How To Deal With Your Anger - What to do with the anger you feel.

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[@SomethingFunctional]

Omg. I wanted to cry when you said “You should always be sweet and kind and tender”. That was my childhood and now I live in chronic stress

[@Wildflowerincali]

Thank you. This couldn’t have come at a better time. Acceptance of my right to be angry. What a relief. I have really been struggling with this

[@debbiemirza1744]

I'm so glad this came at the perfect time! Yay! Thank you for your comment. xx

[@maryfarrell2296]

@@debbiemirza1744 Hi Debbie ( my new best friend! ) Lol This is so cool & it resonated with me as I was listening to you,. I had every family member except one + me,. Turn every emotion into a demonstrative anger opportunity,. Ahhh exhausting,. But it reminded me of a time back in my late thirties/ early forties when I began experiencing awful problems with my menstral cycle going berserk 24 days on - 4 days off,. completely reversed & I became terribly anemic, surgery, bla bla friggin bla & one day I just started talking to my uterus,. Yep I did that! I told her I loved her for giving me my kids ( I had just found out per this experience that I shouldnt have had my children so easily that my uterus was heart shaped? I'd never heard of that but) anyway I thanked her for her service, giving me my kids, & that she can calm down now its ok,. I really did not seem to have much in the way of anymore extreme problems after that, I wish I would've taken what I learned in that time & applied it to all the crazy to come,. Actually maybe come to think of it? She may have been acting up to times coming rather than reacting to times past? Who knows?? Either way,. Debbie thank you for reminding me♡

[@carlottaventi9556]

Someone once said: There´s nothing wrong with you, and there´s nothing to fix. You are hurting, and you need to heal. So thank you for the reminder, that there´s nothing wrong with having those emotions. :) :)

[@debbiemirza1744]

Absolutely! So very true! hugs

[@holographicc6974]

A psychiatrist once told me: There is nothing wrong with you, get rid of the jerk (saved my life!).

[@QuiDocetDiscit]

"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or anxiety, make sure you are not, in fact, surrounded by arseholes." ...somebody smart. 🤔👍

[@LJH83]

This should be shared with anyone and everyone who self harms, your work is fabulous. Thank you

[@debbiemirza1744]

Thank you Lynsey! Feel free to share away. I agree, this is for anyone who self harms. xx

[@ronesss33]

I was feeling angry this morning until I put this video on. Your soothing voice and peaceful energy helped it drain away. Thanks Debbie you are a true gem 🌸💎🌺

[@debbiemirza1744]

Oh wow! That's amazing! Thank you for telling me that! xx

[@ronesss33]

Debbie Mirza my pleasure 🤗

[@beehiveear8883]

Omg! Same!

[@bettyfreddy8377]

Lots of anger here I do tend to vent to people I'm very close to. Looking for validation and not giving my own self permission to be as offended as I get when people act in rude and insensitive ways.

[@beehiveear8883]

I do too! But I try to repress it cuz they don't understand and that'll make it worse.

[@holographicc6974]

The anger comes from these Creatures trashing your life and then blaming you for it. Well, they’re insane, so who cares what they think- question is Why are you buying into their lies?

[@rhianjaques9997]

Well said.

[@carlottaventi9556]

Such an important topic, thank you for talking about it!!! When you´re angry, you´re actually healing from all the abusive, right?

[@debbiemirza1744]

Anytime we treat any of our emotions with kindness, acceptance, and no judgment we are healing ourselves xx

[@amyhooper7819]

Thank you for this. It was very helpful. I have been irrational at times when I become angry.

[@heathalee]

Rregular and strenuos physical activity is the best way I have found to deal with the anger. Also reflecting on the situations you are angriest about to come to terms with it in your own mind without interference or influence of others. The unfairness and horrible treatment someone bestowed upon you is an assault on your soul as well and if you can accept it even though its sick and wrong and unfair you will be able to handle it much better.

[@rhianjaques9997]

Yes. Exercise is good for so much.

[@gloriastroedecke2717]

I love the movie,"French Kiss" too. Love Kevin Kline.

[@lauratheexplorer6390]

Last time I was angry I walked home listening to Kelis - Caught Out There. I vented all the way. Just saying to myself I'm really angry right now. I'm so angry! This was a step forward for me because I have suppressed anger since childhood. I remember raging and having abandonment fear as early as 12. I think the abandonment fear shuts down my anger response. Message was good girls don't get angry. I felt like I was a monster if I got angry. I was left alone when my emotions were intolerable. So I bottle up my ("negative") emotions. Verbal ventilation helps. Just to admit how you feel. And go through that uncomfortable emotion.

[@missjaszmine1968]

Hitting your mattress with a wiffle bat, throwing socks at the wall to angry music (example: song - "I am whoever you say I am!" by M&M); crushing cans or bubble wrap with your feet.... get creative and get that anger out in healthy ways. Kids and teens can do this too.

[@mariegracebrabandt8028]

Thank you! I always suppressed anger and didn't share it until I was poked and prodded enough. Like the dog in the corner being poke with a stick and you wonder why it finally attacked. I needed to hear this. I was so depressed as a kid because I experience anger towards me but couldn't or wasn't allowed to express it. Going to work on this even more. Blessing sweet soul.

[@tatltael7258]

Interesting, thank you for sharing this! I would imagine you could do this with all emotions, sadness, fear etc

[@debbiemirza1744]

Very true Cara. xx

[@jules655]

Thanks Debbie!

[@Suzu52]

I pushed down reactions for decades....now that I m starting to let them out, hard to get that genie back in the bottle...I do not like this version of me....cannot be around this person any more, but circumstances dictate that I have to co habitate with him......I pray for a solution everday.

[@orchidsrising7910]

I was raised to be a really “good girl,” so don’t even know how to access anger, but I remember when I used to cut, that was the only way I could get out the turmoil inside. I took it out on myself not understanding why, but now I do and no more cutting, for 3 years, now about

[@Lkingfwdnevabkwds]

From what i remember about myself before my marriage, i was a happy, positive, worry free person. By the end of the 6 year marriage i was on edge, resentful, and suffered from cognitive distortion. Then poof, she discarded me without any warning signs.

[@user-ey4rc5tu4t]

thank you for speaking to this. I happened on this group---probably because I sent you a friend request, and this all sounded so convoluted. It makes sense, but not mid stride.

[@rosalfischer6652]

But what about real time anger when you're with the CN and they are gaslighting you to your face, you call them out and they deny it. The CN seems to get so righteous and enjoys his power to remain calm as I get angry and upset

[@bbeeaauu]

Thanks!

[@tihanaharrison6728]

I am a very recent subscriber and I don't know which I love more; your fantastic videos or the comment section! What a fantastic and useful video, thank you! Very eloquent, clear and well explained. I will definitely be trying this when I next feel the need. Love and hugs from the UK.

[@debbiemirza1744]

Wonderful Tihana! So happy to have you here. Thank you for your lovely comment! I love the UK! Love and hugs to you too! xx

[@VintageJunker]

Hi Debbie, Just wanted to give you a shout out on your book. It was so helpful on so many levels. It brought me a lot of comfort. Thanks for all your hard work.

[@debbiemirza1744]

I'm so glad to hear that Dawson! Thank you for sharing that with me.

[@Sheywh12]

WOW IM BAWLING 😭😭😭😭 POWERFUL STUFF!!

[@debbiemirza1744]

XOXOXO

[@odette8905]

Thank you Debbie. Love this introspective technique. The anger needs a voice and needs expression in order to heal, be processed. What great work! So did you go on to become a Life Coach?

[@debbiemirza1744]

I was actually a life coach before my book came out. Since then this has become my focus (helping people that are coming our of these toxic relationships)

[@tihanaharrison6728]

@@debbiemirza1744 how did you get to be a life coach?

[@rhianjaques9997]

I was so angry with my live in narc mother’ on Saturday night. I was almost shaking and absolutely seething with rage. I do my addict shit when this happens. Unfortunately, I’m mad a lot. Getting counseling. Time to own up and get out!!!!!

[@nancyannenesteriak-gentili3540]

I love your blouse... such a pretty print!

[@MrsSheen-zo9sm]

You are doing beautiful work. Love from Pakistan!

[@debbiemirza1744]

Thank you Shaista! Love to you and Pakistan!

[@1986nitya]

Hi Debbie! I love the top and the earrings you're wearing. You look very pretty!

[@legokid.R]

i have read abt it in jackson mackezies book psychopath free. to get intouch with your innerself and talk to it. to be honest i find this idea a little creepy, but may b its worth a try. thanks for sharing.

[@debbiemirza1744]

I adore Jackson. Definitely worth a try. It's a game changer

[@surviverd.j.aldridge964]

How do you get through or over a in your face adulterous betrayal followed by denial and crazy making with assistance from flying monkeys? I am having a very hard time with it and it's the biggest prob in my anger improvement.