Building Trust in Relationships: Overcoming Barriers and Betrayal

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

What does someone need to do to earn your trust? Let us know in the comments 👇🏼

[@gw6482]

Trust may be the most important thing in a relationship, this was so insightful. My case is weird because even though the couple of serious relationships I’ve had have been very strong in terms of trust, my insecurities never fail to hit me. So, more that working in the relationship as a couple, be had to do inner work in order to trust my partners. Of course other guys have given me reasons not to trust them, but I’ve also made mistakes. But today I’m happy to say that I’m with someone that I can really trust for the real stuff for the many years to come together. Thanks as always, guys, fantastic episode.

[@WolfinMass]

Excellent discussions!!! Every Podcast is very relatable!!! And thank you for sharing intimate experiences!!!

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thanks a lot for your kind words.😍

[@dianecarman1979]

❤very well spoken, this podcast really gets to the core.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for your kind words, we appreciate it.

[@Yanay30]

You two come across as very trustworthy because you're authentic. Who knows, maybe there is a degree of performance in your podcasts, but for the most part it feels like what we see is what we would get when meeting you in person. Authenticity is a huge contributor to building trust. If I sense falsity in someone, there's not going to be much trust from my side.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you so much for that-it means a lot to hear our authenticity shines through, and we’re glad it helps build trust. ❤

[@deeptangshudas2661]

A great and helpful conversation as always! Having followed your podcast for the past few years, I can say your team deserves trust because of your radical honesty and consistency. Trust comes from a "deeper" (as the podcast title says) authentic space, not a shallow one. About the other question, trust has been ongoing theme, especially in the area of my friendships. I have become more alert to certain red flags: for instance, if a person tends to gossip a lot or talk behind someone's back, they are not trustworthy. Mismatch berween words and actions is another sign of caution. For me, a trustworthy person makes one feel safe and respected. I'm also mindful of my own red-flags too where I tend to trust too easily or tend to get carried away by dreamy fantasies.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you so much for your kind words, we appreciate it a lot!

[@alet4541]

I'm a gay man from Italy and living as a LGBT+ person in my country is quite challenging, even within the comunity itself for what concerns my experience. This video is very special to me, since I felt that many relationships in the gay comunity fall in superficiality or don't have the necessary awareness for authentic and profound bonds. --- Answering the question at 3.50: I haven't seen all the videos in the channel, but saw many of them. From what I've seen so far, for me, trusting you guys becomes quite natural since you expose your contents with riflexivity and deepness, without reductionisms. I saw very valuable contents and I do think it would be amazing if more LGBT+ people would also deal with the issues you present. Actually, I do think that there's still too little consideration about the issues within the comunity. --- Answering about what makes build trust in relationship: 1) knowing each other with no rush at the beginning (and if I see someone who's rushing I tend to be more closed, feeling that rushness like invasion). 2) when we get a more solid basis allow ourself to argue. I know that for some people is seen as "aggressiveness" or "annoying" but for me is an important aspect that allows authenticity. It allows to know each other better and discover ourself better, in our bounds and our interests. 3) Keeping promises or what it's said.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing your story and for taking time to answer questions, we appreciate it!😍

[@mattorero]

You guys reflect before answering and it´s visible. It seems easier to trust reflective people as it takes presence, consideration and authenticity to ¨go deeper¨.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for noticing-that means a lot! We truly value taking the time to reflect and connect authentically. ❤

[@EdwardFoster-k8i]

You seem to understand why you are alone but still can’t accept that no one is 100% trustworthy. Acceptance of humanity is one of the important keys.

[@denniso.shepherd6699]

If you share and the one with whom you speaking does not share as much, it could be that person has deeper trust issues which keeps them from opening up as much. I have had important friendships where they completely turned their backs on me. One to the point of treating me as if I didn’t exist…greeting everyone and skipping over me, going on to the next person. Please do not cut us out so quickly; give us patience and time.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing this-your call for patience and understanding is so important, especially when trust takes time to build. ❤

[@hephaestion12]

Its pretty odd to me to say "my intuition is never wrong" that kind of overconfidence seems pretty dangerous to me. I am always wrong about everything, sometimes less wrong than at others, and i am often more correct than other people. However, I feel very unsafe unless i am identifying my own mistakes - its how i know i am learning rather than becoming an arsehole

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@toadstooltarot]

I think building trust in relationships hinges on our perameters of expectations.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Absolutely-clear expectations lay the foundation for trust and understanding in any relationship. 🤝

[@carlorizzo827]

ThankU Fellows, really appreciate. Back in the 1970's, in a journal called Wingspan, there was an article addressing "men's liberation", men's consciousness raising, the author stated "Men begin to trust each other when an opportunity for violence is not taken". Yikes. But yeah mistrust is putting it mildly. The hypervigilance from believing lethal force could be exercised any moment. The betrayal Matt described with his parents I experienced with siblings. Likewise I appreciated the candor in acknowledging that yeah, we're fallible, we at times betrayed trust. 3 times I was the Heartbreaker. And phew i would rather have my heart broken any day than to be the one breaking another's. I don't want to stop being trusting (I am awfully naive/gullible) since life is bleak enough. I find freedom to trust as long as i have a backup plan. People are human. = fallible

[@toadstooltarot]

Can one trust someone more than one trusts one's self?

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

That’s a deep question-maybe true trust starts with learning to trust ourselves first. 🤔