Dangerous Red Flags That Are Risky to Ignore

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It’s easy to ignore red flags when we’re falling for someone. But our heart pays the price.
When you’re really attracted to someone, you can talk yourself out of acting on your concerns. You may pursue someone who doesn’t want a relationship in the hope of changing them, or prioritize someone else’s needs over your own because of your feelings of admiration.
For today’s video, I’ve gathered some of my best advice over the years on spotting and acting on red flags . . . so you can move on faster and avoid the pain of heartbreak with someone who just isn’t ready.
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▼ Chapters ▼
0:00 - 0:21 - Coming Up
0:21 - 1:45 - “I’m Not Sure I’m Ready”
1:45 - 3:33 - A Green Light in Another Direction
3:33 - 4:46 - Investing in the Wrong People
4:46 - 5:09 - Prioritizing Your Love Life
5:09 - 9:00 ­- Ignore This at Your Own Peril
9:00 - 11:25 - If You Want to Know Someone’s Intentions
11:25 - 19:33 - The “One Day” Wager
19:33 - 20:44 - Roadmap for Finding Love

[@MA-yc7pz]

If you feel something is off believe me something is off

[@jrr4475]

I didn't listen to myself...

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Have to speak up and not just sweep it under the rug...

[@Ang01-25]

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them” the problem with me is that I thought I could rescue them 😑.

[@MA-yc7pz]

I quit being the fixer

[@Paulroach6]

I’ve done it twice and both times it only hurt me and had to leave them the same person I met at the start. You can’t fix anyone nor do they want to be fixed and if they do they’ll fix themselves before they start dating.

[@Ang01-25]

In my wedding day, all the women told me “now that you’re married, you have to accept and endure his behaviour” well, I didn’t but I lost big part of my energy in useless fights that hurt us deeply. We remain as good friends and parents of our children. We wanted to be together since the beginning in a relationship though. Being a fixer is something you learned from others and in my culture “the other person” comes first than yourself.

[@liesbethverhaeghe8252]

Yip, know the feeling. Trying to do better.🙏

[@ChocoParfaitFra]

Ah same, so don’t beat yourself up 😢

[@mf198]

If you are here and you have invested all your time, attention, emotions and energy into a “one day wager”… the day you decide to let them know what you invested they will say that they never asked you to. Think twice, it is better to invest in yourself to become the version that will attract the person you want.

[@carolmitchell6155]

The exact words I heard. I learned to bet the horses to accompany him at the horse races and drove the golf cart when he went golfing, would spend hours watching these on TV with him, not really my preference but truly believe that those who play together, stay together. I am very independent and not clingy in any way. I sang folk mass at Church and in a chorus. He never once came to hear me sing. I asked him about it and his response - I didn't ask you to. Say what!? I should have known better.

[@bendoyle5023]

Just ended with a girl who from the start of our relationship (2 years ago) said 'one day youll realise im not a very nice person and that will end us' I would always defend her and tell her she was a beautiful soul etc Turns out she was right about herself

[@thepanda21]

I have been in the exact same position for 3 years. Just ended it this year as well. Unbelievable how hard it was to give up on a person like that.

[@pure-pisces9980]

Same!! Trauma bond!! 😢

[@cynthiasuzanne]

It's a lovely quality to see the best in people, especially one's children when they're small. Unconditional love needs to be vetted, however... and that was the lesson I needed to learn the hard way :/

[@JuzzMe-xu4mu]

Years ago, someone told me they were not looking for a relationship and I completely ignored what he said. Weeks passed and I got upset because he didn't want a relationship when he clearly told me this from the beginning lol If someone were to tell me this now, I say to them thank you for your honesty but that's not what I'm looking for. I then move on. No need to get upset.

[@benithacalloway8286]

Saying ‘I’m not ready for a relationship’ is after they sleep with you. 😂

[@jrr4475]

Exactly! In my opinion, it's morally wrong for men to engage in anything romantic/sexual with no intention for a relationship. They can go to an escort, strip show, etc. if that's the case...

[@firstnamelastname9485]

That's called a fuckboi! I just learned this the hard way after spending nearly a yr trying to make sense of mixed signals and actions. All just to realize he told on himself in the very beginning only I didn't give it much thought when he said he didn't want a relationship and welcomes women falling for him. Even Stevie Wonder could see that means he's only in it for himself. But not me. Nope I focused on the fact thar he was spending more and more time and investing more time in me. All just to be able to say I told you I am not interested in a relationship. FUCKBOI!

[@catboxcleaner3532]

The background of Matthew’s house, with the open slat staircase, floor to ceiling windows surrounded by enchanting greenery, is so elegant.

[@lightlovemagick]

Most powerful take away was the boxing metaphor with the referee!! Sometimes it's hard to know when you're throwing in the towel or when walking away is the stronger choice. This illustration gave me so much clarity. I have taken so many "beatings" believing that I was being a strong, steadfast partner when I should have been the one to initiate the breakups and walk away. Imagining myself as a boxer, laid flat in the ring, no longer able to protect myself, gives me a new level of compassion and protectiveness for myself and decisive clarity in contextualizing what is strength and what is dangerous. Very empowering insight! Thank you!!

[@lizzy9975]

Been there and done that with, not quite ready for a relationship! Now, I'd tell them to go find themselves.... and run!

[@dotsonms]

Same!

[@jessicawelsby8550]

I got out of a relationship in three weeks because I spent half a decade with someone ignoring redflags. When I entered this new relationship this person and I had a minor miscommunication and they had a full blown panic attack. Telling me to "Find a better teammate," saying "I am anxious right now and feel unsafe," and then by the end of the night was telling me how they needed to drink so they could "hopefully fall alseep." I was like yep, I'm out. If you can't handle a small disagreement or a minor miscommunication, then you won't be able to work on anything with me. I don't want to have to carry someone through an entire relationship. I was proud of myself for saying no, instead of choosing to feel bad for them and continue. I use to dismiss these types of behavior. Always ended badly, and by the time I ended it, I had years of healing to do because I had developed so much attachment and so many feelings it was difficult to let go and process the idea of never seeing them again. So, yep. Never again.

[@Elementalism]

Good for you to see the red flags and move on! I recently dropped a woman who was too chaotic and acted like a spoiled child. It feels empowering to stand up for yourself and not just take it because they had potential.

[@louisegarner8888]

"We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love." ~ Dr. Suess 💞👁️💫 I love your humour in this one Matt, I appreciate its not an easy topic to cover. Words like potential, options, past body count, type, limerance, addictions, trauma, 'crazy' exes, etc., can also put a spanner in the works, take it slow amd get to know patterns, listen to your heart but take your brain with you. 💖👁️🧠✌️

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

love that Dr. Seuss quote! ❤

[@aquamarine2239]

When you know that someone likes you but is emotionally broken and has mixed or confused feelings for you because of broken family experience, what to do then ?

[@ChanoWilliams]

I was interested in a girl that said, "I have a difficult time showing personal interest. I figure their business is their business and my business is my business." I didn't really take this into deep consideration, but it was always in the back of my mind. After almost two years of trying to befriend her (knowing that we always got along in social circles), trying to get her to initiate a conversation or social engagement, I gave up. I did my best to lead by example, but she was just too comfortable in how her life is setup and anything outside of that gave her too much anxiety. Thankfully I didn't invest too heavily emotionally. Now I've moved on and I'm looking forward to the next opportunity to be the right one for the right one.

[@fern-cx3bf]

That’s so true, same happened to me. She’s to comfy with her life. Its rough bud, they’re not ready for romantic relationships

[@JustMe-ki3ce]

‘Avoidant’s’ … they come in male form too. It’s so baffling

[@RoseCali-rt1sn]

I've had men tell me they wanna relationship when they totally don't. And then on the flip side have had men. Tell me they don't wanna relationship when they totally do so. At is point, you just have to figure it out and put in some of the work and give yourself a deadline as to how much of your self you're going to invest until they step up. I've learned it's not all black n white and some men and women don't really know how to communicate properly sometimes you do have to read in-between the lines, but that's just been my experiences 😊

[@shyneray250]

I completely agree. So many people Lack self awareness and certainly semantics play a huge role in what we are understanding from the words they are using

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Great share...and I think the deadline setting part is crucial so you don't self-abandon ❤

[@bengreatorex502]

This is an outstanding episode, even allowing for Matthew's high standards. The boxing referee analogy is fantastic. Whatever is wrong with this world, people like Matthew Hussey redeem some of it, just by being here. Thank God for people like him and the people who take on board his advice.

[@zero1188]

Pretty much. It only take one date to see red flags

[@darshanpise9392]

The worst part, i experienced all of these red flags in one person at different stages of our relationship and it ended badly as I had foreseen but wasn't brave enough to break it off. Love and know yourself enough to be sure that you can do better. Don't take these signals lightly, lesson learnt.

[@carolmitchell6155]

Thank you Matthew for providing such good advice. My ex-boyfriend told me at the beginning of our relationship that I was too good for him which I didn't understand at the time. It is so true when someone you are dating makes a statement of any kind like this, RUN! This relationship almost destroyed me as he kept me off balance constantly. Another comment he had made when I tried discussing things with him was "If it's that bad why do you keep coming back?" He was absolutely shocked the day I didn't. I was a confident independent professional woman who became a shell of herself. Finally left and it took me two years to regain who I used to be. I'll never make that mistake again. :)

[@jennifercastro6588]

I have never cared for 50 Shades and he just perfectly articulated why! Matthew is the best, great assessment!

[@deliapasqualini970]

If a man like Matthew tells you about all the lovely shit men say that don't correspond to their actions and intentions, you gotta believe him without fantasising on a different outcome👍

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

yes, even if you feel "chemistry" ❤

[@StKrane]

This is a beautiful and profound compilation about a tricky topic. Thanks!

[@mikkun_]

Man, this is all on point. It changed my perspective on things right now. I never knew I needed this, I thought I can handle everything on my own. THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART.

[@MirandaVlogs0]

I just started following, you have a lot of common sense that we do not poses when we’re in “love mode” because we aren’t able to listen carefully and acknowledge “ I’m not sure or not ready for a relationship”, “let’s take it slow and see where it goes” NO!!! 🚩 What I also love about you is you respectfully say whatever you have to say in a very simple and classy way to your community bcs nowadays there’s a lot of men giving advice and using vulgar examples and language! And for that and all the advice I thank you! It’s an eye opener for me being single for 10 years and wanting to go dating after having no idea of how men do operate nowadays. They don’t want commitment, no time investing let alone even to go out. Thank you!!!

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Yes, someone who isn't intentional is just going to be going wherever the wind pushes them. If you know what you want, don't go along for the ride that has no destination!

[@darlene2454]

Agreed hoping to love them enough so they love back but if they don’t have self love they will never love!!!

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

it's true... If someone cannot live themselves it will be hard for them to love you properly

[@zoulofzoria]

Wow... needed this so much... thank you ❤🙏

[@cindyjean3208]

I have followed your channel for several years now… This is one of the few channels full of respectful intelligent advice.. I perceive that Matthew is an honorable man on and off camera… May we all grow with or without a partner 🙏🏻😊💕

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Great words! ❤

[@MadeleineMedia16]

Thank you for the amazing advice❤

[@t.morris4761]

Who is Awesome!!!! Matthew you most definitely are!!!!!Your words are saturated with wisdom. I have had friends and family berate me because of how quickly I end relationships (generally within 3-6 weeks). Sadly, even after I explain why maintaining the relationship would be detrimental to my mental, physical and/or spiritual health some of these folks believe 3-6 weeks is not enough time to make decisions to end relationships. Thank you so much for sharing why it is important to exit a relationship speedily when u see the 🚩 . I have peace in my life today because I did not ignore the warning.

[@heliavariani606]

Mathew has become more and more funny with his video editng and i really appreciate it. I have been watching his content for 5 years almost and it has always influenced me and have been informative

[@AnnaRyzhkova]

Most of the time it's true. But life isnt always linear. This year i've met someone who said he isn't ready. We kept in touch, walked sometimes. Turned out that now it's the best relationship I've ever had. He later told me he didn't want everything to happen straight away. My friends girls told me that I think too much and I should stop thinking seriously about him. They were WRONG. Glad I followed my own advice and no one else's.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Good job on trusting your own intution! ❤

[@pabloalvarezromeo9872]

For me it was the opposite. Told me she was not ready for a relationship some time ago. We kept in touch. But she never got interested in me anymore, and now she is in a relationship with someone else. It’s a dangerous risk to wait for someone, and it’s exhausting and demoralizing. My advice now that I am slowly overcoming it, is to not take the risk. If someone tells you they are not ready/they don’t want you, that’s it. No blame for anyone here, it just can’t be. But if they say no and you persist, it’s your own responsibility. Forget about that special connection that you feel. If they’d love you, they would be with you.

[@marvinasimswewinqueendom2543]

This breakdown was extremely helpful. Thank you

[@sentientAl]

I think the last guy I matched with on dating app said “I’m not looking for a life partner right now” and in hindsight it was his euphemism for “I’m just here for short-term fun”. I’m not expecting a life partner at the moment either, but not flings. Yeah, I’m going to stop emotionally investing so much so early next time.

[@armani9861]

he was more honest than any of them, and you guys both match interests. by your own logic you must be looking for casual too if you arent looking for a life partner. casual is fine if mutual agreed casual

[@javanesemystic]

Not talking about a romantic relationship: but I once tried to “change” a prejudiced man by attempting to kill his prejudice with kindness. It didn't work. One day I snapped & I had nobody to blame but myself. He didn't just “become” racist/prejudiced, he always had been. I ended-up feeling like I did nothing but betray myself on the process. Also, don't trust anyone who hates vanilla ice cream lmao. Your partner is very lucky to have you. Thanks mate ✌🏼✌🏼

[@liz_lemon421]

I applaud you for trying to change a racist. I hope that disappointing experience doesn't make you hold back your opinion and will to influence people positively. We need more people like you in the world ❤

[@javanesemystic]

​@@liz_lemon421thank you for your kind words. Have a beautiful weekend 🙏🏼

[@ChocoParfaitFra]

Youre right about everything you said. And I tried to help someone change, it was useless

[@amiramahgoub]

It's OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN!!!! And if he comes back I still gonna tell him ITS OVER BETWEEN US XO

[@ameliasavage4307]

Good video Matt thank you ❤️

[@user-xd6yu9uq1v]

Straight to the point

[@MissJJoan]

That boxing metaphor is so powerful. Yeah, you have to be the referee, sounds about right. I think a lot of people forget that the way a person treats you from the start is likely going to be them at their best. And if it’s not fulfilling your needs as a person, then it’s time to move on. Also enjoyed the stone in the river one, pretty good metaphor for not taking rejection or incompatibility personally.

[@user-oy8ey9hi9u]

Thanks for the useful lessons. The advice to align our needs to reality is spot on. We make many mistakes due to limited knowhow. After watching this video, I will purpose to work on self love.

[@user-tb5oz4zq9c]

Matthew, love your wisdom!!!!

[@kellylody7928]

So much sense spoken as always

[@Narcissists.1]

Nice discussion about this topics

[@mimecooper2397]

I've dated a guy 3 months and we talked and laughed for hours... I've known him for several years and we had a great chemistry but all of the sudden he said to me "If we break up then I'm gonna be okay with it" The first time I ignored this comment but the second time i asked him what he mean by that. And then he stuttered and said " yeah it would be hard for me but it would be alright if we break up" I was very confused because beside of these crazy comment he was very sweet and said a lot of positive things... but within a few weeks I had to realize he wasn't serious about me. So I had to let him go...I think he will be fine 🤣

[@Jojo98495]

Thank you Matthew

[@tanyacharbury4728]

Soberingly wise. Thank you ...

[@Haybcde]

Brilliant man

[@jackiemorris8027]

I love your spirit and soul ❣️ Your mother and father is proud for sure❣️

[@JB0633]

No red flags with me Matthew just pure love😘❤️

[@LifeLenZz]

The person himself/herself always speaks the truth about themselves.

[@cherylh4688]

No, they don't always speak the truth about themselves. Narcissists don't; psychopaths don't. My mother was the latter, and my 2 sisters are the former, so I know whereof I speak. 😢 But even addicts don't.

[@bublibu]

Love his passion ☺️❤️

[@33Jenesis]

I am up front early on, telling the guy my temperament, tendency, and non negotiables. I can’t stand acting like someone I am not. It is better to be honest. Feeling and emotion may temporarily handicap me but logical and analytical side always wins the day. I can quickly decide it’s time to quit to walk away. When it comes my well being and all around safety I am ruthless. It helps that I like my own company. Being with someone is optional not necessity.

[@morris2450]

I ended up marrying my partner (now ex) in spite of the so called red flags. If I had the wisdom then to recognise them I wouldn't have gone there.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

we live and learn... I hope you are in a good space now ❤

[@chakra1330]

Me too. If I had been educated in recognising red flags I wouldn’t have gone there either.

[@amandapaigejones3659]

I spent the last 3 yrs with a one day wager . We dated 23 yrs ago and got back together. I romanced our love story over and over and realised he didn’t have the time 23 yrs ago and still hasn’t, so he is not my person. So I walked away- as bloody hard as it was We both cried so much One day wager then One day wager now He was always going to get more time ( his mother / family always came before us Well my life is important also - so bye bye 💪🏼💪🏼

[@ResuTech]

I usually dont take those things seriously when someone says they're mean, because if they say that from the beginning, it is either a joke and they're fishing for compliments, or they're trying to be low key so you get pleasantly surprised when you notice, they are kind. To me it's a strategy because no one in their right mind would say that in a situation where they are supposed to bring their best to the table. So it's a question mark until they prove what they say.

[@ChocoParfaitFra]

The one day wager is wrong… people don’t change for you…

[@AdrieHasenbos]

Hard lessons learned...🙏

[@Huda.Avemaria]

Vanilla is my favorite flavor! Love it 😂

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

🤣🤣

[@Llucius1]

I just found myself bonding with bad relationship and ends up here

[@RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light]

Hi Matt, lol, I just couldn't be as smooth in my delivery as you! I just know I'd practice and practice in the mirror saying those things about 'being serious bout the relationship'.... However I'm not good at responding spontaneously to things he'd say that threw me a bit, like I'd think of the best response 10 hrs later😅

[@user-ee5om8wy7u]

When someone says I am a bad person, we should believe them. But guess what? When someone says I'm a good person, we shouldn't believe them! From my experience, when people openly proclaim that they are very honest, reliable, kind, and empathetic - it's almost always a lie. Genuinely good people don't have a need to brag and self-advertise like that. So, in dating, always believe the bad claims AND never believe the good claims How crazy is that? I just normally don't take any words seriously. I am watching facts and actions.

[@JJ1paz]

What about when someone says that they are stubborn or good at cutting people off?

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

hmmm, i don't know if that's something you want to be good at. I would question if they speak up for their needs or engage in healthy conflict communication, or they just cut someone off without any warning?

[@ArtAbsurdist]

If they tell you that they’re good at “cutting people off”- what the person is really saying is: “I have a dismissive avoidant attachment style and I’m letting you know that I treat others as if they are expendable. And my stubbornness will block all your efforts of positive influence on me, so I’m warning you that if you even try to change anything about me and if you don’t do the things I want you to do… well, I’ll do what I’m best at and cut you off.”

[@stayitive4343]

A FAN , GROUPIE, ACCESSORY, ENTOURAGE, COMPANION, FWB, KEEP SIMPLE, REBOUND, not in my vocabulary in any future High Value Healthy balanced romantic relationship.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤

[@sellingsolutions2023]

My marriage of 16 years burned to the ground this year. He has been on dating apps for at least 9 years. I gave him a pass many times because I thought he was inexperienced with women. Boy, was I wrong. Once I started looking, I found so much more and I felt like I was living in a Lifetime movie. All of our friends are shocked. All of our family was shocked, and no one was more shocked than me. He was the quiet nice guy constantly on his phone. I thought he was a hard worker because he worked in manufacturing which is 24/7. 🤦‍♀️💔Starting over at 55 is no fun. Are these techniques for young people? New to me.

[@Faisal-nx8zy]

Ur 55 and u look like this?! Let me say ur gonna have a much easier time than women in their 30s 🤣

[@cynthiasuzanne]

Dang, this is SO good. LOL

[@brianhill6842]

He would tell me he was emotionally damaged and would unintentionally hurt me, so I backed away and he continued to text me, FaceTime me, sext me, then when I told him I wasn’t sure I should come visit he said, “if you don’t come, then don’t talk to me ever again.” Is that manipulation? I don’t understand why they pursued people who are looking for a relationship.

[@meeperbird]

Stephen listens like a man: no nodding, no approval, just a blank stare. 😂

[@Maaya-Murari]

👏👍🤓 I daily watch your videos. Atleast 2 per day. It helped me change my mindset, improved my personality. I came to know about you through ranveer allahbadia show. Thank you very much. Your videos really help me a lot. Lots of love from India sir🤠

[@YourReasonPodcast]

The point that starts after 5 mins it hits different💔

[@chocchiples]

Case study 500 Days of Summer.

[@travel6482]

Oh yes..

[@tamaram915]

Yes!!!! Love that movie 🥰

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

good one ❤

[@audreychou5498]

What if it's someone who ended his last relationship that lasted 10 years 2 years ago and tells you he's ready for a relationship, but says that it'd take years to fully move on? He's been working on himself with his therapist for the last 2 years, and his therapist also thinks he's ready, and he doesn't think getting back with his ex is possible. I guess my concern is I don't know if he needs years to process that grief from ending the last relationship, or to not think about the ghost of his ex

[@nyssatang1173]

should've watched this video before i went on with that guy last Friday. Huge red flag from the get-go.

[@Herreravictoria]

What red flags?

[@jessicadb4151]

I don’t necessarily agree. I am not ready for a relationship. I really like this guy, but I have a lot of trauma and hurt from ex. I just don’t want to F it up.

[@lucasespinosa3599]

Necesitamos esto traducido hermano por favor

[@user-mo2sg2vj3s]

Sounds advise and I like the idea - not finding the qualities of withholding, inconsistency, non-commital attractive. My ex has recently shown all of these after a week together of figuring out. I gave it the college try but now I am choosing to close the door and move on, to make room for a loving secure relationship. I am not waiting anymore. He is where he is and it’s not enough.

[@yahoo7123]

What if they joke and ask are we still engaged?

[@miasweeney1350]

Matthew you would hate the movie "One Day"

[@bestactress1281]

I'm the one with these red flag 😭😭

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

You can heal any of these patterns of behavior and a lot oare coping mechanisms, you weren't born with them ❤

[@Elementalism]

Is Christian Grey a metaphor for modern women? I never thought of it until he said Christians response of "Well you get me". Which is a common trope when people ask women what do they bring to the table. The usual response is "You get me".

[@carnigoth]

"If people show them who they are - belive them" is not as shallow as Mathew portrays. It's not necessary some epic villain move revealing their true face for a split second. It can be internalised trauma - and they got told these things so they almost believe it defeated. Like "yeah I'm a bad person" because they had pretty bad parents that made him/her feel that way

[@loveyourselffirst549]

However, it is a person's responsibility to heal their own trauma before entering into a relationship. Trauma is not an excuse to treat others badly.

[@shovanabajracharya]

Ok so I want honest opinion. Can causal relationships also be monogamous? Or is it too much to ask for? Too big? Too rare?

[@lemonicele]

I think they can be, not everyone wants or has time to look for another partner, they just want some fun on a regular basis with someone without having to invest more 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@user-qr3oe8dd2b]

when are you going to post new content? Thanks!

[@ButYouWereAndYouDid]

I do this! Starting say bye to dudes the minute I interpreted their red flags. Never did this before but I’ve been doing this finally

[@liesbethverhaeghe8252]

I have a question for you, what do you do when you know from experience that when you meet people online you tend to get a completely different view and feel of them then when you meet them in real life? Like online you think: oh I really like them ( not falling for them just simple first attention) and then you meet them and it’s like: oh no what have I done to myself(don’t mean to sound harsh but those words tend to describe the feeling I get at that moment the best). This tends to happen a lot. I tried to get into a different perspective of this but can’t seem to solve it or understand it. Maybe you have a different approach 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@evyjay]

Made this mistake once and never again, ever since I never over-chat/text before meeting. If a guy can't make a plan to meet after 3 days of text or phone convo, the end, gotta limit the waste of time and early overinvestment.

[@luisjosp5]

I wish there was a person like Matt on this platform, who gives this kind of advice but more focused on men... not women....

[@ConnieSportiello]

I believe the majority of women glorify the plot and sex acts in this movie because they just follow others. There’s nothing attractive about the movie, the toxicity, or the sexual energy in that movie.

[@maceyblackston1411]

💯

[@marylynnnoonan-toschi4429]

I might stay away of this person because I don't trust them .🤔

[@HimanshuniPatel-df7yc]

❤❤❤

[@user-yy6xx6sw3t]

What if this happens after marriage

[@rahmasamir909]

Leave him

[@mundea]

Matt's arms are the size of multiple small children, insane 💪

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

🤣

[@joannalove7374]

?

[@MaddyRoseMusic]

Here is our Love story, maybe you can outline if this is gonna last. Lena and Ben met on a dating app, quickly found each other attractive and entered into a relationship after 3 months of dating. He is a rather rational, dark and emotionally distant person who has often been hurt and has difficulty trusting people. Lena is a positive woman, often on stage and needs confirmation from those around her that she is loved and liked. However, the two often have different views on life, a different sense of humor and the need to do things together is also unbalanced. Ben expresses doubts about whether the feelings are enough after the honeymoon phase, because Lena's life is very contradictory and not intellectual enough for him. His introverted personality is quickly overwhelmed by the rhythm of her life and Lena becomes bored on Tobi's couch, even though she enjoys his company. But he often lacks a positive attitude to life and enthusiasm, but he needs the protection of his books and enjoys constant withdrawal and rational conversations. Now they are together for a year and Ben really tried to do holidays with Lena but admitted he couldn't really enjoy it and Lena now doesn't know if this will work out.

[@Alina.Sommer]

Your right eye is smaller than your left eye. 😅

[@SDsc0rch]

ladies.. do not be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

[@liz_lemon421]

What's your religion?

[@katherinep708]

?

[@aimeem]

@@liz_lemon421 Can't you guess what his religion is?

[@liz_lemon421]

​@@aimeemI'm not knowledgeable enough for that.

[@kadzo6614]

Who asked you?! Smh