Call Me By Your Name, Ending Explained: Don't Cut Away from the Feeling

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[@tinyoceancloud]

Annihilation. Definitely Annihilation. I know I'm not a patreon supporter but that film is so mental it really deserves a look.

[@beyondstar8882]

i hope they made a sequel

[@futon6434]

Timothee crying in the end was the single most depressing sight I've ever seen

[@jajsjsw4281]

it destroyed me

[@hannahrachel4494]

But also uplifting. You see him processing everything, remembering, hurting, loving all over again. You remember his father’s words, reminding him to love and and let it hurt. To accept of all the pain and find the courage to do it again. It reminds me of the song ‘the heart is a muscle’ by gang of youths

[@bhartilodhi8482]

True

[@bhartilodhi8482]

I just can't seem to forget this movie

[@paytoncolburn1179]

adishree yes I was crying when Oliver left and then timmy started crying and then I started BALLING

[@francisrenzo7766]

I wish I could forget this movie, just so I can watch it again and relive the raw feelings of watching it for the first time.

[@naina7112]

True

[@EJW2003]

I couldn’t do that to myself 🤧

[@sophiahamilton9258]

Francis Renzo YES! EXACTLY

[@ЄременкоВладислав]

+

[@madythebady9876]

I was just feeling this way last night. I too wish to forget this movie just so I can watch over again and feel the feeling I felt for the first time. 😔😭 i can’t believe people feel the same way as I do I thought I was he only one who felt like this

[@thatonegayperson3415]

None of my friends understand that this isnt a movie about gay, it's a movie about love

[@roselmi]

That One Gay Person thank you

[@njera44]

That One Gay Person Yes its called romance not gay love

[@chaitisehgal5171]

That's why you have this comments section

[@skylerharger2386]

exactly! this movie is truly just about every emotion around falling in love! i think it may be the only movie i’ve seen that is solely about telling a beautiful love story

[@elianabetancourt4219]

same :/

[@Satellitegirl41]

The father's speech at the end of the movie goes down as one of the best speeches/expressions of thought that I've ever seen in a movie.

[@carmenmurray5209]

Nebulana I've watched it so many times. I wish I had a dad like Elio's.

[@ThorstenHeil]

I cried so hard when he said all that raw words. It‘s so true and reflects every little piece that is going on inside of me. It‘s crazy. This never happenend to me...that somebody exactly speaks out what I really feel and try to hide

[@deusexmachina1421]

I can't get over this movie. Omgggg.

[@ethans7377]

I loved the movie until his father’s speech. After it, I fell in love with the movie.

[@ThorstenHeil]

I am a Persom Right! I feel the same way. This movie is such a masterpiece. It is almost impossible how close this movie comes to the heart

[@thanostsarbos1197]

Timothée's performance was so real and honest. I honestly don't think I've seen an actor with such emotional intelligence before.

[@samiryan214]

I think he founds himself in this movie, he's probably a gay which that supports his natural acting...

[@Djidji96]

@@samiryan214 He sais that he is str8

[@samiryan214]

Don't believe him, str8 guys just get disgusted instantly by just the idea of being close to another male

[@Djidji96]

@@samiryan214 Could be. Tho he is an actor. Hammer has a wife and 2 kids. And there are gays playing strraits and other way around... Even I thouth hes gay, maybe he is.. who knows.. Doesnt change the fact that he is very good at what he does :D

[@MrJasonshores364]

Heath Ledger

[@sl8026]

The fathers' speech was phenomenal and deserves all the credits it gets. But I feel the mother is very underrated in this film, in my opinion she is a very important part of all this. She is the one who told Elio that Oliver likes him ("perhaps more than you do"). She is the one that suggested that Elio should go on the trip with Oliver to Bergamo to spent some days together. And after she picked Elio up from the trainstation she gave him a understanding comfort-touch when Elio was crying his eyes out in the car. Later on the piazza where mum got out of the car, Marzia walked up to Elio and telling him she feels sorry that he is hurt. At first I was wondering how she could know that as Elio was just picked up by his mum from the station, but then I remembered that when Elio and Oliver got on the bus for their trip, Elios' mum invited Chiara and Marzia to come to dinner. We don't know what mum has told her, but it clearly made Marzia understand that Elio would get his heart broken and as Marzia felt the same when Elio broke hers, she could relate to that. So all praise and kudos to mum!

[@goblinpiss7039]

SL I’d never actually thought of mrs Perlman inviting Marzia over to tell her about Elio! Totally great observation

[@anonymous-io2di]

it made me cry since ion think my dad would do that

[@Beachbby757]

SL Am I the only one who thinks the dad is actually gay. Because in his speech( I can’t recall exactly) but he said he had something special like Olivier and Elio but he got scared away. Some thing like that.

[@sl8026]

@@Beachbby757 Hi Anthony. No, I think the father was talking about a past love with a intensity similair to what his son had with Oliver. That kind of special overwhelming love where you were reluctant to act on for whatever reason (too young, too insecure, disapproving parents and friends, you name it), can be relatable to everyone, man or woman. It might have been that there was a man involved (not according to the author of the book, btw). It might have been an (older) woman, who knows? But back to your question whether the father is gay: in my opinion it doesn't make any difference as I don't really believe anyone is 100% "gay" or "straight". One can call themselves gay or straight, but I think that it's just human to always have a slight attraction, interest and/or curiosity for the "other side".

[@blobfish680]

SL YES

[@rahulmandal3230]

This is a kind of movie which u wants to discuss with ur friend but u don't bcus ur frnds will not understand the emotions in this movie they always think it's a movie abt gay but it is more than that .

[@gellimeidelacruz4236]

FORREAL!! MY FRIENDS DONT EVEN UNDERSTAND HOW BEAUTIFUL THIS MOVIE IS

[@straykid9806]

So accurate, but not with my best friend, in fact she was the one that suggested this movie to me.. she understands and has the felt same emotions as me and many others and i feel very lucky to have her

[@sonaliiasdani3813]

It hurts that I've actually no one to talk abt how beautiful the movie is

[@davidgaveston654]

@@sonaliiasdani3813 we can talk since there's no one I could talk as well

[@sineyayamendy554]

Sonali Iasdani same 😭😢

[@travelblaggers2734]

This film was insane. so simple, yet so emotional. Had me welling up :'(

[@Satellitegirl41]

It was interesting how even though it's a gay relationship, it's kind of in the background. The love story, the way he's obsessed with Oliver, the awkwardness of first love, etc...its all relatable to anyone. I hope the fact that it's a gay relationship doesn't keep too many people away from this movie, because it's beautiful. It could open some minds. I hope there are sequels. This movie jumped up to one of my favorites ever, and is the first movie to make me cry in a long time.

[@carloshenriquemaiarosario7448]

Travel Blaggers desapoitted the and of this film ! -:(

[@ninahamdahl5697]

I cried so much during the last scene

[@alessandraserra9255]

so true, It's AMAZING!!!

[@andreakrizziadejesus7207]

Travel Blaggers you are so not alone there!! I needed a lot of tissues!! It feels so real.. so relatable!! 😭😭😭

[@growpolarized]

You know what I’m doing during quarantine? Crying from this movie.

[@katie-lw6ff]

Frances and watching this movie for the 20th time lmao

[@jonatanrodriguez5854]

This movie is beautiful

[@growpolarized]

katie ing yes that too

[@alexanderbruck6200]

It's a way to bear up with the current scenario, don't you think? Bc the message(s) of this movie help us to stay positive and understand what's important.

[@growpolarized]

Alexander Brück thats true

[@Tar00maT]

I just can't get over this movie at all. it's like it is haunting me...

[@shirleya7131]

Amr Talaat I'm glad I'm not the only one, I've watched this film 9 times already and I doubt I'm going to stop there.....

[@tranminhngoc5399]

You're not alone. I watched it on January 27, have seen it 8 times, read the book twice and replaying the soundtrack for millions of times. Yet I'm not ready for another movie just yet!

[@steffnic13]

I think I’ve watched it 20X in the past week, got the book, can’t get it out of my mind. So glad I’m not the only one.

[@shirleya7131]

Stephanie Kolb Haha join the club

[@Tar00maT]

TBH I keep on going back to watching the movie just to feel that bittersweet feeling,, it's almost as if I am wishing for a better happy ending, or even sometimes I accept the pain and sorrow, just to indulge in the beautiful relationship, even if for a short time.

[@jwarnock291]

Sometimes you think you've moved on and all you've done is bury those feelings.

[@lilianaromero7618]

ikr i somehow keep coming back to this movie thinking i’ve finally moved on :(

[@thephandmphamilywithalvefo3307]

EVA good question, like you I agree with the op but also like you, I feel like my way of dealing with things is to push them out and I don’t know how to do it any other way. I feel like it’s programmed into my system

[@nathancruz768]

You let the feelings rush in and feel alive, but in the end you conceal them, bury them whilst they beat with their passion.

[@whale2269]

Auhhh❤❤ really needed to read this today thankyou

[@Rentung20]

*Its been 3 years and i still can't get over this movie*

[@anxhixhaollari4427]

bruhhh will we ever get over this movieee ?? i think not 🤣😢😢😢😭

[@njera44]

NEVER

[@sarahibrahim6214]

ISTG

[@fey._yu]

Need more movies like this 😩😩

[@Rentung20]

@@fey._yu exactly

[@earthlingel.2238]

calling each other by their own name also shows that they're sharing a very important part of their life's with each other it's like giving yourself to another person

[@Misamo_Identity]

In the book, Oliver didn't respond in the phone call.

[@jadenalexzandria8840]

顾松岩 :(WHY

[@Misamo_Identity]

@@jadenalexzandria8840 Just more hearting-breaking tortures for readers.

[@laurengintz8440]

that’s what the peach scene is about too

[@i.2828]

@@Misamo_Identity really???? :((((((((

[@richardsorokhaibam]

This movie destroyed my heart in the most beautiful way

[@sofiehansen1382]

THESE WORDS DESCRIBE THE MOVIE SO WELL

[@Commander_Cat]

Go checkout "Weekend" for anyone who likes this kind of "realistic" emotional film that digs deep. It is a similar film and more raw in some ways where the director for Call me chose to go with aesthetics rather which is cool too. And the "Before" Trilogy too. Before Sunrise, Before Sunset, Before Midnight.

[@desqua2497]

The first time I watched this movie it was because I was broken and I wanted to watch it for enjoyment but the second time I watched it, it was to understand the processus of love and what comes after.

[@rumblefish9]

@@Commander_Cat Maurice. Watch Maurice.

[@Headspace101]

The book is even more powerful, I cried for a day

[@caiquemarlon5579]

When Elio's father says "...what a waste" is just.... Oh my god

[@anxhixhaollari4427]

yeahh i think i was the only one that loved the way that he said itt

[@racheljilek964]

I cry every single time

[@matt7352]

He was such a good character

[@dollyremo1]

I am terrified of this film. I scroll away, close tabs, delete any videos i come across from my feed. I was heartbroken for a month. LITERALLY A MONTH. Now i cannot face it because i know i will watch it again and I have to go through it again. Thank you for this video that will make me weep again :(... (Good video guys)

[@asiahd5074]

Koppakzz I felt this 🤧

[@jaakkonyman8484]

Koppakzz I can’t listen to Mystery of Love...it would ruin me

[@albusdumbledore4336]

Same... But for me just need a week to move on, it was a longest move on for me tho...

[@Mariahidol]

@@jaakkonyman8484 oh try "Visions of Gideon" ...nothing much will happen other than eyes leaking, throat choking, nose running, heart becoming heavier & heavier... u wont cry, u'll just suffocate!!

[@pointyblackhat9045]

Koppakzz - Hm. What scares you about this? The gay aspect? The age difference? Or the idea of having a broken heart? That’s what got me. I have never been able to understand relationships that are truly, deeply loving, yet one of them says ‘no, we can’t...’ You know, there’s always a...Other woman/man. Parents who don’t like it. One of them a priest! (Thorn Birds!!) Bad reputation so they can’t. Just on and on.

[@EB-dk8hb]

One of the best movies i‘ve ever watched

[@hrh2842]

Really? I found it and "Brokeback Mountain" complete bores until the last few minutes. The last scene of "Brokeback" may be one of the most affecting moments on celluloid, but how clueless does one have to be not to have known it was Hammer at the end calling to say he was getting married? (No, I have not read the book.) The moment is ruined by the ridiculously extended closeup of Chalamet thinking how to manage a succession of emotional expressions.

[@inesl6811]

H R H brokeback mountain and call me by your name are the best ones

[@francoisbilly5867]

Same I just watched it now

[@tommijy]

period

[@Commander_Cat]

Go checkout "Weekend" for anyone who likes this kind of "realistic" emotional film that digs deep. It is a similar film and more raw in some ways where the director for Call me chose to go with aesthetics rather which is cool too. And the "Before" Trilogy too. Before Sunrise, Before Sunset, Before Midnight.

[@pawdaw]

Elio is younger, yet he is the more emotionally aware of the two. He is lucky to have incredibly caring and sympathetic parents; Oliver has to hide his sexuality because his father 'would have taken him to a correctional facility'. The scene in the town square, where Elio first divulges his feelings to Oliver is shot so that the physical space between them becomes a corollary to their inner worlds. Elio says: 'I thought you should know', which Oliver reacts to with fear and unease. The end of the film tells us two things. Firstly, that Oliver has retreated into a lifestyle of pretending to be straight, yet he clearly still has great affection for Elio and holds dear the time they spent together. Secondly, it brings us, inevitably, into Elio's heartbreak, which reminds us, again, that he is unable to stifle his emotions, and that he is in touch with his real and authentic self.

[@bi_saster]

"pretending to be straight" well.. he could just be bi yk

[@UnspokenNerve]

@@bi_saster yeah but he obviously is repressing his feelings towards oliver making him technically homosexual or gay for oliver but if he was actually bi he would not have had such a hesitancy when leaving oliver

[@Mikapac]

@@UnspokenNerve being hesitant when leaving a lover is normal for whatever your sexuality is

[@keairria2257]

So basically Oliver is scared to tell his dad that he’s gay , and Elio and Oliver fall in love but Oliver has to leave and months later Oliver calls to tell Elio he’s getting married but he’s still in love with Elio ?

[@bowtiesncoolnes5715]

Why are we just assuming he's "pretending to be straight"?? Maybe he's bi

[@shaniquaharris9775]

They maybe straight, but gosh they can act.

[@MugeOyunTR]

ShaniQua Harris That’s the beauty of it.

[@madisonsmith9037]

ShaniQua Harris their acting was phenomenal in this movie

[@himanshuprince179]

They should get a oscar in my opinion

[@thrasheusanonymous]

I was deeply enamoured with both characters, believing they were the real deal. We all had this kiddy love and went through the same thing Elio went through in telling Oliver his feelings.

[@feryelbarki7564]

ikr like even armie has a whole ass wife irl

[@21minute]

This film made me feel like I’m going through a heartbreak of first love. Its emotions are so unbearably raw and barebones. It’s beautifully done without being melodramatic. I can’t wait for the sequel/s!

[@arthurtregenna655]

21minute there’s going to be a sequel????

[@21minute]

Arthur Tregenna The director confirmed that there’s going to be a sequel with Timothée and Armie reprising their roles and ‘traveling the whole world.’

[@amstarism]

Luca seems intent on doing it as a trilogy over many years (in real time). I'm scared that we may never get to see the end of this story if it plays out like that... I really want to see more of Oliver and Elio - but I NEED them to get together. Seriously. I can't go through this again, it will break my poor little heart!

[@danielistic49]

If Luca and Andre follows the same fate of Elio and Oliver in the book, then we're not ready for more heartbreak

[@amstarism]

The book plays out as a series of vignettes through time when they meet up in later life. They both seem to love each other, and remember their time together fondly, but there's never any suggestion that anything more can happen between them. Elio says that he doesn't want to meet Oliver's family because it will upset him. It's just all kinds of sad. Whilst on one level you feel worse for Oliver because he's not lived a truthful life, the fact that no partner of Elio is mentioned leaves you with the suggestion that Elio has been forever damaged by his love for Oliver. It's a fucking brutal ending.

[@sensen4161]

CMBYN hurts me so much. It's so good, but my fragile-ass is too scared to rewatch the movie or read the book.

[@Joojo214]

i relate to this so much

[@jillannal621]

The book is far worse on an emotional level

[@bernardocampos7919]

The book goes beyond breaking your heart... it also changes your perspective on life itself in quite a depressing way. I was down for weeks after reading it. It was an excellent book.

[@d.j.7069]

@@bernardocampos7919 Bless you Bernardo! I feel that the "depressing way" is that it reminds us of our own mortality ... and the mortality of those tender first feelings about everything: The excitement and passion, the urgency, the pure joy. These feelings dissipate little by little as we age. This IS sad!

[@d.j.7069]

@@jillannal621 The movie is made it live in a space just above the book, in my opinion. I feel it had to be made at an emotional level that the general public would find acceptable, so they'd be willing to spend $ to see it. The book, in my opinion, was way too raw for a cinematic presentation.

[@rigelcorvi]

ITS MARCH 2020 AND I CANT STILL GET OVER THIS MOVIE HELP ME

[@chileanyways-1690]

Rigel Ville Agario thank u I’m not the only one

[@rosapolichroniadi3596]

BROOO M2 I CANT

[@MisaAmaneSupremacy]

Same here I can’t get over it

[@cobyspriv]

Samee🤪😭😭😭

[@ryeluv]

They’re releasing a SEQUAL!

[@rosennicabrera8448]

I never cry in movies, I find it dumb, but when I heard Oliver tell Elio that he’s engaged my heart broke, I cried for an hour, AN HOUR 😭

[@shani8172]

Jean Kennedy isn’t Arnie straight ?

[@pyszne8354]

@Jean Kennedy so now two straight men aren't allowed to have a good friendship and be comfortable with their sexuality without people saying they like each other ? That's bull. They're both straight.

[@pyszne8354]

@Jean Kennedy wtf ? Calm down. They've established that they're both straight, its NOT a big deal. You're extremely ignorant if you're denying their sexuality.

[@Randobadando]

Me too

[@pyszne8354]

@Jean Kennedy oohh mmyyy goooodd just get a life, I'm actually done.

[@dibyanshugarg3855]

"look me in the face, hold my gaze, and call me by your name" Will never get over it

[@sofiehansen1382]

Never!!

[@thelostpeterpan]

"When we feel the worst pain of our lives, don't cut away from that feeling-- because that feeling means we're alive."

[@andrewcushen8379]

This movie broke me and then put me back together. The book too. Combined, it was like relearning to love

[@svvetlanalana]

Andrew Cushen "it was like relearning to love." omg yes...

[@miggseye]

So well said. Both book and movie had the same effect on me too.

[@SimonaCorrias]

I thought that I was being melodramatic about the movie. I watched it 6 days ago and still thinking about it every day, the first day was almost unbereable. But now I'm reading so many people felt the same deep emotions, I feel less weird lol

[@tahyechoi]

Yes. Relearning about the meaning of life, about what we live for, or how to love. It cleared the strangled feelings in my head and opened my eyes.

[@rui23parto]

What is the name of the book?

[@stephaniedavidescu4266]

i think it’s beautiful because the whole time they were in love, they didn’t doubt it. they didn’t think it was weird that they were both men or there was an age difference

[@ansiaahmed6201]

I see harry styles.

[@Puty0urlipstick0n]

are you a Larry lol?

[@ansiaahmed6201]

i am

[@sapphicism]

@Sigurd Blergh Blergh fr tho, oliver's grooming elio who's a minor. this film is SO beautiful but also problematic

[@taromilktea8762]

@Sigurd Blergh Blergh it would have been a different movie if they focused on the legal aspects, the movie didn’t force us to see it as right, the movie showed us times when there was a clear power dynamic and it was wrong for someone who knew what he was doing to be in a situationship with a boy who threw himself into it. not only that but the characters admit it aswell, oliver is very hesitant at the beginning because of the age gap (as he should be). at the end of the day it’s a six week long romance in italy, i think they focused on the age aspect just enough

[@juliapopova1508]

His father reminded me Robin Williams in Good Will Hunting, especially the monologue scene

[@primel6508]

I felt exactly like you in this moment!

[@chloem6506]

yes! i was thinking that the whole movie

[@Silvio67]

who would have thought an alien from men in black would steal that scene with an incredible monologue

[@annascolamiero1956]

I had the exact same thought when watching that scene!

[@crookedprojects]

and they both were playing as the wise man.

[@tothfanni7262]

The title coming up at the end is just a huge slap in the face

[@desqua2497]

I felt that too

[@alosanch200]

Frfr

[@ObamAmerican48]

I loved Elio's father's subtle understanding of the love between Elio and Oliver.

[@QueenieSam]

THIS MOVIE WAS DEEPER THAN ANYTHING IN THE UNIVERSE

[@alexanderbruck6200]

It puts you down and enlightens you at the same time. Can't think of any film that has done that to me before.

[@Loonaurtheworld]

THIS MOVIE'S DEEPER THAT ELIO'S HOLE

[@jay-argregorio5714]

That is why many will not understand

[@sofiasierrarubia4126]

Queenie Sam ur pfp 😩

[@kenneththomas9728]

It is pleasure to have a forum where cinema is intelligently discussed.

[@Luchina1234]

Do not forget FB, TC group..

[@MRangelodario]

The nerdwritter is awesome as well

[@thomasbohlen1138]

The end of this movie will forever make me sob. Especially the way it’s paired with “Visions of Gideon” (one of the saddest songs I’ve ever heard). It’s such a well made movie, and so well thought out in every single way. I don’t know if I’ll ever love a film as much as I love this one.

[@zehraparmak7151]

the book is also very sad

[@ava-qv8iw]

Visions of Gideon omg such a good song but really sad🥺 i cried so much at the end hearing it

[@madisonwilkinson1375]

I’m still heart broken it’s been WEEKS

[@torrieterrell7273]

everytime i heat that song, i associate it with the ending scene and i cry

[@njera44]

Thomas Bohlen WHY DOES MYSTERY OF LOVE MAKES ME CRY A LOTT TOO. These songs are amazing

[@simplyeason]

timothee’s acting was phenomenal. i’ve never seen an actor with such emotional intelligence. this is one of the best movies i’ve ever known and watched. having it broken down and being able to understand the small little details makes the movie even more amazing than it already was. the analysis was easy to understand and helped to understand the movie better. thanks for this!! ☺️

[@jonathanaxworthy8548]

Oliver tickling elio. I wonder if timothee is really ticklish. The scene is so erotic. Elio I don't want you to go. And the fireplace scene destroys every time I watch it.

[@virginialane8847]

this movie has RUINED me. it will not leave me. and i wish i had someone to share my love for it with, but a lot of my friends are homophobic and don’t understand the beauty of this movie.

[@toxicgummybear9101]

Virginia Lane lets talk about it 😗 (I seriously can’t get over this movie)

[@kenjibenji3]

I don't wanna talk abt it w my friends bcs some of the scenes... and they would probably say that it's gay too

[@himanshuprince179]

I seriously can't get over this movie, I cry my eyes out when i hear Myster Of Love By Sufjan Stevens, It always gets me.

[@toxicgummybear9101]

HimanshuPrince meeee, have y’all read the book?? It helps a lot since it provides tons of explanations why they act the way the do after hanging out. And the sexual tension, phew Aciman did a great job explaining their romance

[@akatevivid]

I am a heterosexual. But trust me when i say it, it's a beautiful representation of pure love. I cried my eyes out while the ending scene. This is a beautiful movie. I don't understand homophobia, you love who you love. There are no boundaries. Love knows none of the crap that society feeds us.

[@weirdochan4651]

I fell like Oliver still loves Elio and he's in a toxic relationship with his fiance forced by his parents

[@jaethin]

+1

[@makennapatton3680]

His fiancée is probably a girl because he said his dad would send him to a correctional facility and he’s probably only marrying her because of that reason and you can tell Oliver still loves Elio😢

[@weirdochan4651]

@@makennapatton3680 yeah i agree

[@toxicgummybear9101]

Makenna Patton his fiancé is a girl, when he calls he says “speaking of she, I’m engaged” and they (Elios parents) congratulate him

[@makennapatton3680]

Dominic Cervantes right I’m not a very good listener lol😂😂 I never pick up on pronouns 😂

[@stefania1475]

Suddenly in Greece (where I'm leaving) everyone is so close-minded. I've watched the movie two times yet, the second one with my mom. Unfortunately, she didn't understand the point of the film and she also laughed at the peach scene. I'm 15 almost 16 years old and I understood things, I let myself feel the pain that Elio felt, I cry everytime I see a scene, or I think about the ending scene. My friends won't understand too, why I want to speak about it so badly but no one's gonna feel and think the way I do? I'm too young, yet I feel so good with myself for liking this movie and understanding the whole point, when no one else does. Favorite movie of all time!!!!

[@WhatAtinyWorld]

I just watched this movie last night with my mom. I love how slow paced it is, how the movie doesn't rely heavily on the plot in order to draw emotions. My mom said she found the peach scene uncomfortable, but that the uncomfortable-ness was part of their story. How even when Elio called himself sick, Oliver still accepted him.

[@litcily]

Same...i live in Greek too and yeah, i have the same problem :(

[@marstz6028]

Σε καταλαβαίνω

[@litcily]

@@marstz6028 Αιι...εχουμε το ιδιο ονομα :D

[@marstz6028]

@@litcily από το Μαρία απλα μαρς με λέει η κολλ Μ αχχαχα

[@thehightable5995]

Thank you girls. I just loved this movie. This movie is the proof that can still be originality on the romance genre. I think most of us has passed trough this time, when you loved someone but you can't be with this person. For whatever reason.

[@samonellasgayclone1054]

I can't be with my friend cause's straight and I'm gay

[@DiabolicalButler]

its a movie that proved i can still have feelings

[@transnationxxx]

Lord Reyne of Castemere where did you watch the movie? I really wanna watch it again.

[@melaniea1514]

@@DiabolicalButler Yes. I feel the same. By the time I got divorced, my ex-husband (who was not my first love) had convinced me that I was unloving and unlovable. I spent many years afterwards closing off any feelings about romance or love thinking that I'd been a damaged person all along, incapable of love. This movie made me sob. It reminded me of my first love and those amazing feelings. It reminded me that I had once been able to really love and be loved. The romance with my first love was similar to the movie's in that my first love was a foreign exchange student only here for a short time and he eventually had to return to Australia. Thus breaking both of our hearts. I remember that same exquisite pain as in the movie.

[@ultron374]

@@melaniea1514 i had a story where my first love was from different country and we couldn't be together so i had the same feelings at the end but... i cut off from them so I kind of think if it's possible to have those again but I think they are unfortunately lost forever ☹ and not sure if I want them back.

[@EenMagnetron]

5:34 I just noticed the title is shown in the colour blue (instead of the much used ''opposite'' colour yellow) which is the colour of somberness/sadness

[@Vampire_Nightshade]

I don't think that's the reason..

[@EenMagnetron]

@@Vampire_Nightshade Why do you think that?

[@Vampire_Nightshade]

@@EenMagnetron I don't know, I just think it's not that... deep, maybe you're reading a bit too into it. Maybe you're right, but how would we know

[@EenMagnetron]

@@Vampire_Nightshade Okay, fair. I can understand you thinking it's too far reaching, but I dont know, since it's not really something that can be proved, I just like to think they put that extra effort and thought into it. It makes the movie better imo.

[@clusterhug8918]

Zuzanna Mochniej No, I don’t think so. Colors themselves also have emotions. Generally speaking, yellow is the color of happiness, joy and blue is the color of sadness, depression. This story is so poetic, making it very deep. From the dialogues and even a glimpse of the scenes mean so much more. Especially since this movie was from a novel, it makes it a lot inexplicable. These kinds of stories are the ones who are not straightforward so that you have to think for it yourself. When you said “you’re reading a bit too into it” sounds offending to some poetic people or rather, observers because you basically correct them based on your comprehension. I get what freedom of speech is, I do and I’m also doing it now. So, no hard feelings to anyone.

[@finchfrance]

Please tell me how this film didn't win the Oscar for best picture???

[@LoL-zd1jz]

because people think that falling in love with a fish is more acceptable than a guy falling in love with another guy

[@finchfrance]

I am from now on a bigoted fishist. :)

[@boyrogers6737]

and the best actor..timothy perfomance in this film was mind blowing!

[@jintanatouati6933]

Because they prefer the movie about human and fish or monster or whatever falling in love

[@dollyremo1]

People accept a woman falling in love with a mermaid type thing but cannot accept something that is real and actually happens a lot.

[@maitha1049]

This movie was meant for Timothée Chalamet, he acted his role very well.

[@waterlily111]

Not very well, PERFECT.

[@marcof16]

This movie left me speechless and honestly heartbroken yet there was a sense of peace. For two people to be so in love and not be able to live that reality left me with a tragic feeling. The director said that it was not a sad ending and I understand what he is saying, in a sense it was not but it is hard to let go of what could have been. A GREAT FILM 10/10

[@2342guille]

And the Oscar goes to "The Shape of water"? It makes no sense to me.

[@MakiPcr]

The Shape of Water isn't about pedophilia

[@MakiPcr]

My point is that the relationship in one of these movies is a crime and it's not The Shape of Water

[@MakiPcr]

It's a crime in the country the movie was made; and in many other countries too, and even in places with that age of consent those kind of relationships are considered inappropriate. And now the usual argument: If Elio had been a girl would you still be okay with it? Would _anyone_ be okay with it? Would it have been nominated to the Oscars or being heavily criticized?

[@MakiPcr]

The average age of consent in Central America is 15 and most people considers those kinds of relationships inappropriate, at best (Costa Rica just raised it to 18 for that exact reason). And now that you raised the challenge I really wanna see Hollywood getting away with a movie of a teen girl falling for an older man not getting any backlash, specially after the Harvey Weinstein thing

[@AngelofMusic04]

MakiPcr Beastiality isn't a crime?

[@1in6win]

I can’t stress how GREAT the decision to leave out the narration was. The silent moments of this movie speak so much louder without some hand fisted voiceover

[@takahashiakari7870]

i loved this movie because it is so RAW. in every aspect, it perfectly portrays sexuality and what it's like to fall in love

[@cassidy4164]

Agreed. It makes me think of my summer love. This movie has forever changed me.

[@anishka7583]

i watched this movie a week ago and i dont think any other movie has affected me like this. i didn't cry once throughout the movie but at the end when it was just elio crying, i started sobbing :( and now im literally not gonna settle for anything less than what elio and oliver had.

[@anxhixhaollari4427]

if my love story is not like theirs than i don t want it periodddd

[@sexyhoe1800]

EXACTLY

[@amiratazkia]

Oh God I'm crying again, this movie is so beautiful I can't get enough of it, and also believe me or not I've never experienced this stuff, I'm 16 going 17 but I've never been in a relationship, but still I feel all the joy and all the pain this movie gives, such a masterpiece

[@30zahra99]

ameera tazz oh god I sooooo feel you

[@adeliepeng.1046]

Yeah, this movie was so real and sensual, that’s what made it beautiful.

[@allieconzola]

You're so young, you have so many beautiful experiences to look forward to :) Look forward to them and embrace them

[@Alisha-mr9th]

I think about this movie everyday honestly it's like a part of my life

[@sam4rie]

sameee

[@ngtm011]

Yep😍

[@jardinek2121]

At the end, when the title, "Call Me By Your Name" appears... I called Elio by my name. As I watched him stare at the fire, I kept calling him Jardine... until he looked at me they way he looked at Oliver. Great experience.

[@rocklynax5580]

this movie honestly changed my life

[@katie-lw6ff]

Rocklyn Asamoah i stg it did

[@luc4280]

i don’t think the point of this movie is that they’re gay or bi i think it’s that it doesn’t matter who you are, love can come from anybody or anything. It can come in its rawest form

[@addie8080]

Lucia A ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@sqoishicasette]

Exactly their story is not different it's just how many love stories begin and end despite sexuality due to various reasons like caste, religion, etc... When you fall in love and lose them due to an external reason and then heartbreak follows... It's not a story only about gay love it's a story about love

[@michellemdelapaz]

Wow, this is hands down the best synopsis of the film ive seen so far and also helps to articulate why so many people are having a really strong visceral reaction. I actually struggled watching this very synopsis while sitting with other people at breakfast, having to fight back tears!

[@steffnic13]

I, too, have had such a reaction to the movie. Am haunted by it all. Glad to know I’m not the only one. 🙏🏻

[@2230abcdE]

GlitchyMitchie well said

[@clingclanglarry3327]

That monologue just completely destroyed me

[@poppipoppipo_o]

Honestly i feel so bad about the ending. I literally cried when oliver said to elio that he is getting married and when elio cried.. But the whole movie/story was really good. I watched it like a hundred times.

[@sailalimngputingilawsadila943]

It's 2019 and still destroying my heart😭❤

[@LucyLioness100]

sa ilalim ng puting ilaw sa dilaw na buwan I cried so much at the end. Especially with Michael Stuhlbarg’s brilliant monologue at the close

[@gxnxoxo]

i find out about this movie recently and i have a unhealthy obsession of this movie, this is my favorite movie and i cried so hard.

[@skatealex1]

I'm 29, gay and watched the movies just as I was about to go through my first real break up and oddly enough my ex and I had a similar sort of age gap. I don't know if I could ever watch this movie again. It's too relatable to me now. I did really like it though but i think it would depress me too much now.

[@jeromesunga3759]

Skatealex2 hello what's your facebook name 😝

[@elizaksapara-grant6559]

it gets better ✨

[@rogermcall]

Skatealex: Watch the movie again, and focus on two things: (1) the Professor's words of advice to Elio after Oliver has gone, and (2) the very last words in the film which are Elio's mother calling him by his own name. Both suggest that life does, indeed, go on and that there really can be relief from heartbreak.

[@jmaraf7741]

rogermcall: I don't know if you're gay or not, but it does hits harder when you're gay. We longed for a video of gay love with a happier ending to give us hope that it can and does happen. When Oliver phoned Elio to tell him he's getting married, it felt like he rubbed salt into Elio's open wounds. I felt so bad for Elio that it spoiled everything that went on before this. I didn't pay good money for a video to end up feeling sad, hurt, and disappointed.

[@rogermcall]

I am in no way trying to diminish the pain you may be feeling but merely suggesting that you are losing sight of the broader reality by concentrating on the here-and-now. If I could add (3) to my previous comment, I would suggest that you "pay good money" to buy the book (or even the audio version of it) which is the basis of the film. Whereas the movie ends on a depressing note, the book offers a more optimistic view of the relationship between Elio and Oliver. It portrays the two of them 20 years later, and upon re-reading it I have concluded that it is not as pessimistic as I originally believed. Yes, Oliver is married; but there are many indications that Elio remains his first *real* love, just as Elio is Oliver's. I understand the author has actually said that his intention was to portray a love that is enduring-- maybe even everlasting-- despite the changes which sometimes appear to be irrevocable. I guess my original comment was a plea for you NOT to dismiss this incredible film simply because it ends in a way that disappoints you. There are many, many precious moments on the way to that ending which make it a film for the ages.

[@gillianblankenhorn7585]

The most beautiful movie I have EVER watched. Their romance was like art, and I envy something like that, in some sort of way they made me feel like I can relate though. I hope they make a movie of them maybe meeting again one day, and concurring their societal fears. Such a beautiful love, I’ve watched this movie about 6 times now.

[@bellal2656]

oh man, I started to cry again just seeing Elio at the beginning of this video. The movie was incredible and I will never forget it, I've never seen a film quite like it.

[@martinabordakova3200]

Exactly! You know, I love movies like LOTR, Harry Potter or Avatar, but this movie was such a beauty. I saw it maybe a year ago and I´m still thinking about it.

[@gina333]

This is hands down the most astonishingly magical movie I have ever had the privilege of watching.

[@lisag2684]

At first I thought it was odd for a 17 year old falling for an older 20 something person and vice Versa. Then I realize that this is the age where you are finding yourself. It’s the edge of adulthood. Most of us had a thing for someone older than us at some point… It’s a beautiful story about finding love and capturing that unexplainable wonderful feeling that most of us only experience once of twice in a lifetime… Some people are never able to reach this bliss. This story does a great Job capturing the feeling of love and and the unexplainable freedom and beauty and pain that comes with it. This story is about being alive and the human ability to feel…

[@nixlayful]

This is like the best credit scene I ever see in a movie. The raw feeling. The "nakedness". Very simple yet very deep

[@rachmarizky2690]

I love Call Me by Your Name but actually I'd prefer it with no sequel whatsoever. End of story. Thank you for your video essay!

[@paranoidandroid1997]

Rachma Rizky me too. I just want it to be a first love story with no continuation.

[@Sam_Martyn]

Same it kind of frustrates me because the sadness of the ending is pointless if they’re simply going to meet again and continue with their love story, it’s more beautiful if they don’t see each other again because of the roar emotion

[@freegadflyathome]

Sam Cunningham I feel the same, but at least it will be with the same director...and hopefully same actor

[@Sam_Martyn]

Heather Banks let’s hope!

[@binkbonl]

Sam Cunningham you haven't read the book...

[@Freffs]

Imagine having a dad like Elio's

[@Gaby-bx3cv]

It made me relate so well to falling for an older man. I didn’t even realize that it was a cold open but you guys made it so obvious. I loved Timothee Chalamet’s performance. It feels so real. I was so annoyed at how long it took for them to be together. I noticed that that is what it’s like for many people. The waiting and the not knowing if that person likes you or if they are just a flirtatious person. I loved this film.

[@samiryan214]

Because Oliver is not a gay, He was ignoring Ellio's signals and feelings, but later I think Oliver thought, "well fuck it, let me have a cuasual fun with this kid till I back home"

[@samiryan214]

But Oliver ignored Ellio all the time, till it looks like Ellio is the horny one and the Oliver is the cold and the arrogant one, anyway in the end when Oliver called, He told Ellio that he's going to get married, obviously he's not a gay maybe he is bi. I'm not discussing the actors here, I'm talking about the original story.

[@TayDaRock77]

sx1sajor dude I’m not entirely sure of Oliver’s sexual orientation, but we can’t dismiss the possibility of him being gay just because he is engaged. Many gay people have gotten married to members of the opposite sex because they felt that’s what they should do. In the movie, Oliver even points out that Elio is so lucky to have parents who support him despite his sexuality and says that he isn’t as lucky. Maybe that serves as an explanation of his marriage to a women?

[@TayDaRock77]

sx1sajor dude although, I’m not dismissing the possibility of him being bisexual. I think that Elio is bisexual, and think that Oliver could be as well. I think that’s some of the genius behind this work. It doesn’t specify this, because the labels aren’t what’s important here, its the love story and raw emotion of these two characters, who just happen to both be men.

[@tiawilliams5690]

Sx1sajor dude That's not accurate. Oliver tried to hit on him early in the movie at the game. Elio didn't get it and pulled away. Oliver even explains that Elio's reaction made him feel like a molester so he backed off completely.

[@ImperialEarthEmpire]

that ending scene, ive been there... timothee really is a great actor...

[@baleewilliams2180]

Just rewatched this movie and felt so vulnerable all over again. I'm so excited for the sequel that was just confirmed

[@emmac584]

Balee Williams I just watched this movie again. I’m so excited

[@agem1989]

Gonna be postponed because of Coronavirus in Norther Italy. They can't film this summer

[@addie8080]

YESS A SEQUEL AHHHHHHH

[@mehaksuri3800]

Wait THERE’S A SEQUEL?!?!

[@goviral5146]

@@therealallpro its cancelled

[@moosh2004]

That Bach piano scene is one of my favourites its so playful and pure ugh i just love timothée and armie's acting

[@AnaCarolinaCosta]

This channel is one of the best video essay channels and I'm astonished that y'all don't have more than a million subs

[@annawilcx]

i still can’t get over this movie and i’ve watched it like 15 times. i hate how much my heart broke from this movie...by that i mean it’s my favorite movie of all time.

[@Clara-ny1ch]

SAME!!!💔

[@Dannyboi2]

How Beautifully told and edited, the material lends itself on a movie that will stand the test of time. Months after seeing I find myself gravitating to anything that's Elio & Oliver. At my age I had forgotten what it was like to first fall in love. This was a gently crafted and beautifully orchestrated Cinema that truly captured all of loves delicacies. For me even more as in 1983, I was Elio as a young adult. I had many of the same experiences. To have them unfold in such a carefree and uninhibited manner just before the AIDS epidemic when being Gay was beginning to be widely accepted even to say fashionable. To all come crashing down. This does remind me of a simpler time even with all the Gay AIDS Backlash it was the best of times for me. I suppose my first love saved me from AIDS. Many say the movie was sad, but It was truly a beautiful memory for me of that first love. First loves usually end with hurt and pain but, we all yearn and want to find it again to feel all it's emotions is to love. I loved your explanation as it captures everything I have felt. You Nailed it! Thank YOU!

[@rodbr71]

I couldn't have said it better. It brought long buried memories to the fore. And it wasn't sad, he was fortunate to have had that intense feeling, just like we were too.

[@antonherz8439]

This movie touched me way more intensely than any other movie really I really wasn't lying to my friends when I said I literally felt the slow burn of Elio and Oliver's courtship and the pain that Elio felt in the end. It was a very satisfying, it felt very human and real and as for sequels, I think this doesn't need one. I think it's beautiful standalone and I'm kind of scared that a sequel will ruin that (I'm not tryna shit on the creative team tho, it's just my attitude towards sequels in general)

[@faustofernandez2971]

When I was 49 and freshly out of the closet I met this young Mexican man and I fell completely in love with him. He was gay too but he was not physically attracted to me. We became good friends, but I cried so much for him! However, even in the midst of this pain I cherished the pain, because for the first time in my life I was in LOVE, a real feeling

[@han6454]

everytime i hear ‘visions of gideon’ i think back to that film and i can’t help crying, i haven’t felt the same since i watched this film.

[@gaillewis5472]

This was such an aesthetically pleasing movie. It was so nice to watch art for art's sake and truly feel for the characters.

[@kelseygill7450]

i’m so glad that i’m not the only person that’s forever stuck thinking about this movie and imagining the alternate ending i need but can’t have

[@vystap8835]

The ending scarred me. I had high expectations that Oliver would move to Italy with Elio. I honestly didn’t move on. The whole movie was perfect. But seeing the ending really f***ed up my overall point of the it. I honestly thought the movie was a masterpiece. But the ending was so depressing in a way that you won’t be able to watch the it like the first time.

[@moseseba2117]

ur pfp was literally my face at the end

[@vystap8835]

@@moseseba2117 IKR 😿 I hope they make a second movie for a happy ending!!

[@PaulKinnear]

@@vystap8835 there is a continuation novel

[@mackenziewolfe5009]

I just saw the title and went "You want to know the ending? ok then. The ending is me crying for three hours because Oliver left Elio."

[@shreya9709]

I read this somewhere and it was so beautiful, I had to share it According to Greek mythology, humans were originally made with 4 arms, 4 legs and a head with two faces. Zeus thought they would eventually overpower him so he split each of them into two humans, with two arms, two legs and one face. Our whole life is a journey we travel to find our other half. When Oliver says to Elio, "Call me by your name", he means that he has found his other half and they are back together, the way they were meant to be. They are one and the same so when they call each other by their own name, it signifies that the other person completes them.

[@catguy2397]

But in the end they are seperate, they had so much chemistry. This movie made me feel so many emotions all at once

[@rebecca8866]

This movie felt like it was grabbing my heart from the inside and crushing it by the end of the film. It was a beautiful melancholic heart wrenching film. I would watch it again. Its a beautiful film in the cinematography too.

[@sarahbraga825]

The prettiest movie i have ever seen. I cried so hard

[@TeddyandBricke]

Almost 2 years later I still can't get over this masterpiece!! It hits me all in the feels and I can never truly get over this love story!

[@legen_dharyll]

Same

[@zoerosiee]

Um I would kill for a sequel

[@belizguney2720]

Zoe Rosie it's coming hun!!!!!

[@viewmyexistence]

Beliz Güney do you know when ???

[@danielle1614]

Michaela Rivera it’s estimated around 2020!!

[@DiabolicalButler]

ill tell you this. if the sequel is based on the end of the book thats everything after the phone call. your heart will only break again

[@weave4886]

There’s one coming in nov 2019

[@hayleykeenan3177]

I watched this movie for the first time yesterday...and the second time because I fell in love with it so I am so excited for the sequel.

[@WilonaC]

is there?

[@mintystarmagic]

Freshman year highschool, family friends came to stay at my house for a couple of weeks. They had a son three years older than me that was my playmate when I was younger. We didn’t have any room to sleep in the house for me so I slept in the hallway floor. I felt a tugging on my shirt and It was him and he took me to his bed where we both slept. Our interactions that followed consisted of cuddles, long talks, stroking fingers on each other, and little kisses. Nothing sexual. He made me feel loved and that it was okay to be me. The most vivid memory was him grabbing my hand, and I asked him what was he doing and he replied with “I don’t know, but it feels right.” After he left, I waited for him. Four years go by and I find out he’s engaged. Out of all my pains I’ve experienced, heartbreak was the worst pain I’ve ever felt.

[@psyion6447]

thats basically the plot of this movie modernized

[@sexyhoe1800]

wow...

[@masterpeace7630]

Jesus.

[@baconaxolotl]

The father's speech had me crying

[@Val-hu4yg]

whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same

[@ΓιώταΜπιζοβίτη-δ1υ]

dude that's so wholesome

[@ameliamlove]

this from a movie but i cant recall

[@dianeaishamonday9125]

@@ameliamlove sounds like a quote from Wuthering Heights almost

[@AM-iz8su]

@@ameliamlove its from movie After yeah

[@ansiaahmed6201]

I remember reading this in After.

[@ankiegenvei2275]

I wish there was more movies like this, that really tugs on our most vulnerable emotions, that makes us feel like where there, in the moment, as well. Right after i just wanted to watch it again because of all the ups and downs that makes for such a satisfying expeience. There NEEDS to be a sequel!

[@user-jr2qc7qo6t]

Anki Egenvei there will be a sequel:)

[@mexDpeace]

Hey, some reccommendations for other movies that are somewhat similar: Lady Bird, Portrait de la jeune fille en feu (it's french with subtitles), Boyhood. Oh and even more loosely: Marriage Story, Florida Project, Paterson. Maybe there's something for you in the mix.

[@karencoates2487]

2022: Alas, the movie sequel has been cancelled! Check other sources for info.

[@Memo2Self]

I just saw this yesterday - the last theatrical show in my town before it left. My wife and I were the only two people in the theatre. I haven't been able to shake it (nor do I want to). What a beautiful, insightful essay you've created, and thank you so much for making the experience so much richer. (And for the Truffaut shoutout - growing up in the 60s and 70s and immersing myself in foreign films, I fear that a new generation only knows "BergmanESQUE" and "FelliniESQUE" and "TruffautESQUE" without even knowing what the direct reference is.)

[@MrsCinnamone]

Girls, your work is amazing!! You put so much effort and bring such interesting points. I loved the book, and the movie shows the characters' emotions so beautifully, I couldn't put it in words but you did so well.

[@kellysipewou5155]

I watch this movie for the first time today, i cried so much, especially during the father speech and at the end. This is one of the most magnificent love story. God I want to be able to love like i was seventeen again !!

[@ninobaum]

I swear… that movie is a masterpiece! After I watched it, I was sad for days… DAYS! I really felt the pain, love, anger, simply every feeling of Elio….it’s just incredible.

[@luisleal2940]

I got into this channel just a couple weeks ago and It’s simply amazing . Greetings from Mexico .

[@paranoidandroid1997]

Fernando Leal tienes que ponerte al corriente. No hay videos malo aqui.

[@estherthebester9359]

The emotions in this movie are so raw you almost feel as if it’s real life and not a movie. I watched cmbyn a few days ago not knowing how much it would break me. I have never sobbed so hard in my whole life. This movie broke my heart but i can’t bear not seeing it again. I wish I could forget about it so I could experience watching the movie for the first time. Cmbyn will forever be my favorite movie ❤️

[@nickcherries]

this'll make me cry

[@anna20812]

i watched this movie for the first time last night and i just finished it a second time 24 hours later.. i cried so much more the second time having a better understanding of the true tragedy and meaning of this story, which i think is especially unique about this in that the nuances and what is left blatantly unspoken are more than enough to express the meaning more than any words could have. i thinking this movie has changed me forever. this movie can resonate deeply with nearly anyone, not just gay guys, from young to old and especially those who have experienced similar heartbreak and inevitable task of painful acceptance. no other story has touched me as deeply as this one has and i’m bracing myself for the heartbreak that the book will bring me next.

[@gavdrans]

That monologue from Elio’s dad near the end rips my heart out every single time

[@erwanfoucher2855]

Same

[@dudaviana7744]

the simplicity and humanity of this movie is what makes it spectacularly beautiful. i will never get over it.

[@8artiscycle8]

Ive never been in a relationship (dont judge me heheh ) but when I watched this movie, it feels like I am a broken hearted person.

[@ilythiaAO]

Same here Dan

[@alyswonderland1347]

I will never emotionally recover from this movie

[@seshlad1363]

Aly. Editzzz i can’t hear “the mystery of love” without fucking sobbing

[@moseseba2117]

And that's on 😔✌ E M O T I O N A L T R A U M A ✌😔