This Man Is PATHETIC

[@DAngeloWallace]

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[@nina.robbs565]

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!

[@juuuuddeee]

HAPPY LATE BIRTHDAY DANGELOOO 🩷🩷🩷

[@koalasandpandas7]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY

[@clairetta]

Happy belated birthday!!!

[@mibwu]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! mine is next weekend!

[@PumaArg]

I want to add something: this kiss doesn't need to be traumatic to be wrong. Even if she isn't traumatized by it, he still had no rights to do that to her and it was beyond unprofessional, and she's in her right to complain, no matter how hard it was for her

[@abigailr.9601]

I 100% agree! Thank you for saying this!

[@kaemincha]

this is SUCH a good point. even if it was not the most traumatic thing in the world, it still should have never happened.

[@babyspider99]

Ne also shouldn't have to resign over it as well

[@melaspink2535]

@@babyspider99 why? people get fired for unprofessionalism all the time. why is this different?

[@XYZ-kb3mm]

if she wasn’t traumatized by the kiss i’m sure she’s now traumatized by being called a liar and threatened with legal action by the organization she works for!

[@ellieramune]

I cannot get over how he compared sexually assaulting Jenni to how he would kiss his daughters, what the actual fuck

[@anovemberstar]

It definitely says a LOT

[@IntimateAlien]

I really hope he never pushes the limits like this with his daughters 🫨 I feel so sorry for any Woman that has to deal with this vile human

[@lanny007]

sick, sick world we live in.

[@duhnay]

Right? Made me think someone needs to go check in on his daughters...

[@morganqorishchi8181]

I am now extremely worried about this man's daughters and hope they're okay and he hasn't done this to them. Also, he is not remotely mature enough to be a parent.

[@pandas4evr123197]

It's terrifying that a woman can get assaulted ON CAMERA, and yet people will still believe and support the man who did it.

[@AfroGaz71]

I saw Katy Perry assault a minor on camera and saw people not only support her, but claim the teen boy was lucky, even though he was visibly shaken. Didn't see any protest's or media frenzy for that though. Funny that...huh?

[@blackdiopside5261]

​@@AfroGaz71 I was thinking the same thing.

[@AfroGaz71]

@@blackdiopside5261 It's a typical double standard. People are only interested when it affects their group, and the media just listens out for the squeaky wheel.

[@probablypositivity8918]

​@@AfroGaz71 Yeah, this kind of stuff happens all the time to men and women, boys and girls and doesn't usually get much coverage at all. Only a minority of cases do get coverage.

[@blasianking4827]

​@@AfroGaz71so are you making a point or just doing whataboutism here? Yeah people are way too defensive towards sexual assault, what a surprise!

[@andym.5134]

As a Spanish woman, you cannot understand how disappointing was passing from complete euphoria and proud for our soccer team to complete disgust and embarrassment of how the sexism ("machismo" in Spanish) is still present and prevalent in soccer.

[@LM-fz5jv]

Sexism en español es sexismo, creo que no hay un término en inglés de machismo.

[@andym.5134]

Sé perfectamente que el término "machismo" no existe en inglés. Pero el término que se utiliza en la prensa española o en el habla es machismo, porque incluimos la connotación de que es una actitud negativa contra las mujeres sólo por el hecho de ser mujeres. Gracias por explicarme algo que ya sabía.

[@20000dino]

As a Portuguese person, “machismo” and “sexismo” do not mean the same (though they’re inherently related). “Sexismo” means “sexism”, “machismo” basically means the same as misogyny, only that instead of emphasizing the subjugation of women (and of anyone applicable), it emphasizes the supremacy of men. I personally find the term “misogyny” to be the most useful in any instance, but they are basically interchangeable. However, from my experience, the term “misoginia” is still in very low use and widely unknown in the Iberian Peninsula (and probably in other Spanish and Portuguese speaking countries too, I assume). The landscape of social issues discourse is quite different here (and often way behind imo, even among the youth), largely due to a significant linguistic and cultural barrier.

[@LM-fz5jv]

@@andym.5134 bueno no hace falta ofenderse Xd, te corregí porque en el comentario lo pones como sinónimo y no lo son.

[@andym.5134]

​@@LM-fz5jvLo seeeeeeee. No me ofendo ;-) Pero quería hacer esa "traducción" porque es el término que utilizamos de manera cotidiana (desgraciadamente). También estaba enfadada antes y he contestado un poco borde. Un abrazo y terminemos el día bien. 🫶

[@Riaah_love]

As a female soccer player, I’m not surprised this happened and I’m even less surprised that people are excusing the behavior. I’m only a high school level player but ever since I’ve started playing I’ve noticed how vile men’s soccer fans can be towards women and girls, the things me and my fellow players have heard on the field from our own teammates on the boys team is shocking. It’s unfair that we have to deal with these things and they get swept under the rug

[@ThatPinkLady]

That’s terrible! >:(

[@MakerOfChase]

I mean, if Brock Allen 'the filthy, should be on the registry, rapist' Turner can get away with it, they think they all can. It might not be immediate, but things are changing. Don't ever stop speaking up. You have every right to make them feel as uncomfortable as they make you feel. Speak your truth!

[@justawanderer8220]

I may not play soccer (I am more of a dance girl myself lol) but some men that I know in discord often when woman sports come around will watch just to sexualize the players. I mean they will sexualize any woman in the general vicinity (only a handful of the men luckly, its just they are the loudest people), but they get extra enthusiastic when it comes to woman in sports.

[@Heckinwhatonearth]

My high school school p.e teacher would talk about the butts of girls, pointing it out to us, saying all kinds of nasty disgusting stuff about girls who were 12 to 14. Nobody ever reported the creep.... ALWAYS wary of male p.e teachers in any environment.

[@OReily08080]

That's just awful. Why does this behavior continue to be tolerated

[@RukhsarSanjaree]

To the men and women who are saying " but she was laughing later" , i was 13 years old when I was going to my friend's birthday party with my mom when i was SA'd by a complete stranger on the street. Other men on the street acted like i was lying. I was heart broken. But i went to the party and laughed and and smiled and danced, basically enjoyed myself to the fullest. I'm 30 now. Its been 17 years and I still haven't forgotten the feeling. I curl up into a ball all by myself every time i remember, knowing full well that no one will understand. That's how deep a SA wound can be for the victims. So please just don't

[@melaniemundt474]

Thank you for sharing your story ❤ I believe you and your feelings are valid!

[@charlotte3794]

I’m so sorry my love, i hope you can heal as much as possible

[@babyspider99]

Hey dumb azz, nothing in your situation is remotely similar to this event. The context or intent is nothing close to this event. Do not project your horrible event onto this. Lastly, get some counseling or therapy so your current or future boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't have to deal with your past baggage if your crawling into a ball.

[@MechisMechas]

What you are describing is, similar to what happened to me in a different scenario, the memory stays and affects a lot, no matter how much we try to just let it go. It is amazing how a lot of people, say we women overreact to this feeling of being always scared and worried about this kind of aggression, completely ignoring the stats that 1 out of 3 women/girls are sexually attacked at least once in our lives, as if 1 out of 3, were a small number.

[@ulvegutten2056]

TMI, go to therapy. Stop trauma dumping. Weird

[@sararubicubi]

As a Spanish person one thing that bothers me is how (mostly) right wing people say she couldn't feel violated cause she partied with the girls afterwards. One of the RFEF workers even leaked a video of her in the bus. This just shows how unaware they are of women's experiences cause time and time again this has happens to my friends and I. When were young, at anime conventions and as adults, at clubs. A stranger touches you or kisses you without your permission and in the moment you don't do anything so you don't ruin the fun. What's going on in your mind is a very different thing.

[@ViolentRainbow]

I'm not defending what he did in any way, but to be honest it kinda feels like people are pressuring her to feel worse about it. Everyone is telling her she should be mad and she should be angry and she's a victim, if SHE feels that way then yes she is entitled to feel that way, but it very much seems like people are almost insisting that she be as mad about it as they are.

[@soloheroina]

no i 100% agree about the 'not ruining the fun' part. i was harassed a couple times at work this week- it was a public tabling event and if I acted upset after that, no one would wanna come up to our table. plus its so humiliating to not only be harassed but to be visibly upset by it in front of other people- it feels like admitting their control over u to let them ruin your time.

[@2crisp63]

when was this political?

[@hisnameispan]

as someone living in Spain, I am not surprised how vile the right wingers are here. is they lack basic understanding of what consent is, I am sure slightly more nuanced situations are beyond their mental capacity.

[@claudiaigsa6900]

​@@2crisp63 since the moment the Spanish government condemned it and then the Spanish far right party, Vox, took Rubiales's side

[@humphreyspellingbee1732]

the fact that FIFA are the good guys here is really a testament to how messed up this situation is

[@taoriq3632]

A broken clocking tells the time correctly twice a day….. Fifa the notoriously bad guy in football is the good guy here 😂😂😂😂

[@404maxnotfound]

yeah it's like the bare minimum you could of done in this situation and I promise you it's just because this is damaging the brand rather than caring about the abuse and the subculture of abuse that clearly rampant in football and Spanish football.

[@dielotosblum]

I was thinking this!

[@Ass_of_Amalek]

@@404maxnotfound *have

[@Rechtauch]

Spot on! And how UEFA is silent..🤢

[@PopChanx]

And you can BET that if Jeni threw a fit or was visibly upset, either in the imediate aftermath of the kiss or later on, people would complain about it, saying she's making something out of nothing. There's never a good reaction for a victim to have: they'll always be judged more than their own harasser/ab*ser.

[@ernie39]

Exactly!!

[@strawb_short_cake]

Yeah, you can't win. If you get angry, you're 'too emotional' and 'attention seeking'. If you try to appear like you're fine, obviously you lied about what happened/it wasn't actually that bad. If you keep quiet, you're blamed for not speaking out and if you ever DO want to speak about it later, you'll get blamed and questioned about why you waited. If you appear too calm or collected, you must be lying too and obviously rehearsed your lines. There is no 'right way' to be a victim. Everything you do or say is under this insane amount of scrutiny, while all the evidence against the abuser is twisted into an excuse or call for sympathy. I greatly applaud Jenni Hermoso for speaking out, that was brave AF. But what was done to her after is the worst nightmare of every assault victim come true, and as D'Angelo mentioned, not everyone in this situation would have received the support and justice she thankfully eventually received.

[@hotsexyangel]

smh yup

[@tubester4567]

wow you guys are harsh. This guy hasnt harassed or assaulted anyone. Its Spain, its very common for people to kiss both cheeks when they meet. The guy was celebrating a victory, he probably went too far but he said he was sorry and wouldnt do it again. But thats not enough all the feminazis want him fired and lose his career over 1 mistake. Soccer players do worse when the are celebrating. When a player kicks a goal their team mates are trying to kiss them and smother them with hugs. They pat each other on the behind, Seems to be some double standards.

[@benhays6488]

Why are you censoring the word abuser? I'm genuinely curious

[@CrazyGoth631]

It’s so disgusting men can literally sexually assault women in front of millions and have the whole thing filmed then turn around say she’s lied and he’s going to sue her for speaking up. Then room of creeps applaud…

[@clubafterlife]

​@@raid567t Did she though? That was the RFEF releasing a statement without consulting her. The only thing she said, on camera, immediately after, is that she "did not like it"

[@FEKana]

​@@raid567tTHEY had come out saying it was consensual. Not her. They said that she said it was consensual. She is ACTUALLY said it wasn't from the start

[@aalvenda6443]

Mens ego is so fragile that they cannot comprehend that someone doesn’t like them. Imagine being that broken inside that you cannot accept rejection.

[@jemhasopinions]

@@dimitri7615which is definitely a fair point but can we have one conversation where i do not see this point brought up when a woman gets harassed in some way? it undermines both issues imo

[@dimitri7615]

@@jemhasopinions it’s very important to talk about it. So many people just ignore men’s mental health.

[@HurricaneDDragon]

The ACTUAL “false feminism” is claiming you support women while applauding a woman’s abuser, Coach. 🙄

[@afellowpotato]

I'm just replying so you can see how much likes you got

[@HurricaneDDragon]

@@afellowpotatoI know, that’s insane! 😂

[@lalamyne]

Just a couple of weeks ago a girl has been r*ped by SEVEN awful guys here in Italy and the whole situation is even more baffling because people are sending thoughts and prayers to the perpetrators on TikTok and IG and the judge said they were innocent of the crime because "the didn't understand she didn't give them consent". Yep. They punched her, kicked her, insulted her, she was hurting, bleeding, passing out multiple times, and that's apparently what consent looks like. One of the guys commented on this saying it was almost digusting and they looked like "1000 dogs on a kitten". Apparently they were also planning their "revenge" as a punishment for reporting them to the authorities. The mother of one of the guys commented saying she kinda got what she deserved for basically being a wh*re.

[@mohanatri1]

The mothers calling the girl a whore is beyond disgusting, it's inhumane. I hope the girl gets proper therapy and help, as for her rapists, they deserve nothing but the death penalty.

[@stonks3507]

So fucking disgusting. I hope that woman gets justice.

[@chickofmusic001]

This world becomes more and more disgusting and letting men commit crimes.

[@lalamyne]

@@babyspider99 nope, they were 7 italian guys. Look it up. What an ignorant and gross statement.

[@moona3206]

​@@babyspider99Wtf...Italians can't commit crimes ? It's not a country thing you ignorant. Your comment is ridiculous

[@revenge3265]

Imagine starving yourself because your son SA'd someone and got flack for it.

[@OnyxDeity]

If I imagine that, I'll also have to imagine quitting on it at the first sign of discomfort.

[@bipo819]

the apple doesn't fall too far from the tree i can see where his attitude developed as it seemed he's used to getting away with stuff since childhood

[@caIlmeangel]

boy moms are terrifying

[@C-SD]

​@@OnyxDeityright? What a drama queen

[@Lucina..]

She probably thinks it means that she just stops cooking for herself and then other people will have to bring her food.

[@LoFoSho]

Dude! I am so tired of the victim having to be a perfect little princess in order to be validated. It’s gross. You nailed it!

[@TheVideoChatter]

So true! I will always believe victims first. There is no such thing as perfect human, and they don’t have to be perfect to be believed, understood, and supported.

[@j.munday7913]

Yes. This! I remember when George Floyd was murdered and so many people were excusing it by saying he did bad things in his past. So what? Even people who aren't perfect, or heck aren't even good humans, can be victims too. They still deserve to be heard and believed.

[@monbub]

​​​@@j.munday7913This too! It showed how people don't value the lives of black men, and it's always for the stupidest reasons like "oh they did drugs" or something. It's honestly really sad that people still think like this. It doesn't matter what mistakes those men made in the past, they're still important to their family and friends and should be treated the same as everyone else

[@user-lp2he1md6i]

@@monbubyour absolutely right - as a black women that has experience this rape culture/ victim blaming behavior from men of my race ( as every race does) it’s feels utterly BELITTLING to be expected to extend grace & fight for people who would not do the same for me if I were to be SA/ RAPE. Now I’d have to be the perfect victim - even in the eyes of my own race. Kinda like the whole R Kelly thing. Ugh. Double oppression ( intersectionality)

[@morganqorishchi8181]

I know I'm male but as a victim of CSA I've seen this in survivor's groups and group therapy when people talk about how others react and it baffles me. Whether it's SA or CSA, can't we all just agree that some things are never, ever okay? She could be the biggest asshole on Earth and it wouldn't make doing this to her alright. Why in 2023 is this even a debate? NO ONE ever deserves SA.

[@FemmiFatale]

Small correction. Every *MAN* in that room clapped. The 4 women in the front absolutely did not clap. They sat their looking around at all their male colleagues in pure bewilderment.

[@rodo1252]

Felt bad for them, they looked like they didn't know if they should clap or not due to how they may be perceived. At any rate it speaks loads that there were only 4 women in the whole assembly

[@PeggyKoneko]

What's wild to me is how dramatic their reactions are. All he needed to do was to be like "sorry, I got caught up in the moment" both to Jenny and to the media, yet he immediately goes straight to ranting and raving. His mum goes on hunger strike. And somehow it's "false feminism's" fault?

[@Andrea-rc1gz]

It’s entitlement I bet he’s never heard the word no in his life. Especially considering how his weirdo mother reacted 🙄

[@kikimge]

Exactly, how hard can it be..

[@stuckinthelazycorneragain4016]

Agreed. A decent person would have said "wow that was completely inappropriate of me and im so sorry I did that to you, I was caught up in the moment, not that it makes it more okay." But no. Absolutely infuriating.

[@islabee94]

It's because they're so deeply misogynistic that to them, he IS the victim of unfair persecution. Look no further than his dumb bint mother if you want to understand his gross attitude towards women.

[@small_dropin_the_big_ocean995]

False feminism i.e. the illusion women have that they don't need men but they clearly do and that's why they're speaking out which is stupid. Just explains they don't know the definition of feminism and only using it to take out their frustrations towards women because they're not letting this non-consensual kiss issue go away easily for men.

[@senjunii]

As a Spanish woman following this story, I just want to add two points: One is that the first statement we all read from Jenni Hermoso that came out shrugging off Rubiales' actions (6:39) is absolutely fake, made up, definitely not said by her, but probably falsified by the RFEF. Which shows once again the length at which this powerful group of men will go to protect each other from the consequences of obvious SA. The other thing is that this is not the first time Rubiales is involved in controversy. From being openly opposed to the profesionalization of women's football in 2021, to paying orgies with money from the federation, and personally arranging and securing a 40 million euro commision for the RFEF for taking the World Cup to Saudi Arabia this year (a starting point for an ongoing investigation into more related corruption, and we could definitely continue discussing the ethics of the decision in the first place). His SA on Jenni Hermoso is just the tip of the iceberg for a person that has the world "entitlement" written all over his face. And the comment me and my friends heard the most about in the days right after the assault: "If this is what he does openly and with no regrets infront of the cameras, what does he do when no one is looking?"

[@Devghost]

So no one’s seen the video of the Spanish captain on the coach after the kiss ??

[@jowysw]

​@@Devghostwhat?

[@sodabread7956]

The thing that I think is the most creepy is his version of what happened, it sounds like he's made it into a fantasy.

[@Lucabythesea]

^^^^ this

[@tdaddy26]

Glad someone said this. She did not make that statement saying it was mutual.

[@ryntintynvin]

Fake feminism is when people say horrible, misogynistic garbage and then say, “And before you come for me, I’m a feminist!” So he’s the closest thing to fake feminism in this story…so technically he’s blaming himself…so he’s right 🤯😂

[@sicilianknicca_mickygreeneyes]

please name one feminist you have read and not googled from acadmeia not entertainment

[@awkwardukulele6077]

@@sicilianknicca_mickygreeneyeswhy? Their point is that people who say anti-woman stuff while claiming to be pro-women are fake feminists, which seems like a great point to make. Posie Parker would be an example of a fake feminist, as she’s already said openly misogynistic things and openly supported the literal neo-Nazis who joined her rallies.

[@probablypositivity8918]

Yeah, it's kind like adding a "no offense" at the end of an insult. Or "I'm not racist, but.." probably the best comparison would be "I have sisters and a mom, I can't be sexist!"

[@BustyCatbot]

@@sicilianknicca_mickygreeneyes This isn't an insult against feminists, it's describing *fake* feminists, if you're a feminist, they aren't talking about you.

[@DizzyBusy]

​@@sicilianknicca_mickygreeneyesI started with Joan Didion, then went back to Shere Hite. The last one I read was Koa Beck. What about you?

[@imaginarymia]

Situations like these are exactly why women don't speak out for themselves a lot of the time.. I cannot begin to fathom the mental gymnastics that had to be done to see this woman as anything but the victim. I hope she's doing okay.

[@ArturGlass.C]

She literally wouldn't have been sued. If she didn't talk he wouldn't have sued her. It's fucked up but we can't be surprised victims don't talk when we live in a system where this is allowed and even expected. All of them should be charged for the way they're covering this man's assault and harassing her with a bullshit legal case about it. I really hope there's an investigation about it because if it's another high profile case that's not getting sorted it's just gonna make it worse for victims to share their stories.

[@zizojaezekeom3565]

It's shocking how all the real victims don't report it and what's worse, the reported cases don't get what they deserve and people aka men act as if rapists and sexual abusers are a myth or a legend

[@Likelyfairy]

And if he wins she’ll be the one with the “bad reputation” sadly potentially ruining future opportunities….

[@dr7coo_]

what about guys? girls (especially nowadays) treat us like dogshit and we dont speak up about it, why do you think suicide rates are higher for men then women? nobody gives a fuck about us or our feelings. Women nowadays are way to soft when it comes to stuff like this like wtf

[@katieggg100]

Unfortunately this doesn't surprise me in the slightest. Men will protect men doing heinous things to women in the workplace all the time.

[@bryna7]

Men on the left will protect other men that do this stuff too.

[@Ass_of_Amalek]

if you look at the video of the no voy a dimitir, no voy a dimitir, no voy a dimitir, no voy a dimitir, no voy a dimitir, there also are quite a lot of women there who are applauding just the same.

[@Kur0miiiii]

Yep. Im living proof of that too

[@lesboobas]

​@@Ass_of_Amalekwomen can and will protect men doing heinous things to women especially if they think that it's normal/if they think its the victim's fault (which is unfortunately very prevalent)

[@katieggg100]

@@bryna7 when did I say anything about anyone being on the right or left? Lol

[@tcscgirl12]

One clarifying note: The first "statement" by Jenni saying it was 'just a natural gesture of gratitude' she has fully denied ever saying - RFEF almost certainly falsified it after attempts to pressure her (AND HER FAMILY) into denying he did anything wrong failed. I still agree with the point you made (that people's kneejerk reaction to trauma is often to cover for the abuser and even if she DID say this her point wouldn't be less valid) but it's important to know that that wasn't even the case. She has not faltered from her initial reaction in the locker room. The coach is a whole other bag of worms - multiple top level players refused to play in this world cup for him because he himself has a history of abuse.

[@christinajackson6309]

Omg I knew it. I figured that statement was either completely contrived or they were forcing her hand. The fact that that’s so obvious makes it even more gross. Like it’s that predictable. I’m also not shocked to hear about the coach having those issues to (and would be even less shocked if other women come forward about Rubiales).

[@fletcheragenda6014]

yeah, it seems people forget that a lot of celebrities and sports people are not the only ones running their social media pages

[@joachimseidel1400]

Exactly these are some other important factor to consider, Vilda was not only supporting Rubiales but he himself was critized before the assault because of his mistreatment of players

[@ZhakariasGarcia]

Vielda is a controlling creep a nepotism baby and very poor excuse of a coach that is only there because of Rubiales

[@XYZ-kb3mm]

WOW fuck them seriously

[@sonie4208]

people “not believing” what happened when it was on camera and captured at several different angles makes my blood boil. most of us are never taken seriously but when there’s irrefutable proof and people still choose to be on the side of the assailant… just disgusting.

[@asterling4]

always reminds me of one horrible statistic in particular... in father/daughter child sexual abuse cases with irrefutable proof (i.e. hard biological evidence or photos/videos of the abuse), 50% of mothers will still insist that the child is lying about the abuse. _fifty. percent._ undeniable evidence, some cases as far as a video that can be played in front of the mother's face, and 50% of those moms will _still_ blame the child and stand by the father. that's not even considering the cases _without_ such definitive proof. what that amount of denial and blame does to someone who's been assaulted... it's horrifying to think about. i think back on my own experiences, how long it took me to realize that being called a liar _did not make me one._ i don't know what the sickness is that leads people to look at video footage of sexual assault and turn around to call the victim a liar. but whatever it is, it runs deep in our society.

[@shytendeakatamanoir9740]

​@@asterling4It's the remnants of years and years (decades, centuries even) where women weren't legally considered fully grown human being, going from their father's authority to their husband's authority. And it only ended relatively recently (in my country, women couldn't vote before the mid 40s). At best, they're considered like childs, at worst they're barely even considered humans. That's the only way it makes sense, as horrifying as it is.

[@council.of.fluffies]

​@@VitaeLibrahuh, i've always wondered but never thought about it that way. I guess, unless you've been in some sort of situation similar, it's hard to fully grasp just how confusing it all is. Doesn't make it right. But i guess i understand.

[@jemhasopinions]

@@VitaeLibrai really appreciate this explanation. the cycle of abuse is a cruel one and for those who are able to acknowledge it and get out, i will always commend them.

[@joelleash8873]

@@VitaeLibra My mother’s second husband ended up getting arrested for p*do charges from his past years into their marriage, and she was so devoted to him and believed all his bs that she stayed with him while he was in prison. She didn’t leave him until I came forward about my experience with him, and even then, it seemed like she was more heartbroken that she had to end the relationship with him over being heartbroken by what that man did to me. She’s spent her whole life with abusive men, and she falls so hard for the false reality they present and often prioritizes them over her children. I understand a lot of what you’re saying, but I’ll never recover from always being second to her partners. I think it’s understandable why some mothers handle those situations that way if they’re also being abused, but I also think it’s absolutely inexcusable and destroys the child in that situation. I empathize with the abuse she also went through, but I could never discredit my child

[@brandi5448]

This reminds me of the soldier who came back from the war and during the celebrations he grabbed a nurse, bent her over, and kissed her. The woman came forward years later and said it was assault and that she hadn't wanted it. Yet its such a glorified moment in American history, even a statue was built. Sad to see nothing has changed in the world.

[@MrsLyraGyrl]

That photo always bothered me growing up, but it's so disheartening as a 39 y.o. how it's still so widely viewed as a great piece of Americana.

[@brandi5448]

​@@MrsLyraGyrlIt bothered me too! In the photo she's absolutely limp and he's got quite a grip on her. She mentioned how strong he felt and how hard he held her and that it was never a romantic moment for her. And if I'm recalling it correctly, he had a wife! Sad all around.

[@monbub]

God that's disgusting. No man, no matter how amazing his deeds are, has the right to do that to anyone.

[@greenhowie]

I was thinking the exact same thing. The problem is, some people are going to try to use that as a defense for that pillock. Appeal to tradition and all that shit.

[@Shay416]

😮😢

[@Shake_Shark]

Love how the clip where he's chanting "I will not resign" pans to the crowd and a *massively overwhelming majority* of the people within said crowd are men... And of the less than half-dozen women who are there, only two are clapping, while almost all of the men are clapping and smiling and listening intently to what he's saying. The women are either clapping and looking incredibly uncomfortable, or they're staring deadpan at him, or they're looking down at their laps or phones and not even making any sort of eye contact with him. Just goes to show that high-power men will often defend other high-power men, even against the most deplorable acts imaginable.

[@aicirhayden]

As a woman living in Spain, it is high-key heartbreaking that not only the international media but even KZbinrs like D'Angelo are talking about this with more rigor and fairness than any of the media in this country... it's astonishing how the debate surrounding this topic here keeps dipping back into disgusting victim blaming and blatant denial of what the ENTIRE world saw. Thank you, D'Angelo for speaking on it❤ Ánimo Jenni, no estás sola!!!

[@Arikel]

Dilo, reina!

[@MaBurro2112canal]

False... even the right wing conservatives (PP) said Rubiales should resign right after the kiss happened. This case wouldn't be as widespread if the biggest part of the society (fem footballers, government, media) was not against Rubiales

[@aicirhayden]

@@MaBurro2112canal no se si me has leído lo que he dicho pero hablaba de los medios de comunicación... si lees con un poco de ojo crítico periódicos o ves programas de tertulia, la proporción de 'pundits' que están argumentando que todo esto está manipulado es no sólo muy elevada respecto a lo que se está hablando internacionalmente, pero también según mi criterio, es demasiada gente para algo tan objetivo. Por favor, la próxima vez que estés en desacuerdo con alguien, no empieces con "Falso" como si estuviese mintiendo, es una falta de respeto.

[@aicirhayden]

@@MaBurro2112canal y la última frase que has dicho es muy interesante. Sabes cómo tenías garantías casi absolutas de que esto no agarraba tanta tracción como lo ha hecho? Si el hubiese renunciado inmediatamente. Todo lo que está ocurriendo es consecuencia de las acciones de Rubiales y él es el primero que lo sabe, por eso se filtró el día de antes de esa convención tan bochornosa que la intención era de renunciar. Si no estuviese agarrado como un clavo ardiendo al poder que tiene en la RFEF, no estaríamos en esta conversación para nada. Y lo de que se le tiene manía lo puedes oír de todos los lados del espectro político, hay gente que dice que no se va porque está enchufado por el gobierno, gente que dice que el gobierno quiere "cargárselo". No le doy alas a ninguna conspiración, yo solo me remito a lo sucedido de forma observable, que parece que se le olvida a mucha gente que todo el planeta tuvo los ojos sobre el incidente.

[@DeePeeZee]

As a boricua I was honestly surprised D'angelo was covering this. And was not surprised that the spanish community wasn't. Es bien triste que el machismo solo sigue empeorando.

[@GabyWith1B]

When even the most elite female athletes are preyed on and victimized, how does anyone still cling to the victim blaming narrative? I'm so glad you highlighted the support Jenni has received.

[@Ttkkn]

But also “there’s literally a video taken. How can you lie” Has D’Angelo heard of Trump??? That’s trumps entire life in a nutshell of lies

[@sourgreendolly7685]

@@TtkknKnowing it's common doesn't change how baffling it is. Like I'm never surprised by Trump's bs being supported but it does boggle the mind every time. My guess is that D'Angelo is having that kind if experience with the video evidence. And that's a good thing. It can too easily become normalized. That's why Jenni was saying "but what can you do" at first - she didn't expect all this support because it's too normal for her to not have enough support to speak up.

[@L013-d8k]

On the "perfect victim" note: I think it's also important to realize there's a BIG difference in her being asked by media about the situation after the "apology", and her talking in a union statement. Once she knew her union, her team, and many other players believed her and we're willing to back her, she wouldve felt like any more comfortable telling the truth, knowing she'd be protected from retribution

[@fw14afrifa74]

To be fair, her first statement defending the kiss wasn't even written by her, it was written by the RFEF and sent to media companies without her permission.

[@supposedlymel]

it's so so disheartening that even something as incredible as a women's team winning a world cup is overshadowed by the actions of one vile man

[@MademoiselleRed1390]

And the narcisist made it about himself. You can't tell me that man didn't know it would get picked up by cameras, dude couldn't just be a professional guy, congratulate the players and let these women have their moment. No, he had to make it his own spectacle.

[@MsLizzieGurl]

I'm not a Spaniard but I am Hispanic. A mother will go so far to defend her son before listening to women or admitting that her son could possibly do something wrong. Our culture has still far to go when it comes to misogyny.

[@iammar1159]

Oh yeah that’s everywhere and in every culture. Asian and African cultures are the same way and it makes me so sad.

[@uncertain_zee]

I was gonna make a similar post, but honestly like the person above said, the older I get the more I see this happening in every culture. The "machismo" with Hispanic people is incredibly deep-rooted and I do think there's less Hispanic people that condemn it than, for example, second Gen Americans, but holy shit is it so much worse than younger me could've ever thought.

[@brumella]

Of course, she will starve before admitting that she raised a mysoginistic piece of trash 🙃

[@ana-nim]

​@@iammar1159 in Russia it's the same. The capital of pickmes where women fight each other to win some stinky cheating violent alcoholic and where mothers defend actual rapists and serial killers. And all of that because after ww2 men were in such a huge deficit that women got used to treat men as a prize and trophy and now it's like a generational trauma 😒

[@DeePeeZee]

So very very true. Most of these moms are the ones creating narcissist.

[@TheDearestOfThings]

My abuser tried to take my life, and a few years later showed up on tiktok as the "glonky" dude.. I was shown nothing but aggression and hate after coming out, and told that I was a liar, regardless of literal photo evidence that this man has been in my life and stalked me. I even had to report to police over handing them evidence of him vandalizing buildings in my area, and got told by them that his stalking and harming me was "not their problem". Nevermind the fact he has a facebook with photos of all the women he has abused or stalked. It will never stop amazing me that some people can literally just get away with anything, and have people supporting them, even after causing deaths and life long damage to people.

[@ImTrIgGeREdd]

It’s so sad that the biggest victory in women’s football is overshadowed by an assault. That’s what it was, And to think he doubles down on being a massive creep.

[@i.147]

right like especially for the player this was supposed to be the high point of her carreer, hell in her life, and this disgusting man chose to ruin it and make sure she doesnt forget shes will always be a sexual object in the eyes of men no matter what she does. chilling and vile

[@Stonedatthenailsalon549]

The worst thing for me is that he took away HER moment, she won the biggest tournament there is and that man made it about himself. I hope she will get justice but there will never be the possibility of looking back at her accomplishment without thinking of this moment. I hate it for her and all women who ever got robbed of their victories. SIEMPRE CONTIGO JENNI

[@supermaryg]

I'm over 40 and these stories still happening make me... very tired and just beyond upset. At the same time, seeing young people call it for exactly what it is, saying things way more eloquently than I ever could - it makes me very happy. This whole situation sucks... but thank you for talking about it, it's important.

[@ana-nim]

Every generation played a role in today's situation. We are able to speak up and fight back because of you and generations of women before you, it's a collective work and it feels very nice to feel support of older women behind our back!

[@Emu19]

​@@ana-nim Absolutely beautifully said. Putting it that way makes this fight seem so much less lonely. I'm so proud of how far we have come 🥰

[@mechanical_chaos]

As someone also over 40, it's been cultural for so long to protect the assaulters and discredit the victims, we still have a long way to rectify it. But lately there have been so many amazing steps that send a clear message we haven't been sending until recently: This will not be accepted.

[@babyspider99]

Hey old hag, go away, no one wants to kiss your witch face anyway

[@MsXperienced]

Sexual assault is so common for women that it is seen as too extreme when women actually seek legal action to protect themselves against it…. Men feel entitled to women’s bodies so much so, that they have less empathy than the victims they assaulted. I know because this is something I’ve struggled with…it’s worst when you feel responsible for their behavior and like no one would believe it wasn’t your fault.

[@sunettas9738]

I'm sorry that happened to you, I hope you find a good support system and that your abuser is brought to justice

[@cassielcruzchavolla809]

It really sucks that such a big victory for Spanish women's football was overshadowed by SA and victim blaming. I hope that Jenni Hermoso and her team can properly celebrate this victory soon.

[@justkiddin84]

Well, of course it was! It was all him! He won, not them! They are his toys. Predators think that way. Little weenie boys think that way. The worst criminals blame literally everyone else.

[@sourgreendolly7685]

Hopefully this becomes a double victory, where they can celebrate him losing the job due to misconduct and the win.

[@kayakat1869]

I feel so horrible for Jenni. It's a really bad feeling to be disrespected in this way. Recently, I was kissed by a strange man while walking down the street in broad daylight. I was so shocked that I froze up. I felt so disturbed and vulnerable after that moment. I was also in a foreign country so I didn't know anyone or who to call about this situation. Sexual assault is never ever okay!

[@abigailr.9601]

I’m so sorry you had to go through that! I can’t even imagine. I hope you’ve been able to find the support you need! 💛

[@MarieHP]

What infuriates me about the "perfect victim" thing, is that if you behave like a perfect victim, you WILL make yourself the perfect victim! Aka the perfect prey for abusers. Soft, quiet, demure, non-confrontational, etc, is everything abusers are looking for.

[@soleydasoleyda]

Yeah, and I think this is also the same for victims of bullies/bullying, not just ab*se….

[@ernie39]

That's such an important point!!! We have to be very aware of the way we define what makes a good/sympathetic/likely victim (and vice versa) in situations like these -- because if our social norms are shaped in ways that allow, excuse, and/or normalize abuse, then the way we frame and discuss abuse will reflect that. We can be aware of this and question these ideas so we can help deconstruct the ways our discussions are biased towards maintaining the status quo (which is, in this case, the continuation of abuse).

[@poemofbriarrose5613]

“Her 46 year old baby boy” 😂😂 that was hilarious and really just highlights exactly how gross all of the people around this man are in enabling his behaviour and continuing to attempt to remove credibility from the person who actually had an act forced upon them.

[@anita_fumeta_uwu5029]

I’m Spanish and I’m horrified by this situation, it gets me really mad and disgusted, cause every girl that has done an sport here knows a man like Rubiales (I sure do). It’s absolutely wild to me that many people here are defending him or not thinking that the situation is as severe, his actions are horrible, disgusting pig and misogynistic and he is being like that while representing Spain, I’m so mad. Even the queen told her daughter to stay away from him because she was disgusted by him, cause he is ughhhh. Anyway, thank you for coming to my Ted talk

[@vexonusoftelvari638]

On behalf of men I'm sorry some of us are like this :( Its sad how many indecent men there are. I promise that there's some good cookies tho. Just not enough. I wish so dearly to get to the point where men and women are treated equally. There will be some differences in how things are handled between the two, but overall it would be fair and equal. Maybe it wont happen soon, but I believe it will happen eventually. All we have to do is treat and teach our next generation right.

[@naeshelle]

@@vexonusoftelvari638Why wait for the next generation? Man can hold themselves & each other accountable *now.*

[@vexonusoftelvari638]

@@naeshelle You have a valid point, and I agree. We should be holding men accountable for what they do now. I was just focusing on building the younger generations to be better. I didn't mean for it to sound like I'm making excuses for men right now.

[@fanimeanime4883]

Can we talk about that in the video of the press conference where people were clapping for him, but most of the women did not clap? I feel like that speaks volumes. This represents so much to me and the silent support they are showing for jenny. my heart goes out to her.

[@keys.and.knives]

It must have felt so weird for the women in that conference to be surrounded by men clapping for someone who commited SA. The way that room would immediately feel dangerous to be in is so gross to think about.

[@ArturGlass.C]

I noticed the same thing yeah. I stared at the women's hands and they were not moving. They know this is a gendered issue. I'm still disappointed I really don't think a single man didn't clap. Even I was surprised. i thought at least one or two wouldn't. It's disgusting. I just don't understand how they can think like that.

[@Hatsune-Miku_Fan]

​@@keys.and.knivesall of them who clapped need to be arrested n thrown in jail omg

[@BertaRS]

And the ones in the front row who clapped for him were forced to sit there and renounced their jobs the next day in protest.

[@monbub]

For a victim to have to see people clapping and supporting the perpetrator...it's just really sad and disgusting. They deserve better.

[@eclectixx]

That man has 100% gotten away with nasty behaviour before which is why he feels confident enough to spew all that “poor me I’m being cancelled” bs

[@rec8127]

If he's doing stuff like this on live tv, imagine what he's doing when he's not being filmed...

[@chupapopita]

Has anyone come forward so far?

[@Starsongzz]

As someone who was assaulted as a kid, and has to see their assailant at this year’s family reunion, and every other one, my heart truly goes out to this monster’s victims. The social pressure to not convict…to have to see their face over and over just to remember how they made you feel all those years ago…having people who you are supposed yo TRUST watch out for them and protect them, meanwhile making you feel crazy…that shit never goes away…therapy helps but only so much…

[@abigailr.9601]

💙💙💙💙

[@RoKer13]

If you’re an adult, I’d try to distance yourself as much as possible. It took me 22 years to finally tell my parents about a family member sexually abusing me and they both believed me- I was so scared. They cut off contact from them.

[@Yurienne.]

As someone that has been following you for a while but usually never leave a comment and also as a spanish woman, I want to thank you for adressing this. At least the spanish goverment has open an investigation and all the female players and some male too are trying to get him dismissed. The mayority of the spanish population is against him, but sadly he has his group of people behind him and many contacts. And of course a lot of men claiming that this is normal in its context and that people are exaggerating. I can't belive this pathetic joke of a human thinks of himself as some sort of an untouchable demigod. No one is buying his lies, I hope he lost his position soon. Thank you so much for your video!

[@jowysw]

When that bus video came out... Oh boy. A bunch of people waiting for any excuse to turn on her were absolutely disgusting. Even though that video changes literally NOTHING about what happened. Jenny herself said RIGHT AFTER the kiss that she was uncomfortable about it and some people are ignoring that and claiming that she turned on him because.... Woman bad or something? Also, really disappointed in the men's football team. To this day, only one or two of them publicly speak out about this. Apparently it's "too political" or something. Ugh... How is it even controversial to speak against a creepy man when we saw him being creepy on live TV?

[@launoname]

Pero luego cuando es un deporte masculino no se besan los jugadores con el entrenador, ya si... Super normal todo

[@jowysw]

@@launoname para ser justos, si fuera un hombre y saliera diciendo lo mismo que Jenni, merecería tanto apoyo como ella. La cosa aquí es que no recuerdo ningún caso así con un hombre tampoco. Han habido besos con hombres también. Pero el problema aquí no es el beso, es todo alrededor de él. Jenny diciendo que no lo consintio y todas las Mier*** que hizo Rubiales después contra ella y todas las jugadoras. Y el insulto, no solo a Jenni, sino a todas las mujeres con esa conferencia de Rubiales ese viernes es algo que no recuerdo del fútbol en general. Lo he dicho varias veces en otros comentarios, podría haber hecho una disculpa normal y corriente y quizás incluso se habría podido quedar en su puesto o haber salido de el de una forma mucho más discreta (y con más dinero) al acabar su mandato el año que viene. Pero no podía hacer eso, verdad?

[@Rizzitriver]

Crazy they have to open an investigation, it's on camera!!! What is there to investigate?

[@xosophie1853]

I was wearing a shot dress while walking through the city centre. A man, who was on facetime with his friend, started filming me while they both loudly screamed/cheered, discussing my looks. I was too shocked to move or say anything. It is now a month ago and I still think about it, feeing violated. I bet that man doesn’t even think about it anymore. I hate how some men can’t see the effects (my/women’s uncomfortableness) of their actions

[@vraimothra]

im really sorry this happened to you. it reminds me of when i was at a party and a guy loudly said "theres so many hot girls here" before grabbing me by the arm and refusing to let go until i pried his fingers off me and slipped into the bathroom with a friend. i can't remember what he looked like but i remember his smile. he was smiling the whole time. i cant hear "california girls" without having a flash of pure panic but i bet he doesn't even remember doing it/ hasnt thought about it since. we're the ones who have to live with their "thoughtless" actions.

[@TheModdedwarfare3]

​@@vraimothrathank you for your story. I wish your mind peace

[@DeePeeZee]

I get super triggered when I see a women dressed up because I don't feel safe enough to do so. I always get harrassed when I dress up. I hate that we live in a world that makes us feel this way. Thank you both for sharing your story. I'm sorry that happened to you.

[@sicilianknicca_mickygreeneyes]

i walked around in seattle with my penis hanging out my shorts and women were so mad if yall geitals can hang out to attract sex than so can we all is fair in hate and war

[@probablypositivity8918]

Yes, it interrupts our lives and can even ruin parts of us. But for them, it's a Tuesday just like any other.

[@Arikel]

As a Spaniard, a woman, a feminist and a football fan, THANK YOU. I already loved your channel and this video hits differently because of how close it is, but the ending? The ending is exactly why I admire your work and your activism

[@babyspider99]

You seem the type to get the booster, please get the new one and hopefully it works on you as it was intended

[@inescaballero3368]

I'm from Spain, you'd be surprised with the amount of men excusing his behavior and saying it was normal because "emotions were running high" after the victory. It sucks because instead of celebrating this amazing achievement we have a controversy revolving around this asshole.

[@jowysw]

And now we are at the phase of "yeah, what he did was wrong.... BUT people are being tOo hArsH with him!" I just... Why? He still hasn't resigned. Not only that, he hasn't even apologized ,he still claims Jenni is lying. Well..m his family at least. The Federation is trying to get a vote of no confidence to get him out because of the pressure.

[@Epodmusic17]

I would ask them, so had he been in the bar and kissed YOU on the mouth because "emotions were running high" would you be okay with it, as a man, and kiss him back? Because if not, you're pretty much proving our point.

[@m.l.b.2908]

I live in New Zealand and went to a couple of games. We were very aware that this incident was basically the straw that broke the camel's back after a lengthy period of mistreatment of players in the larger Spanish women's representative group. I wish the bullshit prior to the tournament from Spain had been covered in this video as well because it just highlights how absolutely vile some of these men featured and the RFEF are when it comes to the treatment of women in the sport in that country. Spain had huge numbers of neutral country supporters in the final. We wanted them to win for themselves and for the other women who refused to attend in protest against the treatment they were subjected to from their coach. Because honestly, fuck their coach. We were cheering on the players. Even the non-football members of my family sat down to support them. We all celebrated like they were our own team when that final whistle blew. But then, of course, Rubiales had to do his thing after the match, grabbing his crotch and then later SAing Hermoso. We were all speechless. My nephew is quite naive, is at the grunting rather than speaking stage of life, and seldom uses profanities, but he said "Did he just do what I think he did? What a fucking arsehole".

[@Martin-fb9pb]

I'm also Spanish, and I think the funniest thing is that they fire this guy over THIS. Not that it's not bad, but on the same match he grabbed his balls in front of the damn princess who's a minor. And before all this, he spent the organization's money on a trip to the US and spent it on GODDAMN PROSTITUTES. At least they are getting to him finally

[@gateauxq4604]

@m.l.b.2908 women’s football teams and players are generally treated much worse than their male counterparts around the world yet they have been playing much more intense, entertaining matches for years. That’s horrible that the Spanish team has even more crap going on than just this. Things are changing slowly but I really hope the RFAF take their trash out sooner than later. Your nephew is a precious bean, Im always so excited to hear about younger people who understand what previous generations can’t fathom-SA is not about women, it’s about everyone learning to be better.

[@LeahTargaryen]

It's so scary and crazy to me that in this year of 2023 there can be literal video evidence of sexual abuse against women caught on live television for millions to witness and yet still it's not taken seriously... Being a woman is so exhausting and scary. Happy belated birthday, Sire. Thanks for speaking up about this.

[@cloudbrooks]

as a CSA victim seeing this video is like a breath of fresh air. I'm glad you're making a donation, and also that you lack the stupid useless nuance others pretend is necessary. I agree with everything you've said, and you aren't going to believe bullshit which is so refreshing. I'm so glad you see the video of her laughing and understand that it doesn't mean what he said it did. That's so incredibly refreshing. What a refreshing video about an incredibly disturbing event.

[@missbrowniejay]

I'm so sorry you went through that. I applaud your strength

[@LilitheAmara]

Trying to joke about my trauma was basically how I started processing it. It was a way to distance myself from it so I could, in a way, pretend it happened to someone else.

[@keys.and.knives]

God that feeling is so real. I tend to suffer from some heavy depersonalization/derealization from time to time, and it's allowed me to separate myself from things in the past. Of course, that pain is still there, but if I push it to the back of my mind enough it's like it happened to someone else.

[@FernBlackwood1995]

People like us with trauma and disabled people in general need to be able to have a sense of humour about it to survive. My own mother and I have used humour to cope for all my life with both of our disabilities, and its a valuable coping skill to know.

[@morganqorishchi8181]

My mom's a psychologist. I just want you to know that humor as a coping mechanism is a healthy way to begin processing things and is not a bad thing or you doing this wrong. Healing is a journey and sometimes the first step involves a chuckle, and that's okay. Your healing is more important than looking like a "good" victim who only ever weeps about it.

[@LilitheAmara]

@@morganqorishchi8181 That is really helpful to know! Especially because other people have commented that they also process things in this way. Humor is important when you've been through and continue to go through a lot of heavy things. My friends use humor to process too and I think we all have a sort of understanding about where it comes from so it's a safe space we share.

[@fwayo]

You mentioned the calls for Jorge Vilda to resign, and how he is problematic as well, but it goes deeper than just his support for Rubiales. In September 2022 15 players on the team wrote to the federation asking to not be included in future teams due to “unprofessional conduct” which is reported to include coaches forcing them to keep their hotel doors open and inspecting their bags without their permission. People started calling for Vilda to be fired then and of course he refused and the federation and Rubiales immediately backed him and attacked the players, but what did you expect. Just goes to show that they all have a history of this and that the situation with the kiss is far from a one off. Oh also Vilda’s dad is the head of the women’s football department so I’m sure his appointment was based purely on merit and there was no nepotism at all.

[@BertaRS]

Vilda's only coached the women's NT, the lower levels and the top. He wasn't hired for his previous victories but for following the regime's rules. He must go.

[@IreneGarcia-hi2gh]

And during the press conference, didn't Rubiales speak directly to Vida and promised him to keep him as a coach for another four years? Yikes

[@jowysw]

​@@IreneGarcia-hi2ghand with an increased salary no less. Not a word of that extra salary for the women players tho

[@TrlneBine]

Was LOOKING for a comment adressing this! The main thing I kept hearing before the tournament started was of Vilda’s conduct and the player’s attempt to unify against him and how the were VILIFYED by ‘The Powers That Be’ and in that context Rubiales’ name kept coming up. This whole scenario was absolutely predictable. Why wouldn’t Rubiales and his friends believe that he could and would get away with this? This conduct has never been a problem in the past

[@IreneGarcia-hi2gh]

@@jowysw dios los cría y ellos solos se juntan

[@brianamohan]

Thanks so much for recognizing non-famous women that experience this. I had a supervisor at Ford Motor Company (not a dealership, the mothership) similarly assault me when I was a fresh-faced, 24yo engineer. Even the PPO I was granted against the supervisor didn't lead to demotion let alone termination. #MeToo was hard to weather a few years after. While my experience was so relatable to the #MeToo stories, I obviously don't have nearly the value of established celebrities. Thank you for making this. Men that do these things need correction from other men since they obviously won't respect guidance from women.

[@abigailr.9601]

I know that you meant this from a societal/cultural perspective, but I just want to add since no one else did: you ABSOLUTELY have just as much value as any celebrity! NO ONE should have to go through what you went through, no matter who they are or how much money they make. You are a wonderful and unique human being who deserves respect. I am so sorry you’ve had to go through all of that.

[@heleven_]

Some additions that I can make as a Spanish viewer and that make the whole thing EVEN WORSE: 1) The first statement of Jenni Hermoso, issued through the RFEF in which she defends Luis Rubiales was falsified by the organization itself. The first and only time she makes a statement is through the union. 2) FIFA takes action by suspending Rubiales for 90 days and prohibiting him (or him through third parties) from contacting her -since during the plane ride back to Spain Jenni was pressured to appear with him in his first "apology" video-. It is AFTER this that his family (cousin and mother) set up the media circus directly addressing Jenni "Tell the truth, stop lying" and pressuring her, thus breaking the FIFA ban on contacting her. Great seeing my fav youtuber covering this issue btw

[@MeadowSongs]

If more men were like you I wouldn’t be so afraid of men. As someone who covered for their abuser to protect myself, before finally coming out with it, thank you for this video.

[@monbub]

It makes me sad how men are so quick to accuse androphobic people of being "man hating feminists." Like, they forget that trauma is a thing.

[@monbub]

​@d.o.m.i.I wish you luck on your road to recovery 🙏

[@zizojaezekeom3565]

It's okay to be scared of men, like they are physically stronger and tend to be more violent so nothing wrong with being cautious but hating them because of they have between their legs is wrong, it is no different than misogyny also i hate how speaking about women's rights is feminists being mad 😂😂 like we shouldn't talk about women's rights? how tf feminism is being confused with misandry is baffling to me

[@passiveaggresivesquirrel2052]

@@zizojaezekeom3565 its baffling but when u think about it, then it makes sense. Most men see the feminist's as a danger to their patriarchal society that benefits them (and hurts them at the same time but they dont wanna see that) so they take it as a sort of a personal attack on them. ya know women wanting rigths is danger.

[@kugelblitzingularity304]

When the victim is one of the strongest women both mentally and physically, and there are millions of witnesses, yet still got SAed, at that point, women getting SAed is almost fatalistic in this world.

[@etherealgirl394]

Hi, Spanish woman here, and I can confirm that everything that happened in the past days was surrealism and horror at its finest! Big thank you for using your platform to talk about this and for your donation! It really helps :) By the way, Spanish media has reported that RFEF faked the statement where Jennifer Hermoso said the kiss was mutual and normal between them, she never said that!!! She was also pressured into appearing in the video where Luis Rubiales 'apologizes' to give explanations but she refused to do so as it wasn't her fault. Imagine having the nerve to ask her to do that to save his ass!!! We as a country are so disgusted by his actions. At that same match Luis even grabbed his crotch close to a sixteen year old girl when the goal happened!!! What type of behavior is that coming from a sports president?? He has no shame, the whole world was watching! The forced kiss also happened next to that girl! ( if you want to look for the incident of his gross 'celebration' of the goal, you'll see the kid was at VVIP section too and afterwards she congratulated the winners because she is infanta Sofía. Her mother, the queen, was there too) All the players worked so hard to get where they are, being paid less than men in soccer and not taken seriously until their win. And not even when women win a world cup are respected! They deserved to celebrate in peace, not to be struggling, risking their jobs and being called liars. Hopefully the people's support to Jennifer helps to create safer environments for all women in sports, cause as you said, lots of them were never listened. Luis is already involved in many power scandals, I hope everything he has done and his friends have done come to light after this. Sorry for the long comment but these past days I've been thinking a lot about this, discussing it with my family and friends and we all agree this is so disrespectful. CONTIGO JENNI, ¡SE ACABÓ!

[@maddil394]

We need more rant videos from you. This is the content the people want.

[@Ohhbrynnie]

He is truly the best

[@TheVideoChatter]

Yes. Yes we do.

[@pariahred13]

I want any content from D'Angelo. Just psyched to have him back, speaking truth for us.

[@jigglyjuwwlz8470]

It’s what the world needs

[@404maxnotfound]

This case is a perfect example of why I believe people underestimate abuse. It's not just the individual who did the abuse, it's the entire 'culture' that surrounds that abuser. Many people around the abuser support their actions, protect them and don't see any form of issue, possibly engaging in abuse themselves. If no one questions the bad behaviour and or even praises it that behaviour will get worse.

[@SerDelBarça]

I’m so sorry for Jenni Hermoso what should’ve been the best day of her life got overshadowed by this and ruined by this creep

[@nikolaopacic8482]

“They behave like children, but they have all the power of grown men.” That went hard

[@tabularasa]

These concepts like "perfect victim" or "hidden enabling" are so important to talk about, thank you 💗

[@MangInutil]

I agree. The fact that you have to go through long and mentally draining things just to bring justice against abusers and still see that many people didn't believe you is horrifying.

[@elle.9839]

you're so right about the perfect victim narrative. recently a woman posted about how she was assaulted for not giving a man her number, and immediately after it went viral, people started going through her account looking for any reason to discredit her. literally making shit up and calling her misogynistic slurs + being xenophobic. you can do everything right and they'll just make up reasons to abuse women further

[@WoahNelly]

That clip of her laughing over the video being part of his “evidence” is infuriating. A horrible thing can happen, and then you laugh with others about the absurdity because you’re trying to find validation and comfort in what just happened. I’m glad that fifa is siding with her and that she is supported by her team.

[@britnicox3929]

What’s so disgusting is that if she had punched him she would probably be vilified more than the man who sexually assaulted her on camera Edit: another thing that always gets me about the perfect victim narrative is a lot of people who are assaulted don’t even realize it was assault until months or even years after the fact, and then they don’t feel like they can say anything because people will just assume they’re a liar

[@hey_thatsmyname]

Right, or like, they feel like the moment has passed so it's dumb to speak up then.

[@lhoxterlh]

D’Angelo as an SA survivor THANK YOU for not putting the video clip of Jenni’s assault in here. It’s a minute detail, but that matters more than you know.

[@liltrash2648]

As a Spaniard woman I appreciate you covering this story. This is not only about the kiss, this is a glimpse of the reality women have to face around the world. We are forced to normalize this type of behavior in order to keep our jobs and survive in men dominated fields. Oh, and btw, he also felt comfortable grabbing his balls in the same game next to the Royal Family. This man is an absolute disgrace, his position kept him and other men in the Federation safe. We can't let this story fade until ALL of them are out. SE ACABÓ.

[@TheModdedwarfare3]

Disrespecting royal families is good, but also screw this guy for the other stuff.

[@liltrash2648]

@@TheModdedwarfare3 I agree, but he didn't do it as an anti-monarchist statement. He just feel he can act like an ape without facing any consequences.

[@tusaadrian7422]

He didn’t do something to warrant his life being cancelled, shut the fuck up

[@menchita]

This. Everyone is talking about the kiss, while I would have been content with his superiors making him resign that instant solely because of that disgusting gesture (not even accounting for everything that would happen later that night).

[@hermosas_rosas]

It's so sad that people can get away with that stuff on LIVE TV. this man and all of the people protected the are disgusting

[@massivel]

its crazy. SA apologists are always saying that "we cant defend victims because there arent any witnesses" for sexual crimes, yet those same people will gaslight us and say "he did nothing wrong" when a sexual assault happens in front of an audience of millions...

[@inacatt]

​@@massivelEXACTLY! I'm so sick of this "there needs to be enough proof otherwise she's just lying to ruin this innocent man's life" narrative. When there is undeniable proof, people still blame the victim. And most people are not going to have dozens of cameras and millions of eyes to witness their abuse. Why? Because perpetraitors do not want to be caught and will do everything they can to stay out of trouble. That's why I would always stand with an alleged victim. I would rather belive a liar than to believe a rapist.

[@MS-ij8ud]

I think this is worth clarifying: 1) Sometimes victims initially defend their abuser because they are in shock and they just want to forget about it. Reliving a traumatic experience can be painful and difficult and sometimes avoiding it is easier. 2) They think no one will believe them, a very real fear. They might initially cover for their abuser if they think they have no chance of winning a case. 3) Their abuser has significant power over them, and the ability to ruin their career/life if they speak up. and more. I think all 3 were going on here, mainly #3 because if women speak up in an industry they tend to get blacklisted-- but once she saw support, she felt confident to come forward. This incident is FILMED, you can see her shock and resistance in 4K, clearly this was nonconsensual. Edit: Also you don't need to be "traumatized" or look traumatized in order to call out someone for sexual assult/harassment. Often times people don't show their trauma or suffering, but even IF she was fine afterwards that doesn't mean what he did was okay.

[@icc1091]

What’s wild is this story is even bigger-Spain didn’t even field their best team at the World Cup because players already were protesting and refused to play because of the federation’s abuse. It’s been a huge story over the past few years and Spain basically got away with doing nothing about it until now. They had to become the best in the world to get enough eyes on them to make this change. The players hate Vilda and tried to get him fired before the tournament.

[@merry_christmas]

Yeah that quote at 20:48 about "I regret the actions of our, until now, perfect president" was batshit insane considering everything that went down beforehand.

[@nainonandy]

I'm from Spain and this has been on the news every day since it happened, so I want to add two pieces of info that I think would be useful to know! (sorry in advance for grammatical errors) 1. The first "apology" from Rubiales where he basically says sorry to the world instead of to Jenni was a video apology, it's been said that in the flight back to Spain from Australia there were people asking Jenni multiple times to show up in the video with him and she refused everytime, and that's when her written apology where "she said" the kiss was consensual came out. Not saying that for sure that first apology wasn't her but the timing of events truly makes you rise an eyebrow. 2. Also speaking of Vilda (the team's coach that was applauding at the unhinged speech), if you dig a little bit and find news about him before the World Cup happened, you will find that the players tried to make him resign due to innappropiate behavior towards them. Fifteen players didn't attend the World Cup out of protest because he didn't resign after the complaints (Damn... I wonder who was the president of the RFEF that didn't kick him out after that...) and you can see videos of the World Cup matches where the remaining players that attended avoid touching him multiple times. This whole situation is messed up, I feel like every man there is trying to cover up for the behaviours of their friends but I'm glad the FIFA stepped in in the end. ps. happy belated birthday from a 98 baby to another!!

[@yianko2090]

Tbh the fact that they still won the worldcup working with these disgusting men is incredible, their COACH nonetheless

[@strawb_short_cake]

Holy shit, that is awful...makes you wonder how many more men might still be in power there who have a history of harrassment, but remain there because other men cover for them. What's worse is that it is widely known that FIFA itself is a very corrupt organization, so having to depend on them to make sure stuff like this doesn't happen again is not exactly a comforting thought :/ I am glad they ultimately stepped in, and hopefully, with this many eyeballs on the situation, they actually do follow through with the investigation and proper consequences. But I have a feeling this not yet over...

[@DizzyBusy]

The story could have been so uplifting for the Spanish football federation! It went, "Despite losing half of the team in one year, we still managed to win the World Cup". Instead we get this mess. What I really, really want to ask Rubiales is this: "How hard is it not to kiss someone?" I'm serious. How hard is it to keep your hands and mouth to yourself?

[@itsaspiracle]

so this is the first time i’ve heard a deconstruction of the “perfect victim” narrative, and as a survivor of assault, it hit me hard. mine happened in college, and i filed a report against the person that perpetrated it, and like… every perceivable weird action or misstep that i did in the process of it and afterward was immediately put under this litany of scrunity, both from my assailant’s friends and the administration. it’s something that’s given me lasting issues with trust and how i’m perceived, even a decade later. thank you for taking it apart, d’angelo.

[@imariot6493]

D'Angelo's comments about victims needing to be perfect and the recovery process hits so close to home. I was victimized by SA, and I am so painfully far from a "perfect" victim, its been used to blame me for what happened and shame me for things countless times. It makes me happy to see people who actually understand that victims can never be perfectly compliant and kind.

[@sunettas9738]

That's really unfair, I'm sorry that happened to you

[@imariot6493]

@@sunettas9738 It was a few years back now, I'm doing a lot better now. Thank you!

[@TheModdedwarfare3]

Keep kicking ass out there

[@iamcoriane9854]

D'Angelo roasting vile humans in such a calm and collected manner is what I live for; I'm glad he uses his platform to spread awareness and warranted criticisms of people

[@lunarsugar]

finding out that D'Angelo is a Virgo reaffirmed my belief in astrology

[@MasculisMatriarch]

"Vile" humans? This man... Kissed a woman.... and she apparently didn't like it. That's it. He was then asked to RESIGN. Ridiculous. The way people seek to be victims today... Is PATHETIC.

[@Anaid999]

@@MasculisMatriarchhe kissed her without consent and then tried to make it seem like she wanted it and refused to resign. He could’ve apologized and realized what he did was wrong, because it IS wrong. But he decided to attack her further. No one deserves to be treated like Jenni did. If they do this in the spotlight, imagine all the things they do behind the scenes.

[@MasculisMatriarch]

@@Anaid999 nope. I'm good. I like facts not imaginings. "Kissing someone without consent". When I was growing up, we called that "a little forward". This generation blows my mind. Man.. I imagine your guys' sexual encounters are awkward as hell. "okay.. can I touch your hair now? Can I kiss your ear now? I am now moving my hand lower.. okay? Sorry, just making SURE I have your consent. Oh, also, please initial on the dotted line here, here and here if you consent to me calling you after" 😆 I'd imagine that may kill the mood a bit...... No wonder guys aren't dating. They simply try to kiss someone and lose their damn job.

[@whatthehellisthis]

guys i think we found luis’s burner account

[@whyisthomyorke]

It really means a lot that you’re donating to this cause, as a victim who cannot get justice it means so much to me when people express support

[@witchplease2831]

I remember my dad being like "Well, in the moment, emotions can get the best of you--" and I immediately cut him off by saying "You are in a car with four women who always speak up against this stuff, I hope you know your opinion is going to be unpopular" and he shut up, knowing that if I started on my opinion, I wouldn't stop. Next time he tried to comment on the situation, all he said was "He shouldn't have done that, he should get punished." Not sure if it's character development or not but at least he's seeing things objectively now and not through the lenses of emotion.

[@t2times729]

I have a question: say it was the other way around. say it was the woman who kissed the man instead. If the man then said he was assaulted, how would society react? Would they treat and ridicule the woman the same way? I'm by no means justifying his actions. I just want to know your opinion. I think, if it was the woman kissing the man, most people would tell him to suck it up, or, he enjoyed it. Sure there would be people who would say it's wrong, but I'm sure that would not be the majority. Once again (as I feel the need to re-iterate) , I am by no means justifying his actions. In fact, I think they're deplorable.

[@kaemincha]

@@t2times729 this is a different issue entirely and not a mutually exclusive problem. you are whatabouting. you can believe that male victims do not get taken seriously and that female victims also still do not get taken seriously. people who go on to womens issues and do this do not actually care about mens issues.

[@stuartmorley6894]

​@@t2times729I think the thing you are missing is the power dynamic at play here. Not only was the kiss non consenting but it was by her effective boss who in days not long gone could have ruined her career, indeed he tried to do exactly that. Without the spotlight he could have made it impossible for her to play for the national team again and put pressure on Spanish clubs to not employee her (though given the way many regional areas of Spain feel about being Spanish that might have backfired).

[@yasmineh.1333]

@@t2times729 In the current climate after the Depp/Heard trial (not to take sides, just to give context) I actually think people would seriously bash her.

[@Will0wFire]

Misogyny is still pretty rife in Europe, and those of us who have grown up in such surroundings are so used to it, quite frankly, we have learnt to be tough about it and just laugh it off. After all, it was just a harmless kiss. And I can tell you with the utmost conviction, FIFA are bowing to the world's reaction by openly condemning Rubiales, but at home, in their hearts, its also still just a harmless kiss.

[@Ass_of_Amalek]

spain in particular has had a big struggle against ra°° culture going on in the past 10-15 years. I think they just a few years ago finally managed to update their ra°° law to require consent for intercourse to not be ra°°, rather than requiring protest and physical resistance. if I remember correctly, that was after some high profile cases in which the previous law was found to not prohibit raping unconscious people, since those don't resist...

[@AV-we6wo]

This. If we know anything about FIFA, it's that (most of) its leaders are not promoting women's rights (or human rights in general) because they think that's what a decent human should do, but because they fear the public backlash if they didn't. If they can get away with shady business practises without too much damage (and football at this level IS a business, with some politics sprinkled in), they happily ignore such issues, as we could see at the last world championship in Qatar or the fact that we could have ended up with Saudi Arabia as a host in 2030 (they considered to place a bid together with Egypt and Greece, but seem to have changed their mind in the meantime).

[@Ass_of_Amalek]

@@AV-we6wo FIFA is as garbage as any organisation can get, it's pure corruption in every sense of the word. definitely got misrepresented in this video by d'angelo introducing them as a better organisation that disapproves of s**ual assault. FIFA not supporting rubiales when the spanish federation did is simply a matter of the people making the call at FIFA not being strongly personally or business-wise connected to rubiales, being effectively his superiors whereas everyone employed by the spanish football federation is his subordinate, and the situation, with everything being on camera and the victim being clear about not consenting (after the federation's initial fake statement, which d'angelo mistakenly represents as actually coming from hermoso at 6:33), very obviously calling for rubiales to be removed. FIFA being against rubiales in this is a no-brainer public relations choice, and it will have been made in large part through consultation of public relations specialists. the spanish federation's behaviour is just bizarre, it's completely outside of the reasonable range of options.

[@ArturGlass.C]

I'm half spanish. I'm an SA victim. I know this is assault intellectually. I understand people's reactions and stand behind the victim. But to be very vulnerable and honest here. I still really struggle to not see it as more than a harmless kiss in my mind. I know it's wrong but it must be deeply rooted because I keep thinking, if that happened to me I don't think I'd see it differently. I don't know if that says much about our culture or more my personal history of trauma but yeah you're not wrong. And it's giving me something to talk to my therapist about.

[@massivel]

if your boss grabbed your face and kissed you on the lips at work i guarantee you would suddenly figure out what was wrong with this event... @@ArturGlass.C

[@sunblest]

"I will not resign" Notice which members of the audience are applauding this 👀👀

[@Kimmaline]

I was the first person at my high school to take someone of the same gender to a dance as my date. She didn't go to my school, but a good number of my friends had known her for a while because most people (including my family) thought she was just my best friend. Lots of girls went with each other to dances, but rumors were already starting to fly about me. That night at the dance we did photos, etc...but were way more circumspect than most of the heteronormative couples. I truly believe the fact that we are both high femme had a whole lot to do with everything else that happened. A few weeks later, a couple friends and I started getting harrassed in the senior quad at lunch. Amongst these were some pointedly homophobic and biphobic comments which I ignored. I can't tell you exactly how it happened but the moment I stood up and stepped to this one star athlete asshole and told him to f off, suddenly everything was violent. We were hit, kicked, shoved--unopened soda cans were thrown in our direction to get them to explode on us, and one hit my shin so hard that it split the skin. They grabbed my [straight] friend's bag and took all her cash. The whole time calling us "freaks." Oh, and two teachers saw it all, and FINALLY admonished the boys to "settle down now." I grabbed the friend who had been mugged, and we went to the principal to get her to call the cops. Instead, the principal took $20 from her own wallet and gave it to my friend, then sent us back to class. End of story. The next day some girls from the very prep side of things had decided to do the White Feminism Special™️, and were passing out purple ribbons to show support for us....let's face it, it was mainly me. My friends were just caught in the crossfire. The solution these Student Council members had come up with was to take everyone involved and set up a round table where we went around the circle and each got to talk for one minute. So let me set the scene. Eight reps from the school in the form of student council members, etc. Seventeen identified athletes who attacked us. Four victims willing to participate--all of whom ID'd straight except for me, and I was BARELY out before the dance. We each got equal time to defend our positions. Time which ended up being spent arguing whether or not I had been kissing my [straight] friend Ana to "intentionally rile up the boys." Oh, yeah. All sapphic relationships are actually just porn for the straight male gaze to consume. I forgot to mention that part. SORRY. I participated in precisely one and a quarter of these meetings. Sitting there for ⅚ of the time listening to people debate my sexuality and how everyone else felt about my 120lb ass getting kicked by a bunch of lacrosse players was just not it for me. I ended up dropping out about a month later, after my tires had been slashed and the cops had to come repeatedly to walk me to my car when I closed up the store I worked at after school. Btw, I am sitting a mile from that high school right now. It is where my queer identifying kid will go to high school if we don't move like we plan to. The thing that shocks people the most is that I could be in the Castro in under an hour right now....my dad fundraised for Harvey Milk. Yeah, I'm a crusty old Xennial lady, times they are a-changin'--but this happens *everywhere*. The attitudes are every bit as present as ever. AFAB bodies are always seen as existing for consumption. Always. Then we get blamed and shamed when we say, "um, actually, I dont mean to be an imposition, but if you don't mind toooooo terribly, I'd prefer not to be touched." Everyone ends up debating in the marketplace of ideas whether or not we even have the right to be upset when we are scared or harassed or even touched or harmed against our will. But sure. Patriarchy is dead. YUPPERS.

[@chantesammering]

Wow. I'm so sorry ❤

[@Anonymum]

Agree fully with that last sentence - we can’t even get proper healthcare either as women and it’s not changing any time soon. I’m really sorry for your experience and hope that your life is much brighter now ❤

[@theMoporter]

Look. I know that hate crimes aren’t logical. All I’m saying is that if they’re gonna argue you were performing some sapphic deed purely for their attention, they should be giving YOU money. Maybe in the form of a fine of several thousand dollars. In court.

[@Mila-Rosa]

Of course they were lacrosse players

[@piau1798]

I’m so sorry, I got goosebumps reading your story 😕

[@howdyitsren]

A guy did this to me at a school dance when I was 11 or 12. He was 14. Im proud of my tiny 4’10 self for beating him up enough to eventually let go. Through it, one did anything including the many teachers who were around. While the people excusing this behaviour are awful, I feel really validated that other people are refusing to accept his excuse and are standing behind Jenni. Standing up against people who believe they are owed another’s body and affection doesn’t just support one survivor, it supports us all.

[@animesins2252]

It’s like when homelander literally killed a guy infront of a bunch of people and everyone clapped and cheered thus allowing his monstrous character to continue onward with no real punishment

[@yveltalsea]

The room full of men clapping for Rubiales during his psycho chant was genuinely disturbing.

[@breezyfeer]

Yess thank you for speaking about this issue. Sadly this kind of thing is common when women speak up. It's crazy that they are trying to gaslight everyone saying it was consensual when the act is in video from multiple cameras

[@actualmayaya]

Thank you for covering this. I had no clue this happened. It deserves more attention. It's disgusting on every level.

[@thebeccafly]

OMG I NEVER heard about him jumping on her and throwing his legs around her and pushing his groin up against her body. I am so disturbed.

[@heatherg1296]

As someone who was recently SAed and lost a lot of friends as I struggled to leave the abusive relationship, and had mutual friends believe him over me, your recgonition of how hard it is for people who have experianced this in private to be taken seriously means a lot.

[@35noodles]

Im really sorry, no one deserves this and people not believing you must feel horrific. I hope you find a way of healing from this and a new and better supporting circle! Lots of love

[@orthenight]

Months before the World Cup, several Spanish players said they refused to play in the World Cup because of the abuse they’ve endured from the head coach Jorge Vilda. Citing his demands of “complete control over their bodies” and how they’re “not allowed to lock their hotel room doors.” Knowing all of that information before this incident even happened, women’s soccer fans weren’t surprised. If that’s what he’s willing to do when he knows he’s on camera, you can only imagine what Luis & Jorge do off camera. Several teams for years have said that head coaches require you to sleep with them to make the national team. So many abusers see coaching women’s soccer as an opportunity to abuse women. Yet so many men claim women don’t deserve to be paid a living wage for what they have to endure.

[@nadie8553]

Thank you so much for speaking about this! It’s so sad how he ruined such an special moment for these girls. Here, in Spain, instead of talking about the players all I can hear is people giving their opinions about him. I also think the way he hugged them all was already inappropriate, even worse than the kiss. It’s so infuriating how as a woman you can win the world cup and get treated so inappropriately a few moments later like it’s normal, having to keep a smiling face so YOU don’t ruin the moment.

[@stephanief9240]

Ugh! I really hope this video gets the views it deserves because this entire situation is insane and deserves all the attention it can get

[@Vincisomething]

Penguinz0 talked about him too

[@Ass_of_Amalek]

well, it's already getting way more attention than d'angelo's reach. I reckon it's gotten at least as much attention as the women's world cup. as it should, because it is more important. and not just because it's the women's world cup. xD

[@justine4581]

​@@Ass_of_Amalek this is phrased so weirdly???

[@Ass_of_Amalek]

@@justine4581 it's called~humour~ I'm not a fan of spectator sports in general.

[@rampion1228]

The whole laughing after the kiss thing was exactly how I reacted when I was non consensually kissed. I went to a corner with my friend and just awkwardly laughed about it for a while. It was a pretty awful experience, not the worst thing that ever happened to me but it was wrong and he never experienced any consequences.

[@tessalyyvuo1667]

If this is how he behaves in front of cameras, imagine what he has done behind closed doors. Glad to see other players supporting her.

[@mybittersweetme]

What was really gross to me seeing all of this unfold in real time on the internet were the comments that minimized the situation because it was “only a peck” “you’d think he’d murdered her with all the outrage.” It reminded me of that INSANE ruling in Italy that said that sexual assault could only be considered as such if the groping lasted at least TEN SECONDS!? WHAT ARE THESE PEOPLE THINKING? Let’s just put into perspective how brain dead that sounds: “Oh, but I just stabbed them through their heart for a second! how could it have hurt them???” Honestly, that is what scares me the most, because until everyone is able to recognize these “little” everyday actions for what they are, we will never be able to live in a society where men and women are treated equally. Just like Rubiales, most people don’t understand that their actions are actually harmful and hurtful because they were never taught that they were (clearly seen by his mom’s actions). He’s lashing out and refusing to quit because he GENUINELY doesn’t see that what he did was wrong, he’s not embarrassed, he just feels attacked for no reason and that is the big issue. These things need to be brought to light and people need to be properly taught what consent is and isn’t. Hermoso has this uphill battle also because people don’t understand what consent is and others who do understand, just prefer to muck the definition of the term so they can keep being scum. While it is true that some people maliciously try to paint this narrative of the “perfect victim” many many others believe it because they don’t know any better, because they haven’t been taught otherwise, because the environment they live in reinforces those actions and then they continue teaching it to their children and reinforcing it within their peer groups. These high profile,seemingly “smaller” cases are important because Weinstein cases are not the only ones that are reproachable, a peck, a comment in passing, a “joke”, these should all be treated with the same seriousness, because they are just that serious.

[@taylorlover4244]

As a Spanish person, its really sad to see how this man has taken the spotlight for his disgusting actions instead of our wonderful players for winning the World Cup. Rubiales was no good but this was the nail in the coffin. He was accused of stealing more than 24M€ from the football federation’s funds and much more. Hope he leaves for good now.

[@daylightsleeptight]

In that press conference where he kept repeating "I'm not going to resign", I noticed that only the dudes in the audience were actually applauding.

[@msjayelleaye]

Even if he “got caught up in the moment,” he didn’t give her a choice to get away from the kiss, so he can’t say she wanted it. He had a crazy grip on her head before kissing her on the lips. He should just apologize and admit that he was wrong

[@katieggg100]

Exactly. Also if SAing someone is his immediate instinctual reaction, he needs help.

[@keys.and.knives]

@@katieggg100 Absolutely, that's not a normal "caught up in the moment" thing to do. No matter how excited I am about something, my first instinct isn't going to be randomly forcing a kiss on someone.

[@Jimmiwashere]

Guarantee if she had "gotten caught up in the moment" and slapped him she'd have been in cuffs immediately. 😒

[@monbub]

​@@katieggg100This. It says a lot about a person if their first instinct is to grab someone next to them and violate them. This should never be normalized or seen as acceptable, ever.

[@Lucabythesea]

Hi! Spanish person here :) Thank you for covering this. It’s mind boggling that this man refuses to acknowledge his behavior at all, and that he has a full on organization defending him. Just to add a tad more info: after being asked to resign, he has refused to return his laptop and mobile phone (god knows what else he and his colleagues have been doing in the shadows). Also, his overall behavior during the final match was very gross: he groped (idk if this is the right verb) his crotch when he was sitting beside the queen of Spain and one of the princesses... as in “eat this/suck it” to the other team. This sad little man just cannot behave at all and will not assume any responsibility for his actions. The “funny” thing is that this whole circus has ignited a debate among the Spanish society as well. At the grocery store, you would see the staff arguing about this, for example. And the whole “fake feminism” works perfectly to spur the right wing in the country too. So it’s a bit of a perfect storm for conflict at all levels...

[@LeeSophie01]

The fact that this situation is even such a big discussion is gross. Jenni Hermoso should be celebrating the win with her team not have to deal with this. Hope she gets her well deserved justice

[@kellilas]

a room full of men clapping when he said who wouldn't resign... that's beyond terrifying actually

[@alberto.fdez-diaz]

As a spanish football/soccer-kinda-guy genuinely glad that this is commented world-wide ❤ Truly ashaming and disgusting to be represented by such corporate idiots too

[@lizabee484]

Thank you for bringing more international eyes to this, D’Angelo! Congratulations to the Spanish football players, you worked so hard and you deserve to celebrate your win. At the same time, thank you for standing by and speaking up with Jenni, you are doing the difficult and right thing. Thousands, of not millions of SA and SH survivors who haven’t been able to speak up for themselves will look to you with hope and renewed determination and fire. But I’m sorry you are having to go through any of this at all, especially Jenni. You will probably never see this, but I want to put it out into the universe that I appreciate and stand with you

[@virginiawatts4B]

There were cameras and he still lied and was supported. This whole situation is scary

[@teaganyoumans]

Thank you for bringing attention to this situation!! And to think, winning gold that night should have been an achievement Jenni should be able to CELEBRATE and look back on fondly :( The abuse women face in soccer (and everywhere) is vile. Seeing male and female players, as well as the general public, rally behind her has been so moving. #ContigoJenni

[@Kuraiinu]

"And miss Bejar was ready for her closeup" as the camera pans to her looking like she's ready for the embalming fluid is a COMEDIC MASTERPIECE oh my god