Why You Shut Down During Small Talk Sometimes

[@gerritdeman6410]

My problem is that I often just don't know what to say. When I'm talking with someone my head is constantly like 'OKAY, WHAT CAN I SAY TO THIS, THINK THINK, UHM YEAH I AGREE THAT'S NICE!' but I can hardly ever think of something interesting, while if I'm alone after that I can suddenly think of a dozen interesting topics I could have talked about. It's really annoying. :p

[@yhourruitiner]

I’m not an expert but I’ve found that really paying attention to what the other person is saying and asking follow up open ended questions works to keep the conversation going until something comes up that relates to my personal experiences or opinions.

[@Zyxwy]

The problem that we have with coversation is that we make it about us. "How do I sound? What do I say? Am I being weird? What if they dont like Me?" You should actually focus on the Person you're talking to: Who are They, what do They like, what do They do, why do They like what they like, what do They think about xyz? It gets easier the more you practice. I practice at work and it's helped my social skills A LOT. I'm not Oprah but I got more conversational skill now than I had 3 months ago! You can do it too!

[@mrheimdall]

I call that the George Costanza Complex.

[@dorisi.2920]

Gerrit DeMan lmfao we have the same issue

[@beyondviolet]

Gerrit DeMan I get really scared when I don’t know exactly what I’m doing in every situation, especially conversation. I start shaking and I can’t think properly at all, which just makes it worse. It’s so frustrating and awkward.

[@MrCmon113]

#1 Quit the small talk and get on to something interesting. "The weather is beautiful today." "It is, do you think we should engage in an all out trade war against China?"

[@Raikeran]

lmao

[@estevanperez6161]

😂

[@alexanderdavid4271]

F*ck this 🤣 you should at least get 1k likes

[@OscarGeronimo]

lol, I almost spit on the screen. XD

[@beyondviolet]

Taxtro well, you did it

[@brandondaniels9471]

Charisma on Command: 💡 _I'm gonna use Kanye as an example to teach these guys how to master conversations!_ Kanye: _I'm bout to end this man's whole career_

[@Anonymous-so1ho]

Lol I was waiting for these comments to start coming in

[@Norie92]

came here to say this

[@Wiseman__]

my exact thought lol.

[@themisterg.]

Kanye has balls at least.

[@sylvianartist8930]

what's going on with Kanye??

[@kimmybear100]

I just never have anything to talk about. Literally nothing.

[@comfortlucia]

Can relate 💯 I just end up just smiling or laughing awkwardly at myself because my brain is literally frozen at that moment

[@pikira2246]

omg same XD

[@jakesampson5629]

Kimberlyn Mcmurray I literally have the same problem, so to combat that I began just talking about stuff that interests me, as long as it was mildly appropriate in the convo. So for example, I actually found in like job interviews the employer actually respected ( occasionally) if I asked 'hey have you seen that new movie...' or whatever. I thought I may as well try it a few times as it's better than an awkward silence.

[@rambichan5997]

Sounds like you all have something to talk about now

[@pikira2246]

Michael Hong You think we can just walk up to someone and say “yo I have nothing to talk about”?

[@MemeSnack]

What point have I reached in life were I have to search for a KZbin video on how to engage in a conversation :(

[@nightfighter7452]

You're not the only one fam, its okay

[@mako.m1885]

fucked up I know

[@cameronschlobohm8562]

Adulthood

[@Walamonga1313]

Meme Snack Lol, I didn't have to search it. It just popped up in my recommended videos.

[@conta-fake6723]

Well, at least you're trying to improve

[@ketgremlin8776]

Two introverts who don’t know each other trying to engage in small talk is horrible

[@vitoscalita]

Comedy gold

[@synthesize5618]

Facts bro, as an introvert, it’s painful af

[@ao2415]

True. “What are u doing?” “Nothing, you?” “Same.” *silence*

[@blackdiamond4049]

Oh that's fun

[@nickkriebel1884]

Lmao

[@norse_cat]

I think there's a difference between an introvert and social anxiety/awkwardness. Introverts don't necessarily feel awkward, since they can be confident, they just are more exhausted by social interactions.

[@CoachAhava-0000]

This. I deal with shyness, anxiety, and introversion. Small talk is excruciating, a group gathering with a purpose makes for easier choices for what to talk about. Shyness isn't low self esteem. I have confidence and can make friends. Flirting though...😂.

[@Ndinogona]

🎯

[@w0ry035]

social interactions are more exhausting to us introverts because we're highly sensitive to small little negative emotions, we feel more anxious than extroverts, angrier than extroverts, more embarassed and we're bored by superficiality which all contribute to draining our social batery considerably more.

[@daks8888]

Right. I mean I have trouble getting into being playful while talking to someone. I think it's because of depression really. Takes me a lot. I wish there were more videos on getting into being playful actually.

[@dazz2469]

Yeah i have social anxiety which makes me avoid social situations completely.

[@Alexis_005]

If introverts knew how to use this points when needed. We wouldn’t be introverts. My Mind goes blank the minute someone tries small talk

[@WelcomeToMyDream]

Introverts don't have these functions "built-in", but we can learn from videos like this, or books in my case, before KZbin. Learn and practice. I'm still an introvert with social anxiety, but people who don't know me well usually can't tell. Obviously I'm still working on it, since I'm watching this video and just subbed to this channel. Blue Skies!!

[@atomonx5582]

Making eye contact most of the time gives me brain damage 😂

[@danarzechula3769]

Then make them talk about themselves. You'll never need to speak

[@alyxms5826]

I swear

[@sylvie8860]

ikr we just dread the exhaustion of having to converse 💀

[@frogosplayer1]

Seems like my people have gathered in the comments... now we can all stand around in awkward silence, laugh nervously, and not make eye contact together ...

[@adr_x1114]

👀 👉👈 \ / ,/ \,

[@feliperuiz4884]

````👀 👉👈 \ / ,/ \,

[@carl_consumer.of.reality]

😶 👕 🤝 🩳

[@FiIIerguy]

Thanks human. I can now communicate effectively with my coworkers

[@lovelylluvia5300]

Lmao thanks

[@nooriman5944]

Are you a robot?

[@gino14]

We have just assisted an alien invader in the conquest of Earth. Do you feel better for yourself?

[@Will-gi3wg]

@Depressed The Girl Oh my. Did you end up getting fired? Did you show signs of anxiety at work? I've been through this.

[@luna010]

as a fellow human I agree this will be very useful for my social interactions with my friends

[@deli_bread]

As an introvert, something I like to do to skip small talk all together is just ask a hypothetical or interesting question. Some of my go-to favorites are "Is soup a drink?", "What do you think about garlic bread?", or the classic immortal snail problem.

[@chaosness7684]

thank you for this. def gonna ask people this once i graduate and test if this is reliable

[@peterdanisek2188]

are u 14

[@viniciusgrosse1958]

@@peterdanisek2188 Are you someone who thinks they're cool and different?💀

[@viniciusgrosse1958]

@@peterdanisek2188 yeah kid, I totally believe you

[@peterdanisek2188]

@@viniciusgrosse1958 bro you're like 16, don't tell me anything

[@clascaulfieldjr3653]

“Weather’s been good, huh? “ “Do you think we have free will?”

[@nateholmes2641]

So are you ready for the day of judgement

[@InglesporMinutoconAnthonyMartz]

So why is it that we introverts do that? Are we naturally predisposed to doing that? Because i literally was thinking of having a deep topic with a friend later on tonite to make sure I could make the conversation last longer

[@Mrko7M]

@@InglesporMinutoconAnthonyMartz don't these deep conversations end just abruptly and just make you feel awkward and i don't even feel awkwardness mostly talk about something you and your friend share which made you get the chance to know each other this the fruit for unlimited small talk

[@jamaldaood3633]

@@nateholmes2641 lmaoooo

[@boothagod3658]

Exactly

[@d4nielle364]

I came here because I panicked when talking to someone at school and asked which school they went to smh.

[@williamchristiansenwenners8140]

MagesticSnowflake lol 😂

[@budgetmindedconsumer6707]

You could spin it off as a joke or joke how you blundered. That’s what I do all the time. I say something like, “OMG! My brain is failing me. Ugh. Why?” I say it in a serious yet sarcastic tone. At the end of the day, people will either live you or be indifferent about you. Hope that helps

[@isaactorres5908]

MagesticSnowflake that's awesome

[@shorx9199]

Damn. Why do we even talk to other people, whats the point. Why do people loke doing it? Even introverts

[@lunakaisol]

MagesticSnowflake LMAO I’m sorry but this is hilarious 😂😂😂

[@phodilus2141]

the video i should’ve watched right after i was born

[@darthbane7140]

same

[@nefertitimontoya]

It's cool how life hands you things in a particular order, may you use the video knowledge henceforth in good health

[@wabdih]

lol i like this

[@markcacho6126]

Lmaoooooo

[@Escanorsataru]

same here.. accidentally stumbled on this but it should have been years ago

[@Jayhawker2000]

Another great tactic that Kanye taught us is to wear a black mask that covers 100% of your face. This helps to put everyone at ease.

[@kokolatte825]

😫🤣

[@willjamison]

underrated comment

[@lucioloco4062]

Also admitting to love hitler will definitely skip the small talk

[@JihadBunnydick]

Yeah I need to go to work like that

[@NB20LOL]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Alexisasful]

The moment you find all your introverted, depressed homies in the comment section sharing the same struggles with you is priceless.

[@anneneville6255]

At least now we don’t feel alone. But irl, I have almost never meet as awkward people as me, strangely. Hahha

[@vitoscalita]

@@anneneville6255 i mean im an introvert who is awkward but i don't show to others my awkward side i keep it to myself so u may have met awkward introverts but they didn't show u their awkward side

[@anneneville6255]

Leopold The III the Problem is sometimes when I try to hide my awkwardness, people think I am being arrogant :(

[@Yunes948]

We are one

[@angieacabal7942]

I have finally found my people.. Hahaha

[@torachan23]

My strategy was to always stare at the person intensely until they stopped talking and leave. Problem solved.

[@Substantial-hf1rm]

Tora Chan Jokes on you, akward stares just give me a boner!

[@binyoung7297]

Or just don't be there in the first place, right?

[@Account-cu2lf]

You are doing what Kanye does

[@silashouse1954]

😂

[@hemidas]

Simplest answers are usually the best.

[@betterbodies4u]

I've noticed that Introverts are not shy when texting .

[@FinesseFlightOfficial]

Sam Fitt true

[@blankness8]

Yup! Texting is a good outlet for me because it gives me a lot of time to think, and because we're not face to face the pauses aren't awkward! Also I've noticed introverts tend to have a lot to say if they're comfortable and they're given time to open up, so texting is a good medium :)

[@SheaHarris]

Introversion ≠ shyness

[@nofybn7794]

Depends on if they can give me something to work with.

[@valdanalimavidal7398]

That's so me... When I start texting i can't stop

[@usagitsukino3638]

_Say how the other person's statement makes you feel_ Me: *Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn*

[@findlayrankin9769]

usagi tsukino not trying to be rude or anything but that kind of response about not caring is probably why your watching this video.😅

[@usagitsukino3638]

@@findlayrankin9769 actually, I'm quite good at smalltalk. However that doesn't mean that I'm always interested in everything that someone says. Some people are just boring.

[@devinuluc3183]

@@usagitsukino3638 Some people are fucking boring indeed. It takes two to tango. If the other person aint doin shit, then I'm just gonna walk out.

[@Dash62g]

quality comment

[@kajaaki8422]

damn this is so true 😂🤣

[@VioletRaven.]

My favorite piece of advice in this video is the waiter interrupting analogy. If you are telling someone a story and you get interrupted, and the other person doesn't bring the conversation back to the story you were telling, they clearly weren't interested, so just move on. It's also a great way to show someone else that you were paying attention. If someone is telling me a story and we get interrupted, I will say "So you were telling me about..." and then I'll repeat the last thing they told me. People appreciate this, it shows that you were listening and that you care!

[@SirCanuckelhead]

The latter part is basically a common test for a boyfriend when his gf is talking, the dreaded question "What did I just say?"

[@VioletRaven.]

@@SirCanuckelhead Not really. I’m not asking the other person, “What did I just say?” I’m saying, “You were telling me about this thing, please continue.” Two completely different things.

[@lord_osama3206]

@@SirCanuckelhead Somehow girls always find a way to make there men suffer in every situation 🤣

[@Streamingstuff-qq3vw]

Im introverted my go to is where do the ninja turtles get their weapons

[@Xackory]

@@VioletRaven. this advice just isnt true do not listen to this lol

[@StrongBalloonChris]

Common question: "You're quiet, aren't you?" Me: "Yeah..."

[@randomnamesoicanfindmyself3123]

You like making noise, right?

[@lani0515]

It really be like that doe😳

[@CyAnKS93]

*Plankton voice* CORRECT!

[@535_anshuj9]

I can actually hear those voices while reading this. God,that's so annoying!!!!People never actually get it, do they??? I am quiet ,because you guys are doing enough damage by yourselves....Please just let me be!!!

[@jademaverick8291]

Yes, and then when you become close to the person who said that they're like, "And I thought you were quiet!"

[@HawkinaBox]

Small talk is boring as an introvert. REALLY REALLY BORING. "How are you?" "Good." Then there is silence and I'm FORCED to continue the conversation when they won't! I HATE when that happens!

[@RyotaMitarai]

I just found a solution, say 'What have you been up to lately?' I personally never used it but I heard all extroverts effectively say it at the beginning of conversation. Try it

[@kristupasantanavicius9093]

Its because "How are you" is not a literal question, its a greeting: "How are you doing?" "I'm fine, what about you?" "Wonderful." This is the same as 2 parties saying "Hi", but with a bit more substance so the parties can better gauge the situation and be able to direct the conversation appropriately. Its not just about the words that are being said, its also about the tone, facial expression and hand gestures.

[@fatknuts]

Ryota Mitarai the problem for me is it kinda sounds like something you would say to someone you already know, like if you haven’t seen them in a bit.

[@mondraymondo]

Exactly! Gawd cant they see im an introvert? Dont make me lead the conversation XD

[@blue-balenci4181]

RayMondoART its cuz we probably dudes

[@isabel9394]

Introverts are typically good and fun people. But you just gotta be patient with us :(

[@MySweetAriane]

Yes. Thank you.

[@PersonaofWill]

Cute dog creature

[@carcart5304]

This is true, thanks.

[@indiralopez1890]

I am dating one and I completely agree with you. Ican't get enough of everything he says. He's fascinating. And I only waited 2 full years ;-) now, not letting him go, ever

[@kinglucos5146]

Indeed

[@sythic_x]

Literally learning how to be a human......

[@conan6561]

Almost like we’re brainwashed not to be or somethin… crazy aye

[@sythic_x]

​@@conan6561 That comment 10 months old; I was not expecting a reply lmao

[@conan6561]

@@sythic_x u know that’s not a good habit to get into

[@xxxphilippxxx6260]

@@sythic_x so you didnt expect this comment a year later, either!

[@bermymon99]

Hard mode: small talk as an introvert Insane Mode: small talk with social anxiety

[@cinder8871]

MH's Elect nightmare mode: small talk as an introvert with social anxiety

[@travis_redfern6771]

송민민 I mean I just feel like the majority of introverts also have social anxiety tho.

[@gamedev6290]

Then all people are introverts. There is absolutely no need in illogical unpleasant not understandable "small talk" that has no value other than following a local british cultural standard non existing in the outer world. There is no such thing like small talk outside of britain. The world does not revolve around you. You do small talk - you are considered at best low intellectual or low-confident by 400 millions of post soviet citizens. At worst you can end up in a clinic. This is NOT okay to "small" talk unless you are scared, in state of affect or in rave

[@lila5338]

AscensionToMadness definitely death mode

[@athing18]

@@gamedev6290 I did not understand this post

[@PowahSlapEntertainmint]

_(Mhms in Kanye)_

[@TheComedyButchers]

*(Mhm intensifies)*

[@DillanV]

Kanye is a genius

[@mintybin]

😂🌝🌝

[@neighbor472]

Dillan V yee

[@abirdconcernedforhumankind2345]

Thank you Kanye, very cool!

[@soulassassin0g]

Small talk with stranger is easy. It's small talking with coworkers or classmates that is hard. Eventually you're going to run out of things to say and the only thing you talk about after that is work, which is boring.

[@blah9629]

same. i always loved talking to strangers, they hold no expectation nor standard or view over me yet and it makes me feel like i can be anyone i want because of the no-impression zone that we haven't quite pass through yet. DONT KNOW IF THIS MAKES SENSE BUT I DONT REALLY CARE. im tired. bye.

[@soulassassin0g]

@@blah9629 Don't worry, it makes sense to me. :)

[@pikira2246]

Especially when what the other person is talking about is extremely boring.

[@artemis8368]

Exactly! I like talking to strangers or meeting new people, but sadly at some point i run out of things to talk about with the ones i know (classmates)... so it gets kinda awkward... thats what i was hoping for to find in a video

[@zelekshmira]

For me it's quite the opposite: I don't know what to talk about around strangers, don't know how to start a conversation because I barely know the person. On the other hand there are various conversation topics that I can start with a classmate or someone else that I know.

[@ogjrap6928]

2:03 “Can I hug you?” I died 💀

[@Austin-on4zr]

"Hey." "Hey." "How are you doing?" "Uh... lemme pull out my notes real quick."

[@gekyume588]

Me: "Hey." Her: "Hey." Her: "How are you doing?" Me: Not bad... How are you doing? Her: I'm doing great! *awkward silence* Me: "nervous chuckle.. yeah.. well, i have to go but it was nice seeing you! talk to you later" xD

[@aliciaelizabeth7551]

Wow most relatable thing ever 😂

[@rhall5550]

“Hold on i need to watch this video first”

[@tashat60]

Yes! Lmfao. This is me too!

[@eves5297]

"How come, what was so great about your day?"

[@greatestever5539]

I find these videos very interesting, but I hate watching them because then I feel like I'm a lifeless robot that has to learn how to hold a full conversation with someone.

[@luna010]

sometimes you just have to accept that you're a lifeless robot

[@cal6741]

a f f i r m a t i v e

[@izadave8991]

@@cal6741 the distant future, the year 2000

[@tati79ana]

Don't think like that. The thing is that the world is ridiculous and shallow. 🙄

[@Thetypingcow]

It’s okay to make an effort to improve yourself!

[@xoukilong]

Good morning good morning, how are you? Good, and you? Good. That's my life everyday at work. Dozens times a day for the past decade.

[@thesexyskywalker3283]

I know! I hate this so much! Why can't we get it to go farther than this?

[@xoukilong]

@@thesexyskywalker3283 im just socially awkward. sometimes i say too much of nothing. (also doesnt help cuz im a janitor and that's my morning greets to teachers). sometimes i plan ahead of what to say. nothing comes naturally.. i think it's supposed to be natural.... right?

[@ashleyphoenix633]

That was me in my practice with my supervisor 😂 (I can imagine me at work doing the same thing)

[@Soft_Ghost]

Then you should stop saying 'good' when you doesn't feel good. Say 'No.', 'Not really.', 'I'm not sure.'; so they can ask you why and you can drop a bit of complaint about life and they can drop theirs. Bam! a conversation. I was like that too, a bit better now tho. The key is to understand that even the ones who seems confident have their own problems, so talking about your problem can make people relate to you.

[@prisonmike6886]

I felt this

[@wilpri]

Literal answers are a sign of honesty.

[@user-bz1wh6xe4m]

1:00 Notice subtle openings for you to share your thoughts 2:15 Respond with an open-ended statement to keep the conversation going 3:00 You don't have to answer questions if you want to talk about something else 4:11 Pause to create opt-in points for others 5:22 Try to get to a conversational topic you both care about

[@user-bz1wh6xe4m]

@Matthew Davis thnx bro

[@123craftfun4]

What I was looking for, thanks@

[@danield8632]

You’re amazing

[@Jack-id4qm]

Cheers mate

[@Peeter8]

Trying to think back and none of this was taught in school.

[@AryanSharma-ce6hw]

"We are introverts until our vibes match"

[@iiReTr0Z]

Our*

[@geensjc]

💯

[@AryanSharma-ce6hw]

@@iiReTr0Z Arey sahi toh likha hai XD

[@gigachad9163]

@@AryanSharma-ce6hw bhay wo japani hai usko hindi ni aati.

[@rayanrashid7413]

@@AryanSharma-ce6hw are Nahi our aye ga

[@Sealwithwificonnection]

Guys, one of the biggest things I've ever learned is that putting the label of introvert on yourself will only make you act the part even more. Don't get me wrong, you will always lean towards more introverted or extroverted activity. However, imo it's more like a gradient. I'm a massive introvert. However, over the last two years I've made the effort to come out of my shell and just learn to love to talk. This is key. Don't learn how to have a conversation, learn how to *love* having a conversation. To the point where I used to think talking was draining but now I find myself talking more and more to up my vibe. If I was ever in a bad mood I used to avoid talking. Now I actually *want* to talk because it gets me in a better mood, and it's all because I became genuinely interested in people and in talking. tl;dr don't use being an introvert or extrovert as an excuse for anything. Talking and expressing yourself is just like any other skill, you just have to put the effort in.

[@NicolineKorsvold]

I spoke with a self-labelled introvert once who had the same approach as you. It made me think that having a growth mindset is applicable to so much more than, say, maths.

[@Sealwithwificonnection]

For sure! Never put limits on how you can grow in personality, and that includes being more expressive and talking.

[@clarhck6]

I needed to hear this lol

[@김수민-c5e7q]

Relate to this comment! Once you judge yourself as a certain one, you could turn the one in no time.

[@sam-cn8tu]

Brilliant! I used to have this mindset that if it’s not necessary to talk and if I can avoid the chance of any kind of awkward situation then so be it. But I said to myself, I guess not every interaction has to be necessary, and when I tried stepping out of my comfort zone and speaking to people I normally wouldn’t I’ve learnt so much! Things I wouldn’t have known before and it’s rewarding. Don’t get me wrong, some times were awkward, but I’m still alive lmao

[@Venuk]

It's all in you're head, trust me. Put yourself in the right situation and you will be amazed at how social you can be. That will be the stepping stone and it will only get better from there.

[@sharigriffith3230]

As an introvert, watching this video did nothing but make me feel exhausted.

[@Bcke14304]

The narrator of this video spoke way too quickly for me, as an introvert, to take in any of what he was saying....

[@max-pn8tt]

Honestly same my girlfriend considers me an extrovert but in reality I’m an introvert and this video was tough to dread through but I feel like it helped

[@XxSh4d0wxX]

Right? It just reminded me how tiring interactions in general really are.

[@belfam89]

I was exhausted before watching so I cnt blame the video 😂😂😂

[@sparklingfashion6276]

Shari Griffith if you were an extrovert all of this would be natural. thats why nobody can teach us this stuff

[@DariaOrionova]

Good Lord. I never thought I would relate to Kanye West.

[@bluzoneoffline]

the world may really be coming to an end😂😂

[@Slynell1]

You sound ignorant daria.

[@coolmariobros-ul7yr]

@@Slynell1 Why? How? She sounds ignorant because she found something in common with Kanye West? Them both being introverts?

[@JustinBrando]

then watch his interview he’s the most relatable person i’ve ever seen

[@scottmescudi3553]

Kanye is the goat!

[@FaiGal]

I'm so awkward. Most of the time when there's a pause between the conversation and my mind goes blank trying to think of something to say to engage, I just smile and say "yeah."

[@leoniexo5627]

@@MvsicAdd7ct lmaooo that's what I sound like 🤣

[@nimo2714]

I’m even worse I’m like “....that’s crazy...” when nothing about the context of the conversation or what was being told was ‘crazy’ at all.

[@T.Harry79]

The “oh yea?” is my go-to.

[@jajajajayeahyeah237]

@@nimo2714 oh gosh once time i was checking out at a supermarket and asked if there was a deal going on still and after he scanned my items and confirmed the deal was indeed still active i just went “cool.” HAHahha….. 😓😓

[@mollywilson5639]

"You're kidding'

[@arthurbrunet2177]

Talking is overated

[@BillyBob-ii7wq]

Real I’m becoming a hobbit

[@jenniboo9441]

Small talk makes me tired. Like physically tired. I feel like my brain has to work too hard to engage, and when I can get an out without being rude, I take it

[@beatm6948]

I went on a walk today with someone I'm becoming friends with and I just wanted to SLEEP when I got home.

[@ChupeTTe]

It feels like a chess game to me, only with the difference, i can keep my gob shut when i play chess. Thx lord...

[@JamesBond-zd5jx]

For introverts interacting with people drains our energy. For extroverts interacting with others energizes them.

[@meialua5178]

@@ChupeTTe It's like playing an overcomplicated chess that you don't know the rules

[@tiphotisted]

I stopped trying to take a way out and just started walking away when I want to, even mid conversation.

[@levijessegonzalez3629]

There's true Introverts. Then there's people who have crippling social anxiety, low self esteem, or not smart, or anti social behavior, or egotistical and think they're too good for others that are grouped in to "Introverted". I feel like " Introverted " is a HUGE spectrum

[@Ernest0M0lina]

I consider myself an introvert, but I don't feel like I lack social skills, I just feel that sometimes it is not worthy to talk about some topics. I just talk and socialize whenever I have to. I think people confuse being an introvert with a shy person

[@wildchicken679]

*"We're dealing with a broad spectrum these days"* its a reference

[@lmaoxdrawr867]

Levi Jesse yea I’ve noticed this too

[@RAGEMASTER1]

Ernest M you are correct

[@Ernest0M0lina]

@@l429930 I think it depends on your social experiences. I used to be a shy person when I was a teenager. But then I was forced to socialize in order to survive and keep moving. So I learned to socialize whenever I have to. But it's not necessary, I don't like talking. Furthermore I don't feel nervous or anxious. It's like any other task for me. I'm just missing the charming skills. That's something I need to work on.

[@BierBart12]

All this just seems too complicated to me. Sometimes I feel like I just wasn't made for this world

[@borisjohnson217]

Same

[@mimimira5412]

Same I don't understand how people live with each other.

[@Observerw]

Mimi Mira damn bro what makes you feel like that? I would to hear what you have 2 say

[@mimimira5412]

@@Observerw I just mean like, I don't understand how to have a normal conversation with people, I never have anything to say. Also when someone tells me something I never feel the need to say anything back, but when I think about it another person would have so much to say and it would lead to a great conversation. Am just really never interested in what people have to say, only when they are people am close to or if it's about something that interests me. But also am just someone who easily shuts out the world so attention span is short. I also tend to be very blunt, I say what I feel before realising it's gonna hurt someone, my friends have told me about this so many times that I don't have a filter.

[@BierBart12]

@@mimimira5412 I don't think there's any problem with that. I have problems talking to normal people, but I kinda built a "list" of "normal" topics in my head I can ask about to make the other person carry the conversation. It really depends on the person and conversations tend to die in around a minute, though. With weirdos, on the other hand, I can just talk for hours and hours making weird noises and meme references.

[@BamaNick]

As a introvert I mastered this at work without realizing that was what I was doing. I have always avoided conversations unless they were about specific deep meaningful topics, or certain activities I was really invested in. If I had little interest in the current topic, or if the topic was just small talk. I am nearly dead silent just listening to the others in the room talk.

[@TashaxMack]

Introvert with social anxiety, anyone else?

[@blankness8]

Yeah same here :// It's gotten so bad that I actively hide from my friends if I see a one-on-one convo coming up :( (If they're in a group it's fine though)

[@always1084]

Here

[@justaperson2269]

And depression :)

[@mine_neko]

I can relate! But I'm trying to connect with friends again.

[@holysecret2]

+

[@dikhed1983]

Who knew talking was so complicated?

[@DeliciousBADBOY]

How do I reply to this comment?

[@quantumleap4023]

Talking is quite simple for intelligent people. It's just like thinking.

[@dikhed1983]

@@quantumleap4023 I'm not an intelligent person.

[@DistressedAndImpressed]

Me.

[@Dean444ful]

Introverts... introverts now all too well

[@amiemcconnell8324]

Someone: So how are you? Me having anxiety and thinking about this video: I think people focus too much... on the past...

[@yapzor2623]

Same thats my fucking problem right now

[@stopstalkingmepleasehaha]

😂😂😂

[@AT-wp8ri]

🤣

[@lastfambisayi4848]

😂😂😂😂

[@SGV_777]

Worrrrd 😂😂😂😂

[@RustyShackleford556]

Well that thumbnail aged well

[@andreasberger4]

How to improve your charisma. Step 1. Do no try to get attention by wearing a mask covering your entire face just after a major ethical controversy involving kids as well as the company producing that mask. Step 2. Do no express that you loooooove a particular historical figure known being antisemetic and for his their involvement in the holocaust. Step 3. Do not post symbols which are tied to groups who were responsible for the biggest war in history on your social media profiles, particularly not if that group was a variant of facism known for race hate against people with those with the same genetic backgroud as yourself. Step 4. If for some reason you feel an urge to do 1, 2 or 3. seek professional help. Do not, I repeat, do not go on like television.

[@LexiMcneal]

@@andreasberger4but he made graduation😔😔

[@60sbabydoll777]

@@andreasberger4irrelevant. He made graduation

[@Syrupsandwiches69]

​@@andreasberger4he made runaway tho

[@zeus3180]

was looking for this comment

[@YokoshimaOfficial]

I'm not interested in my life, that's why I'm better a listener...

[@shivareddy8697]

sam here ,wonderfully said

[@markewings7525]

No-one is interested in your life

[@ryanrobin12]

mark ewings- damn dude

[@topangaleija]

Me too hun

[@artoriasoftheabyss1575]

@@markewings7525 ironic

[@kolos4650]

God I love this community, where we can talk about this uncomfortable subjects and actually see that everybody is bothered with this stuff to different extent. I love you all

[@augustgreig9420]

Kolos Love you too!

[@swampfox984]

We should make a Facebook group for this. Like Real Men Real Style did.

[@jamesmason7979]

Much love to you as well.

[@albertrono1370]

You know what, let's make the Facebook group!

[@DeliciousBADBOY]

Alberto 💯 Groupname: Socially Awkward Men?

[@damla5665]

i dont want to talk to anyone THANKS

[@ramram999]

damla thanks

[@Alezandr]

Introvert and Marina Fan. I like you.

[@beholdandfearme]

Seems like a strange channel for you to watch. For that matter it seems like a strange channel for me to watch since I agree with you.

[@foljs5858]

Yeah, but you're losing on stuff (like career and social opportunities). SORRY

[@olivernordin]

Omg, I'm also just like that. Wanna be friends?

[@SomeoneWitSkill]

Me and my sister are very similar to each other. We both have pretty high anxiety, including social anxiety, and were introvert. I realized early on small talk is in fact a skill that you need to keep practicing with. Got to the point where I'm comfortable talking to anyone without feeling weird. My sister on the other hand is still struggling but I'm trying my best to get her through it. This was a great video, a few tips I found personally. Wish everyone the best of luck!

[@sara4sberg]

but like, I don’t wanna be talking in the first place. why should I steer the conversation somewhere deeper 😭

[@abdoyasine2275]

Hi big fan

[@pinkfurryhat]

SAARA thissss people will try to engage small talk with me and internally im like I WANT TO KEEP READING MY REDDIT THREAD ABOUT UNDERWATER KNITTING hahaha

[@Veeo669]

So much this.

[@FinnPotato]

Jännä mesta sanoo, mut TORILLE!!!!!

[@shnrbl]

Good point, but hey, deep conversations are where we're all at.

[@jobe4279]

Introvert here. I hate small talk. It's so boring. Much more prefer questions and answers with substance.

[@findlayrankin9769]

I know the feeling but in order for us to blend in with society you must do as I have done and transform yourself into a charismatic manipulative sweet talker so we can get into positions of power and take over the world from the inside.

[@putturin4723]

Why do you consider yourself an introvert

[@derekdonahue2435]

Findlay Rankin 😂

[@mehvar2912]

oh wise one, the rest of us all loooooove small talk......

[@CaponeXX]

I can't stand on online dating apps when girls say " hi how are you" wtf am i supposed to say to that?

[@BigDeen509]

Too much work, I'd rather not leave my house.

[@xehP]

ahahah fr

[@motivatoraligator6]

xDDDDDD

[@Theendman42]

But if you would rather never leave your house, when you do have to leave your house, your social interaction, that are inevitable, will function much less efficiently and fun then if you would go out, have a few VERY awkward and embarrassing conversations on your way to success. This is coming from an introverted person who would much rather not leave the confines of their house, but would also like to make social interactions less awkward then they are right now. It comes down to how you feel about interacting, would you rather it be better? Then you need to put in that work…this is assuming you weren't just making a joke that was baseless in the reality of your situation.

[@xehP]

@@Theendman42 lmao you're obviously an introvert, it was sarcasm...

[@Theendman42]

Yes, I know it was a joke, but I assumed that it had some basis in fact, hence why I said what I said. And yes, I am very much so an introvert.

[@SSYabuddy]

Does anyone else get chills through their whole body when you’re suppose to be saying something in a conversation but you really can’t come up with anything? I do all the time and just stand there awkwardly overthinking on what to try to say.

[@piggybackedfromapizzadough5727]

And you get so nervous to the point you can’t breath?

[@yohancyrus6159]

The goal of most of my conversations is for them to end. And I can give the best answers to questions in the shower next morning.

[@Duweeadyale]

People alway great ideas when their on the shower 😂

[@mrlion9719]

Yeah I kill it asap so there is no chance for the conversation to turn awkward, making it awkward...

[@atomonx5582]

I want conversations to continue but I always find myself somehow ending them

[@danarzechula3769]

Hahaha!! Thanks

[@lazybacon7520]

"So, how about that sports team with the points."

[@theItalianshamrock]

Thats usually the one i use. Or "looks like its gonna rain..shit" haha

[@Thoran666]

+Jackson OMG I also love Ponytricks! Can I hug you? :D

[@thisisdk7859]

EhehahahahaHA!

[@lillelinne63]

Did the ball go?

[@Vikasslytherine]

I say we talk about geopolitics concerning the middle eastern region and Afghanistan's fate.

[@baemaejor8857]

as an introvert I literally couldn't see any openings in that kanye west jimmy kimmel conversation lol

[@ErnestKaltenStalin]

I was confused too.

[@SkittlesInYourHand]

Sometimes it's because you lack confidence in yourself and how other perceive you. Jimmy was absolutely BEGGING to be interrupted any kinda comment by Kanye, but if you believe the person speaking doesn't care what you have to say then you'll just say nothing. I struggle pretty hard with this too, but just try to remember that people talking to you usually want to hear what you have to say.

[@dawiddulian2403]

Introverts just prefer to listen and not interrupt the story the person's telling

[@garrycotton7094]

Same, I was so confused! It just seemed like the host was talking non-stop without break ie. leave him to it.

[@EmpressG]

@@garrycotton7094 Yeah, Kanye was nodding and looking engaged. Probably wondering, "Where is this going?" Short of talking over Jimmy I don't see that the comments suggested that he should make would be relevant and could be taken as rude in certain contexts.

[@ganimisa]

Most people just want to talk about themselves and their situation anyway. My favorite escape is "got to go, I have to ...(any reason)".

[@fumanchu7]

How to handle small talk as an introvert: 1. Be chatty 2. Control the conversation 3. Be witty or funny 4. Make sure everyone in the conversation is having fun So ... be an extrovert. I don’t know why I never thought of that. The next conversation will be a breeze!

[@noreverie]

These all still require talent, especially being funny

[@marsilv4319]

😂😂😂😂right

[@memo5230]

Cant be an extrovert if your an introvert can you Mr 😂😂

[@giovanniminotte2951]

this is equal to How to be rich 1. Have lots of money 2. Be very smart 3. Be born into a rich family 4. Star a successful business

[@Aksh__12]

@@giovanniminotte2951 absolutely..

[@whanowa]

Unfortunately only very few people are _acutally_ interested in what others say. They just wanna dump all their shit thoughts on you, expecting you to shut up (because they leave no openings whatsoever) and then, even when you wanna engage in their story by sharing an experience, they interrupt and/or don't listen. That's why I hate small talk, actively, and it has nothing to do with being an introvert for me. I'd rather talk with a random stranger about their passion or the damn universe than go through a stupid conversation checklist.

[@sheeeple2069]

That is so true lol

[@k9dogtraining]

I completely agree. I've been duped a few times. Someone asks me a question that appears to be a conversation starter so I engage, but they just use my engagement as a segue to drone on and on about themselves or lecture me about a topic that they know very little about. I know one particular person who seems to asks me questions with the sole intent of disagreeing with my answer.

[@sexybeast7728]

Then you are not listening either. If they so desperately wanna tell you something, acknowledge it and then finish the topic no matter how long it takes which will result in opennings... if they keep repeating the same thing then YOU failed as a listener. If they keep ignoring what you have to say, either speak up about it, or find new people to talk to.

[@alexanders1330]

I feel like small talk is more for old people than young. Since we're connected more with devices we share similar feelings such as memes lol

[@Mithrandir69]

TLDR.

[@CodeCommand]

I'm probably one of the most anti-social, socially inept person you could ever meet. I think it's because I have no confidence and when I meet people or someone speaks to me I feel like I shouldn't be there or start thinking "why are they speaking to me", I don't know what to say, then if I say something I always spent the rest of the day thinking if I said the right thing or worrying about what they thought of me. Strange but really annoying because I can't make friends, anyway these videos make my anxiety go through the roof, I start to think of these when in conversation but also forget them.

[@greenytaddict]

Same

[@rodrigobasoaltoc.1743]

Dude don't spent the day worrying about if you said the right or what they thought of you. If is small talk, people will forget everything you said. Nobody cares. People think of their own problem. So if you made a bad joke or something like that tomorrow the only one who will remember that will be you because people are thinking of their own bad jokes.

[@BPBrutalPenguin]

CodeCommand you shouldn’t think down upon yourself man you should use positive affirmations every morning with full belief such as “I AM brave and courageous as I tread my new path with ease and security.” Rather than think the opposite, good luck !

[@chrisd2430]

CodeCommand you remind me of a younger version of myself, a couple recommendations for you. 1) start learning about positive psychology 2) learn how to boost your confidence 3) start practicing meditation and mindfulness

[@christopherarias6943]

CodeCommand maybe you have social anxiety disorder, you should see a therapist

[@marosleosulej5448]

I love how Kanye smiles

[@fooolsun4917]

I just can't do it. When there's a group of people i just laugh, smile and nod, but when is only other person and me, i can't. I let the other person talk, and talk, and talk (that's why i feel more comfortable with extroverts that can't shut up, so i don't have to talk). But when they ask me my opininion i'm just like "oh...i see" or "yeah". When they ask me to tell stories i just can't think of anything. I have nothing to talk about with strangers.

[@blankness8]

Yes! I love small bigger groups (as in, groups that are still small but have at least four people) because there's not so much focus on me. One on one is actual torture. That's why all my close friends are extroverts lol, they just talk talk talk talk and if I like what they talk about then we're friends haha :D (I do try hard to think of interesting questions but sometimes they fall flat. My brain isn't hard wired for talking).

[@SheaHarris]

Hmm. I'm good one on one but don't know how to interact in a group.

[@SamLovesOD]

same!!

[@jupiterdoe1776]

Wow I never related to a comment more

[@anasilva2323]

For me at least I have a serious problem to fully engage in a conversation, or I can't start it, or it's just me talking. The funny thing is, a part of my friends have the same problem as you, so when I give a opening they just say "yeah", "hum" or nothing at all

[@carpwithmilk8914]

A Gordon Ramsay charisma breakdown would be awesome

[@thecampfire4877]

I love Gordon Ramsey

[@botherpeejay9719]

Glad I’m not the only one who’s been hoping for one. Gordon is the ultimate alpha male.

[@dogeshibe5833]

*Where's* *the* *lamb* *sauce?*

[@pigeonoverlord9433]

I've been saying the exact same thing

[@annasavannah902]

Google ENTJ

[@Chaechaos]

So me..... I just would rather not do small talk. Its seems fake to me. Im so awkaward because I find myself wondering if people do actually care how my day is going (Fill in any other personal question) . Or is it out of politeness. I actually care if I ask. Thats whats so wierd for me and small talk.

[@jakubfrei3757]

So true...

[@stackenitup87]

I feel the same way

[@irvinlovesjesus]

Jesus cares.

[@louisledreff7978]

Interesting coming from a woman. When I hear my sister chat with her friends, I feel like it's almost only small talk, like telling how you feel, listening to the other tell what her day was like while inserting short questions, acting like you're amazed ; "oh that's crazy !" while you're so obviously bored... When I talk with friends (men), the difference is so obvious. We don't do this kind of stuff, and when someone starts acting like that, we laugh at it, the person feels a bit stupid, laughs too, and we move on.

[@binal-flecki2387]

yeah very fake

[@1stJohn3.9-10]

The lack of communication has gotten ridiculous. Every single time I'm out in public, I love approaching as many people as possible. I can have conversations for 10-20 minutes on average, but sometimes 45 min to an hour or more. The longest random conversation I had was about 3 hours at the post office. When people are pumping gas, that's typically a captive audiance for 5-10 minutes. Young, elderly, male, female, couples. People seem Starved for connection...so I love to Encourage people.

[@softerhaze]

Because I’m an introvert I don’t initiate conversations, and my friends interpret that as if I don’t want to talk to them, so then they don’t strike up a conversation. Idk I always feel misunderstood all the time

[@sqtuck]

So y'all just sit quietly when you hangin out? :D

[@zuzannoz]

@@sqtuck me and my friends sometimes do. Especially when me and my friend, both introverts, come back from school and we just walk and sit in the train in silence because we won't take out our phones because that's rude. It's really awkward, but when we are in a group with at least one another friend we can talk for hours.

[@nickvnicholas7857]

I hate when there is awkward silence after you decide to open up and talk. Like the other person expected you to stay silent but now they feel weird that you aren't It's like they know that you are an introvert, so they give you the silent treatment to try to keep themselves above you lol

[@jussi-pekkalaakko8768]

this

[@silverknight1740]

Nivk Miller, I called someone out for doing that once and guess who laughed the last.

[@citrus4419]

Wow that was spot on

[@hismom5600]

@@jussi-pekkalaakko8768 ABSOLUTELY this! I had the same thought last week and couldn't properly express the feeling.

[@aceris5874]

My roommate is like this. When I share something I find important (and I usually don't), and I show large enthusiasm, she'll just go, "Oh, cool."

[@jayquake2747]

Me:So Thanos’ morality is kinda flawed My friend:I agree with it Me: ok

[@nagorik24]

lol

[@ingredi8409]

@@nagorik24 and then you proceed to explain why

[@ingredi8409]

Or you can ask your friend what they think is the explanation, before you tell your own

[@danarzechula3769]

Me: finds new friend

[@keithprice1950]

My problem is that the small talk makes me feel so uncomfortable that I actually find it physically difficult to talk. It's like my jaw freezes so when those moments arrive I physically struggle to speak. It's usually a blurt followed by a gulp. Once the small talk is done and there is a subject to talk about, if I'm interested then I can start to relax. Annoyingly though, if the meaningful Convo starts to fizzle out and the small talk returns I freeze up again. I never fully relax until I'm alone again.

[@aDudesNerdery]

Being an introvert is like playing life on hard mode with no bonus rewards

[@A8Y9N]

You introverts make it look like your life is gonna end because of some lack of social skills or some bs.

[@sofaking1611]

Generally people CO-OP to beat PVP and PVE. Co-op is harder to get into as introvert because of social debuffs. If you have the right skills & can manage cash flow properly, C0-0P becomes a genuine handicap because you're locked by the teams maximum skill ceiling. The frustrating part is introverts are nerfed by the devs & mods constantly in a way that forces CO-0P so that the game isn't just a lazy clone of Rust.

[@artophile7777]

​@@sofaking1611 I'm a pvp God but a co-op loser.

[@pwetty4r4]

this is not "introverts" this is "people who need to work on their social skills". Many introverts are perfectly capable of of doing these things, what makes them introverts is that they prefer not to most of the time.

[@ducklingscap897]

There are 4 (or more depending on the psychiatrist or differentiation): Social Introversion, thinking introversion, Anxious and Restrained Introversion. In some cases they have different names but mean the same. People that are introverted normally have several kinds or a mix of these introversions. Social introversion is what you describe as being introvert. Also there is a strong correlation -> people who prefer to be alone/feel that social interaction is tiring avoid it -> they don't train their social skills -> they don't have the best social skills. Besides many thinking and restrained introverts also prefer to talk about deep topics. Something like small talks seems useless/an unnecessary waste of energy to them.

[@urekmazino6800]

Not always

[@ThePipojp]

Most introverts are bad at small talk, most of the time extroverts will be better at communication simply because they have more practise.

[@masterine9403]

this video is only to get by, of course there are many introverts that are capable of holding a convo. however bc of introversion, you're very likely to have very poor social skills. it's a simple process. you don't engage yourself socially enough = your social skills willl suffer. that's why introverts will end up in that place at some point in life. unless they're either ambiverts, or they force themselves to be socially active which sounds like a nightmare for an introvert.

[@leonjicha9921]

That kanye clip was cringey af. I wonder how many times a day I do that 😧

[@Tomi_janet15]

Aww

[@patrickburden5416]

me too, bro

[@blankness8]

Yeah, I'm never sure when to interject. Cuz a lot of the time people just want to talk at me, not to me, which I'm fine with - but if they're actually interested in having a conversation with me I can't tell if they're giving me openings :'(

[@jazzminrice]

Same because it reminded me of myself

[@travis_redfern6771]

True tho, the people I talk with must feel so uncomfortable 😫

[@lindaneighbors4158]

There is not one single conversation where I didn't obsess afterward about how awful I was. I HATE small-talk but understand it's a necessary evil if we exist in society, or have family we love. I think these pointers will help me so much. Thank you! I only hope I can remember to use them. Oh, I should say, my dread of conversations is due to my extreme awkwardness along with a feeling that people expect something from me. Like, I am trying so hard to be helpful in keeping the conversational ball rolling, that I'll steal it and run with it, bouncing it wildly all over the place so that, even if someone else wants to join in, they probably can't. Maybe that's introversion paired with ADHD, laced with a hefty dose of coming from a large family that expects participation no matter how much you don't want to.

[@mikeh5399]

Can you make a video about the opposite skill: how to get an introvert to to engage in small talk? In the first clip, Jimmy was giving openings for Kanye to use, but he wasn't taking them. Is there something one can do, while talking to an introvert, to help get the conversation going?

[@beholdandfearme]

Direct open ended questions may help.

[@Balala_]

Arnold Harding this. you beat me to it ^^

[@augustgreig9420]

Generally, I'd say ask them how they feel, but it needs to be in a meaningful way, like relative to some topic or object, especially if it has significance or relevance to the introvert. And remember, sometimes it takes an introvert a little time to warm up to the conversation, so just keep it going an try to keep them talking. Don't dive Right in to the meaningful stuff, because they may not be ready. Ironically, you usually have to warm them up with a little small talk. Be irritating them or making them uncomfortable with a few banalities, the deeper more meaningful topic or question will become all the more enticing as a way to segue out of the mindless banter.

[@renrosemary9882]

This would be especially useful as I struggle getting quieter, more introverted people to open up to me. TwT

[@battle-wornrobottauntproce1369]

Don't give openings, just ask questions.

[@fuyuki_alt]

"You need to not answer the questions you are asked sometimes." Are you a boy or a girl? Yes.

[@creatorzp]

why tf would u ask someone face to face whether they're a boy or girl

[@anasilva2323]

@@creatorzp Maybe your last name is Oak

[@creatorzp]

@@anasilva2323 ?? what

[@vit7890]

@@creatorzp it's a meme

[@toddgarver5397]

Who does that? Who are you angry at? Jfc

[@habdman]

Answer with something different "So how u doin bro?" "China"

[@bardon1384]

"what"

[@arisu7404]

"Your mom"

[@mrlion9719]

Your mom's spaghetti?

[@wholesale7386]

u mean corona?

[@refiloenathasha6879]

Most introverts are not shy when texting but you can tell that they are introvert because they avoid meet up conversations and always have excuses.

[@thebohemiancowboy2805]

I like to drink water

[@motivatoraligator6]

nice! (Typical Small Talk Reaction)

[@altrogeruvah]

Very good, me too, enjoy your day

[@shawna_mills8414]

Wow! Can you teach me how to drink water?

[@lylahermosillo503]

I drink fire sorry

[@benandrews7403]

I don't know. Water is a bit dull. Have you ever tried Orange Juice?

[@Box0rz]

The problem here is that the definition of ”introvert” doesn’t mean you’re bad at small talk or social cues. Introvert basically just means that you gain energy from being alone, and social situations tire you out very quickly and make you lose energy. Extrovert is the opposite, they lose energy from being alone and being with others makes them feel alive. Nothing to do with social skills. Introvert could have amazing skills while an extrovert couldn’t keep up a conversation if he tried.

[@Debunked421]

Truth Box0rz. I'm an introvert. I can do the small talk, be out in public, I think I can hold a conversation but ultimately like to go back to my own to recharge. I like human interaction but dont even close to need it to be whole

[@nickvnicholas7857]

I think introverts can be energized by socializing as well but I guess it they have to be in a controlled setting where nothing is spontaneous and the people around are all close friends.

[@aminamazhar6233]

I think most introverts also have social anxiety which can make engaging with people tiring. Not everyone's the same, but the two characteristics sometimes come hand in hand. Also, if you're an introvert and stay away from people most of the time you probably don't know how to interact with them, so there's a correlation there.

[@voxychan9174]

i know how to interact but i dont have the energy or acting skills to do it

[@Box0rz]

Voxy Chan So basically you don't know how.

[@Qman621]

This is one of the only self help channels I've found that doesn't sound like a bunch of hokey BS. Thanks for the genuinely good advice - as an introvert I find social interaction sometimes uncomfortable, but clearly some informed practice can lessen some of the anxiety I feel in those situations.

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Absolutely!

[@cat_91n]

finally a tutorial on how to socialise

[@AscendedMasculine]

Kanye just plays with absurdity of Social Dynamics and how pointless Hollywood tends to be

[@wellesradio]

Pinnacle Of Man TM 😂. You think he knows what he's doing and that he has a "point"!

[@petesahad3028]

Or he's is a narcistic psycho 👊

[@BrokenGodEnt]

Kanye plays on that absurdity, while also being one of the biggest contributors of it? Uh, ok.

[@hushedtones7168]

he knows jimmy is playing political chess with every questions, they all have aggressive undertone hidden in a playful voice. he's walking through a minefield and knows a slight slip up will be held against him as clickbait and can be all over the next gossip news cycle. and he wants to redeem himself after his nationwide mishaps and make it back to his wife to make her happy and not angry at him because she supports him and had his back, she wants to also be supported because she also had rough times since the Paris incident. if he said anything jimmy disagreed with he would have held that against him and asked 3 more questions on the same subject each with ad hominem jabs and strawmans impossible to answer without looking bad and getting backlash from half the audience.

[@youwhatmadeidk]

pete sahad manic narcism is a byproduct of bipolar disorder. It’s not like he can help it, it also doesn’t dominate someone’s character..

[@thehapagirl92]

I’m like Russell. I only talk about deeper topics and have no interest in surface level shit like the weather.

[@adubber97]

François LONING hey some people do

[@venusleoz826]

You could talk about chemtrails when they come at you with the weather.

[@sekainoowari4548]

Yeah I prefer to talk about quantum physics LOL

[@MarfoNRG]

@simonne I found myself telling this exact phrase so much recently. I just don't care about meaningless stuff (meaningless to me!), I want to talk about deeper things and be engaged mentally

[@Luis-mq8pg]

It’d be weird going up to you or anyone I don’t know and asking them a deep question. Small talk can be the bridge to a deeper conversation.

[@tristunalekzander5608]

Person: "So, how was your day?" Me: (Oh god, she wants to know how my day was? Why does she even care about such trivial things? How am I going to wrap this pointless conversation up?) "It was good, I woke up, went to work, came home, and now I'm talking to you." _akward silence_ "Uh... how was _your_ day?" (Goddamnit, why can't I just end this conversation? Stand up for yourself Tristan, you need to be more assertive) Person: _Looks mysteriously disappointed_ "It was ok." _akward silence_ Me: (WHAT AM I DOING WRONG) "Really? Why was it just, _'ok'"_ (Oh god, I should've just walked away. This is going nowhere. Hopefully we can end on some light joke and walk away as we're laughing or something. The ending can't be too abrupt) Person: "Well, it was kind of bad, actually. Shelly's husband got cancer and it's been really hard on her. The doctor says he only has 6 weeks to li-" Me: (So this was it all along? This is what she wanted to talk about. She baited me and I bit. God, I'm such a sucker. How on Earth am I going to get out of this? I wonder what would happen if I just walked away?) _slowly backs away_ Person: "-so she has to give him sponge baths when he's grumpy and it's very stressful for her. That poor wom- Hey, where are you going?" Me: "...I, uh- I need to..." _Runs away._

[@buntothesun2154]

LMBO that's relatable

[@wildchicken679]

I cringed... Do you like apples?

[@xJayhawkFANx]

I'm an introvert who hates small talk, but my job requires me to engage in it sometimes. My go-to when I don't know what to say is just ask a question about the subject the other person is referring to. Like, If someone says "man, gas is so expensive these days, isn't it?" Instead of saying "yeah, it is." Ill say something like "yeah, its crazy, where have you found the cheapest gas?" Or something to that regard. That puts the ball back in their court to continue talking and it gives me a little extra time to think about my next response..

[@carloseskimo]

This is exhausting, too much work haha

[@valendir1]

Introverted Normies: Talking is hard Me: I am not exactly well-versed in pointless speech.

[@bsjsbsbsjk9059]

You should do a separate video on Ryan Gosling. It's fascinating to see introvert being so charismatic.

[@shaicry]

Worldwide Sports I concur

[@TotalNigelFargothDeath]

@@shaicry i as well indubitably agree

[@jockim123]

he's hot end of story

[@richardsantanna5398]

I honestly would've missed all those openings Jimmy made had you not pointed them out.

[@urekmazino6800]

I would've laughed and said yeah man

[@animelvr99]

Same

[@doobiwoohdoobiwooh895]

I still don't get some of them even tho he pointed them out

[@scripsur8203]

As a former introvert, I would like to excuse you from all this trouble and enlighten you with a magic solution to instantly be able to handle small talk. And that is to just SAY ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. Literally. Anything that comes to mind - you say it. It is the most effective way to become more extroverted and be able to handle small talk or even keep a convo going. Your mind silently makes up answers, statements, questions, jokes and possible teases to anything that has been stated, it just doesn't propose them to you directly. It kind of hides them deeper in your brain. Your have to manually catch them and then the only thing left to do is to sound them out. Simple. At first, it might seem intimidating because you dont know which of the many sentances given to you by your brain to pick. Thats why you should first try it out on your close friends (my no.1 choice) because even if you mess up they won't take it seriously. Then, after you get the hang of it, it becomes as easy as just saying things. I am not kidding. You just start talking on autopilot and it works (talking from experience here). So yeah be sure to try this out and I hope y'all are prepared to ace any upcoming small talk. Best of luck :)

[@DoomedKnight]

Thank you will try this out with my family and friends

[@sqtuck]

Introvertism and extrovertism can't really change, it's how your brain is wired. But yes, you can definitely learn to _behave_ differently. You still need time to be alone and recharge, right?

[@Malicos]

This is a funny concept but I wonder if it would work. You see, I find myself "parsing" all of the subjects as they occur in my head before I bring them up in conversation. Maybe if I turned the parser off... lol

[@ashivau]

Thanks so much it’s nice knowing there’s people like you sharing your experience! I’ll try practicing this in my head and test it out with the close friends I have and family members thank so much :D

[@muslim4307]

😂😂😂

[@ImAFuckingDuck]

Now I can socialize like Kanye! Thanks!

[@naturalallnaturalwhitepist1789]

ImAFuckingDuck I have the answers (set up 1)

[@liimakino]

Screams to the other person: *Slavery was a choice!*

[@gaw6391]

Mhm

[@jamesburgess2k]

Kanye West is definitely an introvert, it's just that he's either high (ellen interview) or the interviewer asks the right questions that allows him to speak on the topic. That's usually why he only does interviews with few people, but they are great interviewers, as in setting up perfect questions.

[@LesterBrunt1983]

How is a guy who performs for millions of people a year, who does hour long interviews for millions of people to see, an introvert?

[@velinawelch7470]

I watched that clip & I have to say that it's the only thing on Ellen's show that I've ever given a dislike.

[@wellesradio]

ChefLee2K Kanye isn't that smart. He is an introvert. And, no, introverts are not highly self-aware. They are highly self-conscious, There's a big difference. Self awareness does not come from temperament but from curiosity, humility, education and philosophical inquiry. You can be an introvert and completely clueless as to your worst for flaws, habits and the state of your existence.

[@tegestmakura3971]

Mr. W have you watched his other interview, and as an introvert give me a beer and Im a whole other person. Also people thinking he’s stupid is why he’s so impressive, he’s looked down upon yet he’s moving culture as he pleases

[@ThorMNs]

Kanye is an introverted extrovert

[@mahmoudshatnawi6122]

oh my god oh my god oh my god, I searched for this like, yesterday, but didn't find anything, and now you post this !! you're crazy at mind reading

[@augustgreig9420]

Mahmoud Shatnawi Synchronicity is the universe's way of letting you know that you are on the right track.

[@mahmoudshatnawi6122]

@@augustgreig9420 I knew my haircut is great

[@makstod6903]

Law of attraction = you are the creator of your own reality!

[@westonnwaimo4002]

“he so quiet what’s on his mind” Kanye: “I guess we’ll never know”

[@raws4209]

the problem is that i genuinely dont care about 90% of the people i have smalltalk with so i dont feel like sharing anything out of my life and im not interested in theirs so i dont really listen. Which makes keeping the conversation going super hard.

[@sosodrake1807]

This right here

[@HaitamStitou-t2q]

This

[@thtswutshesaid]

Absolutely this.

[@Isa-vy2bv]

100% true for me too

[@secretlifeofeve]

Yeahh! That's why it's exhausting because we have to force ourselves to talk to them and squeeze or brains to think of something to say, and exert energy and effort to look interested in what their saying

[@MichaelBusse1]

I don't know if my kind of "introvertness" is different - but the problem I'm experiencing with small talk - especially with strangers - is that i very quickly run out of stuff to say. I can litterally not think of anything at all to move the conversation forward. I will probe every corner of my brain for anything to say, but nothing comes up. So if the other person is not extrovert enough to just ramble on and let me chime in when something finally triggers - then the conversation is over very quickly. So in theory these tools you are describing are fine - but they don't help. The problem is overcoming that mental block that very much feel like a black hole has suddenly opened in your mind - sucking away every idea you could talk about. You are simply pulling a blank however hard you try. That is also, I think, the reason is seems we answer so ilterally. It's the only thing we can come up with. Though iv'e gotten alot better the past 10 years - I will most often think so hard of what to say that i miss alot of social clues, and entire sentences from whom ever i am talking to. I've been both insulted and flirted with and never realised it before someone else have pointed it out afterwards, because I've been too busy being frustrated with trying to come up with something to say. In the end it will be so exhausting you just wanna go home where you can relax your mind a bit and be yourself. However - with people i know, for example my family, friends and close coworkers - we can talk for hours. In most professional interactions this is seldomly a problem either, when you just talk profesionally. It's only during small talk and social interactions this is a problem. For me anyway :)

[@creampuff966]

I relate to you 100%. I think SO HARD for something to say, but I just can't come up with anything. Also because of that, if someone tries to joke with me, I'll just smile, because I can't think of something funny to say back. It's frustrating! It doesn't help that my twin sister is good at conversating and making friends :( Glad to know I'm not the only one!

[@Ash_Wen-li]

I think it's because you're in your head too much when you're with new people. I'm like that too but i've gotten much better at being present in the moment when i'm talking to people.

[@vrsce0178]

Same here.

[@ataallgirl]

Great point.

[@nehasalve1294]

Same thing happens with me people get board with me easily

[@carpwithmilk8914]

1:50 perfect representation of how Kanye expresses emotions

[@DeliciousBADBOY]

I need those emoticons to truly express how I feel

[@PracticalInspiration]

Lol, love it!

[@megatronsroyalemissary382]

Lmao

[@funkykeeth3219]

the fact the 4.6 million people who have watched this same video feeling the same problem and just want to feel more included is a sign we are all in included together.