5 Signs You're Not An INFJ

[@thereaIitsybitsyspider]

It looks like you are wearing a graduation cap

[@CognitivePersonality]

Haha it does doesn't it!

[@heffthehecked]

yEs what I was thinking lol!

[@skyyflower36]

I literally thought that too.

[@mariahg8776]

Lol that’s hilarious

[@uwuuwu9401]

I thought it WAS one

[@nsimba_777]

This just confirms that I'm an INFJ

[@CognitivePersonality]

Boom - great to hear :)

[@DrShemp-sv6gf]

Same here my friend

[@alienology_5634]

Ayeeeee same

[@OGStarlightKY]

Same here

[@adorablemonster6732]

Sorry dude. Maybe in the next life 🙃

[@annie3w4]

I like the focus on what an INFJ CAN'T do. Many personalities descriptions out there are polite and positive, causing people tend to over-identify with many type descriptions, because everyone wants to see themselves as having positive strengths. More focus on the negatives or cannot's of every type would probably lead to more accurate self-typing.

[@CognitivePersonality]

My intentions exactly - cheers :)

[@77HadassaH77]

Don’t forget about depending on how synergy works for INFJ’s. I’ve never heard any one else explain this before…

[@candacecasey5634]

" Infjs process emotions logically" rather than processing logic emotionally. That makes perfect sense. It is one of the reasons that I get irritated with the false dichotomy of " straight emotions" or " straight logic" for us they are interconnected as are all things.

[@mqh2411]

Totally agree with that. May explain why I feel so cold yet vunerable at the same time. Emotions have to be explained logically, socially, understandably, for a purpose of constant improvement. Emotions can't only be felt.

[@DeeDeex007o]

@@mqh2411 👌👌

[@77HadassaH77]

That’s why people often perceive me as being cold.

[@yustinussetyoyuniarto4816]

I'm an intp maybe, but i deeply analyze my emotion.

[@derpsquad1o142]

It’s so refreshing to hear someone speak on the MBTI but actually know what they’re talking about. Fantastic job again

[@CognitivePersonality]

Thank you, that means a lot! :)

[@derpsquad1o142]

Cognitive Personality Theory you seem to spend a lot of time in the INFJ territory, but do you have a video like this on the INTJ, ENTP, or the ENFP?

[@Luxmans]

Couldn't agree more. Best on KZbin surely.

[@CognitivePersonality]

@@derpsquad1o142 One of my quests right now is to take the large cluster of individuals who believe themselves to be INFJs and introduce the possibility of them being other types. I have an in-depth video on the ENTP and ENFP, and will definitely be making one on the INTJ too!

[@derpsquad1o142]

Cognitive Personality Theory Thabk you for getting back to me. And thanks for letting me know, I’ll definitely check it out. That notification bell is looking mighty fine this morning...

[@CaspiDrako]

I notice that even when studying for tests, I'm much more likely to remember everything when I connect it with my intrests and things I already know a lot about.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Likewise!

[@onyxwelborne]

That's pretty much everyone, though.

[@jamesdavis5237]

That took me 30 years to figure out by myself. I finally understood that, whenever something interested me, my memory could be close to eidetic.

[@jamesdavis5237]

@@onyxwelborne There are several types of memory recall and some MBTIs perform better with different types. Identifying what types of recall work better for you is crucial. I am by no means an expert so I will just describe a personally experience. I liked electronics so I got an technical assoc. in that field. Before that I had a tech communications job in the military. Took a job doing troubleshooting for lighting systems. High voltage, low voltage, and radio frequency modulation have one thing in common. Looking at a picture on a o-scope they are all sine waves. A sine wave then represents information, power, and time. I was seeing patterns and then found the least common denominator is 1 and 0's. Go back further on how science built everything we have today and you get a light switch. Just on/off. 1 and 0. From a switch to a supercomputer. My memory was crap on learning new things but now everything that falls into those patterns are easy for me to remember. My memory in these fields was close to eidetic. I could consume hundreds of pages of documentation in those frameworks (also interesting to me) and having amazing recall. Ask me the day of the week or a birthday or the name of someone I met a dozen times.... I'm screwed. Give me a test on a topic that I never studied before? I might pass after a week of studying the chapter assigned. Maybe.

[@Tified967]

Hence why INFJs & ENFJs not to mention ESTPs are great at fudging tests once they figure out how everything is interconnected especially in the humanities!

[@bread5414]

I feel like being an infj is only nice as a concept

[@CognitivePersonality]

Grass is always greener on the other side!

[@onyxwelborne]

Well, being as that there are so few GENUINE infj's, then it's nothing to worry about.

[@therealzahyra]

Being INFJ is not nice at all, I don't know why people would aspire to be like this. It's chaos, every day is chaos.

[@cyrajoycebanzuelo226]

@@therealzahyra Agreed.

[@KathrineJKozachok]

yeah, like socialism

[@edixasanchezpacheco3692]

I thought he had just graduated 😂

[@CognitivePersonality]

Haha solid 2:1 in content creation!

[@tinycell1836]

Me too

[@avanesspelaez971]

😅

[@sophiadeng8889]

The synergy aspect is so true! I found it relevant throughout my academic education, for example not wanting to choose an elective because it was 'easy' or just 'fun', it had to also fit in some way, shape or form to my other subjects or my career goals. It's the same with my hobbies, it needs to have some kind of utility or I just find it pointless.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Exactly this!

[@geronimo5537]

I have not heart anyone mention synergy regarding an INFJ before. Suddenly many of my life choices and hating to do extra meaningless tasks has a whole new explanation for me. If something is pointless it is really painful to tolerate any part of it because we see no benefit of it working in our life's system that we are building.

[@mqh2411]

and I feel so narrow-minded and annoyed reading this, but yeah, utility, order, synergy... Choosing carefully all the time.

[@kevinmorbidthelostcronin1984]

This description explains something I recognized but could not explain 30 years ago. By late high school, I had noticed that I tended to do poorly on weekly tests. Yet, I would make 98% on term (final) tests. After college, I noted that I would be able to recall all the material from courses years prior, while people who had out performed me in class, could barely recall anything. I started describing my self as a slow, but permanent learner. I also could offer insights on how these things connected, which would surprise people in the field (often asking what field I had gotten my Doctorate in). They would comment that this was really high level stuff, not Associates material. I was slow because I was integrating the data. Even crazier that I am, at this moment, working on my own Roleplaying System that can be used to replicate /anything/. Right now, I am refining a spreadsheet that lets people quickly plug data to create vehicles (using dozens of means of propulsion, varying sizes, dozens of fuel sources, and ten technological periods. All because of the universal view of my brain. I hope to finish it by tomorrow. :) Already can plug together most vehicles and get the correct size, weight, and cost. Just need to finish speed. :) Now it all makes more sense. Thank you!

[@nicholasjh1]

Universalism, that's a good metaphor for how the infj brain works. I'm actually incredibly good at learning something new at this point but only if I can relate it to something I already know. If it's a completely new frame that i have to connect it seems so much more difficult at least at first and it can even get me stuck for a long time. It can be difficult at work.

[@CognitivePersonality]

In this manner an INFJ can become a faster learner over time too! Indeed, newer frameworks are slow on the uptake :)

[@rosagorskikh9825]

Are infjs sometimes confused with intp I took a test and got intp and the first I took it I got infp but neither did I relate to both of those I think I relate to info the most so I’m rlly confused right now

[@nicholasjh1]

@@rosagorskikh9825 I believe so. I tested as intp most of my life.

[@nicholasjh1]

@@rosagorskikh9825 because of the way functions work Ni is infjs first perceiving function and also their first function. An especially introverted infj will test as perceiving. More over a painfully introverted infj will score fairly high on thinking as their second introverted function is thinking. Ni ti ... Thus the not very sophisticated online tests will pick up on the high perceiving and strong thinking tendencies of an especially introverted infj and go on to claim that their highest likely type is intp.

[@nicholasjh1]

@@rosagorskikh9825 infjs can also easily tests as infp

[@tymforhistory]

Wonderful stuff Harry. Pointing out that an INFJ needs time to process new information that fits their systematized way of understanding really demonstrates the Ni Ti model. It isn't brought up enough that the INFJ has a lot of difficulty in quickly adapting to and absorbing the world around them. There's a certain stubbornness to the way things have to be filtered first through the internal framework instead of just being reactive in the moment.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Absolutely so - thanks for the great comment!

[@Suedetussy]

You explained me perfectly. 😁

[@melbygosling890]

Once we find that system it is amazing what we can accomplish. I had a coworker ask me how I did a task a certain way.Then he aptly stated,"You just do it that way but you would find it hard to explain how . " I just smiled and nodded.

[@JaviereInniss]

Wow, explains how when learning something new in a specific topic, I would take my time and sync in properly

[@cookiediangelo8511]

Yup. We are both stubborn and open minded. A good blend of contradictory traits.

[@poolsidechateau]

"infj is so much more attuned to the emotions of the external world" me: watching people and their dogs cuddling, kissing on yt because i want a happy cry. 😭

[@CognitivePersonality]

Haha

[@dianeyoung8130]

could be Enfj. I feel that's what I am and I cry for everything! Literally started a conversation with the janitor who cleans my class yesterday and we had a really good cry together after he told me his life story.

[@lucy_lp6678]

@Chrystian Vigil infp

[@shinoyashino7995]

🤣 but I do be able to seek happiness when I see couples together and animals videos. Just that I am single🤣

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

We, INFJs, were born thinking outside the box. And when we're handed a 'box', we unpack the 'box', examine each item, and repack it leaving out the stuff that doesn't belong in the 'box'. And if we aren't curious about the contents of the 'box', we throw the whole thing away. We aren't gonna waste our time, especially on a collection of mismatched stuff (at least to us), unless you make us.

[@CognitivePersonality]

This is very true!

[@TyNezi]

Well stated Ms. Cynthia

[@phillipmckinnon6883]

Wow! Stay outta my head!

[@geronimo5537]

dis dis dis lol

[@kohikappu]

Very true...

[@AjumentaDaTriboDeIssacar]

An INFJ have a very intelligent mind but is physically to dumb to present themselves as an intelligent person who makes sense . I hate how I feel so slow and stupid in social settings while I know I have so much great and interesting ideas to bring to the table . And deep down I sense it I above average insightful while no one knows it because I can bear the suffering of trying to express my ideais through spoken words ... Sorry if I couldn’t be clear , I am still learning English

[@CognitivePersonality]

I get you!

[@lollylula6399]

Very clear, this is my experience too. Working my communication skills. Processing my thoughts, feelings, ideas through writing it all out (yes it can take a long time) helps me to get really clear in myself which can help when I'm communicating with others, not always though 😅

[@k.stewart007]

That's something I can relate to

[@nasheep29]

@@lollylula6399 For me, it helped to just speak with yourself a little bit. Sounds kinda weird (and is tho) but you can gain so much confidence and idk clearness of the mind. Yk, you're your own therapist, listener or something :))

[@lollylula6399]

@@nasheep29 yeah the writing down is kind of like speaking with yourself. I hadn't thought to actually speak with myself, I might try it. Thank you ☺️

[@ivonnecaradenacho3726]

I always get INFJ-T and INFP-T on the personality test, but watching this...man I am a damn INFJ. I hate that people wanna be an INFJ just to make themselves feel "original" ..NOOO ! IT SUCKS BEING AN INFJ , as much as I think it's a blessing to be a highly sensitive person, it is also a curse

[@CognitivePersonality]

I hear you!

[@kiyostars]

I hate being an INFJ😭No one understands you and I have yet to meet another INFJ in real life😥.

[@cerata8276]

Being constantly aware of everyone else's feeling even if your not looking at them is often disturbing for me. Simply because when I go to school. I can often get really strong and highly random feelings being pushed about the place. It is draining to even go down a hallway due to this. Sometimes I wonder how I can even survive doing this for another 4 months.

[@deja957]

OMG THIS IS ME OMG I HAVE FOUND MY INFJ TWIN sorry 🥲

[@onyxwelborne]

@@cerata8276 Poor baby.

[@campbellwalker5840]

i never realized how true the synergy part was. i dance but also want to pursue neuroscience and i’m writing an essay about the impact of dancing on neurological aging

[@CognitivePersonality]

What a great example!!

[@someonewithandwithoutthoug3414]

As an INFJ who is very much interested in both neuroscience/psychology and art, especially music and, by extension, dance, that sounds extremely intriguing.

[@raysacassanelli500]

The synergy thing blew my mind haha. All my hobbies involve helping/ comforting myself and others. I learned how to knit/crochet, cut hair, paint, and am gifted in the music area as well as interested in psychology. I learned all that to create personalized gifts or hav a skill to help others. Didnt think that was an Ni thing. Confused it w Ne

[@gigispace]

yes!! i'm fascinated about poetry and science, and i realise that i'm always finding a way to connect both

[@claytonia1586]

I didn't know everyone wants to be an INFJ. Why is that? I'm still trying to figure out my type. Every test says I'm an INFJ and I very much relate to what I have learned through places like objective personality and Frank James's channel. But I like to be thorough and certain. Because I also very much relate to INFP which I know is very different but I seem to be on the fence on many of the deciding factors. The first part of this video, especially the synergy part made me think I might have finally cracked it and am definitely an INFJ but the emotion part made me question it again. In any conversation I wonder how I am coming across and I'm constantly analysing how what I have said has effected the emotional stability of the group. I do try very much to visualise how what I might say will be taken and sometimes this processing means I don't get to say what I was going to because I miss my chance through over analysing. Would an INFJ care so much about how everything they say will be perceived? I will say though that I'm not always good at predicting. I try to do it to minimise any potential disharmony but I do not have an accurate honed skill at predicting people's reactions. I also can speak my mind when it's something I'm passionate about...although I try to adjust it to who I'm speaking to and not 'rock the boat' too much because I do get very stressed with disharmony as an INFJ would. Anyone got any ideas whether this leads closer to or further away from an INFJ type?

[@INFJinxed]

WORD. :D "If an INFJ starts something new, they want it to flow neatly into everything else". Very well said. I love synergy in my inner framework. I tried doing things from separate worlds but it was exhausting and let to extreme stress and burnout.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Cheers! Btw I've subscribed to your channel and will be checking it out soon!

[@INFJinxed]

Cognitive Personality Theory thank you! I love your channel btw :)

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

Yes!!

[@nikkid7963]

Yes! I used extremely be into photography, because I volunteered in animal rescue. I did their event photography, and took photos of the dogs up for adoption for 8 years. So, I always practiced my skills, to constantly get better. Due to health issues I had to stop working in animal rescue I’ve not picked up my camera since. There feels no need for it anymore, I can’t rationalize a use for that skill in my world anymore. Even though I once loved it very much. Now, it just stresses me out if I try to do photography. No one understands why I just quit it, and it’s to hard to explain why. Even when I do explain no one gets it.

[@sidehustletips]

@@CognitivePersonality She should change her channel name to INTJJinxed.

[@katevaughn9601]

The synergy theory is the most accurate explanation of my internal process I’ve ever heard. When I play piano, I always think of how the skill will help me in my career and future relationships. The songs I chose to learn are chosen after thinking of how my ideal boss, coworkers, parters, and audience will perceive the song I’m playing, and therefore how they will perceive me through that lens. I can’t even catch a cold without creating an internal narrative about being sick, and then imagine how I will tell the story one day, either to benefit myself or help someone else. In other words, INFJs are freaks and overrated 😂 You have a gift for explaining the MBTI system. Love your videos!!

[@CognitivePersonality]

I truly appreciate the kind words! Hah, definitely sounds like Ni-Ti :)

[@lucy7574]

OMG I DO THE SAME THING. when choosing a piano piece to play, i imagine playing it in front of people i want to impress and choose it if it seems 'impressive' enough

[@tiffannytwo]

THIS DESCRIBES ME PERFECTLY! Thank you for your take on this. I do the exact same thing!!

[@dani-404]

This right here

[@bwhitedpencilbox889]

You describe Ni better than anyone else on KZbin I’ve seen. I don’t like the “funneling everything down into one idea” definition that is popular on KZbin these days. “Synergistic” is a great term, needing to connect everything together, much more accurate imo

[@CognitivePersonality]

Thank you!

[@christopherl1767]

Agreed. It's too reductive. 'Funnelling everything down to one synergistic framework' would fit much better.

[@wyattbielert2929]

I'm an infj and the way I know this guy knows his stuff is and I know he is one is because you look at his eyes. He doesnt really blink. Hes in the FLOW state he knows what hes talking about it and it compounds his skills and experience and it makes sense when normally an infj usually gets nervous and the internal logic gets scrambled by Fe trying to make peace and the point is lost Whether its true or not. It's a wild crazy ride lol

[@CognitivePersonality]

Hah, I like it!

[@evelinaschulman7197]

As an infj, I get the same vibe, but I want you to know that this guy also claims to be an infj himself. For me it is very contradicting sinceone can clearly see that he doesn't care if he treads on someone's toes and how he will be perceived. That of course is very good since there is many misconceptions about this subject, but an infj would naturally take other people's emotion into consideration and be more mindful about what they say. The way he process the without taking emotions into consideration is more intj-alike.

[@jainaolfert3587]

Anyone else think the diamond on the wall behind his head looks like a graduation cap

[@CognitivePersonality]

Apparenly well over 100 people!

[@troyfitzsimmons]

Im from nz an we don't graduate with these caps so im not familiar with it until your brought it up. An I know how Americans graduate 🎓 so funny

[@shinoyashino7995]

I thought of that too

[@whoisteo4840]

I don't care if I'm not special, I just wanna know so I can improve myself. heeeeeelp

[@genericname7020]

I'll help. Make a list of things you are not good at, then do those things consistently until you become good at it.

[@me.i_0vrokma398]

@@genericname7020 wah you really is helping bro I'm on to it Thanks your my god

[@me.i_0vrokma398]

I think we're on the same phase of wanting to get out from this so called "special Battle" and feeling exhausted of constantly doubting ourselves for "are we like them, the people who is fake enough to call themselves someone who is really not themselves" it's exhausting

[@Psalm_27.4]

@Who is Teo First of all, you ARE special!!! Get that!! Second, I encourage you to ponder who you know yourself to be, cognitively and emotionally, and WRITE it DOWN on paper. Thirdly-and MOST IMPORTANTLY-I kindly urge you, to SPECIFICALLY tell God that you acknowledge Him as YOUR CREATOR, and ASK HIM for HIS Wisdom in understanding not ONLY yourself, but WHO HE is, what the MEANING of life is, and what are HIS plans are for YOUR life. If you ignore part three, you will become MORE confused as time passes. THAT much I can ABSOLUTELY GUARANTEE!!! NOT joking, either!!!

[@yulaypie]

This only confirms my INfJness. I actually only did the test for fun but in the end it helped me a lot with self improvement. No issues with your accent or the speed with which you speak but I feel like you're a bit too far from the mic. There's a bit of that open space sound that makes it hard for me to hear the words. 🤔

[@CognitivePersonality]

An extremely valid point! Mic upgrade in the pipeline :)

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

Wow, now I know why I've been obsessed with manners and courtesy my whole life. They provide the emotional boundaries, the guardrails, that we INFJ can't put in place ourselves. This also explains why I'm so intuitive and yet continually get blindsided by other people's emotional explosions that, in hindsight, I always wondered why I didn't see coming. I'm always like, wow all the signs were there that something was rumbling, why did I just step in that big, steaming pile of emotional dog shit.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Thanks for sharing!

[@JimBrennan-no7yz]

Wow. Same here.

[@athenamissinghome619]

“EVERYTHING has to fit into your little box JUST PERFECTLY...or nothing works for you. It’s maddening to me.” -quote from my husband.

[@MVPA-io5ee]

💯 understood.. it's your WAY or NO WAY kind of vibe... 😓😅

[@CognitivePersonality]

Heh

[@caffemocca8855]

The synergy thing.... I can't believe there's a name and it's a known phenomenon. It's the process that has been happening inside my mind even since I was a child. This is a reason why it's impossible for me to pursue random goals that don't really relate to each other.

[@asuari7305]

I finally have a name for how i learn things. SYNERGY omg i am using that

[@CognitivePersonality]

Hehe, yes!

[@brunocarnietto8312]

How to know if you're an INFJ: you're weird, but you are weird on a level that even the group of weirdos thinks you are too weird, and even your closest friends and family don't really know you on a deep level

[@cakesfionna8613]

bro true, but good things of knowing ourselves as an infj is at least we know that we are not aliens and we have at least 1 percent of population of the world that same as us.

[@p.g.9348]

thats so true, and sad. I feel like not even my mother know me well and we live together. I'm so weird.

[@rickrivers2021]

From what I've observed xNxPs are more obviously weird to others, whereas INFJs can appear somewhat normal. It's not just hard to find an INFJ because they make a small percent of the population, but also because they don't stand out in a crowd.

[@iasminehrich]

Wow that actually made totally sense

[@me.i_0vrokma398]

I've even made a song for this even a group of weirdos thinks you weird

[@ComplicatedSimplicite]

I have to ask Can you make an idiots guide to this video. Lol! You are clearly a very intelligent person but I confess I struggled to understand the meaning of exactly what you were saying. Thankfully I married a very intelligent man as well and he was kind enough to listen to your video and break it down for me. With that said it was a very helpful video and once I understood it it reaffirmed things for me. Thanks!

[@CognitivePersonality]

I'm super aware I need to start making my content more accessible if I am to reach more people, so a more minimalist version is on the horizon! That being said, I'm glad your husband was there to break my jargon down for you :D

[@ApLemon]

Yes, I got lost at the last point of not taking responsability of others emotions and some terms there.. .I did understand most of the video ..but I had to re watch at some points 😳🙈😜... I look forward for the future version :D

[@ApLemon]

@@CognitivePersonality 🤔 my barrier for understanding were some of the terms.. maybe trying to explain it more slowly and in a more simple way. It helped me understand when you compared types and gave examples.. because I could compare them to me and help me do a little evaluation while you say it :) thanks for the video :)

[@RaederlePhoenix]

I have similar difficulties with this channel, and I'm quite sure it isn't lack of intelligence or anything like that on my part. I think it is just hard when you (as a creator) are so familiar with what you're talking about and you're talking to people who don't even understand the basics yet.

[@zacm1488]

Lol it irks the hell out of me when my "things" dont go perfectly together or, god forbid, contradict.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Indeed!

[@HollywoodStageDolls]

The need of the INFJ to compress all understanding into a singularity explains why typology is so appealing to us, because it neatly organizes every aspect of human experience into a category, each of which is part of the singular system. Which is why I think INFJ’s objectively benefit a lot from it. It opens up many possibilities which otherwise might have been forever concealed without a singularity to be grabbed by. And your interpretation of typology gives it all the more potential, Harry. I really appreciate how you remain clear on the universal principles of it. You’ve helped and informed my thinking on the subject very much.

[@ACook-fc9kd]

ikr its literally an internal logical framework (NiTi) with which we can organize the external emotional data we're perceiving (FeSe) 😂

[@marklucachev6695]

I like this in-depth discussion, but it's very hard for me to picture what these abstract terms would mean/look like without some sort of examples. I have vague senses of what he's talking about but half the time the the topics seem so similar to me, it's hard to determine whether that's something I do or not lol

[@CognitivePersonality]

Definitely going to start incorporating such examples into future videos :)

[@skyel1310]

Haha same :)

[@laju6846]

oh yes that is ALWAYS my problem.. need more examples :)

[@somebodysomeone453]

Same

[@onyxwelborne]

I need examples, too... I wonder if this is an 'S' (sensing) trait?

[@ianlange8108]

1.) Music and psychology are deeply intertwined. Music was potentially the cure for my personal psychological struggles. INFJs are good at finding "synergy" where most can't. 2.) INFJs use analogous situations from the past to understand current situations being presented to them. This can absolutely allow them to learn things quickly, often from drawing comparisons that other's would never think to draw. 3.) Fe seems to be a primary driver of my introversion. I have to turn off feeling everyone else's emotions. Perhaps initially unconsciously, now consciously. I can't feel my own emotions when in the presence of others, unless their emotions are extremely muted. This may be a big driver as to why we seek to understand how to bring the world peace. That combination of Fe with Ti, on top of Ni... I'm always living the lives of those around me. That is how extreme my empathy is.

[@Tified967]

I'm a divergent ENFJ but I can relate to some of your points; it's interesting you say that Fe has led to your social introversion - I haven't considered this angle before. Indeed, being an Fe dom I have trouble switching off that antenna and I too cannot dip down into Fi to know how I'm feeling in the presence of others; as you say this can lead one to turn inwards. I actually feel like I access Fi in private via my axial rotation and dipping down from Ti. Fi has very much been my focus for the past 6 months as I've been looking to gage a more anchored sense of sense - FiSi for a multitude of reasons. Music too has helped me get in touch, and always has with my NiFi; I generally prefer music without lyrics. I have quite a high convergent use of NiTi despite being an ENFJ so I thought I'd just share that I really appreciated your thought provoking comment

[@pandaparad0x]

i think u might be the first to possibly understand how extreme, even intrusive my empathy is. often feels too loud to turn off and get anything done when around others. like a stranger sitting in the audience helplessly watching me attempt to reunite pangea . turning inwards more n more . music keeps me breathing . allows me turn off others' emotions & finally tune into my own. playing a wide variety to convey the fluctuating mood of my inner dialogue and form the soundtrack to my life . Perhaps initially i thought i found the cure too but i have become a shell of myself refusing to socialize or be anywhere without my music. seems the cure has turned into, The Cure.

[@laureng3830]

Having to pause multiple times to internalize each idea through trying to apply it to my own life or come up with examples. Is this a sign of INFJ? When I come up with my own breakthroughs or ideas I can go a million miles an hour and everything is related and makes sense, but when other people present conceptual ideas very quickly it takes me a while. I often can’t do it in real time while they’re speaking- this especially showed up in theoretical college lectures but less so in reflective discussions of readings esp novels where I could clearly assess themes motivations and nuance

[@CognitivePersonality]

Indeed - this is the difference between convergent and divergent thinking. An INFJ's Ti is convergent, and is therefore far better suited to coming up with its own ideas than absorbing those of others :)

[@laureng3830]

Cognitive Personality Theory thanks! I can absorb other ideas or approaches when they fit into my own framework that I’m building or trying to make sense of. What other types have Ti as convergent?

[@taffetaobrien6324]

i do the exact same thing. you have no idea how many times i paused this video to take in the information and process it in my head cause it was all just too overwhelming

[@rinrin1912]

At one point i was obsessed with coming up with examples too lol

[@linnaeusa]

​@@taffetaobrien6324 I watched it at 0.75 speed with subtitles.

[@INFJWay]

So incredibly articulated. The words you've chosen, and the method of explanation, really explained my experiences in life. For example, your explanation of divergent and convergent Fe really clicked. What I had learnt about Fe from other sources is that its the ability to understand tribe feelings or the feelings of others, and it seems to have been interpreted as being empathetic. I personally interpreted that to being in tune with other people's feelings and being able to respond in a way that comforts them (in simple terms and may not be necessarily correct). However, when people share their feelings with me I tend to feel unchanged inside; I don't feel what they feel as such, but I am processing what they have said. I think about what they're feeling and what impact that may have on their situation. I had to learn to sympathise to behave in a way that seemed more socially acceptable, otherwise I was seen to be "cold" when people shared with me their feelings. Thank you for your brilliant explanations.

[@narwhalthesnowman]

I hope I'm not offending you but it was hard to keep up and understand you with your voice being so monotone and the fact that you look like your wearing a graduation cap

[@CognitivePersonality]

Working on the monotony but I can't make any promises about the graduation cap.

[@karynbeary]

this comment ahahahaha the last point about the graduation cap 😂😂😂😂

[@onyxwelborne]

@@CognitivePersonality You're not monotonous, but you do speak too fast for my tiny little brain... lmao! You are clearly highly intelligent. Carl Jung would love you.

[@stephenandriotis2129]

This actually does explain a lot of my behaviours of being an INFJ. Being able to predict logic and fail at predicting feelings makes a lot more sense now, though I love observing them. It's the first time at your channel and I've never seen it explained in such depth before, so great job.

[@BeeKaye]

I get INFJ every time. I'd like to be something else...

[@CognitivePersonality]

Tests aren't reliable I'm afraid - it doesn't matter how many times you do them. What you get from an online test is not equivalent to what you are :) You may of course be an INFJ, but knowing your type comes from research into the cognitive functions more than a test result.

[@Suedetussy]

Me, too. Sometimes i score ENFJ, what i personally like more. It‘s so much easier to be extravert, but what should i do? I really like people, but i need so much time for myself.

[@technomage6736]

Just be who you are

[@ahhwe-any7434]

Some of these tests, i just know they are based more on bs. Bc you cant get a good view on a persons broad personality, by making ppl answer a whole "multiple... 2 choice" test. & On top of that, make them answer crazy questions, that dont seem to even make sense. I think the," on a level from right, to left, or somewhere in the middle," captures a persons behavior way better. I have a hard time keeping up w/ the acronyms. But my last result, i resonate w/ some introverted qualities. But my details vs what theyd consider details would most likely Not be the same. So way less aligned, only a bit aligned. Also, Im a bit way too unconventional & less confined to be that great w/ time management. My other 2 results is injf & infp. Those relate better. Not bc of this & that but bc i hear summaries & im like 🤔 thats me! The "crazy crew." The others who want to jump on the wagon bc of some image, or the ones who try to distort it, will never work. Bc if ppl actually pay attention to the qualities, youd prob actually have to live by them too. .. I never think in matters of what seems like whatever to ppl. Im more introspective to even care about that as much. What i do care about is " do u seeee what i seeee? .....🎵" Other ppl: youre a bit eccentric. Me: ok but thats why i can sense your bs from over here. Thats not actually how personalities operate. Also, i think its funny how extroverted ppl gain energy from others. While introverted feel like theyre being drained from others. Lol, throw them together in a mix tho. ..

[@melanie.l6282]

me too!!

[@willtoler6917]

Funny how everyone wants to be an INFJ until it’s actually time to be an INFJ

[@Queen_Sylvia]

Yep-living life as an INFJ in a world that just doesn’t understand you isn’t a walk in the park. As a child, I used to fantasize about being like everyone else so social interactions would be easier.

[@caesare.j.w.668]

Dude, you're one of the best, if not THE best MBTI theorists on the internet. You are absolutely consistent and logical, in addition to having a firm grasp of the true nuances and intricacies of the complex subject that is personality psychology. Keep up the good work, much love and respect.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Wow, thanks, I appreciate that!!

[@alisonfisher1877]

Absolutely, I very much agree!

[@06nish]

What’s funny is that a lot of these comments probably have mistyped INFJs trying to relate to bits and pieces of the INFJ description… I’m no exception though. For all I know I could be some other type which is kinda annoying

[@SteubeMan]

Thank you for this video! More than ever am I convinced that I'm an INFJ. I was nervous I had it wrong because I kind of got stuck in a funk and started trying to make sense of everything again by challenging my assumptions about my identity and core values...a kind of grand reassessment: do I really have a holistic understanding of myself and my relation to the world? ANyway...But one point you made that really stuck out to me was that INFJs aren't actually emotionally predictive by nature, but rather logically predictive. Because of this, I was beginning to think I was something of an INTJ or INTP, because shouldn't a feeling type be able to anticipate other's emotional reactions and be more in tune with them? But I often find that although I understand how people are feeling in a given moment, I don't always understand how they might react to something I will say. And I guess it's because I try to logically anticipate how others will feel, rather than emotionally anticipate it. Over the years, especially through working customer service, I've learned how to adapt and anticipate certain emotional states in others, but that was mostly by trial and error. Not exactly fun. Your other point that really resonated with me was how you described the INFJ's desire to holistically have all their interests influence and relate to each other. I literally have a whiteboard next to me where I wrote out all my most significant interests over the years and how they connected to each other, and how I might be able to better leverage them into some sort of holistic way of life LMAO. Does that idea make sense? I don't know. I just want to find a way to balance all my interests and desires so that I can grow and actually do the things I think about and dream about doing. But it seems I'm more interested in centering myself in the universe (LOL) than going out of my way to physically change anything around me...even tho I dream about how everything could be changed for the better...I knew this comment was gonna get out of hand before I started writing it... Anyway, I have a hard time learning some new system or order of operations unless I can readily relate it to something I already know, or somehow make sense of its essence or nature. I hate doing things that seem random, even if others tell me it's successful. I get lost unless i can relate the everyday, mundane actions I do to some overarching, meaningful idea, plan, or goal. Am I still INFJ or just confused? hahaha

[@CognitivePersonality]

Wow great comment - enjoyed reading all that! I would say INFJ and ISTP are both possibilities here as there's a significant overlap in the goal pursuit of these types :)

[@anival9576]

Seems like a very INFJ post to me.

[@KayKay-us1kl]

SteubeMan, I have to point out that wanting to relate new information to something you already know is often called ACTIVATING PRIOR KNOWLEDGE. This is an effective way to make sense out of the new information. I think it’s important to realize that besides wanting things to be hollistic or match a higher personal goal or plan, relating new info to old info is an intelligent way of learning. In the context of INFJ, it shouldn’t be considered an obstacle, rather a learning process.

[@Tified967]

I'd like to point out that holistic frameworking is also applicable to ENFJs, ISTPs & ESTPs so don't rule these types out. Yes ENFJs are emotionally predictive but can also operate on the same logical predictions much like INFJs; albeit as convergent feelers I guess we do both. Also worth noting im a divergent ENFJ so Ti-Ni convergent which adds another layer of complexity to the matrix. I'd say ISTP is a strong contender here

[@sigma.analysis]

Same. I had the exact same problem. I predict the feelings of others logically instead of emotionally and in general always tries to use logic to understand the feelings of others. That's why I thought I was an INTJ, but now everything makes sense

[@Rev_GC]

Just a thought. You speak rather quickly.... Maybe consider uploading at a slower speed so you're easier to follow.... I got you, but had to stop doing everything and divert all attention to the video.

[@CognitivePersonality]

This is a common request so will definitely keep working at slowing my pace :)

[@annie3w4]

LOL, it's a very Ni video. Having to stop everything to divert attention to one thing is the only way Ni does anything. - INTJ

[@meganm4877]

Yeah.... I'm used to watching videos at 1.5x or 1.75x, but this one I have to watch at normal playback speed XD

[@anouk.baasdejonge]

As a non-native English speaker I found it very hard to follow your English, I think it is because you are talking too fast? I found it so hard to follow that I had to stop watching because I just couldn't understand everything you said and I felt like I was missing the point. Is there somewhere I can find this information in a written form? I tried looking through the comments for a summary of the 5 signs but I couldn't find it :(

[@CognitivePersonality]

Yes, fair enough! The subtitles may be helpful (automated from KZbin), but in a nutshell: 1) INFJs are more internally proactive than reactive. Therefore, they spend less time interacting and reacting to external medium (knowledge, instruments etc) and more time internally planning a course of action. 2) Synergy - All fields and hobbies must be combined together to compliment one another whenever possible. 3) Universalism - intellectual inclination to relate all internal fields of knowledge to other fields. 4) Introverted Thinking - more energy is directed into internalising knowledge, and extra time must be spend integrating a new framework with all of the others inside the brain. 5) Divergent Extraverted Feeling - aware of externally expressed emotions of others, but is much more observant (passive) than active. As such, often very aware of an emotional environment but may feel uncomfortable trying to take responsibility for it. Generally less emotionally predictive than, for example, an ENTP.

[@louiepayas2571]

Same

[@dianakrovnaja2215]

Try to choose 0.75 speed of the video insted of normal speed. It works good for me.

[@somebodysomeone453]

@@CognitivePersonality 1, 2, 3 and 4 are me but I still don't get the 5th one but for example, people come to me to tell me how they feel but I don't go to them. My aim in the outsider world is to change it for a better place so I listen to them and give them advice and I'm active for dogs, the climate, LGBTQIA+ people,...

[@cj1538]

thank you so much for this video - As an INFP who was wondering the difference between INFP and INFJ (other articles about INFJ felt relatable to me so i became confused), I found this video and your other “why you are not an INFP” incredibly helpful to realise which one I am but also help me understand my INFJ sibling more!!

[@NotInMYName_AntiZionistJew]

Thanks for this, I actually think I might be an INFJ now. I am good at predicting the future optics of any given situation but am terrible at navigating other people’s emotional reactions in real time. If I’m put on the spot, I more often than not get flustered and say the wrong thing but in hindsight, I can see the things I might have missed while the situation was actually occurring. I also have great difficulty being put on the spot when it comes to learning anything new, wrt to new skills for example but once I’ve had time to thoroughly understand said skill and develop a framework based on it, I can eventually become a relative expert in thoroughly deconstructing it. I’m still a bit confused wrt to the reactive/proactive dichotomy but I do have this obsessive need to fit everything in my life including what might appear to others at first as different unique theories or skillsets, into a universal framework. I’m always coming up with new ways of seeing how things fit together into making up a comprehensive whole and other people always seem to dislike that I do this, preferring to view such things as useful and complementary but clearly distinct. Those people almost seem to find my wholistic way of needing to amalgamate everything either a waste of time or even possible upsetting.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Awesome! Sounds like INFP and INFJ are both options here :)

[@justbrandonokay]

It's so interesting that you mentioned synergy, I hadn't really noticed how I connect everything back to writing, which is my job, my passion and my life, the only reason I started studying the types was to improve my ability to write realistic consistent characters, I got INFP on the 16personalities test and the more I watch the more I realise how different on virtually every level I am from an INFP. I see a lot of "INFJ"s posting talking about being people who imagine the worst case scenario and preparing for it, for me I usually imagine the most likely scenario and prepare for that, what is your experience with this?

[@CognitivePersonality]

I also gravitate towards the most likely :)

[@Dontreadmyprofile-f9q]

the only reason I started studying the types was to improve my ability to write realistic consistent characters, I am doing the same thing

[@proudvballmom4142]

I heavily related to your 6th point, and I’m so glad you brought that up. That 6th point always kept bugging me because I always wondered if I was truly INFJ since I could usually predict logical events that would happen in a person’s life and guide them toward a path I think would better suit them, but when it would come to predicting their emotional responses, I would usually end up tongue-tied and taken aback by the outcome. The whole HSP thing resonated so well with me too! Thank you for this video, it definitely cleared up some confusion I had for the past few weeks!

[@CognitivePersonality]

Thank you, I'm glad it helped :)

[@redmagi5283]

As someone struggling with the notion of if I am an INTP vs an INFJ, this was incredibly helpful. All the tests would come back saying that I was an INTP, however I have a lot of trauma that I know affects my way of interacting with people and the world around me. My partner really drew my attention to my strong Ni tendencies which is how I started really looking into this. Just hearing you describe the unity aspect of the INFJ in everything they learn and do, and the logical predictions that they make really helped. It pit into words things that I try to describe to others about how I interact with the world and my own thoughts. Everything online really just wasn’t so helpful as it was based on these very shallow takes on the individual letters. Anyway, thank you! Recommending your channel to anyone who wants to analyze their type more closely!

[@Lethevalley]

Short Story: I used to be an INFJ, but now I feel like an ISFJ. Not confident as I'm still researching, but ya. Long Story: I believe I was an INFJ when I was younger, as I always knew without being able to explain myself (pretty sure that's the dominant Ni), and it was difficult for me the clearly present my ideas/work. I'm not sure why, since I can barely remember my school years before this one year (INFJ are future focus, as Se is their inferior and the "present-moment function", which is underdeveloped), but I suddenly change my whole attitude, work ethics, academic relationships and personality. That was a big moment for me, as I progress very well in school, and strengthened my weaknesses to the point that they are what you will know me for today. I became very invested and excited for learning, worked on organizing my thoughts, writing and presenting excellent work. Hell, I am so, so proud of how much I change in less then a year. Feels like I just flourished with my weaknesses as a student, and that's probably why I have such high expectations of myself. All the things I've been though feels like an Si dominant experience that has guided me for the past 4 years (ISFJ). I constantly catch myself looking into my memory for similar experiences and figuring how i can make the most out of things now. I am obsessed with details and facts (Si), organizing my information in a very systematic way (Ti), and I wish to help others to the best of my abilities (Fe). My inferior function, Ne, is something that I completely struggle with. An Ne inferior presents itself as "future-related anxiety" and nervousness about the unknown/new things or experiences. All of the functions just seem to match the present me perfectly. I watch a video recently, and it was about a youtubers journey from believe they were an INFJ, then doubting themselves, to getting professionally typed as an ISFJ. INFJ and ISFJ have the exact same auxiliary and tertiary functions: Fe then Ti respectively. That part can get confusing, but the point of realization for others can be when they said that their supposition for the biggest and easiest difference between them is in their drive to help others: ISFJ want to help others in the physical world (senses: touch, sound, visual, etc) by using their factual and realistic knowledge for the benefit of others. INFJ want to help others in the mental/spirtual world (thoughts, perceptions, memories, basically psychology) by using their intuition and emotional/mental strength and knowledge for others. But, atlas, as a teenager stuck in a pandemic, with possible anxiety (and two depressive periods, each 2 months), this obsession with figuring out my "true type" isn't helping me. I'm not sure why, but I still feel so connected with the descriptions of both types (INFJ and ISFJ). Thank you for reading, lol.

[@Tified967]

I believe it's a common source of mistyping. I believe Joyce Meng is actually an ISFJ.

[@QuandarNl]

I wish I was an ENTP, life would seem so much easier haha.

[@CognitivePersonality]

I've definitely always admired people of this type!

[@carlotta7630]

same! it is not that easy growing up as an shy INFJ with an confident, funny ENTP brother, i promise :/ i always wanted to be like him

[@yasaine7896]

in reverse entp can put their interest in compartments, but as entp I really admire how composed infj seems and organized in their way, the way they tap to people. I guess we always want what we don't have, but the world is full to explore!

[@sidehustletips]

My two suspected ENTP friends (pre Pandemic since I haven't had human contact since then even though I contracted covid from tainted deliveries) took the MTBI tests I suggested and were entertained by their ENTP results. For about an hour. I like ENTPs and am jealous of their ignorance is bliss lives. But they are not into Personality Tests whatsoever.

[@sysmixy335]

You know you aren’t an INFJ if you don’t type big paragraphs in the comment section or have tried after typing a few words. *Here’s somewhat of an example below, Enjoy 😅* The first time I took an mbti test, from 16personalities, I got INFP. Later in the week saw other tests I could take because I soon became interested in the mbti world. The second test I took got INFJ. So I then of course took the 16personality test again and got INFJ. Waited about week because I thought maybe my personality was a bit scrambled eggs. Got INFP this time. And so my identity crisis bEgAn.... I knew that the INFP was a bit like the INFJ but of course there were some differences. I could relate with the INFP at first but as I later heard what the INFJ reacted like, I soon grew suspicious whether or not I really was INFP or if I actually was INFJ. Many tests and competitions later of how many INFP’s I got and how much INFJ’s I got, I found another test that could determine whether or not I was INFP or INFJ so of course I took that one too XD Got INFP so I thought I had resolved my identity crisis. Except... because I was skeptical of it being different, I took that same test again and of course... got INFJ that placed me as 51% INFJ and 49%INFP. Very in between if I do say so myself. And so I had decided to lay off the tests and then started to play those mbti videos. about 40+ videos later, it made me even more confused whether or not I was INFJ or INFP because all those videos had very strong main emotions or thinking processes that an INFP or INFJ would most likely feel, except, I wasn’t usually a burst of emotions with very strong preferences to stuff like being totally mad or totally sad. I was always very complex to feeling a big burst of “I don’t know” because genuinely, I never felt big mad, or big sad, or big happy. If one word were to describe me, I’d say I’m a stoic type person. I could feel other people’s emotions and help them right back up but usually I heard that INFJ’s have trouble dealing with their own emotions in which I could relate to the INFP as they know how to deal with their emotions and yet I was more of an empath so I also related with the INFJ. If I had to pick one, I’d probably be INFP but I have a feeling that I’d be able to easily change from INFP to INFJ in a matter of seconds if I wanted to. (Not as a change to my main function btw) So anyways, still here, dealing with this identity crisis, constantly.... Anyways... have a great day to whoever reads this 😄👍

[@CognitivePersonality]

Wow, intense! I do offer a type service for people seeking clarity in this regard :) Otherwise, best of luck with your search!

[@ahhwe-any7434]

I scored these two too. But my third one, was isjf? I dont even remember. One thing i will say is i dont put ppl above me. I mean, im not ruthless & mean about it. I just do silly things. 3rd other personality type tho: do you hate it when ppl cant keep their word? Me: yeah! I cant stand liars. .. or 🤔 do they mean when ppl cant keep track of time? "It was something like that. Like, 🤔 you mean when ppl will say theyll show up somewhere, & then they wont. Or is late? That type thing. Bc Ill store that in my ,"& just like that, i dont trust you" list. Now, im really gonna stall replying or doing whatever thing that is annoying, that i find humorous. I cant remember all 44 questions word for word. Some ppl, they should just not bother even saying anything at all. But i am about truth tho. However, whatever time you think im supposed to deliver truth, anything at all, dont expect me to be punctual. I hate it when ppl try to tell me to do something. Thats why i wont even make a promise, if i know i cant pull through. Bc the only system i try to practice is financial stability. & The only system i even bother studying is ppls behavior, in general. Or possibly the universe & everyones relation to it.

[@Tenuto40]

When that “25 points about yourself” was going around on Facebook, my sister told me I wrote an essay while my brother barked out orders. I generally review any internet post I make and see if I can cut out at least 80% of it down to 2 paragraphs. And ya, I cut out two more paragraphs I had written. XD

[@gdaymate3414]

Bruh i feel like i'm reading my story 😂. Same i got an infp at first and become really curious about mbti things. In the end i found out than i'm an infj

[@calinissetehtarello4126]

You might want to give yourself some time? When I first took this quiz as a teenager I got ENTP - with very weak results with the highest one being N at 60% if I remember correctly. A couple years later it went to INTJ with firm Introverted an Intuitive factors above 70%, but the others were both very close to 50% and I took it for the third time during psychology module during my 2 year at university and I got INFJ which currently is at 81% I, 74% N, 61%F and 60%J - so as I was getting older my characteristics became more pronounced. So it is extremely fascinating to follow the way your personality becomes clearer and clearer :D And this video was especially interesting as Harry talks here about the crossroads of INFJ's and ENTP's in my case, and INFP's in your case! I can say that some information in this video blew my mind as I found all of those qualities in myself and couldn't name them. Now I can :)

[@nataliavellon1192]

Thank you for clarifying Introvert and Extrovert in terms of reactivity and proactivity. That was a helpful distinction. The need for flow in all aspects of life definitely resonates with INFJ.

[@CognitivePersonality]

My pleasure :)

[@AsuraPsych]

I like these alternative take approaches. Its easy to do the "5 signs you might be" videos, but these are just as helpful, if not more.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Heh, yeah I feel the negative approach in videos like this can encourage further a 'type de-boxing' attitude. Plus, gotta mix it up!

[@aldodirusso5216]

I’m an introvert and I really see myself in “synergy” and “universalism” aspects. They also influenced my university choiche where I had the possibility to study different areas, driven by the desire to connect all the dots and build an holistic picture. I took the test and it turned out I am INFJ-T. Your video also helped me figuring out which kind of job I would fit best. Thank you ;) EDIT In another video you say that MBTI online test is not so accurate because it focuses on the behavior dimension rather than the cognitive one. What would you suggest to correctly find out which personality I belong to?

[@RaederlePhoenix]

I love that part about the need for synergy. I've tried to explain to many people throughout my life why it was disturbing to partake in any activity that felt isolated from the rest of my life and most people said, "So?" They didn't get how important it is to me. I'm thankful that I've been able to build a life where all my talents weave together beautifully now. My artwork became a coloring book, and then I colored my own coloring book and the finished works illustrated one of the expansions for one of my board games. This kind of flow makes me feel alive.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Thanks Raederle! Nice to hear it's all coming together :)

[@tegelstenen4178]

Having to internalize information before adapting it to the real world might explain why I have a hard time to grasp, understand, or really gain any kind of knowledge during lectures, but have no problem understanding and seeing how different things are connected when it's just a book and a few hours.

[@sidehustletips]

Same here, same page. Well put.

[@Tiogar60]

This was perfect. Tests type me as INTJ or even INTP. Once i learnt functions, i started to believe i was an ISTP due to Ti-Ni. What i found out then, was that i was INFJ. I never related to the stereotypes because I wasn't very emotionally predictive and felt quite logical. But there was simply no other type that matched. Your breakdown makes a lot of sense and helped ease my confusion for a few minutes at least.

[@heffthehecked]

I've been doubting if I was an INFJ, something I've identified as for a few years since I've started learning about it, but this definitely applies to me.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Cool :)

[@heffthehecked]

Cognitive Personality Theory _you're_ cool

[@sur_REAL_ist]

Fe prolonged is exhausting. Ni/Ti is more natural. With Fe feeding both with observations.

[@dseer13]

1) I disagree with you saying INFJs cannot or even struggle to predict the emotional atmosphere. If you're an infj and you have had to give a speech or even try to influence emotions (hype up a team, or console a friend) you will find that this isn't true. Sure I'll admit that the influence of logic that will lead to a more positive emotion by providing a construction of logic in a concise manner (walk them through a though structure - this therefore this therefore that) is apparent but there are subtle ways the the Fe/se is at work to influence the emotional atmosphere. 2) I disagree that there is a FIXED way in which Fe users use Fe. I think it can be used in observation sure, but also in influence. Mind you, to influence we use se as well. But the Fe would be the main driving energy behind the Se. 2) How does the ability to predict the emotional atmosphere differ in an ENTP vs. an ESTP? If there is no difference, then can an INFJ not replicate what an ESTP is doing? seeing as they share the same cognitive functions?

[@anival9576]

Using your example of giving a speech, I would say that iNFJs can train themselves to evoke certain emotions. For example, I just finished writing a novel, and I've given it to my beta readers. They tell me that I haven't made certain emotions clear, and they were disappointed by the ending. I didn't predict that, but now that I know they reacted that way, I'm not going to discount it. Instead, I am going to use my Ni-Ti loop to analyze their reaction and add the right pathos to my book. I am motivated to do this because I do want people to have a pleasant experience when they read my book (harmony), and I know that emotional filters are likely to block their understanding of my overall vision (Ni) which I am trying to communicate. Writing a novel is something I am just learning to do, but there are lots of mundane emotional tasks that an INFJ might have to learn to negotiate earlier in life. Just because Fe is reactive doesn't mean that INFJs can't train themselves to use it in proactive ways--in response to emotional feedback that they receive from others. I think the point is that INFJs tend to follow the conventional route in this area rather than forging new paths--follow the route of least resistance. That said, I expect there is a lot of nuance to how INFJs use Fe that wasn't covered here. This video seems to focus most on the ways that it is misunderstood and leads to mistyping.

[@dseer13]

​@@anival9576 Yes usage of a function it better developed and honed with experience, trial and error and refining. We all mature. But that doesn't mean INFJs can't influence emotions and not only logical reasoning. Which is my point.

[@CognitivePersonality]

I feel like there may be a level of misunderstanding here, and perhaps I didn't articulate my points as well as I could have - of course an INFJ can predict the emotional atmosphere. Like I said in the video, they would do so primarily through a more internalised dialogue as opposed to the external one of an ENTP, but the primary predisposition is towards rationalisation. Ti dips into Fi and therefore has a relational component, and the INFJ can essentially flip on the dominant axis to affect the world in a more ESTP-like manner. The purpose of this video was to present the natural inclinations of an INFJ more than state what they can and cannot do :) The attitudes of CPT are not fixed and nor are the functions; again, I am presenting predispositions more than I am outrightly stating the feeling of the INFJ is always divergent. This is a somewhat common misunderstanding so I'll be making more effort to clarify the fluidity of an attitude in future videos. The ESTP is less externally predictive than the ENTP, but more internally predictive. From a dominant-stack perspective they are equally as convergent in their Fe employment, but absent an internalised framework of social conduct have predictions occuring within a narrower timeframe & scope of reality. Cheers for the comment!

[@nora_8080]

I think he means "predict how they will react" as in for example a person switching their humour style based on what their conversation partner is sensitive to. This is different from being able to tell that a person has not found the joke funny after you told it.

[@shadedarrow7523]

At first i disagreed with that statement aswel(not being able to predict emotion). Then i thought how am i able to predict the emotional response that i'm about to make. The answer i don't, i relly on the logical pattern of thinking used by this person in the past to come to an conclusion. That is why i am sometimes surprised as to the emotional response i receive from my attempt to humour. In person i can pick up(observe) that someone is down and would know based on experience what to say and get certain reaction, but when i was still becoming friends with the person there was a lot of times their reaction was not what i expected, and could sense i made matters worse.

[@celleryvon9546]

Didnt think someone could list everthing wrong with sensationslized mbti in 2 minutes and 10 seconds. I stand corrected

[@oponomo]

Thanks for this video man! Now i'm certain i'm a trully INFJ: (social) atmosphere obsarvant since young, constantly trying to connect all information/areas, constantly trying to get better at people predicting by reading them on the go with my own feelings of emotional awareness. I got INFP on the 16personalities site, but as i was reading it, didn't quite feel me. after reading their INFJ section it all fits me, so i had to be sure through more places.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Thanks for this comment!

[@W.13th]

"& i'm not gonna compromise my integrity just to get some likes & shares." well said

[@infjricochet6722]

On the Fe: I excel at reading a room; I am not so good at influencing a room. That type of influential power requires a sort of physical/mental/emotional confluence that can be exhilarating to feel and employ, but is unsustainable. Alternatively, I've described ENFJ's in my life as having the room wattage and sustainability of the sun. I love it. I'll have to listen a few times at reduced playback speed to full take in this vid. Thanks!

[@CognitivePersonality]

I couldn't agree more - I often find ENFJs (and all other Fe-convergents) very inspiring! Cheers :)

[@annie3w4]

Neat observation! I've wondered in the past if I might be an INFJ (I'm INTJ), but I definitely can't read the room. I can read the emotions of an individual well (INFJ stereotype!) but I have to read them person by person, one at a time; I have no idea about the vibe of the group as a whole.

[@C_And_P]

@@annie3w4 Me too. It has to be person to person.

[@sandyedwards2681]

I have to add another dynamic at play: age and maturity. As we get older and gain experience, if we are interested in other people and their emotions (like those who have survived trauma), the more we can identify and even anticipate emotions in others. The increased capacity of this is not necessarily from innate tendency as much as environmental necessity. And I believe this is also one of the factors that creates a so-called ambivert tendency.

[@nrfaab]

Agreed! As well as family dynamics during childhood and societal pressure.

[@SRV2013]

I'm a writer, musician, composer, cook, baker and teacher, and I always say, it's all one art.

[@ved7690]

Hello fellow infjs trying to find where we fit in this world 😌

[@krisd730]

Why did i think you where wearing a graduation cap

[@CognitivePersonality]

Tis a natural response

[@anival9576]

Have you ever done a study of personalities linked to types of instrument played? It's kind of fun--a synergy between personality and music. Everything is connected! The joy of life is finding that connection. I really think you made a lot of good points about Fe in INFJs. On other channels, INFJs are typified as everyone's emotional confidant, and I don't resonate with that. I CAN be an emotional confidant but I don't seek that role out--that would be exhausting. I would much rather discuss my holistic theory of life. I resonate with your description of the Fe being passive and non-predictive. That has always been one of my biggest questions about being an INFJ--I don't feel as emotional as INFJs are "supposed" to be, but I can relate to everything you've described regarding Fe.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Now that IS a fun topic to explore! As a musician I find this segue very exciting. This is often the case - INFJ's are often rather good at the role, but we seldom seek it out. Awesome :) Cheers once again for the great comments!

[@AriaKlauser]

That's exactly what I think! Often times I wondered if I was lacking all the emotions that people portray in INFJ's, I wondered why I thought it was exhausting to be around very emotional situations or what kind of broken INFJ I was haha. It's good to know I was not so wrong all along.

[@kcl7864]

Types and music instruments, I love it !

[@jonp3890]

Whatever instrument it is, it’s likely it’ll be played predominantly in a minor key, and they’ll be dressed mostly in black while doing it, lol.

[@ahhwe-any7434]

I never even heard of the word synergy. But. im. great. at. gathering. context...

[@crosselsmith776]

I always get INTJ on personality tests no matter how much I take them. But the synergy thing of Ni Fi really resonates with me. And I also put my main hobbies in an Universal framework. For example: I like Science, Philosophy, Gaming, Writing etc. For writing I love to employ what I learned from philosophy, science and gaming. All of these fields are interconnected for me. And I avoid any other hobbies (Sports for example) if I can't integrate with this framework. This is why in school I always avoided and sucked in subjects that I couldn't integrate on my universal framework. Also I thought I am INTJ because I always suppress my emotions in public. I was an emotional kid in the past with empathy but I was often bullied thus I stopped showing emotions. This is why deep inside I want to create a world where people are not bullied just because of their innocence and empathy. I also make decisions based on what seems logical to me instead of valuing my own emotions. This video makes me think deep down maybe I am really INFJ.

[@aviatorsound914]

Trough INTJ and INFJ always gets messed up as the same thing but personality test don’t define who you are and uh try not to think about it too much or fit into that personality since as far as somewhere personality traits are flexible and shouldn’t be subject to strict one category definition.

[@Tified967]

I wouldn't rule out the other holistic thinkers here as INFJ & INTJ don't seem as likely albeit only based on your writing 😊

[@chloekoh193]

After you raised up the point of emotional predictability, I felt like I have never been more understood in my life. It was always ironic to me how people view me as empathetic, yet I can never fully meld in smoothly into social situations, because I can never fully predict the emotional behaviours and reactions of others. I prefer to react to the Fe-doms who can effectively influence behaviour because I suck at that HAHAHA and also to behave in what the social norms expect me to do rather than to use it to somehow “make” people feel things (unless situations call for it like comforting a friend). And since emotions are quite unpredictable in nature, me using logic to understand human behaviour sometimes doesn’t work out because people are complex and not entirely consistent like how I’d imagine. This proves how much of an INFJ I am. Thank you!!

[@kreativkrieg]

Most INFJs feel very comfortable with personality tests. I've never seen, for example, an ESTP write "omg this is so me" under any video. It's so great to feel finally understood, so I don't wonder about the flood of INFJs.

[@CognitivePersonality]

I've seen plenty of ESTPs do that, they just don't know they're ESTPs :) Someone who receives an INFJ result may well have the personality traits that are more likely to trigger such a reaction, but these traits do not coincide with cognitive functions - any type can have them!

[@ethanotene2993]

lol I'm a musician doing psychology as well yo twins. You are making me feel like I'm not an infj and I thought i was my whole life. thanks for the in depth content bro

[@alisonfisher1877]

I love your work and the CPT model. I’ve been eyeball deep in my own independent study of personality psychology for years now. It’s refreshing to see someone who realizes there is a difference between behavior and cognition while speaking about personality. As an aside, I’m an INFP and my boyfriend is an INFJ. This video is the most helpful breakdown and explanation, for me personally, regarding some reoccurring misunderstandings that we experience -as any couple inevitably does. I’m excited to rewatch this and the complimentary INFP one (also excellent!) with my partner. Thank you, just wanted to pass on my appreciation and respect. Cheers.

[@aileenastewart8891]

My exhusband used to tell me I processed other people’s emotion logically. I didn’t really know what that meant, but I did not think he was an INFJ because he is extremely reactive to emotions. I think this video has given me a lot to think about.

[@rakyatawam6235]

I love your energy, thoroughness, eagerness, calmness, and commitment. May the force always be with you.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Thank you, that means a lot :) May the force be with you too!

[@sirdopaminesjournal3292]

I haven't even finished this video has been eye opening. 8:10 I've been wondering if I'm incompetent for a while. I've been working at a new job for 5 months so far and I've had a hard time learning their processes. It's been frustrating because I disagree with the way they teach. They just waterboard people with information, and rapidly move on from one thing to the next. I can't retain that amount of details. They also read off text that is written in a unnecessarily complicated way. I believe that a much more effective way of teaching is to just get to the point, the main basics, in plain English, and allow us time to write notes for future references before moving onto the next lesson. But then again... others seem to pick it up just fine. So maybe it's just me. Maybe I'm incompetent. Or... I'm stubborn as this video suggests. I think my way of learning is superior and therefore don't attempt to learn their way. I often ignore the lesson and self-teach. I read the text and translate it in simpler language in my notes. Is it intellectual arrogance that's making life difficult for me? Am I just refusing to adapt to their way of teaching? Or am I just incompetent? I'm really suffering because I hate having to speak to people and yet I've been working in customer service for 20 years. This job flows neatly into absolutely nothing I want in my life. I'm obviously doing something very VERY wrong.

[@michelebraden7734]

Omg! You speak just like my 30yo son. I believe he is an infj. It explains so much about him. When he was in 3rd grade he was in the lowest reading group. It made no sense because he was so smart in all other areas. When he finally grasped the concept of words, sentence structure and so on, he read books way above his grade level. He needed a full understanding before attempting to even try. He is like that in everything he does. When I do the quiz sometimes I'm infj and sometimes infp. After hearing your explanation I believe I'm infp. I now see what makes me and my son different in how we interpret the world. Thank you!

[@CognitivePersonality]

How fascinating! I can draw many parralels here with myself, and what you describe of him does sound congruent with an INFJ paradigm :) Cheers for the awesome comment!

[@jonmichels7332]

I hadn't even considered that pointing towards the INFJ type. I went through that in first grade with reading. I tried to convince my teacher i didn't know how to read (because I wasn't yet fully comfortable with it) for over a month, until my mom got involved and told her that wasn't the case. By the 3rd grade I was reading books that were labeled as 6th grade reading level.

[@catheadu]

"He needed a full understanding before attempting to even try" -- Thanks for saying that. I feel stupid a lot because I need the big picture first then fill in 80-90% detail all in their correct alignment and correct timing. ie- step by step ... however, I actually am very intelligent ... just never considered I was getting stuck on assimilation -- i have issues in relationships because I need to figure out a person first ... what they want from me first and then who are they and who am I with them next. That takes a lot of time and it irritates people i think! Plus i am always getting blindsided by who I think they are vs who the really are and I end up just reacting in a irrational way because I suddenly can no longer relate to this new information.

[@Tified967]

It's worth noting, which I'm sure Harry agrees with that if you do synergise your internal frameworks then please don't rule out ENFJ, ESTP or ISTP either...this is where I indeed become unstuck in figuring out that I'm a divergent ENFJ. Harry is just presenting the broad notions applicable to INFJs here. Also worth noting that Ni-Ti is highly theoretical so it's not so much pertaining to patterns as it pertains to relationships etc but again has a much more detached slant to it; at least in the ENFJ where FeSe acts at the behest of a TiNi agenda. With the INFJ this is also the case albeit their Fe authority may lead them to formulate NiTi synergistically as it pertains to humanistic substrates.

[@kipmcmahan9714]

Your voice has a tone and a cadence that absolutely requires a microphone. It doesn't help that my hearing is quite bad but the slight echo without a mic compounds the problem. The info and message you're conveying seems very intelligent but I stopped mid video because it was too hard to understand what was being said. Cheers and thanks!

[@CognitivePersonality]

Very valid points, thank you!

[@grumpyschnauzer]

Loved how you explained the bonus point! I’ve never heard it explained so clearly... we predict logic, not emotion... we are detached from it.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Exactly this. Thank you! :)

[@bunnybook6590]

It had always agitated me that my two fields of study - finance and music - could not be easily merged together, and the way you explained it with the term “synergy” was very enlightening and helped me understand myself in this regard. Great video!

[@CognitivePersonality]

Much obliged! :)

[@ananditaifada2431]

this happens to me as well, i learn about visual communication design in high school but I also like psychology. I don't really know if these two subjects are related (?) But thanks to this video for giving me an opportunity to understand more about it. I'm still convinced that I'm an infj because back before I get to learn visual communication design I was into photography which is one of subjects of visual communication design itself.

[@aqueen13]

Haha.. I did the same thing! I love studying healthcare but was a professional photographer for a while and I spent a while a couple years ago coming up with analogies of how photography and health carry so many parallels.

[@sunatray]

I would NOT want to be an INFJ but I am. Not humble bragging. Just wish to be normal.

[@BigSarnt]

Pride. It's in all mankind. The need to feel special above everyone, exalted, superior if you will. I could tell you that being deceptive and manipulative is the rarest of all types and people would still try to align themselves with that too.

[@Rhygenix]

Makes sense why I had to relate accounting, to the history of accounting to my passion in economics, psychology and philosophy to even feel vaguely interested in it. Make sense that even though I am pretty good at driving, good enough to take semi-truck driving lessons, I only did it because because such a job would let me listen to philosophical, psychological and economic audio books. But even then, I had to relate to why semi truck driving is important to economics, and therefore, psychology and philosophy to feel somewhat comfortable with it. In the end I ended up dropping it. I keep a journal of my thoughts on these topics, and sometime obsess about making it all relate to each other. And I from a very young age almost always processed emotions logically.

[@ThousandMask]

When I first found out that I’m was classified as INFJ , I was very surprised by how accurate the descriptions was , essentially the negatives. I didn’t see it as a good thing at first as I was in a bad mental path at the time and focus on the negatives. Now that I found out of this INFJ wave and being "cool" apparently , my quest is now convinced myself that I’m not 😂.

[@theochristopher8873]

Ok... So, if you reacted to this video with a comment suggesting that you're an infj personality type... then, most likely you are not.

[@inlesinlet]

*Wow.* I don't think I've felt so well understood since I got my autism diagnosis some six years ago. I strongly relate to every single of your INFJ "clues" and I strongly struggle with every single one of your "it's unlikely you're INFJ if you do X". I'm flabbergasted. // Someone I was just getting to know some time ago asked me what I'd say if I was about to die, like my last message to the world. Without hesitation, I replied: "Everything is connected with everything else." He thought that was a weird, but interesting response. It is an obvious fact to me, and I don't understand how other people struggle to understand this. I have conflicting interests, and it's been causing havoc in my life for like a decade; I want to turn my passion into my life's work, but how can I do that when I have two passions? How do I unite my love for words, language and poetry with my love for animals and this strong desire to help and protect them? Then I realised that I write about animals, and when I did my undergraduate degree in philosophy, I philosophised about animals, that when I go camping I observe wild animals, and when I try to figure out myself through typology I am studying the human animal. I also cannot predict emotions or understand my own emotional impact on other people. I've lost count of how many times I have said or done something, then gotten really bad reactions, then been all confused, then having the other person be shocked by my "lack of self-awareness", when in actuality I lack awareness about their potential reactions; that is beyond my control. I am, however, creepy good at picking up the mood-feels around me. I can step through the front door and immediately feel-know if my family's been fighting. First day I met my academic tutor, I could just tell that he wasn't doing good; it took him months before he realised this himself and told it to me like he'd had a great revelation. (I thought: "Yeah, I could've told you that *months* ago.") I know when non-human animals are sad, stressed, anxious, bored, indifferent. It will often be obvious to me, I manage to react in the appropriate way with animals (probably because I don't have to use language and can plop myself into a Ni-Fe loop that's very "animalistic" or "primal", for lack of better wording, and oh so pleasant), and then other people are surprised, and I don't understand why they're surprised because it's all so obvious to me. Animals *make so much sense.* My mental theoretical framework, the way in which I understand the world, is zoocentric, not anthropocentric. It got me into a lot of brain-trouble at university, trying to understand Descartes... I couldn't, which turned out to be a good thing, because I could critique his arguments in a way that people who were swayed by his rhetoric couldn't. Anyways, I'm rambling now... You obviously hit the head of the me-nail. Thank you for making and sharing this video

[@CognitivePersonality]

Thank you leaving this comment! There's too much to respond to but I appreciate your kind words and I'm glad the video hit home :)

[@poli-et-pipe]

Hi @inlé's inlet, Have you heard about animal communication/communicators? I would love to talk about it with you. Check it out on youtube!

[@inlesinlet]

Pauline Hi, and yes, I have heard of it. I'm not really interested in "animal communicators" as "pet psychics" though, because I don't "tap into higher energies" or anything, I just observe minuscule changes in body language that most people simply aren't noticing, because they're not looking intently enough. When I take my puppy out to potty, I know he needs to poop not because we vibrate on a higher energy or because he TOLD me so or whatever else an animal communicator would say. I know it because his body posture and the way he sniffs the ground changes eeeever so sliiiightly, in a way that it ONLY does when he needs to poop. Whenever there's an animal in our space, we're communicating. However our bodies are moving or not moving, we're constantly communicating to every other creature around to sense us. Most people just filter it out most of the time, like they do with all of the other "useless" sensory input. I just literally can't filter it out, I think. But maybe "animal communicator" means something different to you, than it does to me?

[@77HadassaH77]

Yes; SYNERGY! (You have no idea how important this is to me)

[@thereaIitsybitsyspider]

Still fairly certain that I am INFJ. Despite personality tests picking up on my affinity for logic and sticking me into the INTJ box, without a doubt I put others' feelings first, as well as all of the other things that you mentioned. I'd be really interested in psychology taking the socionics approach to MBTI and backing ways that a therapist can diagnose someone without them relying on a self-reported test. It might redefine our approach to certain mental illnesses that we use broad criteria to identify like high-functioning autism.

[@NJ-wb1cz]

I think, it's pretty much universally understood that diagnostic criteria are more of a rough guidelines. A therapist may follow diagnostic manuals perfectly and be a horrible therapist, misdiagnosing and harming people left and right. Not sure that adding a murky imprecise theory on top will help here. A lot of therapists simply suck at their job, and they may use socionics or any other external theory to misdiagnose even further. Therapist is supposed to understand the actual living person in front of them, not theoretical constructs.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Cool :) I do believe such frameworks can be useful but definitely used in a supplementary manner rather than the foundation itself. When dealing with mental illnesses this becomes all the more important, and I personally err on the side of caution.

[@devoura7921]

When I take tests, I get INFJ. When I look at the definition of INFJ, it is mostly 90% correct. However, I do not identify with it. I do not say "I am an INFJ" nor do I believe that I am. I know what I am, and that is what I am. Identifying with a personality type can be good for some, and bad for others. I see people that finally have something to relate to and feel less alone in this world, and I see people that soak up the identity and feeds their ego and becomes obnoxious humanbeings (online atleast), preaching about how they know best because they are "real INFJs". It is all feeding the ego, but some of it is more troubling than others. The important part of it is to let go of the idea that you are something defined by this or that. People just want to identify and makes it part of their identity and it is sad how people will actually be so invested in them "being INFJ" that it 1. defines them 2. is used as an excuse for less than optimal behaviour 3. limit themselves because they thing INFJ is what they are and it cannot be changed. On reddit forexample I have seen posts like "I am like this, is it because I am INFJ?" You know what, probably not. PLEASE for the love of everything that is good in the world, do NOT define yourself as a type, not matter how relatable it is. If you are into selfdevelopement and that is the reason you are interested in personality theory, you will put a limit on what you are. Definition doesn't allow real growth. Done ranting now, nice.

[@dc4019]

Honestly, I'm a little more confused at the current moment. I feel at times that I am pulled almost equally between Ni and Ne and convergent ti or convergent Fe (particularly that extreme distress at any emotional disharmony). It's laughably frustrating. I feel like I am equally resonating with both descriptions of the ENTP an INFJ's respective stacks. It's frustrating, to say in the least.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Cases like this do occur and sometimes a type service is necessary, or at least some additional clarification as to which of these dialogues is your default :)

[@dc4019]

​@@CognitivePersonality Can someone flip on their access due to stress, for example, trauma-based hypervigilance. I've realized that I am very very much an INFJ (after bouncing around every intuitive dominant type and intuitive thinking type including the ISTP). What is bugging me is that i have that constant logical sea of patterns that are bouncing around in my head and constantly informing one another, but in times of extreme stress, I tend to internalize a lack of emotional feedback and take responsibility (in a negative sense) to a negative perceived reaction. Which is very ENTP like, but again I have that intuitive thinking connection rich convergent thinking. What I think I might be doing is flipping on my axis as a hypervigilant preparation for negative feedback. Whenever I am not in a situation where the social outcome would lead to the development of a sort of relationship, I am swimming in thought. Reading the ESTP description, this describes the hypersensitive state to a T. Is this "habit" within the realm of possibility, especially if this was developed not long after that pre-memory stage in life (from age 0-3 or 0-4) when one forms their cognitive type.

[@Tified967]

@@dc4019his sounds very much like me as a divergent ENFJ; I think ISTP would definitely be worth considering

[@usualthree7]

My mind is completely blown right now. This taught me so much and I think i realized not only am I most likely not an INFJ, I may in fact be an extrovert! This was so informative, thank you.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Ahh this is so great to hear - thank you for this comment!

[@kogamikun4701]

I’m not an infj I’m intp and I’m here because of curiosity ☺️

[@wowza2050]

I just love (not really 🙃) that most of the 1.4k comments are from INFJs. It will forever make me second guess myself because even after a video as good as this, people still wrongfully assign INFJ I believe. If this statistic is still feesable that there'd be this many INFJs in one comment section, humble me now or forever hold your piece 😅. Please enlighten me.

[@silentgrove7670]

I loved the intro part where you looked at the sorts of attachment to wanting to be INFJ for any of those three reasons. I love when people call things out like this. It's such an act of courage to just say it and clear it all up and stand in your truth. That's what leaders and people of real integrity do. The next step is the kinder sentient, know yourself. Cognition is a way to come to self realization. It's not a club !!! There is another part I am noticing now, to avoid information to be used in the dichotomous sense. We all have other dimensions and untapped potentials. I was speaking to someone yesterday about why I am more drawn to people that are so complimentary to myself as that is where my greatest growth potential comes from. Bravo !! I feel so pumped hearing this message today. Thank you so much I feel so suddenly happy. (ENFP and .... growing ... )

[@CognitivePersonality]

Ahhh I love this comment, thank you for saying this! It does take some effort of will to get in front of the camera and tell people what they don't necessarily want to hear, but it's definitely worth it and I'm grateful for how positively most people respond :) Cheers, absolutely agreed!

[@silentgrove7670]

@@CognitivePersonality I feel so elated hearing this. I really wish you could see it in me face to face. I am having a very strong moment of positive emotions and confirmations around my realizations. It's these moments of pathos connecting with logos. It is so powerful for myself being an ENFP. I could just hug your forever on this. I have felt similarly with other INFJs online and in person with the first INFJ I met. It's like you can bring out the best in me, even via online. You make me want to make the world a better place and make myself into the best person I can be.

[@TreasureSeasons]

Amped 🤗

[@TreasureSeasons]

@@silentgrove7670 beautiful ❤️

[@Tified967]

Try convincing Wenzes followers that they're not INFJs but divergent ESFPs...you get called a troll for your efforts even when it's conveyed in an entirely polite way 😂

[@zuzuuuuuuuuuuu]

i really like the way you talk because this is a really good example of how INFJs take a while to process things and in very common cases these things are actually THOUGHTS. i talk the same way, pausing and trying to understand what exactly my brain is thinking plus the fact that you have to translate those thoughts in words afterwards. and the synergy thing is so real, i have so much difficult on having a conversation when i cant relate any of the subjects that are being told to the things i already know well. i love this video so much, learning all of these during an existential crisis is so helpful lol

[@Electheo]

You just fried my brain and it was amazing

[@CognitivePersonality]

Haha awesome :)

[@BryanChance]

Great explanation in this video. Thank you. At 8:54, what are the two slides you are showing. 1 second is too fast for anyone to read. LOL ;p and INFJ would not let that happen. -:/