Defeat Social Anxiety (in 5 steps)

[@askvinh]

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[@rajahassaan4255]

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[@IyanuOluwa-gu4um]

Watching this video made me to realize that I am making progress in my communication skills but my friends complain I talk too fast . And I still have anxiety feelings while talking to a crowd . Is there anything I can do

[@bex6068]

“Slow progress is still progress “ is my favourite takeaway from this video

[@askvinh]

I always tell my team, improvement over perfection, consistency over intensity, 1% gains are still gains 👊

[@dhylbob8291]

Looks like a someone’s been reading atomic habits!😃

[@Anudorini-Talah]

Go to people that you are more comfortable with and start from there. Choose the friendly old lady at the backery, then the cashier, then the postman, then the neighbour, then more personal people or you want to become personal with ^^

[@jagzin6147]

I'm trying to go from socially awkward to awkwardly social.

[@goddess44443]

GUESS WHATTT i had a presentation 2 days ago and i did GREAT literary just took your advice from previous videos I'm extremely happy

[@askvinh]

Soooo happy to hear this 🥰

[@Eysc]

did you saw people's hair instead of the eyes?

[@humblebrag]

ALSO... sometimes if we stop trying to become something we are not, the pressure reduces and through that relief you can actually achieve the very thing with ease. Deep

[@KidK27]

Don’t be insecure and accept your flaws

[@georgiarose818]

Step 4: Greet 10 people on the street. I remember when I used to watch LAHWF channel, he used to make videos of walking down the street and randomly asking for directions from people, or he would make weird laughs out of nowhere 😂, compliment people, etc. He was known for his awkward character but that didn't stop him from doing all of that. And from that, I gained some confidence to follow what he did like smiling at people, asking for directions and I felt so happy I did it 😊

[@NethraaJ]

In one of your video you teached how people love talking about themselves or their own experience. In this video when you talked about your personal example about the snakes and your son your face lit up and your voice was so expressive compared to the rest of the video😉.Your teachings never failed to me Thanks a lot to you sir now I'm overcoming my social anxiety little by little ☺️

[@fatimasamira3695]

Voice messages are a great tool. I did this with my cousin who is a master speaker. She gave me some valuable insights and practical tips to strengthen my mind to verbal expression connection. Brilliant! I still have long way to go but, that was one of my great achievements.

[@ishfaqahmad8331]

A COUPLE OF DAYS AGO my teacher asked me what is your dream i said "Every fear of my life is my dream and I wanna remove every single fear of my life ." Today was my first presentation in my class and i was afraid but when i started my presentation I couldnt realise if i am really afraid and my teacher praised me and said my hand gestures,my way of seeking intsrest of listners was great. I couldnt recognize my ownself. I am really happy that ive overcome my social anxiety 🙂 AND Vhin Giang has also a big role in this thanks and keep going

[@vihariii4754]

It's beautiful how after you acknowledge your fears and accept them with grace, you can become a brave and courageous person, because you did that and many people just run away but you faced it, and sometimes, that's enough... as a side note, I recommend Jetavanaramaya Buddhist Monestary's videos on fear, they massively help! listening to the Monk's talks there, has helped me understand my emotions better and helped me become a much more compassionate and emotionally strong human being! so , my brother, I hope my comment helps you! May you have a wonderful life

[@liyanasamad2600]

I have watched the whole video without getting distracted even for a second. His power of engaging audience with clear cut language is amazing!

[@derpiltus]

I love that you are weird like me. I’ve done weird stuff like this but everyone always thinks differently. you know what, I’m still sticking to being weird! thanks for your cool videos!

[@hriditaanisha256]

I was just thinking about how weird this guy is. But such a big difference between weird likeable and weird dislikeable 😶 and i dont know which i am.

[@s00perfish]

@@hriditaanisha256 I'm pretty sure weird likeable is just weird dislikeable + confidence

[@hriditaanisha256]

@@s00perfish truer words have never been spoken.

[@Gilloringsend]

You had me on first sentence. We are anxious because we are unfamiliar with xyz. I think that’s so true and nothing to do with modern communications I don’t feel. If you only go to see a mechanic once a year or a doctor or dentist or a solicitor: you are anxious

[@JohnOdiba-c9e]

Yk, I've had trust issues with most KZbin coaches, but this guy has brought my trust back, lol. I just get sick of people coming to KZbin as a way of getting leads for their paid courses. Great video, Vinh! I'll definitely try this out

[@ichirakuchanuwu]

I’m convinced being British and Asian at the same time is another effective strategy

[@aleksander00020]

Austrailian*

[@ichirakuchanuwu]

@@aleksander00020 that’s literally just means cooler British 😭😂

[@kyquocthangle4501]

​@@ichirakuchanuwu I mean with all those spiders lurking in your home ofcourse it is cooler 😂

[@Youareloved511]

What a helpful advice Vinh! Slow progress is truly progress ❤ I want to get over my social anxiety gained from isolation in the pandemic when living alone to get back being my extroverted self again

[@askvinh]

You've got this! One step at a time.

[@misterg2201]

You can do it!

[@animura_yutaka]

Brother Literally I Just Messed Up Stuff with someone and had a really raging situation there, after these 2 hours I thought to check out this new video of yours. You'll not believe, while listening and connecting with you I figured my how the situation can be brought to normal. And boom brother, it really helped me now. The matter is solved, thanks for the huge resource of knowledge you have.

[@Mathswithibrahim]

Vinh i love your videos. I suffer from social anxiety and i always find comfort from your content and i am certain when i implement your tips on this vid will help my confidence and abilities to start socialising in a positive manner.

[@misterg2201]

👍👍

[@ShyamkrishnanNair]

Certainly! Building confidence is a lot like tackling a big fear-it’s about taking small, consistent steps. This speaker’s story about snakes nails it: breaking down fears into manageable steps, like watching documentaries before visiting the zoo, is such a solid approach. In social settings, gradual exposure, like sending a voice message or making small talk, can work wonders. Plus, a touch of humor from programs like Habit10x’s Sense of Humor Improvement Program can lighten interactions. Just keep pushing forward-growth is a journey, and each step counts!

[@sarahhaitham511]

I have social anxiety and it's pretty bad but recently I gave my highschooll graduation speech after weeks of going back and forth between doing it or not and I was about to cancel it last minute but I was like I volunteered to do it and I took the responsibility so I gotta own up to it. I did pretty great!!! This is me the one who couldn't even make phone call orders from fast food places. Me who can barely talk to people her own age. And I was like that until the moment before I got on the podium! What I mean to say is that sometimes you just need to take one huge step and then it'll be much easier to get over your social anxiety. Of course I didn't get over my social anxiety entirely but that speech helped a GREAT deal!!

[@synthchick12]

That's amazing, congrats!!! :D

[@xsamaras1]

Suffering from social anxiety, depression and stuttering...how difficult all of these sound to my ears...anyway...great content as always...

[@DreamerstoDoers]

I think another thing to add to this video is starting small looks different to everyone. In the example of fear of heights: lets say you are fine with the height standing on a step from a staircase, a stool, even halfway from a 12 foot latter, but you start feeling that fear when you are on the 7th step of the 12foot latter. So thats where you start. But you might have another person that feels that same fear standing on a stool. In the case of this video maybe sending a voice note sounds wayyy too much. Its important that the fear is there when you do these exercises but it has to be manageable. So maybe start by sending a voice note to someone you are really comfortable with and you can practoce what you are going to say before hand. But you have to feel some of that fear. If you dont feel fear in this step,Great! you can go a bit further. For me, sending voice notes and even sending videos is fine. But asking the store clerk 3 questions... starts to feel a little rocky. Ask yourself when do you start to feel socially anxious? you can even test it out. You can even "trace your steps". Like you start from a point where you know you feel super socially anxious, then think "okay when do I feel 10% less than this" and you keep going until you hit your starting point. I hope this helps.

[@redburningice]

​@DreamerstoDoersYes, that's good advice. Everyone needs to come up with their own list. His last item on the list - holding a company presentation - I have no issues with. But I would never talk to strangers on the street. Identify what's causing you trouble.

[@CerejaStudies]

I have been struggling with social phobia since 2019, but after the pandemic, I feel like I forgot how to be human and act like one. Just today, I was supposed to participate in a test to work at a company I really want to join because I need a job. But, after greeting the evaluators, I became so nervous and intimidated that I simply hung up the video call. I just ran away. I feel like I’m the very embodiment of shame. Althought that happended, I had improved a lot...

[@WithEhssan]

this reminds me of the many interviews I failed in my 20s until I finally faced my fears and made a deal with myself: no matter how I do, I accept it: forgetting what to say, so what? looking so stressed, so what ? sounding unqualified, so what ? I gave space to all the things I was afraid of and decided to observe them instead of fighting them...then one day, I decided to focus on my intention (for example, I want to get the job, so I will make sure to show them all my skills that they actually need for that position)...I then landed my perfect job as a software engineer with the perfect salary...and I've been working with them for more than 5 years now....I help that will somehow help :)

[@misterg2201]

I have also done the same

[@CerejaStudies]

@@WithEhssan thank youfor sharing with me your story I'll try to do the same things you did

[@CerejaStudies]

@@misterg2201 I am so sorry this happened to you too... But its also good to know that we are not the only ones who did such a thing, right?

[@WithEhssan]

@@CerejaStudiesthat’s my pleasure 🤗🤍

[@settingsun1]

Every defeat until death is psychological, understand this and keep diving in cold waters, you will see immense improvement.

[@suzy1750]

good dad and beautiful child...

[@RaghavVijay]

Love this Vinh, reality becomes negotiable, now that’s a deep one!, keep going Vinh, Your advice has seriously changed my confidence and communication so much, can’t wait to learn more.

[@TheSuperF21]

Kudos to whoever made this thumbnail, this is a work of art! As is the video, as always. Thank you Vinh! ❤

[@ryanhagge4090]

Part of my social anxiety had to be with my ADHD and Autism. I don't beleive I was ever good at reading body language. Now I'm on medications for it and trying to learn how to talk and communicate better with others. I excercised by walking around at the mall when I was sorta scared but nobody cared because they were in their own world. Once I've started taking medications I'm not afraid of small talk anymore while waiting in lines either. Lol I'm doing it!

[@LoveIslam100]

Thank you so much!😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@ash6951]

thank you so much for these videos!

[@tejassamal]

Got really really, good vibes from you today, you made my day literally. Not sure how spiritual person you are, since I am, so May lord Krishna bless you 😊😊 Thanks allot

[@Anudorini-Talah]

Go to people that you are more comfortable with and start from there. Choose the friendly old lady at the backery, then the cashier, then the postman, then the neighbour, then more personal people or you want to become personal with ^^

[@johncurtmaglasang1466]

Hi Mr. Vinh Giang! Thank you for these marvelous tips! I've been following your tips and techniques since July 2023. You're my inspiration, you're the best! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences! I've been making a slow progress right now especially in Record and Review. I've been practicing my Volume. Keep making more valuable and helpful videos like this, We really appreciate it!👏🏻

[@leaknherjourney]

The best mentor ever🎉

[@berzatbabur8432]

expose yourself with things which you want to overcome then see the results

[@vihariii4754]

Thank you so much!

[@belarodrigues2893]

I looooved this video Thank you sm

[@soparland]

You’re great man, love you!

[@ermiyastamrat2379]

slow progress is still progress .it is nice thing

[@exitmusic004]

GREAT!

[@ARGO.49J]

1:20 on yearly based 😣😣

[@CardsWithKicks]

Just signed up for your live class next week. Really looking forward to it Vinh! Wishing everyone a nice weekend.

[@askvinh]

Woohoo! See you there mate!

[@colemakiwa6217]

Awesome lessons bro, I'm getting addicted

[@NaNu-c3g]

Thank you vinh🥰

[@alealexys2644]

Thank you so much!

[@CarWir-s5v]

Best video I ever watch

[@Elmeloireines]

12:14 the power of slowly

[@darkpvpgamer3422]

I LOVE YOU VINH!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@totempole51]

@7:58 im smiling

[@beautifuldreama8714]

Great video!

[@neda7281]

This was amazing I'll come back and explain the challenges l did❤

[@skillissue22b]

funny enough I got your very ad for the Saudia Arabia online masterclass (I signed up for it)!

[@Thenabbles]

amazing stuff

[@amazingme894]

Haircut still slays

[@nguyenblake8905]

Thank u so much Vinh

[@azertyuioppoiuytreza9763]

How to expose oneself to a social situation when you don’t get invited to any?

[@kenny_from_southpark]

Go to the mall, talk to the workers in each store about their products or allow the vendors to do their skits. Learn how to keep those kinds of conversations going and how to end them when you’re finished. Then move on to small talk with people at stores. If they’re uninterested, move on to the next person. I think it’s a good place to start.

[@violet1963]

@@kenny_from_southparkdepends on what country u live in, people don’t talk in stores here in Scandinavia, too many antisocial people

[@kenny_from_southpark]

@ even the store clerks? How would they get any sales if everyone is silent? Anyway, if you are a person who lives in Scandinavia and YOU want to talk, then wouldn’t that mean there are other people in Scandinavia that want to talk as well? If so it’s a matter of breaking down that barrier. Excuse me if I am missing something here.

[@adilmuhammad6078]

Nice one! Keep making these videos Vinh!

[@GillardAzlan]

Its real, im an introvert for so long (during school time) until i graduate and got my first job as a sales marketing. It force me to interact with people. The People i dont really know, to sale the product. After that i developed the social skill to the whole lvl. And The best part is i got my first girlfriend. the bad part is i use the skill to cheat on her after. ( im around 20 yo when this happening). But im back to the straight path. Now im married and have a son. ❤🎉

[@riverajoyce520]

Amazing tips.. yet so simple.. But Vinh your voice is so nice people would respond to you for sure.. I dont think thats the case with most of us.

[@shariqueahmed1831]

GOOD ADVICE

[@Mukhiddin_GM]

Some times, one of the most powerful moves in chess is pushing pieces one square in any direction

[@candykitty1]

I'm terrified of spiders. I can't imagine holding it in my hand 😭

[@informaticafundamental_]

Plot Twist: He goes hiking and gets bitten in the throat by a snake, and now he teaches speeches in Auslan. JUST KIDDING. Great videos!

[@jaymergallos8810]

Thank you Vinh👍

[@DemonLord16]

Thank you! ❤

[@kipyeo]

The only problem is my country people think to much talking and greeting is such a cheap stuff. So they don't talk that much and I feel so awkward. If I ask someone "how're you?" They'll just stare at me like I'm a lost kid....! Bruhh that's too awkward. I don't hv any friends here too..

[@iliopencovio9056]

8:30 Exposure Therapy ask 3 questions: How was your day? What is the most exciting thing that's happened to you today? What's one of the biggest lessons you've learned in the last 12 months?

[@acousticharles8918]

Lets go!

[@MissesWitch]

"Send a voice message to your friend" Failed Step 1: I don't have any friends I've been meaning to overcome my anxiety to meet people, But, Whenever I had the courage, Those friends didn't last long (a day or two) So I'd love a video on how to make a friend and keep a friend you've just met! Because I have tried so many tactics, But nothing works!

[@UzbekExMuslim]

Questions are good but sometimes I feel invaded when I’m asked some personal question

[@耿文瑤]

Thank you for these very specific steps to fight the devilish social anxiety. Just a tiny note. There's a spelling error in step 5.

[@MaybeSteve]

~Thanks brother 💯❤️

[@catalyst0016]

Thanks ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@pawkyyy]

thank you.

[@Qeiji]

how funny it is to get your adds on your vids😂😂

[@angiephoenix]

Funny stuff, right? At a point I didn't realize that it has switched to an ad 😂

[@shadowyingg]

I just want to ask if you are a Vietnamese, or basically a Viet Kieu ? Since your name is familiar to ours, but your English speaking skills are such unbelievable!

[@Iuripiotrowskidarosa]

I think that telling a cashier that your day is going amazing and then asking them how their day is going could be the worst thing you could do to that person. Do you think anyone that works as a cashier likes their job? I know I wouldn't, and I'd be bitter as fuck if someone did that to me because obviously their life is better than mine.

[@Izop848]

Hi master I want to join your free online class but there is 4 different time on December 20 December i don't remember sorry January 16 January 17 Which one is it

[@specty6269]

I used to have social anxiety disorder but it just dissapeared randomly so there's this awkwardness between me and society. Because of the anxiety, i was always in my head thinking of what others thought of me, But then i accepted the Anxiety and how it makes me feel sometimes, The upset stomach, the blushing, the sweating, the trembling, even throwing up. Now after a while i started to look in other people's perspectives which might sound contradictory but to other people, I'm just a random guy, why *Would* they judge me? Even if it is Aquaintences or friends you don't need to feel tensed up always, They won't judge you, if anything it might make you look more needy and stuff It's okay to share how you feel with them to share the uncomfort so u both grow comfortable together Even if it's hard, it's not like it's gonna get harder just take small steps at a time and also do what he says in the video, exposure therapy too The more you get used to social conversations, confrontations the more your body will too, Now i'm speaking in a social anxiety disorder viewpoint this might not apply to you but it's always important to take small babysteps at a time

[@cian4468]

In listening to this video, I realize that I've been doing this gradual exposure method with the topic of death & dying. I've come to know at a deep level that death is as natural as birth. Something that I feared greatly, I now embrace. I sit with reverence and care next to those who are transitioning from their physical bodies and returning to spirit. It is such a beautiful experience. I no longer fear death when it becomes my natural time to release back into the fullness of spirit. In my life in general, when I recognize I have resistance about something, I reach for it and it becomes my next area of practice until the resistance falls away...it's freeing. 🕊🤍 Thank you for making this video and for your channel.

[@lepz5]

Vinh the best part of your videos are the way you look at camera . How you do for look like this ?

[@joza5623]

Bro compared women to snakes in the most polite way possible💀🙏

[@karimar-rahman4661]

Do you coach on public speaking and how can we sign up

[@samuele_3]

Ty man

[@myvoice9532]

I am the 168th person to give you a like🎉

[@deflatedbraincell]

But in my city, no one greets strangers let alone make small talk. They'll look at you weird and avoid you if you start talking to them. What should I do?

[@WithEhssan]

one trick I do is: observing people with a smiling face...if they smile back I say hi if they don't I'm just observing :D

[@dave2171]

7:48 Uncle jim when i was 8

[@AIng-o9w]

Hi Vihn, thanks a lot for your videos! Could you explain a topic about stuttering in the future? I've been stuttering almost all of my life, now I'm 31 and I almost won the problem, but I'm still stuttering when I have job interviews, where people estimate me. I know a lot of guys who stutter, it's one of the biggest problems with our oral skills. Can you explain somewhere in the future, how to cope with this problem? Thanks!

[@divaamanda4504]

I have the same phobia as your son, when you mentioned the word animal I started to be afraid that the image would appear on the screen, so I decided to skip that part.

[@Einaressence]

any tips to get fluent in English? i can understand easily even with accent which are difficult to understand such as Scottish, scouse and Irish but i struggle with speaking as I usually don't speak that much in real life and self judgement comes that my voice isn't good, I'm not fluent etc

[@Kanjungudraker]

Hey Vin Please would you help me with summer videos explaining on the five co-foundation of being a brilliant speaker Cuz I really found it difficult to understand so I was wondering if you could help me with that just create a video for me explaining all those videos In details

[@letsmotivate8007]

Sir , when i go outside my home i just feel that anxious that i couldnot able to eat anything ,problem is not anxiety, problem is that i am unable to eat anything whether it is because of anxiety or anything else i don’t Know if i try to eat then i am surrounded by the fear that if i eat i will vomit it out but when i am inside my home i can eat anything plz help me to get rid of this

[@tania8749]

Wow that's very interesting. Never heard this before. Have you tried doing it so you prove to yourself it won't happen? Also when did this start for you?

[@debaratichakrabarty2900]

Sir I have an important question. I am a budding 16 year old debater. I have been the best debater in all the debates performed previously except one (my last one). Before my presentations, I engage in a huge number of surveys and then I present various complex philosophies associated with the topic. In my last debate, where I lost, I presented the best research of my life. The one who won was in no way competent to match the level of my content, clarity, natural vocabulary, frankness and presentation. Since there was no feedback session, I am compelled to perceive that my complex philosophies were not felt by the judges. Can u give me some tips on how to put forward these complex philosophies more easily?

[@ashwinrajesh7134]

Any tips for the IELTS speaking test?

[@rizztraininghamster]

English is a relaxed and lazy language. The less you try to pronounce the better results. If you can't relax find the best ways like L-theanine idk

[@UsmonWasTaken]

I hate the blinking light in the background

[@coldzayn]

If I avail your course is it for lifetime? or is it monthly?

[@askvinh]

Absolutely! Life time, and I update the course a few times a year with new content

[@Bebettermyfriend7]

I think that I will shake and then I shake that is my problem

[@UzbekExMuslim]

❤

[@Thabisotalks]

Like If you think this is the one of the best KZbin channels on youtube

[@itzDarwish]

Earlyy

[@Kikstudy]

Is it me or is the video in different languages

[@Joejsmith-y5v]

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