HAS TIPPING CULTURE REALLY GOTTEN OUT OF HAND? OR... | Brittney Gray

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Briiitttnnney, what do I have to do to get you to reupload the video you had from FOREVER ago about breakups/relationships ☹️ it helped me so much and I need it again!

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Girl please upload more often ❤

[@BrittneyGray]

Girl. I’m trying! 😭 My life is a hectic hot mess currently. But I’ll pull through and create as much context as I can. 🫶🏼🫶🏼

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Come back to KZbin!!! 🩷💕

[@arijustine1899]

Glad to see you back sis. ❤❤❤

[@BrittneyGray]

Thank you! 🤗

[@hopemcgettigan2948]

Hair stylist definitely get tips we make people look and feel fantastic ❤❤❤

[@katsato3118]

I was born in 81. Up until about 2010 between Virginia, Georgia, New York and Ohio the only people i saw in my first nearly 30 years of life were wait staff, pizza delivery guys and gas attendants that pumped your gas AND washed your windows. Post that somehow hair salons got thrown in. I was a vet technician and a groomer and it would be so weird for me to expect a tip for doung my job giving Fifi who wants to eat me that poodle cut. Then came Starbucks, chipotle, doordash etc and COVID and suddenly a sense of entitlement was hatched for jobs that people chose to take because they could be there own boss. I hate the expectation for every little thing down to the donation pop ups at the gas station. This isn't the norm i grew up with. But i do because i want good service and i don't want my uber rating to dip or food order spit in or trashed, and tracking what i spend on tips a month i could be making another car payment. It's literally laziness and entitlement. My own son in college chooses to doordash and refuses orders with low to no tips and i disagree with it because he can get a regular job still living at home expense free (thats a whole other issue). Whereas i paid my way through college and worked two jobs living on my own snd raising a baby no family no assistance because i made too much and paying for school wasnt a bill. This was also during a recession, i don't accept excuses. You want to be paid better, get an education, further your trade, be your own boss (not uber) and be worthy of the pay you expect.

[@simplicityisgoldd]

When I used to get my lashes done during my minimum wage days, an extra $10-20 would make a difference to my pocket so I used to find other ways to show my appreciation in addition to a small tip. I knew what my lash lady's favourite fruits, snacks, drinks were and made sure I always brought one of those to my appointment. It's also a little more personal and catered for someone who is already doing the catering and providing a personal service. Depending on the person that can be more meaningful than an extra $10-20.

[@BrittneyGray]

I love this idea!! Very thoughtful. 🫶🏼

[@AboutBritney]

I literally just did a janky live about this topic lol. If someone lives off tips (servers, gig industry) you should tip or don't use the service. If you're in an industry where you can set your own prices, you should not EXPECT a tip. I've become ruthless with saying no to the drive thru scams.

[@jadesimone_]

i be hitting that NO TIP button then look directly in their face while smiling saying thank you & have a great day😂😂 (fast food/coffee places etc)

[@Asthepersianssay]

Maybe for some places but some service people deserve a tip sometimes. I remember working for a take out place that would make their employees slave away in 90 degree weather, get absolute no break and work over time without pay and at the end of the week, we wouldn’t even get paid for the full time we were at work. Until employers step up and start treating employees properly, I’ll always tip.

[@leblanchairstudio]

Can we get a day in the life of a hairdresser vlog?

[@tiarabrown9291]

The only person I really have NO problem tipping is my hairdresser. She does a good job and I trust her to mix up color/cut my toddlers' hair (NOT an easy task cutting a 1 year-old boy's hair or a 4-year-old's), and I am fine doing that. It's fast food places that are completely ridiculous. I also hate that so many places (like takeout pizza) ask for the tip BEFORE you receive the service.

[@metalkingtohorses]

when i bartended they wanted us to split tips but thats not fair because if i hussle and this other person is lazy why should they get half my tip, its to improve service

[@Vdukes907]

I think the hard part at certain restaurants they keep increasing their automated tip buttons to 18, 20, 25%. Which is expecting a higher tip. Again happy to usually custom and tip 15% at restaurants, but it just feels like they expect you to click those even if they just stand a counter. This tipping this is also coming a big convo in the tattoo industry.

[@happytrails699]

I stopped going to Starbucks specifically for that reason or I use the app to avoid it

[@-alyssa-marie-]

Sadly, baristas make minimum wage and many people don’t tip

[@BrownieMiyamoto]

@@-alyssa-marie-That’s the companies responsibility not mine.

[@hellokittydoll2794]

Okay, so I think tipping professions who do not automatically make minimum wage should be made a priority for tipping like a server in a restaurant or stripper/dancer in a club. I honestly don't like that tipping hairdressers is a thing. I always tip my hairdresser of course no matter what, but for the ones who set their own prices. . .you should be charging enough to pay yourself imo. Like if you're charging hundreds of dollars already to get a particular hair service done. . .just charge enough money in the first place to pay yourself. I just hate how tipping culture has gotten so out of control that now the public doesnt want to tip the people who RELY on tips to make their money.

[@wanda9580]

It has absolutely gotten out of hand !! No tipping at Starbucks

[@irrittt]

I live in the UK and I feel I can afford to tip, which sometimes surprises ppl. My local hair salon hasn’t increased their prices for haircuts and I sense the owner (who is a very stressed, uptight-looking woman) feels the pressure or keep her prices low to not lose clients. My last haircut was £25 which is SO cheap, I tipped my hairdresser £5 and she was pleasantly surprised, she was pleased (not normal to tip in the UK). I really feel for the business owners who feel the pressure to not increase prices out of fear of losing clients, times are hard and I try to tip when I can in restaurants & food delivery cuz I feel for these ppl.

[@victoriarrrr]

as a past server it depends on the state. in my state we only got paid like 2.13 an hour and only relied on tips so always always tip your servers!!!

[@irrittt]

$2.13?! 🤯

[@soulovelee_2433]

Well that's on you if you agree to such a low wage...

[@victoriarrrr]

@@soulovelee_2433 I think restaurants should definitely pay server staff a hourly wage but they don't and rely on tips that's just how it is

[@marliseisrael3017]

​@@soulovelee_2433agreed ..why complain or shame if you took the job knowing the pay

[@MegaCityOne]

Realizing I been subscribed to you since Bush was President. You deserve a tip !

[@BrittneyGray]

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[@soulovelee_2433]

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[@kevingregory333]

ME TOOO

[@gretahudson8558]

I agree, if it’s self service I’m tipping myself and keeping my money! I don’t think drive through, and even places where you placed an order to go and are picking it up yourself you should be asked for a tip. I’ve always tipped hairstylist, restaurant staff, and actual service workers when I’m actually being provided a service, extra when it’s quality service. Also, beware of places that already include the tip on your bill and ask for an additional tip!

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[@BrittneyGray]

Wow, thank you!

[@davidnorris8852]

Thanx B. Always love your content

[@DianneDarling]

I was told by an owner of a business years ago when I tried to tip her that you NEVER tip the owner of a business. She would not accept tips. I always have had that in my head, I even asked friends and family and they all said the same thing. But how do you handle that today? Especially with small businesses like lash techs, or even hair stylist where they might work alone in a suite so technically they are the business owner. I would feel weird not tipping them, do they expect to get tipped? Is the not tipping an owner of a business not a thing anymore??

[@marliseisrael3017]

It's a shame that a business owner would expect to be tipped....

[@marliseisrael3017]

I believe those who have to pay rent for a booth should get a tip, but for a business owner to ask for it really shows low class. And the tipper decides the amount period and they should not be treated less than or more than depending on the amount given.

[@Crimson11100]

I pay £50 for a cut and blow dry, I can't tip my hairdresser. She is actually kind enough to give me discounts on hair masks and olaplex if I book for extras, because I'm a regular.

[@jaynah.2124]

Yes its absolutely out of hand. I stopped tipping at drive thrus, when i do my own food pick ups and coffee places. Especially when they arent even nice when i would show up to get my stuff. And before i quit tipping, they didnt even acknowledge the tip itself! No smile or thank you. It was just expected and it felt so gross. They hardly even say goodbye to you anymore. So i stopped tipping them and feel a hell of a lot better about it. (I was a waitress for 3+ years and have done hair for 13 years. Everything i charge goes into my pocket so if im not tipped, oh well doesnt hurt too bad. Youre right about those suger mama clients though lol.)

[@raelindashoates975]

Yeah tipping culture has been way out of hand for some time now. I think tipping should just be reserved for waiters/waitresses, hair salons/nail salons, etc but anything else is overkill. Why am i tipping at a drive through or order pick up? They're doing their bare minimum! i refuse to tip for anything less.

[@banggo99]

Hi Brittney what are your thoughts on the unbrush brush?

[@chellese4911]

Etiquette says to tip service workers but not business owners. For things like hair and nails, I generally still do, but I don't think it should be expected when you set your own prices.

[@marliseisrael3017]

Truth on setting own prices and they do, so they are double tipping

[@marliseisrael3017]

Telling someone to stay home unless they can tip...i don't even have words for her...maybe need a wake up call...when people just stop coming to get her services

[@brittnaywarfel6198]

I’m a server in PA. I make $2.83 an hour technically, however I never actually see those paychecks because of taxes. I have to tip out the hostess/busser .025% of my SALES and the bartender .005% So, if I have table come in and they don’t tip me, I’m actually losing money serving that table because I still owe the hostess and bartender regardless. Some nights my tip out to the hostess is over $40. In most restaurants the servers have to tip out the hosts and bartenders at the end of the night. It’s not special to the restaurant I work at. It’s so that the restaurant itself can pay the hostess less per hour and the servers provide the rest of the hostess wage.

[@ceeze9923]

I haven’t seen your videos in while. Many blessings

[@gisellenight699]

Everyone should just charge what they are worth which would be the base & any tips should just be a bonus not something u expect. I've worked doing delivery services & I treated everyones food the same & their groceries & even made conversations on the app cus it was fun for me & guess what if people didn't tip me at the beginning they definitely did once they got their order, if anything they would even add a bigger tip without me even asking. It's just not nice to demand something out of someone when it's should be their choice to be generous & not because they have too.

[@marliseisrael3017]

Self entitlement is the problem snd arrogance

[@kristinaerickson2353]

I think 20% for service industry people. Bartenders, servers, hairstylists, delivery, or taxis. A buck or two on coffee or takeout. Nothing if I'm getting it at a counter. Ie Papa Murphys. 15-25% is wild for that. Maybe a little if I had a big order. Other service providers like tattoo artists I base it on how I feel after the service. Id expect your price to be what you need to make off my business. Ill give extra because I'm extra happy.

[@metalkingtohorses]

i agree

[@lydiajohnson3592]

Waiters are not paid minimum wage, so they count on tips for a living wage. I don't know if any other service workers don't get minimum wage. Bearing this in mind, I think we should tip service workers, although it would be better just to pay them minimum wage or more. But I do object to tipping for take out or drive through orders. Why should we pay someone just for doing their job but not really serving us?

[@lydiathompson8618]

Tipping is insane, I agree. But even minimum wage at like Starbucks isn't actually a livable minimum wage. I don't think it's the consumer's responsibility, however.

[@Vasilia4]

*I am European and when I visited NY I got my hair done for $350. When I handed the cash at the counter, the owner asked how much I was going to tip. I was so confused. Like... I just paid a crazy amount already. Don't you pay your employees a living wage? I just gave her $5 and got the nastiest look ever. Oh and the result was awful*

[@MariaPetalcorin]

I’m originally from the US but live in Japan where the service is impeccable and tipping just is not part of the culture. The price is the price. So glad to leave the tipping culture behind. I think it’s a messed up part of the US culture. Why not just charge what you want to be paid?

[@kellylyons1038]

My new salon doesnt even ask for a tip. They just have the card on file so im not even given the touchscreen thing that auto asks for a tip. I always feel weird, should i offer to tip? Their prices are low so i dont think they've like built a tip price in.

[@suzymentzos1]

I also think we all want to be successful in what we do and yes we want money!! If you are a business owner you deserve to make it. No shaming for the rich! ❤ If you got money be proud, just make sure to give back. ❤❤😊

[@Satamatos]

Yes it is a very American thing. We don’t do it here I’m the UK

[@marliseisrael3017]

Those in the service industry have no business telling anyone who tips..how mich they should tip ...

[@SmileyExtra]

I tip service workers (server, car getting car detailed, pet grooming) etc. but I’m not tipping you through a drive through, for making me a smoothie and etc because they don’t operate off tips

[@LeanneLjk]

When I was a teen waitress my tips saved up helped me to pay to work and travel Australia. When I go to a restaurant I always tip because I remember how much tips helped me. Tipping seems really rare in England these days. "My sugar mummas let it rain on me" 💛😂💜

[@WarmProp]

Tipping is a second world practice.

[@AlexandryiaJae]

So here’s my issue with tipping. I think there is a difference between servers and hair stylists and barbers. Servers don’t set their own prices. They literally cannot survive on wages alone. However, other service providers make their own prices. I’m already being charged the price you decided was enough for the service. So why do I have to tip?? Now, I follow this up with I have had the same hair stylist in Houston since I moved here 4 years ago. Love my girl and I tip her WELL! But still sometimes I do feel like why? And right now funds are tight and my hair always turns out great when I do it myself.

[@leblanchairstudio]

You do not have to tip, but it is nice that you do, everything has gone up even products for the salon. Not to mention overhead and if they are on commission they do not get all their money. I’m in the hair industry and it’s nice to get tipped.

[@kevingregory333]

And also here's my two cents. As a hairdresser over 22 years the last 3. The price of Professional Hair color has not doubled but Trippeled plus a few dollars more...That's just color.... Don't forget, peroxide, foils, bleach, Professional Insurance, the light bill the electric the garbage . And also don't forget the taxes..😢 everything is super expensive now for everybody let's just all pick and choose your battles

[@marliseisrael3017]

Couldn't have said it better.

[@suzymentzos1]

Yes it’s gotten out of hand but… always tip your hairdresser, nail and lash person, waitress and driver.

[@RaelynnG]

If they raise the pay, they will raise the cost of everything. Making the raise not worth it for anyone. Lowering oir taxes and cutting inflation is what would help. Also, people working for the tip, rather than expecting one.

[@Psycho_cat1]

In my country we only tip waitresses. And its only 10%.

[@ballerman22345]

I want to move there

[@kvhowells]

Everyone is asking for tips now …..and it’s ridiculous! I will always tip for obvious places ….like servers ,hairdressers, nails…..cab…..

[@SilVia-hs2kb]

A lot of people also don't know who to tip and the difference between service jobs and other fields. So often, i hear and i read Teachers and nurses complain that they don't get tipped LOL. Nurses are in the medical field, not in the service industry it would be a conflict of interest having a patient tip a nurse for better care than another patient ( that's what it would ultimately lead to). Here in the USA we don't need to muck up the whole medical system more than what it already is. The teacher is also not servicing students, they are more often than not employed by the government paid with our tax money, and most get better benefits than what the taxpayers that pay their salaries have,and will get better pensions that those same tax payers, they want a tip too? LOL At the end of the day, the people that whine about tipping are mostly people struggling to pay for that service. If getting my hair done, or having a meal out was getting so tight i had to count the dollars of the tip, or not tip at all i would rather not do it at all until i could afford it.

[@AlexandryiaJae]

I’m a nurse. NEVER heard a nurse say they don’t get tipped. We can’t take money from patients. Odd.

[@SilVia-hs2kb]

@@AlexandryiaJae where did i write ALL nurses say it?

[@paigehibbert2028]

A lot of time, tipping is not necessary. I absolutely believe that we should tip servers in America because they only make their money on tips. I also tip people who service certain jobs like hair, nails, etc. IF they don't own their own business because I know that they are working for someone who sets their pay for them. But I also have services done by people who own their own business and I expect them to price their services as they need to and I trust that they are not relying on tips. I tip sometimes but I don't feel that there should be pressure there because they are setting their own prices. I hope that makes sense. But yes, this is a very American problem.

[@soulovelee_2433]

I live in Europe and yes in my country ppl tip the usual suspects- waiters, taxi drivers, hairdressers, but only about 2-10 Euros. And I would never tip where I don't sit down and get actual service. I don't tip a person for actually following their basic job description. Also I noticed on videos that a lot of ppl get more in tips a day than I make at my job in 3 days- so no, I won't get bullied out of my hard earned money 😂

[@glorial.5461]

I knew it had gotten out a hand when I went to a Yogurtland and the iPad asked me if I wanted to tip 😭😭😭 I SERVED MYSELF!!

[@mamihlapinatapai17]

Here's the thing, if you don't want to tip then don't! Servers turn the screen your way and say "it'll ask you a couple questions" so that you can click no tip without them seeing and so you don't feel pressured! Tip jars are nice but they get stolen pretty frequently and a lot of the time people who want to tip don't have cash! Also coffee shops have started advertising jobs with tips included in the pay. They'll say $18/hr but it's actually $15/hr and the extra $3 is if you get tips which sucks

[@LoveLunaFam]

I always tip for takeout orders because the waitress who gets your order together is still only making three dollars an hour and most of the time isn’t getting any tables. She’s usually just getting takeout orders so she’s not making any money and busting her buns for nothing. But I don’t tip at drive-through. But I do tip my hairdresser, and she’s my sister.

[@namoraxo]

People are lacking DISCERNMENT. Professional service providers and servers deserve gratuity/tip 💯 for good service and it’s okay to not patron services if you can’t afford the fees and to tip. I think it’s sort of childish to complain about how expensive things have gotten when ultimately it’s a choice people get to make on how to spend their money. I agree tipping has gotten out of control when it comes to non professional services…any place where you need to order at a counter and then pick up your food at said counter is not getting a tip from me personally but I rarely even patron those kinds of places and I don’t spend money on things I can do for myself like DoorDash and Uber eats.

[@alesavokin3635]

So should I tip if girl has her own place and charges really pricey.. like sometimes I pay almost 400 plus tip 😳 I feel guilty .. Virginia state

[@Marci82]

I am a little disappointed you didn't swear at us...😂 I digress. Yes, it has. I always tip SERVICE people i.e. my stylist, lash and nail tech and wax lady. I have a special place in my heart for waitresses and will give a $10 tip on a $20 meal. But what I won't do is tip a fast food place or grocery store (they will ask if you want to round up to the nearest cent). 🙄

[@ashleysalazar2012]

I think if anyone is working somewhere that they rely on tips or are going to have an attitude when they don't get one then consider working somewhere else. I worked in restaurants when I was young, I relied on tips. But no one HAS to do anything. They have to pay the bill for their food, that's it. It's the entitlement that is a big reason people are done with tipping. A lot of these establishments get away with paying their workers pennies and the customers are paying their "salary". I mean essentially everyone working is doing a service, I think them paying should suffice. When I worked in service, I did well, if I didn't then I wouldn't do it, I had a lot of bills. I've also worked restaurants that were slow and left. This complaining thing everyone does today is so annoying. These services where people pay a couple hundred dollars and then a tip, I think the consumers are trying to say maybe the price should decrease if I have to tip. And for people saying well then don't go get a service, well the same could be said about the person doing the service, work somewhere else. Personally, I don't get services done and my husband and I are picky and I cook every night. I like it and I know it'll taste good. Another interesting topic is the amount of money people spend on frivolous things and then complain they don't have money. Or that people in the past were able to save more, yea because they didn't have sixty pairs of shoes/go drinking every weekend/get their lashes done/ect. If you like your money, stay home.

[@marliseisrael3017]

Everything you said is the problem I have with it....will add in that a tip is a bonus...don't rely on total strangers to help you pay your bills

[@Ardentwhite]

Starbucks, take out, and fast food need to fk right off. Tip your server, tip your bartender, dancers, hairdressers, nails.. etc.

[@chrissy25sox]

Joe Bidens administration literally changed the definition of recession to say that we aren't in one. But we absolutely are. Brings me back to 2008...😢

[@AD-hq2uz]

They don't have that power.

[@chrissy25sox]

@@AD-hq2uz they do because they did

[@AD-hq2uz]

@@chrissy25sox sources?

[@Choree305]

My kids try to strong arm me into Starbucks too 😂

[@_KrystalAlexis]

Anyone who sets their own prices just put the tip in the price.

[@micheleann1737]

Tipping has gotten out of hand for me in terms of you're now tipping before a service is done. It has become that a tip of decent size is a requirement to get service or basic service.

[@ballerman22345]

It bugs me when I am paying over 95$ for a haircut, that should include the tip. my hair dresser is making more an hour than my sister who is an RN. I hate all tipping

[@stargrrl__]

yes but is the stylist making commission or renting? usually with commission, theyre only getting half that amount. and renting a chair involves a good chunk of that going to taxes and overhead.

[@BrittneyGray]

A $95 haircut doesn’t mean that the stylist pockets all of that. I personally have to pay for my space, products and tools, cleaning supplies, music and tv services (client entertainment), business phone, payment processing, website domain, laundry, water…as a matter of fact let me raise my prices again now that I’m thinking about it. 😂

[@BrittneyGray]

Also, I hear what you’re saying but why does an RN deserve more than a hairdresser? By that logic, get mad that influencers and celebrities are paid millions while teachers are notoriously underpaid. Maybe your sister should’ve learned a trade or went into a higher paying field if she is unhappy with her earnings. Or if she is happy with her earnings, then why is it relevant that she makes less than a hairdresser? Because hairdressers are lower than RN’s in the social and career hierarchy? Sounds very elitist in that case.

[@metalkingtohorses]

i provide a service and i get good tips from some of my ckients and no tips from others , i love tips but dont expect them, i farm care

[@lauraortega8464]

They do it at every starbucks, and I feel pressured too very out of hand. Everywhere is asking for tip all the time.

[@510heart510]

Not sure if you’re still in California, but the waiters here get the state minimum wage, plus any tips. Also, recently there was a law passed making $20 the new minimum wage exclusively for fast food workers

[@marliseisrael3017]

Very Contradicting. You say you don't even have time to look to see what the tips are or who is tipping....then you say Sugar Mamas and the Bread and Butter Mamas. Be grateful for the tips and don't feel entitled. Have pride in yourself and your talents by treating each customer with high quality service.

[@-alyssa-marie-]

YOU SHOULD TIP YOUR BARISTAS! Unless they’re mean or make your drink nasty and don’t offer to remake it. I personally live off of my tips! And in this economy!! We make minimum wage. Almost every single barista I know, including myself, are sexually harassed almost daily at work. Many of us work hard, always force/wear a smile on our faces, are told to make small talk, and make consistency key. Many of us wake up at 4am to open. You should always tip your baristas in my opinion, because many people don’t. On top of that, some people have huge orders that take forever to finish and STILL don’t tip.

[@shyb7847]

Dispensaries have tip jars. I don't mind tipping when soneone is waiting on ne hand and foot. But also, service workers need to be paid better.

[@suzymentzos1]

Wouldn’t it be nice if the economy that we live in was better. We don’t have to pay as much and have an extra couple $$$. If the price of things went down, everything!!, it would Be wonderful. Housing, food, vacations.

[@shadybrooks8174]

These businesses have taken complete advantage of tipping culture. People who already charge a lot for their services(You know who you are) expecting tips does not sit well with me. Tipping should be appreciated but not required. I'm fine with tipping wait staff but anything beyond that is unecessary. Especially in this economy. I also have witness people in the service industry claim that they want tips because they aren't being paid a fair wage but at the same time they don't want tipping to go away and receive a fair wage because they would be paid less. You aren't entitled to extra money for doing the service you are charging people for.

[@marliseisrael3017]

Preach Sis

[@DZNnss]

Dont go to genocidal starbucks

[@Sassxcat]

Look, if you don't want to tip or can't tip then don't get a service whether hair, nails, etc.