Dating Advice for Men with Social Anxiety

[@HealingHouse88]

What do you think? Am I right about this? What's your experience???

[@ontvlam]

You are 100% right my man

[@HealingHouse88]

@@ontvlam I agree 🤣 thanks

[@g729]

You are right, when I have sex goggles on it makes me see women for their body and not their actions or personality

[@HealingHouse88]

Yeah man, and people don't normally talk about how dangerous that can be for men! I've spoken to many men who married a complete B*tch and it's exactly because of this reason.

[@g729]

Yes. Not seeing women for who they are is dangerous

[@breakfastfoodanddarkhaired280]

Great to see you posting regularly Arnold. Love seeing channels focusing on bioenergetics popping up on youtube. Im a certified therapist myself and i encourage people to practise this :)

[@HealingHouse88]

Hey, thank you so much. Many people have been encouraging me to keep going and I appreciate it. I wish this was more mainstream and well known. Hopefully through my channel and others like this, there will be an increase in awareness of this type of therapy and many people will experience massive transformation 🙏

[@ontvlam]

Professional stuff, this is what we need.

[@Jwoody187]

Thanks man for taking the time to make this. I am 31. I know I'm not as young as some of the other men that you've probably spoken to about these types of themes, but it's still been an area that's caused me much pain. I do admit that I mostly have been interested in the sexual aspect of meeting women. I've recognized it. Porn has been a major influencer in my life since young, and right around the the age that you mentioned, around 12 or 13 is when I was first introduced to it. One of the things I noticed too, as you were mentioning, that I am much more grounded since beginning bioenergetics. I even went out yesterday and spoke to two women and just said the first thing that was on my mind, and I didn't feel afraid during, just before. But I do recognize porn is a key aspect that I need to remove in order to face some of the feelings of guilt and shame. It would probably help enhance my bioenergetic sessions greatly, because I know I'm using it to cope or to run from my feelings, so I'm still blocking them and burying them. I think once I let go of porn and continue with the bioenergetic exercises, it will help free up a lot more repressed energy. Just my thoughts. But thanks again for the video, man. It really helped me out. Thank you for answering my question.

[@HealingHouse88]

You're very welcome, man. I've spoken to some men in their 50's and 60's addicted to porn too so it's not so much an "age" issue, as it is an addiction issue. There will need to be a clean break from it so that you can detox your brain. Would you be willing to not watch porn for the month of May? If yes, you could use these next few days to clean up your computer/phone etc., social media following, and removing triggers as best you can. Then if you want to masturbate (they used to call this "self-abuse" lol) do it without porn! This way you are unpairing that connection between porn and masturbation. I would track this on a calendar and then in June, you could see if you want to continue on the same path or take it a step further. What do you think? Are you willing to try that? Also, do you have someone who you can talk to about this to help you and hold you accountable? That makes a HUGE difference!

[@Jwoody187]

@@HealingHouse88 Yes, I accept the challenge. I was already thinking about it, but now that you have placed forth the challenge, I definitely accept. For the month of May, I will not look at porn, and if I feel the urge to masturbate, then I'll do so without porn. And in June, I'll see if I can take it a step further and cut out masturbation altogether, and continue with my bioenergetic exercises daily. I do have a friend who I talk about these topics every now and then, and he admits that he would like to do the same in terms of stopping using porn for self-soothing and to run away from unpleasant emotions. So, I'll speak to him, have him hold me accountable, and I take up the challenge.

[@Jwoody187]

@@HealingHouse88 I definitely thought I responded to this. Yes, I take up the challenge. So starting May, I will cut out porn. And if I feel the urge to masturbate, then I'll do so without porn. And in June, then I will stop masturbation. I will continue the bioenergetic exercises. I'm excited to see what kind of stuff I can release once I stop running and hiding from my emotions using porn.

[@HealingHouse88]

Awesome! Glad to hear this. Best wishes to you and your friend. Keep us in the loop here when June comes. Also as a support, check out this Vice Slayer Masterclass that my mentor put out a while back: kzbin.info/aero/PLJonATH_53vFgJbDCR5CnyPU7XOZVhJNr&feature=shared It's just things to be aware of on the journey of destroying vices! Blessings bro 🙏

[@Jwoody187]

Hey, so just wanted to pass by and give an update. So I relapsed like eight days into it and then I picked it back up immediately. I only relapsed once and now I'm like 30-something days into it. Since I started I got a new job. I also got a couple dates just being authentic with women. Things have been going well and I'm feeling less of a desire to use women for sexual gratification, although I'm not gonna lie, those desires are still there. But I'm starting to broaden my perspective a bit more in my interactions with women. So I feel good. It's tough at times, but I've still been going strong and I'm still going daily with the Bioenergetics. I appreciate the work you do. Thanks a lot.

[@g729]

I think those shaker cups are full of endocrine disruptors what about you?

[@HealingHouse88]

lol nope, SNAKE JUICE!

[@g729]

@@HealingHouse88 could be a plot by the Chinese to lower test levels. I only drink from the skulls of my enemies for maximum muscle gains 💪

[@prathamyadav2592]

Hey , i wanted to ask what is the difference between one on one coaching and the bioenergetics program ?

[@HealingHouse88]

Hey, thanks for asking. The Bioenergetics program consists of organized prerecorded videos where I guide you through an ordered series of exercises to work on your full body and tap into your body-mind connection. It is very powerful to grow in confidence but does not include any one-on-one calls, no tailored exercises (just the standard ones), and we do not work on anything other than entering into the body-mind connection to release neurotic holding patterns that keep us stifled. That's this link here: enrichtheworld.samcart.com/products/unleash-your-confidence-from-the-inside-out-copy In the one on coaching, we can tackle other topics too, such as social skills training, reframing mental attitudes, emotional intelligence, and accountability for reaching your goals in fitness, females/family, faith, and self-mastery. I tend to also use the Bioenergetics program in my 1 on 1 coaching because it's very effective and most clients want it. Working 1 on 1 is more expensive but I think it's always valuable to have a dedicated coach if we can afford it. If you want to see if we'd be a good fit, sign up for a free discovery call here: calendly.com/ajlezcano888/discovery-call

[@prathamyadav2592]

@@HealingHouse88 So by taking the bioenergetics course i will be able to express myself without getting stifled ?

[@HealingHouse88]

@@prathamyadav2592 Yes sir. Release those blocks!

[@HealingHouse88]

​@@prathamyadav2592 If you have not heard of Somatic therapy before, it may sound a bit strange but I explain the process in a few videos on this page: enrichtheworld.samcart.com/products/unleash-your-confidence-from-the-inside-out-copy. Watch those videos and if you have any questions, let me know.

[@prathamyadav2592]

@@HealingHouse88 so bioenergetics exercises is kind of somatic therapy ?