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[@raerae_b]

Her cutting down the tree made me so upset, my grandma wished to be buried with a decomposable casket and a sapling, so she could become a tree. She is now a lovely premature willow. Imagine if Doris had a similar story..

[@LittleMamaFeline]

This sounds like a lovely wish.

[@PineappleSoysauce]

That's a lovely story.

[@cricketpickett7296]

Right? She could be cutting down a memorial tree?!? I work in assisted living and we plant trees for all our deceased residents to pay our respects and keep their memories alive. This is extremely disrespectful

[@seva9994]

Even it was just something that took root randomly, my local cemetery actually has a sign that warns people to not remove any trees or bushes and leave it to professionals as they could accidentally erode the ground and cause the gravestones to fall.. and she's definitely not a professional in gardening and/or landscaping, that's something the family should request from the administration to take care of

[@alexlabs4858]

Imagine if you got cut down O_O. That would be terrible. If I were the family of someone who did the tree thing and some TikTok chick cut the tree down I’d sue them hardcore.

[@menacinghedgehog]

I'm a former cemetery caretaker and her using those chemicals is going to absolutely erode those stones so fast. We use a specific cleaner, usually D2, which removes biological pollutants from stone. She is doing massive damage. She also needs specific permission not only from the families but from the cemetery to do that cleaning (which she definitely wouldn't get, because cemeteries have caretakers for a damn reason, and families approach them to ask about cleaning, not some random Tiktok woman).

[@jonathangibson3609]

+

[@albecharlie497]

Thank you for your knowledge

[@kassemir]

When they revealed the last one where she clearly painted the stone, and painted over the text with black paint, I could not believe it. Not only is it not cleaning or restoration in any way, but it's actually gonna wear down even faster.

[@witchassbitch3]

@@kassemirand she defaced someone’s property

[@emilyjew-wor-ski6630]

its fucked up that she can just walk in there and do actual harm to these sites. like she should be charged with trespassing or even destruction of private property.

[@boopbloop8725]

"Cleaning an abandoned grave" WHAT THE FUCK ARE THOSE FRESH FLOWERS THEN???

[@user-vz4oc2vo8q]

She put them in dawg dont scream.

[@littlekermit5025]

You tried. You tried...

[@ThorntonHeathHater]

Did you watch the same video as everyone else?

[@Dannysocool1]

Well... You got the right idea maybe...

[@XxBlackAngel141]

Bruh... pay attention next time

[@g00chi]

This woman totally gives the vibes of a high school bully who will say the meanest shit to you with a big smile, then act all innocent when you call her out. "Why are you so sensitive?? I was just trying to be nice!" 🥺

[@YellowFi3lds]

Or "No offense !!!" then the most offensive stuff ever lol

[@chichiacevedo]

So she is like Regina George😂

[@I_like_leg_day]

You pulled this out of your ass 💀

[@mirabelarmstrong433]

Personally speaking, if I came back to my grandma’s grave to replace some flowers and found it scrubbed and polished, and I knew neither I nor any of my family hired the cleaning,… I would feel VIOLATED. This girl is next level self-centered.

[@popularlove1]

Sensitive much. If this happened to me, I just think someone clean the wrong grave. It happened all the time. My uncle so drunk that he repaint someone else’s grave instead of his brother.

[@73pennce]

@@popularlove1 I think if someone REPAINTED MY LOVED ONE'S GRAVE to a random colour just because they were too lazy to wait until they weren't so drunk.. I'd be throwing hands. Graves are important to people, they literally represent dead people honestly. They're like the only place you can mourn your loved one's passing because typically they are buried at their grave.

[@Monkeymonkeymonkey192]

@@popularlove1well obviously you don’t care, it wasn’t your family’s grave being touched without permission

[@m11_m11]

@@popularlove1 "if this happened to me" this hasn't happened to you and you wouldn't care because it's not your family member nor is it your grave. the chemicals and products she used can erode the rocks and further more its just fucking disrespectful. but you don't care cause it's not you.

[@RAW-MD]

@@m11_m11Did this happen to you because the same argument can apply. I don’t think she should of done it if she didn’t get permission and she’s not a professional but you can still imagine what you would of done in that circumstance especially if someone died who you knew

[@brambi455]

I just imagine Doris asking her family “please plant my favourite trees next to my grave so I can enjoy the shade” And then some random woman cuts them completely away and sprays your grave with pepto bismol

[@neverstanten]

Justice for doris

[@DeathnoteBB]

For real that made me so mad. I stg people treat nature like an invasive force. It’s *nature.* I hope she gets sued so she’s forced to stop. This can’t be legal

[@Nyxusi]

@@DeathnoteBB It is illegal. This counts as grave desecration which is fineable. This lady really needs to be sued if anything because she most likely has not had permission from the families.

[@lifeonthefranch4452]

I told my husband I want to be planted by a lilac bush if possible and if someone came and chopped it down, I would be so angry

[@nem2480]

@@lifeonthefranch4452you wouldn’t be alive to be angry 🤣

[@sarahni]

The thing is, in so many hispanic countries cleaning a loved ones grave is a whole special thing, in my country its what you do on Dia de los Muertos. My grandma would have a meltdown if we showed up with our paint bucket and flower crowns and the grave was fucking scrubbed

[@cawfeepawt23]

I also think the simplicity of the grey stone is kind of beautiful too?? It's humble and the words on the stone should mean more than the fake, artificial "aesthetic".

[@carolina6744]

Sim. We do that in Portugal too. November 1st

[@Learntarott]

Nah this gave has not been touched for more than a year. No way sometimes attends here yearly

[@emithesheepling9951]

​@@Learntarottwhat makes you say that??

[@cats731]

WITHOUT permission she, cut down the plants at the grave and added her own plants and flowers, painted their grave, and saying stuff like "was she pretty?🤔" " who put Doris in the forest!!" She couldn't be more disrespectful.

[@hawkeyescoffee6399]

Right? She is disgusting.

[@TheReason_ofLoveandLife]

and "did she have a dog?? 😋😋" seriously disrespectful.

[@taddictiontv_]

How is that disrespectful? Shows she’s not scared of going to a cemetery. That’s not disrespectful people can be curious when someone dies . It’s just human compassion . Idk wtf you saying here

[@ZeallustImmortal]

​@@taddictiontv_You are dumb.

[@preppylaean]

@@taddictiontv_i really wish I could give you a pin of shame

[@dawnbreaker1104]

I gasped when she started chainsawing the tree around the grave. It’s a tradition in my family to plant a tree above/bury a loved one below a tree and let the land reclaim them as a symbol of them continuing on in this world in a different fashion. The idea of a stranger cutting the growth back is horrifying to me - I’d be devastated if it were my/my family’s grave. Her disregard is appalling.

[@I_barni_I]

This is such a beautiful tradition!

[@deadk0ala451]

it's not even an uncommon American tradition why in the world would you see a grave under a tree and not assume it was intentional??

[@DeathnoteBB]

@@deadk0ala451For clout and money, obviously.

[@nospoonfulofmayonnaiseforme]

Ikr

[@dawnbreaker1104]

@@I_barni_I thank you!

[@Elliot226]

"Was she pretty?" I can't. People are upset about what killed her and Dorris in the forest, but this line? "Was she pretty?" THAT is the most disgusting question in my opinion.

[@zackprater2540]

Right? It comes across like "did she have value when she was alive because only looks matter in life?"

[@m.jaquarius8365]

I think it was more or less out of curiosity. She really is a good person, and genuinely enjoys doing what she does. It doesn't matter what people do now days, especially on KZbin because society seems to have turned into nothing but a bunch of miserable and judgemental individuals. Someone could post a video on here claiming to have found a cure for cancer, and there will always be those same miserable people commenting their negativity, or criticizing. There will always be people looking for shit to try and get offended over. Idk why that just don't ban all social media platforms. Nothing good or positive comes out of it ever.

[@mootums]

@@m.jaquarius8365​​⁠​​⁠ ​​⁠Yikes…quit being a boot licker, not only is a majority of her content ragebait, but what she did was gross. I get your whole spiel about people being miserable but this goes too far. When it comes to a white firefighter she goes on about how respectful his work is, but the Dorris? “Did she like cupcakes?” “Was she PRETTY?!?” “Her sign is aeries!” What about Dorri’s story? Its the fact that she didn’t even bother to at least tell a story about the people she is doing service for. Not to mention how many people have commented that the way she’s scrubbing and material shes using can harm the graves. I want you to view the content of a lady who goes by “A Grave Attraction” she cleans graves and actually tells a story about the people, she respects them and is gentle with her washings, not only that but she cleans overgrown graves that ACTUALLY need cleaning. Whats overall sad is how you can’t see how she’s exploiting dead people, she does this because nobody is gonna stop her from it.

[@imisstheramonessomuch664]

​@@m.jaquarius8365 nice try, clean girl. we know it's you

[@kay.gochii]

@@m.jaquarius8365 Yeah, no. she is not a good person and it's not an over reaction for people to be upset about some asshole disrespecting gravesites. Please take your tounge out of her ass

[@Deadbirdie178]

Nope, she needs to be STOPPED; (Méxican here) Bienvenida falleció is a way to say welcome to the death life, or welcome to your death in Spanish RESPECTIVELY. Lugo Velez was her name, which I'm quite sure is of Spanish origin, and yes; it can be male or female, but seeing as how it says bienvenida, I'll assume Lugo was a woman, Lugo can maybe even be short for a longer name. On the grave it says that she will be remembered by her daughters and and family, and at the bottom it says D. E. P. which stands for 'descansa en paz' which means rest in peace, so yes, it's pretty much Spanish R. I. P. She does NOT deserve to be disrespected by all this, and this woman.

[@tup4443]

Yeah like who tf is called welcome.

[@b.v4258]

​​​@@tup4443 ​ Eh, it's not far fetched. I feel it's not common anymore but there are a lot of older women named Caridad or Concepcion. That feels along the same vein as Bienvenida. Regardless, this woman is so disrespectful(and racist). Like others have pointed out, there is definitely a shift in her tone hen she cleans Latino graves s opposed to American sounding graves. So disgusting. Our lives mean so much less to her and ishe doesn't even try to hide it

[@lollybowser]

Holy shit everything you said is complete nonsense. Bienvenida Lugo Velez es su nombre, muchos hispanoparlantes tienen dos apellidos. No es nada extraño que alguien se llame "Bienvenida", hay mujeres que se llaman "Dolores", "Soledad", "Angustias", "Piedraescrita" etc, normalmente por razones bíblicas o por vírgenes locales. "Welcome to her death" es una pendejada que te inventaste, seguramente porque eres segunda o tercera generación en USA y ni sabes español. No inventes. Lo que hace "Clean Girl" esta mal pero para nada por los motivos inventados que tu dijiste.

[@mariealbrecht]

Thanks for pointing it out, I was about to rage😂

[@lollybowser]

@@mariealbrecht it's not true tho. Her name was Bienvenida Lugo Velez. Bienvenida is a name and "Welcome to the death world" is not a thing on Spanish tombstones. DEP is.

[@danterodriguez03]

Imagine dying, asking your family to plant your favorite tree where you are buried, maybe you want nature to reclame you, maybe you love the shade of the tree, whatever, and some random woman cuts it down, sprays her toxic pink concoction on you grave to "clean it" then puts her own plants and the only question in that empty head if hers is "were they pretty?"

[@mick6247]

and then makes a few dollars on you to probably buy more cleaning supplies to damage more innocent peoples graves

[@mrs.samuel.L.jackson]

dying wishes are probably the most beautiful thing I can think of. Th idea of your resting place being of your preference is amazing. Completely desecrating something like that is so infuriating

[@flamingfoxx]

I watch a guy who gets permission, researches the story of the people, and does serious repairs (reattaching headstones, getting a jack to lift and reset sunken stones), and overall is extremely respectful of the people buried there. No neon colors, no children's show voice, no spooky scary setting, no fOr FrEe or mention of money, just respect That is respectful and an amazing way of preserving someone's memory hundreds of years after their death, and long after their resting place started to disappear. He started because of his dad in his own family's graveyard This is gross. Purely for money, ragebait, entertaining children in the most disrespectful way. These are very new graves, these people's friends and children are likely still alive. But instead their graves are having shitty amateur horror movies made on them, no respect or care about who these people actually were. There's so many people that hijack good deeds because they're becoming popular, she's justmore obvious

[@toxsicle9753]

What is the guy's name that you watch that sounds interesting.

[@Dankster-yo8xv]

​@@toxsicle9753I'm thinking Millennial Stone Cleaner

[@preciousmourning8310]

I hope one of these people who deface (including cleaning them improperly and without permission) newer graves with living family are sued. It probably wouldn't work with older graves unless the cemetery itself went after them unfortunately. Cleaning them wrong can cause damage to their property which is certainly legally actionable and the newer graves likely have close family still living to sue.

[@felesnocis]

That sounds awesome!! What’s the channel name?

[@Sleipnirseight]

Please add his account name to your comment so we can get more visibility and support for people doing this the right way!!

[@mylesmendoza69]

My mouth dropped when she said “what killed her!?” like that is just disrespectful especially with that tone

[@shelby6]

Same! My jaw dropped I couldn't believe it

[@kab9706]

When she said "Who put Doris in the forest???" Wow. So disrespectful to the dead.

[@DeathnoteBB]

@@kab9706 Especially cause like… it’s nature. It probably grew around her grave, nobody purposefully “put her in the forest”

[@marycruzship5652]

​@DeathnoteBB or she wanted to be buried in a forest surrounded by nature but either way that statement is crazy to say

[@gooodmorning4526]

"Who killed her???😃🤪"

[@JellyfishFlavored]

“Wow! Her name means welcome in espanol! 😁” “Her star sign is Aries! My best friend is an Aries! 😁” Yapping while cleaning a tombstone alone is low key wild, some crazy type shit bro 💀

[@LucidWCUE]

*bites a chocolate cupcake* 😊

[@Ruthie.333]

_cutely_ ​@@LucidWCUE

[@JellyfishFlavored]

@@LucidWCUE 😭

[@bunny_._8933]

The fact that she even got the zodiac wrong just makes it so much dumber. And the way she speaks so giddy about these poor people is soooo weird

[@nataliapolova2850]

*cleaning a tombstone ALONE.

[@Allysalinas_]

18:07 I hate how she was STANDING on the grave.

[@fxxxyy]

I thought I was the only one who noticed that so disrespectful

[@Allysalinas_]

@@fxxxyy right

[@sofimofii]

there's fs no way that wasn't on purpose

[@DrakediAngelo]

It's crazy to compare this to another lady I've seen cleaning graves (edit: A Grave Attraction, I believe) She finds the ones that are completely overgrown and so coated in things that you can't read them. She cleans them carefully with soap safe for the plants and the stone, and does research on the people, telling us their life story and getting in contact with some of the family if she can. She leaves flowers on the graves and is super respectful the entire time. You really get the sense that she's doing this to share forgotten stories. This....well, it's certainly not that (Edit: like many of the replies, I was also really worried this vid was going to be about her and I was trying to figure out why Jarvis was against it. Glad to say they're different people! Also, I believe the channel name is "a Grave Attraction")

[@_.mo._]

do you remember her name!!

[@elingard]

i thought this video was gonna be about who you're talking bout and I was like "this is about to be a huge miss", thank you for putting my fears to rest lol

[@frogmossy4201]

i love that woman. she feels very sweet

[@kyloluma]

That is genuinely doing good, trying to make sure people aren't forgotten. This is just a shitty copy of that

[@Inari_.]

​@@_.mo._ might be manicpixiemom

[@M2ofEMMM]

The difference in reverence that she gives to the non-Hispanic male firefighter versus the Hispanic women feels racist and misogynistic. Daniel gets a eulogy about being a well-respected family man who is missed by many while Bienvenida and Doris get "Did she like chocolate cupcakes?" "Was she pretty?" "Does her family even care about her anymore?"

[@DeathnoteBB]

According to another comment, Fallecio Bienvenida isn’t a name, it means “happy welcome”. The actual person there is a man named Lugo Velez. So she couldn’t even get the person correct.

[@M2ofEMMM]

@@DeathnoteBB If you check the responses to that comment, there's a native speaker pointing out that Bienvenida is also a woman's name, and it grammatically wouldn't make sense for the headstone to say "Bienvenida" to a man instead of "Bienvenido." So most likely, the person buried there is a woman named Bienvenida. This is something we wouldn't have to sort out for ourselves if Clean Girl had bothered to do her research.

[@DeathnoteBB]

@@M2ofEMMM Yeah I saw the correction like 5 minutes ago, sorry 😅

[@Polarpancakes]

​@DeathnoteBB i'm sorry to report that falleció actually means that someone died.

[@AndromedaD]

Yeah...

[@quilly8441]

your moustache looks like 2 capybaras kissing

[@TinfoilAnus]

So true

[@ariewalker9403]

Can’t unsee

[@folklore_8]

Haha yeah I reminds me of Post Malone’s one

[@ghk128]

that second grave was definitely not abandoned: those perfectly-clean fake flowers mean either the family visited recently and put that there, or they had the graveyard workers put them there, often part of a package that includes general maintenance of the graves (that occurs cyclically every few weeks or so). I used to do that job. Also she may not be allowed to be there at all at night

[@EmissaryofWind]

"We found this puppy in an abandoned house!" and it's the most perfect, silky, plump little labrador puppy, a breed where puppies go for $1000

[@basiI]

also im like 99% sure that the "crying puppy" sound is a stock sound effect. that exact sound is also used in the song Dogwalk by CreepP. i knew as soon as i heard it she hadnt found a dog but i thought she was at least gonna plant the dog there and pretend to find it or something lol

[@kiragamer7520]

@@basiIoh wow, i'm not the only one who thought of that song

[@LB_THE_NINJA]

Also "it was too scared to even approach us" as the camera's on the dog IN HER ARMS

[@LucyLouuuuu]

yeah my stepdad payed $1400 for our lab from a trusted breeder. you dont often see clean, purebred pups as strays

[@JackJackJackJackJackJack]

No way its a purebred lab, the puppy wouldn’t have white on its paws. Its still absurd because they definitely bought that puppy

[@JBubba]

the stupid questions are just plain insulting like: "was she pretty?" or "did she like cupcakes" and then she proceeds to bite into a cupcake with that cake-eating grin like dude there is a DEAD person under you

[@yoongiverse.]

i hope they haunt her jesus christ

[@SaintShion]

Shes targeting children, especially with the kids TV voice. Just gross

[@DeathnoteBB]

@@SaintShionSeriously I hate that fake voice. It’s just to get kids to watch.

[@DeathnoteBB]

Oh my god her freaking “Hola I’m Dora” voice when she says “Her name was Bienvenida, that means welcome in español.” Like ew. You’re not a kid’s tv show. Stop enticing kids to watch you desecrate graves. Edited cause apparently the comment I saw was corrected and it is a woman? Idk anymore

[@NinjaKittkatt]

@@SaintShion Honestly it feels more like fetish content. Something about it is really weird. Remember when KZbin was having those issues with like Elsa/Spiderman fetish content that was getting exposed to kids a few years ago? This feels similar.

[@Garfelds04]

For my Eagle Scout project, I restored a veteran portion of a cemetery. 1 - the caretaker NEEDS to give permission to clean the graves 2 - i had to use a specific cleaning product, because a lot of cleaning products erode the graves

[@AnimationEvi]

Hi! I'm a life scout working for eagle, do you have any advice or tips for me?

[@ilmioaccount-ce3gh]

Finally somebody speaking about this. This woman has no respect for nobody, she has no boundaries. She is doing that only for content=money. She is just greedy, and not far from the kids that go to dance in the graveyard for tiktok. She should be arrested.

[@Sorata-Kai]

There’s a word for this kind of thing in Japanese that I learned about recently, called ありがた迷惑. It means something like ‘unwanted favour’ in English, which is exactly as it sounds. Someone does something with good intentions, like cleaning ‘for free’, but it actually does more harm than good. People who think she’s just being nice don’t understand that this favour is unwanted

[@raineatscheese]

Japanese has the best words to describe things I swear

[@xylophone_8888]

russian has something similar, it's called "медвежья услуга" and the name stems from a tale about a man getting hit in the head by a bear (of which you can prlly guess the consequences for yourself) because the bear wanted to smack off a fly

[@leanooij7059]

In Dutch we don’t say unwanted favor: we say: bemoei je met je eigen zaken. And I just think that’s beautiful

[@leahthegeek9677]

Its the same as persian

[@Pollicina_db]

@@xylophone_8888Omg we have the same in croatian: medvjeđa usluga, idk how to read cyrillic but I think thats what you meant

[@cats1970]

She absolutely targets graves with Spanish names because it'll be easier for her to get away with the disrespect. She suddenly knows how to treat the deceased when they're a "true American hero." She's damaging the stone and surrounding soil/foliage. She's disgusting.

[@ysodora8030]

I’ve actually looked into some of this girls longform KZbin content, and im pretty sure she’s based in Puerto Rico. Not America, so the Spanish names are likely just a result of the local language and population. But I could be wrong here.

[@kgbkeyboard7697]

@@ysodora8030if shes based in PR then the desecration of a native’s grave would still be ignored over a white person’s, lmao pr is a settler state, its the same as anywhere else in the US, except we also have the fun caveat of no voting rights

[@Aros4]

She doesn’t just target them lets be clear she moved to Puerto Rico so she is actively choosing to belittle the people of the place she has decided to move in. I personally see her at the same level as Jake Paul. I have very strong feelings against the Pauls and her because I am Puerto Rican lol

[@cats1970]

@@Aros4 Oh my God she's an act 22? That's both worse than I expected and exactly the type of person to do this

[@cats1970]

@@ysodora8030 That probably means she had to really look for a grave "worthy" of respect in that English name firefighter though

[@ElfInTheFlowers]

She is doing this in Puerto Rico and it feels low key white savior…. She also tried giving away 100 burgers for “charity” and nobody wanted them.

[@Weeping_W1ll0w]

is there a video or something on that LOL i'd love to watch it if there is

[@nose-ir6gr]

something even funnier about the first video of her cleaning that person’s grave is that her name wasn’t even bienvenida, bienvenida is just a word in spanish, i’ve never in my life heard about someone named bienvenida in latin america. the grave said (i’m gonna translate as best as i can bc i’m not rlly good with english) ‘died welcomed, Lugo Velez. july 23, 1980. memory of her daughters and family D.E.P (R.I.P in spanish)’

[@Sofia-re3hj]

yo creo que Bienvenida era su nombre. nunca conocí a nadie que se llame asi pero considerando que era una mujer mayor que se murio hace mas 40 años... no seria el nombre más loco para esa generacion. Y supondiendo que su nombre era Lugo Velez, por qué dirían "bienvenida" en femenino.

[@cailiosaegan3427]

I can't speak for latin america, but i do know there are Bienvenidas (Bienve) in spain

[@b.v4258]

​@@Sofia-re3hj Si, hasta es un poco similar a los nombres Concepcion oh Caridad. Hasta es un poco comun encontrar mujeres mayores que se llaman nombres similares (Mi español es terible, disculpa me.)

[@rivkeg7599]

Bienvenida es un nombre 💀💀💀💀 es como quienes se llaman Concepción, Dolores u otros nombres así. pensar que es "died welcomed" es simplemente ridiculo.

[@hay_fevers]

I just want to add, cleaning graves without the proper cleaning supplies can actually damage them and make them worse. This person does not care and is incredibly disrespectful. Edit: holy shit she uses untested cleaning spray not meant for tombstones she is 100% damaging those poor people’s graves.

[@littlemissmello]

I used to study conservation while studying museology and yeah, there's no way in hell that that's not going to damage the graves in the long run.... not to mention the environment

[@SamRK-1000]

And she’s also using SO MUCH PRODUCT. She is lathering up the headstones when she could just use a little teeeeny tiiiiny amount of the proper soap and some water on a rag or something and then some polish or other surface protectant afterwards. Less is more! If you aren’t able to get all the spots with the small amount, then add a teeny bit more! You don’t need to use the whole damn bottle 😑

[@lyricalbelle]

@SanityTV_Last_Sane_Man_Alive Yo that’s mad disrespectful… honoring loved ones that have passed on is an important part of almost every culture across the world. All cultures have rituals for preparing and honoring the dead. Many cultures have holidays honoring the dead, or shrines devoted to their ancestors. If honoring your ancestors isn’t important to you, that’s your business, but this is certainly not just a first world privilege problem.

[@asmrtpop2676]

@@SanityTV_Last_Sane_Man_AliveJust admit you don’t know much about rocks… which is sad. 😂 Even kids can scuff up a rock with their fingernails 😂

[@asmrtpop2676]

@@lyricalbelleIt’s not even about that the dude thinks rocks aren’t easily damaged. 😅

[@Kayawtiku]

Wild theory but maybe Doris WANTED to be buried in the forest and surrounded by nature and you just came by with your chainsaw and said "FCK THAT!"

[@LB_THE_NINJA]

This girl is so aggressively American it's wild 💀

[@goopbuni]

it’s so sad 😭😭😭 it genuinely makes me so depressed i specifically want to be buried in a very thin wooden casket because i want my body to go back into the earth and create new life. (if this was my grave) to cut down a tree that was made from my body would be like killing me again. it’s so horrible to me 😢😢

[@The-one-and-only-Fruitcake]

@@LB_THE_NINJA as an american, we dont claim her

[@goldh2o543]

​@@LB_THE_NINJA This stereotype that Americans don't care about respecting people and things around them is such a ridiculous and stupid stereotype. It's an issue with tourists abroad. Because tourists act shitty a lot of the time. But guess what? In America, foreign tourists are disrespectful and annoying all the time! In the US, most people are normal, nice, and respectful. Domestically, America has a reputation among other nations for being extremely kind and welcoming to tourists within its borders.

[@eavye95]

​@goldh2o543 Thank you for this, Americans are very kind and are genuinely interested in where people are from, their culture, etc. American culture is all grouped together to them even though it is different from region to region and even state to state. They also make fun of us for not being as "well travled" around other countries when our country is as big as several European countries, so it takes a while to even visit all of the states. People in other countries, especially European, are just like "yawn, Americans"

[@danterodriguez03]

My heart dropped when she started DIGGING ON TOP OF THE GRAVE AND HIT IT WITH THE SHOVEL

[@aporue5893]

that's like asking to feel haunted

[@OpossumOnTheMoon]

There’s a kind French man who cleans and looks after my great-great grandpa’s grave. He’d send updates and photos of him decorating it with flowers and pictures he found of family. It’s very sweet and we all love him for it. But this lady isn’t doing that. She isn’t trying to honor their memory for family, she’s doing it for money and fame. It just feels exploitative.

[@muegeedo4354]

Honestly the grossest thing abotu this is that she is doing it to graves because no one is there to stop her. The dead cannot speak, so instead of doing an albeit dumb, but kind gesture of cleaning the graves without recording it, she uses the dead to bait people into interacting with her content. It just feels so gross.

[@p1nk_anthem]

What’s even grosser is that she isn’t even cleaning them properly! In fact she’s probably making it worse by using the same cleaners she would use in her house.

[@kab9706]

Exactly. She's using the dead for views and to help her get that sponorship $$$. Gross. And when she says stupid things like "who put Doris in the forest??" So disrespectful. This should be banned.

[@e7193]

abotu

[@SanityTV_Last_Sane_Man_Alive]

counter point, they are in disrepair because nobody does this for free, including you. She found a way to monetize doing something good and all you do is whine cuz your soul is dried up and anemic.

[@Annadog40]

When I was younger, I would go and try and clear grass growing on graves. What is the beet way to clean graves

[@archiermanilo23]

I saw that walmart bathroom woman cleaning a baby's grave, that lived and died long before she was born. She was pretending to give a fuck whilst using industrial-strength cleaner and commentating about how she felt that the family just didn't care, and it just made me so upset, who do people think they are? Worse still, it was posted on r/mademesmile, which is meant to be a wholesome, 'look how good people are' subreddit.

[@Da_Housewife]

The parents are still alive according the to Find A Grave, as clean as that grave was, you better bet they visit all the time. These are all in Puerto Rico so far that I have found.

[@brisket2112]

Places like Reddit, along with yt shorts are the most infuriating platform for vids like this to get posted on. Just a bunch of people w no nuanced comprehension skills who will take the implications of something like this at surface level and get mad at everyone calling her out by saying some shit like “oh my god why can’t you all just be *happy* for once at a nice deed smh 🙄 this is why the internet is so miserable smh smh”. The exact kind of people that give her the “innocent” benefit of the doubt with no real thought as to why she may be banking on exactly that to get away with this bs

[@Generic_Red_Protogen_OFFICIAL]

Yea, I saw that one too.

[@firefoxnia9506]

I hope someone in that subreddit pointed out how fake and destructive she's being.

[@archiermanilo23]

@@firefoxnia9506 Most people did, thankfully.

[@chelledoggo]

She's finna get haunted by the ghosts of all these people for the rest of her natural life.

[@melellison6901]

You see, there's a channel I subscribe to called 'A Grave Attraction' who cleans graves. But while she does, she tells the stories of those whose graves she's cleaning, and only has cleaned really old graves (that I've seen). She scrapes moss off the stones, scrubs them, and rinses them off so that they are legible again. She's so respectful about it, and you can tell she actually cares because she does research about the person, telling their story. I'm not sure what cleaning product she uses, but it doesn't seem like it fizzes or foams, so I wouldn't be surprised if she only used soap and water. And she only does older gravestones (that I've seen). She also has some videos explaining different customs in regards to what people leave at graves and why. Really informative and respectful, I love her videos.

[@ISPwarrior]

Her cutting all the plants around the grave and then putting crappy plastic ones there actually made me upset. That's so insulting and disrespectful to me, those plants could have been placed there by the family. They could have been growing for decades. Even if they werent, the plants would actually provide protection and shelter from the elements. I genuinely hope this woman gets in legal trouble and has to shut down her brand.

[@Confused_Human_]

Holy shit those were plastic? Now I’m even more pissed.

[@curiousnerdkitteh]

Same! She is like a Batman villain.

[@elliot_rat]

one day it's gonna be found that microplastic can turn corpses into reanimated zombies

[@gaytoe-]

Cutting down excess plants that are in the way if the grave I get but cutting down whole things? Hell no! Get her ass fined and make her replant and take care of new trees or bushes around

[@MelonHere20]

Yeah! I hope she gets in trouble too for that

[@lukechambers538]

hey Jarvis, my name is Luke Chambers and I’m the son of a former Cemetery owner. my dad used to own Grandview cemetery in Tennessee and everything that she is doing is not allowed. painting on the gravestone especially could be considered defiling the grave and legal actions could be pursued, you are somewhat right about that the property is owned privately in a sense. The Cemetery owns the land, The families own the plots. that being said it is the cemeteries job to take care of the graves and the grounds work around the graves as she could be liable for an injury on our property, which is not okay obviously. also the flowers that were placed on the Marker that was on the ground, they are supposed to be either placed by the family, the grounds team for the cemetery, or an associated flower shop worker with that cemetery. it could be seen as disrespectful if someone were to put unwanted decorations on the Graveston/Marker. I hope this was helpful!!

[@Dkgow]

If you also look up this person now, you only get her tictok videos as the first like 4 results and the first result to a cemetery site uses the picture of her "cleaning job" as the main marker of the burial... sucks so much that she took over.

[@bryciebee9651]

That is all really good to know, because I had been thinking about the idea of cleaning headstones or leaving flowers at a cemetery. Not record it at all, but do something positive at a cemetery as a way to help get over my fear of cemeteries. Now I know that it would not be a good idea at all. I am content to keep avoiding cemeteries.

[@ElementalWhispers]

​@@bryciebee9651It's still ok to spend time in cemeteries/ graveyards. I like to bring a book and find a bench or walk around reading the gravestones and noticing the different birds, trees and flowers through the seasons. They are full of history but also new life!

[@lordnsaviorgonzo]

So we legally can report her to the cemeteries she goes to?

[@thewordshifter]

​@@bryciebee9651they would appreciate the help! Find out who governs the cemetery you're interested in and offer to help. They'll teach you the correct ways to do things (and they probably already have the buckets!) Or get involved in local cemetery preservation (usually cities or counties have organizations). They truly need ALL the help they can get and they will be so excited someone young is interested in helping.

[@ciinnabuns]

"I found a radioactive abandoned facility at the woods, and I'm going to clean it, for FREE"

[@Nugget.breathes]

"espanyol" "vyenbenyda" I swear that this woman kills my soul with just speaking

[@CloudedByKatana]

When she not only chain sawed the tree, but also TOOK IT UPON HERSELF TO PLANT HER OWN PLANTS I was so pissed, like that goes beyond cleaning, she is taking it upon herself to make essentially permanent alterations to the decorations of the grave supposedly without permission. It's just so wrong.

[@dreamfletcher779]

She fucking gentrified a GRAVE

[@demo2823]

Even worse. Her plants are plastic.

[@JellyfishFlavored]

Real like she pisses me off so badly, like it’s not her grave so why is she messing with it?..

[@RaspBerryPies]

Bruh I am so glad ppl are talking about her I saw her videos and lost my mind thinking how horrible what she is doing once I realized they were random graves. Everyone was super supportive so I thought maybe I am just crazy but so glad I am not!

[@angiebeneviento8978]

@@JellyfishFlavored you rather have your grave forgotten and abandoned or have your grave remembered and clean?

[@Ather_sys]

i feel like something stops being rage bait when you're activley doing a bad, harmful, immoral thing - you're not baiting shit youre just being a bad person LMAO

[@E7XEE]

Oh my god yes, something being a joke or for clout does not exclude you from the consequences of your actions

[@bearysorry5009]

Thank you im so tired of everyone getting away with using the rage bait defense

[@geekmyths]

i’d say it’s still rage bait, but i’d also say that most rage bait is genuinely morally wrong, and involves being a bad person. just because you’re doing something bad to make people mad doesn’t change the fact that you’re still doing a bad thing. if anything it’s worse because you’re self aware.

[@trevorford8702]

The best rage bait is genuinely bad. Because then you feel vindicated in leaving a comment. The creator gets engagement from both sides. Soulless companies don’t see response. They only see impressions. So “rage bait” does what it needs to. Her content isn’t cleaning cause she wants to clean, it’s to get people to talk about her.

[@MekareP]

That's....the definition lol

[@emmymittler4881]

There's no way she found that puppy- if it was in a pile of garbage somewhere warm like it obviously is, it would be dirty and pretty likely have fleas or mites in his eyes or ears. He wouldn't look like he came from the pet store and was ready for his first clean dingbat photo shoot. Poor guy.

[@havinghope6315]

We had a neighbor who lived across the street from us, who would come over and weed whack our yard without permission. I thought for years he was just being nice, until I told someone they could park on my yard, and he freaked out calling it "his land". Weirdest thing ever.

[@LarrytheSaturnian]

me on my way to use arsenic, mercury, and battery acid to clean the playplace at the chucky cheese

[@silverandexact]

For FREE tho?

[@hannahjochems9765]

Don't forget lead. Hahahaha

[@HeyitsBri_]

Diabolical 😂

[@RyBrown]

I have so many questions. Will the employees mind if I clean the playplace? Who even uses a playplace? Why did Chuck E. Cheese let this playplace get so rundown?

[@mookinbabysealfurmittens]

Be sure to wear shorts & open-toed shoes! And don't rinse anything. ("What 'rinse'?! I just _cleaned_ it with the pretty foam spray!" - her, probably)

[@ReptarKingOfMeat]

That second grave is clearly not abandoned. Even without the obvious new fake flowers in the pot, the grave just looks like it rained recently and there was mud runoff covering the headstone.

[@thatcher6923]

@ReptarKingOfMeat And the death date is 2004! I feel uncomfortable taking photos of graves that have any death date above 1900, so I can’t understand how she thinks this is okay.

[@preciousmourning8310]

The poor family. She should be charged for damaging the graves and billed for the restoration costs. None of these viral grave cleaners seem to use the right cleaners, tools etc.

[@Annie_Annie__]

But that headstone looks rained on and the ground around it doesn’t. I think she sprayed water or cleaner on it multiple times to get that shot. Also, the dirt on the headstone is a completely different color from the surrounding dirt. The surrounding dirt is reddish-brown, but the dirt on the grave is a cool brown. I suspect that she put the dirt on there, patted it down, left it for a day or two and when no one cleaned it off, she felt like she could call it “abandoned”.

[@Snartfoodler]

@@preciousmourning8310 If any of them touch my husbands grave I will sue them.

[@Snartfoodler]

We leave cairn stones on our graves and the idea of someone taking them away because they look like "rubble" horrifies and haunts me.

[@cherrie_may_68]

She’s standing on the graves - literally giving me chills, she is so disrespectful 😔😔

[@slaphappybullet]

I’ve seen a TikTok where these girls posed by their favorite tombstones that they felt described their personalities, and commenters were mad I said it was disrespectful. I can’t imagine going to see my dad and sister’s graves, and see people doing a photo shoot nearby for TikTok. I would be livid.

[@silverandexact]

As a nanny to a 7 year old, I can confirm that this woman puts a spell on kids. Said 7 y.o. watched three of her shorts in a row before I was like, "No more. She's doing something nice but only because people are watching and is not getting permission and that is not a good thing. Plus you've already seen what she does for every video." I hate that young children see so much "altruism" for views.

[@extracleverearthboundspirit]

Why is a 7 year old on KZbin

[@commanderpinkie7617]

@@extracleverearthboundspiritMany different reasons. But mostly because that’s the modern equivalent to watching television.

[@SamRK-1000]

And some of that altruism is FAKE. Wether it be staged videos between human beings or staged videos of abused or mistreated animals being rescued, it’s so harmful to children. They are easily manipulated by things, I’d never let my kid watch KZbin let ALONE KZbin Shorts, which is just like utter brain rot. I’ve been collecting model kit and collectibles magazines and Ranger Rick not only for myself and nostalgia, but also kind of for my future kids. I want them to be able to be entertained by media other than KZbin or TV, get em to play outside. 7 is just SO EARLY to be exposed to internet content and videos.

[@bigclitenergy]

@@extracleverearthboundspirit this is an interesting question considering the a majority of youtube is catered to children. fork found in kitchen.

[@Sleipnirseight]

The thing is, there are lots of people who do this same thing, but carefully and also research the people's genealogy, even getting in contact with any relatives who may still be alive. This could be a great avenue to get this little kid interested in genealogy and history if you point them towards better examples. Lady Taphos and A Grave Attraction are two such examples, but there are many more.

[@ravenstone1292]

She 100% damaged every single grave she "cleaned"

[@mutationsensation1179]

@@CatPawLover yeah, to make money.

[@_the_bedrock_miner_3696]

@@mutationsensation1179how is that wrong? is mr beast a bad person? he gets paid millions. you can do a good thing and still get paid for it. edit: fixed my point. i didnt mean what she was doing was right, just that earning money from it wasnt wrong.

[@cieluz]

​@@_the_bedrock_miner_3696 grave keepers have permission from the deceased's family, that's the difference

[@futured8060]

@@_the_bedrock_miner_3696grave keepers have permission and don’t make weird content about it with kids channel commentary

[@FaithMichelle420]

@@_the_bedrock_miner_3696it’s their job? and they have permission and they have training this random chick doesn’t.

[@amiatanamedmichelle5539]

My problem with this woman is there’s an account that shows the proper way to clean headstones. It’s called Healthy Headstones LLC. Headstones are typically made out of lime, which can be utterly destroyed with the chemicals she uses like the pink stuff, which is a cleaner designed to remove lime stains from say your bathroom

[@barbararab6390]

I hope the families sue. Because holy shit thats so much disrespect. Also, if theres ever a dawn of the dead moment, you just know they will all go for her first

[@lilyrolyat6726]

“The Dhar-Mannification of grave cleaning” is a BRAND new sentence

[@FIREcrochethairstyles]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@cedrus.forest_.]

it would cause a victorian child to evaporate

[@ssharvariii]

literally came here to see a comment about THIS LMAO

[@getahanddown]

It's fake restoration for stay at home facebook moms. The snake was not just there. *Baby voice* "who could have put this snake here?"

[@chelsuh614]

"Bienvenidos is welcome in Español!" is the most mind blowing micro aggression to say over someones resting place. But hey, if its an American firefighter, speak above the grave with the utmost respect. Sure, okay, cool.

[@mrh8142]

Then she had the gall to use that to say "then I should be welcome here!" Wtf

[@driggledraggle7702]

Micro aggressions are not a thing and you're chronically online as fuck. Get a job, a hobby, a life.

[@TheSongwritingCat]

I am crazy or is the name Lugo Velez?

[@alextheferret5674]

It literally means "good morning" I swear to God :/

[@InsecurArties]

it also means welcome... but like why did she feel the need to be so ​dora about it 🫠@@alextheferret5674

[@downbeatdialga1341]

20:50 “Who put Doris in the forest-“ a GRIEVING family.

[@PeppermintCactus]

I work in the funeral science field, and as blindingly angry as this makes me, the only thing I can think of is to either contact the cemeteries she’s defacing or local authorities. Turns out, you can’t just walk into a cemetery and destroy the headstones like that. She makes my stomach churn. Please respect the dead holy shit

[@joyride2045]

what bothers me the most is when she encourages the commenters to hate on the family of the deceased. whenever she says something like “this grave is abandoned and it’s been neglected” it always prompts the commenters to be like “the family should be ashamed of themselves 😡” which is just so disrespectful to the living relatives

[@annamelvina216]

Right. And it only takes a storm to make a grave look messy. Like... It could've been pristine 2 days ago.

[@yourtimetraveleralara]

Yeah And the comments i saw on her videos are like "your so kind for doing this" like she's not.

[@ladygreenwithenvy]

Heres the thing… if what commenters are saying is right, and she lives in Puerto Rico, that makes this situation so much worse. We have hurricanes and floods alot, and we never fully recovered from Hurricane Maria. Most locals are elderly now, she can’t expect the family of the deceased to travel all the way to the forrest to clean it all the time either. They’re not that safe and cleaned up all the time…. It’s not right. Who knows what the circumstances are? It’s also really shitty that she lives in Puerto Rico, but that’s another topic…

[@ObtuseMori]

I randomly saw one of her grave videos on Insta, and that part immediately made me feel icky. She has no idea what the family's situation is, if they live close enough to visit often, what their relationship with the deceased person was like (e.g. maybe they lost contact years ago and don't even know where the grave is, maybe it's too painful or emotional for them to visit), if the deceased person even still HAS living relatives. So unbelievably disrespectful.

[@tatebullock7329]

there’s a girl on tiktok who gets permission to clean graves and does an AMAZING job, is super respectful, and even tells the person’s life story while she cleans! i forget her name but it’s def worth looking into!

[@Cervidae]

she's manicpixiemom!

[@doriangrayapologist]

@@Cervidaei LOVE manicpixiemom. i was scared that this video was about her 😭😭😭

[@gianna526]

@@doriangrayapologist I thought the video was about her until he showed clips and I wsa so relieved, I always enjoy listening to her videos and I was worried she was doing something wrong 😭😭

[@tatebullock7329]

@@RoseyVamp yup! i didn’t catch it when i first wrote the comment lol

[@Kk-fi5ui]

"sixto patia! what a unique name!" "Daniel was a well respected family man..." thats wild

[@frankintheocean3642]

No cause why is she STANDING on the grave at 18:05?! And like this whole thing is stating, she should get permits… especially for cutting down things

[@sidneyprescott2639]

“to show YOU the power of FLEX TAPE, I SAWED THIS TOMBSTONE IN HALF!”

[@lud3445]

Please God just no

[@mookinbabysealfurmittens]

"'Jarvis'?! WhAt A wEiRd nAmE!" 😅

[@insertlogohere2643]

With flex tape, the inside of the tomb is nice and dry; even when submerged in water!

[@honeylovesbee1223]

Stooopp😭😭😂😂

[@mackenziera7526]

I follow a couple grave cleaners and they tell the deceased story and are very respectful, get permission. This chick ain’t it, I hope a cemetery or family sues

[@Suo_kongque]

“I found a sacred Navajo burial site, and I’m going to clean it FOR FREE”

[@mikimorgz]

That's the motto of contract builders and landscapers! And the US government

[@ObtuseMori]

Don't give her ideas! 😣

[@dxrlingsofmine]

oh no

[@aquaabouttogetfunky]

That’s just the us goverment at its finest. *like look at what they did to Hawaii :D*

[@marydeceptishroom9351]

There's two ways to look at it. On one hand they're dead not like they're using it anymore. But also it's still blatant disrespect to purposely disturb graves. I would like my corpse to decompose in peace. Granted a lot of bodies are in concrete vaults now and can be moved around

[@applejellypucci]

Lamont at Large, Scott on Tape, Hollywood Graveyard, Faces of the Forgotten, Grimmlife Collective, the Graveyard Channel, Dearly Departed Tours, to name a few. Those are some channels I recommend if you enjoy respectful commentary about graves and stories of the lives behind them. I couldn't even finish this video of hers, had to skip over it. I can just imagine Scott Michaels coming out of nowhere while she's doing this and telling her to pack all her pink chemicals and stuff right away, she'd be trembling lol

[@SpellboundArtstudio]

Can we arrest her? For like lying or disrespect or being obnoxious? There has to be something we can arrest her for.

[@lizzyizzywizzy]

someone report her for desecration of a grave! this is EVIL. she is not using stone-safe cleaners NOR is she being respectful to the dead. absolutely evil.

[@natalia4955]

evil!! there is no other word for this extreme level of disrespect and desecration

[@Aros4]

Unfortunately I don’t think that would do much. The justice system in PR is shit :(

[@raineatscheese]

@@Aros4:(

[@lindarezende7725]

Why she was suddenly more respectful in the firefighter man grave than in the two latin people one's? That's so messed up

[@oleandy]

it's straight up racism. this women sucks so much!!!

[@SweeneyToddApologist]

The questions too. “Was she pretty?” why does it matter. ☠️ It reeks of misogyny and racism

[@GoOseGuTZz]

My father’s a firefighter- and the clip of her cleaning that grave honestly made me die a little inside. My dad lost a friend a few years ago in a house fire, and I can’t even begin to imagine how furious he would be if he saw this lady cleaning his friend’s grave. Honestly- the respect she pretends to give is fucking disgusting.

[@briclare]

24:10 that is the cleanest and healthiest looking dog, it is no way that it’s abandoned

[@uncalendula]

I'm an architectural historian who's worked in the restoration of both historic and non-historic gravesites. A few clarifying things: - We use extremely specific, biodegradable compounds to clean graves. Because they are far gentler to the many kinds of stone we see in cemeteries, they sometimes require several rounds of application and careful scrubbing with a variety of brushes. Clean Girl using an untested spray on headstones is absolutely doing irreparable damage to the headstones, further eroding the stone or paint and making them more susceptible to deterioration. - The headstones she is cleaning are not white marble, as being dirty for this long would have stained it. They are most likely cast cement and then painted white. The names look like they were written into cement with a scribing tool before the cement set. - The painted headstones are a very common practice, especially in coastal areas. Many headstones in cemeteries in coastal areas are painted white for a couple purposes: 1.) to act as a protective barrier to the stone or cement (which requires reapplication as the paint wears away, and you have to keep applying it forever because removing paint removes the protective layer on the stone or cement, again making it more porous), and 2.) to look "cleaner." - The headstones all bearing the surname "Lugo" tell me that she's essentially cleaning a family plot in a larger cemetery that has become overgrown, as small, private family cemeteries are less likely to have the white paint treatment. Could be wrong here though. - Clean Girl talks about how these cemeteries are "lost" or "abandoned," and that she couldn't find more information online. While that's certainly common (I come across abandoned cemeteries regularly in my work), if you're U.S.-based you can actually find most "abandoned" cemeteries on the FindAGrave website! You can search by area or name. Often, these listings contain the names of most or all of those interred, and will specify whether the cemeteries are public, private, family, churchyard, or other community-oriented cemetery types. Anyway. Her videos make me upset as someone who works in material conservation. 🙃

[@bluebirds_and_bees]

I use Find A Grave for work! I tried to find the first tombstone but I was traveling so I couldn’t look closely and didn’t find it. I think she probably looked the second guy up before posting her video. Thank you for all the info. This girl is super disrespectful and irritating! I hope she loses her sponsors so she can’t keep destroying gravesites.

[@triagonlover]

Thank you! for typing all this. As a person interested in grave restoration, I was thinking of these things when I watch it. This is really upsetting to watch. I hope she gets reported and arrested

[@natalia4955]

is there any way to report this to anyone???? like ??

[@jonathangibson3609]

+

[@Snartfoodler]

I respect your work so much as someone with a passing interest. I generally sometimes clean graves other than mine but avoid touching the stone, for instance an upturned vase or false flowers / objects turned over--I will clean those off for the family who is clearly still visiting There is no reason to do more unless you are paid imo

[@bubly4436]

I'm a geologist and looking at the graves, they appear to be limestone based on some erosion differences at the bottom and such, but basically, using whatever spray shes using (I have NO clue what's in there because I can't find any ingredients list lmao) but assuming there is some acid to use as a cleaning agent, this would ABSOLUTLY be horrible for the gravestones as acids speed up the erosion rates and if the grave is made out of enough carbonate material it will fizz and destroy the grave.

[@knuckleteeth]

I wonder how many graves she’s straight-up broken because of that and just never posted them

[@kiragamer7520]

@@knuckleteethi was literally just thinking that

[@frozenheart7133]

I was a housekeeper for years & I would never use these kinds of chemicals on unsealed stone of any kind. That's wild to me.

[@GlisteningArts]

I wanna be a geologist too

[@healingpoisonbreak9984]

Finally, someone is talking about it. This girl triggers my flight or fight response. And the worst of it is the ppl on her comments praising for 'respecting' the deceased i-

[@lauren-kitsuneroach]

“exhuming bodies… FOR FREE!!” got me CRYINGGGGG

[@EarlyOwOwl]

Something about a white usamerican using hispanic graves as an aesthetic while simultaneously destroying them feels like a metaphor of some kind except it's real

[@HangryOnPaws]

It sounds like the set up for a really bizarre ghost story told by kids in a shadowy corner of the schoolyard.

[@Zapporah85]

This feels like a weird Get Out spin off...

[@daonlyboriqua11]

Lmaooo a metaphor for Murrica

[@lallauoxymora6115]

This yt girl I know identifies as "American Indian". She calls her mixed baby " half black, half American Indian". I'm no longer surprised by what Caucasians do anymore, and I've only been in America for 9 years

[@JohnSmith-bh8um]

She looks Asian. But I'm half white and people assume I'm a Spanish speaking Mexican all the time. So...

[@Rampala]

I mean, I know you can restore gravestones, but I know it's also SUPER easy to damage them if you don't know what you're doing. Even taking a rubbing of a grave can damage older stones.

[@lulumccoolio3111]

Yeah, I know that there's specific products youre supposed to use when cleaning graves so seeing her just spray "aesthetic" home cleaning products on the grave of a stranger is horrific.

[@jediping]

That was my thought as well. Her cleaning products probably did more damage to the headstone than the dirt and the elements. Gah!

[@alyssaavery2087]

to clean a grave stone, you’re only supposed to use water or non ionic cleaner. also, using the scrub daddy could most definitely do severe damage because you’re only supposed to use soft brushes, so yeah she’s an idiot😭

[@cyb3rDracul]

@@jedipingit's probably why she painted over the names to make it 'legible' like bruh she probably scrubbed their name off with the amount of scrubbing she did

[@elin_]

I managed to scrub away some of the letter paint on my moms grave stone when I tried to clean it 🫠 Her grave spot is the first grave spot I'm responsible for.. I'm trying 😶

[@theman5324]

There is one woman I watch who actually cares about the graves and their history. She cried when she came across vandalized graves.

[@megcatherine8254]

Her saying out loud "FOR FREE" as if the deceased could reach out of the ground and tip her for her work if they wanted to💀

[@lowbudgetfries9127]

this comment is top tier istg😭😭

[@consumingkazoos]

not like they would if they could

[@aporue5893]

I keep picturing a zombie hand coming out to grab her hand angrily when she cleans the stone...this is so utterly disrespectful.

[@LucyM-]

I hate this type of content because if you say anything against it all the comments are "she's doing something good leave her alone!!" when she's really not. She's pretending it's charity so no one can criticise her.

[@lucystoner]

It's bait for children because they can't see the nefarious nature of this.

[@elegantdisarray]

"For Free" so I'm doing a good thing can't get mad tee hee 👉👈

[@SpirituallyInspired]

yes!! Exactly, well said

[@mariaceciliamaldonado6803]

I honestly thought she asked for permission, she pops up a few times on my yt shorts, the bathroom thing I thought she did as a prank once or twice and while her way of speaking is odd when handling graves I don't see her that often but now I feel bad for the likes I know I gave her. Also the Dora the explorer voice as she cleaned killed me, safe to say I'm not watching her anymore like damn

[@cherries4164]

THIS is a good example of charity baiting. However, there are times where the creator actually is doing good. Like the woman who makes food for poor villages? that actually makes an impact and helps people LIVE. the graveyard tiktoks are absolutely terrible and calculated, the girl who makes food for villages? even if SHE was doing it for “the views”, at least SHE is showing all these people who are benefiting from her efforts.

[@Ariye]

Long-winded story incoming, because this struck a very particular nerve for me. When I was a child, I lived across the street from a cemetery. I never saw anyone there, and it just seemed so lonely, you know? Honestly, a lot of really bad stuff happened at that point in my life, and I didn't have any friends, so it never occured to me at the time that it might've just been me projecting my own feelings. Nevertheless I, being the determined six year old with near complete lack of supervision I was, began taking a washcloth and gently wiping down the headstones and righting the very few flower vases that were knocked over. I found a lot of comfort in it, there was no pressure for me to act a certain way. I learned a lot of the names of the people who were resting there, and I'd talk to them about how I was. I'd talk about my hopes that they were having a fun, happy afterlife, and once I had to go home, I'd thank them for listening to me and that I'd see them tomorrow. I'm in my thirties now, and I remember those times with a lot of love and fondness. I live half halfway across the country now, but I wonder how the cemetery is a lot. I hope it's still being cared for as it was back then, without me and my washcloth of hopes, lol. All this to say, I'll never understand people who treat graves and cemeteries in general as clout fuel. It's so very disrespectful to both the people resting there and the families of those whose bodies are at rest.

[@XianMMD]

I live in Poland (former German lands) where there are many old german children graves. My mom sometimes cleans them because no one would do that. City rarely pays for cleaning them (often sends people to care for old and abandoned polish graves of wariors or politicians or other famous people).

[@user-ob3ub1vf7e]

My grandfather requested to be buried inside his favorite type of bush and they were able to fulfill that wish. I was heartbroken to see her cut the trees that the person might of requested before passing

[@chibiktsn3]

Right?! When my grandpa was buried, he had chosen a cemetery plot near a tree, as it was shady and nice. Eventually, the cemetery removed the tree, and my family was disappointed, but at least that was the cemetery, not some rando who wanted content!

[@hailey_ishuman6606]

I doubt my dad will ever get his wish fulfilled, witch makes this a little more sad. The person might have been lucky enough to be buried there and then gotten it demolished. Also my dad wants to be buried in a vat of black eyed peas.

[@Inkiel420]

Imagine defacing graves in the most coquette way possible

[@axemaster8331]

Coquette?

[@izzyha6173]

​@@axemaster8331 flirtatious

[@Jake_C75]

HUH?

[@CupidzRottingCorpse]

​@axemaster8331 it means cutesie

[@kayadml4310]

​@@axemaster8331it's a style. 😭

[@Virtualweakness]

The cupcake thing made it abundantly clear that she’s doing this to appeal to kids.

[@buiscutdog9090]

Her behavior is actually disgusting, its so incredibly disrespectful for her to cut down the plant life around the graves, and then to use her pink sauce foam spray that isn't even actually being produced officially Someone should take her to court.

[@gem4life933]

That jackass, put a puppy somewhere. Waited for it to be scared enough to cry and started recording. That is disgusting. A no way a homeless puppy looks that clean

[@Sydneysarchives]

Yes!!

[@tobyandahalf]

huh

[@JaxonColby-jq9mn]

It could’ve still just been an edited sound, but still, she is a terrible, HORRIBLE person

[@Mommy_Moss]

@@tobyandahalfhUH

[@caitlinw8351]

also such bad misinfo to spread to just take home a baby animal you see without checking for more, for mom, getting them help too etc

[@rye7126]

Eating a chocolate cupcake while in the middle of *CLEANING A GRAVE* is wild Edit: also yeah those chemicals from the cleaning products will definately go into the soil and could mess up the plants and grass around it

[@Honeybeomgyu]

Bro fr, not only disrespect but just gross in general, who tf eats while cleaning let alone cleaning A GRAVE that's OUTSIDE

[@NinjaKittkatt]

Since it's scripted, she probably ate the cupcake later. Notice how it's angled upwards and you can't see anything behind her? She filmed that separate for sure, and it barely looks like she ate it.

[@dismurrart6648]

I buy soapmaking chemicals for a living and research the environmental impact and hazards so I can be better at my job. So much of what we use is so nasty. If there's antibacterial stuff in that bottle, it can just kill the ecosystem.

[@jellifygirl]

If her shady cleaning spray is legal at all, it'll have to have a sign on it with dying animals and plants that tells you to never fucking use it outdoors... I wonder if she ignores it on purpose for her videos, or doesn't put it on her products at all?

[@dismurrart6648]

@@jellifygirl I think the label is so she doesn't accidentally give free advertising. It's almost definitely not made for outdoor use

[@saaandshark]

Another concern with using household cleaning products: pollution. I feel like those chemicals would leech into the ground, no?

[@JinStreams]

Literally, she has a power washer, that's more than enough for these graves

[@aurorynfrost9817]

When i cleaned a gravestone i only used a spray bottle with water and a drop and a half of dawn liquid soap and a very soft paint brush. Even then I let the soap water sit for an hour and then carefully dab at debris.

[@candicefrost4561]

I’ve used water and a plastic scraper to take debris and bird droppings off of graves before, just discreetly, but once I ran out of water and used saliva to get off bird droppings quickly without thinking. I felt so awful as soon as I realized that was disrespectful- I just felt weird leaving poop on it. Now I always make sure I have enough water, and would NEVER use chemicals because I would be terrified to damage something- that would be so messed up. I also pick up trash that gets left there (cigarette butts and stuff).

[@luigiboyinblu]

21:52 That IS definitely written over. Most of these people appear to be from a Spanish-speaking cultural background (like me) and we don't use "RIP" in tombstones since it's clearly an English thing. If anything, we use "QEPD" (Que en paz descanse, which means the same). But seems like she didn't even bother respecting that.

[@naro6764]

I mean, I've seen Puerto Ricans do that though, and a quick glance at her profile lead me to assess that she was in Puerto Rico for those cleaning videos so

[@nospoonfulofmayonnaiseforme]

That's an interesting point, i hadn't thought about that

[@rebeccahicks2392]

I don't know which countries or cultures RIP is used in; just wanted to clarify that it's from Latin: Requiescat in Pace, so it's not immediately clear that it's an English thing.

[@sasara_simp]

nah RIP is also use din spanish speaking backgrounds, specially religious ones as it means the same thing in Latin

[@danterodriguez03]

Depending on the area they are from it can be DEP (descansa en paz)

[@knofear8859]

Should be noted that the desecration of headstones/graves is considered a violation of the right to freedom of religion in international law. Depending on how much she's doing this, she may literally be committing war crimes.

[@deadk0ala451]

that's super interesting, i gotta look that up. Religiously muslims are explicitly forbidden from decorating our graves, not even with regular tombstones. The most you will see is a small stone slab, level to the ground, marking it; which is required by law in some US states. Not everyone does teddy bears mounds and false flowers. It's wild to think someone may come and plant whatever trinkets they think is pretty once you pass away because it fits their modern cultural definition of "abandoned"

[@DeathnoteBB]

A crime, yes. A war crime…? She’s not in a war, my person.

[@trashed_scattered9555]

That's probably why she switched to that "abandoned grave in the forest." She probably made it

[@pillbugm8914]

Okay what she's doing is disrespectful and she's probably trespassing but war crimes is a hilariously overblown accusation.

[@Natasha___.]

She’s an annoying, disrespectful person, but she’s not breaking the Geneva convention 😂

[@WeavileShiny]

12:30 we had "pink sauce" now we have "Pink clean products"

[@All4thesnow]

I really appreciated that you highlighted those who have permission and clean the graves respectfully (and with the proper materials) at 4:39 . I enjoy watching that specific creator tell a departed individual’s stories and leave their burial looking refreshed but still respected and of its original design. It certainly illuminates the major differences between those that are paying respect to someone gone and sharing their stories (with permission) vs botching a final resting place for giggles and clout.

[@kayenjee]

I choose to believe that the shovel did move and it was Bienvenida attempting to defend herself

[@sourdrop]

Bienvenida was about to whack some sense into her, but then realized it wouldn't be worth it since clean girl would just use it a more view-fodder and probably become a "paranormal investigator" and disturb more people's spirits.

[@spongecakes1986]

Bienvenida actually wasn't her name. Some other commenters who speak Spanish have pointed this out, but that was actually the first half of a saying meaning basically "welcome to the afterlife". She didn't even bother to find out her real name, and just assumed it would be the first word like American graves. So fucking disrespectful.

[@moonmins]

As someone who wants a natural burial with a small headstone just to mark it but to be overgrown eventually, this girl is my worst nightmare

[@DeathnoteBB]

Yeah for real. Like crap if it was one of those nice people who get permission, I’d be chill as a ghost. But I do prefer the look of an overgrown gravestone so I’d be so mad if this jerk came in and destroyed the headstone with unsafe chemicals. Not to mention her cutting down TREES around someone’s grave! Ma’am those were most likely FOR THE GRAVE.

[@Greenbean_2.0]

“ when I die I’m haunting her “ same man same.

[@GraveAngels]

From the rooftops! As a caretaker, preservation lover- thank you! People are destroying our stones by cleaning like this. I had repaired 5 children’s stones from the 1700’s, we found a photographer doing boudoir photography with the larger set models sitting on the repaired stones and put a huge crack through it. I teach cleaning if anyone wants to get into it, it’s easy to do right!

[@Harudodo]

I haven’t even seen the video yet and I can already say THANK YOU for covering these. They always made me feel so icky, especially when the people cleaning the graves would talk about how “their relatives must not care about them because the grave is dirty” My great grandparents’ graves are over an hour away because they wanted to be buried in their home town. It’s too far to visit more than once or twice a year The fact they always insult the family members of a DEAD PERSON without any real information on the situation is disgusting

[@mossfrog9720]

Also there’s specific ways and products they have to be cleaned with to cause the least damage and I guaranty she’s not doing that

[@bec7080]

My grandfather is buried states away. How would I even get there to do that. His is newer but his parents and my grandmother's parents are not. And they don't want you touching the older ones

[@dogandcat3672]

Some people might also want their graves to get broken down and covered in wild flora.

[@GoodTimeForARoll]

​​​@@dogandcat3672 i would definitely want that. I will put in my will to make sure my headstone always has flowers growing around, idk if I can enforce that but it will be written

[@PhoebeTheFairy56]

Are people supposed to _clean_ gravestones when visiting them? Like what are they trying to imply with the "their relatives must not care since the grave is dirty" thing

[@jeanknight2497]

17:21 .....did she really cut down plants around a grave.....? WTAF Those plants could have been put there by the family, "to bring new life from death" and she just ripped it all out without knowing what it could mean.

[@alijeffreys8455]

I understand repairing broken or overgrown graves, but gravestones are very important, they are used to sample air purity, a professional can take photographs and swabs of the surface of the gravestone, and then obviously you can read on the stone the year it was placed, that way you can see any big changes in the kind of lichen that grows on the stones because lichen only grows where the air is pure, so if a cemetery has existed for fifty years near a city, and has no moss or lichen growth on the graves you can wonder if that is due to pollution, and if you've put in measures to improve air purity gravestones are a great way to measure whether they are working. Plus you are right about the chemicals being bad for the stone, as is the abrasive cleaning action, one reason grave stones are so valuable a historical resource is you can go find out where someone was buried hundreds of years ago, but every time you apply chemicals or scrub them with anything, you quicken the natural erosion of the information on the stone, making it reach the point of illegibility so much faster. the chemicals stay in the stones and the acids stay acidic until neutralised and most people doing this do not think of that. grave stones hold emotional, sociological, historical and ecological importance and should be treated as an important resource, if illegible due to dirt, use sterilised water to rinse off large amounts of mud, beyond that just leave it alone or get a stone mason to fix it

[@Olivia.Loren..Fan.]

“When I die I’m haunting her” she will prob die from her own chemicals she’s creating 💀💀💀

[@valratine]

im SO glad other people are grossed out about this. whenever i saw people comment how weird her behavior was with the graves, her supporters jumped down their throats saying she was doing good work. but its so disrespectful. no one is safe from being used for content, not even in death

[@YippeeKiYayyyyy]

We all know that not only she caused disrespect, but also the graves will decay with the chemicals.

[@JellyfishFlavored]

Ikr? And her literally basically sponsoring products WHILE she’s cleaning a dead persons tomb is so disgusting.. then the fact that she asks these dumbass questions like, “Was she pretty?”, like what the fuck? Or “who left Doris in the forest?” Like I don’t know maybe Doris WANTED to be around nature not your fake plants.. 💀

[@neptune11111]

seriously, i’ve been complaining about that woman for a hot minute and i’m SO glad someone finally addressed it. the damn “for FREE” makes me so angry 😭😭