Compulsive Rumination

[@leightonwatkins9486]

this actually works 😀..i wish i found something this simple yrs ago ...thank you lovely ....

[@Ana-Maria-M-A]

Ever since I’ve had an anxiety attack that brought back symptoms and constant fear like I hadn’t had in ages, I’ve been watching your videos. They’ve helped me understand so many things I did wrong, they’ve been helping me practice diaphragmatic breathing and grounding techniques. I can sure say they’ve saved me from having a few panic attacks. What I wanted to ask/request is to please make a video for when things we fear do happen. How to cope with that. I mean, I know if our brain keeps thinking worst case scenarios, one time or another it’s gonna get it right but, how to cope when some sort of nightmarish thing happens to you, health-wise? I wanna be strong to deal with the things that happen to me but I thought all the agony anxiety has been putting me through was enough of a challenge. But noooo. I’m scared. I’m drained. I need to know it won’t be always like this, that whenever I think I see a light at the end of the tunnel it will turn darker instead.

[@alixmcknight]

For me, this is the most challenging parts of OCD. My brain has always been fixated on both preventing mistakes and wanting to mend a mistake I could have made. Whether that be a job/school assignment, a conversation with someone, how I drive, how I prepare food, really anything I do I ruminate on how I did it or how I’m going to do it. This makes me avoid responsibilities because I know I won’t sleep at night if I make a mistake, or I will ruminate on how I can prevent myself from making mistakes. Even when I have more control of my physical compulsions, I struggle to let go of my thoughts. Even right now I struggle to write these words and I can’t stop checking my work email. Anyway, I really appreciate your videos. I’ve been getting treatment for my anxiety for over 18 years but I still need to be reminded of these concepts.

[@stephani4636]

YOU GOT THIS!! 🩷

[@alixmcknight]

@@stephani4636 oh, thank you.

[@earlgreyt123]

Absolutely! I've always felt like OCD is a form of hyper-responsibility. You feel like everything is your fault.

[@alixmcknight]

@@earlgreyt123precisely!

[@hanaamr3685]

Lots of love and gratitude ❤❤❤

[@grahamfonteyne4792]

Great video as always, thanks Barbara!

[@aliciatorres91]

Thank you for this information. I know I have to work on it!

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

You are welcome! I hope it is helpful!

[@bearants]

i never ruminate about something that is resolved. my subconscious is telling me what needs a solution and once i resolve it, it never comes back.

[@earlgreyt123]

That sounds like productive worry then ☺️👍🏼

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Interesting, right? But I wonder if those things got resolved through rumination…(?) or in another way?

[@bearants]

@@BarbaraHeffernan i think rumination is the presentation of the problem to the conscious mind by the subconscious. "come on fix this already its messing with me". solving the problem is separate and can be done in many ways some of which you teach. it can be difficult to identify the solution.

[@earlgreyt123]

​@@bearants I thought it was interesting in the video that sometimes there isn't a solution, it's just a bad thing that happened. Our brain can't let it go because we can't accept it.

[@Chloe-w7n]

​@idkwhodos2840 Yes I agree. Someone who has told malicious lies about you to others in your family is not solvable. I ruminate from time to time on this. Not good for my health I know.

[@MisunderstoodAnimals]

Thank you very much , it’s nice to find your page , I will do that what you said

[@katrijndepuydt1355]

Thank you so much!

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

You’re very welcome! I hope it is helpful!

[@TheLove1Makes]

Thanks for the lesson on this disorder.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

You are welcome!

[@earlgreyt123]

This is amazingly helpful, thank you! Never thought of rumination having a payoff!😱

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Yes, quite a concept! Have you figured out what your payoff might be?

[@earlgreyt123]

@@BarbaraHeffernan I think there's a lot of shame. What if I had done things differently? But like you said it's kind of a way of not accepting the reality that it happened. Because that makes you feel helpless 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@LuchSveta1]

I found that rumination brings an additional ideas and solutions for the problem .

[@Pignuglama]

May be a KZbin video but your still licsenced and interesting to listen to i appreciate these videos alot

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Wonderful! I’m so pleased you appreciate them. I am doing my best to put out relevant, helpful info in 10-15 minute bites!

[@priscanemger783]

I know it paralyzes me, I just can’t stop thinking of all of the suffering people and animals have to endure. It’s beyond depressing to me and I can’t get passed it.

[@leightonwatkins9486]

buddhist chanting is good...youve got to be dedicated though ..this IS a planet of suffering we are born into and unless youve got a life raft ( like chanting) it will eat highly empathic people alive....nam myhoho renge kyo ......

[@elfymcelferton2187]

Ruminative. Ruminative... Ruuuuuuminative. This word is now stuck in my head for the rest of the day. Neurotic meets ironic again.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Oh no! 😬🙃

[@elfymcelferton2187]

@@BarbaraHeffernan It's OK. I'm telling myself "This is not helpful." 🙂

[@samchapple6363]

Mythical thinking I’ve concluded with a pinch of grief negotiation

[@ellenchristine5473]

I feel like the only thing that helps for me anymore is therapy and now i am uninsured and i feel uncomfortable talking to people due to them just not understanding things and just feeling like more and more isolated due to that. I ruminate on past trauma and even social situations too where people are rude to me and im unable to shut it down (i suffer from social anxiety). In the past i journaled and it helped out but at a certain age it stopped helping. I gotta try something this is so miserable and im just feeling like so many of my days are ruined trying to make sense of the past or fix the past even though i can't... i like the singing idea.

[@cynthiawhite1122]

Keep educating yourself...This gal is good!