with pockets? You must rethink these friends of yours or the taste in friends the bride must have. Disgraceful!!! 🤔😅😅😅😅😅

[@KellyDVance]

That very first video with the awful "friends" made me think of when I went dress shopping for my wedding. It was my mom and two of my bridesmaids, Sarah and Linda (the third couldn't make it). I tried on a dress, and I knew it was NOT the one. I looked like the bride version of the Queen of Hearts from Alice in Wonderland. It was bad. But I had to show them (the sales lady understood that it wasn't the dress but thought my plan was funny). So I come out acting like I live the dress and there is my mom and Sarah trying to politely hide their horror. Then Linda comes around the corner from the restroom and just blurts out "Oh Hell No!" and then stutters into, "I mean... Um.." by this point I am laughing so hard I'm crying. The palpable relief on all their faces. Probably my favorite part of the wedding planning.

[@funkycacahuete2933]

$200 isn’t pinching pennies for a lot of people. Where I’m from in southern Indiana, you can rent a two story house with a fenced in backyard for $750, there are still jobs that pay $10 or less per hour. $200 can make or break people living paycheck to paycheck.

[@lh6784]

I am so glad that I don't keep petty women in my life and therefore will never be part of a bridezilla wedding.

[@kmajors]

I am always floored by the brides and grooms that think their friends and family are OBLIGATED to participate in these events. When the couple are asking for participants in THEIR event they should list the anticipated costs and requirements for the wedding party. Then the potential participants can make an informed decision on participation. When I got married WE paid for the bridesmaid dresses, rented, and the groomsman, rented Tux or uniforms. We covered food and lodging. Everything was very low drama and we even had a destination wedding for the bridal party. Many of these people are more concerned with the wedding and not the marriage.

[@ambervanbrogen3172]

Weddings are a big deal! They should be celebrated! But there is nothing celebratory about being mean, judgemental, or batshit crazy! Let's all remember to celebrate love.

[@joanneliguari1790]

I always think that every time I see one of these. These people don’t realize that after the wedding is over it’s not a big deal anymore. You hardly remember it and I think I’ve looked at my photos maybe once or twice in the last 15 years.

[@courtneygreen1902]

Weddings are only a big deal to the people getting married. At the end of the day the marriage is what is worth Celebrating! The wedding is just an excuse to have a party, that often times the people throwing said event can't afford. Lol

[@WaningGibbous]

Weddings are a stupid waste of money.

[@joanneliguari1790]

@@WaningGibbous I don’t think they are a waste of money if you have the money. But you shouldn’t use your life savings or take out loans you can’t pay to have one. Just have whatever is within your means.

[@ambervanbrogen3172]

@@caseybarnes4221 you're so right!!

[@NB79032]

I love that when you make a mistake, like calling it a hortel, you leave it in. We all make silly mistakes like that and it shows that you're human. Keep it up! ❤️

[@lovepilie]

13:35 awww that happened to me as well. Ended up not being in the wedding party when I thought bride was my best friend. Bride said it was because of budget, so I sucked it up, but when my car broke down at City Hall, I was dragged into the wedding party by her family and other friends who KNEW me, to get some fixing. They were dumbstruck when they found out I was only a regular guest, and that felt quite reassuring TBH. But the hurt of seeing an allegedly former friend of hers, at the bridal table, was deep. It took me years to realize that I got ousted because I became single while the friend brought back from the trash got fianced and had a kid. Dodged a bullet in the long run I guess?

[@christinamann3640]

Damn right you did. As the British say, ‘in the bin’ with her, because she’s trash

[@cndygrlsb]

i remember watching that last episode. they were actually being so mean to the woman AFTER telling her she wasn't the maid of honor right before showing up. i felt so bad for her.

[@gilded_lady]

The hotel story: absolutely NTA. My first thought went straight to "she needs the room booked to get something free." Also what kind of AH books a room block at a hotel with a $700 night room rate?! That's asking people to not come unless you're a 1% The dress story: that bride was shitty for a) picking a dress one of her bridal party members specifically felt uncomfortable in and b) not returning the money. Bridesmaid should have taken her to small claims court. The last story: that bride is at fault for not telling her friend she wasn't MOH, especially since she likely knew that the other gal considered her a best friend even if she didn't feel the same.

[@AromaBlue]

The last situation is an episode of SYTD Bridesmades. The bride told Ashleigh, her friend from elementary, that Kimberly was going to be MOH. Kimberly then proceeded to bully her through the appointment while the bride watched and smiled. She didn't lose it. She was hurt and bullied. Kimberly and the rest of the bridesmaids proceeded to be "nice" after the consultants said something.

[@eleanorcooke7136]

You got your names mixed up. Kimberly was the bride the upset bridesmaid was Anita and the mean MOH was Ashleigh.

[@AromaBlue]

@@eleanorcooke7136 Thank you

[@nanas7399]

Remember the Say Yes to the Dress episode for that last story. The bridesmaid crying was basically ambushed by the MOH and bride completely ignored her. Felt super bad watching it even though having your meltdown at someone else's wedding dress appointment was not great timing.

[@teambtm]

My best friend (at the time) and I met at University. She called me to say she and her boyfriend were getting married and I was wondering who out of myself and her best friend from childhood would be the Maid of Honour and who would be just one of the bridesmaids. I was the closest to her now, but she'd been friends with her previous best friend longer. Either way, I'd be happy for her. So as she described to me the proposal and plans for the wedding, I waited to see what she'd ask me to be. I found out soon enough - she'd asked her previous best friend to be the Maid of Honour, and her friend had replied she would but only if I wasn't invited to the wedding at all, because she didn't like me. I knew she was jealous of our friendship but hadn't realised she felt that strongly! My "best friend" agreed to not invite me in order to "keep the peace". We had one more conversation after that, full of awkward silence and the unspoken realisation that our friendship was over, and have never seen each other since.

[@fairyspunfibers9098]

WOWWWW. Another weakling "bestie" who lets others dictate who she can like/dislike! Whatizzis, Jr. High?!? Wow! I keep saying this (gee, wonder why?!), but.... With "friends" like *that* who the hell needs enemies!?

[@sharikurzh732]

Charlotte - I must admit that you made me laugh out loud for a reason that you probably didn't even realize! When you were reading the story about Daphne and Tara, it had the initials FSIL, and you kept saying "Future Son-in-law", I'm pretty sure it meant "Future Sister-in-law"!! It probably would have been a little hard for a guy to wear a strapless dress! 🤣 Love You and your Channel! 😊 💜

[@fairyspunfibers9098]

LOL! I was yelling at her, "NO, Char! It's SISTER in law!" 😅 She didn't hear me, though. 😁

[@suzt7076]

Me too!

[@aimeeprincessofpower]

The girl whose cousin said she was too fat she's not fat she's short and has big ta ta 's but if you look at her picture she's not fat or grossly obese people have unreal expectations

[@heatherdontcare]

Lol....FSIL=Future Sister In Law! It'd be oretty crazy if she was getting a son-in-law out of her marriage and he wanted the dress! 😂

[@selindafloss]

The one Say Yes to the Dress clip with the crying bridesmaid - the entire episode was a train wreck, and the bridesmaid didn’t find out who the maid of honor was until the bride told told the lady helping them find dresses - everyone in the wedding party knew except her… they all kept it from her…

[@monus782]

These posts have given me the impression that it’s on weddings that some people will show their true colors and are willing to burn decades long friendships to the ground for a fancy ceremony, I guess it was worth it for them.