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[@gulfgiggleanimations4472]

How to cut yourself out of your own life Edit: Wait this isn't google

[@katdaangel9090]

BayLaugh Animations lol 😂 🤣

[@himynameisweirdo7085]

There is no (edited) thing up there... which means.. this is fake! Nice try buddy.

[@gulfgiggleanimations4472]

HiMyNameIsWeirdo look again it’s right there dude

[@eligostransvail2040]

I can't cut my parents out of my life. I can't cut my step dad out either.

[@ParadiseofDarkness]

If you are under 18, I would agree. There is ways to get away from your parents at a young age, cops, teachers someone whom might be able to find yourself away from these people but it will be a huge heart ache and woes to deal with the drama. But if you are an adult you can and its very easy to if you are willing to leave the home and get your own. (Beside any emotional trails you have to push threw) You can 100% cut them out and even get a order to deceased court action to make them leave you alone. I hope you can over step this trial in life.

[@vanessabarraza5983]

*through

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Yes I agree with what PoD said 8>

[@Broeckchen]

Eventually, it's always possible. I know so many people who were brought to the bring of deatg by their families but they made it out, and they flourish now. You can make it through. Please don't give up, okay?

[@Br44n5m]

Once you hit 18 you can! Gotta be able to move out and support yourself without them, but once you got that you can pretty much cut off the world if you want other than bills!

[@Fluffyfoof]

I have a friend that always always ALWAYS talks about killing herself. She says how much she hates herself and always makes jokes about herself, she’s so negative and she does this everyday all the time. I can’t have one conversation with her without her talking about killing herself. Yes, she went through terrible things (like her mom dying and getting bad grades and also having depression) but I can’t even help her, I’ve tried so many times. She makes me feel so bad and negative and I love her, but I can’t deal with it. But she’s my only friend, I don’t wanna cut her off bc she might get worse. She never listens to the advice I give and she just makes it worse by getting in trouble and being the bad and troublesome kid. She’s the only friend I have and I’m honestly afraid and aggravated. Please, I need some advice.

[@drawn_by_starla9462]

I think the best thing that you can do for her is to be assertive. I think she needs someone in her life who is strong and will set boundaries for her and force her to dig herself out of the hole she’s in. Maybe whenever she starts being depressing again, firmly tell her to stop. Try to get her away from depressing situations and positively encourage her to reach for higher goals and to be happier. If all else fails, tell her that you can’t be friends anymore if she doesn’t get her act together. It’s sad, but you are not responsible for her and you shouldn’t have to take care of her when you have your own problems to deal with. Trust me, I had to learn that the hard way.

[@MissLivYoung]

honestly, tell her to get help (professional help) or get out. i know that you love your friend and that you want to help her, but except for being there, close ones can't help when someone is at that level. she needs professional help and you cannot give it to her. your well-being is important too. if she "gets worse" because you cut her off, that's really not your responsibility. she has responsibility for herself, and she cannot rely on you or any other person to keep her alive. she needs to do that work herself. Tell her that her behaviour hurts you and that you don't want that sort of negativity in your life. And if she refuses, well - i do sincerely advice to cut her out. there are freinds out there waiting to get to know you, who don't stunt your growth and happiness.

[@yourlocalasshole352]

Sounds like my sister a few years ago ._.

[@enock5453]

Like Narkissa said, her problems aren't your responsibility and you shouldn't feel guilty for her problems. Trust me, I went through the same thing many years ago with an ex-friend. I had no friends at the time either when I went through this ex-friend. You don't want to cut her off because she gets worse?...Oh sweety. I'm telling you, it's NEVER going to get better for your friend EVEN when your with her. You know why? Because she doesn't want help. She will NEVER take your advice. She will NEVER change for the better. As long as you are there giving her attention and rewarding her pity party. She'll NEVER change. If she wanted help, she would've made an effort about it FOR HERSELF a long time ago. No matter how much advice you give. No matter how kind and gentle you place into your words. She won't take it because she's loving the attention she's getting from you. She has you spinning around her world as if you have no life of your own.My ex friend had tough life too and was suicidal, but you know what. Everybody does. People that needed help, do get help. Those that keep dropping their problems onto you without any effort of changing in their part. Is not a good sign. If you want to stay friends (which you shouldn't really) You need to stand up for yourself and place down ground rules between you two. You need respect from her part. You have to tell her that if she keeps doing this. You aren't interest in being friends with her anymore. This kind of mind set isn't healthy and that she should seek out someone else (professional help) that can help her with problems. There is a lot of suicide hotlines you can give to her. If she refuse them then you aren't responsible for her problems. (I'm telling you now. Any refusing help she doesn't want to do, is red flags of a controlling person. Even placing you down is another red flag of a controlling person.) I'm warning you right now. Once you take control for yourself she's going to guilt you by either two things. 1.) She'll blows up on you and tell you that everything is your fault. She's going to put you down so hard to get you to summit to her. So she can take back her control over you. 2.) She'll make a long list of how much her life sucks and why it sucks. And how much YOU are the only ONE that been there. That YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE to help her. This is bullshit. Don't let her shove her responsibility onto you as if you need to carry it. Would you go out with a guy that keep saying "I'm going to kill myself because of you!" No, this can happen between friends too. Remember, she would've took your advice a long time ago if she wanted help, but she didn't. This is another way to making you feel guilty and have her summit to her. Yes, both of these events happen to me. Don't let her guilt you into anything. Be strong. You have your own life to deal with (Don't think this is a selfish thing to do, because it isn't. She's selfish for her not understanding you that you have a life of your own outside of her). If she got herself into trouble. Ignore it. Don't reward her for your attention, because she will do it again. She knows it's wrong, but once YOU get out of line, she WILL do it again to have you running to her. I know it's the cold way to do, but telling you this as someone went through many years from an ex-friend. It won't get better, until you get rid of them from your life. you NEED to place your foot down. If she doesn't change or respect your need. That's when you move on away from her. This person isn't worth your love, because if she felt the same way. She wouldn't place you into so much misery in the first place.

[@jxthics]

you know, you need to outright tell her that it makes you uncomfortable. communication is the most important thing you can have.

[@ookami305]

Hell Yeah! I tend to easily cut off toxic people because I don't have time to deal with their petty drama. The one that affected me the most was a 10 year friendship. I found out that she never believed in me, never accepted any of my advice, and preferred her online friends than me, but secretly I wish the best for her. She is one of those people who is beautiful, talented, smart,and had a trouble childhood, she also introduce me to anime and taught me how to draw in an anime style. Sadly, she had depression which she never did anything to get help/better. I haven't talked to her for about 5 years, hopefully she gotten better and happier. Amazing video, like always, and hopefully you'll make new and better friends in the future.

[@chinaday1257]

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[@CherrySquirrels25]

I couldn't agree more with this advice. People who can't help themselves and then try to bring you down for making it are the worse. I've experienced my far share of toxic people like this and it never gets easier cutting them out when you've been friends for a couple years. I knew one girl on deviantart who complained, and complained how her oc was hated due to being in a ship with a canon character in a series (when in reality, people just hated her character but her inflated ego made it hard for her to see that) and she only made it worse by attacking people who ship this canon character with another male character in the series. And I mean OPENLY going after them, claiming she hated them, wished the worse upon them, ALL BECAUSE OF A SHIP. She also tended to complain about everyone in her friend group to me but never did anything about it. If she was that unhappy with her group she should have just left but it was like she thrived on believing she was above every single one of them, including myself. I've cut her off months ago and I've never looked back.

[@thebroskateers8626]

Thanks to this video I just cut someone toxic out of my life today who I've been upset with for months. Thank you so much TwistedDisaster, I needed this!

[@stingthescribe3681]

To be honest, I think I myself am the toxic person in my friendships. I've always been rather emotionally distant and although I'm there for my friends when they need me, I'm not mentally always there for them. Idk, I've just had too many friends fuck me over in the past to really connect to anyone any more.

[@TiffanyRay]

i feel the same way middle school was that time in my life were i wasn't in a good place mentally and all my so called "friends" ditched out on me every chance they could get instead of telling me they didn't like me they just left me for no reason at all not telling me why they left. and i was alone for a very long time. highschool years were even worse. but im not going to go into detail about that

[@stingthescribe3681]

@@TiffanyRay I agree, and picking up the cycle from past toxic friends doesn't solve the problem. I'm trying to consciously recognise when I've been a toxic friend, and what behaviours have lead to it so that I can correct my mistakes and be better than those toxic friends.

[@Fluffyfoof]

I’ll miss the family issue things. I don’t love hearing about ur troubles, but it just kind of makes me feel better about my family and help me realize that my family isn’t that bad, or how what I’m going through could be worse.

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Trust me from what Ive learned there is a great bit of advice that helped me. There is always someone better and there is always someone worse. Best to look in to that because before I used to think my issues were the worst in the world and I must be cazy cause no one else goes through these things.

[@ele_v.irtuosity5385]

Really nice video, and I agree! Lately I've been thinking I might be kind of toxic myself? Like, I'm kind of negative and all so idk, not as bad as the people you mentioned, but I want to be more positive and have a better outlook on life. Have any tips on being more positive toward others and yourself? I really want to work on being less negative and such a downer this year, be a more positive person in general.

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

It's ok i know how you feel I was in that mindset for a long time. Honestly one of the best things to do is to look at what is in your control and what is out of your control. Like when I was in a bad head space I physically could not control where I lived. We didn't make enough to live on our own So we HAD to grin and bare it. So while the negative stuff still happened and bugged me. I tried to look more on the lighter side of things. As in try to reason with why this is happening. Who's fault it was and how I can make sure not to make the same mistakes in the future. When you put out on a list when YOU can change all on your own and then what OTHERS need to change. You start to realize really fast how much easier it is to take bad Experiences and turn them in to good ones.

[@pearish]

2019 mood!! I'm so lucky to be working towards cutting out bad attitudes from my life!! I'm working on moving from a hobbyist to more of a professional and this is really good advice. May you grow and stay happy this upcoming year!

[@ParadiseofDarkness]

Thats how I felt with people having over the top wedings or wedings peroid, because 90% I knew then they get a devorced a few years later because they didnt have enough money to keep their home or raise their kids so they kept fighting over money or whom lazier than the other. It just wigs me out and I cant stand those kinda people.

[@aquabanana]

You have helped me out so so so much. You taught me many lessons and taught me how others lived in this world too. You are so inspirational and taught us valuable lessons in life and I couldn’t have made it here without you.❤️💕❤️

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Bah Thank you so much

[@aquabanana]

TwistedDisaster No, thank you! You have really helped us!

[@celry]

Thanks for this video... I fucked up college a couple months ago and wallowed in my own guilt for the last bits of 2018 but you inspired me to believe I can still change in this year... I'm looking for a job now and gonna get therapy and learn things until I get back into school :') I only found your videos recently and have loved all of them, please keep them up! You're such an inspiring and cool artist!!

[@RenEmell]

This video is really inspiring me to actually get off my ass and work harder than I have been, and thank you for that.

[@Luckymune]

As someone who has to have a very strict budget and bought six flags passes for the first time ever. I made sure my bills were paid, food was bought, I have enough savings left to matter and still be able to pay for future things. It was expensive, yes, but I made sure I could before I did it. It's ok to spend money on yourself as long as your needs are taken care of and it won't hurt you to do so!

[@Captainn4t]

Something I heard once that has stuck with me since, is you can tell early on if a person is toxic if they can't celebrate for or with you. About 75% of the toxic relationships I've had in the past fall under this criteria. If you have something good happen, and they either neg you, try to out do you, or avoid the topic all together glancing over it like its nothing, then most likely they are an energy drainer type and not someone who would make a good friend.

[@lilkitsunewitch8926]

I may be the only one here finding this still helpful two years later..

[@malvintage716]

what is your own father fits under the category "toxic"? like, i recently started doing adopts on deviantart, and when i told my dad this he obviously asked what adopts were, and when i explained he said "why would anyone want to buy adopts from you?" which was a real big kick in the guts for me. a few weeks after this i told him that people were asking for commissions (i dont have them open, it was people asking when im gonna open commissions) and when i told my dad, he said "you should wait until your art is good before you sell it" and i can see what he's saying, but to my dad, anime art isnt art, cartoon isnt art, digital art isnt art, only realism is, and thats mainly because my grandma is a professional realism artist, and my grandpa was an art teacher. so what would i do if my dad is the toxic person? im only 14 so i cant really just move out and ignore him. but its really serious, and i dont know what to do because i really want to stop replying to people "sorry, im not confident enough with my art just yet so i cant except the commission"

[@Finkiepop9]

I personally would tell him to "Fuck off"

[@MarbTheMonSTAR]

I'm sitting here drinking juice...nodding along because I know all the people you're talking about. * *SIIIIP* *

[@Bishopfish]

This video is so...wow. I've had to grow up in the exact same way this year and shed the same kind of toxic people. Your entire perspective changes when you get a job, go through real hardships, and struggle to get some savings together. I felt like such a dick for cutting off the people I did, but now I realize why I had to. Thank you for making this, it's so affirming!

[@Neimykanani]

This is a different kind of toxic people that I never hear people talking about. I’m glad I found this video 🙏🏻✨

[@Roarar]

I had a friend that hated himself *so much* that he tried to make other people feel like shit. While I was working on my webcomic, he made it a point to tell me shit like "i dont think it will go very far" or "i dont think people will like it". You can believe your ass he's not my friend anymore

[@Hibibee]

Wish I saw this at the beginning of 2018 :p I already ditched all of the terrible ppl I was surrounded with in the middle of last year. Had so many ppl tearing me down and trying to ruin me just bc they were jealous but now they're gone and I feel so much better

[@voidsap]

i just recently stopped being friends with someone i've known for a year. we were good friends at first, but things spiraled downhill and after i cut them off, i started feeling a lot happier and things have been going well for me.

[@psachickennugget8617]

Watching you draw hair makes me hungry... sometimes the hair looks like seaweed and then my stomach starts rumblin for the hair.... I’m not crazy at all, right?

[@skuttle7107]

Ooof video popped up in my feed as I was thinking about a toxic person

[@possumvile]

I understand your point around the 20 minute mark to a point. I have had moments where I had "beef" with people i.e. they did some pretty horrible stuff to me. And I have told people, this person has done THIS to me. I think it's fair to tell people if someone did something horrible to you, but don't force them to agree to your opinion

[@SweetMangoChutney]

This is something a lot of people need to hear, and truly take into consideration.

[@abbistuart693]

I’ve been following this channel for about a year now, and it’s honestly really inspiring to watch how you’ve succeeded and pushed through your worst times and come out a stronger and more confident person in terms of your art and daily life. Great job Michelle!

[@Creation2Station]

While watching this video a suggested video with your red headed character in it came up, AND OHMYGOD IT LOOKS LIKE THE BAD GUY IN CARE BEARS 2!!!! YASSS

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

OMG WHAT xD I never watched Care Bears

[@Creation2Station]

BOI GOOGLE IT OMG btw how dare care bears are awesome lmaooo @@Twist3dDisast3r

[@CaptainMonipue]

God this hits close to home. My toxic people are honestly mostly online, but it can be so very very hard to just stop interacting. Got some in real life of course, but being as asocial as I am, it isn't the biggest issue. I always joke about me bragging about my success , because in reality I keep feeling terrible over having a growing business. People I know (I don't so much consider them friends, since for me it takes a very very long time to become friends) have shitty situations to deal with, and it just makes me me feel so terrible for feeling good, being priveledged. Thank you for talking about this, it's def something i keed to do more in 2019. I find the easiest way to do it is find better friends so you don't fall back on toxic people when you get lonely - but dammit making more friends can be hard!

[@shinysmeargle2037]

I’ve recently had to consider cutting one of my close friends out of my life. We’ve been friends since middle school (I’m about to be a junior in college fyi) and he admitted to me in high school that he had feelings for me. I politely told him that I didn’t see him that way and that I was sorry if I did anything to make him think otherwise. He took it well at first but now he’s become more aggressive. Every time we hang out with friends, he tries to flirt with our other girl friends, he constantly is berating my other guy friends and even went so far as to lie to my parents about multiple things. For example, he told my parents that he finished college. As in he graduated. This was not the case. He actually dropped out. Now it’s gotten to the point where he’s tried to trick me to going on dates with him. I want to cut him out of my life but I’m scared of how he will react.

[@bezzycay9939]

Such an uplifting video, Michie! :D

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Thanks Caylee 8D

[@mayrenjpg]

This is just what I needed. About a year and a half ago I got a friend and as months passed, I realized she's just not using me, but others to get followers, fame and money, of course. Me and my other friends are so done with how she's using people. And the thing about you mentioned on spending money on not necessary things... Just the here at this situation! Never stopped complaining about how much she has to pay to bills and etc, but getting a new action figure was always a must :D Anyways, thank you for this, it gave me courage to end that "friendship" with this toxic person. Can't wait to see your future videos, and I hope 2019 will be as best for you as you wish! (Sorry for any mistakes in my grammar q.q)

[@fanohkdraws7383]

This is why I love your channel, I really needed to hear this and I’m working hard to achieve my goals.This video gives me the push to go that extra mile! Can’t wait for your book to debut and also can’t wait for more content ❤️

[@Wowls]

this was nice to hear! ty for the vid, looking back at myself from even just 2 years ago i feel like ive grown a ton, yet still got plenty ways to go

[@girlfriendcita]

I really like your rant videos. I hope you can make more this year. Happy 2019

[@yaoguaife1741]

This came out on my birthday, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!! I've needed to do this for a while and you give some very solid, very grounded advice. Thank you Michi, and I hope you have a lucrative New Year!

[@ashikat413]

I always feel so inspired after watching your videos!!

[@caseys.9418]

Once I went to a mental program after a breakdown and I vowed to cut out a specific toxic person from my life, she showed up in the same program the next day, what are the odds. She was less toxic than I interpreted though and turned out to be an okay person in the end

[@TimelordTemp]

It really helped me a lot. I actually set up commissions because of this video. I've been sitting on it for 4 years. But damn it, I'm going to try.

[@maesynnmayhem]

My brother's wife is one of those people that will go to my mom and say they are counting change for diapers but buy packs of cigarettes and 2 Dunkin Donuts coffees a day. :l I can't deal with the toxicity so I cut a lot of it out last year and have no regrets. I'm no longer agitated looking at my social medias anymore.

[@maesynnmayhem]

Meanwhile I've been doing art commissions since end of May and have had more success than I ever anticipated. :D

[@JuliaNightmare]

Best motivational speaker, 100\10! Jokes aside, hopefully a lot of people take something good from this video. (Alsob Dimitri's hair looks so freaking soft!)

[@edniesainteloi209]

AMEN TO THAT SISTER!! 👏👏 Also do you still plan on making the magic circle video? Im looking forward to that and all your future vid for 2019 😍

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Yes I do I just have no idea when xD

[@edniesainteloi209]

@@Twist3dDisast3r rip I'll be keeping an eye out for it when it comes out 😂👏

[@puppyhowler]

21:47 this part needs to be put on twitter and tumblr because omfg do so many people on there need to absorb this information!

[@gorequillnachovidal]

did you mean "cut up toxic people"?

[@thatonethatslikeyeahtotlyt1077]

I dont think thats monitizable lol but yes

[@lordyeetos1270]

I legally can’t cut my dad out of my life

[@IceRiver1020]

The person complaining about money problems while buying frivolous things sounds kinda like my sister, she bought a NINTENDO SWITCH, and then proceeds to complain about anything and everything wrong with her life, most of which is her own fault, from money and her living situation, to relationships! It drives me so crazy how much someone can screw up their own life without seeming to realize it, then they just go and blame everyone else! She refuses to be held accountable for ANYTHING, and insists that she's the victim in EVERY situation, she also seems to think that anybody who hasn't been through what she has shouldn't have any right to complain about anything ever. Over Christmas she was yelling that my other older sister has a "perfect life" and when I got onto her about it later she just gave me a bunch of BS excuses, basically saying that most people don't have REAL problems and don't deserve her sympathy. My other sister has felt lonely and depressed because she's been living on the other side of the country, away from everyone she knows aside from a cousin, for the past five years, and when I brought that up she rather dismissively said, "I've felt lonely and depressed too." She completely ignored me when I replied that she should know what it's like then. I certainly know what it's like to cry yourself to sleep because you don't have a friend in the world. She also treats me like I'm sheltered, and like I don't have any problems either. She's such a b****. I love her because she's my sister, but I don't think that I could EVER like her, she makes it impossible.

[@yourlocalasshole352]

Those are some adorable bois

[@almond_m1lk623]

Ugh I love this channel so much

[@melaniescribbles]

I remember having to cut out a toxic friend because she was always taking out her troubles on me. Long story short: I had just gotten my autism diagnose, and she knew about it. Yet she completely went off at me over what was really autism 101 (you know, being a bit awkward, sometimes not reading social context well, stuff people generally tend to know about it.). She was also constantly making these backhanded comments about my artwork. Like, sure, she drew better than me, no denying that. But some stuff she said just went too far. You just do not tell someone that they're never going to improve in their entire life. If even an autistic girl knows where that line is, then there's just no excuse for someone without a diagnose. And here's the kicker: she always complained about people walking out of her life the entire time I still talked to her. We went to the same school too, this all happened when I was in adult education. We usually sat together in this little friend group during the two recesses that students had in a day. Eventually, I didn't answer this friend calling me twice or so, because I was on a tram and she called every time my stop was about to come up in a few seconds. Of course, me being autistic, I forget to call her back like a goof. And too much homework prevents me from being on Skype for about two nights. Those were for classes that I actually had to work to have a good average for, not an easy 90/100 grade like English was for me. She didn't say anything at school, but let me tell you... All hell broke loose when I did log into Skype. My superprotective special needs mom even had to get behind the keyboard at some point, because it got to such a social context level that I simply couldn't handle it. Long story short about what happened on Skype: friend vagueposted about me on Facebook. My mom has a thing with white tigers :we affectionately call her the tiger mom, and we say someone messed with the tiger mom if she's this pissed. Mom beats toxic friend at her own vagueposting game: she posts a picture of a white tiger standing over a crying cub. People asking in the comments on that one which poor sod messed with the kid. Friend knows this post is about her, and has half a brain to call to our house's landline. Mom picks up the phone. I didn't quite catch exactly what my mom said, but she kept a polite tone all the time. I heard later that my friend sounded downright scared during that conversation. That toxic friend never bugged me again, and even avoided me at school. Good riddance, I say.

[@hopelesslyblue]

You are the most down to earth person on youtube I swear

[@seandarling1438]

Listening to this video in the background, looking at stuff online: Out of nowhere hears you: *"I LOVE PIMPING PEOPLE OUT"*

[@MochiFowl_4412]

Kind of hard to cut the toxic people out of your life if you’re 16 and live with them and have nowhere else to go and you yourself are toxic and your toxic family won’t let you forget it but won’t get you therapy for because your anxiety is somehow more important.

[@kieranduffy2899]

What if you don't have anyone in your life in the first place?

[@Broeckchen]

Is there a way to directly contact you because I'd love trying to help you out with some support?

[@kieranduffy2899]

@@Broeckchen i dunno. twitter Herionel2 or email i guess.

[@ohtartarsauce6301]

I know what you mean

[@aliennationality3216]

Broeckchen What if you don’t have anyone in your life because you have been toxic in the past and now you feel regretful about it?I want to get help but I don’t know how…( I would love to talk to you too btw)

[@hiniewinie]

I used to be friends with some jackasses at school. Yeah, on surface level, they'd look like nice people that you'd love to be friends with. I...wound up forcing myself into their circles and even others in my class. Recently, I learnt that once you fuck up (and this "fuck" up was me snitching on a guy that threatened me with a knife at school. So you tell me.) They'd always encourage me to follow my dreams and I'm still confused about it still. Why? Because I wonder every day...if they were lying or being honest. I'm glad I'm changing schools as a matter of fact. Get rid of roting garbage finally. I...won't like to say they were bad people but...their actions didn't reflect well to me. Oh and about that artist thing. I'm 15 and well...I have a VERYYYYY bad habit of looking at other artists too. Even to the extent of having a full ass break down of like "...they're 15 too. My art is better then theirs...why a I not that famous?" Sometimes its be overgeneralizing that and being too impatience since I started posting art since...last year November. I just wanna get that feeling completely out my head...that patience is key and I think it was heavily influenced by them since they always bombarded me to like their shit on insta and asked me how much followers and shit I had. I used to brush it off and just make fun of myself but...when it came too it...I used to go look at their account and ask myself: Why am I not that popular? Anyways...i kinda solved that problem by deleting all their numbers and starting anew with a nice little cult of online artist pals. Thanks for the video too...although it was telling me things that I repeat to myself. At least I have too look back and listen too

[@hottopiccowboy]

Tell me why I get this video in my recommendations the day after I block a dude that's been toxic to me wince day 1

[@funguscreature4721]

my parents are incredibly abusive and toxic, along with my moms boyfriend and my dads soon to be wife. but i can’t cut them out in any sense of the word. i’ve got no choice and i just get to suffer for 5 more years. can’t fuckin wait till i can get out of here.

[@verdabay105]

This is very helpful

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Good i'm happy you did

[@colurnegativ8414]

Love you and your videos❤ you're amazinggggg

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Thank you

[@newdayblue45]

I got out of one of those friendships just recently. I think, it's too soon to know really. But I met this girl in fourth grade when I started going to a new school. We connected quite quickly and for the first year everything was perfect and we were happy as friends. Fifth grade, a new guy came to the school and she started becoming distant. This upset me as she had been my only friend, although looking back on it I was a really really clingy friend at that age. But at the fifth grade field trip every thing went downhill, although technically she was supposed to be with me and my family as we offered to take her, she wanted absolutely nothing with me. She spent almost the entire field trip with kids she never even really talked to and the few moments we did spend together she acted very distant and hateful towards me. That, was almost the last straw as I distanced myself from her for the few last months of the year and tried to reach out to other kids. Sixth grade rolls around and I start talking to the new girl trying to make friends. Soon after, my friend starts talking to the new girl pretty much taking every opportunity I could have talked to her away from me. And I started going back to this friend all the while she rarely seemed to notice me. Time passes and I realize how she only wants something to do with me if she has no other friends to talk to, all the while I'm doing everything in my power to make sure she's happy. She soon moved away, allowing me to distance myself some. After some drama between us she stopped talking to me, finally allowing me to move on. Sorry for this mile long rant.

[@ladyblackburn]

I would like this video 1,000 times if I could!

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

dawwww thankies

[@hollybleu1963]

Haha, I could have used this video when I was younger...then again, I might not have listened to it. I had one friend who would constantly put me down, but it was in a way that I didn't recognize as putting me down. A compliment was always an insult in disguise, I couldn't have any friends aside from her...I think the only reason I recognized her behavior as toxic is because my home life was so bad. It took me a long time to finally cut ties with her, but I did. I haven't spoken to her (or my mother's side of family) in years. I'm still messed up, I still have issues, but I'm trying to be better each day. If anyone has a toxic family, just...once you move out, it gets easier. You CAN cut them out if you really, really want to or need to. Family isn't blood, it's something you make on your own.

[@evelynpedersen7197]

THE QUEEN HAS SPOKEN (Notice me senpai)

[@drenandtarb]

I'm always worried that people think I'm the kind of person who isn't doing anything just because of how much time I spend at home practising drawing which noone sees. XD

[@Acrospa]

Love your videos!

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Thank you

[@RadiantBleu]

I finally cut my ex out. They'd onstantly cry and say they wanted to kill themself. Mind you they got worse and worse.

[@Liz-cd8mz]

You're correct, love.

[@oibxkugou]

I know I’m a little late to say this, but this kinda helps me in a way. I have a friend who acts as if she’s(he’s? they’re? ugh, whatever)my damn parent. Yet...she’s only a year or so older than I am. I’m currently 15, and she’s 16. She tried to get me and my boyfriend to break up just because she didn’t like him.(she even told me lies about him! {ex. “he’s transphobic and homophobic”, “he’s really narcissistic”, etc., etc.}) She does things I’m not comfortable with(ex.looking through my sketch books, telling me not to do certain things). I feel as if the only reason she’s chill with my relationship now is cuz me and my boyfriend haven’t have a really bad fight recently. Do any of you see this as toxic? Cuz I sure as hell do. Leave your opinions for me if you want. Thank you. 🙂

[@Finkiepop9]

Uh yes indeed

[@Finkiepop9]

I have a friend who's always complaining about money BUT YET they'll go and buy a Ps4, giant tv, go clubbing and buy a new fridge in one month

[@GumbalyaE]

Amamzing as ever

[@caprizey8774]

Holy shit I love you 0':

[@tawnyfleur9032]

Who’s that with heather *Whoah* *wwowo* HeaTHER HEatHER HeATHEr *VERONICA VERONICA VERONICA*

[@Mink071]

I swore i saw you do this speedpaint before..

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Mia .Lopez I believe I streamed it

[@munchipotato3503]

you helped me :)~

[@ladymelt-kfpdrawer7632]

wish I've watched this earlier in my life

[@akkai027]

Go you!!!!

[@melancholygirl7793]

But what if you are the toxic people in your life?

[@alfae7771]

Hey, I really need some advice so if anyone could offer it here that'd be really appreciated I feel like I kind of relate to the "toxic, negative" person and I want to be able to fix it but I'm not entirely sure how. I've lived a pretty good life all in all but as of the past year or so I've steadily declined in mental health and attitude; I feel like I've become a very outwardly negative, lazy and otherwise bad influence of a person and I feel it's been dragging other people down with me. I do have access to the help I need but I have one issue - I feel as if I can't take it? I've never been very capable of speaking to others and I cannot start conversations without tears, so going to someone to diagnose and help any problems I may have feels like an impossible task on its own. I also have the issue of not wanting to cause concern or have my family be aware that I'm struggling, and I tend to lull back into the mindset that I "wouldn't deserve" the help regardless - which really doesn't help anyone. I want to get better so that I can rebuild my relationships on a more steady ground and be better for the people around me but I don't know how to go about making myself take the first step. Can anybody give me any advice?

[@strawberryseed2374]

Feeling like you don't deserve the help is something that I've gone through a lot as well. As well as not being able to start those serious conversations without immediately crying. However, you gotta start somewhere, you know? Reach out to friends, let them know what you're going through and let them help you. If those people in your life truly do care for you, _let them_ . Take those chances. Let yourself be vulnerable to those who care for you and _want_ you to succeed, to be happy. Hey, I don't know you, but I think that you truly deserve that help. I used to be outwardly negative and toxic too, I'd make jokes about killing myself, belittle myself tons and after attempting to hurt myself I finally just asked why was I doing this? What was making me _want_ to do this to myself? They're important questions to ask because you can finally get yourself on a building platform to better understand why you're doing those certain actions. If you make suicidal jokes often, stop making those jokes. It might not occur to you then, as it also didn't occur to me either, but those jokes might not seem like jokes in the long run. It might sound dumb, but get to know yourself and why you're feeling that way. For example, I was still friends with a person who mentally abused me for 3 years. Once cutting out that person, I felt freer. There have been tons of things in my life that I have stopped doing or begun doing to be able to understand why I was feeling a certain way about something. It takes time and patience to feel better and happier. I started this process a year or two ago, and although all of my problems aren't completely gone, I do feel a little better about myself. And hey, there are a few things that I still need to work on. For example, talking to my family more, stopping my bad habits, etc. but those things come with time. I dunno, I think the overall message I'm trying to get at here is to take those chances to better yourself, to get that help that you rightfully deserve, and to just trust in your family and friends. I hope this helped, frendo and I wish you the best of luck in your journey to become better.

[@nightgarla]

Which program do you use?

[@keiracopeland4721]

Since the character looked like Louis (TWDG) before you added color, I was hoping that he's end up looking like him. Guess not. *shrug*

[@figpixie]

Already done. My life is still shitty tho

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

It takes time

[@psachickennugget8617]

What if I am the toxic people. Do I cut myself? No I tried that already...

[@pubqy]

What if the toxic person's your only close friend? qwq

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Than you need to talk to them about it and be honest. If you two are close enough they should understand and if they dont then you dont need people like that in your life

[@spyishere3054]

Wow

[@asheillustrates]

So...the person who acted like they were better than everyone is basically Pride from Zodiac? XD (imsorry)

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

erwhwrhewrjhwhrrhkej I mean I never thought of it like that but ya I guess you;re right

[@asheillustrates]

TwistedDisaster XD That’s great