The Sexuality Spectrum: Exploring Fluidity, Attraction, and Evolving Needs

[@SoulfulQueerIntimacy]

You need to make “ Friends with Intimacy” a thing now!!😍😍

[@villelep]

This was so good discussion, listened it as podcast today during my Christmas shopping. I find myself so insecure, even out-of-touch with myself and sexuality & sex so this is something I really needed to hear. Love your interaction, thank tou so much for your input!

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Awww... Thank you so much for sharing that and we're glad the topic resonated with you!

[@julianshort3499]

❤ Wonderfully open , honest and intimate conversation, thank you so much 🙏❤️

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for watching and for taking time in giving feedback.🥰

[@talfrost]

Fascinating & so engaging - this has given me loads of food for thought about my own journey along the spectrums, Thank you!

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

So glad this sparked reflection for you-wishing you clarity and growth on your journey! 🌟

[@rafaelorona1395]

This is so interesting. I think we all experience changes throughout our lives and those reflect in our sexuality. I started being hyper sexual and very casual, even though I longed for a relationship throughout my 20’s. Now that I’m at my 30’s in a monogamous romantic relationship, my sexual drive has decreased. Not because I don’t find my partner amazingly attractive, but because I prefer his companionship more. And through that connection I find myself more disposed to have sex.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing this-it’s amazing how our priorities and desires can shift with time and deeper connection. Your journey sounds so beautifully grounded. ❤

[@gw6482]

Omg I love this topic! First of all, thanks Matt for being honest about that period of your life. I’m sure talking about it is not easy, but I’m glad you are in a good place now, and I’m sure your honesty will help other guys in your situation. Even though I have always been very sexual, I have had two or three similar periods in my life, maybe just a couple months, but I can relate. Gosh, now… where to start? I love seducing and being seduced, cuddling, I like an emotional connection as much as a Grindr one night stand, solo sessions and a partner or a small group, masculine guys but also sometimes a sexy feminine guy, all colours, ages and sizes… Sex is a beautiful thing, it’s amazing sharing it.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing your observation and thoughts on this episode!🥰

[@aidenfreedom]

Love this conversation guys, thank you. I always connect to Matt, his connections as expressed resonate with me strongly. One thing you guys did not mention was kissing? For me kissing the guy I connect with is the most special moment, it can and does relax me into where ever we go from there in mutual exploration! A lot of guys don't kiss and that leave me feeling unconnected? Kissing for me helps connect to his inner being, at least that is how it feels for me? Listening to Matt's definitions I realised I am mostly demi-sexual and absolutely have to connect emotionally with the guy even if it was casual, which these days never happens because it has no interest for me, so goes my evolution. Fear was my companion for 27 years with no intimate human connection, so it has been a long road of self discovery learning, as I still am, to accept myself for who I am and NOT judge that!!! Bless you guys and thanks again for the thought stimulation with the podcast. namaste🙏

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing your journey and reflections-kissing is such a beautifully intimate way to connect, and your perspective adds so much depth to the conversation. Namaste 🙏❤

[@aidenfreedom]

@@GayMenGoingDeeper Thank you guys, always enjoy and appreciate your conversation, your oppeness and frank sharing is inspiring for me. Hugs. Aiden Namaste 🙏♥️

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

@@aidenfreedom Thank you Aiden!😍

[@gringochueco3886]

I can’t take my eyes off of Reno’s microphone. Some time a microphone is just a microphone.😎

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

😂😉

[@Skylerjones624]

Sexuality is possibly the single most complex thing in the world

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

We surely agree with your thoughts.🙂

[@johnjones9283]

Where can I obtain the list referred too. Would appreciate a copy or url.. can see it in notes.

[@StephenHarris-j2z]

I forgot to have a meaningful relationship, but now all I have is casual, meaningless sex. I want to have a safe, meaningful relationship with someone who actually cares about me and what's the same

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

We hope you can finally find that someone!

[@kso808]

I think I’m probably a combination of sexualities: graysexual, androsexual and libidosexual, the latter vis-a-vis fetishism. I didn’t see fetishism per se listed in the sexuality list contained in the show notes article link. Simplified, I like masculine men dressed up masculinely. Also, like Reno, I’m basically a romantic and have an emotional attachment style. One final wrinkle in my equation is that I tend to be a people pleaser with guys I find very attractive, and want to pleasure them.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing something about you that relates to the topic!😍

[@StephenHarris-j2z]

Most meaningful relationship...guy I went to college with and he'd never had sex with a man. We were friends for a year but he was a jock and fearful others would know! When he approached me to have sex ,I feared it might end our friendship. It didn't, but when we graduate we lost contract.

[@StephenHarris-j2z]

I'm attached to someone who is intelligent and attractive

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!🤗

[@seto749]

Both Mr J and Mr L seem almost heteronormatively complementarian, but I'm so relieved this episode wasn't what the title suggested that I shan't complain.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Glad the episode pleasantly surprised you! We’ll take that as a win. 😊

[@duppyshuman]

What are your thoughts on Queer Theory and the its anti-gay male component? Can you do a show on the topic?

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Hi, thank you! We will add this to our long list of topics to be tackled soon.🙂

[@duppyshuman]

@@GayMenGoingDeeper Looking forward to it. thanks

[@stationarywanderer7910]

Umm, there is no Anti-gay male component of Queer theory. Are you a transphobe?

[@stationarywanderer7910]

@@GayMenGoingDeeper Queer theory is not anti-gay male. My guess is this is a transphobe.

[@Luverofmysoul2]

Could you do an episode about eating disorders and male gaze?