Constantly looking for a way out of your own life?

This feeling is more common than you think. The more time you invest in escapes, the less time you spend addressing the root cause.
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[@NYDaughter1972]

I don't remember a time in my life when I haven't felt like this.

[@Valeria-th3ms]

I've come to the conclusion that this world is a shitty place and no amount of therapy can help me feel otherwise. So why not escape into fantasy world of books and games. Escapism helps me to stay alive and function, providing something to look forward to after a shitty day.

[@hannahsmith-dg9jt]

So true

[@scotscub76]

At times my depression is so bad (after years and years of trying many things) all I can do is distract. Music, learning a new language, walking the dog. But when it's so bad and you've tried so many things what else can you do to stay alive?

[@erikarnesen6052]

You don't have to like the world, therapy might help you if you want to some day

[@monarchgraphicsdesign4348]

It's hard when you also are in pain 24\7

[@chrismurray3224]

You got that right. I know exactly what you mean and I feel for ya. Take care of yourself. ✌️

[@tplude1]

same here

[@jennifershort3104]

Yes. It has been since my mother died. I don't find joy in this life. Other people are more excited for me than I am when something "good" happens. I would rather be with my parents than feel like I'm failing at life. I understand what you're saying, but this how I feel sometimes.

[@Users_rx]

Ure one of the lucky ones, at least ure escaping WITH ur parents. Some people are escaping FROM their parents. Other people's lives do give perspectives i guess 😅😅

[@jennifershort3104]

​@@Users_rxtrue.

[@corinnarose99]

I understand you. 7/7 and 24/24, suffering is difficult. But your parents are a part of you. It means we feel as if we lost everything. Depression is so hard.

[@cydniegray9622]

I appreciate what you're saying but I know it would be helpful for me to say "what could you do to more enjoy being you/in your life" instead of "try to minimize it"

[@turquoisetoile-universalethics]

Thank you I've been trying to recover from chronic limerence. Celebrity crushing. Fantasies. Wishing I could have people that I can't have. Now knowing the futility and the dead end. 😂

[@monarchgraphicsdesign4348]

You've been spot on!

[@undertaken101]

This is awfully relatable. Thank you so much for your work and dedication, Dr. Scott🙏

[@edgelessuser5]

I feel like I have always enjoyed being in my own space and getting lost in something but I can tell these days more than ever I am doing it just to avoid existing pretty much and it is hard to tell if it helps or not

[@jeffandrewstv]

I saw the title of this podcast “short” and I thought, how did Dr Scott know that is what I’m struggling with? I wish I knew what I was about my “life”? I think it is a combination of things including a chemical imbalance. Finding a way to manage it would be wonderful.

[@PhialSubstance]

Ok, but why am I depressed? My life is fine. I think it's more that I'm just a moody fantasist lol. I always dream of a better life, sometimes I wish I didn't exist but that's mostly just because I find myself annoying and unattractive and useless. And weak. And boring. In other words I'm not depressed because my life sucks, I'm depressed because I'm not perfect (or at least because I don't meet my own ludicrously high standards).

[@cAlmliKeAboMb2023]

@@PhialSubstance Or you're depressed because your goal is to be perfect and you know inside that that's not really possible....? So you are setting yourself up for failure and perhaps you know that subconsciously?

[@grillmaster95]

Why do you feel like you're those things?

[@PhialSubstance]

@@grillmaster95 I have no idea tbh, my self perception is screwed. Maybe it’s because of abusive women I’ve dated in the past, maybe I still have some childhood trauma to work through, could be anything really. I wanna get therapy but it’s expensive lol.

[@Which-Way-Out]

Because deep down your soul knows this world is a system based on lies.

[@evadebruijn]

So true. It's always a short term long term kind of pay off that needs to be consciously chosen. ✌️

[@c.w.847]

Very interesting. Thank you, Dr. Scott.

[@cassiestevens8382]

Yes. Thanks🕊

[@rhondaphillips432]

YOU'VE HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD, I'M TRYING TO ESCAPE PAIN, EMOTIONAL SADNESS FROM LOSS IN EVERY AREA OF MY LIFE. I WATCH YOU TUBE SO I DON'T FOCUS ON THE PHYSICAL PAIN, I DON 'T FEEL THE PAIN AS MUCH, IT WILL LAST UP TO 7 OR MORE HOURS. THANK YOU❤❤❤😊😊😊

[@KillerRose0]

I got chills listening to this 😅

[@avy466]

Something I’ve noticed lately is that I’m always busying myself with some sort of escapism. I’m always reading, watching movies, writing, cleaning, listening to music, have tv on in the background, baking, doing other hobbies or just anything that takes my mind off of my life and it’s the only way I can cope with depression. I think that’s why I always cry in the shower because that’s the only time I’m completely alone with my thoughts.

[@Gerrly]

I feel like this applies to anxiety as well? I take naps, game, and binge shows or KZbin.

[@peggyackerman5036]

Question Dr : I think most people talk to themselves sometimes, but how to know when it is to much and could be a problem?

[@alexwelts2553]

I had serious depression for 39 years, it got out of control and drew a line and i agreed. I sat with the gun for like 6 hours and ultimately decided to trade the gun for a lethal dose of opiates. As a consideration for anyone finding that. I regained consciousness and my depression was gone. I've been off meds since 2019. Sure there's alot of other problems, including the awareness of how many times i must have died, but not allowed to die. A fetus can't survive 4 days without amniotic fluids, right? Death drive fueled by a need to end the cycle completely has been my jam.

[@debbieporter6581]

This is a very abusive statement for those suffering for over 20 yrs with MDD. Think about it. It's easy to say but impossible to do. Why does no one understand.