John Crist's Confession About Being Cancelled

[@LimpingforJesus]

This was powerful. I went through a divorce as a pastor a few years ago. It nearly destroyed me. I felt rejected by everyone. I’m still healing. What helped me is I joined a men’s group and I was able to open up about my pain. They saw me as Mike and not pastor Mike. They said my transparency helped them be honest too. I still have healing to do. A lot of church hurt to heal from but it was also the Body of Christ that I found healing and joy again in. I’m so grateful John did this interview.

[@delilahzierer8682]

For those who have truly experienced grace, we see you the way our Father sees you ❤️ The Pharisees will always be present… but greater is He (and your brothers and sisters in a Christ) who know… “if not for grace” 🥰 Praying you win more for the kingdom with your testimony than ever before ❤️

[@miltonperry9135]

Hi Mike. Your comment went straight to my heart. I was also a pastor for 20 years and stayed in a horrible marriage for 35 years. When the marriage finally crumbled to nothing, I went through the deepest pain of feeling like a complete failure. Like you, even though several years have passed, I am still healing as well. Blessings on you Brother.

[@LimpingforJesus]

@@miltonperry9135 , I’m sorry you know this pain too. God is still king, even in our darkest moments. Thank you for reminding me I’m not alone in this healing journey.

[@Thebird1417]

Something lot of people forget is that Christians are human, and the church is full of humans. They make mistakes. Church hurt kept me out of it for a long long time until I was able to discover that truth and forgive. People expect church goers to act saintly but they sin just like everyone else! They handle situations wrong, they judge, they condemn…. But it shouldn’t stop us from being a part of it!

[@seanparks1675]

I think people can forget that pastors are regular people. Regular human beings. So when something happens they say “how could he do that, he is a pastor”. This does not mean God can’t still use you. Remember, what the enemy meant for evil God will use for his good.

[@jeanwest1058]

I once met John Christ in Vegas. It was so random. He was so sweet and kind. I was a big fan before 2019 and I am a bigger fan now. Great show. ❤❤❤ powerful message. God at work. Such a blessing ❤❤❤

[@jeremygrogan]

I love your courage. I was a leader in my local recovery community, even ordained as a minister. A year later, I hit a struggle and went back to closet drinking. When I came clean, the pastors helped me get into treatment and now I have a year clean and I'm so much stronger than before. God really does use what the enemy meant for evil and turns it into good.

[@dbrockelman36]

Wasn't a huge John Crist fan,...but after seeing his complete honesty and transparency is staggering in this interview, I am a HUGE fan now. Kudos to you John and I sincerely wish nothing but great things for you going forward. Continue showing that we are SINNERS and that's THE ENTIRE PURPOSE OF CHRIST'S DEATH...AND RESURRECTION!

[@dburd58]

This made me cry when John talked about his parents visiting.....We only have 5 children but to get to one in need we would move heaven and earth to get to them. I understand the voice in our head, I'm from an abusive father situation and still in my 60's someone can say something and that voice says "you know you're not really good enough". I remind myself God made me enough.

[@nailahcooper4187]

This is so touching, I vaguely remember hearing about “the scandalous behavior” and going on about my business. And when I start seeing the comedy again I was glad but what I didn’t realize was the pain John Crist endured. We know all people sin but some especially famous people we don’t give grace, encouragement & prayer. This is my reminder to pray and give grace.

[@paulsomerville7326]

Just ordered the book. I'm a senior Pastor and I'm about to celebrate 35 years clean and sober. Thanks John for reminding me where I come from. If you ever need another recovered friend to lean on, I'm here.

[@judiecrawford2588]

I'm proud of you for stepping out.

[@pamelarudolph3908]

Raised as a pastor’s kid that experienced lots of legalism and hurts from running from city to city hiding minister parents sin and failures. You made me laugh and heal through this. Thanks. 😊

[@kobushauman3310]

Thank you for what you too have done for the Lord Jesus Christ Who is God and His Holy Ghost 🙌🏿 ✝️ 🧎🏽

[@aceyirl]

John, you are free in Christ, and we love you. We all struggle with sin and shame, and I am so thankful that the church was there to catch you. Looking forward to more from you.

[@jkkswide]

This was a great podcast. Encouraging to hear that John could say the Church helped lift him back up rather than holding him down. Praise God!

[@ivan.bucher]

I keep thinking of the woman at the well (John 4) as it relates to our need to fill the deep emptiness we each experience in different ways from wounds in our lives. It's refreshing to hear stories like John Crist's where the oppressive shame can be removed through confession and forgiveness in Christ. Thanks John for doing this interview and for your vulnerability. Praise God for his good works and faithfulness to us. God is good and his love endures forever!

[@CareyNieuwhof]

Well said!

[@ryanlund1868]

This was a great episode. I love the mix of Carey’s interview skills with John’s post-rehab/christian/comedic honesty. Super refreshing interview.

[@CareyNieuwhof]

Much appreciated!

[@cynthiakarkeys]

As a long time fan of John Crist-literally introduced to him through his Instagram Girl video, it’s so heartwarming to see him so vulnerable and open and sharing his wisdom. Loved this whole interview!

[@SandieCastaneda]

Jon is so brave doing an interview like this. Hope he continues to do them as it can help others and also aid in his own healing 🙏🏽

[@reese10179]

Just met John on Sunday at his show in Alabama. The way he brings both sincerity and laughter is a huge gift. Appreciate this kind of conversation so much.

[@mitchellwintercat]

Thank you for defending your parents, “My parents’ message was not what I received. I (JC) received a different message than what they were saying.”

[@Team_Blackledge]

This was a great interview! As someone in recovery I know there is physical sobriety and then there’s emotional sobriety; John’s humility and vulnerability says he has both 🙏🏻

[@bakerwannabe4435]

This was a great interview. I admit that I was a John Crist fan but when I read stuff years ago about how his life was so different than what he portrayed, I stopped watching him for a while. I didn’t know he was working it and it’s nice that he shared this. I’m so glad I watched this and appreciate his honesty and transparency. I wish John all the best.

[@laetitian1542]

I love how his story of redemption speaks louder than any fancy sermon. I have learned again the power of your testimony is in sharing. Illuminate your darkness to help others to do the same, so nothing is hiddden and we can all realise we are all imperfect.

[@martdavid84]

This interviewer is a fantastic listener. I appreciate that he let Crist talk!

[@saraschaffer7331]

Grateful for a serious conversation with one of the greatest contemporary comedians!

[@michellek2934]

What an incredible exchange and testimony! I volunteered at one of John’s shows a couple of weeks before things came to light. It’s so encouraging to hear about his recovery and such a positive faith journey.

[@sharonarruda2518]

PETERBOROUGH! I'm a local and stumbled upon this video following watching one of John's videos. It's nice to hear this openness; just because we are Christians, it doesn't mean we have everything all together...it just means we recognize that we need Jesus.

[@BabsScott]

Thank you so much to you both.. I believe the church is dying in shame.. recovery from any issue is lifelong.. thank you for being real.. God is good.. and it was good to hear again.. I am fully known and loved!! We need this message

[@Lilymaglioni]

I love the point about looking back and understanding that the message you received as a child is not necessarily the truth or the message purposefully being sent, and as an adult you can understand what your parents were dealing with ... My parents only had 2 kids, and it was just a normal thing that my mom was late picking me up all the time from extra-curricular things as she juggled life and trying to run errands while she had a second. I never took it as anything bad, I liked chilling with my instructors, but I can see why a child would be hurt by that.

[@melanieworthington4110]

Thank you for being REAL . I can’t even imagine what the what …. I think you are absolutely a hysterical human being…thank you for being alive and sharing your humanity..God bless you!

[@Jenwhite5]

I really appreciate the time and space you gave him to find his words, thoughts and feelings, and just talk through his process. It communicated to him and your viewers that valued his process and dignified his journey. Thank you.

[@Praise2024]

I can’t believe I just found John Crist in the last few days!! It’s crazy! I’m SO THANKFUL someone sent me a funny video of him and I’ve been laughing ever since! Lol I can relate to just about every thing he says as I was raised in church and my parents took us every time the doors were open! Love it!! 🙏🏻😂🥰

[@Acorder977]

I've been a huge fan of John for ages now, and I am so proud of how he's handled his situation, his cancelation, rehab, etc. As an ADD person, it is extremely rare for me to sit and listen to 90 minute podcast but there were soooo many relatable moments in this, and I was so captured by his vulnerability and raw, open dialogue. John's comments about the message he received being different from the messages he was given came from such a place of humility and grace and couldn't be achieved without all the work he's done! Also, the comments on shame...whoa. So true. The thoughts on private vs public criticism...so powerful. "They're not rooting for your recovery or even your change. They're looking for you to fail." So incredible and true and something that can change the world! I also really appreciate the interviewer's willingness to allow John to work through what he wanted to share. It is very rare to see an interviewer who isn't afraid of the silence. Often, they feel the need to feel the space, and we miss the raw, true feelings of a person working out to articulate what they're feeling. Incredibly well done! I'm picking up John's book today!

[@DarleneMartz]

What a good interview with John! Lot of things that I didn't know before. Makes me love him more. God bless you John!

[@NataliaSaenz-d1r]

I like John Crist so much. Not only is he funny, but now his vulnerability and healing will help many within the church in darkness and pain. We are all broken. Keep running John!

[@debbiemoore7930]

Love John for his comedy, now I respect him for his honesty too!

[@hilariehoughton]

This is so great. I’ve always liked John Crist - and after what he’s been through, his words hold even more weight.

[@RegainingRaven]

I love this guy in general and I teach mental health and how children see and feel differently than adults. I’m so happy he is speaking on this. I never knew anything until this podcast.

[@mountainplace]

I am one of the moms that shared you all over social media. When your private life was plastered all over the place my reaction was to pray for you and pray for your restoration. God put you on this planet for a reason. Yeah, the devil made a play for you and being young in faith you fell. What I saw as time went by was a young man owning his choices, taking responsibility for his life. THAT is HUGE. Then, you went and got help and you keep your life wide open. That is called repentance. As far as the shame goes, it's good to remember the pain but shame is a weapon in the hands of the devil and plays no good role at all. The devil wants to keep you limited with shame and I am praying you don't let that happen. You are a very bright light. My and my old lady friends pray for you that the enemy shuts up and you will rise up courageously and don't hold back. Your humility is real. Shame is not part of humility. Shame is nothing but destructive. We love you and we have your back.

[@RehtaehNadroj]

A long time @johncrist fan. This is the BEST interview. It makes me realize I’m not as abnormal & crazy as my boyfriend says I am😊 When my mind won’t turn off and is running rabbit wholes, I feel so alone & iscolated. At a point when I wish I could turn it off and quiet the storm, I dig into Bible, prayer & some laughter to keep the light on. Thank you John for exposing that these things happen & can be productive. I appreciate your honesty & vulnerability.

[@screamingfromtherooftop]

Wow! Best John Crist interview I’ve ever seen. Thanks for being real. Saw you in London, best time. Keep it going brother🙌🏼God bless🙏🏼❤️

[@ponderosapondhomestead4344]

Well said! We receive a different message than what was given. A lot of hurting people in this world. Many of them are truly loved, but can’t receive that love.😢

[@pamglass6007]

This is the best interview I’ve seen with John Crist. Can tell he feels very comfortable with this host.

[@erica.davidson]

Thank you for telling your story, for your humility, and for all that you do with your comedic ministry. May God bless you!

[@retiredteacher2015]

I wasn’t really aware of John Crist before the cancellation. So glad he got help and is doing well. Fully know and fully loved. 🙏🏼 God’s Grace is new every morning. Secrets make people sick.

[@TanyaMBowers]

This reminds me that darkness cannot dispel light, but Light CAN dispel darkness. Praise God for God’s Forgiveness and Love… Thanks for keepin’ it real John!🙌

[@chelseafailla9887]

"what about grace for the one who has caused it?" so much grace. i love that you brought this up - shame on the Church for not extending grace quickly and abundantly for those hurting after hurting others

[@mariaspamperedchefs1753]

Wow! The change in this man! He is a perfect example of what redemption, restoration, surrender truly is. Thank you John for being open about your life. Really amazing to see what God has restored to you.

[@CareyNieuwhof]

Well said!

[@winnie2379]

If you have a friend who messes up in their marriage relationship, don’t walk away from them. Be there for them. You don’t even have to say anything at times. Don’t let them feel that they’ve lost your friendship too. They already feel miserable enough…they need you.

[@Mary-fy3tc]

And remember to support the wronged spouse at the same time. 🙏

[@timlittle5654]

One of the best/raw and honest conversations I’ve heard! Thankyou guys

[@kimenfield195]

Thank you John for your honesty and being vulnerable. I appreciate this entire conversation and even found myself examining my own life. I pray the Lord continues to work in your heart and that you find your strength through Him. God Bless.

[@vanessajanik4623]

Redemption is a powerful gift. I’ve seen John’s stand up twice. Once pre cancellation in church & just recently at a regular venue. Also read his book & huge fan of his pod. His Self awareness & transparency is commendable. He also doesn’t intentionally wanna hurt ppl .. even in his comedy he pushes the line but still cares about ppl.

[@pattiknick9930]

John we have loved and supported you all along the way. As parents with grown kids it’s so refreshing to have these talks of perception & things our kids took way off from how it was meant. Heartbreaking as a parent but having been a child before we do get it and talking about it is so freeing! Thank you! Keep us laughing all along this healing life journey!

[@barbdaly8172]

By Gods grace we all go! No one is above stumbling. We will always care about you!

[@maemeecoen7449]

Such a beautiful, authentic process John. We kiss the wave that throws us against the Rock of Ages brother. Your testimony is a blessing.

[@tracyh.7271]

This was fantastic. Thank you for asking such thoughtful questions & letting John be vulnerable in a safe space. Congrats to John on 4 years! Wishing him all the best on his continued work on himself. I am glad he is back sharing his comedic talents with the world. His live shows now include a small, inspiring chat on mental health & I love that he shares it with his fans.

[@brittanyfoy8944]

So glad this popped up! Enjoy you even more, John! I pray God continues to heal and bless you.

[@guardself921]

This was one of the best things I’ve heard lately. Thank you both!

[@tonyah626]

Thank you for sharing your story John. I also had a secret life with sex addiction. The shame and fear of being rejected if people knew the truth helps to feed the secret. I came out in 2016. Jesus saved me. I’m forever grateful. Spent the past 7.5 years on a healing journey. It’s still hard walking in purity, yet God holds me close every day. I’m thankful for my freedom. So glad I don’t have a secret life to go back to. I’m a believer and sat in church for decades broken and chained to sex addiction. Keep talking John and bringing light to this battle. So many need to be reminded there is hope on the other side. With Jesus change and freedom is possible ❤️🙌🏼

[@billie-shayeharper3241]

Such a powerful interview and testimony. Always remember you may not feel qualified to counsel or speak to anyone but He qualifies the called. He’s given you this platform for a reason.

[@user-of6um3so3m]

I'm new to John's comedy and enjoy listening to him. How nice to see his open heart, it's healing in many ways 💜 thank you 😊

[@coffeytnmilk7]

I love your honesty! I can’t tell you how many times in the church I tried to be honest and was smacked down for being transparent. I’m not so courageous anymore.

[@han.nah.]

KZbin recommended this video to me & I am so glad! John, I’m proud of you for getting help and letting the Spirit work through your weaknesses. Had no clue you had a book, but immediately added it to my TBR. Side note, for anyone interested more in dealing with shame, I recommend Dr. Curt Thompson’s “The Soul of Shame” book - and his Being Known Podcast. I’ve used these resources to help me lean into vulnerability.

[@margaritajohns7907]

Thank you for mentioning that we all have some type of trauma Which I believe it takes us to addictions if some kind. The light of God brings light to our souls ⭐️❤️🙏🕊

[@susanhumphrey6427]

John Crist is one of my favs & I so enjoyed watching this. Hearing y’all discuss shame just drove home for me that shame is one of Satan’s best weapons. It keeps us hidden in the dark & fearful. Jesus does the complete opposite. He loves & forgives us no matter what we’ve done.

[@boblee335]

Thanks for a genuine interview with John. Several of us saw him in Richmond last Sunday and he had us in stitches the entire night.

[@BarrySanchez]

I was just introduced to John through the Robertsons via Not Ashamed with Phil, Jase, Al & Zach & Duck Call Room with Si, Martin, John-David & Phil & others & I find John Crist to be a refreshing honest person who’s extremely funny, I throughly enjoy John’s videos & his Christian’s overview on life. Thank-you & GOD BLESS You John.

[@andrearush6209]

1:04 - ABSOLUTE TRUTH. Thank you for saying this out loud. It's wrecking the Church. Cheering you on as you grow, John. 1:33:30: Also, thank you for this statement about private v. public calling out.

[@kimfrank2978]

I appreciate so much all the truth and power that came through so loud and clear. Bravo!

[@michellebartley1967]

I only found John recently as a comedian and loved him instantly. Now that I’ve had the privilege to see into his struggles I love him even more. Thankyou for your honesty, transparency and humanity!! One of my favourite verses in the bible is Isaiah 61 - Beauty for Ashes. Declaring this for you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@jeremywhiteside]

Thank you for your honesty and transparency. You’re still one of my favorites John. It’s a shame the church is still burying their own wounded instead of receiving them like Jesus with unconditional love and forgiveness.

[@lakieshatownsel5318]

An absolute beauty for ashes conversation. It was difficult to listen to a person who is still carrying so much shame. It’s heart breaking. Praying that as he continues to tell his story that he has more encounters with the one who sees and loves him most. A deep revelation and then the manifestation of who Christ is and how He wants to use this story for His glory-for real.

[@dellathompson]

We are new fans and really appreciate his transparency here! God Bless you !

[@janavos9901]

I remember when this came into the light in 2019, as I've been a fan for years before that. I remember even then, his honest apology before he went to rehab and was offline for almost a year. From the start, he owned his mistakes and never blamed or pointed fingers to others. He's said in other interviews how it was one of the best things that ever happened to him, because he was at such a deep low. After he returned, he's been even funnier, and this interview reveals the wisdom he gained from the experience, really having worked through his life experiences and receiving Jesus's healing. Loved this more serious interview just as much as his comedy. Big hugs to you from across the globe, John. Thank you for your honesty. We love you. Great interview.

[@bethennydot9867]

As a field worker that believes in the power of exalting God in our weakness, this was such an anointed conversation. God spoke to me about things and touched on ID issues I hadn’t been able to get to in a while. Thank you so much for being open, vulnerable, and for loving Jesus more than anything else.

[@kellyreece5600]

Moved enough to comment, THANK YOU both for being honest and transparent. God bless

[@amieriner9077]

I didn’t realize that KZbin loves comments until this video! So here’s mine. Absolutely loved Chris’s take on Christianity. Thank you for posting this video. It was very uplifting this morning.

[@SandraLisa636]

Thanks John - being authentic helps other Christians be authentic too.

[@LIVINGINWASHINGTONDCNOW]

John appreciate the vulnerability and honesty. Wow. You are striving so hard to be a good person and you are. I appreciate your clean humor. Seen you perform 2x. Got to share a show with my dad. Keep up the great work of healing others by sharing your vulnerabilities.

[@GodisGood100x]

Refreshing to see this side of John Crist. Wow. Thank you for sharing what so many others can relate to. This may be more of your calling than the comedy…

[@boblee335]

Thanks for such an open and authentic interview with John. A blessing to hear his story.

[@fabulousfamily564]

I really felt it when he talked about his parents forgetting him at the park, and being unimportant, overlooked and excluded. I think being a parent is difficult, but our kids will tell us what they like and don't like, if we don't get mad. They can teach us how to parent better.

[@dottiharris1150]

Thank you for sharing your humanity and humility. This is one of the best interviews I've watched. God bless you as you continue to bless others with your gift, Mr. Crist. Thank you for continuing to stay on earth & bring light to the darkness in people's lives.

[@CareyNieuwhof]

Thanks for listening

[@gingercollier7949]

Loved John Christ and didn’t know he was cancelled until after it was over. What stuck me was him talking about the pastor who’s church sent him to rehab. I wished that was how my church would have handled my former pastor. It would have helped him and so many of us and more healing what have happened I think. Thanks for being real John.

[@katmorissetterucker82809]

So grateful that John shared more of his story and that you provided this platform. So important for the church to be transparent and talk about these things.

[@tanahermosillohuyck4802]

John, thank you for sharing your story and being vulnerable! Your honesty makes you approachable and trustworthy. Praise God for meeting you in the darkness, talking you out of the miry clay, and bring you into His glorious light. God’s love, discipline, forgiveness, and compassion are overwhelming good.

[@kannemollen]

So awesome to hear the full story and see his road to redemption. Seeing this side of John was SO nice.

[@jessicascott8780]

Wow, thank you so much for being open and vulnerable John! I so relate to the grip of shame. This encourages me!

[@gigimarch647]

A very revealing, real discussion. Because of this video, I’m going to buy the book as a Christmas gift for my husband. He goes to a men’s Bible study and talks about the value of being able to open up and share with the men who attend.

[@jonaecoleman9323]

I have had my struggles with the church recently. I’m a new widow. My husband the breadwinner. I homeschooled my babies. I thought church was supposed to be the safe place. As I have watched my life fall apart in credit card debt. I have received mostly judgment from the “church”. I have served in ministry with my husband for more than 20 years. I know there is a true, loving, bride of Christ, but modern day church sometimes heaps so much came upon us. But credit card debt is shameful, no matter the circumstances of how you got there. It’s hard for me to think about mega churches and the money they spend.

[@PandiosNezcoba]

A new side of John Crist and I’m here for it. I found myself leading a double life not long after I got saved and it has been a journey so this discussion has turned into an eye opener that I am/was not alone. Though, it make seem like otherwise. I love the take on shame, it is literally the most powerful weapon and I never considered it as such, but I remembered how every time I felt shame, it sent me into hiding, walking on egg shells trying not to break the fragile glass I called my sanity. So afraid of others and God finding out my shame, like He wasn’t looking at my crazy attempt to hide behind a sheet of glass. 😅😅

[@kareenv2637]

Wow I love how you worded this! I relate, shame has been a huge thing in my life and the double life thing. Finally becoming one person instead of two.

[@barbaradavis3489]

You are amazing. My daughter died and you're helping me smile again, and laugh. THANK YOU!!!

[@beverlylogan6112]

I am 71 and a "borned and raised" Pentecostal. I've always played the piano at church and sang all around Texas with my two younger sisters. My mom loved church and couldn't wait to get there- but I didn't quite feel the same way. It felt like everything I wanted to do - or try - was a sin! I did a lot of sneaking around to give sin a try! Which, of course, only made me feel guilty and down on myself. Thankfully, I finally found my own personal relationship with Christ and things became simpler and easier. When I had my son I had to allow him to find his own resolution to salvation and understood why my mom wanted to beat me! Now here I am just living and loving Jesus and trusting in his Words! You are a funny, funny young man and I have shared your videos with many of the young ones in my family! Good luck and God Bless!

[@abigailboyd2534]

Thank you, John. I love the way you talk and explain things. Not pat answers and explanation. I totally relate to that and appreciate that. Keep it going!

[@CareyNieuwhof]

Glad it was helpful!

[@brendaterry3976]

Thanks for sharing your experiences. It has helped me to understand what happened and I confessed my sin of judgement. I always tell people that everyone has a story, but sometimes I forget that myself. Keep your eyes up John. God Bless you

[@CareyNieuwhof]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@sjckfrickel6046]

Simply refreshing and amazing. I love the discussion on transparency and vulnerability in the church but there was so much substance in this discussion.

[@sophiesniche]

I'm very happy your beyond your addiction. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️. Love your comedy.

[@jj-hv2op]

One of the best episodes of any podcast I have every heard great and necessary conversation

[@meggambill5263]

Just wanted to say the emotion that John is going through the entire time during this interview, I just felt every attachment to his memories. His presence of feeling even shame being in a church or on a church stage the levels of forgiveness and accepting that forgiveness when you don't feel you deserve it... after years even of feeling that you are. Thank you for just opening up again john!! Can't wait to see you in Evansville tomorrow! I also come from a Christian family of 10!! I'm bringing half to see you can't wait!!❤ sending love and prayers for every step down your path!

[@pandrulonis]

This was a great conversation. The openness and the discussion was so enjoyable to watch.

[@mindyhuntbeach8026]

I have a great deal of respect for John. He is transparent and vulnerable and I truly appreciate him!

[@likrisz1]

Thank you John for being so open and vulnerable. I am happy for your new phase of life! 🎉

[@kimberlyqueen2854]

Did not expect to hear my pastors name in this. That aside, I prayed for John while he was in rehab and it was so sweet to be at one of his shows a year later. Really hope he felt the genuine love and grace from the whole audience

[@fathersredeemed]

I appreciate the fact that John is willing to talk about it, and not defend what he did. He owning his mistakes. This is what happens you go through some counseling, you learn to own your mistakes and why you made those mistakes. No one is good..I read that somewhere. I know the one that wrote that was really smart.