Coming Out of LGBTQ+ & Cultural Christianity Into Faith in Jesus

Garry Ingraham grew up in a strict Christian home but struggled with same-sex attraction and pornography, leading him to leave Bible College and embrace a gay identity. Feeling empty, he eventually surrendered his life to Christ and found acceptance and restoration in a supportive church. He eventually ended up getting married (his wife also came out of LGBTQ+ community), and in this video, he shares part of his story, but he also shares valuable insights about his journey and the dark side of an identity without Christ.
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[@fromchasingtochosen]

I was praying today asking God to help me with my sexuality and then I see that this was just posted! Thank you Jesus and thank you both so much for doing this work. This was so much more clear to me than a lot of interviews with some other ex gays I’ve seen and it is helping and edifying me so so much 🙏🏻

[@honeybun3492]

Melissa you seem very confident to tackle controversial topics in the Bible, I would love to hear your takes on the scriptures in the New Testament regarding women and teaching, or even speaking in the church. ❤ Much love and respect 🫶

[@carlyt.648]

Wow that was so good! So full of good insights and truth. Praise God for you and your channel Melissa, for Garry, his wife and their ministry ❤

[@thomasjeane9766]

Melissa thank you for this. Mr. Ingraham's work is so necessary in the the Church today, and his work, and yours, are very, very appreciated.

[@lynnemccarthy4064]

Thanks for being an excellent listener in an interview, Melissa -- rare, for sure to let the guest speak fully without breaking in with 'your' story/observations! And thank you for this excellent interview.

[@ministermattocks7570]

also shame homophobics lie

[@clairey6407]

Great interview! Thanks Melissa and Garry 💕

[@Beccaboo739]

This is AWESOME! I worked with Garry and Melissa. They are SOLID.

[@kengy1991]

Listened to him speak years ago when he came to Memphis. My wife and I have had the privilege of giving him some support over the years. Love his ministry.

[@jtv_70]

I was born into a very charismatic family. I lived as a gay man from 16 yo until my 40s. Jesus saved me out of that lifestyle. I thank the Lord for his mercy & grace.

[@IzzyNChrist]

Thank you for this interview Melissa and I will definitely buy this book. It would be great to see more books by you Gary. I've been praying for something with insight like this.

[@sol-hunter2332]

Oh wow! Ive actually met and am friends with Garry. Amazing guy, who helps me a metric ton when I was coming to terms with and wrestling with my own Same-sex attraction. Immensely grateful to him.

[@ministermattocks7570]

SSA is not even a sin

[@honeybun3492]

@@ministermattocks7570 Acting on it is.

[@jtv_70]

​@@ministermattocks7570 The Bible is consistent through both Old and New Testaments in confirming that homosexuality is sin (Genesis 19:1-13; Leviticus 18:22; 20:13; Romans 1:26-27; 1 Corinthians 6:9; 1 Timothy 1:10; Jude 1:7).

[@ministermattocks7570]

@@honeybun3492 Yes acting on homophobia is a sin.

[@honeybun3492]

@@ministermattocks7570 Acting on any sinful behavior, from gay sex to cheating to sex before marriage to cussing someone out is all sin. I know you’re avoiding the truth but it will set you free if you let Jesus in as ruler and Lord of your life.

[@Mmistyharber]

This was a great discussion. Thank you for your work, Melissa.

[@whyyesilovejesus34]

God is the only one who can change the heart. It's a heart issue. No matter what the sin is .

[@ministermattocks7570]

which is how homophobics change

[@honeybun3492]

Amen! Beautiful testimony. When you search for the truth, and when you search for God with all your heart and soul, you come to that realization that His way is truly higher than ours, and whether we are offended by truth or not it is still truth. Thank God He is unchanging and steadfast, forgiving, and merciful! ❤

[@ministermattocks7570]

if only homophobics knew what truth was

[@DSB51]

❤🇱🇰 SUCH AN IMPORTANT DISCUSSION FOR EVERY GENERATION ❤ THANK YOU

[@one-step-at-a-time-curiosity]

Awsome video. The church is broken and our families are broken. These issues are old, not new. I pray for healing of our brothers and sisters in Christ to be brave and learn God's love. We need each other to radically love. However we need teachers to show us the way because what is unfamiliar often times feels scary. And then we pull away.

[@adellemccann1865]

Fascinating, thank you both so much for this. 🙏🏻

[@Caroline_622]

I wish Pastor Garry would have a church in Palm Springs ✝️

[@JoAllisonSmith]

The problem with natural law is that we can’t agree on what it is, because even if everyone is honest, learning what is good and what is evil can potentially take a long time. That’s why God’s ethics/laws are light. But we have a Deuteronomy 6:24 duty to explain how it is that God’s laws are for our good always - connecting to our experience in the world, what we find to be good and evil. I have come to see the book of Proverbs as an extensive example of a parent doing this for a child. And clearly, the method applies to anyone, not just to children.

[@lammieslippers]

Thank you so much for this! I have trans relatives that I still keep in touch with and want to show God’s love to. This was so helpful!

[@ministermattocks7570]

love them as God made them is the answer....

[@JoeyJoe-JoeJrShabadoo]

God's love would be to accept them, not to deny them, which only causes harm

[@ministermattocks7570]

@@JoeyJoe-JoeJrShabadoo This is how we know the homophobic god they created is fake.

[@NatalieRoman11]

@10:30 why would they kick him out bc he's suicidal? They should have offered help. I saw something similar at a church I know. It makes no sense

[@Susan-f5u]

Many Churches are not focused on searching the Scriptures with exposition and application. They take out of context and jump to application.

[@jenellel2019]

Hi Garry! Glad that more people are interviewing these powerful stories.

[@lilafeldman8630]

So much of what he's describing is what I've been walking through the past few years. Not in the context of homosexuality but seeking love in all the wrong places

[@LouisaWatt]

I think it’s a common theme for many people, regardless of attraction

[@ministermattocks7570]

homophobia is the real sin

[@northstar2621]

​@@ministermattocks7570Did you write your own Bible now?

[@Donatello-b4x]

I have seen him on other sites. This is what he does. ​@@northstar2621

[@honeybun3492]

@@ministermattocks7570 Yes hating others is sin, anything that the Bible specifies as sin is sin.

[@ashablaine]

This helped me so much

[@JoeyJoe-JoeJrShabadoo]

There is nothing wrong with u. Christians care more about themselves getting into an imaginary after life than to care about you and your happiness, which is very, very real. Just be happy for u, not for acceptance from people who only care about an imaginary belief

[@bernadettematera-stacey1982]

Please check out a book on this topic, by the late Leanne Payne: The Broken Image. She was a Christian psychologist who had many years of experience praying for, and treating her clients. Some case studies are included, which you will see the incredible love and power of God bring healing to these “dear ones”. ❤

[@dereklee2590]

Amen praise God speaking God's word truth your guess there:)

[@bernadettematera-stacey1982]

Great! Just had a Bible study today, on Romans 1:20-32. Also listened to Beckett Cook's testimony. This is so good. Thanks Melissa!❤

[@TexasLyoness]

I also highly recommend watching Becket’s video on his channel titled, “A Mother’s Prayer for Her Gay Son.”

[@Priscilla_Bettis]

Amazing interview. Definitely reading Gary's book!

[@deb4578]

Melissa I enjoyed this discussion so much. Please invite Garry back for a 2nd interview...soon.

[@yamicanada]

❤❤❤

[@truthseeker8249]

You look beautiful. Love this topic.

[@OrthodoxJourney359]

Hey Melissa this is Tex, what happened to Mr Bancarz

[@charlesdurham6793]

Nice

[@Willi-h7u]

Praise to God Almighty!!!!'m favoured, $140k every 3weeks! I can now give back to the locals in my community and also support God's work and the church. God bless America 🇺🇸❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Justina-q9c]

Hello, how do you achieve such biweekly returns? As a single parent i haven't been able to get my own house due to financial struggles, but my faith in God remains strong.

[@HenryPeters-s6o]

I'm inspired. Please spill some sugar about the biweekly stuff you mentioned

[@Ashley-r1i]

This is a definition of God's unending provisions for his people. God remains faithful to his words. 🙏 I receive this for my household

[@Willi-h7u]

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[@JamesLucas-l6s]

Wow 😱I know her too Miss Kate Elizabeth Becherer is a remarkable individual who has brought immense positivity and inspiration into my life.

[@kimiko54-h3b]

God loves you no matter if you're straight or gay ❤

[@NickGagnon-u1v]

Nothing bad or wrong with being gay at all.

[@ministermattocks7570]

no its homophobia thats the sin

[@NickGagnon-u1v]

@@ministermattocks7570 Yup.

[@woodtier-gv8he]

Except for most being gay involves doing things they want to, and God is out of the picture entirely. Either way, there are transgressions which stem from desire. And I've never met a gay who isn't disturbed.

[@smallbeginning2]

LOL

[@NickGagnon-u1v]

@@woodtier-gv8he I never met a gay person who was disturbed.

[@garyfrancis6193]

How is this possible? Such people are beyond redemption.

[@Window4503]

Nonsense. Nothing is impossible with God. Homosexuality doesn’t make someone unable to repent and live according to God’s will. If “such people” are beyond redemption, I shudder to think of how little you view your own sins.

[@honeybun3492]

Bible says otherwise ❤ Read the book of Jonah ❤

[@jamesg3808]

Why are they beyond redemption?

[@woodtier-gv8he]

An unforgivable sin? ....

[@honeybun3492]

@@woodtier-gv8he the only unforgivable sin is blasphemy against the Holy Spirit.

[@Longe]

I really like Melissa's videos, but this one was a bunch of word salad that equaled hopelessness! (Someone who has been celibate for about 20 years!)

[@carrydobbs1663]

Or , you can be an affirming Christian. We exist and we love God and love people.

[@woodtier-gv8he]

"The fear of the Lord is hatred of evil."

[@honeybun3492]

@@carrydobbs1663 We are called to first Love the Lord our God above ALL else, and second to love thy neighbor. The law is fulfilled in those two commands, according to Jesus. Affirming sin is against the first command.

[@judyactonayala]

If Garry would have said that God/Jesus/Holy Spirit changed him, transformed his sexuality to where he miraculously didn't feel homosexual anymore, I would have believed it was real. But the fact that it sounds like Garry is choosing to be heterosexual, I think is tragic. The Lord does remove lust from born-again believers so that they are not white knuckling anything in that regard. So, if God didn't make people homosexual, why wouldn't He transform His homosexual followers? The Bible is pretty vague about homosexuality. WHY are there gay animals if it's unnatural?? God wants us to be happy and fulfilled, so if someone is born gay and literally feels repulsed at the thought of sex with the opposite sex, I can't accept that my God would condemn them to a life with the opposite sex. There's SO much more to say. All I can say is I look forward to meeting with our Creator one day and talking to Him about all this so that I can truly understand.

[@honeybun3492]

@@judyactonayala A life of celibacy and chastity is welcomed as well, for anyone regardless of sexuality. God can do all things, but we must trust in His plan and His will, even when it doesn’t feel fair to us. Read 2 Corinthians 12 “Paul’s Vision and His Thorn” I think it could reveal insight if you are willing. I often ask God why I am not cured of my permanent disability doctors say there is no cure for, but I know God can heal me any moment He so chooses. We must continue to love and trust in Him through all trials and tribulations, and rejoice in them. ❤️

[@judyactonayala]

@@honeybun3492 Exactly! We are in agreement and have the same understanding here. But there is so much we don’t know and God does not want us to put limitations on Him, if that makes sense! He is so much greater than even the Bible. I know He welcomes my questions and queries and doubts about certain things. You and I could probably have a long conversation about sexuality. Do you know the reason He destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah? I bet you don’t! And no one has ever been able to answer the question of why some animals are gay if it’s unnatural. I am very open to being wrong. Like you and all real Christians, all I care about is God's Will! 🤍

[@honeybun3492]

@@judyactonayala I’ve actually read Bible front to back and know Sodom and Gomorrah was destroyed because not one righteous person was found to be there! They sinned all kinds of sins. As for animals, this world is fallen. Not just humans. Humans sinning have ruined the whole earth. I think in the Bible it states that in the new Heaven and Earth, animals won’t eat one another but rather plants. Even before the flood I think humans were vegan/vegetarian. I could be wrong but from my Bible studies I think that’s the case. I do think God is greater than the Bible and that the Bible just simplifies it for us, and praise Him that He’s willing to do that for us!! There’s so much mystery in the universe and I am excited to be in God’s plan! I hope when I am found to be wrong I can correct my thinking and praise God for a soft heart willing to change!

[@FindfreedomInChrist-yb7ns]

Being fulfilled and happy is not the gospel.

[@joleaneshmoleane8358]

Gross!

[@pkmcnett5649]

😢

[@LeiD4u]

Could you expound on your point?

[@bernadettematera-stacey1982]

144?😊

[@DashtonSunflowerseed]

whale thats ur pr0blem not any1 elses thanks for sharein the bra!n washed !gno0rance u gained & didn't learn from & ur low Tolerance.. wow great. it must be a very str3ssful life for u to wake up from

[@honeybun3492]

Did you watch the video? ❤

[@MarkPesell]

COOL. JUST WOKE UP. FIRST VID OF THE DAY LOL