Your Exes Inner Thoughts (Why They Pushed You Away)

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

I thought Margaret had some interesting research on the negative thoughts exes often have (that cause them to leave) in this one. We will explore this more in the future. She is safe and well. We are both quarantined and talked yesterday. Since neither of us has been exposed to anyone outside of our completely quarantined immediate family we will figure a plan to film again.

[@mrcrowz8614]

Please do this is a very interesting topic

[@katerinamel1748]

Hello Coach Craig, could you give us a Paypal account to purchase your services? Thank you

[@thepathwechoose]

I value you both tremendously. Thank you for the work you put into these videos. My prayers for your wellness and safety. Miigwech, We'Lalin Thank You

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Email us on the website

[@katerinamel1748]

@@CoachCraigKenneth I have sent an email to [e-mail], thank you

[@VermontV8]

Wish I had a grandma like coach Margaret

[@ZhakRyuu]

Grand, grand, grand, Grandma 😁 jk I love Margaret

[@CorporateQueen]

Because he couldn't love himself so he sabotaged it all. It's so sad. But you can't fix people. They have to fix themselves.

[@Knel89]

RollingPanda yup same for my ex!

[@CorporateQueen]

@@Knel89 sucks doesn't it. 😞

[@Knel89]

RollingPanda absolutely. She’s in a rebound rn, she’s weak. She can’t go through life alone and process her feelings, she has to use someone to temporarily distract her from how she really feels. It’s sad but it’s life. I know I’m her best option and I know that relationship will fall apart and I know she’s going to reach out to me at some point. She’s going to have to do a lot of work to be with me again and I’m not sure if she’s willing to. I’m valuable and she knows that. She knows what kind of man I am, her emotions got the best of her and she threw me away. She didn’t appreciate me anymore. But little does she know I’m doing a lowkey upgrade of my life currently. Dropped 48 pounds, educated myself a lot about relationships and mental health, accomplishing my goals and overall being a healthy person. My value will be wayyyyy more than she anticipated and if she plays her cards right she can have this new and improved me again someday. If not, a lucky woman will. I’m finding my confidence and value from within, not someone else. She has some hard lessons to learn. As Craig says: “feelings change like the clouds across the sky.” When her rebound falls apart, she’ll think back fondly to me and she will become anxious. Even more so when she realizes I haven’t reached out for months and I’m doing very well. I have the power to make myself happy, I don’t need her to make me happy anymore. Stay strong!

[@CorporateQueen]

@@Knel89 pretty much identical here. My life's fantastic since he left it though. I'm moving on. I

[@Knel89]

M I really do understand your situation and your pain for this. I would recommend leaving him alone because if he told you those things, it sounds like at one time he appreciated you for who you were/what you brought to the table. Eventually he got used to your amazing qualities and he is now looking elsewhere for something better, but he will have a very hard time finding and keeping it. No contact will give you your strength back and you will begin to move on as time passes. It’s hard as hell but so worth it. I refuse to reach out to my ex (especially now since she’s in a rebound relationship) because I know I’m very valuable and I brought good qualities to the relationship. I may not have been perfect (nobody is and she is no exception either) but I loved her deeply and I genuinely tried MANY times to improve the relationship with no luck thanks to her avoidant attachment style, my anxious attachment style that kept pressuring and begging/pleading, and her immaturity/inability to realize that we need to strengthen the foundation of the relationship before marriage and all that. The breakup was both of our faults however there was a lot more to do with her than me. She’s young and saw someone else at work she knew she could be with so she seized the opportunity and left me. It would’ve been detrimental to my mental health if I would’ve kept begging and pleading with her or tried to be friends. See, me and you were good to our exes. Again, we’re not perfect here but overall we were good to them. Remember, love and attachment are the strongest forces humans can form with one another. It’s very unlikely that our exes will form that deep emotional attachment and love with their rebound especially if they haven’t processed the feelings correctly. And from what you’ve said, he knows what he had with you but he may be in denial (he thinks he can find better). I would stay NC and let him learn his lessons. I’ve been focusing on self development and being healthy overall and I think you should too. Stay strong!

[@Knel89]

Wow this video hit home for me. This explains a lot more of my breakup and events post breakup. My ex is very insecure and suffers from depression. A person that is healthy mentally normally wouldn’t leave someone that is a good person and puts forth effort into the relationship. That healthy person would understand that relationships take significant work and they’re not always wonderful and romantic. But when you have someone who is unhealthy mentally, that inner voice defeats them every time. “I’m overweight” “I hate my job” “I hate where I live” “I hate that he always wants to engage in sexual activity with me when I don’t, I don’t feel attractive” “why does he want to get in shape? Is he going to leave me for someone better when he does?” “Why doesn’t his sister like me? Does she know I’m insecure and that’s why I act the way I do?” These are thoughts I know my ex had but will never admit, I’m confident in that. Problem is, she’s young (21), she is mentally unhealthy, and truly doesn’t know who she is or who she even wants to be yet. She’s in this weird experimental stage. I know I attributed to the breakup but it has WAY more to do with her than me. Unfortunately she is in a rebound relationship and that’s because she’s not strong enough to go through life alone. She needs someone to cling on to (weird because she’s avoidant 🧐) to feel happy again. Problem is, she’s looking in all the wrong places for happiness, security and positive thoughts. She needs to get those things from herself first. Poor guy probably doesn’t even comprehend what’s going on, he’s probably infatuated and ignoring all red flags. She is using him to ease her anxiety, depression and insecurities. Also, he is quite the downgrade from me (I’ve been told this by others as well 🤷🏻‍♂️). She may have felt I would’ve left her or I would’ve been very attractive and other girls would want me and that would bother her x1000000, but the truth is even if she gained 50 pounds I would love her the same. True love is loving someone through all of their flaws and hard times, not leaving when the situation isn’t ideal. I always did nice small gestures for her, showed her lots of love/affection, always made sure she was okay... didn’t matter in the end- that inner voice took over and caused her to make irrational, emotional decisions. I’m doing much better now but time will tell. I recommend you guys do a coaching with Craig, he helped me see that I indeed was insecure as well and I discovered my anxious tendencies through his videos. It’s true when Craig and Margaret say it isn’t as bad when you look at it from the outside. She’s living in a city she expressed to me she didn’t wanna be in, she’s still in the job she wasn’t sure about(she’s unhappy in that job), she refuses to continue college because she wants to attend a specific campus (this campus is out of her way based on where she currently lives), she jumped to a guy she met through work after a 4 year relationship with me, she suffers from anxiety/depression and likely won’t have the energy to water his grass, her feelings will come back around for me when her rebound relationship doesn’t last... meanwhile I am crushing my goals, becoming secure, educating myself about relationships and mental health, excelling at work, accomplishing goals and overall just being a healthy human being. If she doesn’t come back, the girl that crosses paths with me will be damn lucky. I shouldn’t want my ex back, but I believe in second chances and I at least want to give her the chance to chase me and put effort in to get me back and then see if she has changed at all or is willing to change. But if a good girl comes my way before that..... I won’t say no 🤷🏻‍♂️ stay strong guys, 4 months ago I was a wreck and devastated. Today I am a strong confident man. Still going too! 😎💪🏻

[@ivysabregz1518]

Same boat here. Keep it up!

[@anthonyaaron4332]

Any update? Did she reach out?

[@Seren2010kinder]

I’m so happy you’re so happy and moved on We’ll all get there

[@spedhead218]

Give us an update sometime brotha

[@sepehr_moghani]

She literally said I love you the week before the break up. (Not for the first time of course but still) Thanks for another great video ❤️

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Ive has that happen to me before too

[@mrcrowz8614]

I had that too 😢

[@sepehr_moghani]

Coach Craig Kenneth That was that internal struggle of course. I know now that she was fighting the thought of the break up but because I didn’t know what bothered her, I continued the wrong behaviour until the point where she said to herself that’s it. I’m done. He’s not gonna change and I deserve better.

[@andrewtobin8316]

Yep the morning of the breakup she said she loved me

[@dark.cloutchfoute2994]

@Sam M lies Sam

[@consultacpf2251]

Hey Craig and Margaret! I just wanna say that your work helps a lot of people. Gods knows what would be of me without your videos. Been listening to them to sleep for more than 2 weeks. Luckily, I receive a contact from my ex and she actually said it missed me and wanted to go back to our glory days. I lived thought all of this and I feel incredible well right now. I feel like a man...you know? Thank you. You BOTH keep a lot of people from going into deep depression, and sure as hell, you kept me from it. Countless nights watching your videos without sleeping at all. In some way, you both, are giving something valuable to the community, and I sure as hell learned from it and appreciated. Be that the company, or the lessons. I'll be sure to give back, somehow, someway during my life, as is this what makes us rational human beigns. We can always give back in a way and help eachother. Thanks for the journey Craig and Kenneth. Much love.

[@tomobedlam9045]

One year with my Covert Narcissist/Dismissive Avoidant: MONTH one : Great MONTH two : Greater, (mirroring begins,heavy love bombing starts...) MONTH three : Fabulous MONTH four : Heaven (I love you...) MONTH five : Seventh heaven, I have FINALLY met a wonderful person and she may be the one (I don't tell her this)... MONTH six : Mask starts to come off, lovebombing totally stopped, (devaluing starts...) MONTH seven : she's met many of my friends and they all like her a lot, full devalue/dismissive behavior, refusal to talk about issues by ignoring, what an odd feeling to have somebody just look at you, not say anything, and then just look away as if you don't even exist or disappeared while in their presence... MONTH eight : distancing/lying begins (gaslighting also), extreme passive/aggressive... MONTH nine : lying clearly shows, lies to cover lies, one-sided relationship at this point, still have yet to meet any of her friends, but she says she eventually will introduce me to... MONTH ten : Frustration sets in, gets old putting in all the effort and no, none, nada, zip reciprocity... MONTH eleven : Everything is my fault, still haven't met any of her friends, I go to counseling trying to figure out what's gone wrong, BEST decision I ever made... MONTH twelve : I left her for good, NO contact at all, PERIOD MONTH thirteen : MONTH fourteen : Her; closure letter mailed to me, yet, asks if I would like to see her again. (hoovering attempt) Me; Still NO contact, too late for her, I DO NOT RESPOND. Save yourselves if you start to get the first sign something is just not right. I'd rather deal with the Anti-Christ instead of a Covert Narcissist. Coverts are the worst type of Narcissist. Luckily, I only went through six months of it, but it was six months of relationship hell, but I was beginning to feel like I'm' the one that had issues. Never having dealt with these issues before, I learned words like projection, mirroring, gaslighting, love bombing, SELF-SABOTAGING, etc. She used to call her ex-husband a Narcissist and a Psychopath only to learn through counseling that she was the Narcissist. I was fortunate enough that I had healthcare that covered counseling for myself, since she did not feel she needed to go for relationship issues. I got out, but now I know what to look for. Low self-esteem, childhood issues, etc., All of which she told me about in her past. Any person who self sabotages a great relationship has issues. Understand these are usually from a young age onward. They have to fix themselves, but they usually won't, as it's easier to walk away.

[@donkndave7811]

What you are describing is Borderline Personality Disorder. Google it. :) Been there, done that.

[@MJ573]

Hits close to home...

[@halo091]

Why wouldn't she want you to meet her friend though can someone explain that reason? Is it jealousy paranoia fearing youd find one of them attractive?

[@herafoley2486]

Yea sounds like borderline personality

[@charliemvrphy]

Sounds like my ex.. she was telling me at the time of the break up that she wasn’t happy with her self, wasn’t happy with where her life was, and that I am an amazing man and we had an amazing relationship but I shouldn’t wait for her to fix her issues.. I was with her for 5 years and engaged for a year and a half. 6 months post break up, I miss her and love her but I have given her the break up and the space and have actively moved forward with my life and I pray that she can find happiness and love within herself. If it’s meant to be, it will be.

[@charliemvrphy]

Sam M just focus on yourself for the time being. I’m 6 months in and I am much stronger than I was 3 months ago. Never stop loving yourself!

[@anthonyaaron4332]

John Murphy did she ever come back. Same boat here

[@yeoldeseamonster]

Also me and I’d love an update. He even said he loves me as I left his moms house. I tried to create a friendship with him right after out of desperation for the connection we used to have and his coldness was excruciating so I’ve been in NC ever since. Some days are easier than others. I love him and miss him but we can’t wait for people to want to put in the work. Not if we want a life worth living.

[@dwightschrute8141]

@@charliemvrphy update?

[@charliemvrphy]

@@dwightschrute8141 been about 2 years and I’ve moved on. Still miss and love her but onto bigger and better things.

[@seanrooney170]

Been in no contact for 4 months. I'm just completely done trying to get her back. Last we spoke I said it would be nice to catch up when isolation is over. She said yeah and that she has a lot of people to catch up with. In my eyes she blew me off. So I'm trying to forget about her

[@andrewtobin8316]

You said you were in no contact but you spoke?

[@seanrooney170]

@@andrewtobin8316 yeah that's correct I had to break it to sort out a small finance matter. Got it sorted and there was a few friendly back and forths so I mentioned catching up but the way she answered was like she didn't say no bu didn't really confirm yes so I am just forgetting about it. She knows where I stand and if she wants to catch up she can call me. Otherwise I'm not contacting her again or talking again unless its necessary

[@andrewtobin8316]

Dont contact her ever again.... My ex contacted me about money she owed me and we had a couple of friendly exchanges, the last text I sent was asking about her work and she didn't reply... Me and you both know if they wanted us they would be in our orbit

[@seanrooney170]

@@andrewtobin8316 yeah she has said a few times she wants to remain friends. I didn't agree but I didn't decline. Therefore if she wants to stay in my life through the friend route she will contact me. When and if she does I will tell her how I feel and that being "just friends" is going to hurt in the long run and if she changes her mind she knows where to find me. I do believe feelings are still strongly there between both of us as the breakup wasn't horrible it just was what it was sort of thing. Idk 😂😂 right now I'm just moving forward

[@NepseN95]

same for me bro 4 months hardest time in my life, but we live once and im given up on her now the good life can start.

[@dark.cloutchfoute2994]

WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS MAKE ME REALIZE HOW MUCH I SCREWED UP WHILE BEING WITH MY EX. I REALLY WISH I HAD FOUND YOU BEFORE SHE DUMPING ME. GREAT IS THE JOB YOU ARE MAKING, I REALLY HOPE POEPLE FOLLOW AND DO WHAT YOU TEACH. GOD BLESS YOU MAN.

[@2twinpop]

How about doing a video about what the dumper feels after the second breakup. Can NC work the second time around?

[@andrasziegenham6766]

After watching videos about 16 hrs/day for weeks I'd say yes, it can work twice, but why did you break up again? The most important thing Coach Craig says over other coaches is that you must work on yourself (especially relationship skills) during your downtime or you are doomed to repeat your mistakes when your chance comes. So if by NC you mean just sitting back and waiting, then no, it doesn't work. If by NC you mean endlessly improving yourself, then yes it works. (And in that case it always works, even if you don't get the ex back, because your next relationship will be a lot better if you did the work on yourself.)

[@2twinpop]

@@andrasziegenham6766 I've been listening to Craig for the last 1 1/2 years, trust me the last thing I am doing is waiting around for him. My ex had insecurities/anger issues and broke up with me. I was ok with it, I told him he needs to work on those issues or he would never be happy in any relationship. I didn't beg or plead, I let him go peacefully and never contacted him again. I moved on with my life, got a new BF( we broke up) , when exactly a year later he came back. We talked only as friends for a few months when he asked me to get back together. He said he changed, worked on his insecurities and his anger issues. I believed him and thought maybe it could work out this time so I accepted him back.. Soon I started realizing he really hadn't changed , I could see he still had anger issues. Our personalitys clashed, we just aren't compatible and once again he broke up with me. I have not spoken to him and been in NC since April 2nd. I am moving on with life and by no means "waiting around for him and doing nothing" but honestly I do miss him because when we were getting along he was a great guy. If the opportunity arises and he comes back I would definitely recommend we do some sort of couple therapy so we learn how to deal with each other but if I never see him again I am Ok with that too. I know I am far from perfect but in the end I think if a person really likes and wants to be with you it shouldn't be that difficult.

[@Dad_Brad]

Next months marks the 1 year anniversary of my breakup with my ex gf. I’m aware that I’m already starting to have automatic negative thoughts about it, and low mood. I knew it might happen but I’m still surprised at how powerful it is, even though I’ve healed a lot over the last year. Glad to see a few more new videos. 👍

[@astridpaints]

Hi coach! My girlfriend seems very distant, she ignores me and throw some jabs at me through social media. She is cold because i have opened up my emotions to other girl as i panicked that she'll leave me. I used to asked if "are we still together" and she answered she cannot answer that. Its been a month now and she is still ignoring me and posts stuffs as if its over now. She does not want to talk about it as she ignores my question regarding that. Should i initiate the break up and proceed to no contact immediately or try to work things out because technically, we are not officialy broken up yet. thanks

[@JackChoros]

I can't help but think that my ex is sabotaging our relationship. She was married in a toxic relationship for 10 years and has three kids with autism and she broke up with me suddenly at the height of the passion and the romance totally still in the infatuation phase. It's only been a few weeks and I miss her so much. I also have a disability so I can relate to her kids and her own struggles and I just want to be with her. I bought your workbooks Craig I can't afford to pay you for Skype sessions but I think you and Margaret are great! I am so in love with this woman it's not even funny she is absolutely amazing and so persevering. Her uncle died and she also got diagnosed with the early signs of blindness from diabetes. She's dealing with so much but I love her smile and our deep conversations and I want her back so badly.

[@marcuslopez9373]

I seriously wish i wasn't going through this. I miss my ex sooo much! I'm currently in no contact. I pray one day I'm able to to attract my ex back in my life. I'm doing my best to push forward with my life. I'm trying to save up money for a car, and pay off my credit card at the moment. It's been a year since the break up but, i can't help but feel a little sad right now. God, please give me the strength to get through this.

[@dwightschrute8141]

Update?

[@pizmomartinez3876]

Margaret margaret MARGARET!!! Perfect .... my gf of 1 year 6 months has left AGAIN ... its been about 10 days now and it feels like 10 months ... she did this a good amount of times ... always called herself ugly and that she was getting fat ... never wanted to go into the stores with me or where there might be to much people etc. i love her from the bottom of my heart i wish i knew how serious those comments were.... any help on how to get them better? Do they have to do it alone? Just hurts to hear that ... makes me want to run to her and squeeze her tight .... please help

[@aspire_victory832]

Craig, what do you think of the 12 week breakup recovery period, can you do a video? A lot of coaches and magazines are saying it take around 3 months to heal from a breakup. So your ex will. Move on after this

[@gregoryjwhite7]

Excellent video Coaches!

[@suggaanbroot7571]

Its been 8months n still hoping fr her call 😞😞😞

[@CurrentPulse]

suggaan broot same. I Hope things get better and go better for you.

[@suggaanbroot7571]

Tq....... Couldnt move on although its been months without her n couldnt even go for any others... There's no happiness 😞

[@CurrentPulse]

suggaan broot I can relate, same here. 8months this month since he left me for the monkey branch. Trying to focus on bettering myself but still feel really empty.

[@suggaanbroot7571]

@@CurrentPulse 😩😩

[@hanielstones]

My Ex is now flirting with a new man in just 3 weeks after breaking up with me, and I totally need this vid for my NC. Thank you coach Craig and coach Margaret This is a bit embarassing but I have a question coach Craig. I'm planning to get the 1-10 workbooks, will the price change in the future? I want to avail the discounted price but is currently short because of this pandemic :( Stay safe and be strong everyone, we got this!

[@LightOfReason7]

YES, very good coach Margaret!

[@Nikolas-qh3zk]

I was dating a girl for a month - she hit on me, I asked for coffee and from then let her did 80% of the work. I could tell she was not over her ex, even though she referred to him with anger, but this just shows she's not mentally really for a relationship. Constant comparisons on how I'm way better, her hero, how much she loves etc. He was abusive to her and stalks her still at her house. Next day in the morning after a great date she calls me crying saying she wants to stop seing each other and doesn't want me to wait for her. It's obvious I was her rebound and she used me to get over her ex, but she still has feelings for him so she decided to break things up. Went no contact for a month, made the mistake to call her (she didn't expect me to call) and haven't heard from her since (2 months).

[@pinksalt1057]

Run away, move on. She didn't respect you at all. And another man involved? Run, fast.

[@Nikolas-qh3zk]

@@pinksalt1057 Indeed. Still going no contact!

[@VyLe-zw6oq]

Is it too late to do No Contact after 1 month I begged and pledded her by texts, I found your videos after 1 month. May I still have any chances? Please respond me Coach.

[@heatherrussell2634]

Thank you Margaret & Craig. You’re always helpful to me.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Heather Resell, you're absolutely gorgeous 💓💓💓❤❤❤🌹🌹🌹and I will be glad to know you

[@heatherrussell2634]

Oscar Williamson thanks that’s sweet of you. I’m 42... old lol

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

@@heatherrussell2634 you're welcome my dearest 💓💓❤❤🌹🌹🌹🌹.I'm Oscar Williamson from Alabama, USA. Are you on hangout or gmail so we can always talk privately?

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

@@heatherrussell2634 you're welcome my dearest 💓💓❤❤🌹🌹🌹🌹.I'm Oscar Williamson from Alabama, USA. Are you on hangout or gmail so we can always talk privately?

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

@@heatherrussell2634 I'm still waiting for your reply my dearest

[@Calida2308]

Yeah my ex sabotaged in November.. N dumped me early December.. Got with someone else 3 days after dumping me.. But not intended. N I always wondered why he destroy tht sweet moment we had back tht time

[@alfiewest2858]

Watching previous videos, I see you say ‘let them come to you, don’t come to them’. Me and my ex still have each others stuff at each other’s. Does this mean when it comes to it and she messages me about exchanging our stuff, I tell her to come to mine?

[@dantheeraiderfan1974]

Recent break up a week ago. just found your video yesterday I did already break the no contact rule she was not mean about it she is hurting to. I am going to stick with NC I just hope it's not to late

[@tejvirkaur13]

Can you make a video regarding brutal physical child abuse at the hands of a parent and how that trauma effects your relationships when you're older? Or if there already is a video regarding this, can you please let me know below?

[@petrphan]

Hey Craig, love your work. Could you please make a video about recognizing direct/indirect and give some examples? Like how do I know if it is a legitimate request or if he s just trying to contact me? Thank you

[@traviseversole]

Hi Coach Craig and Coach Margaret, So, after 3 months of no contact, I got a “hey” text out of the blue. I didn’t reply right away, so she sent another saying “I just wanted to see what you were up to, but okay.” After a couple of hours, I responded. We exchanged a few texts and she ended the conversation with “Well, I’ll let you get back to work. I just wanted to see what you were up to.” The next morning, the same. This followed for about 3 days. On the fourth day, I got an apology text from her saying “I’m sorry for the heartache I put you through. I was selfish and didn’t consider anyone’s feelings but my own. I left you with no closure or anything. I’m really sorry and I hope you know that. This was on my heart today.” I replied back with “I really appreciate you saying that with a 💜 (because that’s her favorite color). She replied with Welcome 💙 (because that’s my favorite color). I haven’t heard from her in about 3 days. What the hell was she trying to do? I was doing great focusing on myself and my goals and this has me a bit confused. Thanks for all you do!

[@taniawilliams14]

Travis Eversole she is hoping to open up reconciliation and hoping you say something to her next ...

[@globalmark3300]

Hi mate - from what i can gather from many sites and research she has reached out but now up to you - you need to ask her for a coffee or something light and short , dont call it a date, and dont talk about relationship unless she brings it up first then keep short and light , then just slowly redate her , Lucky you as i am waiting for my Ex's second reach out so i can ask her for a coffee but mine - she will do it soon ...

[@traviseversole]

globalmark I would do that, but after the breakup, I moved to Florida and she’s back in Tennessee.. 800 miles away.

[@globalmark3300]

@@traviseversole So - only Plane or bus ride - sit on a bus overnight or short flight if get that far , in mean time skype/face time dates work - dont let distance be a excuse if you both want it - dont let fear of distance stop you at least try - contact her mate or lose her as she made enough moves to show her interest it seems

[@maintainmonty7223]

My ex has been all over my families social media since she broke up with me (over 2 months ago) and even going as far as messaging my mom. She removed me so I can’t see hers, so what is the point of that? She want to be left alone but won’t stay away.

[@aguy4401]

Hey coach I purchased an email with you but don't know if I did it right? I emailed you 5 days ago and feel like I did it wrong?

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

My demand is even higher than usual. I’m trying to get caught up! Be patient

[@aguy4401]

@@CoachCraigKenneth thank you Coach Didn't mean to rush you, just thought I did it wrong

[@teddyboy9116]

Course we understand why the relationship ended!...it takes 2 people to make and break any partnership

[@ddt4v3]

Even though we’d been having some disagreements prior to us stopping seeing each other , She said she was obsessed with me and was thinking about me becoming her boyfriend . We was exclusive at that stage 4 months in. I wasn’t rushing anything . She’d just come out of a long 5 year relationship and had been hurt . Maybe this was a huge factor. She told me she was scared of being hurt and loving and losing someone again. A week later it was over. This happened in November last year and I still haven’t got over it if I’m honest.

[@l.k.1111]

Thank you sooo much for this one (and all of your videos), saved me from going in a downward spiral and has worked for me many times before (the no contact and self improvement). So grateful...you guys do help people. God bless🙏😇🙏

[@kartikeybhardwaj492]

Can someone answer me??? ..MY Ex broke up with me about 40 days ago. A lot of things has been going on since that day. We were together since 2014... These few things are happening: She is friends with me on social media. Hasnt unfollowed and once she blocked me on whatsapp after an argument nd after two days herself unblocked me and apologized. 2. Told me to tell and also telling her friends and our mutuals that we didnt seperate instead we are focusing on ourselves right now rather than on relation for 1-2 years. She says she wont tell anyone that we broke up as she thinks people will think wrong about us and our relation. 3. Was posting my Countdown for birthday on instagram. She told my sister that she did this because she doesnt want to make me feel left out or unwanted. 4. Says not to talk to her anymore but herself texts me askng me to play online games and then asking me how am i doing and how is my family. 5. Asks me to meet as soon as lockdown is over. 6. Is telling me to focus on myself right now and secure our future... 7. Apologized me for being too harsh and also for.being too mean sometimes. And also called me thricee on my birthday. 8 .Asked me to delete pics in which we are together because she asked me whenever we start new it show be a fresh start. What should i do to get her back???

[@TonySkiens]

The question is, after they’ve left, how do you convince them you are still attracted to them? Is it too late and you just have to use NC until they get back their confidence?

[@Bebly]

I'd like to know what you guys think about my situation. To be brief, I have saved some dignity, I think. No begging or grandiose gestures. I let her have the space but stated that I would want to try to get back together. Three months of indefinite no contact later and I have totally flipped my mindset, but she doesn't know that... Should I say anything? Or should I only mention that in the event it comes up in the future, if it ever does. We were really good friends and no violence, minimal arguing, overall. So, she probably assumes I'm on the back burner or the bench when I couldn't force myself to accept money to bless her with my presence. Should I send a text conveying such, or should I just wait for it to be relevant before I say that I'm likely never going to be open to rekindling our romance? I don't wanna hurt her or anything too intense but I do feel like I should express myself. Idk. I am doing way better than usual, even with the quarantine shit, so I'm just being genuine. I hope everyone is doing well and loving with brains as much as thinking with your hearts.

[@brandonh32]

Can you guys do a video over covert narcissist? This is brutal

[@capemaysteven]

Can a avoidance attachement grief the lose before hand, she left me for a new guy but doesnt trust him cuz he is a player. She says she doesnt want any of this but cant help her feelings. She wants to be free, and I kept begging and calling. Now she wants to be friends and told me she doesnt regret the break up and misses me. But she wants me to heal for what ever comes next. Is she completely over me?

[@donkndave7811]

Yes. She does not value you as a potential boyfriend. The ONLY way you can get out of this is to tell her you don't want to be friends, but let you know if she changes her mind about being in a romantic, loving relationship. and then go NO CONTACT. Stay strong and move on... if they miss you they will contact you.

[@ivysabregz1518]

Don't settle for less.

[@capemaysteven]

And she going after a guy she met when we were dating I completely blocked her even her number. She was pissed off st me for not wishin her happy birthday then wished me happy birthday and wished the best for me over text and I just said thanks ans blocked her

[@msdownunder]

What about if the partner was a 'narcissist'? Would be great if there was a video that touches on that subject. Why do we obsess over a narcisstic partner? Should one pursue to try and get that partner back? Does 'no contact' work on partner who are narcissistic or display some narcissistic behaviours?

[@kelsebreedlove2494]

My ex was an adviodant , she asked me when she broke uo with me ..why do I love her ? Why do I put up with her .

[@dwightschrute8141]

Update?

[@Bitbitbitil]

coach craig, can you also talk about missed signals, forexample my ex told me only time will tell if we ever come back together and maybe we are wrong people at wrong time. isnt hes thinking about if grass is greener in other side? can you please talk about this

[@mrcrowz8614]

I need help, I've pushed her away so much she messaged today saying ive pushed so far and she knows I care but she needs to focus on herself and her child and find herself. I just need to accept it, you haven't helped yourself you have just pushed me further away. All you had to do was back off and give me time. I tried nc and I gave in after 19 days I lost all emotional self control. Can nc work again... I love her so much

[@milefunelly]

mr crowz Time Time, give it time!

[@mrcrowz8614]

@@milefunelly I just want her to understand that I care and the more I do the more she pulls away.. She's so cold now and she is just a different person. It makes me sad seeing this.

[@milefunelly]

mr crowz Listen to what Coach Craig and Margarete say and teach. The more you run after her, the more she is going to flee from you. Go into no contact and work on yourself. Give her time to miss you. You’ve shown her how much you care already, so now let her come to you, when SHE is ready!

[@xStarrLights]

Exactly the same scenario for me! I didn’t understand what happened, messaged just to try to get us on better terms & she said I haven’t given her any space and it’s pushed her away :/ I panicked then & tried to explain I’m not doing it to annoy her I’m just trying to let us end on good terms as there’s no need for us to hate each other, but she went cold & just won’t reply.. and now I feel horrible for pushing it

[@mrcrowz8614]

@@milefunelly I get that, I've bought the workbooks 1-5 and am getting threw them.. I've also started doing 10 min meditation to try relieve my mind of this anxiety and I think I need to learn how to be patient 😌

[@ashtinsaunders409]

Hi coach Craig, I’ve been wanting to pursue a career sort of like yours and I’m finding it hard to find information on the internet about it. If you are interested in career mentoring or refer me to someone who would be willing to I’d greatly appreciate it.

[@kevinzhao5148]

Am I supposed to restart no contact after I broke it the first attempt ?

[@kevinzhao5148]

Was 17 days in

[@sreach93]

Do dumpers ever do your workbooks ? If the don't and the relationship is rekindled and the dumpee has done the workbooks, wouldn't that have the dumpee miles in front of the dumper, which might create an imbalance assuming the dumper also has flaws ( most do) and has learnt nothing during the breakup and usually continues on the cycle of dump and replace

[@aspire_victory832]

What happens if you can't recall your caregivers faces to soothe your anxiety

[@michaelcolvin8702]

I beat my self up cause of affair I had but come find out she was talking to other men. All that time. She blamed me for everything reflecting it to me. While she wanted take a break I made sure if for herself or see others. Found out she was dating and got very kissed and found a lot out

[@kunakos9062]

What do you think about shcizoid personality disorder? As far as i know you have to have 4 out of 7 characteristics to classify as such I think i have all 7 xP Where do people usually go to officially test this sort of thing?

[@tristramcoffin7240]

my ex says she misses me. what do i say

[@PipSqueekOG]

Say thank you.

[@williambelchoff2992]

Give her another chance

[@skvideos2906]

Hey craig I broke up with my gf after nearly 1 year of brkup. I had done begging and pleading for 5 days before I saw your video. So I had started No contact starting today. But the prblm is my birthday and her birthday are coming in first week of May. So I just want to know what to do if she contact me on my birthday to wish me and if I should contact her on her birthday. Plzz respond to me

[@PipSqueekOG]

Let her contact you and kindly respond. Keep your response under hers, as in less emotional

[@PipSqueekOG]

Might be the hardest thing to do.

[@skvideos2906]

Yes you are absolutely right 😅

[@trinco3713]

hi Craig, I have looked at your site. i wanted to purchase the workbooks. But is it true it is only possible to pay with credit card? Maybe make it available to pay with paypal?

[@swiftytheswift6036]

Hello coach, i just had a quick question i hoped you could answer. Im currently doing no contact with my ex and i did it for 7 days but yesterday i had an urgent question i really needed answered and she is the only one i could get it from since the nature of my question is her actual profession. Anyways i sent her a text and she responded almost instantly, after which she asked me how i'm doing. I kept it short and laid back and told her everything was okay, and that we could talk in person. She said she does not mind that but that it is still too early for her to meet. Is this a good thing? I responded with a *if you ever wanna talk about anything don't be scared to talk to me, i won't bite. Good night.* and left it at that, later she posted sad posts on social media. Was my response in any way bad? I wouldn't break no contact and will not but i really had to ask that question for something work-related. Thank you for your awesome videos and support you give me strength in those cold lonely nights :)!!! Keep up the awesome work!

[@abhanshul]

she said she loved me but she had her inferiority complex for quite a few things, may every arguement we had she must have exaggerated her complex and couldn't deal with it and dumped me to feel better may be.

[@seeflow]

Anshul, she dumped you because she found a shiny toy, aka a new screw partner. They’re all the same.

[@abhanshul]

@@seeflow true that, its very painful that after 10 years of commitment she found someone else more "compatible" than me. i was just a loyal fool.

[@AbdulRasheed-jq9xi]

I was dating a girl for a year, we were exclusive just not official, recently she said how she’d hope to be more serious by now as it’s been a year - I was dealing with some issues unbeknown to her, she felt very very strongly towards me, I also liked her too. I’ve sorted these issues and I’m currently in no contact(almost two weeks) I know she’s speaking to other people now but I just wanted to get peoples opinion on it? I’d never take an ex back but I feel like in this given scenario I would due to the context, how’d you reckon she feels?

[@eddielugo8143]

i want to do a coach with you guys am local to you guys where is your location?

[@scotmockup]

Craig or Margret probably won’t respond so I would appreciate anyone’s opinion on this.. married 20 years, separated 8 months.. she’s in another relationship.. semi no contact due to dog and kids.. Should I send a thoughtful Mother’s Day card thanking her for being an amazing mother to my kids? Reason - She feels I took her for granted and never appreciated her.. when we do have contact I’m acting non interested like I’m moving on.. feels like I need a way to show her some appreciation? Thanks to anyone for feedback.

[@sophiaeuphoria8063]

Dear Craig! Please, I would highly appreciate your answer. I’m in 1 month NC and I was added in some random group chat, where my ex was added too after me. I was afraid that people would ask questions because almost nobody there knew we broke up. So I left the chat immediately and my ex saw it:( Is it something I should worry about? Is it breaking NC? I feel so anxious rn ((

[@summerscents8284]

It's your choice and you don't owe anyone an explanation. If someone PMs you, tell this person the truth. If a follow up question is raised - just say it just didn't workout. That's it. Continue no contact. Hope this helps.

[@sophiaeuphoria8063]

Thank u darling!!! Wish you all the best and stay safe during quarantine! Love from Russia

[@summerscents8284]

Stay safe too! Thank you, sweetie!

[@aaronparks9548]

Idk what u think "don't tread on me" was a hilarious pun

[@deputy5476]

My exes dad told her she is unlovable and that’s why she has been abused

[@viyau]

Love her !!!

[@mrcrowz8614]

I'm going to book a Skype asap

[@cathyroman1739]

Nick left her because of what? She was thinking bad thoughts about herself and Nick didnt know it, then Nick left her but didnt know why he left her......?????

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Cathy Roman, you're absolutely gorgeous 💓💓💓💓❤🌹🌹🌹and I will be glad to know you

[@zuhaabid2514]

I hate the fact that I’m not the first one today

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Look at this motivation 😉

[@zuhaabid2514]

In love with your channel big time!

[@mrcrowz8614]

I have been watching videosall day and every night and listening to them while I sleep since April 1st soon as anything appears on the page I'm like a hawk. And to be honest what a video for me today its like fate.. She literally messaged me at 10am your pushing me away... These vids when we broke up.. I have to say have been my rock these past few weeks and honestly I would be in a much worse position then I am now.. Just wish I had more self control, I have 1-5 of the knowledge work books which I got 4 days ago but my anxiety seems to control my behavior. I was so strong willed when we broke up, now I'm getting worse and worse.. It's like a roller-coaster.

[@milefunelly]

Second!😅