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[@Itsmythimthim]

I loved loved loved opening up about my journey. Accountability and emotional intelligence really are such a free’ing discovery. I hope that we can all learn from our life experiences and grow from them ❤ it doesn’t always end badly #DefiningBreakups

[@Nayekomani]

Thimna, siiiis ? You done moved on. That look you gave ? 🤭🤭🤭

[@Nayekomani]

Definitely learning from you guys, that self introspection personally is the difference between taking offense and maybe taking accountability. And I’ve seen in my relationship how taking things that are addressed personally will stand in the way of addressing someone else’s hurt or the issue because you take offense. But it’s so hard to have that type of accountability all the time 😭.

[@Eksemandisa]

🤍🙏

[@daboys7983]

Kodwa why uxoka saying Libho is blocked when you’ve beeeeen in his comments.

[@ecytdemanace4733]

Are you single?

[@sibahlem2829]

I really love this generation of young people who are getting to know themselves. Who are self introspective. Self awareness... and doing the work...therapy as well.🥰🥳🥳🥳

[@sthembilembatha280]

Louder please🙌🙌 I'm so for it.. Self awareness man.. Dealing with the issues, dealing with the traumas.. Being intentional about being the best version of yourself internally and not just externally 😊😊

[@OfentseMk]

Period !! It’s honestly inspiring to see a generation that is not only knowing their worth but sticking to their values without compromise their identity 🤍

[@boitumelo515]

Saaaame🥺

[@masukuayanda7625]

Right !!!

[@memeetunashileka]

love how they're not face to face with their exes. the idea of it gave me heart palpitations. 😹

[@avuyilemhlana1362]

Moja Love definitely would've done it that way 😂

[@yeyosoniztv6551]

@@avuyilemhlana1362 😂😂nyani

[@wanjirugichuki21]

@@avuyilemhlana1362 😂😂😂

[@memeetunashileka]

@@avuyilemhlana1362 they don't care shame. 😆

[@palesaradebe2471]

Hey mtase, nna I was ready for drama with popcorns😂 kodwa uright!

[@molebogengkekana]

After these episodes of defining breakups, some people will get back together 🤞🏽😁

[@anellambibi2949]

I'm here with you😂🤣

[@phelomatomanematomane1952]

😂

[@selulekosibiya9797]

I have to agree😹😹😹

[@tlotlotumetsane5893]

I got elated when I saw this comment because that's exactly what I thought when I first saw the snippet of the show😂🤣

[@Likhona04]

Exactly.😂😂😂🤞

[@sinovuyodamane]

DEFINING is on a league of its own! Well done on such a stellar production!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@OfentseMk]

Top tier 👏🏾!!

[@tshepangmokwena8738]

This production has left me speechless. Truly commendable, and an inexplicable moment indeed. Just down right inexplicable 🥺❤️

[@r-dene0134]

True true, love this

[@nothandodlamini3192]

Thimna is so beautiful 😍🤭

[@skholiwezondi986]

These two sound like best friends who are catching up after not seeing each other for months. Enjoyed this.

[@olebohengruele5605]

I love Thimna's vibe, she needs her own channel. She's so calm, sure and a warm spirit! This is such a beautiful episode! Love it #DEFININGBreakUps team!

[@asmr-ingfordays4575]

Yep. She has her own KZbin channel.

[@prudencentombizodwadube2525]

I learnt that breakups don't have to be nasty. Two mature adults can part, and still be kind to each other. These two ladies spoke of their exes in a respectful manner. They took accountability for their own shortcomings and it's beautiful to watch. I also learnt that there's nothing to be shy about if it hurts if hurts. You just need to be kind to yourself and be patient with your healing.

[@tselanasangoni3460]

Defining has always been on a league of its own! The fact that you're giving healing a platform is just beautiful.

[@mnlesego]

Creative gave Thimna such comforting words 🤍

[@Between2_worlds]

My favorite thing about this episode is that the break ups didn’t dissuade them from continuing to put themselves out there and find love again. That’s so powerful.

[@palesaradebe2471]

Ngoba that takes strength to do yaz, other times we hold ourselves hostage fearing opinions of others.

[@sthembilethanjekwayo_za]

I like how wholesome Defining is yazi. Initially I thought this would be malicious but I see it differently now.

[@reatlehilenkolanyane5935]

Thimna’s smile man and her overall vibe what a woman🥺🥺

[@Yassmiinn.]

Her smile is everything.

[@nthabisengmakola28]

Yess, Thimna. I learned this very year that you don't have to be completely healed to get into the next relationship

[@lennycee27]

Yass it’s a process

[@lolwethunombewu1427]

😂😂😂 Yhoo he’s blocked, but I understand. You heal quicker that way, out of sight out of mind

[@nkatekomahange661]

She's lying, Libho comments on her Instagram posts.

[@lolwethunombewu1427]

@@nkatekomahange661 😂😂😂😂 What? Uyaxoka nje unprovoked. Amen

[@sakhikhayamkhabela9660]

@@nkatekomahange661 Literally what I thought but maybe he was blocked 2 seconds ago😂

[@sibs312]

@@lolwethunombewu1427 they comment on each others posts so to me this is brand new

[@lolwethunombewu1427]

@@sibs312 😂😂😂 Yhooo hayi andi understand sana what could be the reason yoxoka ngento enje, out of the pink coz uzitsholo ngokwakhe nje uba umblockile.

[@Nompumelelo_Nobula]

Gosh Thimna's beauty 😍😍🔥 and I love how articulate she is

[@DEFINING]

What was your takeaway from episode 1 of #DEFININGBreakUps!? Dont forget to give this video a thumbs up🔥 #RoadTo200K

[@muhlekhoza6272]

Please invite thuli nduvane and reabetswe🥺🥺

[@Dipalesa_Ogwang]

Taking accountability for the part/role you played in the relationship and not putting the blame on the other party.

[@Likhona04]

@@muhlekhoza6272 they broke up?!😭😭😭

[@mega8212]

We should normalize therapy.

[@masegonm]

That breakups don’t just happen because of one ‘event’, it’s always a build up, and it’s never just from one side, we all need to learn to take accountability for our own actions that may have contributed to the breakup in a way(except cheating though😩, but that’s another topic), thank you for this, for showing reality, and that some things end and it’s okay 🥹

[@Shudu_Netsianda]

I found it very short and I expected something longer...but emotional intelligence sana what🥺🔥 I love this type of content though I hate break ups but they gave in good energy

[@MbaliDyani]

Yoh? Thimna 😍😍she is so beautiful Haibo?!

[@Bongani_nhlapo]

One important thing I’ve learnt is to never put them on a pedestal. I’m looking forward to next episodes.❤

[@kattsomething]

We love the accountability, Push ❤️

[@tshepisonjikelane2994]

This is an exceptional idea. Talk about being real and authentic, that's who we are as the generation of NOW.

[@SAVASKIIA]

Honestly, out of all the things that terrify me, a partner who lacks the capacity and or willingness to self reflect has to be at the tippy top. if you are not brave enough to move away from your current identity, to move into the unknown, to take steps towards self repair, you're going to remain in a "woe is me" complex forever. Being upset with your actions is not enough. Self pity is not enough...

[@nompilosibiya8373]

I think that's what I'm seeing maybe in my relationship. I wonder if my partner reflects as much as I do. Infact some body else asked me this when I was telling them about my relationship and I feel like it's starting to be clear to me only now. Not really sure how to deal with it

[@reneilwemndawe7423]

This has taught me that it's okay to let go❤️

[@nonhlanhlaradebe2809]

What I've learned from this episode is that you are not always the victim, take accountability and work on yourself so that get into next relationship carrying a luggage from your last relationship because it might not work again. Learn to do better!❤️

[@okuhle.]

Even though they are defining breakups, they making me believe in love🥺❤️.

[@PreciousDimpho]

These people look so good in the public eye, and we expect them to flourish in their relationships. We expect marriage, kids and everything nice. Time mjolo is nyising us self!! I learnt to lessen my expectations when it comes to people’s lives and relationships. ✅✅

[@nthabisengmthembu7697]

Profound!

[@tatindlovu956]

What i took from this is that, Self introspection is an important element in and out of a relationship. It makes or breaks a beautiful thing. Also that Acknowledging how and where you were wrong and working on it is extremely important. I think they both said that you can love a person soo much but things still won't work out. It isn't just love that makes a relationship but so many other factors that we sometimes aren't aware of. I loved this episode. Can't wait for the next❤

[@keke_meshake]

I'm sooo touched 🥺💯

[@zinathibusika5463]

Love Thimna’s authenticity & accountability so much. She’s such a warm spirit.❤️ Very beautiful person that one.

[@_theconcretembali]

It's giving "The Cut" vibes and I like it.

[@angelashange2233]

Right !!!!

[@allyjooste8339]

The Skin Deep too

[@that_tall_awesome_lady]

Yeah!!!!!!

[@naledipududu7514]

@@allyjooste8339 yesssssss… too much

[@tsepom455]

Thimna still loves Libhongo, in fact more now. She wouldn't say no if he would suggest to try again.

[@tsepom455]

@@ntoshnxt6950 Yoh serious accusations.

[@sakemahanetsa5111]

I am literally cleaning with one hand... Why???!!!! Because, I am holding the phone with the other hand!!!

[@phantomsatire]

Imagine if after these conversations between two people turns into something between them, Yohh that would be hellla crazy 😭

[@preciousnomsa333]

You are reading my thoughts 🤣

[@ohthenticbeauty]

How beautiful is Thimna though 😍😍😍

[@arthur_za]

There's no such thing as a perfect woman but Thimna is pretty damn close. Attractive, intelligent, self aware, and just a little bit insecure because she's not too experienced (that's also a good thing). She could be the one that got away.

[@robbylebotha]

Wamobatla ne

[@arthur_za]

@@robbylebotha Did you come to comment on her video just to pretend awumfuni? 😂😂

[@rebotileditshego5952]

Love how their so honest and real about their shortcomings in their relationships, no blame game. Very accountable and mature on both their parts 💕

[@kiwigirl359]

This is like a therapy session...I love it for me😍😍

[@lebolenepa8266]

Thimna is beautiful.

[@lifewithgiveon]

Accountability is what i take from this episode. And also the criticism and correction is an important part in a relationship because an individual needs to be put in a position of being able to see their mistakes without feeling attacked in a way.

[@sokoolza2953]

It's really easy to be accountable and reflective when you are not in love. Once love is involved it gets a bit harder to be objective about things.

[@chenisesiboza7960]

Just the comment I was looking for 😭😭really needed to hear this!!!!

[@justnoku1063]

This made me realize that I wasn't perfect in my situation. There's a lot I need to be accountable for. There's so much work to be done

[@NeoMomela]

I felt that.🤍

[@nhlanhlaemuplugged]

I can only wish to be this reflective post break-up. I especially enjoyed how lighthearted this was❤️

[@lindosimelane4336]

This is beautiful kodw we want the tea on why they broke up 😂😂😂

[@kemaisha]

Really enjoyed the episode but it was short 😭😭😭😭 we need more hle

[@karabodikobe]

RETWEET

[@naledimbili1416]

One thing about DEFINING?!!! You guys are brilliant

[@Yassmiinn.]

I don't even know most of these couples but I'm ALWAYS up for some tea 😂🔥

[@johannasheya3539]

Same🤭

[@Yassmiinn.]

@@johannasheya3539 😂😂😂

[@siphoxipu]

the last question changed everything.

[@tlhokomelomotloung7478]

this is so beautiful to see - how they’re still speaking highly of their previous partners. ❤❤❤❤

[@titus_hongwane]

I feel like healing is a world of its own. So much discoveries within oneself, so much learning and unlearning. It comes to a point where you'd feel uncomfortable in addressing certain issues within yourself because of something you saw/heard and you're just in disbelief that ' sometimes even yourself can be the cause of the problem ', now you must find the root of the problem. Sometimes you're easily triggered and when you're ' triggered ' by something, that's when you know that particular part of you hasn't healed. Argh man, take it easy on yourselves. I feel like healing is also a platform to see how much you love yourself, learn who you are and just soak in the love you gave/give to people to yourself. You can never pour from an empty cup. Lastly, healing is a journey, Embrace it. Live through it and beyond it.

[@livingdreams7381]

Would be longer and extra nice if both parties answered the same question asked. My takeaway is to NOT make the same mistakes…keeping a roster is not where I want to be in life. Lovely episode❤

[@camillachipili2771]

Thima is such a breath of fresh air 😌

[@palesaradebe2471]

Shuuu what a way to open an episode. There’s something that spoke to me “it takes more than love to sustain a relationship” because more often we find that we glamourise a lot of things while in a relationship and that can easily get tiring. The ladies were incredible, the amount of accountability and honesty took me by surprise. Well done guys, this was informative. Can’t wait for the next one.

[@thandomncube3480]

Thimna is so beautiful my goodness...

[@mthimkhuluTwins]

Thimna looks happier now ❤️

[@nolubabalocumbe]

I enjoyed this. So mature, accountable and basically them learning from their relationship. It was beautiful to watch and good luck to them for the future

[@mokgadimasoga9527]

I feel like Thimna is too matured for Libho , Thimna needs a Man guys Libho still wants to play angazi

[@Okuhle_manto]

I was expecting the exes to meet each other and answer the uncomfortable questions in front of each other 😕

[@ilove_amanda]

Same.

[@refilwexx]

Same

[@leratojulialeseo1990]

Same

[@leratojulialeseo1990]

Same

[@nomvelo3020]

The night is still young

[@ncebakazistemela3467]

Accountability! I feel like it’s so easy to always point fingers at your partner when the relationship falls through, when infant it takes two people to either make or break the relationship.

[@kholomoloto]

I love how honest they are in their break-ups as they were in their love…just shows that they live their lives as they happen and are not afraid to show it, speak it and live it..LOVED THIS EPISODE ❤❤

[@tresianiipare188]

Accountability is such a beautiful thing ♥️

[@siphokazipapu197]

Argh man, thank you so much for this episode. Listening to Push and how therapy has and is helping her, is really all the motivation I need to seek therapy. Both women were amazing. Loved this episode. ❤

[@mandles]

Yoh my heart almost finished😭😭😭kunini simile yuuh You guys are such game changers thoo, love this series already😭

[@ntombi-yensimbinarrates7297]

What I've learned: Hindsight is 20/20. Remember that from the start.

[@daboys7983]

The jig is…Thimna & Libho never broke up.

[@leratomahlangu5649]

True

[@phophiramufhi6871]

Makes sense after watching his episode with Thobi

[@OfentseMk]

I love how Thimna is so open but yet private about the breakup the way she deals everything with grace and respect is just so empowering. Literally she’s my fighter ❤🫶🏾!!!

[@paballomotloung6710]

Yeses Thimna is effortlessly beautiful man no ways!

[@athisonke9138]

I love Thims so much ❤ What a top tier babe!

[@Mahleamantungwa0212]

I love this episode, it is an important principle of accountability, self-introspection and self-awareness. This episode reminds me of some of the principles I learnt from "All about love by Bell Hook" and "Attached by Amir Levine". The importance of educating yourself about love and understanding that any relationship( including friendship) is a mirror of ourselves.

[@lukona_melento]

This was so beautiful to watch. So wholesome. I love how they are using their breakups as platforms to learn and be better. Also appreciate the final words to each other. Beautiful! Well done Defining.

[@ntombi-yensimbinarrates7297]

My friends praise Defining Love for celebrating love at the moment when it feels the most lovey-dovey. I praise Defining Breakups for showing us that things end, but that doesn't have to mean the end of YOU as a person, as a story. Looking forward to getting involved in this conversation as the series unfolds. Cheers to a dope series premiere 🥂

[@leratokcphohole7188]

"Have you moved on"😭 Bathong such a sgaxa of a question! 🤣

[@LungeloNBGumede]

I learned that vulnerability and words of affirmation are important in a relationship. Also what I see is that we should really work on holding the ones we care about tightly because you don't know if you'll ever find someone as good again. Seasons won't always be sunny and no-one is perfect but the willingness of someone to love you so passionately is worth it.

[@justzama3726]

Guy's Thimna's giving me Zukhanye Ncapayi Karabos ex girlfriend vibes.

[@mathunzimacdonald]

Love the respect and EQ in this conversation

[@sharonthemba8764]

I love their honesty. We often don't want to take accountability when it comes to relationships. It take two to tango. Relationships are full time job, we need to put some work in order for them to work. I love the generation we are becoming.

[@miss_phudding2118]

Omg Thimna is so gorgeous.

[@mphodiako1158]

Impatiently waiting. 😪

[@kuhlencalu4049]

Sameeee 😭🥲

[@bonolomoloi8720]

Dawg😭😭😭

[@DEFINING]

We're nearly there!

[@kim121ful]

"I never wanted him to disagree on anything"

[@angelamotloung2895]

This is such a beautiful segment ❤

[@obvslysnowy]

Taking the shot is so self explanatory but I get it 😂😂😂 isdima

[@nonkumaphanga7766]

Patiently waiting for Thuli Dlamuka & Leon Gumede 🙌🏽💔

[@MantoNkwanyana]

Same🥺💔kwaphela nje kanjalo

[@nonkumaphanga7766]

Phelile du du 🙆🏽‍♀️☹️

[@nomawethugama8822]

Push's closing words to Thumbs🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@NtandoMHope]

“I hope you receive a lot of affirmation and that you are supported..” 🥺💕✨ Yuh.

[@mercyapolot7757]

Push’s gap is so beautiful.

[@allyjooste8339]

You guys didn’t give us closure ☹️ why did they breakup?

[@phiwelove]

Indaba zabantu?😭🤣

[@allyjooste8339]

@@phiwelove 🤣she asked if they finally gave us some closure at the end💀

[@lisimasikane]

Thoroughly enjoyed this! They need to become friends, I feel like they’d be so good for each other. 🥺❤️

[@jesss8060]

Omg this is like Jubilee 😍 in South Africa !!! I love this so much !

[@rorisangseabela286]

Thimna is so pretty 😭

[@phindilen_4361]

Thimna is so beautiful yooh

[@dkamo_]

I enjoyed this episode, well done Defining.. I love the concept of defining break ups. ❤

[@ziphozonkemazibuko4471]

Thimna is so naturally calm!!!

[@nomaswazitshabalala9515]

Its okay to let go

[@aviwepanya3819]

I love the accountability too. Ey bethuna thanks for sharing. @defining great episode ❤️

[@katalinapodi5129]

The ex's are going to get back together and when they do, re ikopela #DEFININGBACKLOVE or #DEFININGSECONDCHANCES 😂😂😂😂😂

[@nomvuzomngeyane5641]

😂😂😂

[@Nthabeleng507]

I can’t believe thimna just lied to us this whole thing. 😢 libho said everything they are doing on his.

[@makahyamotshedisi3830]

Please I love Thimna so much

[@iamsimimsez146]

I wish they both got the chance to give their perspective and answers to the questions… I love this!! The production, The Concept,just everything 😍😍 absolutely Great!!

[@alletahlaboso6926]

Why isn't this on 500k subscribers 😭

[@ruthbwalyamusange]

Defining really is changing the KZbin world in Africa, this is a great production