Dating in the Somali community Part 2

On episode 10, Safia joins us and brings that women perspective that has been requested by our viewers. She speaks on her experience in the dating market and some of the issues the youth face around dating and finding love, marriage, etc.

[@mohamedabdullahi3653]

This episode was pretty amazing...love y’all work keep going 😂😂😂

[@indigobeauty1]

Great Conversation!! enjoyed every moment of it 😊

[@aphr0d]

May Allah guide this ummah......

[@jamaljay8870]

She’s so well spoken

[@abtigiis5188]

This channel gonna soon blow inshaaAllah

[@HA-jq1mu]

Dating?? SubhanAllah. I don't think we can save American somalis now. 😭

[@xacute2937]

Bro not even lying fam, its literally impossible to get married as a Muslim the US. Especially as a MUSLIM, BLACK, IMIGRANT. We don't belong here fam ngl whole society is fighting for your failure.

[@mogi8938]

what is wrong with dating? as long as you don't have sex it's healthy to date and find the best partner for you.

[@HA-jq1mu]

@@mogi8938 I'm assuming maybe you're not a Muslim but if you are, you should already know why. Muslims don't date the same way non-Muslims do. You can speak to person with the intention of finding a spouse but it becomes haram when you are dating and meeting up with someone of the opposite gender just for the sake of it. The title is what my comment is referring to.

[@mad-mullah3117]

@@mogi8938 🤦🏾‍♂️😅 if you date someone you are attracted to, you can't avoid having sex, or at least squeezing your skinny boo tey

[@OMG-seriously]

Oh please Somali culture accepts dating, they don't even encourage a chaperone like other cultures

[@yodaddy2619]

First time and subing. Great convo

[@thezu9250]

Great guest! She told no lies. Some of the information might be hard for men to hear but if you listen closely, shes giving you useful information.

[@beepboop5540]

Are you being serious? She has lost her culture. Just look at her. She is a terrible example for Somali women. It’s people like her that are ripping the community apart.

[@hamzamohamed6748]

@@beepboop5540 deen and culture is no where to be found in this podcast. May allah guide us, Ameen!

[@beepboop5540]

@@hamzamohamed6748 🙏

[@andersonolivera6911]

I learned a lot, never get with a halimo without deen, wtf, "if he unfollows I know he's single" why u keeping tabs???

[@mohamudmohamed3816]

we are muslims and we have taken the western lifestyle. im not surprised the muslim youth have a hard time finding a connection with eachother. I think you should bring someone who have a muslim perspective but overall a good podcast.

[@aai343]

It's really bad out here, especially in MN. I didn't realise how bad it was out there until I visited. No shade to the girls but they already have done everything under the sun and still are not looking for marriage. It's about grinding in college and chasing PHDS and having fun. It really turned me off. There are no prospects in my state. I even went to my Imam and he said the same thing.

[@georgefarah7744]

When discussion comes to romance, these guys scream, we are Muslims and this is dhaqan Western, if we really are Muslims then why is Somalia in this mess, millions are on the brink of starvation and all we talk about is Farmaajo Vs opposition? Only love will free us. Is shukaansadaa and don’t listen to these google wadaads.

[@abdullahmahamed4009]

@@georgefarah7744 jahilniimo is holding back somalia so you want more jahilnimo

[@GokuBlack-sn5dr]

@@aai343 move to the UK

[@befree9579]

@@aai343 Lots of muslims girls in Somalia, Turkey, Saudi arabia. If you have a USA passport you are the prize overseas.

[@sir-ali1163]

Remember a women makes rules for Betas and breaks rules for Alphas.

[@keifer7813]

You smart 👉

[@hfsjma6111]

This was really great conversation, i really like how mature she is, initially i thought oooh she is another say wallahi and her brain has been washed, but mashaallah she has great mind. every point she makes is based on a reality fact.

[@Rclsllh]

Ladies wants: 1. A man with imaan 2. Financially independent and responsible. Pay 100% of all the bills and provide for her needs. 3. Have a good character, be loyal, faithful, romantic, prioritize her. 4. Take your marriage seriously and take your family and friends out of it. 5. Help around the house. Clean, cook, etc. 6. Take care of yourself physically. 7. See all the hoops you jumped to woo her over? Keep doing that after you get her. 8. Maintain your deen, Imaan, taqwa. 9. Take premarital and post marital counseling. Master how to be patient and communicate. Learn how to make a marriage work. 10. After she makes your babies, don’t put your kids before her. She brought those babies to this world. Your marriage is more important than your children.

[@leeclass1089]

Probably written by non married sister !‘

[@Rclsllh]

@@leeclass1089 wrong!

[@_2k154]

Men, this is advice to take if you want to have a short marriage. What an absolute load of shyt. 🤣

[@tyronequaker4959]

Looool kids are more important than the wife for sureee are you dumbbb ?

[@koldwolf]

@@tyronequaker4959 I don't agree with all her points but she does a point you can make more kids at the end of the day. You can't find a wife just like her. If she's your one

[@inakeena3450]

Wow kudos to guest she is intelligent, articulate and smart

[@rateorhate11]

Farrrrrr from intelligent

[@userunknown-lb8qw]

Yall need to read a book or two about your religion 22:29 'marrying off the bat' isn't what doing things the 'halal' way is. Islam is a perfect religion thus allowing you to get to know someone to ensure there's compatibility, attraction etc so if sis and others jumped into their marriages without taking necessary precautions then that's because they were I'm sorry to say but dumb!! don't blame things on Islam blame it on your lack of knowledge of the deen.

[@abdiosman302]

100% facts

[@aminaaden5046]

All she said is facts💯

[@hustlernaturalrocks292]

💋👉

[@beepboop5540]

This girl was also wrong about the study she mentioned. It doesn’t prove her point, it argues against it.

[@toptiernessa]

Watching this in 2024 and this was a really good chat.

[@roses9413]

May Allaah guide the Muslims of America.

[@ga9693]

8 or 9 guys on rotation? Where do you find these great men I can't even find 1 that I like 🙊

[@craigtucker7815]

She spitting game for fellas just focus on your work, school, and gym. She said literally women are trying to get free meals and kill time 😭. That’s sick man.

[@aphr0d]

That's someone without an islamic mindset 😢

[@unolowmanta7508]

Not true. Most women deep down looking for someone to love them but obviously it doesn't always turn out great so she keeps on dating and that's how the meals keep on coming

[@Alimohamed-dq7zb]

True

[@khalidjama]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@shantatv3185]

yesss!! if a guys group of friends like a girl he conforms and wants her too . They want to see if the others approve before going to her or even decide her worth based on others opinion

[@keifer7813]

Lmao that's a load of BS. It's actually the opposite. Guys don't care if their boys agree with their taste in women. Girls do. Girls will literally do a 180 about a guy because her friends don't find him attractive. Just goes to show women are natural followers, and men are leaders

[@MomoAfterDark]

Lol no this is not how men think at all. You’re projecting how women move. So wrong.

[@straw1berry11]

@@MomoAfterDark So this is not how most men think, but it is how most women "move"? How the fuck do you criticize generalization by generalizing?🤦‍♀️ Such a counterproductive argument, smh.

[@MomoAfterDark]

@@straw1berry11 lol it’s just common sense. Men and women don’t move the same and modern women are the only ones stupid enough not to accept it. Men have a penis and women have a vagina is also a generalization it doesn’t mean it’s not true

[@straw1berry11]

@@MomoAfterDark stating an accurate generalization such as men have penises and women have vaginas doesn't make your argument any more valid...

[@OMG-seriously]

She is gorgeous mashallah

[@abdiosman302]

She’s making her opinions sound like they’re fact smh. “99% of the world is not normal and 99% of th world is insecure” shawdy is nuts

[@Hassanneedtoknow]

Mohamed Olow had me dying 😂 when he said "how can we put an end to men going back to Africa for marriage " 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@AlphamaleAO]

Dating ruins everything brothers and sisters. Eventually all roads lead to commuting zina and by then, the appeal of marriage dissipates instantly.

[@abdulahmed1363]

woman at 20: "dont talk to me!" woman at 30: "somebody please talk to me!" woman at 40: "hey! im talking to you!" woman at 50: "here kitty kitty."

[@maanso6583]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@abdulahmed1363]

@@mogi8938 okay stay single with your 8 cats

[@xacute2937]

@@mogi8938 Blaming your own men shows what kind of character you embody. Your ignorance isn’t able to decipher any originating casualties, on top of that not only do you blame the men but also the country. I am sorry but you cannot speak upon such topic, your either uneducated or highly ignorant in the topic you chose to introduce.

[@ibtisammohamed3583]

@@abdulahmed1363 you say that like it’s a bad thing…

[@beepboop5540]

@@ibtisammohamed3583 it is according to the women themselves. Studies show that the most unhappy women in American society is a women in her mid-40s who is single with a high paying job.

[@salmaansheek6110]

According to this Sister if you show The freind of Allah Ibrahim who was homeless she would classify him as someone Unsuccessful, And Firaun would be very successful man as he had one of the most luxurious palaces built on earth. Success in not how much wealth you have but what is in your Heart. which is why Ibrahim attained true success and Firaun the most debased in history Surah Hadid 57:20 Know that this worldly life is no more than play, amusement, luxury, mutual boasting, and competition in wealth and children. This is like rain that causes plants to grow, to the delight of the planters. But later the plants dry up and you see them wither, then they are reduced to chaff. Surah Imran "Fair in the eyes of men is the love of things they covet: Women and sons; Heaped-up hoards of gold and silver; horses branded (for blood and excellence); and (wealth of) cattle and well-tilled land. Such are the possessions of this world's life; but in nearness to Allah is the best of the goals (To return to)." Let's all meet in Jannah inshallah bursha wanagsan

[@beepboop5540]

Stop giving a voice to such women. They are a terrible influence on young Somali women and women in general.

[@bangbangboogy1771]

Wow! It’s a bit too strong of a comment. Chill bruh! 🤨

[@straw1berry11]

Just because you don't agree with her doesn't mean that she can't share her opinion. If you don't like videos like this, then don't click on them. Besides unless you are a woman, don't speak for us thank you.

[@fdafreewrldx1007]

Bro shes talking bizzare

[@LEND-an-EAR]

So her dad told her to date multiple people before she finds one? Is this really Islam ☪️ way? I’m confused.

[@ii-jn8zj]

You’re allowed to marry a women in Islam if you’re on the verge of committing zina. Also Y’all need to watch the fresh and fit podcast. They will make y’all able to break down these topics easily. Especially against these “boss babes” type of girls that are on a power trip.

[@fal9005]

Fresh and fit is how you become an incel and push women away with that mentality

[@salmaansheek6110]

not a good reccomendation for your fellow somali muslims, as 80% of the panel are women barely wearing any clothes

[@cawboy7071]

Hi i am aguy respect somalians i donot even hear somali languge so peace

[@pirateblackhawkdown9047]

My advice to the Somali brothers is get your money up hold on to your deen & when the time comes to marriage go for Asians Sudanese or back home whatever you do stay away from femcel blm xaarlimos for your mental health.

[@aphr0d]

There are plenty of good somali girls in the west as well but Subhanallah, make dua and just focus on bettering yourself in the meantime bro

[@thecalling1452]

i think we have the best women in the world in terms of modesty and akhlaaq all in all, there are bad apples in all people, you need to get off the internet and interact with real somali girls, the negative shit tends to just come out more to the surface, slandering them aint it

[@afrozzz5634]

Somali guys like you are just so irritating. What the hell is even a femcel blm xaarlimo? It’s always disrespecting Somali women. Go and marry whoever you want and stay away from my sisters. Thank you.

[@cydc08]

BLM Halima IM DEAD 💀

[@ayoonismail329]

Who tf told you Asian w wants to be with you weirdo

[@idi.h5460]

Acudubillah

[@M.Adam.M937]

Wassup 🇸🇴

[@ahmedopone4080]

Crazy. She's regurgitating talking points from a failed society that doesn't know commitment and has divorce rated out of the roof.

[@abdiosman302]

My brother clearly doesn’t know what hypergamy means lol

[@zk321]

were is the islam in this video.??

[@queenaraweelo1271]

16:30 She quotes apparently a study that men are happier in marriage and women are happier more as single, when pressed than changes the finding and says actually men are more productive when married in their career and women when they are single: This conclusion are literally worlds apart makes me doubt her honestly of the study being true to begin with..

[@straw1berry11]

I think you can search up the study to confirm or disprove the validity of her argument. It would make your counter-argument stronger.

[@khalidabdulqadir8316]

Men choose wisely who you’re marrying

[@Oneofakind49]

Mashallah this girl is SPITTING nonstop, sensational mentality. Great pod

[@talktameefromthegcrnetwork8989]

She look familiar is she a Twitter personality or something? Sorry I’m ‘91

[@hannahgrey101]

Overall I think this makes marriage out to be a contract. I don’t see that being a good thing.

[@mad-mullah3117]

So many incels in here talking bad about their women that live in West, I understand some of them are crazy, but my question is what about your own blood sisters that live with you in West 😅🤦🏾‍♂️

[@GeeljirePower]

A lot of men have to realize their walaal is a dhiilo, my cousin did and ended contact with his sister

[@keifer7813]

@@GeeljirePower My sister is headed down that route and wallahi Idk if I can continue being in her life. Am I some dayooth

[@mrego9751]

I feel sorry for the girl she looks like she’s struggling to find a hubby and she looks pretty Subhanallah

[@molabnl2817]

She look cheap

[@mrego9751]

Lets not hate on the girl shes miskeen. She tryna find a good man who can support her but the good are few nowadays. And probably dont agree with her views so its an endless cycle of finding the so called “one”. Its actually sad wallahi that the world is that corrupt.

[@abdullahmahamed4009]

@@mrego9751 well she doesnt help herself with the whole poly relationship thing

[@afarking2151]

With her mentality she will be single

[@MrMentalz2]

you can see why this girl is single and will probably stay single for a while, when that wall hits she will have no choice but to be realistic with her standards lol

[@abdihalimyusufmohamed8903]

She may be single for every or end up ciyaal la'aan

[@afarking2151]

Till she reach 35

[@MomoAfterDark]

But she’s extremely gorgeous so she’ll get away with a lot. More average looking women won’t get away with the same mindset and behavior.

[@zonestar9828]

Bruh!! This woman is confused asf!!! She is everything wrong with women!! She said I am more of a submissive type but then she goes on and says her man has no say in what she does? What she wears? Who she hangs out?? So how's she submissive to her man at all??

[@saqii2930]

Assalamu alaikum brothers. Please take this video down. It goes again our Islamic values and morals. There shouldnt be dating phase for a muslim. Fear allah and save yourself from sins

[@laandhere2717]

These suckers are promoting a Dhilo! This Dhilo said ‘we’re’ having towards polyamory. As in, your wife can be with other men and it’s normal. I mean what do you expect from BLM Farah & BLM Xaarlimo

[@aai343]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@straw1berry11]

Yikes. InshAllah calling these ppl condescending names, such as "dhilo" and "xaarlimo", will come back to you on judgement day.

[@theiceman9247]

Whole reason relationship is messed up in todays world look at any woman's fb or Instagram toban nin baa hoos fadhiya all going wow u look hot or sliding in a woman's dm boosting her ego do you think so called woman will ever settle maxaa nin keliya kufaleya boqol baa I hood fadhiya

[@humbleonemoretime7025]

Open relationship kulaha is this podcast for somalis or westerners alpha male kulaha is there a somali geek guy. somali guys in the west are either hafid Quran and parents worked hard on him or he is a lost cause with identity crisis. women don't want the thug and the hafid doesn't want the woman in America for her past and background. it works sometimes but we are not like the Pakistanis or Indians who somehow keep their culture. somalis kinda easily lose their culture. I have seen alot of crazy stuff in America uk Netherlands zambia Kenya. men somali guys and girls are heading in the wrong direction the good thing is back home things are 👍🏼. hey before you bring your kids to the west remember you are raising them for this world but back home you might have a kid that makes dua for you and keeps your religion culture and background intact.

[@aai343]

Fellas we need to stop simping for these types of women.

[@abdidesign3255]

10 mins in and I’m tired of her claims, how are keep letting it slide like that, nodding their head even tho they don’t agree.

[@MomoAfterDark]

Weak ass men letting these feminists talk bullshit

[@straw1berry11]

Did you want them to argue and fight with her lol?

[@septemberviral]

You guys didn’t push back hard enough especially on the topic why it’s needed to have multiple wives lol.

[@Jay-bi2cv]

I don’t trust this chick. Her views are one sided

[@straw1berry11]

As opposed to yours?

[@jamaabdirahman4754]

What’s her @ ?

[@gamesfc1603]

War waa la ilbaxay ka bax. 🤣🤣🤣

[@mrabdi]

She said date different peaple lol sharing hhhhh wtf

[@amiii8137]

She is so smart 😍

[@Jafar.Jamal-175]

What a shurmoto 😂😂

[@beepboop5540]

Agreed

[@amiii8137]

Based on what? You don’t even know her

[@GeeljirePower]

@@amiii8137 ask around, shes wellknown in seattle and hargeisa for her xishood-laan

[@vEcTeRbl00d]

@@GeeljirePower How do you know her

[@somaliwarrior8646]

@@GeeljirePower damn😂

[@abtigiis5188]

She's manipulative

[@plack628]

We’re losing our culture wallahi we’re starting to think like Cadaan

[@cloudy_dayz5000]

Swipe left on this one. Know it all about marriage but not married equals not adding up. The host failed to challenge her on what exactly a happy relationship/partnership looks like to her. I agree about her on compatibility of you and your partner, but.. smh this can change as people are not objects and change. As a successful man that a lot of women find attractive, I personally wouldn’t be attracted to this one, she looks nice, but me and the circles I run in (the ones she wants to ”build to”… she wouldn’t be a fit.

[@hamsatd]

Lets not promote this behaviour.

[@laandhere2717]

This episode was trash

[@strixgaming4271]

Most of girl getting away of Islam bk home

[@daniellevy5601]

She’s pretty Masha allah can someone source me her socials

[@guledabdi318]

shubo

[@maow0001]

god stop

[@i.o4916]

So she wants men to pay her bills in other words she wants a sugar daddy.

[@LaoZhang00]

Stop simping

[@xacute2937]

“(dislike button)”

[@momoalzuberyi]

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