I Think About Breaking No Contact Every Day

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Margaret and I have not seen each other in person since our last filming session. Just a few Skype calls with each other. We are both in quarantine right now. She is doing well and we are both being very cautious! Hopefully you all are as well :)

[@rebekahtinker9486]

Glad you are both safe and well....thumbs up from the UK.

[@None_of_your_business666]

Seriously, it'd be great if you record a video conference. Btw Craig. Thank you for all this knowledge.

[@feliciagermany8620]

My ex broke up with me. He had me thinking we can work thinking out if I work on myself. I learned that after breaking up for a month, she was in another relationship with a younger women. It's been 6ths since the break up but since breaking up i ve gotten closer with her mother. I latched on to her mom out of hurt from losing her. She was there for me, helping me through the heart ache of the break up. I see her we've had dinner, she was spending the night then she went back to her rebound. Live been depressed and confuse since because she say that in order for her to take me serious i have to marry her. How can i do that if we are not spendingbtime

[@williamstone8820]

I do think about breaking no contact everyday but I don't. At first I did, it was a week and then 2 weeks and then I found your videos and I been watching them since. I have taken all your videos to heart and I re-watch them multiple times for the past month and a half, you and Margaret are very uplifting and I watch yalls videos so I can stay positive and not so depressed. I been trying to work on myself and keep a positive mind I'm just scared that I will lose her and each day that passes makes me feel that I won't get another chance. Its been 2 and a half months since the break up and it feels like it's getting harder, no text, no nothing, she deleted me off snapchat but still has me as a friend on fb, she told me to let her know how things go but also told me to let her get ahold of me....so that confuses me and when I did reach out and tried to let her know how things where going and still didn't get a reply and after about 2 weeks I sent her a message telling her i respected her decision about the break up (that's the short version) and still nothing and haven't sent a text since... I don't cry anymore but its still hard. She told me a lot of things during the break up which makes me hold on to hope and your videos make me hold on even more. I just pray that we do work things out. Our relationship was more good than bad and when we did break up she told me that she wasn't going to stop loving me over night, its just the fear of losing her...i have separation anxiety and I used to blame it on my past relationships but watching your videos i come to realize its from my childhood...was separated from my dad at 2, mom passed away at 13 and in between i really didn't get much time with my mom dew to her working all the time taking care of 4 kids and her disabled ex-husband (not my dad). I'm doing a lot of the steps you have spoken of in the videos you have posted and I'm trying to stay strong but my ex is a very strong independent woman and has a strong mindset, she does have a lot going on in her life other then dealing with me when we were together and me being selfish wanting her attention all the time knowing she couldn't give it to me because she is a 2nd Lieutenant in the Air Force but I still did and she asked me not to do it but I still did and I now know why I did it...its because unconsciously i didn't want to lose her and knowing she is in the military not knowing when she might be leaving i was wanting all the time and attention I could get....and on top of all the stress she was already under I put more on her with me doing that so she told me she needed time and spaces she can figure out things and work on the things she's dealing with. She means so much to me she inspired me to be a better person for myself so we could grow together and I did a 180 with my life so I could grow with her and have an amazing future with her. I really do hope these steps and advice works Coach Craig because she means the world to me and I would do anything to make her happy and be part of her life once again.

[@paweskrzypczak6708]

Dear Craig, I’m following your advise, I’m in no contact. My ex broke up with me, but i have a problem now, after 3 weeks my ex unlocked me on whatsapp but she don't write anything. She is avoidant. Should I write to her?

[@domcovers8729]

Best advice in no contact...turn that attention your giving to them onto yourself! Love yourself! No one that decides to hurt or leave you deserves your attention. Good luck!

[@logitech4365]

I improved my life and I still watch these videos two years later....

[@lovingme6896]

we are back together and happier and healthier than ever! The work books really helped me.

[@user-ev4jg5dk2k]

So happy for you. How long did you go NC and what was the reason of the breakup if you don’t mind sharing?

[@laurarodriguez2548]

That’s awesome! I am thinking about getting the workbooks - What do you think about them helped you the most??

[@MrRennuj34]

Any update? Currently losing hope

[@gaoang3391]

Markool any updates currently I’m also losing hopes 😣😣😣

[@MrRennuj34]

@@gaoang3391 my ex has been texting me, but I am kinda over him so I don't respond to his texts. I asked how he is doing before and he told me that he is moving to my state. Idk what the reason behind that but I am into this new person i am talking. lol.

[@ALuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu]

Actually what keeps me in no contact is the fear of rejection more than anything which transfers to not even engaging in conversations with other potential dates. It is totally fine, I focus on myself because I have neglected that for a long time now. Thank you Coach.

[@peachezridesolo9300]

ALuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu I feel the same way like you will not get the satisfaction of rejecting me again,period.

[@hennylo68]

Yup the same here. I know she isn't going to answer the phone or reply to my texts which will make me feel horrible again, so what's the point of contacting her? Just to feel rejected again. Might as well just leave her alone.

[@NotYourTypicalMermaid94]

I only hope my ex is safe and knows that I'm cheering for him. I miss him but I miss myself too. Maybe one day we might talk again.

[@NotYourTypicalMermaid94]

@@SteveGad I try I try :)

[@graver7]

I wish I could tell her that even though we had a sad ending, even if I get a little angry sometimes, I always just want the very best life for her. I hope you do talk to him one day, if it's what you want.

[@NotYourTypicalMermaid94]

@@graver7 you wish for her in your thoughts just like I'm doing for my ex

[@tr9809]

I think you lose a sense of self after a breakup

[@dwightschrute8141]

@@NotYourTypicalMermaid94 update?

[@loverofbeautifulthings]

"If you give them a fix, it will stop the process." I NEED TO MAKE THIS MY DAILY MANTRA (thank you sweet angel, Coach Margaret!!)

[@mrcrowz8614]

Hearing Margaret explain this about avoidants literally brings a tear to my eye... My ex is avoidant and I miss her so much 😢

[@wnt2kiss]

@@axelbriggjern3534 same here..I didn't realize he was an avoidant. They just turn all feelings off. Haven't heard from him in 6 months.

[@wnt2kiss]

@@axelbriggjern3534 Same.. just cant make sense of it.

[@VermontV8]

Every video is like a therapy session, makes me feel a little better

[@ponokunishima1]

Same here with me! Would be better if it’s live.

[@ett2]

I've used the last year to heal from my 3 year relationship. Met a wonderful person 3 months ago whom has been an absolute blessing. Out of nowhere I'm dumped almost a year to the day. I swear I can't catch a damn break. Back to watching your videos...

[@JelenaVecic024]

44 days in NC... damn its killing me.. and i am still forcing myself not to contact ex.. it is difficult and yes i do work on myself , but that emotional rollercoaster is killing me..ups and downs... :( today i feel pretty depressive and 2 days ago i was fine..but every single day i think about my ex..last thing on my mind before i fall a sleep is my ex and every morning i think about ex... i miss good morning msgs..

[@graver7]

Over 6 months for me now. I still think about her every day. It is indeed a rollercoaster, even now. I miss the good morning messages so much, and listening to her fall asleep each night. I'm sorry it's like this for us and I hope you feel better soon.

[@JelenaVecic024]

@@graver7 6months is long period of time.. i hope so that i will somehow heal by then... i miss my ex so much..

[@graver7]

@@JelenaVecic024 It's different for everyone. I don't know if healing means you'll never miss him. I know I'm in for a very long road, but I hope that you feel better soon. Just give yourself the time you need.

[@hennylo68]

@@JelenaVecic024 I hope so also. I got dumped after 4 years. I've beed reading on how long it will take to get over them and experts have said it will take half the amount of time you were together to get over her. Damn I hope not. I don't want to feel this way for 2 more years.

[@rickcope3226]

@@hennylo68 one year for every 7

[@Elmaffo2008]

Gotta work on yourself. I'm honest on myself, put up some goals, accepted my flaws. Now I see clearly what is in my control aka me. Love yourself give love to yourself like you'd give it to the person you'd want to be with and be whole. Watch how things kick into gear for you. I pray for everyone here to get on the journey again, enjoy it and be honest especially to yourself.

[@BadPigeon]

This couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you Coach. I got my ex back right before the virus locked everyone down and she left again and this time it just seems so permanent. I'm fighting every day not to contact her and its killing me. And it's only been a week since I talked to her. Lend me your strength man. Thank you for all the knowledge. I wish I could afford to do a coaching.

[@summerscents8284]

You're not alone! You wouldn't believe what I've gone through. We can do this!

[@BadPigeon]

Thank you! I realized after this last time we got back together, after doing SO much work on myself through the help of these videos, that she has a LOT of issues she needs to work on as well. I still love her very very much, and I hope she does what she needs to do to get well.

[@summerscents8284]

I know the feeling :(

[@andrewtobin8316]

@@summerscents8284 ditto

[@hennylo68]

@@BadPigeon You aren't the only one. My ex broke up with me. I left her alone, didn't beg or plead or chase. Just went in no contact. After 3 weeks she came back saying she missed me. We spent the weekend together and got into a huge fight and she broke it off again. It's been almost a month of no contact again. Once again the waiting game.

[@paulyname]

I love Margaret, i want to hug her. These two people help me at a peak moment. I no longer listened to their videos like 5 months ago, except today that I specifically thought (it happens sometimes) about sending him a message and they always appear as earthly angels. I was like 3 months without seeing a video of them, however I want to say that they really help. I am better, much better, I do not know what is going to happen but I am better, give time and that time is yours and use it for yourself. I wish my ex the best, I love him, I miss him and I command light and love to him. And to you that read this.

[@jehan9]

I just want to motivate you, ladies and gentlemen. I got broken up with about a month ago, I’m avoidant and have communication issues. He reached out after 2 weeks saying he miss me and he wants to see me. Working on myself at the moment. We’ll see where it goes.

[@MTG9878]

J J avoidance is tough to overcome, I believe my ex is avoidant, she is a great lady, I know what I did to trigger her avoidance and I respect you for working on yourself. It’s a hard journey try a place called the personal development school.

[@jehan9]

Modern Tactical Gentleman Thank you for the recommendation. I just checked out the page and will definitely look into it! I hope everything works out for you and your dear one. Hang in there!

[@cherryshen3853]

@j j What if the avoidant man was pissed in the beginning when you still ask him to come back and didn’t give him time and space, does NC afterwards still work at that point?

[@jehan9]

Cherry Shen I have been broken up twice, the first one was because I found out something he was hiding and he turned the blame on me. I begged and begged, showed up at his place you name it, he (avoidant) never reached out but learning from our coaches, I kept working on myself and now I realized that I do not want a relationship with someone like him. From watching Coach Kenneth’s and Maggie’s videos, no contact is to give them the space they asked for and to work on yourself. It’s just the mature thing to do. Respect their decision and take care of you.

[@rickcope3226]

@@cherryshen3853 first of all. Do not ask anybody to come back. Led them take the lead. Become as detached as you possibly can

[@GDawg257]

My avoidant ex broke no contact 16 days after she broke up with me by text during the quarantine. She texted around 1 in the morning saying that she wanted to see how everything was. The next day I said that everything was good and that I've been really productive and she said that's good. A couple of nights later, she texted me around 3 in the morning saying that she couldn't stop crying over me and that she missed me although she knows she made the right decision. When I responded in the morning, she said that she didn't understand why she was okay at times and upset at times. I told her it was natural and we carried along a short conversation about it. Once I saw her trying to end the conversation, I sent her a polite text saying that it would be best for us to not contact each other for a while in order to let us move on. I thought texting her would bring me comfort, when it only brought out anxiety as she wasn't engaged in the conversation. I realized she just texted me to get her fix and to make herself feel better in the moment which is unfair to me. I feel like I handled the situation well and I'm not sure if she will reach out again in the future but that's okay, I am growing and bettering myself. No contact really works and your ex does miss you!

[@IversonGR]

drinking game:take a shot everytime craig talks about the apple bees girl

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

I’d lose 😜

[@logitech4365]

So funny.....

[@LisaArmitage]

IversonGR yes!!!!!!!!!!! 🤣🤣

[@EasterIslander13]

@@CoachCraigKenneth you're cool as hell man lol you have helped me and some of my friends

[@haroldfinch3999]

😂😂😂😂

[@Thelonglostginger]

Just finished all of the no contact playlist! Wow I have been feeling terrible since the broke up and have decided to deactivate all social media platforms and it's like a huge weight has been lifted from my chest! Thank you for all your amazing advice.

[@zuhaabid2514]

Coach Margaret you were missed ❤️

[@logitech4365]

I appreciate you Craig... After watching your videos for two years I thank you.... I wish you could get people to watch without giving them false hope lol You're awesome man... You changed my life and i tell people that. In my situation the woman became so narcissistic with me that even if she missed me she could never admit her faults and contact me..... So it was just a lost relationship. I have a success story even though I still miss the fake love she gave me.... I've realized that I just have to be single possibly forever because female narcissism is too rampant.... I must not be good looking enough or something. The good news is that because of my breakup I got my life together. I am in the best shape of my life and I now have a career. I have a new car, new career, and even a new smile as I got braces for my teeth. I learned how to manage my anxiety..... And although I still have rough days..... Its been two years and I have changed. I'd like to write you my story to hear your take on it in a video..... I wanted to skype with you just for my own pleasure..... I just haven't created the opportunity financially yet.....

[@summerscents8284]

It's like hearing my parents (RIP) speak to me from these two awesome people. It is truly heartwarming hearing from them each time. Thank you for the strength. I badly needed this today.

[@mickeyasommerfeld2026]

It’s been 3 months of no contact since my person broke things off. She needs more time to heal from past relationship hurt before me. I’ve watched your videos and others to help me through this process. It took everything in me to not reach out on her birthday this past December, then Christmas and now as I write this, less than an hour away from New Years 2021. I’m not gonna lie, I’m struggling very much so and it’s killing me not to reach out but I’m going to stay strong because I’ve made it this far. I’m trusting in your no contact process and believing in faith that it’s worth it in the end. I’ve made many changes myself, I’ve hit the gym very hard and I’m very happy with my results. I’m also working hard building my business slowly but surely and staying the course without distraction. Thank you for your videos especially in this moment because it’s helping me keep my head on straight. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️

[@najka1989]

Hey Craig! I can't thank you and Margaret enough for your wonderful work. Your videos are really helping me through this tough time (4 months after breakup). You are sort of like virtual parents :)) I also want to congratulate you, Craig, as I can see you have done enormous progress since the first video. I can tell you are much calmer and confident in the way you speak and it definitely resonates with the viewers and helps us even more to stay calm. I think this must be Margaret's influence ;) Thank you so much. Take care.

[@HonestTraveller]

No contact for a year and half. She’s met another guy, I don’t bother with her. I’ve started 2 new businesses and they are doing amazingly well therefore that’s my main focus right now. Still love watching these videos though.

[@HonestTraveller]

Rachel Lee if he leaves you after achieving success then he isn’t the one for you. He will end up lonely if he keeps living like that.

[@logitech4365]

Craig really teaches us to let go.... Most of the time that's what we have to do.... But he still needs to sell his product so he has to market to the general public...... Craig really helped me to change for the better.... I just wish I was able to love someone because that last relationship caused so much damage to me.... I cant even like a woman enough to treat her special unfortunately.

[@HonestTraveller]

@@logitech4365 same man. My next woman better be worth it. I aint settling for less.

[@Chalaxandler]

FlossBOSS congrats on the success man. If you don’t mind me asking, what business ventures did you embark on? I’m really trying to get myself out of a shitty spot in life and I know that my dream is to be an entrepreneur, I just don’t even know where to start. On top of that I’m emotionally broken because of my breakup. Any response is appreciated

[@HonestTraveller]

Chalaxandler hey man! I saw your comment and had to reply. First of all we have all been there man! You are not alone. My idea came during self isolation I was at home and wanted some second income and the idea came out of no where. I started a healing crystal jewellery business due to the world needing positivity right now. Find a niche mate, try and look into the future on where things are going and try and jump in on that. The world is becoming very spiritual which gave me the idea of natural healing. As for the breakup man it gets better, never let a woman put you down. Focus on yourself, your health and wealth and she will no doubt come back. But do you want her back? Probably not. Anyone who leaves you in the first place ain’t worth your time. Stay strong and if you need to chat let me know

[@yolyiperez4764]

This is truly amazing advice, you can candy coat it the best way you can, but, these are words of fact. Let it be heard... let it be spread... you guys are on point...

[@cherryshen3853]

No contact might not work if he already doesn’t want to talk anymore. It’s only going to give him time to completely move on to another person and forget about you. There are comments that share stories about how NC ended up their ex just found another person, or they just really disappeared after grieving period and let go. Girls we need to wake up, those that would leave you, aren’t worth waiting and playing all these mind games to reattract them back. Let it go, if he misses you and wants to talk again, he will. Especially for us anxious style people, don’t ever rely on NC to hope that they will miss you. The more you believe NC will work and expect it, the more likely you’re going to struggle during the process and be completely heartbroken when you realize he’s already completely moved one. We deserve being understood and love too, go find someone who actually loves you!

[@jadeauburnerose]

Craig, you saved me today... thank you.

[@rrrrrrraaaa9]

I am thinking since last week.. this video came on perfect time..

[@zc5467]

My ex was slowly texting me and it has now dwindled, barely any messages now, I’m holding out messaging him all because of you both, I’m keeping the faith and hoping it will work out! ....thanks for all of the inspirational videos you keep putting out!!! keep safe❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@jsjsuyuskskdiyis6147]

Update..?

[@robertbell8016]

Great to see videos coming out still. Be safe and thanks!

[@MeganSummer]

We love you guys! Margaret - you’re so great.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

She’s the best ❤️

[@mattRRgraham1996]

Finally decided I'd get your workbook(s) "The Knowledge. Vol 1-10" today. Just literally now downloaded them. She broke up with me on March 8th. I've made some small/minor mistakes but nothing egregious I think from watching your videos. I didn't do no contact right away but there was never any begging or pleading on my end, the break up conversation was amicable and there wasn't any crying, sobbing, begging, pleading, etc. I've been in no contact for actually, exactly one month as of today. She came by on the 20th to pick up some things and so she interrupted my initial attempt at no contact by texting me a few days prior but that's the last time I saw her (the day after she broke up with me she came by in the morning to get her stuff. She texted me a few weeks later asking me saying she had a phone charging cable of mine and that she wanted to come pick up the Kombucha she left in my fridge--a whole 3 ounces if that--and two beers). Really excited to go through these books. I want to change and enter healthier and better relationships. I'm an anxious-preoccupied person and she was definitely a dismissive-avoidant--much like all my other partners in the past! Once I found that language of attachment theory it all made sense. Thanks Craig! Really loving your stuff.

[@youtoo2233]

Ok ive got a different situation than most people I read in the comments. Until recently I was in a three-month long distance relationship. We met online. Of course that's not very long and we had not even met physically yet but believe me the feelings we had for each other was very deep, as deep as it can be without having physically met yet. We spent hours on the phone most days either texting, talking or video chat. We talked a lot about meeting soon, we live a few hours drive from each other, so it could have been worse, but this was manageable for now. Everything was all set for us to see each other but then this corona thing hit and caused tons of money problems, Stress, depression and Anxiety, etc, mostly for her. She says she is Bipolar. One thing led to another and she started distancing herself and just last week I got the let's just be friends speech. I've been in shock since then and very depressed. We are extremely compatible and get along so well. We get along great and only have had a couple of very small arguments which was more of a misunderstanding that we cleared up quickly. I mean it's been heaven on Earth. I've reached out a little here and there but she has blocked me on Facebook and Messenger. We have had some very intimate talks and have sent each other a bunch of pictures and just all kinds of things, so needless to say I'm devastated. I'm just hoping that once all this Corona virus stuff subsides and things go back to normal she may be less stressed and eventually reach out to me and we can continue our great love story we had going. But you just never know how these things will turn out. I'd love to hear what you folks have to say about my situation. Thank you

[@craigmerrila7767]

After 12 mths no contact and her in a relationship, I can safely assume you won't reach out. I miss her. She was the love of my life. But I'm not remotely tempted to reach out.

[@ett2]

I wrote my ex a letter 1 year to the date of our breakup. She has reached out a few times and even tried to see me but I wasn't ready. We shall see if she responds.

[@floralwood_]

Weesy what’s up after that?

[@loreejordan1243]

Hi Margaret & Craig glad you are both safe💜 Break up for 4.5 months with my ex-BF. He REACHED out a few times via text during this time Which of course relieved my anxiety but nothing ever came of it, texting back-and-forth (it’s an LDR) for several days but It never went anywhere so I stopped responding to his nothing important texts. Then he reached out again with the COVID-19 but again several days of niceties but it never went anywhere, no asking to get the relationship back nothing, I’m very frustrated with it. I think he just reaches out to relieve HIS anxiety but I don’t need him to reach out if he does want to get back with me. I told him I did not want to be just friends at the break up. It just hurts 💔and confuses me even more😢

[@travisdettmer4284]

Hi Craig. You should think about doing a video on relationship decisions made under the duress of quarantine when a couple is already separated by distance (LDR).

[@johnbailey9006]

No contact for 7 months now.

[@i_DayDream_]

John Bailey It’s been 10 for me but just got a friend request from them on FB 3 days ago 👀 Hang in there!!

[@johnbailey9006]

@@i_DayDream_ that's Awesome will do.

[@rrrrrrraaaa9]

John Bailey in no contact for 11 months.She visited my work place without any reason and I was busy latter I came to know abt her bt I didn't reach out hope she does.. anyways keep going fellas.

[@johnbailey9006]

@@rrrrrrraaaa9 👍👍

[@najka1989]

I'm 4 months after breakup, but unfortunately reached out to my ex on march 29th (after 2 months of silence). Since then I'm in no contact and it feels like an eternity. When I see how long you guys are doing this I just can't imagine..

[@phantomhobo1695]

Coach Craig, i have to say, your content is the best on this platform. You and Margaret are the only people who are giving me hope. I have a question though, should i delete the messages between me and my ex during the relationship? Even if i want them back?

[@nicolasrodriguez3499]

Thank you both for the encouragement. I really needed exactly that today.

[@nicolasrodriguez3499]

I'm not sure if i will ever get the love of my life back, but your vids are very therapeutic.

[@aspire_victory832]

Thank you, waited all week for this x

[@h.r.puffnstuff8705]

X #1 35 years no contact and now she's back. A week later X #3 came back after 10 months no contact. Should I continue no contact with X #2 for the trifecta?

[@MrRennuj34]

H. R. Puffnstuff I was the same. Ex 3 came back after 4 years. Ex 4 came back as well. All after no contact. I don’t want them anymore. All I want is my Ex 5. I don’t wanna wait but I’m hopeful that someday we will get back together.

[@alcapo97]

i struggle everyday i got dumped 4 Days ago. She dumped me because she told me she has 2 Trauma, fear of proximity and borderline. she actually does a therapy against borderline. She told me the whole over, is her fault because she just dont see herself in conditon to continue our relationship. i feel incredible sad because i just dont have any question. i feel helpless and i miss her everyday. i told her i dont want contact for at least 1-2 weeks. even then i still dont know what future brings and how everything will workout....

[@parthchauhan1945]

I initiated the breakup, explained her my reasons, everything went down respectfully. She was really hurt but understood why I was doing what I was doing. She however still tried to bring us back together but I refused. And then one day she gave up and she went on no contact. However after 2 months of nc when I went back to her patch things up and tried explaining that I can work things out now, she just decided to shut me off. Told me to back off and that she has no emotional connection for me anymore, and that she doesn't want to relate with me in any way. She said that she still respects me a lot but doesn't want to get back into this. And that she is finally moving ahead in life after a lot of emotional struggle and that I shouldn't make it difficult for her. I did some begging and pleading, ans then she blocked me, but unblocked me after a week. But I went on complete no contact from the day she blocked me. It has been almost 2 months now. What should I do now? (We were in a 6 year long relationship till now)

[@owyana]

I think you need to move on.

[@parthchauhan1945]

@Gab arc Thanx a lot man. This message of yours means a lot to me right now.

[@girlhasnoname0001]

Thank you for your knowledge and help others. I am hoping one day you make a video on how to fall out of love because that person is not the one, but some how you love them and don't want to let it go but it's for the best

[@loversweetheart7795]

Very useful ur advice!! Keep it up

[@jake1860]

Hi Craig! How does no contact work if you start it months after the break up? Is it still effective?

[@brianstoops7186]

My ex broke up with me due to a porn problem that I'm currently in recovery for I'm pretty sure my ex is not coming back

[@VyLe-zw6oq]

Your video keeps me in no contact. She unblocked me but I didn't text her and after 10 days she blocked me again, I dont know what she thinks 😥?

[@jinxlee8556]

I have a specific situation. She didn't tell me anything. But something her brother said. I disagreed with what her manipulative brother said about me and was unwilling to be a doormat for him. Out of impulse she said give me back my key. I said OK. Just because he moved into her apartment doesn't mean I am going to be submissive to him. He never even talked to me face to face. I was in therapy for over a year improving myself. And I am very stable mentally. Her life is miserable now. Because we had a great relationship. And her rebound abused her physically and emotionally and is engaged to his woman he cheated with. She is now a psychological and emotional wreck.

[@MooseDriver204]

Hey coach! I just realized that my ex gf unfriended me on IG and FB, but didn’t block me and this is about 4months NC. Would be be able to shed some light?

[@tr9809]

I wonder, if someone who was dumped has been in contact since the break up for a couple of months after and then the 'dumped one' goes silent is no contact still effective for the ex? It's obviously giving the 'dumped one' space to process. But is it too late for any effect on the ex? Especially if they have a new partner?

[@danielbrown8602]

She left me to cheat. And 2 days later she got dumped. What's my time table?

[@franktomas2052]

I got dumped a month ago after 13 years 3 months before getting married having kids and buying a home as planned. I was torn bad. Made all the mistakes, no letter lol. But then did NC all the videos I could find. Then finally broke down cried out to God to take the wheel. He did. The next day I was on top and I feel 100 levels above me x and she knows it and reached out and she is trying to get me back. It's what I wanted prayed for but I'm gonna take it slow and keep working on myself. NC is customizable guys

[@codydavis3100]

How have you been?

[@franktomas2052]

Im good. Kept NC and now she's reaching out again strong. I told her the door is still open. We might be getting back together. I'm gonna play my cards right

[@Bugglesgoo]

Hi Coaches Margaret and Craig! I’ve been in NC with my ex since we broke up(41 days today), but we have a lot of common friends and will actually be seeing each other this weekend. Any tips on how to go about that, especially if you’re trying to win them back?

[@n2nanci]

Good video. Thanks!!

[@marykenney3318]

Love Margaret's glasses!! ❤

[@donsant1]

My GF broke up with me cause she was insisting I was kinda absent. I knew her since we were kids, but we only dated for a year. I had a few issues in my personal and professional life that caused me to develop minor cleaning OCD and a beggining of depression. She was still supporting me but I couldn't initiate therapy because I didn't think I could overcome this. So at one moment, she broke up saying we were too different because she wanted me to be more present and I didn't even try to fight it out because I knew I couldn't change instantly. So I went to therapy and started doing different things, traveling, etc.. So 3 months after the breakup I contacted her and asked if she wanted to meet. She told me that she had nothing more to discuss with me. So I wrote a letter explaining all that I have been through and that I tried to leave her space during this time of no contact so that I could heal and reach out. She didn't respond the letter. So 1 month later I reached out to hear if she was ok during this quarantine period, and she replied back saying she was thinking about nor responding but she didn't wanted me to be wondering what was she thinking. She questioned why only at this moment I was trying to change because she asked me before to seek therapy and everything, and I explained I was blinded by my mind and trapped in my sadness. She said she could even like to say that we were going to try again and things would be different, but she didn't know if she wanted it anymore. She said I didn't support her enough last year because her grandfather died and she felt alone, and she asked me to stop contacting because she was still hurt but wanted us both to heal. I said "fair enough" and thanked her for listening to me and said that every moment by her side was worth it and wished her well. I don't know how much of this is her exaggeration because of the pain of the break up, because I went to her grandpa's funeral and was really present at those months, even though I understand her feelings. But I still want her back. I'm completing a month of no contact and working on myself the way I can during the quarantine, hoping that one day things will work out, even if I can't have her back.

[@Airmaster360]

It's her bs excuse I would assume, about her grandpa situation. Doesn't matter anymore, cut her off forever... I did and my ex accidentally added me and canceled it on Facebook 4 months after the break up. I didn't reach out because it means nothing

[@donsant1]

@@Airmaster360 yeah, she wanted me to be more present cause she is extremely sensitive and used this as an emotional motive I guess.. it doesn't matter right now anyway. i'm working on myself to rebuild my life

[@Cry3dge]

Is it possible to speak about attachment between you and your ex, and whether or not that fades when a rebound relationship is present? Is it possible that a rebound relationship can develop an attachment stronger or develops faster than yours when you were dating your ex? Thank you! P.S keep the videos coming! Love you both!!

[@dwaynebaxter]

Hi Craig and Margaret. I really appreciate your videos and how much you care about us. Me ex ended tge relationship recently and I did everthing I wasn't suppose to do except for the grand gesture. I call her constantly texted her around the clock begging for her to come but she wouldnt respond.Shortly after I found you and began watching your videos Craig you and Margaret are a God sent I honestly believe that if I hadn't found you I would be in a far worse position that I am today. I immediately started the no reaching out one week after starting she reached out at first in business like manner we still have assets tied up together so I'm not sure she's reaching out on that bases. Until a couple of nights ago she texted me after ten. She said Hi and I panicked. I didn't respond until the following morning because I knew if had responded immediately i would shot my self in the foot. I responded saying hi good morning I woke up this morning to your text whats up?. She replied I was just wanted you to kno that one of our cows it about to giv birth soon. I said that's good but I hope the rain doesn't bother them because it's getting really cold. And she agreed. She went on to ask how was church and she said she hopes that I have been praying. I said church is fine and I have been praying. We chatted little more then ended the conversation. She called the following night at the same but I was asleep and might I add when we were together this is the time when she would call me to find out if I was finishing up at work. Continuing after her call went unanswered she texted asking if I could stop at a supply store near where I live and purchase a couple things for her on my way to work and drop them off at her workplace. I broke protocol I replied right away and said sure. She then asked how was everything and then deleted it shortly after but I had already seen it and when I ask why did she delete the text. She said I didn't respond when she asked the question. I told her that I was in the middle of responding to her in relation to the errand she wanted me to run. She said she missed the home Internet and how costly mobile data plans are. I fought with the urge to asked she to come home. She's ask if I was taking my medication and getting enough rest I told her I am takin them but not getting much rest we chatted little bit more than ended our chat. Well here's where I messed up I woke up around 3am this morning and called her she answered we talked for close to 2 hours we cover a lot of things about our relationship and how badly I treated her. I ask her what she thought about us taking steps to fix what needs fixing in order to get back our life together. She said that her head isn't in that space at the moment. I asked her to giv us a chance she didn't say no but she didn't say yes either she just listen. The conversation end right after that she wanted to go back to sleep. I really would like to get her back

[@tukku4417]

What happened after that?

[@s23som]

Listen to Craig and Margaret guys. I broke no contact because of this covid thing. I went 8 months NC. Found out she ‘s already seeing someone💔. Im in NC again but this time it is permanent. Im done. Dont want her back at all. She tried to text me saying she’s sorry but I just ignored it. She will never get a second of my time again.

[@mrcrowz8614]

Is this classed as breaking no contact... Everyday my ex logs on what'sapp at the times I have breaks at work and when I finish work and waits for me to log on then she sees I come online and logs off... It's happened everyday for last 3 days at 10.30, 1.30, 4.30? Anyone

[@tcnynytcnyny5420]

No,the worst news is that you may not get back together despite NC.

[@EJ-oy7vq]

Been no contact for a couple weeks. She text's.... How are you doing? Should I Respond? If so with what?

[@chasesebastian3064]

Just stuff let it ride for a day. Don’t rush anything. If she really wants you back she will not give up that easily. Keep your dignity.

[@PricelessBinkey1337]

Does the breaker uper have to contact the dumpee? Or vise versa

[@jyeony7159]

hello craig, does your website recieve south korean card also? I have tried to purchase your email session multiple times but some how it didn't work. I have no idea if that is my computer or card process problem or your website doesn't receive the korean card. So i am not sure where to call for help haha help me to get help from you!!ㅠㅠ

[@gilstrap730]

Im not sure if when we say they will forget about us we dont mean litterally we mean they will forget their feelings for us

[@Kristoferwitha_k]

Uhgggh. I went straight into no contact. It's been 6 months and not one single word. I feel like none of these videos seem to give me any clarity on what happened to my situation. Feels hopeless. Six months! Not a text not a like on a post nothing. And I did nothing wrong. She just disappeared. She just literally ghosted me.

[@ajs8950]

Hi everyone. Obviously this isn’t the situation in its entirety but I have a question. I’m in day 34 of no contact. I found out today my mum reached out to my ex girlfriend saying she hopes she’s well and that I’m well. She lived with us. And she got blocked. Do I have to reset my timer to her mistake or push on ?

[@capemaysteven]

My ex left me to be "free" but has been talking to another guy she trust and connects with on a deep level. Some how after a month, but also told me she wishes she could change everything but cant help how she feels. I identified her as an Admissive Avoidance, and she told me she regrets hurting me and wants to be friends and doesnt want to lose me. I begged and called for first couple weeks and went into no contact in which she lashed out because I didnt say happy birthday to her. Then I found her on a dating app and I broke no contact to lash out and she told me she didnt care she wishes she could help me but she is her own person and loves me as a person but wants to be single and for me to be okay with anything that comes next. This makes me nervous that she means getting into a relationship with this new guy. If I go no contact will it even affect her?

[@cloriana4979]

what if he said he's traumatized and didnt wanna hear from me anymore? i don't even know where to start changing

[@melenebacosa3903]

How are you now? Im in the same situation right now

[@Thelonglostginger]

my ex kept messaging me agter breaking up with me for being needy and then got into an arguement with me because I didn't message her back. Now it seems like we've left things on bad terms and I'm scared she'll never come back :( she's avoidant and has no feeling for me anymore. I've been focusing on myself and really becoming the best person I can be

[@Thelonglostginger]

All your videos are amazing. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and making me understand how to be better as a person and within a relationship

[@Thelonglostginger]

@Gab arc We argued because I didn't message her back after a couple of hours after answering her question but I was busy doing work and I explained that. That is what I have decided to do. I don't know if I made it clear that I want to be more than friends so am waiting for her to reach out before. I do really think she's moved on though because before I deleted instagram she didn't see any of my stories so it seems shes muted me :/ I'm just going to learn to deal with my emotions and become emotionally centred. Hope she messages me soon :)

[@Thelonglostginger]

@Gab arc We were friends for 5 years before we started dating and we together only 6 months, but she just lost interest in me because I had no idea how to keep attraction (used to message her everyday and not be mysterious telling her everything I'm doing). I also became very VERY insecure, she took out the anxious side of me :/ . I feel really dumb as I am badgering and looking back on everything I did wrong but should definitley focus on myself and move on because the past is the past which cannot be changed, the future is inevitable and the present moment is all we know :). I think she wants to keep me as a friend and then come abck to me after I have worked on myself, but by that time I will be in my full job and earning money so she'll have to work for me. Thanks for the help mate, I really appreciate it

[@Thelonglostginger]

@Gab arc I really would love to give it another shot but I need to wait till she messages me until I re-attract her really don't I? Yeah I guess it's just time and working on myself at the moment now and allow her to reach out and wonder whether I am the man she wants to be with (I have decided and come to the conclusion that I am the prize :)) I think she really wants to be friends but use me as a doormat so there is no way I can be friends again until she reconsiders or I find someone better because it will cause me too much hurt. Very interesting what you have said and also congratulations on getting her back. Thank you for all your tips, if she messages me do I ask to meet up or should I wait a while until she offers to meet because It she be her choice shouldn't it if she broke up with me??

[@Thelonglostginger]

@Gab arc Sounds good. I already said that I would give her the birthday present I bought her (it's only small but she knows I am going to give it to her), even though we aren't together but I need to stick to my word and do that. Other than that she can make the effort and try to reconnect to me. Thank you for the help :)

[@TonyRossiImpactGlobal]

How can I show them change when she won't see me? I left her alone after she said she needed a break, I got jealous of her going somewhere with her "best guy friend" when we had plans on my birthday. I overreacted I suppose, but she told me that we were moving too fast and spending too much time together. She reached out to me after 10 days of NC, I called her and asked her to hang out, but she blew me off because she had plans. I know she's been on a date, salsa dancing with a "new friend"...I'm scared I'm going to lose her again. Yes, again. She is my ex-wife and after 20 years we spent most of April-June together getting to know each other again. I'm heartbroken...

[@marystacey2216]

Hope you are both ok ,its a bad enough time as it is with this covid , the pain of a break up on top is deppressing and painful, Hope you are ok ,love you guys ,take care xx

[@ednalynelayda8587]

Omg! 😍😍 Thank you so much Craig. I followed your advice. Been watching your videos almost a month my bf broke up with me july 16th and I begged and chased him for like a a week after a break up and I did no contact at all! guess what! Today I deleted his phone number and boom He just reached out just today August 16th ♥️♥️♥️ I am so happy!!

[@gaoang3391]

Lucky you , I start serious NC only 2 weeks ago , 3 August post broke up struggled till 6 August then Nc but I broke it again and again , any updates? Wish me luck what’s your updates

[@ednalynelayda8587]

No contact really works!! trust me! We are still together. Don't beg and chase.

[@gaoang3391]

@@ednalynelayda8587 i broke NC again few days ago because of bank card and He was mean he locked the card and didn’t tell me then I asked for tow days he told me the truth ,I deleted his number and everything because I want to forget about him

[@ednalynelayda8587]

Yeah. Coach Craig was right, Anxiety leads the beginning of desire. I focus on myself and deleted his phone number and I literally stopped bugging but can't stop thinking about him.

[@gaoang3391]

@@ednalynelayda8587 after 80 days broke up I deleted everything of him today I checked a bit on him then I felt toxic .I felt everyone are stronger than me , I start to hate him and thinking about him as well

[@MrTheomighty1]

I’ll keep it short as I have mentioned this before on your channel, my little lady said she needs to focus on her elderly dad as he’s poorly but he’s not got the coronavirus and once every thing calms down we maybe able to meet up to see how we both feel about each other

[@alexisjadefilms]

Question for you guys, I know you mentioned in this video how even avoidant EX's may reach out. However what about fearful avoidant EX's? I haven't heard you talk much about that attachment style. But my question is should I reach out to my FA EX? Reason being is I've read in multiple sources that fearful attached people don't tend to reach out even if they were the one to end things because they fear rejection and fear that you hate them for ending things. MY ex also ended things because she felt overwhelmed regarding all the corona situation going on and overwhelmed with affection and needed space. So one one hand I could envision her reaching out, but on the other I dont see her being the first one to do it.

[@Jen-fq1jz]

Way Haught yeah, mine is the same but I don’t want to spend my life chasing someone who is incapable of even saying “hello,” ya know? We broke up once before and I now realize the only reason we tried again was because I reached out (he was terrified I hated him). Don’t do it! If she ended it, she has to reach out and she’s gotta be strong enough to do that or she’s not strong enough to be a healthy partner... that’s how I see it. Stay strong! 🙏

[@sensortowerrush]

What Jen says. It's about more than just getting them back. Use coach craig to give you the tools to create a healthier relationship. You cant always be crawling back, think about your perceived value in such a situation.

[@prestonwhitmore7354]

I went no contact for two years now she try to call me a few times but she left me for another guy when we was together she used to tell me to stop drinking but I didn't drink a hold lot but when she got with this guy she is and smoking and drinking tell me I need space such and such she have tried reach out to me a few times but I have gave up because we been together for 15years I have just wasted my time just to walk out of my life for another guy now she drinking and smoking with this guy why that it sounds backwards it's was something new

[@suset813]

Do dismissive avoidants who start seeing someone new still miss you?..even after a bad breakup? I really feel he is over it this time n the new person will be a distraction for them to get Over me

[@shannonmorehead2000]

It’s been about 3 weeks since my boyfriend broke up with me. We had talked a million times about our futures together and I believe that he really loved me and I loved him. But he broke up with me because he “needs to grow up by himself.” I was so stunned that I didn’t really get to say how I think about it, I was not expecting it at all. Now it’s been 3 weeks and we haven’t really talked, but I’m still feeling so bad. I feel like I need to tell him how I feel and that I still care about him, and then try no contact. I feel like otherwise, he’ll take my silence as me not caring about him and he’ll never reach out. Should I do this? I really feel like it’s what I need to do in order to make myself feel better and so that he knows where I stand and I do not hate him.

[@schuylerwednesday4679]

I understand your concern.since he was the one who broke up with you let him contact you first. It's tough...three weeks is not that long but since it is still fresh it feels like it's been months or years...give him time to simmer in his thoughts and decision. Don't feel obligated to inform him of how you feel until he is the one who will open that topic.you can do this.just stay in no contact.and if he does reach out take note of the things that must be done.so just keep watching videos on how to handle no contact and the reach out.

[@owyana]

I don’t think you should tell him how you feel... let your absence and silence speak for you.

[@gaoang3391]

We are the same situation and I did the things you want to do after break NC , it’s so bad . Any updates?

[@sophiaeuphoria8063]

Guys! Sorry but if I was added to the group chat by some guys and then my ex was added there, and I decided to left the chat. Does it count as breaking no contact? Or is it ok leaving a chat? Didn’t write anything anyway

[@garyscarrott132]

My ex is stubborn. She gave me back everything from when we lived together. I know she always said she doesn't want to be around memories. But this lockdown without her has been rough. Been about a month now. No work no girl.

[@dwightschrute8141]

Update??

[@callumwalker8183]

Has no contact ever worked for anyone on here?

[@theempire339]

There wasn't alot in that email to work with in this video in my opinion, but that's ok because when I see that Craig Kenneth uploads a video I jump and click play like my life depends on it 🤣. I remember Craig saying in a past video that sometimes the dumper forgets that they dumped their ex and the dumper expects the dumpee to reach out first. Uggggggghhhhhhhhjj I wish there was more to this email! 😭😭😭 I do hope this person doing better though. I'm still going through it and everyday is a challenge I legit feel like an alcoholic but in this case loveholic!! 🤣

[@dawnburwell4876]

my ex isnt on any social media at all .. never has been.. i cant look in on him. its killing me.. but when i try to rationalize that he is just handling business and will come around. but fact is, if thats true.... he is putting distance between us and i would need to show that i can respect his needs... he has to find his way back before we can one day discuss how my needs are important too

[@terrymccann2792]

How are things now? Hope you’re happy

[@seanrooney170]

4 months NC does it normally take longer or should I give up on her coming back. She doesn't want to fall out with me and stuff

[@Illhostility]

Sean Rooney how would we be able to tell honestly? Let’s say she reaches out in 2 months, what would contacting her today do for you. Plus, how good would it feel if I told you for sure she would reach out in 2 months? You’d be ecstatic, plus you would have all the power. That is best case scenario for both you and the relationship. So why risk it? My point is you really don’t know until they reach out, and above all, you want them to reach out. I’m at 2 weeks no contact and I dread thinking it will take 4 months. However, I understand the importance of them reaching out and recognizing my value. So when in doubt, remind yourself of your value. You have gotten to 4 months and that is amazing! That is something I will be proud of if I get there. There is no timeline, but continue to work on yourself because you are the prize, not them. You have done amazing work thus far, and in time your prize will come. Whether it comes as her or as someone better. Try to move on if you can. It’s easier said than done, I know. But many times they come back when you’ve moved on. That’s because you truly shine once that happens. So make it a goal to move on from them, to not worry. As I’ve said, you’ve done great so far. You are certainly an inspiration to me! Great things will come soon my friend. Trust me!

[@chasesebastian3064]

Illhostility Great advice! I’m just over a month of a 7 years relationship. It’s been the worst experience of my life but, I’m not going to lower my value. I was a good man to her and her daughter. I was honest, faithful and a good provider. I’m not perfect by any means but, she will either come to realize that she lost a good man or she won’t but, someone else will appreciate me and give me and my kids the love we deserve. And the same for both of you. This is a great place for support.

[@Dbuddydan101]

Seen her on the drive home, she dint even look my way, felt like breaking no contact that very night, it's been 2 months and don't think she'll message me, she's been saying to people that I was controlling and emotionally abusive and I don't get why? Did I tell her to pick between me or her "guy friend" that she used to flirt with yes, but that a boundary isn't it? Or was I in the wrong? She's the one that broke up with me

[@hereonlyculturally6334]

Tks for ur very useful videos!! take care first!! and when u can please could u make a video on this topic; if our last word to ur ex and some of our actions have canceled all the trust and love and consideration they had of us can they miss us in this case?, If after apologizing one million times and complimenting them and telling them we are suffering too much not to block us and they block us always it means they will never ever want us as a lover again especially when they said no more love between us neither in a million years, could u please make a video about this topics? thanks much I adore u and Margaret!!

[@xStarrLights]

Coach, how do you cope with the regret when you’ve made all the mistakes? I didn’t beg or plead, but I didn’t understand the situation or why it was ending, so I text & text for trying to get answers & be friendly etc and I just made things worse. It pushed her away and now it’s like she hates me. She’s deleted me off Facebook, told me we’ll never talk or have a chance again and I can’t stop blaming myself for pushing it this far, it’s making me so depressed because I feel to blame or that I should’ve known better.

[@betweenmethesunandthesea]

I doesn't seem that it was all your fault. You needed answers so you made questions. Dont put the blame on yourself, you were hurt. Things will come around

[@xStarrLights]

Μελίνα Μπαρμπέρη thank you.. The “breakup” wasn’t, but she gave her reasons then changed them & I just wanted to make sure I hadn’t done anything because I had some hurtful accusations made in a previous relationship. But because she kept changing her behaviour & reasons, it brought up a lot of old issues. So I tried to talk to her to understand & make things better because we hadn’t spoke in person and now she’s just at the point where she is happy to not talk to me. The end of her last text was “there is no need for us to have any contact going forward” which really hurts because she’s said I didn’t do anything wrong, so why can she not even want to talk with me ever again? :/ this type of thing hangs over my head! I just feel I’ve made it worse than it needed to be & ruined things..

[@Jen-fq1jz]

Coach has a great video on this - look up “beating yourself up over mistakes you made,” I think that’s the name! It’s so good. And it’s not all your fault - but you do need to stay no contact. You can do it! 😊

[@xStarrLights]

Jen thank you I will look at it! I’m going to guess the advice is “beating yourself up doesn’t help you in any way” but it’s easier said than done just accepting it ☹️ I am staying in no contact now but I honestly don’t feel it matters.. she won’t reach out to me

[@xStarrLights]

Gab arc what about if your breakup was by text? Like we’ve never had a chat in person and I think that makes it a lot worse

[@garrettcourtney8887]

I broke no contact three weeks ago and said I couldn’t do it anymore and I deserved better. I don’t think I meant it but I’m worried she won’t reach out now. Should I break no contact to say sorry and reach out if she changes her mind?

[@ponokunishima1]

I think about this every day, because I don’t think my ex girlfriend is the type to reach out, even though she wished me happy birthday last month, but that was it. Maybe she’s waiting for me to say something? It’s been 4 months since the breakup. When is the average month, or how many months or maybe even years have you seen ex’s reach out?

[@meta1gear4]

Forget the ex. How do you get over the best friend that you had confided everything in when you and you ex were fighting only for him to cash in and take her for himself while making you out to be a monster to her? It's been a long time since I found out, lashed out at them and had shunned their toxicity from my life but the anger just doesn't seem to go away. I am doing far better without them but every now and then, the anger becomes so distracting.

[@buchanan012]

She thinks I don't care about her and that I can't give her what she wants. I made the mistake of posting about the self help books I was reading and talking about change. Now she's blocked me everywhere and I think she's in a new relationship. I really screwed up and it's hopeless.

[@ponokunishima1]

Now that the holidays are here, I think about breaking No Contact and apologizing to her about my behavior in the last couple weeks prior to the breakup.

[@simranmukherji7207]

Hi Craig I had a 3years relationship and he was an extreme dismissive avoidant. He always gave rise to a topic we couldn't agree upon and then shout at me for giving a reaction. He always acted but my reaction was not allowed and when the opinion mismatched he always wanted to shut off the conversation and relationship too. I can't stand the blames given upon me at the time of break up. And currently in a no contact been 30 days. How long should I wait for him to reach out

[@Abundantdreamer1111]

Coach Kenneth, My ex of 6 1/2 years reached out to me during no contact about 1 month ago to check up on me, but I did not respond due to still being hurt with the way he walked away from me and our family. We have been broken up for 8 months but had been in constant communication during these months due to me having hope until recently when I just got really tired of his hold and cold behavior. We had an amazing relationship at least through my eyes, so the breakup was literally out of nowhere. I hope I did the right thing, but do you think he will reach back out?

[@racos272426]

If your ex tells you that you can contact them whenever you want does that mean anything? What about if they say they’ll always be there for you when you need? Hearing my ex tell me that really confused me. I’m so lost.

[@racos272426]

I haven’t reached out and we only talk at work. Our conversations at work are very casual and light. I want to text him so badly but I’ve refused. I just want to figure out why he’s saying he’s there for me when we’re not even together

[@sandrae2319]

raoul acosta in my opinion he wants to be nice and stay in friendly relations. I wouldn’t contact him.

[@Lina-ki3sc]

I think i can handle no contact and focusing on myself and finding my own happiness and trying to improve myself. But what do you do when you know that even if they start missing you and wanting to contact you they wont because they are depressed and think itd be better if they just left me alone. Im just scared that if they do want to talk again they wont and will just go through that grief process and move on and never come back to try again.

[@cherryshen3853]

Lina that is exactly what I think!!!!! You should write Coach Craig an email in regard to this concern

[@itsbritneybby]

yeh my ex suffers from depression aswell, im worried i wont hear from him and i think hes on the avoidant side aswell and introverted, but then again he seemed to have no problem in the beginning texting alot even tho we met online i had to be the one to say hi first even tho he liked what he saw, this is shit, what happened with you did u hear anything?

[@chasesebastian3064]

Update. My ex did reach out to me after 80 days of no contact. She sent me an email asking me if I wanted to keep the Internet or to have it disconnected. Which is extremely odd since 1. There were other items that were in her name that she had shutoff and never talked to me about and 2. Why would she want to continue to have it in her name? I actually had gotten my own service months ago and never told her that I didn’t need her account anymore because i assumes she would just shut it off without telling me anyways. I responded Hey, Nice to hear from you. You can have the account shut off. Chase We will see what happens. I don’t have any great expectations that she will contact me again but, if she does I’ll let you guys know. BTW. I am in a much better place than I was 2 months ago and feel that if this works out then great and if it doesn’t then that will be fine as well.

[@chasesebastian3064]

Elizabeth Rivera She never did reach back out and To this day I still don’t know why she ever left. But at this point it doesn’t even matter anymore. Yes it still hurts and I probably will for a long time. But I have learned to Move on and maintain hope that in the end this was supposed to happen and on the other side with something far better than it was.The best thing that someone told me through all of this was, “Respect her for having the courage to walk away and learn to forgive her for the way that she did it.”

[@ameliapeach3029]

At first it’s hard to resist reaching out but after 5 months no contact I would feel embarrassed reaching out. I feel like he should be begging for me back not the other way round!

[@membering]

I have questions. Isn't my ex getting a "fix" every time he reaches out to me but doesn't want to get back together? Cuz how do I stop that from happening? You also say don't ignore your ex, but what does a person do of the ex keeps reaching out but isn't progressing the situation?

[@jehan9]

membering Same boat Don’t rush it. Don’t overthink it. Make sure you’re focusing on your growth which is more important like Coach K and M say all the time! Good luck!

[@membering]

@@jehan9 thank you 😊

[@SurrealSurreal]

Coach Craig, I’m still dying to know if the Applebee’s girl ever reached out to after al of these years of growth & self transformation. Do you guys still talk? Does she know you have a highly successful KZbin channel? I’ve watched hundreds of your videos already and never heard you conclude “the Applebee’s girl” situation. Much love from Pennsylvania!