I Want Mom to Be Happy-The Work of Byron Katie®

A son desperately wants to please his mother. "I want Mom to tell me that she loves me." "Mom should stop saying no." "I need her to enjoy something I give her." When he believes these thoughts, he is miserable. When he questions them, he realizes that he doesn't need her to do or be anything.
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Je veux que maman soit heureuse-Le Travail de Byron Katie
Cet homme souffre parce qu'il n'arrive ni à aider sa mère ni à lui faire plaisir. « Je veux que maman me dise qu'elle m'aime. », « Maman ne devrait pas me dire non. », « J'ai besoin qu'elle apprécie ce que je lui donne. » Lorsqu'il croit ces pensées, il est malheureux et lorsqu'il les met en question, il s'aperçoit qu'il n'a pas besoin qu'elle change ni ne fasse quoi que ce soit pour lui.
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[@shellgrrl2227]

"It takes a lot of courage to hear a miserable person without trying to change them."

[@Seeker0fTruth]

Shellgrrl WOAHHHHH profound

[@happylindsay4475]

Omg! FACTS!!

[@sharonahartley]

She's happy though, this is where judgment ends💗

[@iamdragon5914]

She only appears unhappy. It's his perception that's 'off'.

[@aesculapiuspaeon]

Oh. That is so real…

[@lovelyeyessee]

watching this unfold is hilarious! the guy started out so upset almost in tears and by the end of it everyone is laughing. this is alchemy.

[@kippapao]

YAY life!!! Yay healing. Yay the truth!!!!!!!!!

[@karenflowers9611]

Alchemy, perfect word

[@ko.ala.b]

alchemy. on point!

[@kimberleyjane2338]

I wonder if this fine gentleman actually read our comments here and realizes what a gem he is. 😊

[@100pcRenewables]

I never thought watching spiritual work (for want of a better term) could be so entertaining.

[@Biedronecqa]

then you obviously haven't come across Abraham Hicks

[@ruthieblue5772]

Gorgeous man, so gentle .

[@alexarte808]

Katie is such a miracle for our planet... Thank you!

[@WingedMatchbox]

He's a beautiful, thoughtful Man

[@lilianegitane]

I have watched this one multiple times over the years. at least twice a year. Best and happiest one ever.

[@kimbermartinson7640]

I also watch this one a lot, its comforting some how, and makes me smile!

[@dianewichertnelsen2746]

I’ve watched it multiple times too. It’s fantastic.

[@juliahaf]

He looks and acts like a mixture of BRUCE WILLIS and young MICKEY ROURKE. Just adorable.

[@kleec0203]

Expectations of parents, expectations of children, classic story.

[@kristi1189]

Happiness is much simpler when we get older.

[@Emptiness512]

This guy is adorable, great show on the work!

[@jen210]

My guess is John grew up with a mother who made him feel he was (subconsciously) "not good enough", and thus his continued efforts to prove his worth. I have the same mother; and would have had the exact same worksheet. Once I realized others' actions, thoughts, feelings, beliefs, etc are out of my control, I gained the "freedom" to let go of the ever-present guilt I've carried my entire life trying to make her happy. Thank you so much for this video and your honesty John!

[@danielleleclair1125]

I hope I can realize this soon because it's wrecking my life.

[@WonderingAboutThat]

Wow. Your words could be my own. I very much relate. I am hoping the work can help me find this freedom.

[@mariamadiallo1064]

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[@francestilbury6459]

@@danielleleclair1125 me too! Practice practice practice we can do this🌟

[@MsNay83]

Sending love!! I hear this. 💕💕

[@brianallen5639]

Thank you Katie. Ten years later, perfect timing ❤

[@annettethy8357]

Oh, what a lovely man! 🤗 "I didn't jump the line - I had to stay with her!" LOOOOVE IT ♥️

[@eceerdem317]

I want this guy to be my husband he is soooooooooooooo cute I just love him so much ahahha

[@peggyprose]

He has the greatest smile and laugh!😁

[@kittenpawsbb]

I think I’ve watched this probably four or five times already. My go to, feel good session. This has to be the funniest session ever. 😂😂😂

[@ArtjomsMind]

In my case it's 9 or 11 over the years. :-)

[@robinmosesnailart]

what a wonderful man and what a wonderful video. this filled my whole heart with joy. thank you to both!

[@tslomt]

indeed!

[@Ullabrittnielsen]

This man is amazing. Love him.

[@bobomaigret5430]

I love this dude. Strong and open. The opposite of everything, as it seems to me, from the behavior we see in our elected leadership in the Coronavirus era. Inspiring, at least to me.

[@mtm00]

It's wonderful to know that one can live a more compassionate life by simply being willing to truly listen to another person. True listening is the key: it means having no preconceived notions or preferences in our mind; and responding from innocence.

[@gemgymhil2012]

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[@Lulu-xf8iy]

I rewatch this one for Byron and this lovely man's humor during the inquiry. So good.

[@lumpyspacecadet]

My mom has this sort of problem with my dad. He just likes to do simple, quiet things around the house, and she thinks he's depressed because he doesn't go out more and do things away from home. I told her that maybe those simple things make him happy, not all the stuff out of doors, like the things that make her happy. A light bulb went on over her head, and I've noticed, since then, they hardly ever fight anymore. :)

[@ranchoboomerang]

That's so sweet.

[@ChantalLusk]

Amazing!

[@helioschan7705]

29:02 LOOOOOOLLLLL love the change on John's face, he's so honest with how he feels

[@Neemdna]

I haveny seen byron being so hilarious as this. The acting of both is five stars🎉

[@kamivelasquez3119]

This was so transformational for me to watch. I My mom is in Heaven, but for me it is my grown kids whom I just want to be happy. And am finally learning how to let them live their own lives and either be happy or sad and not blame myself for their sadness or take credit for their happiness! Instead, I am loving myself and taking care of myself - and they are taking great care of themselves. We are free.

[@tanyaking2311]

Beautiful!!!!

[@user-ml7hy]

Thank you beautiful

[@kamivelasquez3119]

@@user-ml7hy Thank you so much!

[@kamivelasquez3119]

@@tanyaking2311 Thank you so much. My aunt just asked me a couple days ago if I was familiar with Byron Katie's The Work! Cosmic synchronicities abound. She is my mom's sister, 77 years young and living her best life.

[@Neemdna]

One of the most hilarious enlightening Katie’s shining awareness on our projections on our parents. This is a wonderful sincere man to want so much happiness to her mom ! 5 stars on the acting on both parties.

[@MGProductions4Peace]

The size of Coconuts brother! Wow....I was so moved at the fact this guy volunteered to come on stage in front of the group, as it's being taped, knowing it has the potential to reach a lot of people.....all to talk about his "Mother" issues. What an example for other men. I thought of using the word Courage but it just didn't have the same feel or impact. BK, you just simply rock girl! To the bone.....I always benefit and seem to break through one of my own issues whenever I watch. Thank you!! Love and Peace to your heart.

[@mindsigh4]

hey, brilliant, & yes i could see his reluctance when he first sat down, like, oh god, what've i got myself into, but he put his head down & dug in. kinda like a friend of mine in high school,when he sat down with his dad & told him that his girlfriend was pregnant. dad told him, "well son, there's only one thing u can do, when u bite off more than u can chew..." & my friend is looking at his dad, hoping he's got the answer, like,"yeah, and?" & dad says "you start chewing!" Edit: they married, 3 kids, last time i saw him, seemed like it was all meant to be.

[@kittenpawsbb]

I had to watch this again. I 💞 my Mom.

[@micamaik503]

I've watched this like 5 times already.. Every time i share it to someone i watch it again, at least parts of it... Gold

[@mikkellandsdorf]

Best laugh in a long time, just hilarious and so warm-hearted😂😂😂❤️🌿🙏

[@oliviasmit2657]

Where do these men live ? 😃 So caring and sweet and sensitive Oh wait I see..Colorado.. Good to know 👍🏻!

[@daffypeaches4368]

This is a very brave and wise man! And really a situation a lot of us can relate to I imagine.

[@jaja-cg9yd]

He is so gorgeous -- inside and out. Stunning Work.

[@BonnieOlsonLifeCoach]

What a precious son. I was laughing with you two all throughout the process. So glad you are finding some peace in The Work.

[@CarlaRiverasharesgoodvibes]

he is soo cute

[@ameliaconway]

this is like a comedy sketch show, haha love it!

[@javiermgtaoism5702]

I was send here by a commenter from MGTOW. He was right. This woman Katie is awesome. My respects. Great video.

[@premudrost4102]

In her hands the human soul becomes so real. It can be touched.

[@madelena1234]

It would be wonderful if this beautiful lady sat down with our World Leaders, and the Terrorist contingent, and made them go through a work sheet. PEACE ON EARTH!

[@wikedwhich1]

or those that deny climate change

[@SabrinaKaiserbootsbackpacks]

or those that believe in it

[@snoozyq9576]

Omg how amazing that would be to watch!

[@mindsigh4]

or Eckhart Tolle & Byron Katie seminars, IN PRISONS!!

[@shaneross64]

This was so profound thank you so much. My mom is similar and I acted the same way as John. I've been trying to put these actions into my life. I love Byron.

[@shaneross64]

I really respect John a lot. What a great guy. I literally cried a lot of times realizing profound things about my mom and our relationship.

[@MrsNahija]

I keep coming back to this video for so many years now. Everytime it's so healing to see this beautiful process. And to see this beautiful and brave man. Thank you Katie, thank you John!

[@bunnysofoxy6113]

This video has actually helped me a lot. Thanks a lot to Katie and John, great work, thank you!

[@sadie9386]

I keep watching this just because he is so cute.

[@solmma]

Such wonderful voice he has!!! So sweet and melodical. He could be on the movies because he's able to transmit every bit of feeling, every subtlety.

[@kimberleyjane2338]

This is my favorite Byron video. This man is so real and hilarious. My son gets angry with me, when I tell him how I feel. He says I'm nuts, like seriously. He says I raised him with values, but now I don't have any. It's rough. He stresses me out.

[@silviavanderheiden5164]

Five minutes into this, he says, I did have moments like this. Of clarity...

[@danielsandaarhus]

Thank you, John, thank you, Katie!

[@Rawdream13]

It's really heart-warming to listen and watch John and Katie and read the comments. Thank you so much! Hi from Colorado!

[@NonDual1799]

I absolutely loved this, very powerful, i totally got this. This guy is adorable....The power of our minds.....love the work, it works all the time..thank you

[@rebeccawoolfolk5377]

I'm glad I finally listened to this one. The title didn't seem interesting, and it's 40 minutes long, but I finally clicked on it, and it was worth it. Thanks.

[@GeorgetaBlanaru]

Life as humans it’s a wonderful game, when we look at it from another place, of being who we truly are! Enjoy the JOY!

[@araxxi27pogo86]

I needed to see this. My mother is literally by far the most negative person I have EVER encountered and she complains all day and night about anything and everything and I have spent YEARS trying to make her happier instead to absolutely no avail and all it has actually done is make me feel unhappy and guilty instead because I wasn't willing to just accept that she was happy complaining. THAT is what she wanted to do. So she was happy doing it. It was me that wasn't happy. MIND = BLOWN. thankyou eternally, Byron Katie xo

[@AyaSkye0]

John -thank you! Hope you have opp to read comments, we fell in love w/ your insights & facial expressions were precious! Printed work sheets from site w/ a few "targets" in mind. Watched 2nd time & realized--- going to need at least a 100 sheets HA: parents, kids, neighbors, politics, news... Plus, I may never stand in line again without laughing, a lot. xoxo

[@TheTaperCoach]

I wonder how this man's relationship with his mom developed after this :-)

[@zsauffi]

So touching, burst into tears in the first 1minute

[@dominikastastna1802]

This one is a pure joy to watch. Haven't seen it in years and came back to re-watch it again. It always touches me so deeply and makes me laugh so hard. Thank you Katie and thank you John! You're both miracles to all of us. ❤️❤️❤️

[@RitaJC]

WOW! just what I needed, only concerning my relationship with my 15 y. o. daughter. thank you so very much!

[@mindsigh4]

that sounds similar though, trying to project what would make us happy is not the same for anyone, let alone what would make a parent or child happy?

[@Gratitudejoy21]

HILAAAAAAAARIOUS AND VERY VERY ENLIGHTENING 👌👌👌👌DEEEEEP GRATITUDE from Belgium, Europe 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@BeRichCoach]

This was very powerful. I love John :)

[@tracy3364]

Omg this was hilarious and so good ...hes lovely

[@jamieanders8931]

What a wonderful man! And Katie, thank you soooo much for all you are doing for us! I learn a lot and feel so much peace when watching these clips!!!

[@denisegerlach1454]

Omg. What a beautiful man. So much love. I would loved to have met him there, not just because I found him so charming, but thats how ive been in that very same relationship as well. So very glad I tuned in. Love Byron.. I would have loved to have been in that audience.

[@evelynmontez3565]

Omg this was so good. I laughed to see myself forcing my mother to do stuff...buying things she didnt unwrap! Its hysterical really..all my anger. That was sad for me...mad at her cause in didnt listen. Thank you. Thank you.

[@evelynmontez3565]

He was so brave to get up there to help us learn. Laughter is healing.

[@EiraEguzki]

That guy must be so easy to love 🥰 and I belly laughed with this one

[@momlulu66]

Great work. Thank you. many tears came down my cheeks , and some laughs too.

[@karenflowers9611]

This is so adorable. What a master act in helping others find their projections in such a safe and nurturing way. I come to these old favorites and I always feel restored in some way. Thank you for making them available.

[@FiremarshalM1]

What a good son.

[@MagiaElena38]

Excellent The Work!!! I liked how this man in crisis, change completely and started being happy in just few moments!! Nice!

[@marthaweigh]

The work accomplished here is GOLD!

[@nathanieljames9424]

OMG! BRILLIANT, HYSTERICAL....he's not really getting .... quite...all, and it's adorable!!!!

[@ralphkinnard]

The guy is amazing - thank you for being so open and so honest. Really great

[@lotus746]

He moves my heart ❤️

[@loveritas]

I'm listening to this at my most vulnerable time in a relationship with my mother.... This Work, beautiful Byron Kate was heart-opening, bringing a completely different perspective on our entire life (in 53 now) ....have no words, expressing how enormously helpful it is for me! Thank you

[@1234567861458]

So powerful. Thanks Katie and this participant for your honesty and vulnerability. You are helping us all forive and love more deeply.

[@BHAKTIBROPHY]

Fabulous, BK! The mind is a powerful thing. It's both that keeps us bound, and the vehicle that brings us to the awareness of our natural state of being: Existence, Consciousness, and Bliss Absolute. Hmmm... Without stopping and questioning our beliefs, we create so much drama--which in turn creates resentments, conflicts--not to mention the energy that's wasted. This video in particular gave me great insight into my relationship with my 70 year old mom/caregiver. (Imagine my guilt--my mom taking care of me. I'm so lucky I have her!) I realize I need to listen to her, and stop trying to get her to relax and take time for herself. She's told me a million times that it makes her happy to take care of me, yet I continually tell her she's be much happier if she would take more time for herself. She already told me what makes her happy. It's time for me to listen! :) I've come to realize that my wishing she would relax more is MY guilt. I thank you dearly for these videos Katie. They remind me to remember to stop...and question my thoughts. Happy Christmas!

[@mindsigh4]

bless you, and your mom, you are so lucky to have Katies help, to find peace within, & it is contagious & probably i am guessing that your mom feels joy in your acceptance.🙏🏼🌱🐾👣🌿🕊️🙏🏼🌎💌

[@susanl8478]

Excellent. Let the architects of everyone's life ...Allow them to LIVE in it!!!!

[@oliviamurillomorales]

Hermoso trabajo y este hombre una belleza! Gracias.

[@dxde7550]

one of my favorites!!!

[@akeeymark]

What a beautiful interview. Thank you so much. What a beautiful souls❤

[@Melanie-si1od]

This was very touching... one can fell the pain, the love, the compassion... i had the chance to think about how i am and i think now i know what "look in to your heart and be honnest" means!! Thank you, this was a lesson, many more to learn!!!♥️♥️♥️

[@nb8389]

I love this one sooo much, I think it's my favourite work ❤

[@veronikasmusic1817]

The best evening comedy show ever!)

[@rumbarumba1]

I learned to just be my mums friend with no judgement and we get on amazingly We can now just be ourselves with each other. She is hilarious my mum love her to bits

[@claudelebel49]

Not to judge but it is so obvious right off the bat that it's all about him and his wanting to feel loved and appreciated.

[@thuyanh8630]

Thank you so much for sharing this video. It highlighted again for me that believing my thoughts hinders me so much to see and thus enjoy life to the utmost!

[@spa11199]

On different levels I am saying that too "I want my mom to be happy"

[@carolinelucesco7843]

i loved every second of this

[@MorseMusings]

Jack sees that Jill does not know Jack does not know what Jill thinks Jack knows … -R.D. Laing, Knots

[@katewetherell4846]

this is so interesting because I just asked one of my sons to do for me what this gentleman wants to do for his mum - I've asked him to help more and to stop saying "no" to my requests all the time, which is his personality! how funny that we don't get what we want but we get a teacher :)

[@madhouse34506]

I remember my mum putting her hand into The pubs food warmer when the attendant was handing her her meal And grabbing some more pork crackling . I never judged her or had words with her It made her happy so I was happy . I smiled and said I wish I had courage to do that, I’d love a bigger piece. Not everyone in our group was happy I wish my children had the same frame of mind when it comes to myself . I feel like they are always wanting to change me and not like me for who I am. I would like to get to know my adult children but they are resistant in having me around them.

[@lucym911]

I think this woman is magic

[@MAOChaves]

It's wonderful to watching and see how I think like him.

[@happychristian744]

You can not make someone else happy

[@georgiadoan7369]

it’s so funnyyyyy to watch love Katie

[@monikawrzaek160]

This wonderfull Work. I realized that i can apply that kinde of Work for all the people who I trying happy for holding strenght. Thank You so much

[@ananasha1]

Excelente terapia. A todos nos puede ayudar con todas las personas que están cerca, y con quienes queremos tener una relación más tranquila, amorosa y menos conflictiva para nuestro ser.

[@Metaphyical0samak]

I'm Grateful for this

[@QuangLe-nm7ck]

Thanks Katie! You are a miracle worker.

[@anapoles8657]

Wonderful topic “mum” and John what a wonderful man you are🙏🏼🥰🇦🇺