Why Self-Love is Not Selfish

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[@bentravels390]

Debbie is one of the few who actually gets it(covert narcissim). We the victims are invisible to everybody bec the abuse was done in private 1 on 1 situations. Almost done with the book. Will be finishing it tonight.

[@NaomiMordi]

Thank you. We treat others the way we treat ourselves. Lovers love; haters hate.

[@user-ey4rc5tu4t]

Naomi Mordi I literally just wrote that in another space. Grace.

[@NaomiMordi]

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[@watch76]

What I get from this is you can’t give what you don’t have… and when you plant and cultivate what you need, be wise in how you dispense or share the fruit of your efforts… thx again for you devotion to help free us from our CN’s!!!!

[@subodhgodbole7266]

I am always thinking that self-love is selfish but after watching this video, I am understanding the real thing ... , thank you very good explained

[@cantoon833]

Thank you Debbie as always you are an inspiration to me!!! On the 28th I am a year out of my 5 year relationship with a CN, your books and videos helped me so much on my road from broken to healing, loving myself and self care.

[@joseenoel8093]

Self-love is the best, everyone else comes a close second! Yes we are raised this way, it's vital to 'their survival', not our own.

[@joseenoel8093]

Thanks Deb, they're addicted to 'drama' as a way to.......(add to their f-umptness), there's no convincing them 'calm rocks and is 😎'.

[@teachersusanute199]

My boys are millennials - and they are amazing young men 😁

[@user-ey4rc5tu4t]

Teacher Susan I feel the same about my daughters. They are amazing women.

[@user-ey4rc5tu4t]

We need a new chapter in a book about narc trophy taking, and what that can look like. And, the humiliation game.

[@JenAWren]

Thanks Debbie x

[@DianaLopez-ke3jk]

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[@Natalia-Weiss]

Debbie, are you OK? Missing and waiting for you. Please, stay warm in this snowy days 🌹🤗❤️

[@debbiemirza1744]

Hello! Thank you! I really appreciate that! I've just gone through a big move and have been dealing with some health issues. I will be doing many more videos in the future, but needing a lot of self-care at the moment. Thank you again! xx

[@Zubie2000]

Just found your stuff. It’s really helpful. Thanks.

[@nikkihinton5642]

Thank you Debbie. When religious dogma was born the God Self was evicted: divinity within, went without.🕯️🦋🕯️

[@aseargeant]

Thank you Debbie these words are so encouraging I am reading your book Covert Narcissism and it has been very enlightening and encouraging for me. Thank you Blessings Agnes

[@debbiemirza1744]

I'm so glad to hear that! Thank you! xx

[@aseargeant]

I wasn't sure if this is okay for me to ask this question when you said in one of your videos that you arent a christian anymore and you were raised in a missionary home. Reason why I am asking is I am a christian wasn't raised in a missionary home but I became a christian when I was19. I was wondering if people fall from their faith because they were terribly hurt by the church. IF you dont feel comfortable answering how can you answer me privately. Thank you Debbie

[@mrazik131]

HI Debbie I read this book and it really helped me a lot to tidy up my feelings inside me, it is so great I recommend it to everyone now lol maybe you like it to? it is by Karla McLaren the language of emotions , what are your feelings trying to tell you. hugs! and thank you honey!

[@iam1193]

Narcissists don’t love their TRUE self, only the “labels” they have accepted to be tied to their ego, it can even be the label of “I am good, I’m a martyr “, as long as that is WHAT THE WORLD OUTSIDE sees about them. They have a dark side they don’t want to know about their self. They are actually suffering inside and I can only feel compassionate about that. It’s difficult to make them understand to actually LOVE themselves as a whole being and to find the value within themselves instead of outside of themselves. Because of the fact that they need outside validation, it also makes them easy to manipulate or control. Our narcissistic society is based upon “needy creatures”. The ones who are in highly successful positions are also people who have a lot of secrets and portrait a face of themselves for the public...and another face privately. This way...the ones who know their secrets...can manipulate them...that’s how they are controlled. They don’t want people to find out how they really are, what goes on behind that “caring” or “successful” face.

[@deborahritchie3912]

How can I contact you?

[@beasmarty]

unfortunately, a number of people who share traits with the narcissist, are likely using this video to validate their self delusion and continue justifying their disintegrating integrity, and the hurt they cause those closest to them. big hugs though. great video 💙