Can I Divorce My Emotionally Abusive Husband?

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[@JustOutHereTrustingGod]

Not trusting someone over giving the wrong amount of toilet paper there is in the bathroom is insane. On top of not wanting to go back to therapy because “there isn’t anything to talk about”. Run sis. And never look back. Let him play with someone else.

[@cpwwjd69]

I wonder what the thing is that will send him over the edge. She needs to leave.

[@JustOutHereTrustingGod]

@@cpwwjd69 Right. And to not want to get things resolved is a huge red flag. Cuz he’ll just complain that things aren’t improving and use that as ammo to be even more mad it’s like but you’re keeping things that way. It’s very manipulative. But let him tell it, he’s the victim.

[@AbrahamKingston]

There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; each one is special. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've realized that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost getting divorced because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort things out. It was a difficult time, but we got through it

[@AbrahamKingston]

Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@AbrahamKingston]

Welcome

[@janeilcarrington1725]

@@AbrahamKingston

[@rachellel.857]

I love how Glen is giving us language to NOT put up with BS! We appreciate you brother!

[@frano.1234]

I love how y’all both paused instinctively to compliment Anaya on her artwork mid-speech. Such a sweet moment!

[@candancephillips]

It can become abusive if he knows the behavior is hurting her and he is refusing to change.

[@jasmineherisse-packard7330]

I agree 100% with Glen. There’s no world in which her not having/knowing an exact number is considered deceitful. He is manipulating her into a position where she has to function in a place of fear of his responses. He needs to go to grow up and go to therapy.

[@victoriadennard5524]

I loved this episode. This is my situation of 13 yrs. My health took a turn postpartum while my husband was simultaneously giving me the silent treatment. I was 6 weeks postpartum. He hadn't talked to me for 5 weeks and completely drained our bank account with no explanation. I got our 5 kids and bounced. I was not about to stick around to see where this was headed. That was last Nov and he doesn't even call his children. This behavior was there all along but intensified over the previous 4 yrs and the months leading up to me leaving he really applified. He even started explaining to me in detail, how would manipulate people. It's was really disturbing to witness

[@cpwwjd69]

I'm glad you are safe and got away

[@MizzVeeCee]

And we appreciate Glen's analogies as well. Firstly, it makes for a great podcast. And personally, it saves my brain from having 10.000 questions when something has been said. Glen conveys a concept and the sentiment very well. Kudos for that.

[@rumbivsmelodylps1380]

I wwwp😂

[@ebonyb6603]

I love that your kids come in while you work. It shows authenticity . Thank you

[@crystalphillips696]

Glen nailed this one.

[@chandabwsandidge0430]

27:46 that’s good Glen! Therapy vs Personal Trainer relationships… it’s both/and for men and women forreal.

[@MizzVeeCee]

"Are you actively pooping in there?" took me out 🤣

[@daniellelewis5973]

The silent treatment is very emotionally immature and borderline abuse. Communication is everything! I agree with you Sir.

[@nnekatreshon]

“Our relationships should feel more like gym partners and less like therapy couches” wowowow that’s a Read🙌

[@aidajones-goins882]

Could there be a missing professional diagnosis that may explain the husband's emotions/behaviors?

[@MsDarko909]

First of all, I'm sooo glad you guys are back 🥰 second of all, absolutely Glen. Go off. This man is moving mad, needs to be checked and unfortunately I agree, he doesn't seem to like his wife

[@imanii4u]

Emotional immaturity is a whole thing. Intended or not, psychological trauma for the other spouse is the result. Even though someone doesn’t know they are being emotionally abusive, the partner feels and experiences the abuse. How long should someone “endure” psychological abuse and/or manipulation before it isn’t psychological abuse/manipulation (🤔). I hope that this woman finds the clarity she needs to understand her next steps.

[@anomalysa3]

Even with God. If you pray for your husband, God changes you first

[@josiebeck2670]

LOVE the reckless driving analogy! Yes.

[@Vesta0831]

This man was visibly upset by the cucumbers and tuna fish ❤😂

[@brittCherry24]

Hi Again. Checking in to see if you guys can help me. My husband and I (Married in May🎉😊) really enjoyed the course along with our pre-marital counseling. I purchased the course again to gift to my cousin who is getting married in October and going through counsel with her fiancé.

[@sugwilliams6257]

GREAT episode, went fast I had to check the time when Yvette said hmay. Many takeaways, don't ignore red flags in relationships, unless the husband concealed this behavior for the 3 yrs prior to marriage, don't proceed to intimate levels with people showing signs of immature behavior, if they don't mature that's a hellish, emotionally depleting existence. Trust God, WAIT, choose wisely. Grace and peace 🙏🏾

[@keyaramirez3357]

Thank you. Glen gave me so many truths to help with communicating my thoughts and concerns (including in relation to myself).

[@valeriedennis2870]

I like that... You only need one therapist... and it doesn't nees to be your partner

[@amark8786]

I love the energy you guys are in, in the video 🥰

[@chandabwsandidge0430]

14:19 her statement there refers to trust in the context fidelity/infidelity. This is a different kind of trust.

[@chandabwsandidge0430]

35:34 dat Baldimore rolled right off that tongue Glen 😂 (blewed up)

[@chandabwsandidge0430]

12:06 Interesting intro thus far… ways of communication are different which is normal for most people. It’s interesting that he mentions when he has feelings or thoughts, he isolates (as mentioned with his parents as well), so does this feeling exist towards his parents too? Continuing to listen…

[@blaizesibande6634]

Mrs melanin and Glen - hello 😊 much love from South Africa ❤😊

[@elainablunt613]

I agree what you guys said, but the play the devil's advocate...What if the husband is on the Autism/ Asperger's spectrum and he takes everything literally and perceives everything literally. Even as an adult many people haven't been diagnosed, especially if his parents were pretty passive and isolating in his childhood.

[@TWilliams88]

I agree. I was thinking that he may be on the spectrum as well.

[@MNIU_]

Same I think it’s MH

[@Coolkem1]

More reason he should agree to therapy because he would be frustrated about the situation enough to want to find a solution. I don’t think it fits this situation.

[@ciarab.3409]

Yeah I'm with Glen on this one. Especially with the tissue situation. I was like yeah he's definitely feeling something else but using her lying about the tissue as ammunition

[@taratucker4986]

I love you guys so much!!😂❤

[@nicolesims6131]

This was good yall ❤

[@TheHarrisFour]

She is lightweight invalidating his feelings though. He said he doesn't trust her with his feelings. Her saying she hasn't done anything to make him not trust her but I'm sure it came from somewhere outside of the toilet paper incident.

[@hannahisrael7577]

awww i just love you guys

[@Trisha81]

He has trust issues.....so while she may feel as though she's never given him a reason to believe she's cheated on him. she has to understand because of his inability to trust her that alone is a reason for him to believe she's capable of cheating and no matter how hard she try to be that perfect spouse her efforts will always go unnoticed because he will always focus on the times she left something out or the times she forgot to inform him of something. He has issues that only a professional can help with. She's going to be miserable in that marriage.

[@trinandrealewis001]

2:23 Okay, remember those statements in 3 to 5 years. 🎉🎉🎉

[@brittCherry24]

Hi!!! I’m starting to feel like a little bit of a stalker but I’ve tried emailing, sending a DM and calling the number on the website but I purchased the premarital course for the second time (this time as a gift) but myself or the recipient can’t access it. Please help me 😅

[@BeleafInFatherhood]

What’s your email?

[@brittCherry24]

@@BeleafInFatherhood I’m not sure why but my response with my email keeps disappearing. So I’m trying to type it in a weird way It’s gmail Brittanycwatkins

[@brittCherry24]

@@BeleafInFatherhood every time I type in my email my response disappears

[@brittCherry24]

@@BeleafInFatherhoodI sent my email to you in a DM on Instagram

[@MNIU_]

If the husband isn’t abusive , I’m wondering if he has MH issues, or maybe he is cheating? I hate saying that … but sometimes these random mood swings means something changed

[@Coolkem1]

It’s sad she’s asking how she can regain his trust because he has managed to convince her the problem is with her. He is establishing a narrative that she is the problem, she’s the liar for tiny mundane things that happen in every living. If i say I’m going to get milk but come back with a few more items according to him I’m a liar. That is so wild! He’s nuts!

[@AskIveSolar]

I wonder if the wife is deceptive?? Like, hey I'ma go grab a pair of shoes from the mall.....then she come back with a few pairs and outfit. Another thing we can take into consideration is introversion and extroversion. This is regarding his wanting quiet to figure it out. Feels dysfunctional but the root may be just not wanting to talk.

[@KingDeeba]

oh snap! (im saying that not even seeing i missed an episode 😂)

[@Empress87]

He sounds emotionally abusive, manipulative, and insecure on some level. It's likely he had those issues from before and it's just coming out in the marriage and his wife is getting the brunt of it. She's getting the blame for how he feels while he takes no accountability, when in fact his feelings are because of his internal issues.

[@michellepegues4011]

You two are Hilarious!

[@chocolatemama6262]

I think he may also have associated the miscarriages as her fault. He may be angry with her for not being able to carry his children and so he has found a way to treat her how he feels without saying that directly because he knows that may be too cruel....but what he is doing now is also very cruel. Goes back to what Glen said about him not being able to communicate and being emotionally immature. Everything is about him and for him and when it's not the way he wants it he pulls one of those numbers. Just my thoughts. Ask her for an update regarding that specifically....see what she says.

[@trinandrealewis001]

3:46 Now, your beautiful children. look at yourself and hubby times × 1000. Lol!!! Why do our children act the way that they do.... 😂😂😂 Rebellion. 😅 Hilarious🎉 6:34 Audacity??? Lol!!!

[@louisefenny]

So trueee

[@jesusgymasmrlover]

27:12 👏🏽💯👏🏽

[@yasmeinwalls2927]

Hi ❤🎉

[@HowMarriedAreYouPodcast]

Hey!!!

[@ty6015]

🔥🔥🖤

[@GAMETYMEyoyo]

These two are a perfect match... PICK-ME & Narc

[@shellyjoe]

@speakonit9955 Are you new here or are your comments just personal? 🤔

[@sugwilliams6257]

​@@shellyjoereally, I too am confused by this comment 🤔

[@RDCFemmes]

Nobody is forcing you to watch

[@njaugu6374]

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@GAMETYMEyoyo]

Yvette doesn't protect her daughter when Glenn says reckless things in regards to baby girl.

[@GAMETYMEyoyo]

Aynia: Show Rainbow Glenn: Complements YVETTE: Follows up with Complement... Glenn: Then makes it about him (Narc) YVETTE: Tries to protect but then backs down.

[@GAMETYMEyoyo]

This dude is so off-putting...He couldn't appease his daughter request for her Birthday... Ugh. Y'all have rose colored lens when it comes to him.

[@caregiver-69]

He sounds mental.

[@Euniqview]

🤭😂sorry for laughing