Very insightful and appropriate in my situation as someone living with CFS/ME. Thank you
@LewisPsychology2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your comment Jane. I’m pleased to hear you found this video insightful. It certain,y does sound like it’s very appropriate for your situation. Take care.
@bonniestewart9100 Жыл бұрын
As someone living with borderline personality, I find this is the hardest skill to try and get right because I feel pain so intensely.
@thomas.loyens7 ай бұрын
Same for me
@michaelgarrow32397 ай бұрын
Stay away from people.
@jugoldman22305 ай бұрын
No, stay away from people who do you down, or tell you to stay away from people. Fight for good relationships and put boundaries in with people who overstep their mark.
@shmulikcarmon95284 ай бұрын
If you release your resistace to what is,, and accept the imperfections of current reality, you will suffer much less🎉
@awinters10002 ай бұрын
You can’t radically accept if you are in the intense emotions, you have to get out of your emotional mind first then you can practice radical acceptance
@maddarena Жыл бұрын
I was wondering what the state of acceptance actually looks like and I concluded that it is when I stop generating negative feelings, thoughts, and behaviors concerning my problem. No more avoiding the problem, just look at reality and see the truth. No more anger, fear, shame, worry, guilt, sadness, etc.
@LewisPsychology Жыл бұрын
That’s spot on. Very well said. Best wishes, Teresa.
@zepirothhong316028 күн бұрын
As currently struggling with Anger and Disappointment, thank you Lewis for the Willing Hand Tips. Greetings from Indonesia. 🖖👍👏
@JohnKooz8 ай бұрын
Thank you for your clear, efficient, and useful explanation of Radical Acceptance!
@LewisPsychology8 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful! Best wishes, Teresa.
@Speedster28148 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. I've been working through a lot of past trauma alongside a recent autism diagnosis (age 29) and radical acceptance has been something I have struggled to utilise. The affirmation that radical acceptance isn't giving up or an approval of my situation has made it easier to understand and I hope, alongside the willing hands, it'll become a useful tool in my growing arsenal of DBT techniques.
@LewisPsychology8 ай бұрын
Wishing you all the best on your journey, best wishes, Teresa.
@HanzoSlash195 ай бұрын
This made a lot of sense to me.
@LewisPsychology5 ай бұрын
That’s great to hear. Best wishes, Teresa.
@deborahbain991511 ай бұрын
I've got fibromyalgia I have radically accepted it
@user-yq5ol6dr6c Жыл бұрын
I have shared this video to a Facebook group that I have started. It was well accepted and I appreciate your clarity and knowledge.
@tiverson8886 ай бұрын
Excellent!… thank you for such clear, well - organized -and presented- videos
@mohtasimqamruddin44422 жыл бұрын
Concept explained in a simple and practical way
@LewisPsychology2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your kind comment.
@fromfranceswithlove80842 ай бұрын
What a great explanation!
@LewisPsychology2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much. Best wishes, Teresa.
@katyjenkins236 Жыл бұрын
After decades of #$-*@! something in my brain just went "Nope. This way of living HAS to change and its up to me to change it!". Its like a lightbulb went off! Im 57 and this happens. Isnt it unusual that my brain just chose instantly that the chaos has go stop? (Although i have been in counseling for several years and working hard.) Only problem now is i feel like my personality has changed a bit, somewhat melancholy, and im not sure at this age what/how to change. Oh boy......😮❤
@chrisburp5 ай бұрын
I just turned 59. Seems insurmountable.
@katyjenkins236 Жыл бұрын
Wonderfully explained! Thank you!
@LewisPsychology Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! Best wishes, Teresa.
@audreydugan96689 ай бұрын
One I like your videos,, thank you. Two I accept :) radical acceptance as the ... hmm .. how to say it "ground zero" from here find solutions, not hopes. I would like to learn more about Radical Acceptance, strategies, hacks .. just anything that helps living it
@michaelgarrow32397 ай бұрын
As a carpenter I have always had to accept reality. You have to shim a crooked slab: level it or the 2nd floor is crooked too. Walls out of plumb need to be fixed. They don’t her you…
@therchas9 ай бұрын
Thanks
@ta397010 ай бұрын
The title of Radical Acceptance initially may fuel thought patterns that we are accepting that there is no hope. It can be confusing & off-putting, resulting in some of us wanting to avoid the thearpy. I do acknowledge it helps but I wonder if there could be a better title...
@BellaLola265 ай бұрын
I get that. In case it helps - fighting reality hurts a lot more because we don’t have the power to change from being in a space of denial. Accepting reality is actually within our control and can lead to making more empowering and reality based choices thereby possibly leading to gaining some control. 🙏🏽 “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves” Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
@shmulikcarmon95284 ай бұрын
Resistance is not helpful. Acceptance clears a way to improvements.
@ShakespeerTube7 ай бұрын
Excellent video, thanks ❤
@LewisPsychology7 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful! Best wishes, Teresa.
@Star-dj1kw7 ай бұрын
❤Excellent
@raniaalkhatami Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much that was helpful 🙏🏻💙💙
@LewisPsychology Жыл бұрын
That's great to hear, thanks Rania. Best wishes, Teresa.
@AA-wc3tw5 ай бұрын
I am working on acceptance and focusing on the present moment. However I don't know the difference within myself between "pushing away or bottling up" and "accepting". I try to adopt a "well, this is how things are -shrug-" attitude, but I don't know if that is actually happening or if I am just bottling everything up.
@LewisPsychology5 ай бұрын
It can be difficult at first but do keep practicing. It may be helpful to work with a psychological therapist. Best wishes, Teresa.
@AA-wc3tw5 ай бұрын
@@LewisPsychology I've been in therapy for 20+ years. I get mixed messages from the world: some say to work on acceptance, others say that we should not settle. No one has the answer(s), it seems. But I am working on accepting life the way it is instead of always wanting something different. I'm not going to have a different life, so I need to stop wishing for it, which causes me stress. Also working on lowering my expectations in the hopes that I will be less disappointed. Sometimes it's difficult to determine what is a reasonable expectation and what is a too-high expectation. Again, no one has the answer(s). -shrug-
@utualan3 ай бұрын
@@LewisPsychology how about an answer to his question?
@lindahebb4832 Жыл бұрын
🤗
@niamhryan6129 Жыл бұрын
I'm not sure if me hating my life is a case for radical acceptance or problem solving. I am not happy with the situation I'm in. Radical acceptance or problem solving.
@tomld477110 ай бұрын
You can do both. Accept what you can't change but but come up with a solution to the problem if you can. Just know there are no perfect outcomes.
@terencereed79578 ай бұрын
Would this be appropriate for real event ocd ?
@LewisPsychology8 ай бұрын
Yes. Best wishes, Teresa.
@terencereed79578 ай бұрын
Thanks
@terencereed79578 ай бұрын
Basically I made a really bad mistake 6 years ago. Haunts me everyday and I’m stuck in this battle of trying to reason why I did it ? Made me suicidal and I’ve had 9 trips to A and E this year. If only we could turn back time 😢