Dear neurodivergent friend, you are not lazy...

Dear neurodivergent friend,
You are not lazy... slow... annoying... bull-headed... manipulative... self-centered... just because someone else thinks you are.
Their wild misperceptions of you do not have to become your inner monologue.
Realize that your behaviors have reasons they don't understand... and their unwillingness to even try to understand them... and their judgements of you based on ignorance... is a "them" problem... not a "you" problem.
Your brain wiring and the challenges you face because of it is not a moral failing... but their chosen ignorance and active judgement of you in spite of being given all the information they need to do better... is.
You are amazing. Keep being you. Ignore the haters. Surround yourself with people who get you... because... we've got you. 🤗
(Leave a comment, and see what I mean 🥰)

[@DaneWinehouse]

Thank you, miss Nicole. \cyber hug

[@alittlepieceofearth]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@missunderstood1983]

Been masking for so long, I'm still trying to figure out who I am. Thanks for your kind words. 😊

[@LucyClover]

Just glad to be here at all. ❤❤❤❤

[@thesincitymama]

Thanks for this encouraging message ❤

[@sensorystoriesbynicole]

You are so welcome 🥰

[@philipswann9753]

Yay

[@sbtashetty1]

Thank you. I needed to hear this right now. Not one person believes I am struggling as much as I say I am and it is getting so much worse alone

[@sensorystoriesbynicole]

I'm so sorry... sending so many positive vibes your way. I hope things get better for you soon 😞❤️

[@KarenDUlrich]

I experienced domestic violence at the hands of my abusive Christian husband. My Christian friend asked me "why can't you keep a job" I was working and going to college, but was headed toward burnout from being screamed at every single day. My Christian therapist had audio recordings, as did Linda, the friend, of Karl screaming at me. The therapist told me I was lazy and unkempt and need to find employment despite noting worst abuse history in her 30 years and confirming domestic violence. How she missed autism and DID over a year was purposeful. Who goes to therapy dressed up in full makeup and designer clothes only to be vulnerable and cry your mascara all over your face by the time you leave? The now former friend and former therapist destroyed me more than the now former husband. They erased the fabric of me through gaslighting, invalidation, manipulation, name calling. Linda's specialty is giving mental health labels though she is a customer service person by trade. The Christian friend made abuse my fault, told me to "suffer for Christ" and "god would be glorified" by my story. She defended the men who refused to confront and hold my husband accountable, including her husband Scott. She cherry picks bible verses to suit her own narcissistic ways. The friend, a nut case Christian, told me in writing, to my face, and to her circle of friends that I am delusional, paranoid, and demon possessed. She is a predator seeking people like us, easy prey for narcissists. Of course, we are ALWAYS the problem.

[@sensorystoriesbynicole]

Oh my, I am so sorry you went through such a traumatic experience. 😔💔

[@JKweez]

Wrong message. If you struggle with a neurological disorder that is harming your personal life and hindering your ability to accomplish life goals, you should be working on managing it every day. Take some criticism seriously because some of it is warranted. Don't accept a disability as an excuse for failing. I know I don't.

[@lijahsampson6979]

I agree and also disagree. Neurodivergence should never be an excuse to not try or a reason to accept failure but oftentimes it’s helpful to understand that these things make our life more difficult, and we aren’t weaker than those with neurotypical brains. We’re stronger. We have to try harder to find workarounds, constantly battling against our own brains. It’s okay to accept that we won’t always succeed and we shouldn’t beat ourselves up over it, because some things won’t come naturally. We just need to stand up, dust ourselves off and try again. It’s true that neurotypical people don’t always understand. Calling you lazy isn’t going to be motivating, it’s just going to feed the thought that maybe you really are, and that’s how it’s always going to be. If neurotypical people (e.g. parents) were to say on the other hand, something like “the dishes need to be done after every meal before leaving the kitchen”that makes it much easier to get something done in a non stressful, focused way.